Unlock the keys to success with Kevin DeShazo in this empowering episode of the Circuit of Success podcast. Join host Brett Gilliland as they delve into mental performance mastery, exploring pivotal topics like student-athletes transferring schools, decision-making grounded in knowledge, and the art of disciplined commitment. Discover the transformative impact of self-talk and the strategy of stacking small successes as Kevin shares insights into personal growth and development. “The power of self-talk is so important,” Kevin asserts, emphasizing its role as the language shaping our success. Kevin advocates for pushing beyond comfort zones to foster growth in this conversation. Gain valuable tips on learning from past leaders, making decisions without emotion, and preparing for adversity. Kevin’s wisdom extends to the significance of reading diverse perspectives, following engaging figures on social media, and immersing oneself in insightful books. This episode serves as a compelling reminder to reflect on your goals and dreams, taking actionable steps towards realizing them. By integrating practices like self-talk, stacking small successes, and embracing continuous learning, listeners can enhance their confidence and resilience, making tomorrow better than today. Tune in to this Circuit of Success podcast episode and embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and tangible strategies for achieving lasting success. Mastering Mental Performance 00:00:12.000 –> 00:00:14.000 Welcome to the Circuit of Success. 00:00:14.000 –> 00:00:16.000 I’m your host Brett Gilliland in today. 00:00:16.000 –> 00:00:18.000 I’ve got Kevin DeShazo with me, Kevin. How 00:00:18.000 –> 00:00:19.000 you doing? 00:00:20.000 –> 00:00:23.000 Fantastic. How are you? I am good. How’s, 00:00:23.000 –> 00:00:24.000 Oklahoma City treating you today? 00:00:25.000 –> 00:00:26.000 It’s great. 00:00:26.000 –> 00:00:29.000 Not too wintery of weather yet. It’s actually 00:00:29.000 –> 00:00:31.000 pretty nice. So it’s a it’s good Monday. 00:00:31.000 –> 00:00:33.000 Awesome. It’s a little chilly and rainy here, 00:00:33.000 –> 00:00:35.000 but it it could be a lot worse. 00:00:35.000 –> 00:00:36.000 So that’s our item. I’m just outside of 00:00:36.000 –> 00:00:37.000 Saint Louis. 00:00:37.000 –> 00:00:40.000 And, so you are in Oklahoma City. 00:00:41.000 –> 00:00:43.000 You are the father of three boys. We 00:00:43.000 –> 00:00:45.000 both have something in common. We both have 00:00:45.000 –> 00:00:46.000 an asher. 00:00:46.000 –> 00:00:49.000 And you are married and running some businesses. 00:00:49.000 –> 00:00:51.000 Certified mental performance, 00:00:51.000 –> 00:00:54.000 mastery coach and founded, field house, media. 00:00:54.000 –> 00:00:56.000 And, we’ll talk about some other stuff as 00:00:56.000 –> 00:00:58.000 well. So, before we get started though, Kevin, 00:00:58.000 –> 00:01:00.000 could you just give us a little lay 00:01:00.000 –> 00:01:01.000 of the land? What’s made you the man 00:01:01.000 –> 00:01:02.000 you are today and what’s some of the 00:01:02.000 –> 00:01:04.000 backstory for you? 00:01:04.000 –> 00:01:06.000 Oh, what is that’s a big question. What 00:01:06.000 –> 00:01:08.000 has made me the man I am seeing? 00:01:08.000 –> 00:01:09.000 Probably who has made me the man I 00:01:09.000 –> 00:01:10.000 am seeing? 00:01:12.000 –> 00:01:14.000 You know, I’ve I’ve been really fortunate to 00:01:14.000 –> 00:01:16.000 have great mentors, great people, 00:01:16.000 –> 00:01:18.000 in my life from a a young age. 00:01:19.000 –> 00:01:21.000 And I think the the two things I’ve 00:01:21.000 –> 00:01:23.000 learned probably the most from from all those 00:01:23.000 –> 00:01:26.000 mentors combined is one, the power of speaking 00:01:26.000 –> 00:01:28.000 belief in the people. These are always people 00:01:28.000 –> 00:01:31.000 who believed something in me. Saw something in 00:01:31.000 –> 00:01:33.000 me, called those things up in me, 00:01:33.000 –> 00:01:36.000 treated me as if I I’ve I’ve already 00:01:36.000 –> 00:01:37.000 was those things 00:01:37.000 –> 00:01:40.000 and two, just the, their, the way they 00:01:40.000 –> 00:01:42.000 modeled their life. Right? They were people who 00:01:42.000 –> 00:01:45.000 were accountable. They were disciplined. They were consistent. 00:01:46.000 –> 00:01:48.000 What’s it was important to me. They were 00:01:48.000 –> 00:01:50.000 they were all rooted in faith. 00:01:50.000 –> 00:01:52.000 So they were good husbands, good dads, good 00:01:52.000 –> 00:01:54.000 business people, whatever their job was. 00:01:55.000 –> 00:01:57.000 And so I’ve always had had good mentors. 00:01:57.000 –> 00:01:58.000 And then over the years, you know, I 00:01:58.000 –> 00:02:00.000 went into the corporate world right out of 00:02:00.000 –> 00:02:02.000 college. Well, that’s not true. 00:02:02.000 –> 00:02:04.000 Don’t have to go down this down down 00:02:04.000 –> 00:02:06.000 this revolt, but I was I was an 00:02:06.000 –> 00:02:08.000 embalmer’s assistant for six months immediately out of 00:02:08.000 –> 00:02:09.000 college. Wow. 00:02:09.000 –> 00:02:12.000 Then then went into the corporate world. Then 00:02:12.000 –> 00:02:13.000 started my own business, 00:02:13.000 –> 00:02:15.000 and businesses. And so lots of ups and 00:02:15.000 –> 00:02:17.000 downs of peaks and valleys and failures and 00:02:17.000 –> 00:02:18.000 successes, 00:02:19.000 –> 00:02:21.000 think all those things, all those experiences, the 00:02:21.000 –> 00:02:23.000 wins and losses, you know, they they each 00:02:23.000 –> 00:02:25.000 kinda mold you into. If you allow them 00:02:25.000 –> 00:02:26.000 to, if you use them the right way, 00:02:26.000 –> 00:02:27.000 they mold you into, 00:02:27.000 –> 00:02:30.000 who you’re supposed to be. Yeah. And you 00:02:30.000 –> 00:02:31.000 grew up in Oklahoma? 00:02:32.000 –> 00:02:35.000 Mostly, I was in Missouri, until sixth grade. 00:02:35.000 –> 00:02:37.000 And so I moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma, 00:02:37.000 –> 00:02:40.000 right after I finished sixth grade, and dinner, 00:02:40.000 –> 00:02:43.000 Oklahoma since then. Nice. And doing some work 00:02:43.000 –> 00:02:46.000 with Oklahoma, the university. Right? That’s right. Yeah. 00:02:46.000 –> 00:02:48.000 We we do a lot with their athletic 00:02:48.000 –> 00:02:50.000 department, both from their administration, you know, jokes 00:02:50.000 –> 00:02:52.000 to Leon, their athletic director, their leadership team, 00:02:52.000 –> 00:02:53.000 their department, 00:02:54.000 –> 00:02:55.000 but also work with a lot of their 00:02:55.000 –> 00:02:56.000 sports teams, 00:02:56.000 –> 00:02:58.000 worked deeply with football team, travel with the 00:02:58.000 –> 00:03:00.000 football team. So it’s a it’s it’s a 00:03:00.000 –> 00:03:03.000 fun a fun client to have. Yeah. So 00:03:03.000 –> 00:03:04.000 speaking of football, so how did, 00:03:05.000 –> 00:03:07.000 how did you think it went last night? 00:03:07.000 –> 00:03:08.000 They picked the top four teams. 00:03:09.000 –> 00:03:12.000 Well, Florida State’s also a client. Yeah. Oh. 00:03:12.000 –> 00:03:14.000 So so so didn’t didn’t love them being 00:03:14.000 –> 00:03:15.000 left out. 00:03:16.000 –> 00:03:18.000 You know, it’s it’s a there’s probably a 00:03:18.000 –> 00:03:20.000 bigger societal perspective to take on it, but 00:03:20.000 –> 00:03:21.000 it was 00:03:22.000 –> 00:03:23.000 you know, the committee went, in my opinion, 00:03:23.000 –> 00:03:26.000 they went on feelings based on that I 00:03:26.000 –> 00:03:28.000 rather rather than based on facts. 00:03:28.000 –> 00:03:30.000 I just think it’s tough to leave, 00:03:31.000 –> 00:03:32.000 a Power five undefeated team 00:03:33.000 –> 00:03:35.000 out, you know, 00:03:35.000 –> 00:03:37.000 in in place of teams who have who 00:03:37.000 –> 00:03:38.000 have lost skin. Now for that fourth spot, 00:03:38.000 –> 00:03:40.000 I think there could be a lot of 00:03:40.000 –> 00:03:42.000 argument. Whether it’s Bamba or Georgia or Texas 00:03:42.000 –> 00:03:43.000 or 00:03:43.000 –> 00:03:45.000 even Ohio State, you know, they’re only lost 00:03:45.000 –> 00:03:47.000 being to Michigan. There’s a lot of argument 00:03:47.000 –> 00:03:49.000 for that fourth spot, but my opinion, Florida 00:03:49.000 –> 00:03:50.000 State should have been should have been a 00:03:50.000 –> 00:03:53.000 guarantee. Yep. Yeah. It’s tough. And I guess 00:03:53.000 –> 00:03:54.000 next year going to what? Ten teams or 00:03:54.000 –> 00:03:57.000 twelve teams, whatever they’re doing next year. Yeah. 00:03:57.000 –> 00:03:58.000 Twelve will change from that. But then you’ll 00:03:58.000 –> 00:04:01.000 still have the thirteenth team. That’ll be mad. 00:04:01.000 –> 00:04:03.000 That’s right. And, That’s right. That’s where I 00:04:03.000 –> 00:04:04.000 go because you’re right. It’s like the twelve 00:04:04.000 –> 00:04:05.000 team solves 00:04:06.000 –> 00:04:08.000 this discussion in terms of, like, okay. They 00:04:08.000 –> 00:04:10.000 would have all had a chance. 00:04:10.000 –> 00:04:12.000 And and I’ve been, you know, hoping and 00:04:12.000 –> 00:04:14.000 waiting for this this twelve team for a 00:04:14.000 –> 00:04:16.000 while because I my general opinion is if 00:04:16.000 –> 00:04:19.000 you’re in the top 08:10, maybe twelve, 00:04:19.000 –> 00:04:21.000 you probably have a good chance, like, to 00:04:21.000 –> 00:04:22.000 win a national, like, a national title. You’ve 00:04:22.000 –> 00:04:24.000 got some talent. You’re you’re pretty elite. 00:04:25.000 –> 00:04:27.000 There’s not always. Some years, there’s a massive 00:04:27.000 –> 00:04:29.000 difference, but typically that that one to eight, 00:04:29.000 –> 00:04:31.000 one to ten gap is not very wide. 00:04:32.000 –> 00:04:34.000 Once you get thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, say, okay, 00:04:34.000 –> 00:04:36.000 you’ve probably lost two or three games. It’s 00:04:36.000 –> 00:04:38.000 like you’ve had enough of a chance 00:04:39.000 –> 00:04:40.000 But it’ll be but there’s always gonna be 00:04:40.000 –> 00:04:42.000 someone who feels left out. Right? And whether 00:04:42.000 –> 00:04:43.000 there were thirty teams, right, someone’s gonna feel 00:04:43.000 –> 00:04:46.000 left out. Yep. Yeah. Well, you look at, 00:04:46.000 –> 00:04:47.000 like, Liberty, I saw the twelfth team, I 00:04:47.000 –> 00:04:48.000 think, liberty. 00:04:49.000 –> 00:04:50.000 And then you got, like, LSU on the 00:04:50.000 –> 00:04:51.000 thirteenth. 00:04:51.000 –> 00:04:52.000 Oh, wow. 00:04:53.000 –> 00:04:55.000 So the thirteenth team was LSUU. You look 00:04:55.000 –> 00:04:56.000 at the difference of who they’re all playing, 00:04:56.000 –> 00:04:58.000 you know, a little bit different deal there. 00:04:58.000 –> 00:05:01.000 So so, And and Liberty Liberty go to 00:05:01.000 –> 00:05:03.000 play Oregon. So that’ll be interesting. Yeah. 00:05:03.000 –> 00:05:05.000 Yeah. Who who are you guys playing? 00:05:06.000 –> 00:05:08.000 We’ve got Arizona. Will be a great I 00:05:08.000 –> 00:05:10.000 mean, Arizona, they’ve won, like, five straight, I 00:05:10.000 –> 00:05:10.000 believe. 00:05:11.000 –> 00:05:12.000 Mhmm. And then when you add all the 00:05:12.000 –> 00:05:14.000 transfer portal, so our quarterback just announced today, 00:05:14.000 –> 00:05:15.000 he’s leaving 00:05:17.000 –> 00:05:19.000 as a grad transfer, we’ve got a we’ve 00:05:19.000 –> 00:05:21.000 got a guy who’s who’s playing behind him, 00:05:21.000 –> 00:05:22.000 who was ready. And he this year was 00:05:22.000 –> 00:05:24.000 kind of a mentoring year for him. Talked 00:05:24.000 –> 00:05:24.000 about great leadership. 00:05:26.000 –> 00:05:27.000 But portal season, 00:05:27.000 –> 00:05:30.000 people transferring, coaches, moving around. So it’ll be 00:05:30.000 –> 00:05:30.000 interesting. 00:05:31.000 –> 00:05:33.000 Yeah. It’s crazy. I saw today the, so 00:05:33.000 –> 00:05:35.000 Ohio States play in Missouri, 00:05:35.000 –> 00:05:38.000 and they’ve already announced, like, their quarterbacks leaving 00:05:38.000 –> 00:05:39.000 Ohio State’s quarterback leaving. They had, like, I 00:05:39.000 –> 00:05:41.000 don’t know. Five or six guys already say 00:05:41.000 –> 00:05:43.000 they’re not playing in the game. It’s, like, 00:05:43.000 –> 00:05:44.000 it’s wild. It’s wild. 00:05:44.000 –> 00:05:46.000 Yeah. Yeah. So so how do we fix 00:05:46.000 –> 00:05:49.000 that? The societal problem of of this. Right? 00:05:49.000 –> 00:05:52.000 What I worry about with the, the transfer 00:05:52.000 –> 00:05:54.000 portal and all that stuff as accountability 00:05:54.000 –> 00:05:56.000 is kids these days can run from Right? 00:05:56.000 –> 00:05:59.000 Because if I hold you accountable Gilliland 00:05:59.000 –> 00:06:00.000 you don’t like that, well, then what are 00:06:00.000 –> 00:06:02.000 you gonna do? You’re just gonna take your 00:06:02.000 –> 00:06:03.000 bag and you’re gonna take the ball and 00:06:03.000 –> 00:06:05.000 go home. Right? So so what are your 00:06:05.000 –> 00:06:07.000 thoughts on and then how do we fix 00:06:07.000 –> 00:06:07.000 that issue? 00:06:08.000 –> 00:06:10.000 Yeah. It’s really interesting. 00:06:10.000 –> 00:06:12.000 I think transferring is fine. 00:06:13.000 –> 00:06:15.000 I liked the old way where you had 00:06:15.000 –> 00:06:16.000 to sit out for a season because that 00:06:16.000 –> 00:06:18.000 made you have to really think, like, okay. 00:06:18.000 –> 00:06:20.000 Am I do I really wanna go somewhere? 00:06:20.000 –> 00:06:21.000 Am I really that unhappy? 00:06:22.000 –> 00:06:23.000 That I’m willing to go sit for a 00:06:23.000 –> 00:06:26.000 year and lose development, lose playing time, lose 00:06:26.000 –> 00:06:29.000 putting myself on tape. If I think I’m 00:06:29.000 –> 00:06:30.000 good enough to go to the NFL, or 00:06:30.000 –> 00:06:32.000 MBA, whatever it may be. 00:06:33.000 –> 00:06:34.000 And so I I think there has to 00:06:34.000 –> 00:06:36.000 be some form of consequence, 00:06:36.000 –> 00:06:38.000 so to speak, transferring to cause them to 00:06:38.000 –> 00:06:40.000 to pause a little bit, which I think 00:06:40.000 –> 00:06:41.000 is is now come back. Now you can 00:06:41.000 –> 00:06:42.000 transfer 00:06:42.000 –> 00:06:44.000 once freely, but the second time I think 00:06:44.000 –> 00:06:46.000 now you have to sit out. Something along 00:06:46.000 –> 00:06:47.000 those lines. Okay. 00:06:48.000 –> 00:06:50.000 Or or some situation where you have to 00:06:50.000 –> 00:06:51.000 get a waiver. I mean, I think just 00:06:51.000 –> 00:06:52.000 allowing kids to transfer 00:06:53.000 –> 00:06:55.000 You know, when I was eighteen, I knew 00:06:55.000 –> 00:06:57.000 nothing. I should not have been making decisions 00:06:57.000 –> 00:06:59.000 for my life or my career at at 00:06:59.000 –> 00:07:00.000 eighteen because it would have all been based 00:07:00.000 –> 00:07:02.000 on how I the moment. And if someone 00:07:02.000 –> 00:07:04.000 does something I don’t like, well, this coach 00:07:04.000 –> 00:07:05.000 is against me. They’re being a jerk. Like, 00:07:05.000 –> 00:07:07.000 no, this is called discipline and accountability. And 00:07:07.000 –> 00:07:08.000 this is what growth looks like. 00:07:09.000 –> 00:07:11.000 So I think we’ve we’ve got a what’s 00:07:11.000 –> 00:07:13.000 interesting is the person who gets hurt the 00:07:13.000 –> 00:07:15.000 most in this are the student athletes. They 00:07:15.000 –> 00:07:16.000 think it’s helping the student athletes. They’re the 00:07:16.000 –> 00:07:18.000 ones who get hurt the worst. Because they 00:07:18.000 –> 00:07:19.000 all go on the Gilliland then, you know, 00:07:19.000 –> 00:07:22.000 whatever the number is, forty five, fifty percent 00:07:22.000 –> 00:07:23.000 have nowhere to go. 00:07:24.000 –> 00:07:25.000 There there’s no spot. So they think they’re 00:07:25.000 –> 00:07:27.000 going to greener pastures, and there’s nothing. And 00:07:27.000 –> 00:07:29.000 they go from a, you know, it could 00:07:29.000 –> 00:07:30.000 be an Oklahoma State to a division two 00:07:30.000 –> 00:07:33.000 or division three school or a low level, 00:07:33.000 –> 00:07:35.000 group of five, you know, division one school. 00:07:35.000 –> 00:07:36.000 It’s like, wait a minute. I was in 00:07:36.000 –> 00:07:38.000 the Big twelve. And now I’m 00:07:39.000 –> 00:07:40.000 at at, you know, the bottom of the 00:07:40.000 –> 00:07:42.000 pack in the sun belt or whatever it 00:07:42.000 –> 00:07:43.000 may be. Yeah. 00:07:43.000 –> 00:07:44.000 So I think that’s that’s part of it. 00:07:44.000 –> 00:07:46.000 I think we need to change the timing 00:07:47.000 –> 00:07:48.000 they they had a few portal windows, but 00:07:48.000 –> 00:07:50.000 doing it right now, 00:07:51.000 –> 00:07:53.000 when one coaches football coaches from December first 00:07:53.000 –> 00:07:55.000 to December sixteenth is an is an open 00:07:55.000 –> 00:07:57.000 period for recruiting. So they’re visiting all these 00:07:57.000 –> 00:07:58.000 high school kids, 00:07:58.000 –> 00:08:00.000 for the next two weeks while trying to 00:08:00.000 –> 00:08:02.000 keep their current roster here 00:08:02.000 –> 00:08:04.000 while trying to prepare for a bowl game. 00:08:05.000 –> 00:08:06.000 And signing day 00:08:07.000 –> 00:08:09.000 is in the next two to three weeks, 00:08:09.000 –> 00:08:11.000 like, the the main signing day. So then 00:08:11.000 –> 00:08:12.000 all this is happening in a matter of 00:08:12.000 –> 00:08:15.000 three weeks. And it’s just utter chaos, 00:08:16.000 –> 00:08:17.000 for everyone. And so to say, wait a 00:08:17.000 –> 00:08:19.000 minute. Like, we’ve gotta calm down with the 00:08:19.000 –> 00:08:21.000 opt outs of bowl games with being able 00:08:21.000 –> 00:08:22.000 to transfer 00:08:22.000 –> 00:08:24.000 there’s gotta be value in finishing what you 00:08:24.000 –> 00:08:24.000 started. 00:08:25.000 –> 00:08:28.000 And and if you wanna transfer, that’s okay. 00:08:28.000 –> 00:08:29.000 It might you might be in the wrong 00:08:29.000 –> 00:08:31.000 situation. Right? They may have fired your coach. 00:08:31.000 –> 00:08:32.000 You’re like, man, I don’t buy into the 00:08:32.000 –> 00:08:33.000 new coach. Like, this is not what I 00:08:33.000 –> 00:08:35.000 was here for. There’s always situations, 00:08:35.000 –> 00:08:37.000 but I do think there has to be 00:08:37.000 –> 00:08:40.000 a better process where it benefits everyone. 00:08:40.000 –> 00:08:42.000 Yeah. I’ve talked to coaches, you know, it’s 00:08:42.000 –> 00:08:44.000 it’s tough because now they’re having to recruit 00:08:45.000 –> 00:08:47.000 the same kids. They’ve already recruited Right? And 00:08:47.000 –> 00:08:48.000 so if it doesn’t get me easier. And 00:08:48.000 –> 00:08:50.000 that that whole accountability thing, like I mentioned, 00:08:50.000 –> 00:08:52.000 is what what worries me. And 00:08:53.000 –> 00:08:54.000 I don’t know. You worry about I worry 00:08:54.000 –> 00:08:55.000 about this. I mean, I’m just getting to 00:08:55.000 –> 00:08:57.000 be the old dad. You worry about, like, 00:08:57.000 –> 00:08:59.000 chat, GPT. I worry about that stuff. Like, 00:08:59.000 –> 00:09:01.000 is that gonna take away critical thinking from 00:09:01.000 –> 00:09:02.000 our kids? 00:09:02.000 –> 00:09:05.000 Right. Right. All that Gilliland so that’s probably 00:09:05.000 –> 00:09:06.000 a whole another podcast. But, 00:09:07.000 –> 00:09:09.000 so you are a big reader, I see. 00:09:09.000 –> 00:09:11.000 And so talk to me about that. So, 00:09:11.000 –> 00:09:11.000 obviously, 00:09:11.000 –> 00:09:14.000 I think it’s a a big important thing 00:09:14.000 –> 00:09:15.000 that people obviously need to do, but talk 00:09:15.000 –> 00:09:16.000 to me about what you get from it, 00:09:16.000 –> 00:09:18.000 what’s your process like, kind of books you 00:09:18.000 –> 00:09:19.000 recommend. 00:09:20.000 –> 00:09:21.000 I just think, you know, I fell in 00:09:21.000 –> 00:09:23.000 love with reading at a young age. I 00:09:23.000 –> 00:09:25.000 mean, in kindergarten, I was reading six grade 00:09:25.000 –> 00:09:27.000 level books and couldn’t couldn’t get enough. I 00:09:27.000 –> 00:09:28.000 just loved reading. 00:09:29.000 –> 00:09:31.000 And then you know, kinda as as school 00:09:31.000 –> 00:09:32.000 tends to do, I was forced to read. 00:09:32.000 –> 00:09:34.000 And so I lost kind of the love 00:09:34.000 –> 00:09:35.000 and and passion for it when I didn’t 00:09:35.000 –> 00:09:37.000 have a have a choice in when I 00:09:37.000 –> 00:09:38.000 was getting to read and when I read 00:09:38.000 –> 00:09:38.000 it. 00:09:39.000 –> 00:09:40.000 But I’d say in the last 10:15 years, 00:09:40.000 –> 00:09:42.000 I’ve just kinda rediscovered that passion. 00:09:43.000 –> 00:09:45.000 It sparks ideas. It’s a good way for 00:09:45.000 –> 00:09:47.000 me to to it’s it’s a weird combination 00:09:47.000 –> 00:09:49.000 of shutting off my brain, but also turning 00:09:49.000 –> 00:09:50.000 on my brain. Right? I can shut it 00:09:50.000 –> 00:09:52.000 off from my day to day and things 00:09:52.000 –> 00:09:52.000 that, 00:09:53.000 –> 00:09:55.000 cause stress or I’m building or need to 00:09:55.000 –> 00:09:57.000 think about, but it allows me think about 00:09:57.000 –> 00:09:59.000 new things, and think about the things I’m 00:09:59.000 –> 00:10:01.000 doing maybe in a in a different way. 00:10:01.000 –> 00:10:03.000 And I just I don’t know who who 00:10:03.000 –> 00:10:05.000 the original quote, where it’s from, but, you 00:10:05.000 –> 00:10:07.000 know, leaders are readers. And I just think 00:10:07.000 –> 00:10:09.000 that’s we we have to be reading. We 00:10:09.000 –> 00:10:11.000 can’t be stagnant just because I know what 00:10:11.000 –> 00:10:12.000 I’m doing in this lane today, 00:10:13.000 –> 00:10:15.000 doesn’t mean I know much about tomorrow or 00:10:15.000 –> 00:10:17.000 these other areas. And so I think trying 00:10:17.000 –> 00:10:19.000 to be well read, and trying to model 00:10:19.000 –> 00:10:20.000 that for my kids. Like, it’s just a 00:10:20.000 –> 00:10:23.000 good way to to slow down. Fortunately so 00:10:23.000 –> 00:10:25.000 far, my kids love reading. My fourteen year 00:10:25.000 –> 00:10:27.000 old, you know, we’ll go to Florida in 00:10:27.000 –> 00:10:28.000 the summer, and it’s probably, I don’t know, 00:10:28.000 –> 00:10:31.000 ten hour drive, twelve hour drive, and he’ll 00:10:31.000 –> 00:10:32.000 he’ll read an entire book, you know, just 00:10:32.000 –> 00:10:33.000 sit in the back of the car. We 00:10:33.000 –> 00:10:35.000 won’t hear from him the whole trip. He’s 00:10:35.000 –> 00:10:36.000 just got his his his head in the 00:10:36.000 –> 00:10:37.000 book. And, 00:10:37.000 –> 00:10:38.000 and, and he loves it. I mean, he 00:10:38.000 –> 00:10:39.000 read one year 00:10:40.000 –> 00:10:43.000 all the Harry Potter books from Christmas to 00:10:43.000 –> 00:10:43.000 February. 00:10:44.000 –> 00:10:47.000 Wow. Just just sat down and and yeah. 00:10:48.000 –> 00:10:49.000 And so I, yeah, I just think it’s 00:10:49.000 –> 00:10:51.000 such a valuable thing and and part of 00:10:51.000 –> 00:10:51.000 it. 00:10:52.000 –> 00:10:53.000 You know, I don’t know if I just 00:10:53.000 –> 00:10:54.000 think this or if this is true, but 00:10:54.000 –> 00:10:56.000 I think as a society in general, we 00:10:56.000 –> 00:10:56.000 don’t read enough. 00:10:57.000 –> 00:10:59.000 Social media doesn’t count. Right? Like, Twitter is 00:10:59.000 –> 00:11:00.000 not reading. 00:11:00.000 –> 00:11:02.000 And and so I think we we just 00:11:02.000 –> 00:11:05.000 kinda lost the the value that the books 00:11:05.000 –> 00:11:07.000 bring historical books, new books, And so I 00:11:07.000 –> 00:11:09.000 I like all topics. That’s probably not fair. 00:11:10.000 –> 00:11:12.000 I love reading leadership books. I love reading 00:11:12.000 –> 00:11:14.000 business books. I love history of getting getting 00:11:14.000 –> 00:11:16.000 more and more into older history books and 00:11:16.000 –> 00:11:19.000 seeing what leaders of the past did. Right? 00:11:19.000 –> 00:11:20.000 There there’s nothing new under the sun. So 00:11:20.000 –> 00:11:22.000 we can come up with with all these 00:11:22.000 –> 00:11:23.000 new leadership books today, but 00:11:24.000 –> 00:11:26.000 what did people do in the early nineteen 00:11:26.000 –> 00:11:28.000 hundreds and the eighteen hundred. Like, what were 00:11:28.000 –> 00:11:30.000 they thinking? Those those principles still matter, you 00:11:30.000 –> 00:11:31.000 know, so so learning from leaders of the 00:11:31.000 –> 00:11:32.000 past. 00:11:32.000 –> 00:11:34.000 Love it. Love it. You got a book 00:11:34.000 –> 00:11:35.000 right there behind you. I can see that 00:11:35.000 –> 00:11:38.000 one right there. Keep keep chopping wood. 00:11:38.000 –> 00:11:40.000 Yep. Right? So tell me about that. 00:11:41.000 –> 00:11:42.000 It was really interesting. 00:11:43.000 –> 00:11:45.000 So kind of the backstory on it. It 00:11:45.000 –> 00:11:48.000 was a Saturday night in January, and and 00:11:48.000 –> 00:11:50.000 it was freezing outside, like snow on the 00:11:50.000 –> 00:11:51.000 ground type freezing. 00:11:52.000 –> 00:11:54.000 And at the time, we lived in about 00:11:54.000 –> 00:11:55.000 a hundred and five year old house in 00:11:55.000 –> 00:11:57.000 downtown Oklahoma City. 00:11:57.000 –> 00:11:59.000 We’ve recently moved, 00:11:59.000 –> 00:12:02.000 just general life advice for anyone listening. Don’t 00:12:02.000 –> 00:12:04.000 move between Christmas and New Year’s. Like, that’s 00:12:04.000 –> 00:12:06.000 a great test of your marriage. 00:12:06.000 –> 00:12:08.000 We passed, thankfully. 00:12:08.000 –> 00:12:10.000 But so at the time we lived in 00:12:10.000 –> 00:12:11.000 a hundred and five year old home, and, 00:12:11.000 –> 00:12:13.000 you know, the windows were 00:12:13.000 –> 00:12:15.000 were less than paper thin. 00:12:15.000 –> 00:12:17.000 And my neighbor had a wood burning fireplace. 00:12:18.000 –> 00:12:19.000 And so we’re sitting there watching TV one 00:12:19.000 –> 00:12:21.000 night, and I can smell his fireplace burning. 00:12:22.000 –> 00:12:24.000 You know, my brain goes weird places, and 00:12:24.000 –> 00:12:27.000 I’m like, wonder? Like, wonder where firewood comes 00:12:27.000 –> 00:12:29.000 from? Like, what’s the process? Like, what how 00:12:29.000 –> 00:12:30.000 does that how does it get from tree 00:12:30.000 –> 00:12:32.000 to fireplace? Like, what does that look like? 00:12:32.000 –> 00:12:34.000 And and so I’ve googled it. Obviously, it’s 00:12:34.000 –> 00:12:37.000 not sound like secret process. I think government 00:12:37.000 –> 00:12:39.000 is not trying to prevent us from knowing 00:12:39.000 –> 00:12:41.000 what this looks like. And so I I 00:12:41.000 –> 00:12:43.000 what I found was 00:12:43.000 –> 00:12:43.000 that 00:12:44.000 –> 00:12:46.000 that the wood my neighbor was burning was 00:12:46.000 –> 00:12:48.000 not from that morning. It wasn’t from earlier 00:12:48.000 –> 00:12:50.000 in the week. That wood goes through this. 00:12:50.000 –> 00:12:52.000 It’s called seasoning, but it’s essentially just drying 00:12:52.000 –> 00:12:54.000 out. Wood has to dry out. It could 00:12:54.000 –> 00:12:56.000 be six, 09:12, fifteen months depending on the 00:12:56.000 –> 00:12:57.000 wood. 00:12:57.000 –> 00:12:59.000 In order for it to be ready for 00:12:59.000 –> 00:13:00.000 the fireplace in order for it to be 00:13:00.000 –> 00:13:03.000 be useful. Same thing if anyone listening, you 00:13:03.000 –> 00:13:04.000 know, you you go camping, well, if you 00:13:04.000 –> 00:13:05.000 try to light what 00:13:06.000 –> 00:13:08.000 firewood or your campsite, it’s not gonna work 00:13:08.000 –> 00:13:09.000 out. So same concept. 00:13:10.000 –> 00:13:11.000 And so I’m like, oh, interesting. Well, that 00:13:11.000 –> 00:13:13.000 means somebody had to be out in, like, 00:13:13.000 –> 00:13:16.000 March getting that firewood. You know, this wasn’t, 00:13:16.000 –> 00:13:17.000 like, earlier this week or earlier in the 00:13:17.000 –> 00:13:19.000 month, or this was months ago when they 00:13:19.000 –> 00:13:22.000 didn’t need it. That’s interesting. And so that 00:13:22.000 –> 00:13:24.000 made me think of culture and leadership and 00:13:24.000 –> 00:13:26.000 this process of of getting better. 00:13:26.000 –> 00:13:28.000 And so I just fired off a tweet 00:13:28.000 –> 00:13:29.000 as I typically do and, 00:13:30.000 –> 00:13:31.000 went to bed. Tell my wife’s, like, I 00:13:31.000 –> 00:13:33.000 think I found the idea of my next 00:13:33.000 –> 00:13:34.000 book. And she’s like, I’m sure you did 00:13:34.000 –> 00:13:36.000 because this is a seven times a week. 00:13:36.000 –> 00:13:38.000 I think I have an idea for a 00:13:38.000 –> 00:13:38.000 new book. 00:13:39.000 –> 00:13:40.000 And and so I woke up and it 00:13:40.000 –> 00:13:42.000 had kinda blown up a little bit. Like, 00:13:42.000 –> 00:13:44.000 okay. Interesting. That that resonated, which that’s a 00:13:44.000 –> 00:13:46.000 lot of what social media is for me 00:13:46.000 –> 00:13:48.000 is just putting out thoughts to see what 00:13:48.000 –> 00:13:49.000 resonates, what connects, 00:13:50.000 –> 00:13:52.000 and that one did. And so then I 00:13:52.000 –> 00:13:53.000 I have a a newsletter that I write 00:13:53.000 –> 00:13:55.000 for leaders every day. 00:13:55.000 –> 00:13:56.000 Used that story 00:13:56.000 –> 00:13:58.000 in my newsletter. So that was on a 00:13:58.000 –> 00:14:00.000 Saturday. Use this the story of my newsletter 00:14:00.000 –> 00:14:02.000 on a Monday. And I don’t usually get 00:14:02.000 –> 00:14:05.000 responses on the newsletter. It’s not designed to 00:14:05.000 –> 00:14:07.000 get responses. It’s just designed to serve people. 00:14:07.000 –> 00:14:09.000 Like, here’s a thought, here’s a thing. And 00:14:09.000 –> 00:14:12.000 I probably got fifty, sixty responses of, and 00:14:12.000 –> 00:14:13.000 I printed this off and gave it to 00:14:13.000 –> 00:14:14.000 my whole team. And I gave this to 00:14:14.000 –> 00:14:16.000 my son. I mean, like, okay. Two for 00:14:16.000 –> 00:14:17.000 two. There’s something there. 00:14:18.000 –> 00:14:20.000 And our office is above a coffee shop 00:14:20.000 –> 00:14:22.000 here in downtown Oklahoma City. And so that 00:14:22.000 –> 00:14:23.000 Tuesday morning came in, 00:14:24.000 –> 00:14:25.000 which the copy shop put some headphones in 00:14:25.000 –> 00:14:28.000 and four hours later, there it was. Wow. 00:14:28.000 –> 00:14:30.000 And that sounds impressive. It’s not it’s, like, 00:14:30.000 –> 00:14:32.000 nine thousand words. It’s not like I wrote 00:14:32.000 –> 00:14:34.000 a forty thousand word novel. It’s nine thousand 00:14:34.000 –> 00:14:36.000 words. You you can read it in about 00:14:36.000 –> 00:14:36.000 thirty minutes. 00:14:37.000 –> 00:14:39.000 But, yeah, still wrote it that that day 00:14:39.000 –> 00:14:41.000 and published it a few months later. That’s 00:14:41.000 –> 00:14:43.000 beautiful. So how many total books have you 00:14:43.000 –> 00:14:43.000 written? 00:14:45.000 –> 00:14:46.000 Three. 00:14:48.000 –> 00:14:50.000 I just finished the fourth. I’ve got a 00:14:50.000 –> 00:14:52.000 new one that I’m I’m working on. But 00:14:52.000 –> 00:14:53.000 I wrote one. So so one of my 00:14:53.000 –> 00:14:56.000 first businesses I started was called Fieldhouse Media, 00:14:56.000 –> 00:14:58.000 and it was doing social media training for 00:14:58.000 –> 00:14:59.000 college athletes and coaches 00:14:59.000 –> 00:15:01.000 And so I wrote a book called eye 00:15:01.000 –> 00:15:03.000 athlete, which is really about helping coaches understand 00:15:03.000 –> 00:15:05.000 this generation of of student athlete. 00:15:06.000 –> 00:15:08.000 Don’t recommend that one. It was more of 00:15:08.000 –> 00:15:10.000 one is terribly, rewritten. But it was more 00:15:10.000 –> 00:15:12.000 of, like, to establish myself as the thought 00:15:12.000 –> 00:15:14.000 leader kind of in that space. 00:15:14.000 –> 00:15:16.000 And then I wrote a book called Leadershipinterrupted, 00:15:17.000 –> 00:15:19.000 which took three hundred and sixty five of 00:15:19.000 –> 00:15:21.000 my daily emails and just kinda put them 00:15:21.000 –> 00:15:23.000 in. It’s almost like leadership devotional style. It’s 00:15:23.000 –> 00:15:24.000 like every day is a thought for for 00:15:24.000 –> 00:15:25.000 leaders. 00:15:25.000 –> 00:15:27.000 And then keep chopping wood. And then I’ve 00:15:27.000 –> 00:15:28.000 got a new one that I’m working on, 00:15:28.000 –> 00:15:30.000 called into the storm about how to deal 00:15:30.000 –> 00:15:31.000 with adversity. 00:15:32.000 –> 00:15:33.000 Love it. Love it. So let’s talk about 00:15:33.000 –> 00:15:35.000 that. How do we deal with adversity? What’s, 00:15:35.000 –> 00:15:37.000 what’s your game plan there? Cause there’s a 00:15:37.000 –> 00:15:38.000 lot of it right now. 00:15:39.000 –> 00:15:41.000 There is. And so I think 00:15:41.000 –> 00:15:44.000 so here, this story, it’s not original story, 00:15:44.000 –> 00:15:46.000 but how I’m how I’m framing is is 00:15:46.000 –> 00:15:48.000 in in an original way. But I was 00:15:48.000 –> 00:15:50.000 at Florida State, a year and a half 00:15:50.000 –> 00:15:50.000 ago, 00:15:51.000 –> 00:15:53.000 and they were introducing the new CEO 00:15:54.000 –> 00:15:56.000 of of seminal boosters. So it’s like their 00:15:56.000 –> 00:15:58.000 fundraising arm kind of for for athletics. It’s 00:15:58.000 –> 00:15:59.000 its own separate organization. 00:16:00.000 –> 00:16:00.000 And 00:16:01.000 –> 00:16:03.000 Steven Ponder, the CEO, he told the story 00:16:03.000 –> 00:16:04.000 of of, 00:16:05.000 –> 00:16:06.000 when storms come over the mountains, like in 00:16:06.000 –> 00:16:08.000 the rocky mountains, they come from the west 00:16:08.000 –> 00:16:10.000 to the east. And he said, what happens 00:16:10.000 –> 00:16:12.000 is cows, they sense storm. They know it’s 00:16:12.000 –> 00:16:14.000 coming and fear sets in. They say, we 00:16:14.000 –> 00:16:15.000 gotta get to safety. We gotta get out 00:16:15.000 –> 00:16:17.000 of here. And so cows turn and run 00:16:17.000 –> 00:16:19.000 east, away from the storm. They wanna get 00:16:19.000 –> 00:16:22.000 away from it. And cows are dumb and 00:16:22.000 –> 00:16:24.000 slow. And so what happens is they get 00:16:24.000 –> 00:16:26.000 stuck in the storm. The frustration, 00:16:27.000 –> 00:16:29.000 the obstacles, the anxiety, the 00:16:29.000 –> 00:16:31.000 fear, their frustration 00:16:31.000 –> 00:16:34.000 until eventually the storm runs out. Right? But 00:16:34.000 –> 00:16:36.000 they’re just going with the storm until eventually 00:16:36.000 –> 00:16:37.000 it passes them because every storm runs out 00:16:37.000 –> 00:16:38.000 of 00:16:38.000 –> 00:16:40.000 And so, but by the time they the 00:16:40.000 –> 00:16:43.000 storm passes, they’ve lost ground. It’s like, wait 00:16:43.000 –> 00:16:45.000 a minute. We were already over here. Now 00:16:45.000 –> 00:16:47.000 we’ve run away. We’ve gotta do all this 00:16:47.000 –> 00:16:49.000 work just to get back to where we 00:16:49.000 –> 00:16:50.000 were. We thought we were getting to safety. 00:16:50.000 –> 00:16:53.000 We actually made things worse, and we prolonged 00:16:53.000 –> 00:16:55.000 our suffering, prolong the frustration, 00:16:55.000 –> 00:16:57.000 prolong the adversity, 00:16:57.000 –> 00:16:59.000 Meanwhile, Bison, 00:16:59.000 –> 00:17:01.000 fun fact, there are no buffalo in North 00:17:01.000 –> 00:17:04.000 America. So Colorado needs a new mascot. 00:17:04.000 –> 00:17:07.000 But bison in in Colorado and in the 00:17:07.000 –> 00:17:09.000 mountains, when the storm comes over, they sense 00:17:09.000 –> 00:17:11.000 it as well. And they say, great. Let’s 00:17:11.000 –> 00:17:13.000 go through it. So instead of running away 00:17:13.000 –> 00:17:15.000 from it, Bison go into the storm. Head 00:17:15.000 –> 00:17:18.000 first, step after step, they make progress. 00:17:18.000 –> 00:17:21.000 They still experience it because you can’t avoid 00:17:21.000 –> 00:17:22.000 the storm. Right? I think most most of 00:17:22.000 –> 00:17:23.000 the issues in life is like we keep 00:17:23.000 –> 00:17:25.000 trying to avoid adversity, and you can’t. It’s 00:17:25.000 –> 00:17:26.000 guaranteed. 00:17:27.000 –> 00:17:29.000 And and when when we accept that, we 00:17:29.000 –> 00:17:31.000 say, okay. If adversity’s gonna hit, I can’t 00:17:31.000 –> 00:17:33.000 choose what it is. I can’t choose, like, 00:17:33.000 –> 00:17:35.000 I don’t know if I’m gonna get sick. 00:17:35.000 –> 00:17:36.000 I don’t know if I’m gonna lose a 00:17:36.000 –> 00:17:38.000 loved one, but I know that adversity is 00:17:38.000 –> 00:17:39.000 gonna come at some point. So if I 00:17:39.000 –> 00:17:42.000 if I expect it, I can mentally be 00:17:42.000 –> 00:17:43.000 prepared for. And I can choose to do 00:17:43.000 –> 00:17:45.000 some hard things along the way in life 00:17:45.000 –> 00:17:46.000 to actually prepare me for the the the 00:17:46.000 –> 00:17:49.000 adversity that shows up. And so they realize, 00:17:49.000 –> 00:17:50.000 like, one, we can’t avoid the adversity and 00:17:50.000 –> 00:17:53.000 two, only way through it is through it. 00:17:53.000 –> 00:17:54.000 And when you just go through it, you 00:17:54.000 –> 00:17:56.000 still experience it. Right? There’s still frustration and 00:17:56.000 –> 00:17:58.000 anxiety and fear and frustration, 00:17:58.000 –> 00:18:00.000 but there’s less of it. Right? The cows 00:18:00.000 –> 00:18:01.000 have this prolonged, 00:18:02.000 –> 00:18:03.000 frustrating experience in adversity. 00:18:04.000 –> 00:18:05.000 The bison just simply get through it because 00:18:05.000 –> 00:18:07.000 they go into it, they get through it. 00:18:07.000 –> 00:18:08.000 And then on the other side of it, 00:18:08.000 –> 00:18:11.000 they’ve made progress. Mhmm. There’d have to be 00:18:11.000 –> 00:18:12.000 a lot of progress. 00:18:12.000 –> 00:18:14.000 Like, baby steps are still progress, but they 00:18:14.000 –> 00:18:16.000 they went through it. And they got better 00:18:16.000 –> 00:18:17.000 in the midst of it. And so that’s 00:18:17.000 –> 00:18:19.000 the general idea. It’s like adversity is gonna 00:18:19.000 –> 00:18:20.000 land on your doorstep at some point, and 00:18:20.000 –> 00:18:23.000 at multiple points in your life. Right? And 00:18:23.000 –> 00:18:24.000 and there could be there’s levels to it. 00:18:24.000 –> 00:18:26.000 It could be very small adversity. It could 00:18:26.000 –> 00:18:27.000 be a major live thing. 00:18:28.000 –> 00:18:30.000 The we have the choice in that moment. 00:18:30.000 –> 00:18:31.000 What do we do with it? We gonna 00:18:31.000 –> 00:18:33.000 let fear take over, run away from it, 00:18:33.000 –> 00:18:35.000 or we say, no. No. The only way 00:18:35.000 –> 00:18:36.000 through this, it’s not gonna be fun. It 00:18:36.000 –> 00:18:38.000 could be messy. It’s gonna be difficult. Like, 00:18:38.000 –> 00:18:39.000 it’s not it’s not saying there’s an easy 00:18:39.000 –> 00:18:42.000 path. But it’s the best path. Yeah. Yeah. 00:18:42.000 –> 00:18:43.000 It’s it’s to your point, I was it 00:18:43.000 –> 00:18:45.000 is gonna show up. Right? And I think 00:18:45.000 –> 00:18:47.000 so many times as we’re growing as leaders. 00:18:47.000 –> 00:18:48.000 We we want it just to be the 00:18:48.000 –> 00:18:51.000 straight line, but, obviously, success doesn’t work that 00:18:51.000 –> 00:18:52.000 way. Right? It’s a really squiggly market, and 00:18:52.000 –> 00:18:54.000 hopefully it ends up higher than where we 00:18:54.000 –> 00:18:56.000 started. But talk about, I I I can 00:18:56.000 –> 00:18:57.000 for me when I was, you know, I 00:18:57.000 –> 00:18:59.000 have a defining moments in my life, you 00:18:59.000 –> 00:19:01.000 know, like my second year as a financial 00:19:01.000 –> 00:19:03.000 advisor, the, you know, these different things that 00:19:03.000 –> 00:19:04.000 happen. 00:19:04.000 –> 00:19:07.000 What what moment for you was this light 00:19:07.000 –> 00:19:09.000 bulb moment? Maybe, like, in tough times, something 00:19:09.000 –> 00:19:10.000 you learned 00:19:11.000 –> 00:19:12.000 that, man, you’re just like, how did I 00:19:12.000 –> 00:19:14.000 not know that before? Any moments like that 00:19:14.000 –> 00:19:16.000 for you to stick out? 00:19:16.000 –> 00:19:18.000 Yeah. There was so year 00:19:20.000 –> 00:19:21.000 probably one, maybe two. 00:19:22.000 –> 00:19:24.000 When I was first starting Fieldhouse Media. So 00:19:24.000 –> 00:19:26.000 I had started another company. It failed miserably. 00:19:26.000 –> 00:19:27.000 It was in the health care world, which 00:19:27.000 –> 00:19:29.000 was my previous background. 00:19:30.000 –> 00:19:32.000 Like, zero dollars in a year failed like, 00:19:32.000 –> 00:19:34.000 so if there’s any any students listening or 00:19:34.000 –> 00:19:36.000 people starting business, like, the goal is to 00:19:36.000 –> 00:19:38.000 make more than zero dollars. Yes. You’ve got 00:19:38.000 –> 00:19:40.000 you’ve got bills to pay. Right? And so 00:19:40.000 –> 00:19:41.000 I I was at zero. 00:19:41.000 –> 00:19:43.000 Like, it was bad enough. Like, I had 00:19:43.000 –> 00:19:45.000 to sell a bicycle to pay a mortgage. 