Becoming Me

EPISODE 61                 What does it look like to use what we learn about our scripts, temperament and motivational design to help us show up as our best and also most authentic selves? In this episode I illustrate what this process can be like in concrete terms using my own experience and journey as an example. I share how growing in self-acceptance, becoming more aware of my scripts and learning about my temperament and motivational design through the Myers-Briggs (MBTI Step II®) and Motivation Code (MCODE®) instruments helped me lead myself into greater authenticity and effectiveness.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCELearn more about my Clarity Consultative-Coaching Package CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:46) - Introduction(00:02:33) - Self-Leadership and its Principles(00:06:47) - Disclaimer: Caveat #1(00:08:41) - Disclaimer: Caveat #2(00:11:36) - 1. My Scripts(00:21:36) - 2. Myers-Briggs (MBTI®)(00:26:05) - My MBTI Type(00:35:59) - 3. Motivational Design (MCODE®)(00:45:39) - Caveat Recap(00:47:01) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:51:05) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listen to this episode today, what resonated? Ponder.- Is there some aspect of your temperament or personality that you find difficult to embrace? What is it?Act.-  If there is something about your temperament or personality that you struggle to accept, consider how the scripts you have about the kind of person you need to be maybe contributing to your lack of self-acceptance. - Where do you think you learned that script? - I invite you to spend some time journaling. - What comes up from asking yourself this question?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 60               How can we bring the best that we can offer as a leader through leveraging our areas of giftedness and honouring our limits? What can we do to increase our effectiveness and impact without burning out and without needing to be inauthentic? Sometimes it's not what we have or don't have, but knowing HOW to manage and use what we have that makes all the difference.In this episode I discuss how we can grow in self-awareness about our gifts and our limits as well as four ways we can use that awareness to be more effective and authentic in our leadership.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:07:32) - Personal Experiences(00:16:03) - Having Clarity About Ourselves(00:16:52) - How To Use This Clarity To Our Advantage As Leaders(00:17:20) - 1. Focusing Energy Where Our Gifts & Strengths Can Contribute(00:18:44) - 2. Remove Tasks Which Drain You(00:19:33) - 3. Changing The Parameters Of What Doesn't Work For You(00:20:45) - 4. Set Realistic Expectations For Yourself(00:25:12) - Different Leadership Contexts(00:28:23) - 1. Investing In Growing In Authenticity & Wholeness(00:29:16) - 2. Learning What Our Gifts & Limits Are(00:31:03) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:35:04) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listen to this episode today, what resonated? - Were there any points where you've felt or experienced that before?Ponder.- At this current point in time, how well are you able to name your strengths and your weaknesses?- How specific can you be?Act.-  Make two lists; all the activities you need to do in your role as a leader which energizes you and which drains you. - Look at the two lists side by; do you see any themes in them? PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 59               What do we do when our insecurity rears its head? When we feel vulnerable and exposed, incompetent but we still have to lead?  Denying, suppressing or bypassing our insecurities may give us short-term relief but will inevitably lead us to greater stress and disintegration.In this episode I explain why learning to recognise and deal with our insecurities in a healthy, self-compassionate way is essential to leading effectively.  I go on to offer 4 steps we can take to become better at leading ourselves through our insecurities.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESSafe Spaces for Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)Being A Safe Space for Myself (with Edwina Yeow)Counselling or Spiritual Direction (or both?)Inner-child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng)Why Your Family of Origin Impacts You More Than Anything Else (by Adam Young)CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:54) - Introduction(00:06:50) - Our Scripts of Shame(00:13:48) - 1. Notice Our Feelings of Insecurity(00:21:36) - 2. Become Aware of Our Coping Mechanisms(00:26:30) - 3. Learn Different Responses to Emotional Dysregulation(00:29:24) - 4. Develop External Resources to Support Us(00:35:14) - Praxis: Listen. Ponder. Act.(00:42:53) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTRefer to transcript for the full prompt.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 58             In this special episode of the Leadership series, I share a conversation with a fellow interior pilgrim who had tasted the heights of success in leadership but found himself tumbling into the search for authenticity and meaning when the personas that had defined him were taken from him.My guest for this episode is a former President and CEO of a global charitable organisation who now lives with the reality of the undeniable fact that true leadership is not only exercised with skilful hands but with integrity of heart. I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation with Timothy Khoo -  existential coach, sojourner guide, and founder of Desert Odyssey.Articles by Timothy: Falling Into GraceActio Sequitur Esse – Action Follows from Essence Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:37) - Introduction(00:01:38) - Introduction to Timothy Khoo(00:05:37) - Sojourner Guide(00:10:24) - How Our Paths Crossed(00:15:20) - Why is Leadership Challenging to Exercise?(00:22:42) - Losing Myself(00:26:44) - Misaligned Character & Charisma(00:32:08) - How Different are People from One Another?(00:37:32) - Purpose & Meaning(00:38:13) - Content & Container(00:41:22) - Masks & Personas(01:00:32) - The Fraction Analogy(01:21:34) - Giving Our Souls Time to Catch Up(01:31:38) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 57           Have you ever been so identified with a role that you lose touch with who you are apart from it? Playing an important leadership role can occupy so much of our lives that we forget that our True Self is so much deeper and more multi-faceted than the role(s) we play.In this episode I talk about the importance of having a strong and integrated core identity so that you lead out of who you are instead of allowing your leadership role to limit your identity. I also talk about the implications of not being able to distinguish between our identity and our role and the need for people in our lives who know us in our fullness and not just for the leadership role we play.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:25) - Introduction(00:02:04) - Role vs. Core Identity(00:04:26) - What Happens when we Let our Leadership Roles Define us?(00:10:40) - Examples of Being Fused to our Roles(00:12:36) - How do I see Myself Beyond My Persona?(00:22:20) - Who Can See Beyond Our Personas?(00:27:20) - Toxic Shame(00:29:08) - Engaging Our Core(00:32:09) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:34:03) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to this episode, what struck you? - What resonated with you?Ponder.- Is there a leadership role that you play or are preparing to play that you may be over-identifying with?- Can only think of yourself in terms of that role?Act.-  On a piece of paper, list down five reasons or observations that you make that makes you think you may be over identifying with your leadership role. - What makes you think that?  See if you can enumerate a few points.- Talk to someone who knows you well, whom you trust and who has a more holistic picture of who you are beyond that role that you have to play as a leader. - Ask them if they have observed any signs that you could be over-identifying with your leadership role and losing touch with your core identity.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 56         Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which we see and interpret our world - but they are often not in our conscious awareness.In this episode I share how we each have a leadership script that impacts the way we lead - often without our awareness. I talk about where our scripts come from and why continuing to be unaware of our leadership script can prevent us from being the best leader we can authentically be.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:34) - Introduction(00:03:57) - What are Scripts?(00:10:49) - An Example of Scripts(00:15:25) - Where do our Leadership Scripts Come from?(00:18:13) - Why out Scripts Make it Hard to Accept Ourselves(00:22:20) - The "Ideal" Leader VS the Leader I was Created to be(00:28:11) - First Steps00:31:03 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:33:10) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- In what way did listening to this episode about leadership scripts change the way you see yourself as a leader?Act.-  I invite you to think of a particular leadership role that you're playing in your life right now. It could be anything and then list down who it is that you feel you need to be in this role. Describe what that person looks like. That ideal that you feel like you need to be.After you look at the description of this person or this leader that you feel you need to be. I invite you to ask the question, where do you think this script came from? Where did you learn to value these traits? Where did you learn that?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 55       We all know how important good leadership is, and  many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to appreciate the harm that an inauthentic and insecure leader can cause - even when we possess other leadership abilities.In this episode, I share about my past struggles with leadership when I was still unaware of my lack of interior integration, and how my dependence on external validation made the burdens of leadership heavier than they would have otherwise been.Share this episode via this episode page.A LEADER'S SPIRITUAITYFor more information or to register, go to https://www.integroformation.com/als.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:13) - Introduction(00:01:10) - Leadership(00:02:59) - Our Relationship with Leadership(00:09:27) - My Own Experience with Leadership(00:18:10) - Growing into Leaders we are Called to be(00:21:27) - A Leader's Spirituality(00:25:23) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act (00:29:46) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- The reality of being a leader often makes one feel lonely. Have you felt that loneliness of being a leader?Act.-  Continue to explore resources.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE  54     If you have been searching for your calling or personal vocation and still feel that you lack clarity, have you wondered how you can help yourself gain clarity in this process?In this episode I talk about three reasons we struggle to gain clarity about our personal vocation - a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence our lives; a lack of knowledge about the unique design we have been given; and a lack of interior freedom to be authentic.Watch the video (without praxis prompts) here.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:25) - Introduction(00:01:01) - 3 Things that Keep Us from Being Our Best Selves(00:01:26) - 1. Lack of Awareness of the Scripts that Influence Us(00:09:07) - 2. Lack of Awareness of My Own Traits & Design(00:13:17) - 3. Interior Freedom to Choose to be Me(00:20:27) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:24:07) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?- Which part was it that resonated with you?Ponder.- Which of the three reasons do you think is maybe most relevant to you at this point in your journey?- Is it a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence how you live your life? - Is it a lack of knowledge about yourself, your traits and design?- Or are you really bumping up into a lack of interior freedom in your life?Act.-  Take one concrete action towards either learning more about the scripts that influence your life.- Do one thing to help yourself grow in interior freedom. - Start considering what is it that's holding you back from daring to be who you are with a guide.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 53In this final episode to Season 4, I review what we've covered and once again provide an over-arching view of the thematic arcs of this podcast.I also talk about A Leader's Spirituality (ALS), an online course that I will be teaching in Sep-Oct 2022 for the Catholic Leadership Centre where we will delve systematically into the fundamental principles spoken about on this podcast. Specifically, this course facilitates participants in learning now to be a more authentic, integrated and spiritually fruitful leader - at work, in families, or in church contexts.Registration is open through July-August 2022. For more information or to register, go to https://www.integroformation.com/als.Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 52  (BONUS)   When we are in performance mode we expect to be assessed, evaluated and we seek to impress. There are times when we need to be in performance mode but what if that's how we approach our whole life? We end up exhausted and our identities fuse with the roles we play. In this bonus episode I reflect about what happens when we don't get out of "performance mode" and end up never really LIVING our life as our full, human, imperfect and work-in-progress selves.Watch the original video of this episode here.Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here. PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.