According to neuroscience research, there are four major mistakes you make when it comes to manifesting. Done correctly, manifesting is a mindset tool that elite athletes and the world’s most successful people use to perform at the highest levels and achieve remarkable goals. Today, I’ll reveal those mistakes and more importantly, teach you how to manifest the right way. This episode is all about the HOW. If you love takeaways and tools, you’ll eat this up. Today I’ll lay it all out for you, step by step. You’ll learn the 4 things you need to do every day if you’re serious about achieving your goals and dreams. So wherever you stand on the topic of manifesting, this episode is a masterclass in both the science and art of doing it. For all my cynics and skeptics, this isn’t what you think it is. This is tactical and based in research. And if you already love vision boards, you’re probably going to have to rip yours up and create a new one once you learn the research related to what works and what doesn’t when it comes to visualization. I promise you are not going to want to miss this one. Xo MelTo get the free download mentioned in the episode that helps you get in touch with your dreams, go to MelRobbins.com/dreambigFor complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

THIS is the pep talk you need to hear right now. I’m showing up with a level of intensity in a way you’ve never heard me before. We are talking about you and your big dreams. No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them. If you’re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I’m not f’ing around today. If you’re done with feeling like you’re doing the same sh*t day in and day out… If you’re tired of your excuses… Or if you're like Barbara, who you will meet in this episode, and you have given up on your dreams because they haven’t materialized yet… This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life. There is a flame inside of you that is still flickering. Today, we are going to throw gasoline on and reignite that fire. You’re ready for this today. I know you are. And more than any other episode, I can't wait to hear how you’re feeling and what you’re doing after you listen to this one. Xo Mel  P.S. A lot of you keep asking how you can motivate the people that you love – your kids, spouses, family members, colleagues. Just share this episode with them and I’ll take care of it. P.P.S. When you’re done listening, you’re going to feel like you’ve been shot out of a cannon and want to know how to level up. A great way to start is jumping into The Wake Up Challenge so I can support you in getting your mornings off to a great start for five days in a row, which is exactly the kind of structure you’re going to need to get started on your dreams.

This is the inspiration and wisdom you need to hear today. It’s been quite a week and it’s only Monday. I woke up yesterday and was so sick, I had to cancel some really important work and personal commitments. Cue: the disappointment, the anxiety of upsetting others, and my own sadness that life was not going as I had planned. This is one of those episodes that I recorded for myself and for you. Even when things are really upsetting, you still have the power to face them and take control. Join me in learning one simple, powerful tool. I’ll not only explain it – I’ll also have you practice it with me. I already feel better, and so will you. Xo Mel 

How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist?Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?How do I handle narcissists at work?Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?How can I keep a narcissist in my life… and not go crazy? And, most of all: What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists? You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world’s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast. You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions. This episode is for you if you… Have no idea what narcissism isWere raised by a narcissistAre married to a narcissistThink you might be dating a narcissistWork with/for a narcissist Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better preparedAre afraid you’re a narcissist Today you get: Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundariesKey takeaways to help you move forwardOne solid truth that will ground you in your confidence  You’ll also learn: What you can do today to begin your own healingHow to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanityThe signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissistWhat gaslighting looks like in real lifeThe situations that make you more susceptibleHow to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissistIf you’re more prone to attracting narcissistsWhy you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones”About “trauma bonds” The signs of “love bombing”About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplaceWhat yellow rocking and gray rocking are Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault. Xo, Mel  PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it:  “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself”

A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult. This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about. From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade? This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering…Where did all my friends go? I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore. Let’s fix that. I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic. What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you. I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship. These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life. That’s why you need to hear them. So did I. You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up. Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again. You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends.  And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life. Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together. So let’s go. Xo Mel 

Today’s conversation is required listening for everyone. We are going to blow the lid off of emotional triggers. Let’s get to the bottom of why you and I react the way we do, and more importantly, learn simple ways to take control of our emotions. It doesn’t matter where you live, how you grew up, or even if you’re a freakin’ saint to everyone else, I know you have something that triggers you. You have days just like I do when something sets you off and you either snap like a firecracker or withdraw like a turtle in a shell. And just like me, you say and do things you later regret. I’ll go first: I’m trying hard to work on the nasty tone of voice I use with Chris and our kids when I feel frustrated or confronted. And it doesn’t end there. If you’re like me, you beat yourself up for getting triggered, and you now start feeling bad and regret what you did (or the fact that you did nothing). It makes me feel like crap when I do these things. I have felt helpless for a long time because it’s been so automatic when I get triggered emotionally.  I don’t want to keep living like this. I’d like to feel calm, peaceful, and more in control. And that’s what this episode is about.  Wouldn’t you love to get out of this cycle of feeling emotionally triggered? Wouldn’t you love to take control of your emotional life as an adult? The good news: you can rewire your response to stressful and annoying situations. And in turn, you’ll bring more happiness, presence, control, and closer relationships into your life, because you’ll be present in them instead of letting your emotions drive you.  So, who is going to teach us about triggers? I’ve tracked down a psychologist who teaches one of the most popular online workshops about this topic: The incredible Dr. Becky Kennedy. She’s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside. And do not let the fact that she is a child psychologist and parenting expert keep you from soaking up and applying everything you can learn from her. No matter how old you are right now, YOU were once a child. And that, my friend, is where your triggers got hardwired inside of you: before you even knew how to talk. Understanding triggers (and taming them) requires you to go back before you can move forward. Dr. Becky says, “Your triggers are stories from your past.” Listen to this episode and really try to absorb what Dr. Becky shares, because the wiring and triggers that frustrate you right now are not permanent. I know you’re going to send this to every one of your friends who is a parent, and please send it to your kids, nieces, and nephews, too.  Learning how to rewire my response to stress at 54 is amazing. But imagine if you knew how to do this in high school. That’s why I’ve asked our three kids – ages 23, 22, and 17 – to listen too. Sure, it would be nice for us to pass this healing and confidence-building stuff down to every generation, right? If they get this information now, they can rewire themselves faster. This is really important, life-changing stuff. And I love that it’s also so simple. And you know what else I love? You. Thank you for listening and let me know what you learn. Xo, Mel PS: Want to go deeper? For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com One thing that helped me gain control is taking control of my mornings. If you haven’t checked out my free 5-day Wakeup Challenge, let me support you in getting going and creating a better morning. Sign up here.

You know those days when you just feel “off”? Well, last week, both my friend Amy and I were having bad days. Thankfully, I had just had an appointment with my amazing therapist that morning. So, as Amy and I started to talk about why we didn’t “feel like ourselves,” I got this crazy idea that maybe we should invite YOU to join us as the conversation started to unfold. We decided to turn on a recording device and unpack how we were feeling – on the fly. I need to say: I stole everything you’re about to hear from my therapist Anne, and you should steal it too. This is way more than just learning how to put on a happy face. These tools are truly transformational because they help you tap back into the incredible power within you. This is a very intimate and special episode that unfolds live. So I’m inviting you right now: pull up a seat at the kitchen table with Amy and me. Join us. Don’t just listen, but close your eyes and do the exercises with us. Do not miss out on what happens near the end. It is magical and I certainly did not see it coming. And I know you’re going to want to see the cowboy boots: don’t worry, they are in the show notes on my website here. Xo Mel

Narcissism is on the rise and you need to learn how to spot it in other people and have tools to protect yourself. We all know those people who constantly turn a conversation toward themselves, who only call you when they want something, and who have a way of making everything someone else’s fault. Well, guess what? Turns out narcissism goes far beyond that. I’m telling you right now, even if you THINK you know what a narcissist is, you need to listen. I thought I knew, yet I’m still reeling from all my breakthrough moments. Do you have a narcissist in your life? Maybe you grew up with one. Maybe you work with one. Maybe you married one. Maybe you don’t know what the hell a narcissist is! Pull up a seat at the table with me because class is IN session. Narcissism is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days, so how do you know if you’re *really* dealing with a narcissist? You have been blowing up my email and DMs about this topic, so Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to answer your questions. She’s the world’s leading expert on narcissism and someone I’ve followed and admired for years. I love how she breaks down the topic of narcissism in a way that’s understandable, simple, and packed with tools you can apply the second you learn them. Listen in as she shines a light on the REAL definition of a narcissist and the 5 warning signs you need to know if you’re dealing with one. This topic is so juicy – and so surprising – that you’re going to be shocked by what you learn. One part in particular will change how you approach narcissists in your life from this day forward. That’s exactly what happened to me. I have somebody in my life, a very prominent somebody, who absolutely displays narcissistic tendencies, and I have spent years in therapy dealing with it. So I actually got out of my chair and hugged Dr. Ramani after everything she taught me and you in this amazing episode! If you get something out of this episode, or if you have a friend that has struggled with a narcissist in their life, please share this with them. And if you think a person is a narcissist, don't even bother sharing, because if there's one thing you're going to learn: you don't want to EVER call one out… That's just one of the many rules you're going to learn to follow in order to protect yourself from narcissistic behavior. This episode is jam-packed with teachable moments that will leave you seeing the narcissists in your life with 20-20 insight. You’ll learn how to not only deal with them but also end this episode with the tools to heal. And that, my friend, could be the takeaway that changes your life forever. Xo Mel For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

How do you know if the thing you’re holding on to is something you should keep fighting for or if it’s time to let go?  Phenomenal question. I’ve got the answer.  The truth is, most of us never let go.  You spend a lot of time adding things into your life – new projects, new relationships, new stuff – but when was the last time you *subtracted* something? I’m talking about all the things you hang on to, even when they’re no longer serving you or helping you grow. The stuff that you know is weighing you down and sucking your energy dry, but you can’t seem to drop it.  I’ve got the solution for you. I’m about to walk you – literally – through a strategy that nobody talks about. It will help you let go of what’s a pain or a drain in your life.  Are you staying in a job you hate? Do you keep hanging out with that friend who brings you down? Holding on to those too-small pants because you’re hoping to one day fit into them again? As the late, great Pulitzer and Nobel prize winner Toni Morrison wrote, if you “want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how to start letting go of what doesn’t serve you to create room for growth. And, you’ll learn the two things you must let go of today. Get ready to step into your new potential and unlock the magic of your life. Aren’t you ready for that? I know I am. Let’s do it! Xo Mel For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

Everything you think about anxiety is wrong. Yes, we’re starting there. And yes, we’re going deep. I know that this episode will change your life. It has done the same for mine. It’s not a secret that I’ve struggled with anxiety for pretty much my whole life. I swear I came out of the womb in a full-blown panic attack, and I was just warming up for a life of worry on a very elite, professional level. I have been sharing my anxiety journey, and the tools that have helped me, for the past five years.  And in this episode, things go deeper than they have ever have before. No exaggeration when I say that my takeaway from this interview today is so revolutionary, it’s forever changed the way I think about my anxiety and my relationship to it. Which is why it’s my honor to introduce you to Dr. Russell Kennedy, MD. I’m willing to bet that what you learn today you haven’t heard yet. Like the real reason you’re anxious in the first place. It’s not what you’re thinking. No lie, I’ve been stalking Dr. Kennedy on Instagram for the past year because I just love his stuff.  Like me, he’s lived with his own anxiety since childhood. As a neuroscientist and a medical doctor, he also has the clinical experience to teach us how to HEAL our anxiety. Did you catch that? You don’t have to stop at managing your anxiety; you can actually heal it.  I see you if you’re living with a constant “nervous stomach.” I see you if you can’t sleep.  I see you if your heart races and your muscles are often tense. What Dr. Kennedy shares with you today has changed my relationship to anxiety, and I know it can do the same for you.  It will blow your mind when Dr. Kennedy tells you that we’ve been attacking this all wrong, and he’ll give you simple science and research-backed tools that will change your life immediately!  I ask all the questions you are thinking about anxiety and Dr. Kennedy and I get real with the answers. You are not only going to learn how to deal with your anxiety in a very simple but effective way, you are going to learn why it’s there, what it’s trying to tell you, and how to heal it for good.  This episode has changed my life and I know it will do the same for you and your loved ones. Bookmark this episode and share it with those in your life who need it. It’s time. You deserve what you’re about to learn.  Xo Mel For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com