Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Discover how Steven Hayes, founder of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, shares insights on changing your mind, transcending victim mentality, and loving yourself. Learn about the benefits of challenges, working on blind spots, and taking the first steps towards personal growth.

Here in Boulder Colorado there are a lot of spiritual people doing great, deep, spiritual work.   But does it translate into relational development?   Listen to my take in this episode. (2:42) Relational and Spiritual Development episodes https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-spiritually-developed-people-struggle-with-monogamy-ellen-and-jayson-sc-176/ https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/relationship-problems-in-spiritual-communities-gabrielle-ted-usatynski-smart-couple-podcast-224/ https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/spirituality-and-relationships/ (3:25) Spiritual Development vs. Relational Development

Want to help couples better? Want to learn about the real issue in your partnership? This interview will shed some serious light on what's below all the surface fights. If you like attachment science, you'll love this one.   Shownotes: (3:45) Introduction Sue Johnson (19:30) Sue’s experience of attachment in a community (21:39) Reading emotional cues in relationships to find problems (30:35) Helping couples by showing them their own dynamics when fighting (39:25) Understanding love through attachment science (42:10) How EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) can help you (48:10) Final words about love and relationships (51:50) http://drsuejohnson.com/ (51:55) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeEyuM2qJHNyBEuIMV3bC7w (52:45) Action step

Feeling seen is one of the 4 core needs in a partnership. However, what does that mean and how do we do that?   What if we don't feel safe? What if we don't know how?   Listen to this. I think it will help.   Shownotes:   (2:05) What does “Being seen” mean (3:20) Why a lot of people close up and hide parts of themselves (4:50) Confronting our “Dark side” in long-term relationships (7:30) Settling for feeling seen, but not being accepted

Women ask me all the time, "How do I get him to open up?" It's an important question as some of us guys are pretty emotionally jammed up. But there are a few things you can do to help, without feeling resentful. Listen in!   Shownotes: (3:55) Introduction Shana James (10:20) Why she decided to work helping men (18:50) Safety and sex in relationships (27:00) Having honest and open conversations with our partners (31:35) How women can understand men in their lives. (36:55) How women can help men solve some of their problems in bed (40:00) First steps on how to have transparent conversations with our partners (46:00) Women being labeled as “Too emotional” (51:50) Bringing hope to people about relationships in their lives (57:15) Action Step

Years ago, I watched a woman re-pattern a baby's movements after a tough Caesarean birth. It was so powerful. It all happened in a few minutes. She was a baby whisperer. Turns out this woman is quite the healer. From tantra facilitator to couples therapist, Annie Brooke has some serious skills. I've had sessions with her, and my son did a water session with her when he was six months old. I think you'll like this interview I recently did with her. We covered a ton of ground. Conflict, attachment, and the satisfaction cycle.   Shownotes: (3:50) Introduction Annie Brook (15:20) About attachment and the Mother-Children relationship 23:50) The importance of movement in self-awareness practices (27:50) About the satisfaction cycle on adult partnerships dynamics (34:30 How attachment cycles of our childhood affect our present (36:00) Spaces in couples during conflict or disagreements (40:20) Recreating relationships over time (42:45) About open marriage and polyamorous relationships (50:25) About co-regulation 1:02:30 Action Step

Recently I interviewed my friend Joanna Shakti on masculine/feminine energy.   Some people get pretty triggered with these terms, but I think they are quite useful, so long as we tease them apart from gender.   Regardless, there's a lot of great stuff in this interview about polarity, sexual chemistry, and how one woman turned her "energy" around and found a different level of love.   Plus, there are 4 questions you can ask to see where you fall on the masculine/feminine spectrum. Listen now...     Shownotes:   (4:30) Introduction Joanna Shakti (13:30) What is masculine and feminine energy (17:05) How unbalanced masculine and feminine energy can cause frustration (22:50) Practical steps to start working on this part of you (28:10) How your energy can attract people on the opposite side of the spectrum (35:00) Sex in long term relationships (41:35) Scheduled sex (43:20) Opening a marriage and having sex with other people (44:30) Short advice for women who struggle with having orgasms (47:33) Advice for people who have same energy (Masculine – Feminine) (51:40) Final advice (55:35) Action Step

If you are not a parent, this is pretty interesting. I think you can learn a few things here. If you are a parent, there's such a thing as too much parenting. The helicopter or enabling parent. Is there such a thing as "over-attachment"? I think so. In this short episode my wife and I dig into this touchy subject. I say touchy because parents are soooo sensitive to criticism. Check it out!

Do you know the fastest way to get the connection back? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner? Listen here as I offer you a few tips to get both.   Shownotes: (1:50) Falling into Victimhood when you don’t feel accepted (4:12) The first step is to connect with yourself (8:40) The feeling of being accepted (11:25) Relationship School Event November 7th

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling insecure and frustrated.   In this podcast, I cover the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it "works" and what to do about it. You'll want to check this out.   Shownotes: (2:10) What does co-dependency mean (8:35) Signs and symptoms of a co-dependent relationship (15:25) What can you do to avoid this in your own life (21:10) Action Step