Relationship Coaching School Podcast

If you or someone you love suffers from PTSD check this out.   According to the American Psychiatric Association, PTSD can be a disabling condition that impacts about 3.5 percent of U.S. adults. And women are twice as likely as men to have PTSD. Eeek.  Trauma is everywhere and I think most of us have experienced it at some point in our lives.  That’s why I like to interview folks on the subject.  My friend Arielle goes deep in this episode and defines both trauma and PTSD.    Shownotes: (3:15) Introduction Arielle Schwartz (12:05) The body vs the mind on personal growth (12:25) About PTSD (21:20) The importance of being present (28:55) How to know if you are experiencing PTSD (33:10) How to develop resiliency    https://drarielleschwartz.com/ 43:20) Action Step

Do you have needs? Do you own them? Or do you know you have needs, but then you get scared to ask for them to be met because you're afraid the other person will leave? Understandable. Most people are used to sequestering their needs in exchange for scraps of connection. Please don't do this.   I've done a lot of work with my own needs to determine that I do in fact have them in an adult partnership, and that i'm unwilling to not have them met. I'm also willing to offer these needs to my wife forever. Most people pretend they don't have needs in a partnership because being "needy" is bad in this culture.   But I'm here to let you know you have 4 needs that are not negotiable if you want to really go for it and create a secure partnership over time.   What are they? 1. Feeling safe 2. Feeling seen 3. Feeling soothed 4. Feeling supported/challenged   Think I'm crazy? Just listen as I unpack each one and I think you'll get the idea. Enjoy this short podcast episode and share with a friend who thinks they don't have needs! lol.   Shownotes:   (2:35) The 4 needs for security in a long-term relationship (4:20) How to recognize an insecure relationship (7:30) Feeling Safe (8:15) Feeling Seen (9:15) Feeling Soothed (10:20) Felling supported and challenged   Useful Links: Apply for our 9 month training (DPIR) Monogamy & the Smart Couple Facebook Group

What is men's work? Most people are unclear what this term means, but once you find out, you'll be cheering on men who are involved in it. In this podcast, I interview one of the key players in the largest men's organizations in the world. We cover some very intimate subjects, including #metoo, fatherhood, and the power of getting together as men.   Shownotes:   (3:35) Introduction (7:20) About Men’s Work (10:55) Male relationships inside a family (14:50) What is Men’s Work (20:10) How a man can get out of his “Boy code” programming. (25:40) How trauma causes addictions that keep you stuck (31:10) How Men’s Work is getting more Popular (37:50) Thoughts about the #MeToo movement (43:25) Boysen’s experience as a father https://mankindproject.org/ https://twitter.com/boysenh?lang=en (53:15) Action step  

Your closest relationships will end one day. Other than dying, do you know the 2 most common reasons relationships end? Listen here to find out and leave a comment below or in our FB group. This one can get people stirred up.   Shownotes: (1:55) 2 main reasons why relationships end (3:30) Outgrowing your partner (6:20) Not being able to handle yourself or your partner (11:20) “Falling out of love” Useful Links: https://www.facebook.com/groups/749008838533400/ https://relationshipschool.com/dpir/

Joan Borysenko is an amazing woman who has some wonderful life lessons around resiliency, making meaning, and developing safety in your relationship life. In this podcast, you'll learn how to dig deep into your self-belief, overcome victimhood, and increase connection. Joan's stories are an inspiring demonstration of the human spirit.   Shownotes: 4:40 Introduction Joan Borysenko 16:45 What makes people resilient in life 24:00 The importance of relationships for healing and growing 36:10 What makes a successful relationship 40:20 How to handle stress and frustration with your partner 47:00 Advice on how to get through difficult times in our lives 56:50 Raising kids in this day and age https://www.joanborysenko.com/ 1:04:45 Action step   Useful Links: https://www.joanborysenko.com/ Apply for our 9 month training (DPIR)   Free Gift from Joan Borysenko to Jayson's listeners: 3 Prescriptions for Love Medicine Mind Body Tools to Strengthen Self-Love and Self-Compassion, the Foundations of All Your Relationships.   Go to https://www.joanborysenko.com/other/lovemedicine/   And you'll be directed to the free gift.

Do you check your phone all day long? Have you ever tried to speak to someone about something important only to have them distracted by their phone or something else? It sucks. These days, we have endless distractions. So, how do we stay oriented to what matters, and how do we not let our business distract us away from the relationships we care most about? Well, I found someone who knows a lot about this stuff and interviewed him. His insights are a breath of fresh air. And, he says it's all about getting systematized and setting boundaries. Listen now.   Do you check your phone all day long? Have you ever tried to speak to someone about something important only to have them distracted by their phone or something else? It sucks. These days, we have endless distractions. So, how do we stay oriented to what matters, and how do we not let our business distract us away from the relationships we care most about? Well, I found someone who knows a lot about this stuff and interviewed him. His insights are a breath of fresh air. And, he says it's all about getting systematized and setting boundaries. Listen now. SHOWNOTES: (3:10) Introduction Nir Eyal (10:10) What it means to be “distracted” (14:50): Why we get distracted (22:30) Strategies how to get less distracted in our lives (35:05) Final advice: Planning to avoid distractions https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SV4V6ZK/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0 (39:05) Action step  Useful Links:  https://www.nirandfar.com/ https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SV4V6ZK/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0 https://www.nirandfar.com/indistractable/?utm_source=indistractable.com&utm_medium=redirect https://nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/ https://www.niandfar.com/distractions/ https://www.nirandfar.com/habits/ https://www.nirandfar.com/skill-of-the-future/  

Do you have someone in your life who when you try to help them, they just won't follow through? I mean, you have really good advice and insight, but it doesn't go anywhere. Or maybe you have a friend or family member that needs help but no matter how hard you try, they won't get help. If so, listen to this one. Shownotes: (2:30) How to help someone you care about who doesn’t listen to your advice (6:05) 2 Practical techniques to help others (11:30) Action Step https://lp.relationshipschool.com/yourfuture

At every stage, I've been a bit socially awkward. Yes, me, relationship guy gets socially awkward. I'm often more introverted than people think.   New social settings can create mild anxiety for me. Do you ever feel this? I think it's very normal.   And, what vibe do you put out with your body language at work? Home? With others? As we've talked about before, your face can suggest so many things to others, including threat. So, listen to this podcast as we dive into body language and being socially awkward. Listen now!   Shownotes:   (5:05) Introduction Vanessa Edwards (11:55) Advice for socially insecure teens (15:55) Thoughts about “Fake it, until you make it” (23:05) How to be more authentic with others regarding on how you feel (26:40) Research about the impact of body language and facial expressions on relationships (36:30) About loneliness in this age https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj9QBB4bNTv29f4oFIreNmw https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cef35Fk7YD8 (43:05): Action Step

If you are thinking of divorce, you've probably spent hours analyzing things. I just want you to consider a few more points, just in case. Listen to this. Shownotes: (2:55) If you’re thinking of divorce (4:00) Look at the cost of a divorce (8:30) What are the benefits of a divorce for you and for others (13:25) https://relationshipschool.com/DPIR/

I received enough requests that it was time to do an interview on co-parenting and blended families. This is a great primer for you if you are in this situation.   The couple I interview has lived the experience. One is divorced. One is a spouse of a deceased partner. They blended their families together and it went super well! Their story is inspiring. Listen now!   Shownotes: (4:30) Introduction Tammy and Jay (8:00) How does a couple know when to merge their families (11:10) How to tell your kids if you want to merge families with someone (19:55) How to deal with conflicts with your co-parent (32:50) Last words about co-parenting (39:10) https://coparentinginternational.com/ (39:20) https://coparentinginternational.com/ (39:35) https://thestepmomconnection.com/ (40:50) Action Step