The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

In episode 291 of The Relationship School podcast I spoke with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke, co-founders of Thrive! Inc. coaching and consulting which specializes in resolving conflict in the workplace and using it to fuel greater teamwork and collective creativity. They’ve worked with everyone from tech startups to Fortune 100 companies and have written books on the subject and even started their own podcast.   The two women, also life partners, have pretty incredible life stories and are just as passionate about conflict as I am, albeit in a corporate setting.  We talked about some of their own defining moments with conflict, speaking up to power, the importance of having real conversations, and how embracing conflict, as awful as it can be, can truly be life changing.  Have a listen!   Shownotes: 3:45 Introduccion CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke 12:35 Most common problems for people and teams inside different organizations 16:00 How to start tackling conflict and communication issues inside work teams 25:05 Tools for work teams to improve communication 29:40: How to give and receive feedback from others 38:40 Action step Useful links: https://www.thriveinc.com/ 4063507691: Send a text with your name and Email address, and reply with the word BEAUTY. http://relationshipschool.com/community/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Did I choose the wrong person? Are we just incompatible? These are a few of the tough questions many couples ask themselves at some point in their relationship, usually when that blissful honeymoon period ends and real life sh*t begins.  And there’s an even more important question to ask if you are interested in this subject. It boils down to what you both want.  Join me in episode 290 of the RS podcast for a quick but meaningful conversation about incompatibility with me and my wife Ellen. We chat about when incompatibility issues typically arise, why it happens (i.e. when the stress comes in, the truth comes out), and how being different people doesn’t automatically make you incompatible. If you are thinking you and your partner (or ex) might be incompatible, this is a must listen.  Come learn the bigger question we need to ask ourselves about our partners and if the relationship is right for you.   Useful Links: http://relationshipschool.com/connected

The brain is a beautiful thing, isn’t it? Our brains are what shape us as human beings, but do you ever wonder what’s shaping your brain? Join me in Episode 289 as I chat with neuroscientist Dr. Judy Cameron about her breakthrough research into the brain and how we as adults can help our children have sturdier brain development (this is so important for our future). In the past, brain development was thought to be mainly due to genetic programming, but Dr. Cameron shares how it’s actually life experiences from the time you’re born onward that play a larger role. That means giving our children healthy experiences right now is key for them to build the best brains possible! Come listen and prepare for some mind-blowing stuff!   Shownotes: 3:50 Introduction Dr. Judy Cameron 12:30 Where are we at as a society on rising kids 16:45 Does trauma inhibit brain development? 21:50 Understanding what causes some kids to have social issues  36:45 How can kids learn new and better habits or skills? 41:10 “Flexibility” as a necessary tool for adults to help theirs kids learn 46:30 The importance of building emotional skills at early ages 53:40 Getting “stuck” is related to learning difficulties 1:00:15 How can we strengthen our brain as adults Useful Links: http://workingforkids.com/ judycameron@workingforkids.com http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Making love is a pretty straightforward act, but man do we love to make it complicated. How society views sex has always been messy and made wose -- hold your gasp of surprise here -- for women.  It’s about time we ditch this double standard, right? Join me as I chat with relationship expert and Relationship School Ambassador Dr. Alexandra Solomon about sexuality, relational self awareness and all the complexities of sex (and boy there are a lot of them). We discuss how the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017 was the final push she needed to write her new book Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want. Dr. Solomon, also the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, wanted to add her voice and contribute to this new chapter in conversations around gender, power and sex. Come listen as we talk more about the inspiration behind her writing and what women can do to discover their own unique erotic expression.    Shownotes: 3:10 Introduction Dr. Alexandra Solomon 10:40 About relational self-awareness 14:00 Lessons learned while writing her book 17:30 Guidance for young people about their sexuality 21:05 Women getting in touch with their own sexuality 23:15 At what point should parents have conversations about sexuality with their daughters 28:00 Differences on how society perceives female masturbation 31:50 What can men do to help women explore their sexuality 35:20 How men’s sexual performance is used to define manliness 37:40 Your feelings are data and you can learn from them 39:20 Advice for married couples on how to keep their sex life alive 43:15 The spiritual side of sex 47:20 Action Step Useful Links: Book: Taking Sexy back Dr Alexandra Solomon on Instagram Dr Alexandra Solomon on Facebook Dr Alexandra Solomon's website http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Did you know 1 in 10 Americans take an antidepressant? Yup. For some, the treatment can really help. Yet for many, it doesn’t do much. The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing people like never before. Some of us in a good way, but others are suffering even more. In fact, I think we’re on the brink of a mental health crisis. That’s why I asked my good friend Dr. Will Vanderveer, an integrative psychiatrist, to speak to us about what we can do as practitioners (therapists and coaches), but also as people who suffer from mental health challenges such as depression. I think you’ll find this very eye opening. Listen now!   Shownotes: (5:30) Introduction Will Vanderveer (7:20) Covid-19 Crisis (9:10) About Integrative Care and Integrative psychiatry (14:20) Differences between Mental Health and Physical health professionals (32:30) The impact of childhood trauma on health and recommendations (39:10) Research on psychedelics as treatment (51:40) The importance of the right guidance on psychedelic treatments (56:25) How we are treating mental health on this day and age (1:04:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://psychiatrycenters.com/ https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Have you let someone know how you are lately? How you really are? Because it’s okay to not be okay right now. I encourage you to be more honest with yourself and your friends and family when we all share how we’re holding up in this uncertain world. How did they handle your truth? In this podcast, I check in with you and share 3 tips on how to face interpersonal stress and conflict and only get stronger from it. This is good advice anytime of year, but especially now when our relationships are experiencing way more stress than normal. Because we all crave human contact, but what happens when we’re constantly in close quarters with people? Or all by ourselves? Stress and conflict, that’s what. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Please listen and start taking action now to better your situation tomorrow. And, as always, share with someone you know who is struggling.   Shownotes:   (5:30) Introduction Will Vanderveer (7:20) Covid-19 Crisis (9:10) About Integrative Care and Integrative psychiatry (14:20) Differences between Mental Health and Physical health professionals (32:30) The impact of childhood trauma on health and recommendations (39:10) Research on psychedelics as treatment (51:40) The importance of the right guidance on psychedelic treatments (56:25) How we are treating mental health on this day and age (1:04:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://psychiatrycenters.com/ https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Depending on your situation, the pandemic and economic uncertainty can leave any “normal” person feeling out of control, overwhelmed, or afraid. So, here is a great interview with my friend who is a skilled meditation instructor. Cory walks you through a simple process you can do in 5-10 minutes that will help you calm down and regain control of your thinking and your emotions. Please listen and/or forward to someone you know who is struggling.   Shownotes:   (3:20) Introduction Cory Muscara (15:50) Looking for answers in the wrong people (19:55) Core teachings at Cory’s retreats (23:05) Meditation practice to achieve an internal sense of safety on these difficult times (35:10) Reviewing the 5 steps to work on our fears and frustrations (39:15) How this meditation practices help you be more proactive with your situation (43:25) Self-acceptance vs. self-mastery (50:35) Explaining the concept of “Developing/cultivating a witness” (59:25) Final advice from Cory (1:03:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://www.corymuscara.com/ Cory's instagram For more free resources and recommendations, text your email address: (+1) 6314054631 http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Word is that child abuse and domestic violence are on the rise right now due to people being stuck at home. And, if China is any indication, divorce could increase a lot once we are through this. “Shelter in place” is a great move with a big downside for some people. If you are stuck at home with people that are difficult, including a roommate or partner, lockdown isn’t that fun. In fact, it can bring out the worst in us. So, my wife and I thought we’d record a short podcast with some tips for couples who are feeling stuck at home Plus, if you have children, there’s a bonus section at the end of this podcast with my kids!   Useful Links: Send your podcast questions: info@relationshipschool.com http://relationshipschool.com/community

This is an extremely intimate and powerful episode with world-renowned speaker Philip McKernan. He asks you 2 questions that can completely change how you show up right now during this global crisis. I’ve been reflecting on these 2 questions since our interview. They are deep, very personal, and helpful. Listen below.   Shownotes:   (4:25) Introduction Philip McKernan (7:50) Orienting yourself in times of crisis (10:55) How difficult times can make you change your perspective (14:20) Asking yourself “Who are you going to be during this crisis” (19:20) Dealing with your anxiety (20:50) How difficult times can help you grow (26:40) Making better choices to overcome crisis (29:35) Should you compare yourself to other people? (34:30) What can you do to accept yourself as you are (39:30) Self-development during difficult times (44:40) Stop making everything about you (49:50) Making and impact by being your true self (59:15) Advice for therapists and coaches helping others (1:05:50) Action Step   Useful Links:   https://onelasttalk.com/the-book/ https://philipmckernan.com/

In this episode we talk briefly about fear and how to deal with it. http://relationshipschool.com/connected