This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

I’ve been knocked down more times than I care to count, and the only thing I can tell you with any kind of certainty is that I’ve gotten UP at least one more time than I’ve been knocked down. I believe that’s true for you too. Because you’re here. On this episode of TIWW we’re going to talk about getting BACK into action after a setback. Because I know TWO THINGS FOR SURE, from every conversation I’ve had and every woman I’ve interacted with (even the ones with all the followers, even the bestsellers, and the stage walkers, and all the women we think have it all figured out), and those two things are: first, EVERYONE faces setbacks and second, EVERYONE struggles with them. Joining me is Julia Wolfendale, Executive Coach, Author of Five Ways to Focus, and Founder and Director of On The Up Consulting. She is qualified to a masters level in leadership and has trained and coached hundreds of CEOs, directors, and senior managers across a variety of industries. Now specializing in strengths-based coaching, she inspires people to get back into action on even their toughest days. Setbacks are what happen to you. Comebacks are what you make happen. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. Get back into action… head high, eyes forward, deep breath, trust in self.  Because it’s COMEBACKS, not setbacks, that a well-lived life is made of. To learn more about Julia please visit: Website: www.ontheupconsulting.com  Book: Five Ways to Focus: Deal with overwhelm, gain clarity and perspective to get things on the up! Twitter @JuliaWolfendale https://twitter.com/juliawolfendale Twitter @ontheupbooks https://twitter.com/ontheupbooks LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-wolfendale-a0417391/ Link tree https://linktr.ee/OnTheUpConsulting Course: Five Ways To Focus- a self-led coaching program To join Nicole’s pod (to get all the inside scoops, free stuff, and the occasional rant), click here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our topic is about taking risks, but I didn’t want to cover it with one of those “mer-women” (like mermaids, but with independence) who has done it all, unafraid, and made it look effortless. I wanted to talk about it with someone who I know would be REAL.  Real women taking real risks, big and small, with REAL feelings about it. So, without further delay, let me introduce my new friend Liz Deacle.  Liz, is a British expat currently living in New Zealand with her family. Liz and her husband embarked on a year-long backpacking adventure with their teenagers on a budget of just $70 a day. This experience inspired Liz to start a travel blog where she discovered her hidden talent for storytelling and developed a mastery for using Pinterest to build a loyal audience.  Today, Liz and Brian spend long periods traveling, creating content for their two popular websites and running a membership site that helps other people who want to move to New Zealand. Their YouTube channel, “It’s a Drama,” has over a million views, and their comedy podcast also called It’s a Drama, has hundreds of thousands of downloads. She has just published her first book, The Travel Bog Diaries. With risk there comes failure, but failure isn’t permanent. Only regret is. And with risk there also comes success, confidence, and the life you really want. Isn’t that worth the risk? Start small, but start. To learn more about Liz you can visit her website at www.lizdeacle.com  or follow her on IG @itsadrama  To join Nicole’s pod (to get all the inside scoops, free stuff, and the occasional rant), click here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I value the intention behind Work/Life Balance, which is that work isn’t supposed to consume our entire lives. But the “balance” part is confusing for many, and it always hits me funny that it implies that we leave our lives when we go to work. As someone who loves their career, I’d say my work is very much a part of my LIFE.  I’ve invited our guest, Dr. Sohee Jun, to join me to talk about how to succeed, as women, at LIFE, which of course, includes our work. As a top leadership coach, keynote speaker, leadership development expert and Amazon best-selling author, Dr.Jun works with emerging leaders and executives to unleash their untapped power. She worked over 20 years in the corporate world and is here today to talk about how we can build trust with and for ourselves so we create the Work/Life we truly want. Maybe it’s less about balance and more about CHOICE. Knowing there’s power in our NO, value in our YES, and impact in our “not nows” or “not yets”. Maybe you already know the answer of how to succeed at work and in your life… you just need to be brave enough to listen. All I know for certain is, this is the life you get to live and it's my greatest desire that you live it with intention. To learn more about Sohee you can visit her website at www.soheejunphd.com or follow her on IG @soheejun_phd and LinkedIn @Sohee Jun  To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re going to talk about the ONE thing, the one piece of advice, that I might be able to universally get behind (you know how I hate one-size-fits all solutions).  You’re probably thinking we’re going to talk about confidence. Not a bad guess, because I do believe we could ALL benefit from more of it, but I don’t think anyone can give a one size fits all solution to it, including me. Our topic today is being WELL-RESTED. Every Day. Jolene Hart is a health coach certified by the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and founder of the pioneering beauty coaching practice Beauty Is Wellness. She is a former magazine beauty editor and the bestselling author of six wellness books, including Eat Pretty, Ignite Your Light, and her most recently released Well-Rested Every Day. At the heart of Jolene’s work is her desire to empower people with the ability to shape their lifelong health with simple tools and habits, from stress resilience and hormones to diet, digestion, and personal care products, to help her clients look and feel their best from the inside. In the words of Jolene, “rest is an intuitive, brave, and even radical act for women—one that adds value and depth to our lives.” It’s time to get some rest, my friends.  To learn more about Jolene you can visit her website at jolenehart.com or follow her on IG @jolenehart. You can pre-order her book Well-Rested Every Day   To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can we BOTH resolve conflict AND defuse tension? That’s the million dollar question we’re addressing on this episode. And since I don’t have the million dollar answer, I’m joined by Hesha Abrams, internationally acclaimed master attorney mediator, who has the unique talent of being able to manage big egos and strong personalities, and a keen ability to create synergy amongst the most diverse personality types, driving them toward agreement.  Holy shit, now THAT’s a superpower. Hesha has resolved thousands of cases, both large (we’re talking billions in settlements) and small, in every conceivable area, during her career, including mediating the fight over the secret recipe for Pepsi. She developed Holding the Calm, an insightful, practical, and easy to use tool kit, forged in the trenches of resolving human conflict, that identifies the secrets to know how to approach situations to prevent explosions, disarm conflicts, settle cases, and reduce drama. And she’s going to share some of those secrets. Here’s what I know… when a pink spotted elephant walks in the room, you need to notice it. If it starts breathing down your neck, you need to do something about it. Because if you don’t, it’s going to sit on you and it’s MUCH harder to resolve conflict when you can’t breathe. Not letting pink spotted elephants knock the wind out of you? Well that’s just woman’s work. To learn more about Hesha you can visit her website at HeshaAbramsMediation.com or HoldingtheCalm.com To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re tuning into this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, I’m guessing it’s EITHER because you listened to last week and CAN’T WAIT to hear the rest of this amazing conversation, or you happened to stumble upon our show. If that’s the case, I’d like to encourage you to go back to last week's episode, because this is Part 2 of a two-part episode on the patterns, approaches, and ways that women ARE NOT supporting women. And let me tell you, this conversation goes down as one of my all time favorites in the 3.5 years I’ve been hosting this show. Caroline Adams Miller brings a scientific, research-backed, and data led approach to the important topics we’re covering. The time has come for ampliship - let’s SHARE the stories of women doing amazing things. Collaborate with other women to promote and recognize each other. GO PUBLIC with your support. Make sure there are witnesses as you promote them, reference their work, and celebrate their successes. Become a MASTER of supporting other women. Let’s make ampliship both the word and the action of the year. That is WOMAN’S work. To learn more about Caroline you can visit her website at www.carolinemiller.com or follow her on IG @carolineadamsmiller and @cultivatingeliteorganizations or on Twitter @carolinemcoach To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I often challenge men to be open, curious, to truly LISTEN, to not be so defensive… and now it’s our turn. Friends, buckle up, because we’re going full throttle on the bullshit that WOMEN do. The second I met Caroline Adams Miller, I just KNEW she needed to be our guest for this conversation. Caroline is a well-respected expert, whose scientific approach to change fosters lasting success in organizations and individuals. She has a Masters of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and graduated magna cum laude from Harvard University. The author of eight books, including Getting Grit, Creating Your Best Life, and My Name is Caroline, Caroline’s work has been featured worldwide and she’s here today to help me, not just to have the discussion, but to provide that scientific, research-backed data so we’re not just talking “in theory” about the things that aren’t working for us, but providing concrete evidence of it. Are you just a grown up Mean Girl? Are you going silent on the women in your life? What might you be doing that’s comfortable and convenient for you, but isn’t in support of other women?  It’s time for us to be open and curious. It’s time for us to check ourselves. And, because this conversation is so good and so necessary, we’ve made it a two-part episode. Meet us here next week for Part 2 of this conversation. To learn more about Caroline you can visit her website at www.carolinemiller.com or follow her on IG @carolineadamsmiller and @cultivatingeliteorganizations or on Twitter @carolinemcoach To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are some of the popular approaches to success that you’re feeling pressured to do, but just don’t feel right to you? Success for me isn’t about rigidity, adding more shit to my plate, or even mental toughness and  these one size fits all approaches is just another thing that’s saying you must be perfect (no cheats, no misses, no exceptions), and that the way to become confident and all the things you want is thru achievement.  I call bullshit. And on today's episode I walk through some examples of these popular approaches and why I think they do more harm than good.  What other success principles drive you nuts? What other maybe more masculine approaches to business aren’t serving you? What one-size-fits all approaches are being shoved down your throat? TRUST yourself.  And while confidence is my passion, I hope I never send the message that there’s only one way to achieve it or that I EVER would make you feel bad or less than if my message doesn’t speak to you or feel right for you. To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What season are you in? And do you embrace your changing seasons, recognize them for their unique offerings, and celebrate and appreciate their differences and their beauty? Or do you resist them, like winter in New England? Do you feel annoyed, or want to quickly move past it, or run away if you can? We’re here today to talk about Woman’s Work In Shifting Seasons. And I can’t think of a better person to have that conversation with than Elizabeth Presta, licensed birth doula who has traveled extensively to over 31 countries, immersing herself and learning cultural norms along the way. Liz is passionate about women’s healthcare and has a hugely popular podcast Morning Chava. No matter what season you’re in, this too shall pass. The hard, yes, but also the good. Summer is just a season too, so make sure you don’t let it pass by without recognizing, appreciating, and enjoying it! Like nature, and the seasons, YOU and your life are fucking MAGICAL. Live it. Be true to YOU and the season you’re in… I can’t think of anything that defines woman’s work better than that. You can follow Elizabeth on her IG @esandoz Listen in to her podcast Morning Chava  To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might be wondering why we’re doing an episode on how to make new friends because it sounds like a topic for a younger audience, right? When we’re REALLY young, making friends just sort of happens. But we grow and evolve, and sometimes our friends don’t grow and evolve in the same direction at the same time… and we discover that some relationships that used to fuel us, now drain us. On today’s episode of TIWW we’re going to talk about making friends. The truths, the challenges, and some strategies to help us.  I’ve asked Danielle McCombs to join me. Danielle is a Co-Active Training Institute Certified coach with her own Life Coaching practice, which she founded after a 20 year career in commercial real estate. She hosts the podcast “The Opposite of Small Talk,” with her friend Kristy Olinger where they explore topics about personal and professional development. She had reached out to me and suggested this topic and everything in my being screamed YES, we need to talk about this! Ok friends, it’s time to go make some new friends! And make sure you love on the ones you already have who have seen you through many, or even just a few, seasons in your life. Because I believe there’s no better thing to be, no greater success, no better achievement than being and having a great friend. To learn more about Danielle and her work go to: www.daniellemccombs.com You can follow her on IG @danimc23  Listen in to her podcast The Opposite Of Small Talk To learn more about what we are up to outside of this podcast, visit us at NicoleKalil.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices