

The Dildorks
Billy Lore, Kate Sloan
Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.
Episodes
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Jan 27, 2026 • 44min
Yearn, Baby, Yearn
They unpack romantic yearning as both painful and pleasurable across long-distance love and unrequited crushes. They contrast consuming obsession with small recurring crushes and explore turning yearning into creativity. They discuss gendered norms around male longing, risky narratives like incel anger, and practical tools to turn yearning up or down.

Jan 20, 2026 • 57min
New Queers' Resolutions
They trade surreal fantasies from sentient sex robots to work-break encounters and erotic boredom. Conversations hit femdom play, anonymous group encounters, and safer low-risk sexual scenarios. Planning and self-work show up in toy decluttering, queer media archiving, social rebuilding, and goals like PIV orgasms, falling in love, and embracing good gender feelings.

Jan 13, 2026 • 52min
Take It From the Top
Join the hosts as they reflect on their transformative year in sex and dating. From cohabitation challenges to a journey of libido changes, they dive into the complexities of intimacy. Discover their eclectic toy favorites and hear about unexpected encounters, like a wild day in the park. They also explore body positivity, playful experimentation, and the nuances of casual hookups. With hilarious insights on memorable sexual adventures, this conversation is both enlightening and entertaining!

Dec 24, 2025 • 45min
Gag Gift
This discussion takes a playful dive into objectification kink, especially through a holiday lens. They explore the arousing idea of gifting partners as consensual objects, balancing consent and negotiation. The hosts dissect the appeal of surprise scenes and glory holes, along with the eroticism of manhandling. They also talk about customizing sex coupons for added fun, connecting nostalgic experiences with desire. The episode emphasizes the intersection of mindfulness, power dynamics, and aftercare in maintaining a healthy approach to kink.

Dec 16, 2025 • 53min
An Object Lesson
Dive into the fascinating world of objectification in kink! Discover how consensual objectification differs from societal views and the healing aspects it can offer. The hosts explore extreme roles, from being a urinal to the complexities of the 'just a hole' fantasy. They discuss the importance of trust and empathy in these dynamics and why they find it arousing. Plus, enjoy insights on settings for objectification play, glory hole fantasies, and even the roles of dominants. Perfect for those curious about the nuances of kink!

Dec 9, 2025 • 48min
Working Out the Kinks
Explore the intricacies of kinky-on-vanilla relationships! Discover how to identify vanilla cues and the broader flirting possibilities that kinksters embrace. Learn about the balance between emotional connections and unmet desires, as well as practical compromises like non-monogamy. Dive into the roles of fantasy and porn, including their benefits and pitfalls in the kink world. Plus, gain insights on teaching vanilla partners the basics of kink and engaging in healthy communication.

Dec 2, 2025 • 49min
Vivaciously Vanilla
Can a kinkster find satisfaction with a vanilla partner? Explore the diverse meanings of 'vanilla' and 'kink'. Discover how language reveals kinkiness and the importance of psychological compatibility in dating. Hosts share personal stories and debate whether willingness can substitute for genuine desire. They also offer tips for integrating kink into vanilla relationships and suggest beginner resources for understanding the lifestyle. Ultimately, the discussion emphasizes prioritizing compatibility and not settling.

Nov 25, 2025 • 47min
Bewitched, Bruised, & Bewildered
Can romance thrive in the world of dominance and submission? Absolutely! Discover how vulnerability and confidence pace intimacy, while kink enhances communication and connection. Explore the intricate relationship between masochism and social anxiety, and how admiration fuels desire. Learn about the tantalizing overlap of romantic aesthetics with BDSM experiences. Dive into tales where strong DS dynamics illuminate deeper compatibility concerns, making for an engaging discussion filled with insights.

Nov 18, 2025 • 45min
Sexy Eccentrics
Diving into an array of unique fetishes from Reddit, the hosts explore everything from the surprising allure of tree sex to the thrill of being sawed in half. They tackle the intricacies of exhaustion fetish dynamics and discuss the appeal of heavy metal music during intimacy. With whimsical insights on Elmer's glue in body play and a wild fantasy involving a pool table, the conversation balances humor with earnest examination of desires. It's a captivating exploration of the quirky world of kinks!

Nov 11, 2025 • 53min
Full of Yourself
Dive into the art of self-confidence, where fake it till you make it takes center stage! Explore how confidence varies by context and embrace being a novice without shame. Discover the power of clear boundaries and how owning your identity can enhance appeal. There's a fascinating discussion on how confidence reduces emotional labor in relationships and why it makes you more attractive. Plus, learn how confident submissives thrive when they communicate desires openly. Join the journey of living authentically!


