YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

Let's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭 0:00 What is Executive Functioning? 01:11 1. Planning and Organizing 03:30 2. Time Management 07:32 3. Working Memory 12:44 4. Self-Monitoring 16:28 5. Emotional Regulation 19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility 24:41 7. Task Initiation 26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity) 30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs: https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/ https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/ For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach... 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

Jodi Carlton dives into the complexities of neurodiverse relationships through a poignant listener's story about weight loss surgery. She examines how literal thinking impacts communication and support. Emphasizing self-confidence, Jodi highlights the importance of owning one's insecurities rather than projecting them onto partners. The conversation underscores the need for emotional well-being and personal responsibility, offering insights for healthier dynamics in relationships.

Navigating conversations about neurodiversity can be tricky. The speaker offers insights on how to approach the topic of autism in a partner sensitively. Learning to foster understanding and use thoughtful dialogue is key. They highlight why directly suggesting autism may lead to defensiveness and provide strategies for supportive communication. Embracing neurodiversity in relationships can lead to stronger connections.

Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce? In this bonus clip, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.   00:00 A Harsh Reality 00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships 01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control 01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships 02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.    MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com   COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.   COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton shares a personal story about her autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which her daughter uses to manage her social interactions.  00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships 00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story 02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive 03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal 04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone 08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships 08:33 The Role of Scripts in Masking 11:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.  MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com   COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.   COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton    

In this episode from her YouTube channel, Jodi Carlton addresses common challenges that both partners in neurodiverse relationships often face.   00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations 00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality 01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality 02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence 04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy 06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships 09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings 11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes 12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships 13:45 Conclusion: Hope for Improvement and Change ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.    MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com   COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.   COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Explore the ups and downs of loving someone with Asperger's as personal stories reveal struggles with explosive moments and silent treatments. Discover the cycle of hope and disappointment that many face. Gain insights into codependency and the difficulties of effective communication. Learn how educational resources can enhance understanding of autism and improve interactions. Self-reflection emerges as a crucial tool for fostering healthier connections in neurodiverse relationships.

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.  In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for  partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships. The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck. Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!   00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships 00:28 The Five Key Step 01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward 04:03 Inappropriate Hope 12:17 Healing and Moving Forward 20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace 26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples   ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.    MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In this episode of a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families.   00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships 01:06 Power of Personal Journeys 02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship 02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes 06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships 09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions 14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations 18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics 23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship 25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices 28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships 31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing 36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward 41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth 45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships   ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.    MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com   COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.   COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship. In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship. Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink. 00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship” 02:17 Reflections and Realizations 03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship 05:47 The Power of Support Groups 07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing 10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples 20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems 26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships 31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics 33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics 34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding 36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions 39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories 44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward 53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers 01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication.  I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse.  I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.    MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.    QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a   free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com   COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.  This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.   COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life.  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.    🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR    💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.  http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com   🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.   📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton