The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Some of you know that I nerd out on research about relationships. Well, have you heard about the research study that says loneliness is more lethal than smoking 15 cigarettes per day?  Well, I finally got to talk to the woman that did this research. Wow. It’s astounding and puts our relationships with other people front and center.   Shownotes:   5:10 Introduction  Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad 7:30 The impact of loneliness and social isolation on people's health 14:00 Dr. Julianne’s health studies 19:45 The impact of relationships on our health and life expectancy 41:55 Why you might feel lonely even if you are surrounded by people 48:25 Why some people disagree with the studies about loneliness and social isolation 1:04:50 Action step   Useful Links: https://twitter.com/jholtlunstad?lang=en https://julianneholtlunstad.byu.edu/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct    

If you are a helper, therapist, or coach (or you are curious), here’s a great podcast I just recorded about helping others and taking the leap to be a relationship coach.   Shownotes: 9:50 What is coaching? 11:30 How to become a good relationship coach 25:05 About our coaching program 37:25 Action step   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/therapy-vs-coaching-sc-139/

My good friend and Men’s Coach Tripp Lanier joins me in episode 299 of the podcast for a killer convo about why we shouldn’t take ourselves so seriously and how to put a voice to our fears so we can use them for fuel to get what we want. Shownotes:   5:00 Introduction Tripp Lanier 10:35 What put Tripp on a path of self-discovery and growth? 12:50 Men dealing with their emotions and fears 14:25 The 3 big threats 18:00 The fear of being ourselves 20:40 Facing the problems in our lives 25:30 Using our feelings and emotions as a guide to a better life and better relationships 37:30 Assuming you are responsible for your own life 39:00 You don’t need to be in the mood to improve 41:15 Stop taking yourself too seriously 46:15 Setting goals for ourselves in a different way 50:30 What is freedom? 53:00 Comfort doesn’t mean fulfillment 56:00 The fear of change in our relationships 1:00:05 Advice to keep a marriage working 1:04:40 Action step   Useful Links: https://www.amazon.com/This-Book-Will-Make-Dangerous-ebook/dp/B086PY4W35 https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct  

Can we rewire our brains to find more fulfillment in ourselves and in our relationships? Psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson joins me in episode 298 of the podcast to share his take on how exactly we can get there. Shownotes:   3:30 What is happiness and why do we seek it? 6:40 How to overcome negativity without ignoring our traumas 10:25 The importance of self-awareness in our relationships 14:00 Why relationships matter so much 19:25 Recognizing good and bad intentions of others 27:40 What prevents people from growing? 32:40 What triggered change in Rick’s life 42:20 Why learning is essential for your brain’s health 48:15 Why it’s important to acknowledge and embrace your victories 54:30 Action step Useful Links: https://www.rickhanson.net/ https://rickhanson.net/neurodharma https://relationshipschool.com/rct

Join me in episode 297 of the podcast for a moving and motivating conversation with Lloyd Fickett, founder of “The Collaborative Way”. We get in deep about life, love and leadership in this one. Shownotes: 3:55 Introduction of Lloyd Fickett 5:55 What is The Collaborative Way? 16:00 Problems that can be solved with The Collaborative Way 24:25 How team leaders can improve their leadership skills 30:00 Steps we can take to make our relationships stronger 41:20 Lloyd's experiences with grief and growth after his wife’s passing  49:30 Action step Useful Links: https://www.collaborativeway.com/ https://learn.collaborativeway.com/

I’m a big fan of esteemed psychologist Dr. Ed Tronick and was stoked to pick his brain in episode 296 of the podcast. Join us for an amazing conversation on The Still Face Experiment, relationship dynamics, his new book and much more. Shownotes: 5:30 Introduction of Dr. Edward Tronick 8:10 The impact on children from mask wearing 11:25 The “Still Face” experiment and its impact on culture 15:25 Understanding mother-child interactions 24:50 Working on our mismatches with others and building security 32:00 How relationship dynamics in the early years impact infants 42:15 The platform of security 45:10 The power of repair in relationships 1:02:50 Co-regulation between children and their mothers 1:14:00 Action step   Useful Links:   https://www.amazon.com/Power-Discord-Relationships-Building-Resilience/dp/0316488879 https://www.umb.edu/academics/cla/faculty/edward_tronick https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0  

In episode 295 of the podcast I continue our race conversation with Michael Taylor and Jon Walton, 2 friends of TRS whose life’s work is to educate others and lift up people of color. Check it out. Shownotes: 4:20 Introduction to Michael Taylor and Jon Walton 7:30 The roots of racism and white supremacy 12:00 Michael and Jon's experiences with racism 20:30 Is the reactivity around these problems necessary? 25:50 What can white people do? 33:25 Why we judge other people based on the color of their skin 41:00 How can white people get involved in supporting anti-racism without white-centering? 45:10 How to engage in challenging conversations around racism? 1:01:50 Is it necessary for white people to apologize to Black people? 1:04:00 Advice to deal with race issues in interracial relationships 1:09:00 About police brutality and how the media portrays Black people 1:16:45 Final thoughts 1:21:55 Action step   Useful Links:   https://www.shatteringblackmalestereotypes.com/ https://www.jontwalton.com/  

As the anti-racism protests and movement continue to spread across our country, I wanted to represent a few Black voices on the podcast to help me/us get involved.   In early 2019, I took a 7-week class for white people on equity, race, and diversity. Louiza “Weeze” Doran, who took time out of her insanely busy schedule right now, was one of my teachers.  I consider her one of my main mentors when it comes to the subject of racism.  Weeze is a coach, educator, political activist, organizer, and strategist, among many other things. She’s in direct action toward moving the system forward to equity, justice, inclusion, and liberation for the Black community. Weeze and I talk about how we’re doing in our response so far after the George Floyd murder, 3 things that white people can do right now to support, and our historical culture of whiteness. She helps me get clear on how to define racism and what it looks like in everyday life, because it’s not always so obvious. She also answers some great questions from my listeners. This is an amazing listen, folks. It will wake you up, may make you uncomfortable (and that’s a good thing -- it means you’re being activated!) and inspire you to look at your own life and take action.   Shownotes: 7:25 Introduction Louiza "Weeze" Doran 10:55 Society's response to George Floyd’s death 19:30 What white people can do to support the anti-racism movement 25:55 Defining racism 32:30 How living in your personal bubble keeps you from understanding other people’s lives and experiences 40:30 How to support the Black community without coming across as condescending 45:30 Where to get news and unbiased information 47:00 Examples of “unchecked white privilege” and covert racism 54:00 How to support Black people at work 56:05 About “white-centering” 59:45: How to talk to kids about racism 1:05:50 Hope about the future 1:11:35 Action step   Useful Links: https://www.accordingtoweeze.com/ https://www.instagram.com/accordingtoweeze/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct/  

As the pandemic continues, one of the most charged topics that’s come up is mask wearing. Many people are wearing them because their area requires it and/or they think it’ll help stop the spread. Others aren’t because their area has more relaxed rules and/or they think it’s holding them back from a much-needed return to normal life. Either way, it’s turned into a divisive issue with people internally or even publicly shaming each other for wearing or not wearing a mask.  This is a prime example of conflict, something that happens in our intimate relationships all the time. We want others to conform to our values and do what we’re doing. But this behavior just isn’t realistic. Join me in episode 293 of the RS podcast to dig deeper into the issue and discuss how we can resolve a lot of the conflict we feel by actively listening to each other and learning about both viewpoints. Useful Links:https://relationshipschool.com/rct/

As a man, I have wrestled with my sexuality most of my life.  That’s why I love it when other men are willing to “go there.”  Here’s another rich conversation with two men getting honest about us guys in the bedroom.  I first spoke to Destin Gerek a few years ago in episode 98 about evolving masculinity, and the man who used to call himself the Erotic Rockstar joins me again in episode 292 to build off that conversation and talk his new book The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs & the One She Craves. Click here to listen. We discuss what an evolved man looks like 2020, why some men fear their masculinity, and the vulnerability of embracing the feminine within. We also talk intimately about common male sexuality issues and feeling satisfied not only with our partners, but with ourselves. This is a good one for men AND women -- go check it out!   Shownotes: 2:53 Introduction Destin Gerek 8:05 Masculine and feminine energy 10:00 Why some men are afraid to show their masculine side 11:25 The impact of the #MeToo movement on men 17:00 How men can use their sexuality as a gift for women 24:40 Men must believe they are worthy of sex 27:00 How can men cultivate a healthy sexual relationship? 31:25: What can men do to improve their sexual performance 44:30 How our relationship with our parents affect the relationship with our partners 48:20 How men can be better husbands and a better dads 54:15 Action Step   Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct/ https://www.evolvedmasculine.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Evolved-Masculine-World-Needs-Craves/dp/1734144106 https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshipadviceformen/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected