

YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton, MEd, LLC
Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners around the globe.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own neurodiverse relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own neurodiverse relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
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Sep 26, 2024 • 21min
Cassandra Syndrome: Signs, Symptoms, and Strategies for Neurotypical Partners
#CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support.
Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/
00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome
00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome
00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences
03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication
04:20 Cassandra Syndrome - Rooted in Greek Mythology
04:54 Emotional and Physical Effects on Neurotypical Partners
07:29 Why Autism Can Seem Like Narcissism
08:03 Impact Over Time
13:37 Healing from Cassandra Syndrome
13:44 Learn About Autism
14:43 Self-Care
16:13 Codependency in Your Relationship
18:06 Communication Skills Training
19:10 5 Ways to Heal from Cassandra Syndrome
20:52 Conclusion and Resources
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

Sep 11, 2024 • 5min
Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
Join Jodi Carlton, a #neurodiverse relationship expert, as she delves into the complexities of relationships where one or both partners experience life differently due to neurodiversity. Discover whether these relationships can work, the importance of understanding neurodiversity, and the key characteristics that help #neurodiverserelationships thrive.
Jodi shares insights on common misunderstandings and the crucial role of communication, offering guidance for couples to navigate their unique dynamics.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
01:12 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships
01:37 Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
02:05 Examples of Misunderstandings
03:29 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
04:36 Seeking Professional Help
Check out our recent blog on this topic: https://jodicarlton.com/can-neurodiverse-relationships-work/
Here are a few neurodiverse couples who share their lives to help others learn more about neurodiversity and how to make neurodiverse relationships work 😊
https://www.youtube.com/@UCpwzLXW_VSfmKX3SuYXVDLg
https://www.youtube.com/@UCerYpTmasyCOuy9WH2qEeCg
https://www.youtube.com/@UCEcsiiGYa-LWV6GN48fSynQ
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi
Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/
Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast
Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform.
You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses
Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog
Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

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Aug 29, 2024 • 5min
The Key Differences Between Autistic Burnout and ADHD
Burnout manifests uniquely in ADHD and autism, with distinct symptoms and recovery paths. The discussion reveals how autistic burnout differs from ADHD burnout, shedding light on their unique characteristics. Understanding these differences is crucial for both individuals experiencing burnout and their supporters. Listeners will gain valuable insights into how to navigate these challenges and foster better management strategies.

Aug 21, 2024 • 11min
How Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling from Executive Functioning
Jodi Carlton discusses #executivefunctioning disorder, its impact on relationships, and how to recognize signs of #executivedysfunction in a partner. While not an official clinical diagnosis, executive dysfunction can cause a variety of challenges 😰
Jodi offers advice on paying attention to reactions, understanding the role of neurotransmitters like dopamine, and investigating underlying reasons behind behaviors. Practical relationship insights include managing expectations, recognizing emotional dysregulation, and addressing memory and organizational issues 🧠 The focus is on promoting understanding and finding coping strategies to improve relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Executive Functioning Disorder
00:31 Identifying Executive Dysfunction in Your Partner
02:58 Understanding the Role of Dopamine
05:12 Emotional Dysregulation and Misdiagnosis
06:49 Memory Problems and Impulsivity
08:11 Organizational Challenges
10:13 Coping Strategies and Conclusion
0:00 How Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling with Executive Functioning
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit https://jodicarlton.com
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent.
My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ 🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

Aug 7, 2024 • 6min
Why Socializing is Important for Neurodivergent Partners
In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton explains how social connections can improve mental health, reduce stress, and offer different perspectives that benefit both partners in a relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
00:0 The Importance of Social Life for Neurodivergent Individuals
00:29 Benefits of Social Connections
02:54 Practical Tips for Neurotypical Partners
03:31 Balancing Time Together and Apart
04:22 Respecting Boundaries and Open Communication
05:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Jul 29, 2024 • 5min
Neurodivergence & Executive Functioning Challenges in Household Management
Executive dysfunction creates many challenges in household management for neurodiverse couples. In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, provides some useful tips and strategies that she uses in her own neurodivergent household.
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

Jul 23, 2024 • 34min
How Does ADHD & Executive Functioning Impact Partners
Let's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭
0:00 What is Executive Functioning?
01:11 1. Planning and Organizing
03:30 2. Time Management
07:32 3. Working Memory
12:44 4. Self-Monitoring
16:28 5. Emotional Regulation
19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility
24:41 7. Task Initiation
26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity)
30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

Jul 10, 2024 • 4min
My Autistic Partner is Not Supportive
Jodi Carlton dives into the complexities of neurodiverse relationships through a poignant listener's story about weight loss surgery. She examines how literal thinking impacts communication and support. Emphasizing self-confidence, Jodi highlights the importance of owning one's insecurities rather than projecting them onto partners. The conversation underscores the need for emotional well-being and personal responsibility, offering insights for healthier dynamics in relationships.

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Jun 26, 2024 • 5min
How Do I Tell My Wife She’s Autistic?
Navigating conversations about neurodiversity can be tricky. The speaker offers insights on how to approach the topic of autism in a partner sensitively. Learning to foster understanding and use thoughtful dialogue is key. They highlight why directly suggesting autism may lead to defensiveness and provide strategies for supportive communication. Embracing neurodiversity in relationships can lead to stronger connections.

Jun 12, 2024 • 3min
This Relationship Trait Leads to Divorce
Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce?
In this bonus clip, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.
00:00 A Harsh Reality
00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships
01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control
01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships
02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton