Becoming Me cover image

Becoming Me

Latest episodes

undefined
Jan 31, 2023 • 41min

How to Have Boundaries with Our Life Scripts

EPISODE 64When we start healing and become aware of the life scripts that bind us, it can be especially frustrating when we find ourselves succumbing to "old ways".  When this inevitably happens, how can we remain serene?In this episode, I share some tips on how we can learn to co-exist with the old scripts that get triggered even as we grow in strength to live more authentically and be our true selves.Share this episode via this episode page. Cf: EP 8 | The Necessary Practice of Making SpaceCHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:27) - Introduction(00:02:14) - Being Aware Of What Our Bodies Are Feeling(00:07:19) - Boundaries With Our Scripts(00:13:46) - How Can We Have Boundaries With Our Scripts?(00:14:06) - Identifying Our Scripts & Their Triggers(00:24:10) - Giving Ourselves Buffers & Space(00:25:37) - Awareness of Expectations(00:30:53) - Being Compassionate with Ourselves(00:33:38) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:40) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?- Was there something that really connected with your own experience?Ponder.- What is the script in your life right now that has the greatest hold over you?- Is it a script that dictates how you act in your family? Is it at work?- What are the triggers?Act.-  Think of one way that maybe you can draw a better boundary with this script that is having a hold over you.- What is one way you can start to draw a healthy boundary to coexist with this script?- How can you maybe build some buffer into your life right now around this script and the triggers that tend to set it of?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Dec 6, 2022 • 1h 12min

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (with Nicole Law)

EPISODE 63                     In this bonus episode to round off 2022, Nicole Law interviews me about my thoughts on emotionally healthy spirituality. I speak candidly about the pitfalls of approaching our spiritual life without attention to emotional health and what we can do to take steps towards a more integrated and human spirituality.This conversation was originally published over 8 mini episodes on nourishthesoul podcast.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:01:46) - 2022 Recap (00:05:45) - Catch Me On Social Media (00:07:15) - What is 'Emotionally Healthy Spirituality' (00:17:28) - Some Examples On Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality (00:26:02) - Befriending Our Emotions(00:30:45) - Spiritual Bypassing (00:38:19) - Why Practice Emotionally Healthy Spirituality? (00:47:55) - How To Practice Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (00:52:17) - Why Is It So Difficult? (00:54:51) - What Can We Do To Live In Our Deeper Layers? (01:00:22) - Resources To Tap Into (01:09:09) - An Invitation(01:11:07) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Nov 29, 2022 • 22min

The Four Layers of Self-Knowledge

EPISODE 62                  In this final episode of the series on interior life and leadership, I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves.As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go beyond knowing about ourselves to learning how to attune to our inner selves and knowing how to lead ourselves into unity and wholeness.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCELearn more about my Clarity Consultative-Coaching Package CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:01:03) - Leadership Series Recap(00:04:43) - What I Mean by "Self-Knowledge"(00:05:56) - The First Layer(00:07:59) - The Second Layer(00:09:22) - The Third Layer(00:12:11) - The Fourth Layer(00:18:14) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:20:51) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to the Four Layers of Self-Knowledge, what resonated with you?Ponder.- Consider which of these four layers of self-knowledge is most familiar to you.- Which layer of self-knowledge is a surprise to you - maybe something you have not been aware of?Act.-   Pay more attention to that one layer of self-knowledge that you have not been very aware of- Spend some time thinking how you can help yourself grow a little bit more in self-knowledge in that particular layer.- Start with finding out more - whichever layer it is that you've decided to look at a little bit more deeply.- Resources: ask, seek, read - there are a lot of things that I've already shared in previous episodes. You can find something in there and maybe dive a little deeper in. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Nov 15, 2022 • 52min

Self-Leadership: Scripts, Temperament & Motivational Design

EPISODE 61                 What does it look like to use what we learn about our scripts, temperament and motivational design to help us show up as our best and also most authentic selves? In this episode I illustrate what this process can be like in concrete terms using my own experience and journey as an example. I share how growing in self-acceptance, becoming more aware of my scripts and learning about my temperament and motivational design through the Myers-Briggs (MBTI Step II®) and Motivation Code (MCODE®) instruments helped me lead myself into greater authenticity and effectiveness.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCELearn more about my Clarity Consultative-Coaching Package CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:46) - Introduction(00:02:33) - Self-Leadership and its Principles(00:06:47) - Disclaimer: Caveat #1(00:08:41) - Disclaimer: Caveat #2(00:11:36) - 1. My Scripts(00:21:36) - 2. Myers-Briggs (MBTI®)(00:26:05) - My MBTI Type(00:35:59) - 3. Motivational Design (MCODE®)(00:45:39) - Caveat Recap(00:47:01) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:51:05) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listen to this episode today, what resonated? Ponder.- Is there some aspect of your temperament or personality that you find difficult to embrace? What is it?Act.-  If there is something about your temperament or personality that you struggle to accept, consider how the scripts you have about the kind of person you need to be maybe contributing to your lack of self-acceptance. - Where do you think you learned that script? - I invite you to spend some time journaling. - What comes up from asking yourself this question?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Nov 1, 2022 • 36min

Leveraging our Gifts and Honouring our Limits in Leadership

EPISODE 60               How can we bring the best that we can offer as a leader through leveraging our areas of giftedness and honouring our limits? What can we do to increase our effectiveness and impact without burning out and without needing to be inauthentic? Sometimes it's not what we have or don't have, but knowing HOW to manage and use what we have that makes all the difference.In this episode I discuss how we can grow in self-awareness about our gifts and our limits as well as four ways we can use that awareness to be more effective and authentic in our leadership.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:07:32) - Personal Experiences(00:16:03) - Having Clarity About Ourselves(00:16:52) - How To Use This Clarity To Our Advantage As Leaders(00:17:20) - 1. Focusing Energy Where Our Gifts & Strengths Can Contribute(00:18:44) - 2. Remove Tasks Which Drain You(00:19:33) - 3. Changing The Parameters Of What Doesn't Work For You(00:20:45) - 4. Set Realistic Expectations For Yourself(00:25:12) - Different Leadership Contexts(00:28:23) - 1. Investing In Growing In Authenticity & Wholeness(00:29:16) - 2. Learning What Our Gifts & Limits Are(00:31:03) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:04) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listen to this episode today, what resonated? - Were there any points where you've felt or experienced that before?Ponder.- At this current point in time, how well are you able to name your strengths and your weaknesses?- How specific can you be?Act.-  Make two lists; all the activities you need to do in your role as a leader which energizes you and which drains you. - Look at the two lists side by; do you see any themes in them? PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Oct 18, 2022 • 44min

Dealing with Our Insecurities in Leadership

EPISODE 59               What do we do when our insecurity rears its head? When we feel vulnerable and exposed, incompetent but we still have to lead?  Denying, suppressing or bypassing our insecurities may give us short-term relief but will inevitably lead us to greater stress and disintegration.In this episode I explain why learning to recognise and deal with our insecurities in a healthy, self-compassionate way is essential to leading effectively.  I go on to offer 4 steps we can take to become better at leading ourselves through our insecurities.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESSafe Spaces for Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)Being A Safe Space for Myself (with Edwina Yeow)Counselling or Spiritual Direction (or both?)Inner-child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng)Why Your Family of Origin Impacts You More Than Anything Else (by Adam Young)CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:54) - Introduction(00:06:50) - Our Scripts of Shame(00:13:48) - 1. Notice Our Feelings of Insecurity(00:21:36) - 2. Become Aware of Our Coping Mechanisms(00:26:30) - 3. Learn Different Responses to Emotional Dysregulation(00:29:24) - 4. Develop External Resources to Support Us(00:35:14) - Praxis: Listen. Ponder. Act.(00:42:53) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTRefer to transcript for the full prompt.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Oct 4, 2022 • 1h 33min

The Perils of Leadership (with Timothy Khoo)

EPISODE 58             In this special episode of the Leadership series, I share a conversation with a fellow interior pilgrim who had tasted the heights of success in leadership but found himself tumbling into the search for authenticity and meaning when the personas that had defined him were taken from him.My guest for this episode is a former President and CEO of a global charitable organisation who now lives with the reality of the undeniable fact that true leadership is not only exercised with skilful hands but with integrity of heart. I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation with Timothy Khoo -  existential coach, sojourner guide, and founder of Desert Odyssey.Articles by Timothy: Falling Into GraceActio Sequitur Esse – Action Follows from Essence Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:37) - Introduction(00:01:38) - Introduction to Timothy Khoo(00:05:37) - Sojourner Guide(00:10:24) - How Our Paths Crossed(00:15:20) - Why is Leadership Challenging to Exercise?(00:22:42) - Losing Myself(00:26:44) - Misaligned Character & Charisma(00:32:08) - How Different are People from One Another?(00:37:32) - Purpose & Meaning(00:38:13) - Content & Container(00:41:22) - Masks & Personas(01:00:32) - The Fraction Analogy(01:21:34) - Giving Our Souls Time to Catch Up(01:31:38) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Sep 20, 2022 • 35min

Leadership: Role vs. Core Identity

EPISODE 57           Have you ever been so identified with a role that you lose touch with who you are apart from it? Playing an important leadership role can occupy so much of our lives that we forget that our True Self is so much deeper and more multi-faceted than the role(s) we play.In this episode I talk about the importance of having a strong and integrated core identity so that you lead out of who you are instead of allowing your leadership role to limit your identity. I also talk about the implications of not being able to distinguish between our identity and our role and the need for people in our lives who know us in our fullness and not just for the leadership role we play.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:25) - Introduction(00:02:04) - Role vs. Core Identity(00:04:26) - What Happens when we Let our Leadership Roles Define us?(00:10:40) - Examples of Being Fused to our Roles(00:12:36) - How do I see Myself Beyond My Persona?(00:22:20) - Who Can See Beyond Our Personas?(00:27:20) - Toxic Shame(00:29:08) - Engaging Our Core(00:32:09) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:34:03) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to this episode, what struck you? - What resonated with you?Ponder.- Is there a leadership role that you play or are preparing to play that you may be over-identifying with?- Can only think of yourself in terms of that role?Act.-  On a piece of paper, list down five reasons or observations that you make that makes you think you may be over identifying with your leadership role. - What makes you think that?  See if you can enumerate a few points.- Talk to someone who knows you well, whom you trust and who has a more holistic picture of who you are beyond that role that you have to play as a leader. - Ask them if they have observed any signs that you could be over-identifying with your leadership role and losing touch with your core identity.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Sep 6, 2022 • 34min

What Your Leadership Script Is & Why It Matters

EPISODE 56         Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which we see and interpret our world - but they are often not in our conscious awareness.In this episode I share how we each have a leadership script that impacts the way we lead - often without our awareness. I talk about where our scripts come from and why continuing to be unaware of our leadership script can prevent us from being the best leader we can authentically be.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:34) - Introduction(00:03:57) - What are Scripts?(00:10:49) - An Example of Scripts(00:15:25) - Where do our Leadership Scripts Come from?(00:18:13) - Why out Scripts Make it Hard to Accept Ourselves(00:22:20) - The "Ideal" Leader VS the Leader I was Created to be(00:28:11) - First Steps00:31:03 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:33:10) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- In what way did listening to this episode about leadership scripts change the way you see yourself as a leader?Act.-  I invite you to think of a particular leadership role that you're playing in your life right now. It could be anything and then list down who it is that you feel you need to be in this role. Describe what that person looks like. That ideal that you feel like you need to be.After you look at the description of this person or this leader that you feel you need to be. I invite you to ask the question, where do you think this script came from? Where did you learn to value these traits? Where did you learn that?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.
undefined
Aug 16, 2022 • 31min

Interior Life & Leadership

EPISODE 55       We all know how important good leadership is, and  many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to appreciate the harm that an inauthentic and insecure leader can cause - even when we possess other leadership abilities.In this episode, I share about my past struggles with leadership when I was still unaware of my lack of interior integration, and how my dependence on external validation made the burdens of leadership heavier than they would have otherwise been.Share this episode via this episode page.A LEADER'S SPIRITUAITYFor more information or to register, go to https://www.integroformation.com/als.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:13) - Introduction(00:01:10) - Leadership(00:02:59) - Our Relationship with Leadership(00:09:27) - My Own Experience with Leadership(00:18:10) - Growing into Leaders we are Called to be(00:21:27) - A Leader's Spirituality(00:25:23) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act (00:29:46) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- The reality of being a leader often makes one feel lonely. Have you felt that loneliness of being a leader?Act.-  Continue to explore resources.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

The AI-powered Podcast Player

Save insights by tapping your headphones, chat with episodes, discover the best highlights - and more!
App store bannerPlay store banner
Get the app