Becoming Me

Episode 74     Have you ever wondered how our relationship with God can be influenced by our family of origin and faith communities?Join me in a special conversation with Brya Hanan, a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, as we explore the often overlooked connection between feeling safe with God and our experiences within our faith communities and families. Discover the importance of safety as the foundation for trust, surrender, and taking risks to fully become who God created us to be.In this thought-provoking episode, we also discuss the complexities of navigating faith, relationship boundaries, and attachment styles, as well as the role of interior work in our spiritual journeys. Learn how faith and embodied trauma healing can go hand-in-hand by integrating psychology, neuroscience, and faith in the pursuit of personal growth and a deeper relationship with God. Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:30) - Introduction(00:01:05) - Introduction to Brya Hanan(00:14:22) - Feeling Safe with God(00:19:10) - Truly Knowing that I Am Loved(00:26:39) - How do I know if I Feel Safe with Someone?(00:29:52) - Attachment, Safety, and Faith Dysfunction(00:34:51) - Enmeshment & Spiritual Bypassing(00:42:20) - Navigating Faith & Boundaries(00:51:36) - When our Faith becomes an Obstacle to Healing(01:07:26) - An Invitation(01:08:47) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPT- I invite you to just sit with how you felt as you listened.- Pay attention to the shifts in your emotions; how your body may have reacted as you listened to certain parts of th episode.- There’s an invitation for you to be with yourself, especially with the more vulnerable, the wounded parts of yourself.- Be gentle with yourself and maybe look for someone, a safe person, to share any thoughts, any insights or any feelings that may have emerged.Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Episode 73     Those of us who desire to become more loving and self-transcending can mistakenly believe that our God-given desire for self-fulfilment is something innately selfish. If we are afraid to embrace and lean into our longing for self-fulfilment, we will not be able to become the unique individuals that God created us to be.In this episode I explain how our longing for self-fulfilment is a powerful means through which God calls us into the specific and unrepeatable personal vocation we are each created to live - which is in turn the most loving and fruitful service we can offer others.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESClarity Consultative-Coaching with Ann YeongCHAPTER MARKERS(00:05:05) - Introduction(00:06:37) - The Objection(00:09:40) - Created for Self-Fufillment(00:12:53) - Serving where the Need is(00:18:12) - Aligning Ourselves to Our Gifts and Purpose(00:22:26) - Sometimes being Hindered(00:26:26) - The Orchestra Analogy(00:31:15) - What about the Cross?(00:35:25) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:37:46) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to this episode,  what part of my sharing resonates with you?Ponder.- How that fear of being self-serving or selfish may have prevented you from taking action to move you forward in becoming the person that God created you to be?Act.- Take a moment to list down just three things you've done in the past, where you felt really fulfilled, really alive.Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Episode 72   Are you aware of the invisible chains of unfreedom and how they keep you from expressing and becoming your true self?  In this episode you will hear me share about three specific ways our life scripts block our path to becoming who God created us to be - in ways you may not have even realised. Anyone who is serious about discerning their personal vocation can benefit from listening to this episode.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESClarity Consultative-Coaching with Ann YeongCHAPTER MARKERS(00:08:30) - Introduction(00:15:12) - What are Life Scripts?(00:17:59) - #1: Constricting Ourselves(00:21:05) - #2: Distoring our Gifts(00:30:35) - #3: Externally Directed(00:36:11) - Recap(00:38:26) - Tell-tale Signs we are Living our of our Personas(00:42:45) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:45:43) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to this episode, what resonated with you?Ponder.-  TWhen was the last time you kind of experienced yourself just automatically reacting in a certain way, in a particular situation, and then later wondering, why did I do that?- Why is it that I always react that way?- Try to remember that last time you had such an experience.Act.- Try and name that memory that may have come up in step two.- Why did I react that way or why is it that I always seem to react that way in this kind of circumstance?- See if you can name what was it that you were trying to do; what were you trying to prove about yourself? - Cultivate that awareness; what are the patterns that you find yourself repeating? Who are you trying to be? What are you trying to prove?Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Episode 71  Even when we have been on the interior journey for a while and have grown in self-knowledge and self-acceptance, we may find that we still struggle to integrate our new awareness into our daily living. Why is that?In this episode I delve deeper using my own current ongoing struggle of integration to explain why it is that even when we have become much clearer on who we are, we can still find it very difficult to let our be-ing match our understanding and experience.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESEp 4: Living from the Inside OutEp 62: The Four Layers of Self-KnowledgeCHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:28) - Introduction(00:04:02) - Common Assumptions we Make(00:05:34) - It's not that Simple(00:07:18) - No "One-Size-Fits-All"(00:10:14) - Framework #1: The 3 Layers of Living(00:11:55) - Framework #2: The 4 Layers of Self-Knowledge(00:16:36) - My Traits – 1. Kinesthetic Learner(00:22:06) - My Traits – 2. Comprehension before Conviction(00:22:50) - My Traits – 3. Being Explorative(00:24:22) - My Traits – 4. Not being Hurried(00:26:37) - My Traits can be Different from my Scripts(00:28:12) - My Perfectionist Script(00:44:28) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:46:37) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to me share and talk in this episode, what resonated with you? - What struck you?Ponder.- Can you think of one way that you struggle with God's design for you?- Notice in your day-to-day living if there is some part of you that resists certain aspects of this design? - What is that aspect?Act.- Write this down: I believe I struggle to accept [this part of myself] because [identify a script that goes against this aspect of God's design for you].- Fill in the blanks, fill in your answers into the [square brackets].Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Episode 70 One of the constant challenges we face on our road into authenticity and wholeness is the burden of  other people's expectations of us. What we don't often realise is that the "form" of these expectations can change greatly when we are in different seasons of our life, even when we have undergone conversion and growth.In this episode I share with you three very different seasons in my life and how the initial liberation of one season led to new burdens of expectations that were of a very different nature from the season before. Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:02:04) - Introduction(00:04:35) - Being Shackled by Expectations(00:12:43) - Examples of the Burdens of Expectation(00:13:14) - Expectations in the First Season of My Life(00:18:05) - Expectations in the Second Season of My Life(00:25:43) - Additional & New Burdens of Expectations(00:34:53) - Another Call, Another Season(00:38:50) - Making Sense of God's Call(00:43:53) - Discerning Personal Vocation(00:44:57) - What Cross do I Decide on Carrying(00:46:45) - Q & A(00:48:48) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:51:15) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to this episode, what struck you? - What part of my sharing resonated with you?Ponder.-  Whose expectations are you most afraid of not fulfilling, and why?Act.- Identify what you are afraid of losing if you do not live up to those expectations.- Where is that fear coming from? Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

Episode 69  In this episode I speak with soul guide and companion Edwina Yeow of Anam Cara Ministries about pace in the interior journey. We share our own experiences of the struggle to slow down, breaking through the compartmentalisation between sacred and secular, and soaking in God's love instead of striving to prove ourselves.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCE If you are unfamiliar with Ignatian Contemplation (which is mentioned in this episode) you can find out more here.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:03:34) - Introduction(00:05:26) - Becoming Spiritual Companions(00:11:07) - Why we Struggle to Slow Down(00:21:21) - Going Fast to Avoid Facing the Truth of our Scripts(00:38:19) - Beyond Compartmentalising Sacred VS Secular(00:45:47) - Soaking in God's Love Instead of Proving Ourselves(00:54:38) - Soul Spa & Relaxing with God(01:13:47) - Praxis Prompts(01:15:34) - ConclusionAvailable here.Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 68 Is your search for your True Self and the unique calling that God has given you anchored in a sense of existential safety, or is it subtly driven by anxiety and fear?  Many of us long to know who we are and leap ahead to tools of discernment and retreats without realising that a deep confidence that we are being accompanied by God and by our selves in unconditional acceptance and love is a prerequisite that needs to be in place first. In this episode I explain why that is.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:02:03) - Introduction (00:05:08) - Assumptions (00:06:23) - The Experience of God's Accompaniment (00:08:51) - Accompanying Ourselves(00:14:16) - 4 Layers of Self-Knowledge(00:14:50) - #1: Intellectual Knowledge(00:16:09) - #2: Experiential Knowledge(00:17:35) - #3: Effective Knowledge(00:21:41) - #4: Unitive Self-Knowledge(00:26:23) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:28:22) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, what struck you? - Was there something that maybe particularly resonated with you?Ponder.- On a scale of 1 to 10, how safe would you say you currentldo you feel in this journey of trying to know who you really are? - How safe do you feel in this process of trying to figure out who you are? Act.- Identify one way, in which you feel that you are maybe not safe enough.- Is there some fear, concern or anxiety that is holding you back from really immersing yourself in this journey with an open heart? Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 67What is it like to actively discern one's personal vocation and take the steps to follow that discernment in real life?  This episode is a live recording I made after I realised I have been holding back on fully acknowledging the new direction God was asking me to take. In this episode I trace the milestones and turning points of the journey I have taken so far as I follow God's "breadcrumbs" from being an aspiring academic to full time lay pastoral minister in church to budding entrepreneur, content creator and clarity coach for those seeking to know and live the unique life God created and gifted them to live.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:02:28) - Personal Vocation(00:04:46) - Introduction(00:08:37) - My Milestones & Background(00:12:18) - 1. My PhD Journey(00:22:55) - 2. Full-Time Ministry(00:25:00) - The Expectations Others had of Me(00:26:09) - A New Persona(00:28:58) - What Happened Earlier in the Morning?(00:35:20) - A New Season(00:40:56) - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.Support the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 66 (BONUS)     Can you let God meet you where you REALLY are this Lent? Will you allow yourself to not DO anything for Lent if you are overwhelmed? What might an authentic Lent of interior integration look like for you?In this special bonus episode recorded live on Ash Wednesday, I share about the struggle when we are overwhelmed by what's going on in our own life and find it difficult to "do" our Lenten practices. This episode is for anyone who needs the reminder this Lent that God meets us where we are, not where we think we should be.Share this episode via this episode page.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.

EPISODE 65                         Without identifying the scripts that influence our behaviour without our awareness, we would be unable to come into deeper self-knowledge of who we truly are. In this episode I share why our scripts can affect our ability to know our real selves, including impacting the accuracy of instruments such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®) and Motivation Code (MCODE™).Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER  MARKERS(00:00:17) - Introduction(00:05:25) - Is this part of My Personality or a Trauma Response?(00:10:26) - How do we know what is part of Our Personas or Our True Selves?(00:10:48) - 1. Awareness of our Scripts(00:13:01) - 2. Notice How You Feel – Does it Feel Natural?(00:14:42) - How Effortlessly do we Live?(00:16:31) - What has been Driving our Lives?(00:23:56) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act(00:25:43) - Conclusion Available here.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen.- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that resonated with you?Ponder.- Think about what your script might be. - Who's the person that you feel you need to be?Act.-  List down the adjectives that would describe the person that you feel you have to be.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESupport the showSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Ann Yeong on Instagram or Facebook.Newsletter:Subscribe to Begin Again for Ann's updates and reflections.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.