In this episode, we look at the recent drama of Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars in defense of his wife Jada Pinkett Smith, when Chris Rock disrespected her with a joke about her hair-less condition, alopecia. ⠀Louise starts the episode by sharing that she felt like the missing piece of the jigsaw was when she read a section of Will Smith’s autobiography where he explained that he grew up in an abusive environment, watching his Father beat his Mother and that this developed his ‘biggest regret to date’ that he was a ‘coward’ and never ‘avenged his Mother’.⠀Today, we discuss the stories, limiting beliefs and conditioning that we pick up in childhood, subconsciously and consciously, and how these shape how we show up in the world, and how they hold us back from living our best life.⠀Louise & Dr Tari talk about: ⠀⇢ How we often learn we are not enough, that we have to fight for love, earn it, or that we are going to be abandoned;⠀⇢ Family dynamics, sibling relationships and what you can learn if you are, or are not, the golden child of the family;⠀⇢ How stories can be picked up around hobbies and food; and⠀⇢ How picking up your attachment style from your caregivers will impact all of your relationships later in life. ⠀Louise also goes deep and shares her personal experience of: ⠀⇢ Her experience with high level ballet and gymnastics as a child;⠀⇢ How her relationship with food was defined from her relationship with her family; and⠀⇢ How her relationship with her family unit maybe developed becoming an introvert later in life. ⠀If you enjoyed this episode, please do share on your social media or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so we can help spread the word about our #FreeTherapy. ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the final episode of the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack what to do when a friend (or a partner) breaks up with you. ⠀Louise & Dr Tari take a recent example that one of Louise’s friends went through, when she got ghosted by a friend. Dr Tari Mack shares information on: ⠀⇢ How self-awareness can help avoid these situations happening; ⠀⇢ How open conversation, communication & discussion can reduce the severity of the situations.⠀Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:⠀⇢ How the same principles in friendship breakdowns apply to romantic relationships; ⠀⇢ What to do when someone sets a boundary that you feel is unfair; ⠀⇢ Whether you ever really are owed a conversation or discussion by someone else?⠀⇢ How to move on from friendships that you don’t know if you can. ⠀And:⠀⇢ How helpful therapy can be with the breakdown of friendships to help with the healing and self-awareness process. ⠀If you enjoyed this episode, please do share on your social media or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so we can help spread the word about our #FreeTherapy. ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack about all things friendship breakdowns. ⠀Louise and Tari discuss why they happen, why they hurt, why they’re inevitable, how to handle them when they change or break down, how to learn from them and, ultimately, how to grow and be happier after them. ⠀Louise Rumball also goes deeper into three of her own personal friend breakdowns:⠀⇢  1. Her childhood best friend & how she dreamt about her for years & what this meant;⠀⇢ 2. A good friend in her 20s who Louise bonded with over their equally disastrous and toxic relationships - and whose friendship then slowly broke down when they didn’t bond over that any more;⠀⇢ 3. Her most recent friendship breakdown - with someone who she loves and cares about but feels is incompatible with her at this point in her life. ⠀Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:⠀⇢ How to self-reflect on your friendships using the Wedding Cake analogy; ⠀⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;⠀⇢ How to communicate with yourself and others; and ⠀⇢ How to lean into the changes of friendships to your benefit, rather than them hurting you. ⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify if it resonated.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Emma Wilson, the first Turning 30 Coach to discuss how much life changes when you hit the big 3-0.⠀Today, the focus is friendship - and together, Louise and Emma explore:⠀⇢ What happens when your friends start settling down; and you don’t⠀⇢ Whether forever friendships can really last forever⠀⇢ How the situation changes further when your friends start to have babies⠀⇢ How to communicate with friends that things no longer feel the same. ⠀The girl’s also talk about their own personal experiences of:⠀⇢ Neglecting friends when they fall in love; ⠀⇢ Having uncomfortable but life changing conversations; and⠀⇢ Discussing where and how to make new friends in today’s busy, fast paced society. ⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Emma Wilson: @turning30coach⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss all things friends, the psychology of enablers and the less than healthy friendships that we love. ⠀We take a look at this through the lens of the recent finale of Euphoria and the very special, sweet and sad situation that we all got to experience alongside the captivating characters of Rue and Elliott. ⠀***SPOILER ALERT*** If you haven’t watched the finale of Euphoria yet, then skip this episode and come back to it later!⠀Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:⠀⇢ Rue & Elliot and why their friendship worked initially, and why he ultimately showed true friendship through his actions later on in the series;⠀⇢ What is an enabler + the psychology behind enabling;⠀⇢ Why do we enable others;⠀⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;⠀⇢ Understanding how to break the cycle of a less than healthy friendship; and ⠀⇢ How to deal with the anger of another person as you break the cycle.⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀Book your own Relationship Reading with Dr Tari by quoting OPENHOUSE or Louise Rumball for your discount: www.drtarimack.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise interviews Maddy Anholt, author of ‘How to Leave Your Psychopath’ ⠀Are you forever finding yourself in the stranglehold of controlling companions? Today’s chat will help you wave ta-ta to unhappy and unhealthy relationships for good. ⠀We talk about red flags to look out for, how and why people exert control, and also discuss lovebombing, gaslighting, and negging. ⠀Backed with personal story and supported by psychological insight Louise & Maddie share their personal journeys and all they have learnt along the way.⠀In this episode, Louise & Maddy break down: ⠀⇢ Why it isn’t just ‘doormats’ and ‘weak women’ who find themselves being treated awfully in relationships; ⠀⇢ The traits that these types of people look for in their partners; ⠀⇢ How to tell the difference between a ‘d*ckhead’ and an abuser; ⠀⇢ The hormonal addiction cycle & how the cycle plays out in practice; ⠀⇢ Why there isn’t a breaking point for everyone; ⠀⇢ And how to leave if you are in a potentially dangerous situation.⠀If you are or someone you know is experiencing family violence and need someone to talk to, contact a local domestic abuse service by using Women's Aid Domestic Abuse Directory www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with Maddy on social: @maddyanholt⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Order Maddy's book, 'How to Leave Your Psychopath' on AmazonSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we get into the topic that everyone is talking about - the crazy Netflix documentary - The Tinder Swindler, The so-called Tinder Swindler is Shimon Hayut (aka 'Simon Leviev'), a convicted fraudster born in Israel. He used dating apps to meet multiple women, then got them to take out loans and credit in their names, ultimately leaving them holding the bills when he would later disappear - but not before he had spent ALL of the money on an insanely lavish lifestyle that he used to impress OTHER women. ⠀In today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari break down: ⠀⇢ The psychology of Attachment Hunger - something that starts in childhood when we don’t get the appropriate bonding and nurturing form our parent figures, and then later shows up in adult life as attaching too quickly to romantic partners;⠀⇢ The reason that so many people today ignore red flags;  ⠀⇢ Why sexual validation and attention are not the same as healthy loving care; ⠀⇢ The importance of knowing ourselves before we can really know another; and ⠀⇢ Why some people only attract superficial relationships.⠀Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also break down the specifics of the situation and look at; ⠀⇢ Immediate red flags that should have been picked up on in the episode; ⠀⇢ How to navigate dating apps when meeting someone new (+ the questions you have to ask); ⠀⇢ How to actually get to know someone;⠀⇢ How to keep an eye out for someone like the Tinder Swindler so you can avoid at all costs; and⠀⇢ The importance of boundaries and time to attach when you meet someone new. ⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 20 of the OPENHOUSE podcast we covered all things ghosting, because if you haven’t already heard, Louise got ghosted. Today, in Episode 22, Dr Tari Mack is back from holiday & we are looking at the flip side of getting ghosted.We ask Dr Tari:⇢ Why do people ghost? ⇢ How this can tie back to more significant personality traits, like narcissism and sociopathy;⇢ But how it can also tie back to our experience in childhood and what we were taught by our caregivers about conflict; and⇢ What ghosting teaches us about another person. Louise also shares her personal experience of how she used to ghost people when she was younger, but also shares:⇢ How she now understands why she used to act the way she did; ⇢ How her behaviour has changed since going to therapy;  and⇢ Her tips and tricks on how not to ghost people. We also share live examples of messages that Louise has sent to people when she has needed to communicate that she wasn’t into things, rather than ghosting, and get Dr Tari’s feedback. ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––Thanks for tuning in to the OPENHOUSE Podcast.Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeConnect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimackSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.comJoin Dr Tari Mack’s 1 year to Engaged coaching programme: www.drtarimack.com––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise gets into a solo episode discussing all things Rihanna & A$AP Rocky and the news that they are having a baby! In this episode, Louise looks at ‘Rihanna energy’ and her break up from Hassan Jameel at 31, an age when many people would feel pressurised by society to stay in their relationship or make it work, rather than the fear of being ‘thirty and single’. In this episode, Louise shares: ⇢ The psychology of our brain development in our 30s vs. our 20s and how this impacts our dating decisions; ⇢ Why sometimes we have to date a ‘Chris Brown’ to meet our very own A$AP Rocky; ⇢ Why being single in your 30s can be a revolutionary and insightful phase of self-awareness; and ⇢ How you can use it to your advantage, helping to take you closer to the right person. Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:⇢ Her experience of dating her very own Chris Brown and what she learnt;⠀⇢ What watching her friends settle down and have babies has taught her about what she wants in a relationship; ⇢ Her top 6 tips to embracing being single in your 30s + 40s;⇢ And why you need to date ‘smart’, ‘fast’ and ‘with intention’ as you get older.As well as chatting all things fertility and biological clocks. Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social:  @iamlouiserumballConnect with OPENHOUSE:  @openhouselife⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey guys, Louise here returning with a solo episode of OPENHOUSE. In Episode 20, we are talking all things GHOSTING and what to do when you are on the receiving end of getting ghosted by someone you are dating.  So, if you couldn’t tell, I got f**king ghosted and I've got stuff to say. I’m not even embarrassed about it, because it is so normal in today's dating pool, but what I am going to do is share with you what I learnt about me, about the person that ghost me - and so much more, during this experience of getting ghosted.  In today's episode we go through: *What is schema chemistry; *My most recent ghosting story and why I should have seen the red flags from the start; *The psychology of ghosting and the chemical and biological impacts it has on you*Why ghosting makes you feel like you're going crazy*How ghosting makes other people feel (we asked!)*A 9 step, therapist backed plan to getting over ghosting; and*How you can use ghosting to your advantage.  And so, ghosting happens, and it’s part of modern dating today but that doesn’t make it ok. And it shouldn’t be ok. And it shouldn’t be normalised - because we need to learn to develop our communication skills so that we can handle healthy conflict and uncomfortable situations and communication. If you are hurting, I hope this episode provides some respite - and a couple of laughs. Louise xLet us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music Sources⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices