Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Feeling the Christmas squeeze? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to drown in stress or debt to give your kids a magical holiday. In this episode, Justin and Kylie share six practical, heartfelt strategies real families use to make Christmas meaningful without blowing the budget. From essential-only Santa sacks to Secret Santa hacks, secondhand gems, and the power of one great gift, this episode is your permission to simplify and still make it special. KEY POINTS The “Four Gifts of Christmas” method that instantly reduces overwhelm How to fill Santa sacks with essentials (and why kids don’t mind!) The #1 mindset shift for sticking to a realistic budget What to do when your extended family list hits 40+ people Secondhand gifts, handmade gifts, and why they often mean more Why one high-quality gift beats a pile of cheap ones The surprising research on vouchers and experiences QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Giving looks different in different situations—but it can always be meaningful.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Facebook Marketplace & Gumtree for secondhand gift finds Secret Santa / Kris Kringle group gifting Marketplace categories for bikes, Pokémon cards & kids’ items ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Set a real budget (cash only, no credit card creep). Choose your gift-giving circle—kids, parents, or Secret Santa only. Use the Four Gifts framework: want, need, wear, read. Add essentials to stockings to lighten January expenses. Try secondhand or handmade for big-ticket or meaningful items. Pick one great quality gift instead of many small ones. Consider experiences or vouchers when you’re unsure what to buy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this emergency episode, Justin responds to the Bondi terror attacks, offering advice on how to talk to our children, as well as how Jewish families can discuss this with their children. For more up to the minute resources visit the Happy Families Facebook Page.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christmas chaos creeping in? This episode dives into the magic of festive films—and how they can buy you a precious pocket of peace. Justin and Kylie share their top kid-friendly Christmas movies (and a few grown-up gems), the surprising stories behind them, and why the right film at the right moment can reset the whole family. Perfect for parents who want joy, calm, nostalgia…and maybe a chance to wrap presents without being ambushed. KEY POINTS Why Christmas feels like a tug-of-war between calm and chaos—and how movies can soften the edges. Top kid-friendly Christmas films that uplift, entertain, and keep kids happily occupied. The unexpected origins and charm behind Klaus, Arthur Christmas, and more. Classics that still land for teens (Home Alone, The Santa Clause). Honourable mentions for grown-ups—yes, even the ones Justin hasn’t watched yet. A gentle reminder to pause and reconnect with the meaning of Christmas, whatever your family’s traditions. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "When your kids are in your arms, they can’t possibly be underfoot." RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Christmas webinars: Tis the Season to be Cranky and How to Unspoil your Kids this Christmas Christmas movie recommendations: Klaus, Arthur Christmas, Elf, Home Alone, The Santa Clause, Christmas Chronicles, faith-based nativity films. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Choose one new Christmas movie to watch together this week—something uplifting and connection-building. Pick a “parent break” movie (a solid, guilt-free screen-time choice) to occupy the kids while you wrap, prep, or recharge. Consider a short nativity or values-focused film to spark meaningful family conversations. Keep your movie list saved for the entire month to avoid decision overwhelm on busy days. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Australia made global headlines — and parents everywhere felt it. Justin shares the emotional, history-making moment inside Kirribilli House as the new social-media age laws rolled out, the families whose stories shaped the legislation, and why this shift matters more than most people realise. Plus: the behind-the-scenes chaos of a family holiday that turned into a resilience masterclass. A powerful mix of emotion, insight, and laugh-so-you-don’t-cry parenting moments. KEY POINTS Inside the Kirribilli House event announcing Australia’s new age restrictions for social media. The heartbreaking parent stories that pushed lawmakers to act — and why the room was filled with tears. A rare moment of political unity that left Justin with goosebumps. What this new law actually means for teens, parents, and tech platforms in the months ahead. A family holiday disaster (expired passports, food poisoning, meltdowns, gale-force winds)… turned into a resilience-building win. Why doing hard, screen-free things is the secret ingredient to family connection. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "This isn’t about politics. This is about our kids." — Prime Minister Albanese RESOURCES MENTIONED Heads Up Alliance Let Them Be Kids campaign Go Rail Trail (Queenstown) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk to your teen about Australia’s new age rules and what they mean for your family. Watch how platforms respond over the next few months — enforcement will evolve. Create screen-incompatible moments: activities that pull kids away from devices naturally. Normalise hard things — help your kids practise choosing helpful thoughts when challenges arise. Lean into connection: shared struggle (and shared laughter) builds family closeness faster than comfort ever will.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’ve ever stood in the toy aisle wondering what will actually make my kids happy, this episode is the Christmas miracle you need. We unpack the surprising research on gift-giving—why experiences matter, when they don’t, and what different ages really want (and remember!) on Christmas morning. This one will change how you wrap Christmas… literally. KEY POINTS The science-backed truth: giving really does make us happier than receiving. Why toddlers get more joy from giving than getting (what?!). The ages where kids prefer “stuff”… and why it’s developmentally normal. When experiences finally “click” for kids and bring more lasting joy. How anticipation, shared moments and memories make experiences powerful. A simple framework for choosing the right gift for the right child at the right age. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “It’s not what you give — it’s that you give — that makes you happy.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending by Dunn & Norton Research on children’s happiness, gifts, and development (Chaplin & colleagues) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Match the gift to your child’s age — material for younger kids, experiences as they grow. Add anticipation — reveal experiences with something they can hold or open. Share the moment — plan joint experiences for deeper connection and lasting happiness. Teach generosity — include simple opportunities for kids to give (even $5 makes a difference). Shift the focus — emphasise meaning, memory and togetherness over “more things”. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s the day. Australia’s new Social Media Minimum Age Legislation kicks in—and families everywhere are feeling everything from relief to panic. In this special episode, Justin is interviewed by “Intrepid Reporter Kylie” in a reenactment of a newsroom conversation that never got to air. You’ll hear what this ban actually means, how parents and teens are reacting, why the timing matters, and what families can do to keep kids connected, active, and thriving—without the algorithm pulling them in. Short, practical, reassuring. A must-listen for every parent navigating summer holidays and a new digital reality. KEY POINTS Why parent reactions have been overwhelmingly positive How teens really feel—and why some are secretly relieved What the legislation does and doesn’t block The truth about VPNs, fake IDs, and workarounds Why school holiday timing may actually be perfect How this ban affects connection, loneliness, and real-life friendships What platforms are age-restricted vs. still accessible Why messaging apps aren’t the same as social media How Justin & Kylie navigated the changes with their own teen The essential role parents still play (the ban doesn’t replace you!) QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “I’m not anti-screen. I’m pro living a full, balanced, whole, healthy life.” RESOURCES MENTIONED eSafety Social Media Hub – full details on the new minimum age legislation Platform list of age-restricted vs. permitted services happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Talk early and often about the changes rather than enforcing them cold. Shift the focus to real life: encourage outdoor time, friends over, hands-on activities. Check your child’s accounts together and deactivate any that are now age-restricted. Discuss messaging alternatives (not algorithm-driven). Stay engaged—the ban reduces risk but doesn’t remove screen challenges. Reassure your child that boredom is normal and survivable—and often the gateway to creativity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does Christmas feel so magical—and how can we bottle that feeling for our families? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the science behind Christmas joy and reveal the seven psychological drivers that make the season feel warm, connected, nostalgic, and full of wonder. From sensory anchors to collective effervescence, discover how small tweaks to your traditions can transform a stressful season into a slow, meaningful, joy-soaked one. This is your cheat-sheet to creating the kind of Christmas your kids will remember forever. KEY POINTS Relationships are the heart of Christmas—intentional togetherness boosts joy and belonging. Anticipated joy (hello Advent calendars) fuels dopamine and lifts mood weeks before the day arrives. Sensory anchoring—smells, sights, tastes—creates powerful nostalgia and emotional connection. Collective effervescence elevates community energy when everyone enters the same seasonal rhythm. Permission for wonder gives adults a rare chance to play, imagine, and embrace childlike magic. Savouring and gratitude turn small moments into the big memories our kids carry into adulthood. Applying these principles can fix a stressful or disappointing Christmas and make it joyful again. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Christmas is culturally sanctioned slowness—and if we savour it, the joy multiplies.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Prioritise connection over productivity—plan moments of slow, intentional togetherness. Create anticipation with rituals that build excitement (tree, lights, Advent, small traditions). Use sensory anchors—scents, recipes, music, decorations—to spark nostalgia and joy. Lean into wonder: play, imagine, and embrace the magic your kids already feel. Savour moments in real time—pause, breathe, and let the season be slow. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the world’s biggest social media company discovered its platforms were harming mental health… and then buried the evidence? Today, Justin and Kylie unpack explosive court documents about Meta’s secret research, the upcoming social media age-limit legislation, and what really happens when we step away from the online world. Then, we dive into your powerful responses to our most controversial episode of the year — including raw truths from parents who feel exhausted, confused, and desperate for answers. This episode will make you think differently about screens, kids, “normality,” and what families actually need. KEY POINTS Meta allegedly hid internal research showing users became less depressed after deleting Facebook. Why this matters ahead of Australia’s new social media minimum-age legislation. Justin’s own social media detox — and the surprising wellbeing shift. Why young teens are the most vulnerable to social platforms. The cultural shift toward labels, diagnoses, and pathologising behaviour. Parents respond to the Sammy Tamimi episode: gratitude, confusion, frustration, exhaustion. The power — and danger — of language when describing kids’ struggles. Why the environment (screens, sleep, school, structure) often matters more than labels. Reassurance: you can hold the nuance — be curious and compassionate without losing hope. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "When we change our language, we change our experience." — Justin RESOURCES MENTIONED Meta court case reporting (news.com.au) Searching for Normal by Dr. Sammy Tamimi Previous Happy Families episode featuring Dr. Sammy Tamimi Research on Facebook deactivation and mental health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Audit your child’s digital environment — sleep, screens, stimulation, social pressure. Create a family phone culture (including boundaries around late-night messaging). Hold diagnoses lightly, not dismissively — take what helps, leave what harms. Stay curious about what might be driving big emotions or behaviour. Prioritise connection over correction when your child is struggling. Remember progress > perfection — small steps make a big difference. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If Christmas usually feels more chaotic than joyful, this episode is the reset you need. Justin and Kylie unpack the research on what really makes Christmas happier—and what quietly steals the joy from it. You’ll hear the surprising predictors of Christmas wellbeing (hint: it’s not money, gifts, or how perfect your table looks) and why letting go of the pressure to “do it all” might be the best gift you give your family. A warm, funny, practical episode to help you create a Christmas that actually feels good. KEY POINTS Family connection and meaningful traditions are the strongest predictors of Christmas happiness. A sense of purpose—not perfection—makes the season more joyful. Environmental mindfulness is linked with higher wellbeing (yes… even at Christmas!). Consuming less and enjoying nature more boosts Christmas satisfaction. Materialism and gift overload significantly reduce Christmas happiness. Relationship challenges or fractured family dynamics can dampen joy. Age brings more Christmas happiness as expectations shift and priorities mature. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Wrapping presents generally yields fewer rewards than spending time laughing, talking, and playing with the people you love.” RESOURCES Kasser & Sheldon (2002) research on Christmas wellbeing Take Back Christmas [Article] How To Unspoil Your Kids This Christmas [Webinar] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Prioritise connection – plan at least one meaningful, shared activity. Scale back gifts – focus on presence, not presents. Add purpose – highlight generosity, gratitude, or spiritual meaning. Go outside – take a Christmas walk or enjoy nature together. Simplify – drop one “should” that only adds stress, not joy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling the Christmas chaos creeping in already? This episode hands you permission to rewrite the rules. Justin and Kylie share the three simple diagnostic questions that transform Christmas from exhausting and obligatory… to meaningful, memorable, and truly magical. If you’ve ever felt pressure to “do it all,” this is your reset button for a calmer, lighter, joy-filled holiday season. KEY POINTS The three clarity questions that instantly simplify Christmas Why “What lights you up?” matters more than any tradition Identifying what drains you so you can let it go guilt-free The power of deciding “How do I want to feel on Christmas Day?” Helping kids create memories that actually matter How blended families, travel, and extended-family expectations fit into intentional planning Permission to do Christmas your way—without apology QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If it doesn’t light you up, you don’t have to do it. Christmas works best when it works for your family.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask the three questions: What lights you up? What drains you? How do you want to feel on Christmas Day? Hold a mini family meeting to hear everyone’s must-haves (and their “don’t worry about it” items). Simplify: Cross out anything that doesn’t bring joy, connection or ease. Protect your vision: Communicate clearly with extended family. Choose one memory-maker to anchor your Christmas this year. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.