Threesomes are a great way to explore sexuality and dip your toe into opening up your relationship. But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to talk about the uncomfortable parts of setting up a threesome, what makes a threesome good or bad, and what happens afterward? What should you discuss with your partner *before* you get in the sheets with another? More importantly, where is any of this information for that elusive third party?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline hang out with Lola Jean, an international sexuality educator, and talk through threesome strategies as well as bust some myths.To learn more about Lola Jean, follow her on Instagram @lolajeandotcom, or via her website: lolajean.com.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why are date nights so important? What happens when date nights become an obligation or duty? How can we approach date nights with creativity and ensure they are in service of the relationships and those in it? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to design-conscious date nights (and days and weekends) that serve different purposes depending on what the relationship might need and share creative ideas and inspiration for all sorts of experiences. As referenced in the episode, check out these ones if you like:Episode 57 - Masturbation as Self Love with Stella HarrisEpisode 67 - Butt Plugs and Pick Up Lines Episode 86 - How to Find a Sex Worker with Miss Shayla Episode 94 - Pegging and Butt Stuff with Lola Jean Episode 98 - Magic Embodiment and Sexuality with Haylin BelayEpisode 110 - Exploring Tantra with Barbara CarrellasSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Tantra, which means woven together in Sanskrit, brings the spiritual and sexual together in an experience that deepens connection and intimacy. Though thousands of years old, many have not explored this practice because of myths and misinformation. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Barbara Carrellas to explore urban tantra, an accessible adaptation of this ancient tradition.To find out more about Barbara: Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary, and Luxurious Loving. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. Her workshops are always an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders and sexual orientations to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment.Website: barbaracarrellas.com  Instagram: @UrbantantrikaFacebook: BarbaraCarrellasUrbanTantraTwitter: UrbantantrikaSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

We are going back to our roots with this episode. Curious Fox started in Brooklyn basements, with regular people courageously sharing personal stories of going against the grain in love and connection.  This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of @lucy.sweetkill, pro Dom and BDSM life coach, and Nick, her partner of 5 years. How they met; what it is like to nurture a relationship while actively working as a sex worker; the ups and the downs.To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her on Instagram @lucy.sweetkill, or via her website: lucysweetkill.comwww.thedominakatarina.com/sw-survival-guideinstagram.com/swsurvivalguideSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How do you define modern monogamy? What does fidelity mean in the context of monogamy? How do you design a monogamous relationship so that both parties can thrive?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all. They celebrate those who are choosing to nurture one romantic relationship, take a meaningful look at our understanding of fidelity, and discuss how to identify what values lead to longer-term monogamous relationship satisfaction. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is conscious uncoupling? How is it different from breaking up? How do you go through the process of uncoupling with intention and kindness? What if the other person does not want to go through this process, can you do it on your own?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive into conscious uncoupling and talk about what it takes to exit a relationship with dignity and respect. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are hanging out with the author of Plucked: A History of Hair Removal Prof. Rebecca Herzig to talk about hair removal and sexual self-esteem. They are curious about: What is the history of hair removal and what role have race, gender and age played in it?What caused the medicalization and then industrialization of hair removal and why?How does what we know about hair removal bust the myth of personal choice and individualism in America and expose how the unrecognized impact of conditioning play out in US society? To find out more about Prof. Rebecca Herzig:Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies Rebecca Herzig is the author or editor of several books, including Suffering for Science: Reason and Sacrifice in Modern America, The Nature of Difference: Sciences of Race in the United States from Jefferson to Genomics (with Evelynn Hammonds) and the series, Feminist Technosciences (with Banu Subramaniam). Herzig’s work has been funded by the National Science Foundation, the Howard Hughes Medical Institute, and the Macarthur Foundation.Herzig is currently writing a book about the past(s) and future(s) of higher education. Herzig’s most recent work on that project, on labor in the pandemic university, was published in 2022.She grew up in California, earned her PhD at MIT in Massachusetts, and now teaches at Bates College in Maine.To find out more about Prof. Herzig’s work, buy her books from independent bookstores. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

As a part of their sexual self-esteem kick, Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode from the archives where discuss erogenous zones, religion, and their impact on our sexual self-esteem with sexual empowerment coach Jocelyn Silva. Guiding us this week is Jocelyn Silva:Jocelyn Silva is a Sex and Intimacy Coach that works with women and femmes to break through their sexual shame and embrace their sex lives with confidence. With 10 years of experience as a sex educator, Jocelyn's favorite thing is teaching others about the beauty of sexual empowerment. As a queer Latina of immigrant parents, Jocelyn understands the level of shame that can be inflicted on a young girl and how that shame can bleed into adulthood. She is passionate about helping to end this cycle and uplift a new generation of sexually free badasses. She facilitates workshops, group coaching, and one on one coaching programs.You can find out more about Jocelyn on Instagram: @iamjocelynsilvaSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

This week Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode with Jessie Fresh all about aligning with your Erotic Blueprint to nurture your sexual self-esteem. They are curious about:  Why is pleasure important?What gets in the way of pleasure & fulfilling sex?How to increase sexual satisfaction?What are Erotic Blueprints and how do they affect our sexual self-esteem? Guiding us this week is Jessie Fresh:Jessie a certified Sex and Relationship Coach who helps women and couples create a deep, intimate connection so they can experience the mind-blowing sexual pleasure they so deeply crave. Using a unique technique to help her clients understand their deepest sexual desires, she coaches them to experience intimacy and closeness where there are no limits on time, space, and love. Jessie’s mission is to end the unnecessary suffering that too many people endure because of the shame and guilt they feel about sex. To find out more about Jessie Fresh on IG @JessieFreshSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about colorism, featurism, and texturism and they are joined by Dr. Donna to chat about:What are colorism, texturism, and featurism? Where does it come from? How does it show up day today?How does it impact sexual self-esteem?How does this impact relationships between people of color?What can we do now that we know this?To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Donna Oriowo:Dr. Donna Oriowo (oreo-whoa!) LICSW, CST, is international speaker and certified sex and relationship therapist in the Washington D.C. metro area. The owner of AnnodRight, Dr. Donna specializes in working with Black women on issues related to colorism and texturism and its impacts on mental and sexual health. She is the author of Cocoa Butter & Hair Grease: A Self Love Journey Through Hair and Skin. Dr. Donna is an advocate for sexual freedom, self-love, acceptance, and accomplishment for WoC, especially Black women. She collects inspiring quotes, eats donuts, loves pasta, & stays home--cuz COVID aka Rona. Dr. Oriowo currently serves as co-chair of the Diversity, Equity, Inclusion committee with AASECT, Communications Steering Committee Chair, too. She can be found on Facebook and Instagram @Annodright. OR you can visit her on the interwebs at TheCBHG.com or AnnodRight.comResources Dr. Oriowo mentioned:IG accounts: @darkest.hue@colorismhealing@yabablayBooks:Hair Story - Ayana D. Byrd and Lori L. TharpsCocoa Butter and Hair Grease - Dr. Donna Oriowo   Hair Matters - Ingrid BanksTenderheaded - Pamela Johnson and Juliette HarrisOne Drop: Shifting the Lens on Race - Yaba BlayDocumentary - Dark GirlsMovie - Spike Lee school dazeSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes