Becoming Me

EPISODE 56         Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which we see and interpret our world - but they are often not in our conscious awareness.In this episode I share how we each have a leadership script that impacts the way we lead - often without our awareness. I talk about where our scripts come from and why continuing to be unaware of our leadership script can prevent us from being the best leader we can authentically be.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:34) - Introduction(00:03:57) - What are Scripts?(00:10:49) - An Example of Scripts(00:15:25) - Where do our Leadership Scripts Come from?(00:18:13) - Why out Scripts Make it Hard to Accept Ourselves(00:22:20) - The "Ideal" Leader VS the Leader I was Created to be(00:28:11) - First Steps00:31:03 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:33:10) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- In what way did listening to this episode about leadership scripts change the way you see yourself as a leader?Act.-  I invite you to think of a particular leadership role that you're playing in your life right now. It could be anything and then list down who it is that you feel you need to be in this role. Describe what that person looks like. That ideal that you feel like you need to be.After you look at the description of this person or this leader that you feel you need to be. I invite you to ask the question, where do you think this script came from? Where did you learn to value these traits? Where did you learn that?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 55       We all know how important good leadership is, and  many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to appreciate the harm that an inauthentic and insecure leader can cause - even when we possess other leadership abilities.In this episode, I share about my past struggles with leadership when I was still unaware of my lack of interior integration, and how my dependence on external validation made the burdens of leadership heavier than they would have otherwise been.Share this episode via this episode page.A LEADER'S SPIRITUAITYFor more information or to register, go to https://www.integroformation.com/als.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:13) - Introduction(00:01:10) - Leadership(00:02:59) - Our Relationship with Leadership(00:09:27) - My Own Experience with Leadership(00:18:10) - Growing into Leaders we are Called to be(00:21:27) - A Leader's Spirituality(00:25:23) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act (00:29:46) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- The reality of being a leader often makes one feel lonely. Have you felt that loneliness of being a leader?Act.-  Continue to explore resources.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE  54     If you have been searching for your calling or personal vocation and still feel that you lack clarity, have you wondered how you can help yourself gain clarity in this process?In this episode I talk about three reasons we struggle to gain clarity about our personal vocation - a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence our lives; a lack of knowledge about the unique design we have been given; and a lack of interior freedom to be authentic.Watch the video (without praxis prompts) here.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:25) - Introduction(00:01:01) - 3 Things that Keep Us from Being Our Best Selves(00:01:26) - 1. Lack of Awareness of the Scripts that Influence Us(00:09:07) - 2. Lack of Awareness of My Own Traits & Design(00:13:17) - 3. Interior Freedom to Choose to be Me(00:20:27) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:24:07) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?- Which part was it that resonated with you?Ponder.- Which of the three reasons do you think is maybe most relevant to you at this point in your journey?- Is it a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence how you live your life? - Is it a lack of knowledge about yourself, your traits and design?- Or are you really bumping up into a lack of interior freedom in your life?Act.-  Take one concrete action towards either learning more about the scripts that influence your life.- Do one thing to help yourself grow in interior freedom. - Start considering what is it that's holding you back from daring to be who you are with a guide.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 53In this final episode to Season 4, I review what we've covered and once again provide an over-arching view of the thematic arcs of this podcast.I also talk about A Leader's Spirituality (ALS), an online course that I will be teaching in Sep-Oct 2022 for the Catholic Leadership Centre where we will delve systematically into the fundamental principles spoken about on this podcast. Specifically, this course facilitates participants in learning now to be a more authentic, integrated and spiritually fruitful leader - at work, in families, or in church contexts.Registration is open through July-August 2022. For more information or to register, go to https://www.integroformation.com/als.Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 52  (BONUS)   When we are in performance mode we expect to be assessed, evaluated and we seek to impress. There are times when we need to be in performance mode but what if that's how we approach our whole life? We end up exhausted and our identities fuse with the roles we play. In this bonus episode I reflect about what happens when we don't get out of "performance mode" and end up never really LIVING our life as our full, human, imperfect and work-in-progress selves.Watch the original video of this episode here.Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE   51       Many of us don't realise how much of a hold shame - specifically toxic shame - has over us. When shame is 'toxic', we don't just feel shame over what we do but we experience deep shame over WHO WE ARE.Toxic shame at the core of our identity re-tells the lie that our worth depends on never making a mistake or never disappointing others.In this episode I share some of my own experiences of shame and how I began to be freed from the hold that it had over me.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESEpisode 4 & Episode 5 - Living from the Inside Out Episode 30 - Counselling or Spiritual Direction (or both)? A Leader's SpiritualityCHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:02:21) - What Shame Really Is(00:08:08) - An Example of the Effect of Shame(00:19:23) - My Redemption Moment(00:24:19) - Shame as an Ally(00:27:31) - Living from the Inside Out (00:31:17) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:10) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.-  As you listened to this episode, what really struck you?Ponder.- How does shame show up in your life?Act.- Think of one concrete act you can take towards building a more secure relationship with your inner self.- If you have already been learning more about healing journey for a while, without taking action, I invite you to take that step, to look for someone trained in this area to guide and companion you on this journey.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE  50  Being our real selves can be difficult even when we are not under duress. How do we build the inner resilience to still act with authenticity even in times of stress and adversity?In this episode I discuss three factors that impact our inner resilience:- our level of integration (healing)- our ability to self-regulate when we are triggered, - and the availability of the right kind of external support.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:15) - Introduction(00:03:18) - What is "Resillience"?(00:10:17) - 3 Factors that Affect our Resillience(00:11:11) - How Integrated we already are(00:15:04) - Self-regulating when we are Dysregulated(00:24:51) - Am I Reacting or Responding?(00:28:37) - The Impact of my Actions on Others(00:31:21) - 3. Communal Support(00:37:13) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:40:53) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing earlier, was there anything that particularly resonated with you? What was it?Ponder.- Ponder how resilient do you feel you are right now, with everything that's going on in your life?- On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you feel you are really responding?- How full or empty is your tank; your tank that contains self-compassion, wisdom, resourcefulness?Act.- Think of one concrete way that you can top up your tank.- Think of a way you can give some compassion to yourself or allow someone else to give you compassion.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 49   When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well.In this episode I share how inner child healing helped grow my capacity to love others well:- Made me more self-aware of when I was using connection with others to avoid connecting with myself - Helped me to stop shape-shifting in relationships - Helped me learn to recognise where healthy boundaries are and act on themShare this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:19) - Introduction(00:02:46) - Three Ways Inner Child Healing Made Me Better at Loving Well(00:03:08) - 1. Awareness of my Reasons to Reach Out(00:08:42) - 2. I Stopped "Shapeshifting"(00:14:46) - 3. Drawing Healthier Boundaries(00:25:05) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:25:05) - Summary(00:27:36) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- When you were listening to my sharing in this episode, which points maybe struck you most?- What resonated with you?Ponder.- Which of the three points do you struggle most with in your own relationship with others?Act.- Write down in your journal what it is you struggle with.  - What is it about this specific relationship that you can do to make it healthier?- Think of one specific relationship where you're struggling with drawing boundaries. - Write down how exactly you're struggling with boundaries in that relationship.- Let what you've written down then be an impetus to encourage you to continue to take a next step in your interior healing journey.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 48 Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions? Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ourselves and others if we do not also learn how to love well. In this episode I share how loving well is something we simply cannot do unless we heal and integrate our core selves from the unconscious traumas we may have accumulated in our lives.   You can find the video of the original sharing (without introduction and praxis)  from this episode on YouTube here.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:23) - Introduction(00:06:09) - Loving Much VS Loving Well(00:08:35) - What Does Loving Well Look Like?(00:14:26) - Do I Really Need Expert Help?(00:21:47) - Our Core Self(00:26:25) - An Invitation(00:28:53) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:33:44) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing earlier, was there anything that particularly resonated with you? What was it?Ponder.- Can think of an instance in which you feel that you have loved much?- What relationship comes to mind? Act.- In what way may you have loved poorly this person that you love very much?- List one or two ways that you suspect you're not loving him or her well. What is it?For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 47         Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with.In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing finally helped me to bridge that gap. Inner child work was the practical healing I didn't know I needed to help me experience God's love for me - and my love for myself - in an embodied way.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESHow To Know If You Have Experienced TraumaWhy Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Life More Than Anything ElseCHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:02:36) - Our Image of God(00:04:05) - Dissonance Between my Intellect & Body(00:14:13) - Recall Memory VS What our Bodies Remember(00:21:49) - Reparenting my Inner Child(00:30:49) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:06) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything in today's sharing that really resonated with you?Ponder.- Have you ever experienced a dissonance between a reality your brain tells you is true, and how your body feels about it? Act.- Write down one or two ways in which you have experienced this kind of dissonance between what your mind tells you and what your body feels. - Write down what it is that you cognitively believe versus what the reactions of your body is telling you about what you actually believe.- Do not reject or minimize what your emotion, or your body is trying to say to you, don't try to push it down or rationalize it away.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.