Becoming Me

EPISODE   51       Many of us don't realise how much of a hold shame - specifically toxic shame - has over us. When shame is 'toxic', we don't just feel shame over what we do but we experience deep shame over WHO WE ARE.Toxic shame at the core of our identity re-tells the lie that our worth depends on never making a mistake or never disappointing others.In this episode I share some of my own experiences of shame and how I began to be freed from the hold that it had over me.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESEpisode 4 & Episode 5 - Living from the Inside Out Episode 30 - Counselling or Spiritual Direction (or both)? A Leader's SpiritualityCHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:02:21) - What Shame Really Is(00:08:08) - An Example of the Effect of Shame(00:19:23) - My Redemption Moment(00:24:19) - Shame as an Ally(00:27:31) - Living from the Inside Out (00:31:17) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:10) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.-  As you listened to this episode, what really struck you?Ponder.- How does shame show up in your life?Act.- Think of one concrete act you can take towards building a more secure relationship with your inner self.- If you have already been learning more about healing journey for a while, without taking action, I invite you to take that step, to look for someone trained in this area to guide and companion you on this journey.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE  50  Being our real selves can be difficult even when we are not under duress. How do we build the inner resilience to still act with authenticity even in times of stress and adversity?In this episode I discuss three factors that impact our inner resilience:- our level of integration (healing)- our ability to self-regulate when we are triggered, - and the availability of the right kind of external support.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:15) - Introduction(00:03:18) - What is "Resillience"?(00:10:17) - 3 Factors that Affect our Resillience(00:11:11) - How Integrated we already are(00:15:04) - Self-regulating when we are Dysregulated(00:24:51) - Am I Reacting or Responding?(00:28:37) - The Impact of my Actions on Others(00:31:21) - 3. Communal Support(00:37:13) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:40:53) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing earlier, was there anything that particularly resonated with you? What was it?Ponder.- Ponder how resilient do you feel you are right now, with everything that's going on in your life?- On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you feel you are really responding?- How full or empty is your tank; your tank that contains self-compassion, wisdom, resourcefulness?Act.- Think of one concrete way that you can top up your tank.- Think of a way you can give some compassion to yourself or allow someone else to give you compassion.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 49   When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well.In this episode I share how inner child healing helped grow my capacity to love others well:- Made me more self-aware of when I was using connection with others to avoid connecting with myself - Helped me to stop shape-shifting in relationships - Helped me learn to recognise where healthy boundaries are and act on themShare this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:19) - Introduction(00:02:46) - Three Ways Inner Child Healing Made Me Better at Loving Well(00:03:08) - 1. Awareness of my Reasons to Reach Out(00:08:42) - 2. I Stopped "Shapeshifting"(00:14:46) - 3. Drawing Healthier Boundaries(00:25:05) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:25:05) - Summary(00:27:36) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- When you were listening to my sharing in this episode, which points maybe struck you most?- What resonated with you?Ponder.- Which of the three points do you struggle most with in your own relationship with others?Act.- Write down in your journal what it is you struggle with.  - What is it about this specific relationship that you can do to make it healthier?- Think of one specific relationship where you're struggling with drawing boundaries. - Write down how exactly you're struggling with boundaries in that relationship.- Let what you've written down then be an impetus to encourage you to continue to take a next step in your interior healing journey.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 48 Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions? Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ourselves and others if we do not also learn how to love well. In this episode I share how loving well is something we simply cannot do unless we heal and integrate our core selves from the unconscious traumas we may have accumulated in our lives.   You can find the video of the original sharing (without introduction and praxis)  from this episode on YouTube here.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:23) - Introduction(00:06:09) - Loving Much VS Loving Well(00:08:35) - What Does Loving Well Look Like?(00:14:26) - Do I Really Need Expert Help?(00:21:47) - Our Core Self(00:26:25) - An Invitation(00:28:53) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:33:44) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing earlier, was there anything that particularly resonated with you? What was it?Ponder.- Can think of an instance in which you feel that you have loved much?- What relationship comes to mind? Act.- In what way may you have loved poorly this person that you love very much?- List one or two ways that you suspect you're not loving him or her well. What is it?For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 47         Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with.In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing finally helped me to bridge that gap. Inner child work was the practical healing I didn't know I needed to help me experience God's love for me - and my love for myself - in an embodied way.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESHow To Know If You Have Experienced TraumaWhy Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Life More Than Anything ElseCHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:02:36) - Our Image of God(00:04:05) - Dissonance Between my Intellect & Body(00:14:13) - Recall Memory VS What our Bodies Remember(00:21:49) - Reparenting my Inner Child(00:30:49) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:06) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything in today's sharing that really resonated with you?Ponder.- Have you ever experienced a dissonance between a reality your brain tells you is true, and how your body feels about it? Act.- Write down one or two ways in which you have experienced this kind of dissonance between what your mind tells you and what your body feels. - Write down what it is that you cognitively believe versus what the reactions of your body is telling you about what you actually believe.- Do not reject or minimize what your emotion, or your body is trying to say to you, don't try to push it down or rationalize it away.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 46  Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capacity for authenticity and integrity by:- Helping me to stop second-guessing myself;- Helping me to stop people-pleasing;- Helping me grow my moral courage to use my voice and stand by my choices calmlyShare this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:21) - Introduction(00:01:32) - How Inner Child Healing Made Me More Myself(00:02:30) - 1. Trusting My Intuition & Judgment(00:09:10) - 2. Less People-Pleasing(00:14:49) - 3. Grow in Moral Courage(00:22:37) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act (00:24:11) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that jumped out at you that really resonated with you?Ponder.- Were there, among the three points, one in particular that you also struggle with?Act.-  Continue to explore resources on inner child healing. - You may wish to refer to the last episode I recorded with Dr. Jean Cheng.  - Check out the show notes for some book titles and other resources.- When you're ready,  I invite you to seek out a spiritual director, or a counsellor, or a therapist who is trained in inner child work and request to try some inner child healing.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Dr Jean Cheng, an expert in inner child healing, delves into the concept of reparenting our inner child, the importance of healing our relationship with ourselves to love others better, and what to expect on an inner child healing journey. The discussion highlights the significance of finding trauma-informed therapists, recommended books for healing, and engaging with the speaker for future topics. Reflecting on emotions and taking action are encouraged for personal growth.

Dr Jean Cheng, an expert in inner child healing, delves into how inner children get wounded, the importance of healing them for personal growth, and how parental influence impacts a child's self-confidence and behavior. The podcast explores the impact of a wounded inner child on adult behavior and the significance of acknowledging and nurturing the inner child for emotional well-being.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Jean Cheng discusses inner child healing, exploring the wounded inner child and the importance of being curious. Reflect on emotions from a younger place and take action by revisiting old family photos to reconnect with neglected parts of oneself.

EPISODE 42   Many of us long to be more authentic than we are able to be. We feel that our ability to be authentic is constrained by a lack of acceptance from other people. But what if we can increase our internal capacity to be authentic regardless of extrinsic circumstances?In this episode I talk about how the journey into wholeness enlarges our capacity to be our true selves even when we experience rejection from others.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:20) - Introduction(00:01:24) - A New Theme(00:03:18) - Speaking My Truths Vulnerably(00:10:09) - Capacity To Hold Ourselves(00:14:21) - Accepting Our True Self(00:20:58) - Hitting (False) Limits(00:25:23) - The Healing Journey(00:29:14) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:32:47) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to my sharing in this episode, what hit you? You know, what was one thing that maybe resonated the most with you? Ponder.- When was the last time or is there an incident that you can recall where you showed up as yourself and then felt that you were rejected?- How did you feel?Act. - Revisit that memory that you called up for Ponder – that that incident where you experienced showing up as yourself and felt rejected. - Exercise: • Spend some time with yourself back in that moment when you were rejected.• Write a note or write a letter to yourself.• Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself there's nothing wrong with you.  For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES- Ep 19 True vs False LimitsPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.