Relationship Coaching School Podcast

At every stage, I've been a bit socially awkward. Yes, me, relationship guy gets socially awkward. I'm often more introverted than people think.   New social settings can create mild anxiety for me. Do you ever feel this? I think it's very normal.   And, what vibe do you put out with your body language at work? Home? With others? As we've talked about before, your face can suggest so many things to others, including threat. So, listen to this podcast as we dive into body language and being socially awkward. Listen now!   Shownotes:   (5:05) Introduction Vanessa Edwards (11:55) Advice for socially insecure teens (15:55) Thoughts about “Fake it, until you make it” (23:05) How to be more authentic with others regarding on how you feel (26:40) Research about the impact of body language and facial expressions on relationships (36:30) About loneliness in this age https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj9QBB4bNTv29f4oFIreNmw https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cef35Fk7YD8 (43:05): Action Step

If you are thinking of divorce, you've probably spent hours analyzing things. I just want you to consider a few more points, just in case. Listen to this. Shownotes: (2:55) If you’re thinking of divorce (4:00) Look at the cost of a divorce (8:30) What are the benefits of a divorce for you and for others (13:25) https://relationshipschool.com/DPIR/

I received enough requests that it was time to do an interview on co-parenting and blended families. This is a great primer for you if you are in this situation.   The couple I interview has lived the experience. One is divorced. One is a spouse of a deceased partner. They blended their families together and it went super well! Their story is inspiring. Listen now!   Shownotes: (4:30) Introduction Tammy and Jay (8:00) How does a couple know when to merge their families (11:10) How to tell your kids if you want to merge families with someone (19:55) How to deal with conflicts with your co-parent (32:50) Last words about co-parenting (39:10) https://coparentinginternational.com/ (39:20) https://coparentinginternational.com/ (39:35) https://thestepmomconnection.com/ (40:50) Action Step

Discover how Steven Hayes, founder of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, shares insights on changing your mind, transcending victim mentality, and loving yourself. Learn about the benefits of challenges, working on blind spots, and taking the first steps towards personal growth.

Here in Boulder Colorado there are a lot of spiritual people doing great, deep, spiritual work.   But does it translate into relational development?   Listen to my take in this episode. (2:42) Relational and Spiritual Development episodes https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-spiritually-developed-people-struggle-with-monogamy-ellen-and-jayson-sc-176/ https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/relationship-problems-in-spiritual-communities-gabrielle-ted-usatynski-smart-couple-podcast-224/ https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/spirituality-and-relationships/ (3:25) Spiritual Development vs. Relational Development

Want to help couples better? Want to learn about the real issue in your partnership? This interview will shed some serious light on what's below all the surface fights. If you like attachment science, you'll love this one.   Shownotes: (3:45) Introduction Sue Johnson (19:30) Sue’s experience of attachment in a community (21:39) Reading emotional cues in relationships to find problems (30:35) Helping couples by showing them their own dynamics when fighting (39:25) Understanding love through attachment science (42:10) How EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) can help you (48:10) Final words about love and relationships (51:50) http://drsuejohnson.com/ (51:55) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeEyuM2qJHNyBEuIMV3bC7w (52:45) Action step

Feeling seen is one of the 4 core needs in a partnership. However, what does that mean and how do we do that?   What if we don't feel safe? What if we don't know how?   Listen to this. I think it will help.   Shownotes:   (2:05) What does “Being seen” mean (3:20) Why a lot of people close up and hide parts of themselves (4:50) Confronting our “Dark side” in long-term relationships (7:30) Settling for feeling seen, but not being accepted

Women ask me all the time, "How do I get him to open up?" It's an important question as some of us guys are pretty emotionally jammed up. But there are a few things you can do to help, without feeling resentful. Listen in!   Shownotes: (3:55) Introduction Shana James (10:20) Why she decided to work helping men (18:50) Safety and sex in relationships (27:00) Having honest and open conversations with our partners (31:35) How women can understand men in their lives. (36:55) How women can help men solve some of their problems in bed (40:00) First steps on how to have transparent conversations with our partners (46:00) Women being labeled as “Too emotional” (51:50) Bringing hope to people about relationships in their lives (57:15) Action Step

Years ago, I watched a woman re-pattern a baby's movements after a tough Caesarean birth. It was so powerful. It all happened in a few minutes. She was a baby whisperer. Turns out this woman is quite the healer. From tantra facilitator to couples therapist, Annie Brooke has some serious skills. I've had sessions with her, and my son did a water session with her when he was six months old. I think you'll like this interview I recently did with her. We covered a ton of ground. Conflict, attachment, and the satisfaction cycle.   Shownotes: (3:50) Introduction Annie Brook (15:20) About attachment and the Mother-Children relationship 23:50) The importance of movement in self-awareness practices (27:50) About the satisfaction cycle on adult partnerships dynamics (34:30 How attachment cycles of our childhood affect our present (36:00) Spaces in couples during conflict or disagreements (40:20) Recreating relationships over time (42:45) About open marriage and polyamorous relationships (50:25) About co-regulation 1:02:30 Action Step

Recently I interviewed my friend Joanna Shakti on masculine/feminine energy.   Some people get pretty triggered with these terms, but I think they are quite useful, so long as we tease them apart from gender.   Regardless, there's a lot of great stuff in this interview about polarity, sexual chemistry, and how one woman turned her "energy" around and found a different level of love.   Plus, there are 4 questions you can ask to see where you fall on the masculine/feminine spectrum. Listen now...     Shownotes:   (4:30) Introduction Joanna Shakti (13:30) What is masculine and feminine energy (17:05) How unbalanced masculine and feminine energy can cause frustration (22:50) Practical steps to start working on this part of you (28:10) How your energy can attract people on the opposite side of the spectrum (35:00) Sex in long term relationships (41:35) Scheduled sex (43:20) Opening a marriage and having sex with other people (44:30) Short advice for women who struggle with having orgasms (47:33) Advice for people who have same energy (Masculine – Feminine) (51:40) Final advice (55:35) Action Step