Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Did you know 1 in 10 Americans take an antidepressant? Yup. For some, the treatment can really help. Yet for many, it doesn’t do much. The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing people like never before. Some of us in a good way, but others are suffering even more. In fact, I think we’re on the brink of a mental health crisis. That’s why I asked my good friend Dr. Will Vanderveer, an integrative psychiatrist, to speak to us about what we can do as practitioners (therapists and coaches), but also as people who suffer from mental health challenges such as depression. I think you’ll find this very eye opening. Listen now!   Shownotes: (5:30) Introduction Will Vanderveer (7:20) Covid-19 Crisis (9:10) About Integrative Care and Integrative psychiatry (14:20) Differences between Mental Health and Physical health professionals (32:30) The impact of childhood trauma on health and recommendations (39:10) Research on psychedelics as treatment (51:40) The importance of the right guidance on psychedelic treatments (56:25) How we are treating mental health on this day and age (1:04:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://psychiatrycenters.com/ https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Have you let someone know how you are lately? How you really are? Because it’s okay to not be okay right now. I encourage you to be more honest with yourself and your friends and family when we all share how we’re holding up in this uncertain world. How did they handle your truth? In this podcast, I check in with you and share 3 tips on how to face interpersonal stress and conflict and only get stronger from it. This is good advice anytime of year, but especially now when our relationships are experiencing way more stress than normal. Because we all crave human contact, but what happens when we’re constantly in close quarters with people? Or all by ourselves? Stress and conflict, that’s what. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Please listen and start taking action now to better your situation tomorrow. And, as always, share with someone you know who is struggling.   Shownotes:   (5:30) Introduction Will Vanderveer (7:20) Covid-19 Crisis (9:10) About Integrative Care and Integrative psychiatry (14:20) Differences between Mental Health and Physical health professionals (32:30) The impact of childhood trauma on health and recommendations (39:10) Research on psychedelics as treatment (51:40) The importance of the right guidance on psychedelic treatments (56:25) How we are treating mental health on this day and age (1:04:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://psychiatrycenters.com/ https://psychiatryinstitute.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Depending on your situation, the pandemic and economic uncertainty can leave any “normal” person feeling out of control, overwhelmed, or afraid. So, here is a great interview with my friend who is a skilled meditation instructor. Cory walks you through a simple process you can do in 5-10 minutes that will help you calm down and regain control of your thinking and your emotions. Please listen and/or forward to someone you know who is struggling.   Shownotes:   (3:20) Introduction Cory Muscara (15:50) Looking for answers in the wrong people (19:55) Core teachings at Cory’s retreats (23:05) Meditation practice to achieve an internal sense of safety on these difficult times (35:10) Reviewing the 5 steps to work on our fears and frustrations (39:15) How this meditation practices help you be more proactive with your situation (43:25) Self-acceptance vs. self-mastery (50:35) Explaining the concept of “Developing/cultivating a witness” (59:25) Final advice from Cory (1:03:30) Action Step   Useful Links: https://www.corymuscara.com/ Cory's instagram For more free resources and recommendations, text your email address: (+1) 6314054631 http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Word is that child abuse and domestic violence are on the rise right now due to people being stuck at home. And, if China is any indication, divorce could increase a lot once we are through this. “Shelter in place” is a great move with a big downside for some people. If you are stuck at home with people that are difficult, including a roommate or partner, lockdown isn’t that fun. In fact, it can bring out the worst in us. So, my wife and I thought we’d record a short podcast with some tips for couples who are feeling stuck at home Plus, if you have children, there’s a bonus section at the end of this podcast with my kids!   Useful Links: Send your podcast questions: info@relationshipschool.com http://relationshipschool.com/community

This is an extremely intimate and powerful episode with world-renowned speaker Philip McKernan. He asks you 2 questions that can completely change how you show up right now during this global crisis. I’ve been reflecting on these 2 questions since our interview. They are deep, very personal, and helpful. Listen below.   Shownotes:   (4:25) Introduction Philip McKernan (7:50) Orienting yourself in times of crisis (10:55) How difficult times can make you change your perspective (14:20) Asking yourself “Who are you going to be during this crisis” (19:20) Dealing with your anxiety (20:50) How difficult times can help you grow (26:40) Making better choices to overcome crisis (29:35) Should you compare yourself to other people? (34:30) What can you do to accept yourself as you are (39:30) Self-development during difficult times (44:40) Stop making everything about you (49:50) Making and impact by being your true self (59:15) Advice for therapists and coaches helping others (1:05:50) Action Step   Useful Links:   https://onelasttalk.com/the-book/ https://philipmckernan.com/

In this episode we talk briefly about fear and how to deal with it. http://relationshipschool.com/connected

I think you’ll find this podcast interview very helpful right now. It’s a good reminder of how to work through adversity. My guest is Mark Divine, a former Navy Seal. This guy’s a machine and doing so much good in the world right now. Pay special attention to how he got into the Navy Seals. There are some good lessons that will help you be stronger right now.   Shownotes: (5:10) Introduction Mark Divine (9:45) Getting into the navy seals (16:45) Meditation Breathing advice (20:40) The importance of training your thoughts and calm your mind (26:45) Using meditation to pinpoint and solving inner problems (36:15) Dealing with problems and staying focused on your mission (42:00) Why people struggle with their own minds (46:35) How young people can become more resilient on adversity (50:20) The implications of cutting corners (56:35) Self-mastery vs Self-Acceptance (1:08:15) Action Step Useful Links: https://markdivine.com/ https://staringdownthewolf.com/code-home https://www.amazon.com/Staring-Down-Wolf-Leadership-Commitments/dp/1250231582 https://unbeatablemind.com/about-mark-divine/ https://sealfit.com/  

Are you practicing social distancing? How are you doing this without being a jerk? BOUNDARIES. :)  Here are a few simple tips and my thoughts on how we can stay connected during this crisis. These are intense times and I encourage you to stay at home and learn.   Useful Links: http://relationshipschool.com/connected https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/ https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/ Chris kresser- RHR: Everything You Need to Know about Coronavirus, with Dr. Ramzi Asfour https://chriskresser.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-coronavirus-with-dr-ramzi-asfour/ Sam Harris podcast - Making Sense https://samharris.org/podcasts/191-early-thoughts-pandemic/

I love teenagers! As you know I used you to work with troubled teens in a variety of settings, from drug treatment centers to wilderness therapy programs. I think to be skilled with teens requires some serious skill. That’s why I brought my friend Aaron Huey on the podcast to discuss how to deal with difficult teens. If you are not a parent, this will still be valuable as we discuss addiction, boundaries, and enabling, all issues that come up in adult relationships too. Listen now! Shownotes: (4:30) Introduction Aaron Huey (11:40) How people can get more empowered and overcome victimhood (16:20) Advice for parents of kids getting bullied (18:15) Exploring negative behaviors on teenagers (22:40) About parents expecting treatment centers to fix their kids behavior (26:15) Should we blame and call out parents? (28:50) Creating family behavior contracts (33:00) 4 things that families can do to prevent negative children’s behaviors and decisions (36:55) Why parents enable kids’ negative behavior (43:15) How mothers react different than fathers (48:55) Advice for teenagers struggling with addictions (1:00:00) https://firemountainprograms.com/ (1:05:35) Action Step Useful Links: https://firemountainprograms.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

In last week’s podcast, I answered the question people ask me all the time, “Is it okay to have expectations?”  I came up with 6 expectations that are reasonable to have in a partnership.  But it’s also important for us to discuss when it’s not okay or when it’s a bad idea to have expectations. I came up with 8 big ones that I DO NOT recommend.  The biggest one is expecting someone else to live according to your values. Ouch. People do this one all the time, including me! Doah!  Check out this week’s podcast to hear the other 7.  Enjoy   Shownotes:   (0:50) 8 unrealistic expectations (1:35) Expecting your partner to have your exact same values (4:55) Expecting your partner to look a certain way (7:15) Expecting your partner to have sex whenever you want (8:35) Expecting your partner to be available for you 100 % of the time (9:25) Expecting your partner to be everything for you (11:42) Expecting your partner to never be attracted to other people (12:35) Expecting your partner to never speak to people of the opposite sex (14:50) Expecting your partner to fill the hole around your self-worth (16:25) Action Step   Useful Links: Part 1: https://relationshipschool.site/podcast278 http://relationshipschool.com/connected