00:19:45.000 –> 00:19:46.000 Like, it was it was not good. 00:19:47.000 –> 00:19:49.000 And then I had this idea for field 00:19:49.000 –> 00:19:50.000 house media. And 00:19:51.000 –> 00:19:52.000 and I went to my wife and, like, 00:19:52.000 –> 00:19:54.000 you know, clearly I’m great at business. 00:19:55.000 –> 00:19:56.000 I think I should start another one. And 00:19:56.000 –> 00:19:58.000 for some reason, she was like, let’s go 00:19:58.000 –> 00:19:59.000 for it. And and we both felt like 00:19:59.000 –> 00:20:01.000 it was the right move But it was 00:20:01.000 –> 00:20:03.000 another year of 00:20:03.000 –> 00:20:04.000 no’s. 00:20:04.000 –> 00:20:06.000 Right? Every day was a no. Every day 00:20:06.000 –> 00:20:08.000 was a failure if if that’s the the 00:20:08.000 –> 00:20:09.000 definition of success if I’m trying to if 00:20:09.000 –> 00:20:10.000 if I’m trying to get a yes, I 00:20:10.000 –> 00:20:11.000 just got no’s. 00:20:12.000 –> 00:20:14.000 And it was I mean, I was depressed. 00:20:14.000 –> 00:20:16.000 I was anxious. I was, like, I’m not 00:20:16.000 –> 00:20:18.000 a huge person. Like, I was losing a 00:20:18.000 –> 00:20:19.000 ton of weight. I wasn’t sleeping. 00:20:20.000 –> 00:20:21.000 It was, like, we found out we were 00:20:21.000 –> 00:20:24.000 pregnant with our second son in that season. 00:20:24.000 –> 00:20:26.000 And my wife cried when we found out 00:20:26.000 –> 00:20:27.000 and not tears of joy. It was like, 00:20:27.000 –> 00:20:29.000 how are we gonna do this? Like, 00:20:29.000 –> 00:20:31.000 and but there was this we we had 00:20:31.000 –> 00:20:34.000 thankfully, you know, some poor mentors around us, 00:20:34.000 –> 00:20:36.000 a community around us, people around us, 00:20:37.000 –> 00:20:39.000 who believed in us, but also believed in 00:20:39.000 –> 00:20:41.000 what we were doing. And so, like, we 00:20:41.000 –> 00:20:43.000 we were having a weekly conversation with my 00:20:43.000 –> 00:20:45.000 wife, and I was like, hey, is this 00:20:45.000 –> 00:20:46.000 still the right path? Do we actually believe 00:20:47.000 –> 00:20:49.000 that this is the right path? Is this 00:20:49.000 –> 00:20:50.000 suffering worth it? 00:20:51.000 –> 00:20:52.000 And so we had to make a choice 00:20:52.000 –> 00:20:54.000 pretty much every week. Is this suffering worth 00:20:54.000 –> 00:20:55.000 it? And, 00:20:56.000 –> 00:20:58.000 what I wish I had known back in, 00:20:58.000 –> 00:21:00.000 and it and it certainly it it worked 00:21:00.000 –> 00:21:01.000 out. What I wish I had known, 00:21:03.000 –> 00:21:04.000 is that even in the midst of choosing 00:21:04.000 –> 00:21:07.000 to continue to enter into it, I wish 00:21:07.000 –> 00:21:09.000 I would have had a better attitude 00:21:09.000 –> 00:21:11.000 when I was, like, when I was actually 00:21:11.000 –> 00:21:13.000 in it. Because there was a lot of, 00:21:13.000 –> 00:21:14.000 like, we’d have the conversation, like, yeah, I 00:21:14.000 –> 00:21:16.000 feel like this is the right thing. Great. 00:21:16.000 –> 00:21:17.000 So I’d go back to work the next 00:21:17.000 –> 00:21:19.000 day and try to keep building. But my 00:21:19.000 –> 00:21:20.000 attitude the whole time was, like, this isn’t 00:21:21.000 –> 00:21:22.000 I was I was actually thinking this isn’t 00:21:22.000 –> 00:21:23.000 worth it. It’s not gonna work. I just 00:21:24.000 –> 00:21:26.000 I’ve I’ve come so negative, 00:21:27.000 –> 00:21:29.000 and so beaten down, I just didn’t I 00:21:29.000 –> 00:21:30.000 didn’t think it was gonna work even though 00:21:30.000 –> 00:21:32.000 I’ve I was trying to convince myself 00:21:32.000 –> 00:21:35.000 I wish I would’ve, had a better attitude, 00:21:35.000 –> 00:21:36.000 and I wish I would’ve, 00:21:36.000 –> 00:21:38.000 we had good community around us, but I 00:21:38.000 –> 00:21:40.000 wish I would’ve leaned more into that community. 00:21:41.000 –> 00:21:43.000 That’s part of the the new books, like, 00:21:43.000 –> 00:21:45.000 the power of your herd. Like, the people 00:21:45.000 –> 00:21:46.000 around you dictate your future. 00:21:47.000 –> 00:21:49.000 And I had the people around me, 00:21:49.000 –> 00:21:52.000 in my future, worked out okay, probably accidentally, 00:21:52.000 –> 00:21:54.000 which is just not how you want it 00:21:54.000 –> 00:21:55.000 to work out. 00:21:55.000 –> 00:21:57.000 It could have been better faster if I 00:21:57.000 –> 00:21:58.000 had actually leaned into the power of the 00:21:58.000 –> 00:22:01.000 people around me, because they were they wanted 00:22:01.000 –> 00:22:03.000 to pour in. They wanted to do whatever. 00:22:03.000 –> 00:22:05.000 And I was prideful in the midst of 00:22:05.000 –> 00:22:07.000 it saying, you know, I can I can 00:22:07.000 –> 00:22:08.000 do this on my own? And I and 00:22:08.000 –> 00:22:10.000 I didn’t because you never do it alone, 00:22:10.000 –> 00:22:12.000 but I wish I’d I wish I understood 00:22:12.000 –> 00:22:14.000 the power of the herd earlier on. Yep. 00:22:14.000 –> 00:22:17.000 It is so powerful, so powerful. And so 00:22:17.000 –> 00:22:19.000 thinking about that, I 00:22:20.000 –> 00:22:22.000 I read this quote recently that really hit 00:22:22.000 –> 00:22:24.000 me, and it was it said, you know, 00:22:24.000 –> 00:22:26.000 make decisions based on your knowledge, 00:22:26.000 –> 00:22:28.000 not on your emotion. 00:22:28.000 –> 00:22:30.000 Right? Yep. So it’s easy to say I 00:22:30.000 –> 00:22:32.000 wanna go to the gym and base it 00:22:32.000 –> 00:22:33.000 on knowledge, but there’s days you don’t wanna 00:22:33.000 –> 00:22:35.000 do it. Right? So what have you found 00:22:35.000 –> 00:22:37.000 yourself Gilliland, you know, these other leaders and 00:22:37.000 –> 00:22:40.000 these coaches and athletic directors and all the 00:22:40.000 –> 00:22:41.000 people you’re around, 00:22:41.000 –> 00:22:42.000 what do you find 00:22:42.000 –> 00:22:45.000 is is that thing, right, that gets them 00:22:45.000 –> 00:22:47.000 going to the, quote, unquote, gym, what it 00:22:47.000 –> 00:22:49.000 may be. What is that thing that helps 00:22:49.000 –> 00:22:52.000 them base their decision on knowledge? 00:22:53.000 –> 00:22:54.000 Yeah. I think for me, 00:22:55.000 –> 00:22:56.000 it’s honoring your commitments. 00:22:57.000 –> 00:22:59.000 Meaning if I committed to doing it yesterday, 00:23:00.000 –> 00:23:01.000 it doesn’t matter how I feel today. 00:23:02.000 –> 00:23:04.000 So I I’ve lately, I’ve been phrasing it 00:23:04.000 –> 00:23:05.000 kind of that way. It’s like, I wanna 00:23:05.000 –> 00:23:07.000 honor yesterday’s commit not today’s feelings. 00:23:08.000 –> 00:23:10.000 Because I it’s your point. I’m not gonna 00:23:10.000 –> 00:23:11.000 feel like it all the time, and nobody 00:23:11.000 –> 00:23:13.000 does. And I and I think that’s the 00:23:13.000 –> 00:23:15.000 biggest thing is is when I when I 00:23:15.000 –> 00:23:17.000 talk to young people today, whether that’s college 00:23:17.000 –> 00:23:19.000 students or or young professionals, 00:23:20.000 –> 00:23:21.000 a lot of it is how they feel. 00:23:22.000 –> 00:23:24.000 I’m like Yep. I’m not trying to be 00:23:24.000 –> 00:23:26.000 dismissive, but I just don’t really care. How 00:23:26.000 –> 00:23:28.000 you feel like we all have days. We 00:23:28.000 –> 00:23:29.000 don’t feel like it. This is part of 00:23:29.000 –> 00:23:31.000 life doesn’t mean you have a bad boss, 00:23:31.000 –> 00:23:32.000 doesn’t mean you have a bad team, doesn’t 00:23:32.000 –> 00:23:34.000 mean you’re in the wrong job. It just 00:23:34.000 –> 00:23:36.000 means that life is hard some days, and 00:23:36.000 –> 00:23:38.000 we don’t always feel like it. And and 00:23:38.000 –> 00:23:40.000 who you actually are, is determined by how 00:23:40.000 –> 00:23:42.000 you show up when you don’t feel like 00:23:42.000 –> 00:23:43.000 it. Because if if we all just showed 00:23:43.000 –> 00:23:44.000 up when we when we felt like it, 00:23:44.000 –> 00:23:46.000 we would make zero progress. 00:23:46.000 –> 00:23:48.000 Right. And but if I can, you know, 00:23:48.000 –> 00:23:51.000 I’ve I’ve been really consistent, and I’m not 00:23:51.000 –> 00:23:52.000 a disciplined person, 00:23:52.000 –> 00:23:54.000 but I’ve trained myself to be disciplined. Right? 00:23:54.000 –> 00:23:56.000 It’s not a personality trait. It’s it’s a 00:23:56.000 –> 00:23:58.000 Gilliland 00:23:58.000 –> 00:24:00.000 so I’ve I found that when I when 00:24:00.000 –> 00:24:00.000 I 00:24:01.000 –> 00:24:02.000 live my live my commitments, 00:24:04.000 –> 00:24:05.000 the the more I choose it the easier 00:24:05.000 –> 00:24:06.000 it gets. 00:24:07.000 –> 00:24:07.000 Meaning, 00:24:08.000 –> 00:24:09.000 so I’ve I’ve worked out, 00:24:10.000 –> 00:24:12.000 every day now for over three hundred and 00:24:12.000 –> 00:24:13.000 sixty five days. 00:24:14.000 –> 00:24:15.000 And and I just do it at my 00:24:15.000 –> 00:24:18.000 house. Like Yep. I’m I’m big on eliminating 00:24:18.000 –> 00:24:20.000 as many barriers as possible. It’s like, man, 00:24:20.000 –> 00:24:21.000 I don’t wanna wake up and get on 00:24:21.000 –> 00:24:22.000 gym clothes and drive to the gym and 00:24:22.000 –> 00:24:24.000 deal that and drive home. Okay. Can you 00:24:24.000 –> 00:24:26.000 do something in your house? 00:24:26.000 –> 00:24:27.000 You know, what can you do it? Like, 00:24:27.000 –> 00:24:29.000 go start simple, then you can then you 00:24:29.000 –> 00:24:30.000 can add to it if you want to. 00:24:31.000 –> 00:24:34.000 Yeah. But early on, it was not fun 00:24:34.000 –> 00:24:36.000 always. I didn’t always look forward to it. 00:24:36.000 –> 00:24:37.000 Some days, I wake up, and I’m sore 00:24:37.000 –> 00:24:40.000 from the previous day. Or I’ve traveled or 00:24:40.000 –> 00:24:42.000 there’s all sorts of excuses I can make. 00:24:42.000 –> 00:24:43.000 Well, I’ll just take the day off. And 00:24:43.000 –> 00:24:45.000 rest is great. Like, it’s okay to take 00:24:45.000 –> 00:24:45.000 days off. 00:24:46.000 –> 00:24:47.000 But 00:24:47.000 –> 00:24:48.000 I just had to say no. No. I 00:24:48.000 –> 00:24:50.000 yesterday, I said I was gonna do it 00:24:50.000 –> 00:24:51.000 today. So I’m gonna I’m gonna honor that 00:24:51.000 –> 00:24:52.000 commitment. And the more I choose it, the 00:24:52.000 –> 00:24:54.000 less I have to choose it. Right? The 00:24:54.000 –> 00:24:56.000 more I choose it, the more it starts 00:24:56.000 –> 00:24:58.000 to become automatic. And so now I don’t 00:24:58.000 –> 00:25:00.000 wake up and negotiate with myself. It’s like, 00:25:00.000 –> 00:25:02.000 alright. And I walk walk to the room 00:25:02.000 –> 00:25:03.000 where I get my workin’ in. It’s like, 00:25:03.000 –> 00:25:05.000 it’s just just what I do. And so 00:25:05.000 –> 00:25:06.000 I think 00:25:06.000 –> 00:25:08.000 for leaders, it’s it’s one, it’s choosing to 00:25:08.000 –> 00:25:09.000 live your commitments. 00:25:10.000 –> 00:25:12.000 But two, also having a reason for why 00:25:12.000 –> 00:25:14.000 you’re doing it. Like, I’m not I’m not 00:25:14.000 –> 00:25:15.000 working out to be a body builder. 00:25:16.000 –> 00:25:17.000 To climb mount everest, to run a like, 00:25:17.000 –> 00:25:19.000 I’m working out to be healthy as a 00:25:19.000 –> 00:25:21.000 leader, as an entrepreneur, 00:25:21.000 –> 00:25:23.000 as a dad, as a husband, Like, there’s 00:25:23.000 –> 00:25:25.000 a there’s a why that makes me want 00:25:25.000 –> 00:25:26.000 to get up every morning and do those 00:25:26.000 –> 00:25:28.000 things. And I don’t always remember that why. 00:25:29.000 –> 00:25:30.000 And and somebody said, and I do the 00:25:30.000 –> 00:25:32.000 same thing. And faith is a big deal 00:25:32.000 –> 00:25:33.000 for me. Youversion is an app that I 00:25:33.000 –> 00:25:34.000 use. 00:25:35.000 –> 00:25:37.000 I’ve been in it every day 00:25:38.000 –> 00:25:40.000 for one thousand three hundred and seventy four 00:25:40.000 –> 00:25:42.000 straight days. And so we’d like to start 00:25:42.000 –> 00:25:44.000 just going through the motions some days. Yep. 00:25:44.000 –> 00:25:45.000 Just a Bible app. 00:25:46.000 –> 00:25:47.000 Oh, yeah. Yeah. And they’ve got these little, 00:25:47.000 –> 00:25:48.000 you know, short short devotionals. 00:25:49.000 –> 00:25:51.000 But people are like, why don’t you just 00:25:51.000 –> 00:25:53.000 go through the motions some days? Yep. But 00:25:53.000 –> 00:25:54.000 I’d rather go through the motions the on 00:25:54.000 –> 00:25:56.000 doing the right things than do nothing. You 00:25:56.000 –> 00:25:57.000 know? So I’m okay with just going through 00:25:57.000 –> 00:25:59.000 the motions someday. That that’s okay. 00:26:00.000 –> 00:26:01.000 But I’ve just found the more 00:26:02.000 –> 00:26:04.000 I think the two things I’ll I’ll try 00:26:04.000 –> 00:26:06.000 to create is confidence and momentum. 00:26:07.000 –> 00:26:09.000 Meaning, if I do it today, 00:26:09.000 –> 00:26:11.000 that fear is gonna kick in tomorrow. You 00:26:11.000 –> 00:26:12.000 can’t do this today. You can’t work out 00:26:12.000 –> 00:26:14.000 today. You’re tired. You travel me. No. No. 00:26:14.000 –> 00:26:16.000 I did it yesterday. I actually know that 00:26:16.000 –> 00:26:17.000 I can do it. I have proof that 00:26:17.000 –> 00:26:18.000 I can do it. I have confidence because 00:26:18.000 –> 00:26:20.000 I did it yesterday. Which allows me to 00:26:20.000 –> 00:26:22.000 do it today. Once you get to stack 00:26:22.000 –> 00:26:23.000 two or three, four, five days in a 00:26:23.000 –> 00:26:25.000 row, I know you have confidence. Now you 00:26:25.000 –> 00:26:27.000 also have momentum. And those things can carry 00:26:27.000 –> 00:26:29.000 you through to some powerful places. Yep. So 00:26:29.000 –> 00:26:31.000 what kind of exercises are you doing these 00:26:31.000 –> 00:26:32.000 days? 00:26:32.000 –> 00:26:33.000 So I’ve shifted. 00:26:34.000 –> 00:26:36.000 So for most of the last year, it 00:26:36.000 –> 00:26:38.000 was some variation. Like, I’d just get up 00:26:38.000 –> 00:26:39.000 and I would do, like, 00:26:40.000 –> 00:26:42.000 push ups. I’d do curls. I’d do some 00:26:42.000 –> 00:26:45.000 tricep stuff. I’d do some some, crunches, some 00:26:45.000 –> 00:26:47.000 ab work. Just very basic. 00:26:47.000 –> 00:26:50.000 The last fifty days I think I’m actually 00:26:50.000 –> 00:26:52.000 fifty days in. Let me check my phone 00:26:52.000 –> 00:26:53.000 to make sure this I’m not lying to 00:26:53.000 –> 00:26:55.000 you. But I I 00:26:55.000 –> 00:26:57.000 signed up for an app called, 00:26:58.000 –> 00:26:59.000 ladder. 00:27:00.000 –> 00:27:01.000 Fifty 00:27:01.000 –> 00:27:04.000 one days. Sorry. Fifty fifty one days. 00:27:05.000 –> 00:27:05.000 And 00:27:06.000 –> 00:27:08.000 so you go in, and I I wanna 00:27:08.000 –> 00:27:10.000 say it’s twenty, maybe thirty bucks a month. 00:27:10.000 –> 00:27:11.000 I hate going to the gym. Like, I 00:27:11.000 –> 00:27:13.000 love working out. I hate going to the 00:27:13.000 –> 00:27:16.000 gym. It’s just not alright. I hate the 00:27:16.000 –> 00:27:17.000 process. I actually like being at the gym, 00:27:17.000 –> 00:27:19.000 but the whole process of it is just 00:27:19.000 –> 00:27:19.000 not convenient. 00:27:20.000 –> 00:27:23.000 For for my life. And so ladder, you 00:27:23.000 –> 00:27:24.000 go in and you say, what kind of 00:27:24.000 –> 00:27:26.000 workouts do you like to do, or what 00:27:26.000 –> 00:27:27.000 type of equipment do you like to use 00:27:28.000 –> 00:27:29.000 Where do you like to work out? How 00:27:29.000 –> 00:27:31.000 long do you like to work out? What 00:27:31.000 –> 00:27:31.000 are your goals? 00:27:32.000 –> 00:27:34.000 And it assigns you a coach or it’s 00:27:34.000 –> 00:27:36.000 a here here’s two or three coaches who 00:27:36.000 –> 00:27:37.000 could who could work for you. And you 00:27:37.000 –> 00:27:39.000 look at their program and you sign up 00:27:39.000 –> 00:27:41.000 and they drop in every Sunday night, they 00:27:41.000 –> 00:27:43.000 drop in seven workouts. So a workout for 00:27:43.000 –> 00:27:45.000 every day of the week. So I am 00:27:45.000 –> 00:27:47.000 really big right now on kettlebells. 00:27:48.000 –> 00:27:50.000 And so forty five usually it’s about forty 00:27:50.000 –> 00:27:52.000 to forty five minutes, each morning. 00:27:52.000 –> 00:27:54.000 And I just go in and they’ve got 00:27:54.000 –> 00:27:55.000 the plan right there. Like, I don’t have 00:27:55.000 –> 00:27:57.000 to leave my house. I’ve I bought, you 00:27:57.000 –> 00:27:58.000 know, have her mini kettle bells. 00:27:59.000 –> 00:28:00.000 My wife’s, like, we we got more. I’m 00:28:00.000 –> 00:28:02.000 like, sorry. I got stronger. I have to 00:28:02.000 –> 00:28:03.000 I have to get some more. How can 00:28:03.000 –> 00:28:04.000 I keep upgrading? 00:28:05.000 –> 00:28:07.000 It’s like, I have, like, every few weeks, 00:28:07.000 –> 00:28:09.000 like, a that another cap? Yeah. It is. 00:28:09.000 –> 00:28:10.000 It is. 00:28:10.000 –> 00:28:12.000 But it’s but I love it. It’s, like, 00:28:12.000 –> 00:28:12.000 it’s really challenging. 00:28:13.000 –> 00:28:14.000 It’s 00:28:15.000 –> 00:28:18.000 notice a difference in my energy and confidence. 00:28:18.000 –> 00:28:20.000 So I I love it. It’s a it’s 00:28:20.000 –> 00:28:22.000 a essentially a coaching platform that keeps you 00:28:22.000 –> 00:28:24.000 again, and I love tracking things. 00:28:24.000 –> 00:28:26.000 I’ve learned that keeps me accountable. So there’s 00:28:26.000 –> 00:28:28.000 a tracker, like, your workouts and all this 00:28:28.000 –> 00:28:29.000 stuff. 00:28:29.000 –> 00:28:31.000 But it’s great. Just that and I can 00:28:31.000 –> 00:28:33.000 do I can add a speaking engagement in 00:28:33.000 –> 00:28:34.000 Dallas a few weeks I load it up, 00:28:34.000 –> 00:28:36.000 and it’s three hour drive. So I just 00:28:36.000 –> 00:28:38.000 drove, took a kettlebell with me in the 00:28:38.000 –> 00:28:39.000 hotel room. You know, I can I can 00:28:39.000 –> 00:28:41.000 do it? And so that’s why I like 00:28:41.000 –> 00:28:43.000 to create systems and things that I can 00:28:43.000 –> 00:28:45.000 do at home or on the road. Yep. 00:28:45.000 –> 00:28:47.000 Love it. Yeah. It’s it’s nice to have 00:28:47.000 –> 00:28:49.000 the apps, and it because for me, I 00:28:49.000 –> 00:28:50.000 don’t know what to do when I get 00:28:50.000 –> 00:28:51.000 into the gym. You know, it’s like, okay. 00:28:51.000 –> 00:28:53.000 Let’s work on this thing. I’m like, well, 00:28:53.000 –> 00:28:55.000 I don’t know what all that actually does. 00:28:55.000 –> 00:28:57.000 So firm myself than just not doing it. 00:28:57.000 –> 00:28:59.000 But so I used the Peloton app, and 00:28:59.000 –> 00:29:01.000 then they’re, you know, rower and tread and 00:29:01.000 –> 00:29:03.000 all that stuff, the bike. And then, and 00:29:03.000 –> 00:29:05.000 then an app called Better Me I just 00:29:05.000 –> 00:29:07.000 found. It’s, same kind of thing. They ask 00:29:07.000 –> 00:29:08.000 you a lot of goals. I’ve seen that. 00:29:08.000 –> 00:29:10.000 Yeah. Yeah. It was one of those that 00:29:10.000 –> 00:29:12.000 shows up on my Instagram feed nonstop, and 00:29:12.000 –> 00:29:14.000 they don’t finally, I’ll tap out and buy 00:29:14.000 –> 00:29:15.000 it for That’s right. That’s right. Yeah. It 00:29:15.000 –> 00:29:17.000 was a hundred dollars. That’s exactly a letter. 00:29:17.000 –> 00:29:19.000 I said no. And the next thing you 00:29:19.000 –> 00:29:20.000 know, then like fifty dollars. And then it 00:29:20.000 –> 00:29:23.000 was twelve dollars for, you know, twelve weeks 00:29:23.000 –> 00:29:25.000 or whatever. I’m like, alright, whatever. Just a 00:29:25.000 –> 00:29:26.000 buy for twelve bucks just to not see 00:29:26.000 –> 00:29:29.000 the damn feature. One. Yeah. That’s right. Exactly 00:29:29.000 –> 00:29:30.000 right. That was exactly the same thing with 00:29:30.000 –> 00:29:32.000 ladder. Like, fine. Yeah. 00:29:32.000 –> 00:29:34.000 I’ll I’ll give in. I did that with 00:29:34.000 –> 00:29:35.000 ladder. I did it with athletic greens. It’s 00:29:35.000 –> 00:29:38.000 like trying to be healthier wasting food stuff 00:29:38.000 –> 00:29:38.000 and, 00:29:39.000 –> 00:29:40.000 with the diet part as well. And it’s 00:29:40.000 –> 00:29:42.000 just, yeah, I’m social media man. Get this 00:29:42.000 –> 00:29:43.000 every time. 00:29:43.000 –> 00:29:45.000 Well, athletic greens is showing up all the 00:29:45.000 –> 00:29:46.000 time too. Do you like it? 00:29:47.000 –> 00:29:49.000 So here’s my take on athletic greens. 00:29:50.000 –> 00:29:51.000 One, it’s good. 00:29:52.000 –> 00:29:54.000 I will just say, for the sake of 00:29:54.000 –> 00:29:56.000 people listening, it just destroyed my stomach 00:29:56.000 –> 00:29:58.000 Okay. I mean, like, I felt like I 00:29:58.000 –> 00:30:00.000 was under threat all the all day every 00:30:00.000 –> 00:30:02.000 day that anything could go wrong at at 00:30:02.000 –> 00:30:03.000 any given point. Yeah. 00:30:04.000 –> 00:30:06.000 And which part that’s of it, like, it’s 00:30:06.000 –> 00:30:07.000 a part of it as a probiotic. And 00:30:07.000 –> 00:30:09.000 so it’s it’s messing with you a little 00:30:09.000 –> 00:30:09.000 bit. 00:30:10.000 –> 00:30:13.000 I went to the head nutritionist at o 00:30:13.000 –> 00:30:15.000 u. Said, hey, I’m taking this. Do you 00:30:15.000 –> 00:30:17.000 is is it good? Do you recommend anything 00:30:17.000 –> 00:30:17.000 else? 00:30:18.000 –> 00:30:20.000 She directed me to something called Heart Greens 00:30:20.000 –> 00:30:22.000 by a company called Human, h u m 00:30:22.000 –> 00:30:23.000 a n n. 00:30:24.000 –> 00:30:26.000 And it’s, like, a third of the price 00:30:26.000 –> 00:30:28.000 about that at greens. Yeah. And it’s great. 00:30:28.000 –> 00:30:29.000 And I’ve had had no issues. 00:30:30.000 –> 00:30:32.000 Yeah, heart greens by human. 00:30:32.000 –> 00:30:34.000 Okay. I’ll write that one down. I gotta 00:30:34.000 –> 00:30:36.000 punch that. Yeah. I do green juice from 00:30:36.000 –> 00:30:38.000 our local grocery store every day. So we’ll 00:30:38.000 –> 00:30:40.000 get the kale and parsley and all that 00:30:40.000 –> 00:30:41.000 stuff. So it’s good for you. 00:30:42.000 –> 00:30:43.000 Yeah. So how do you stay a student 00:30:43.000 –> 00:30:45.000 of the game? And, obviously, you know, people 00:30:45.000 –> 00:30:46.000 are coming to you for advice. So you 00:30:46.000 –> 00:30:48.000 gotta keep learning and keep training and keep 00:30:48.000 –> 00:30:50.000 your mind So how do you personally stay 00:30:50.000 –> 00:30:52.000 a student in the game? 00:30:53.000 –> 00:30:54.000 Try to read and observe as much as 00:30:54.000 –> 00:30:57.000 possible. Like, I’m I’ve had to train myself 00:30:57.000 –> 00:30:59.000 because I used to wonder probably 10:15 years 00:30:59.000 –> 00:31:01.000 ago, and I’d follow other speakers 00:31:01.000 –> 00:31:04.000 or experts or authorities on whatever topic. Like, 00:31:04.000 –> 00:31:05.000 where did they come up with these stories? 00:31:05.000 –> 00:31:07.000 Like, what in the and I just realized 00:31:07.000 –> 00:31:09.000 they’re just paying attention to life. They just 00:31:09.000 –> 00:31:11.000 choose to be observant about whether it’s their 00:31:11.000 –> 00:31:14.000 kid’s basketball game or a road trip, 00:31:14.000 –> 00:31:16.000 or something with their friends or at the 00:31:16.000 –> 00:31:19.000 grocery store. They’re observing human behavior. 00:31:20.000 –> 00:31:21.000 And so I’ve it’s it it was a 00:31:21.000 –> 00:31:23.000 a challenge to me because my my mind 00:31:23.000 –> 00:31:25.000 is usually always in the clouds. Like, it’s 00:31:25.000 –> 00:31:27.000 it’s I’m always thinking of different things, and 00:31:27.000 –> 00:31:29.000 I’m not I’m usually I struggle to be 00:31:29.000 –> 00:31:30.000 wherever I am, right, to be present. 00:31:31.000 –> 00:31:33.000 And so I’ve tried to train myself to 00:31:33.000 –> 00:31:33.000 just be aware 00:31:34.000 –> 00:31:36.000 of what’s happening in the day to day 00:31:36.000 –> 00:31:38.000 moments, which is doing that daily newsletter has 00:31:38.000 –> 00:31:39.000 been a really good. 00:31:40.000 –> 00:31:42.000 It’s forced me to be aware because I’ve 00:31:42.000 –> 00:31:44.000 gotta have a story every day from from 00:31:44.000 –> 00:31:46.000 somewhere, you know. Yep. So I think just 00:31:46.000 –> 00:31:48.000 observing people, trying to be present, 00:31:48.000 –> 00:31:50.000 trying to ask a lot of questions of 00:31:50.000 –> 00:31:52.000 people. And I think I try to follow, 00:31:53.000 –> 00:31:55.000 say the right people, but interesting people on 00:31:55.000 –> 00:31:57.000 social media. So, yeah, I’ve got my sports 00:31:57.000 –> 00:31:59.000 feed, but I also wanna follow leaders from 00:31:59.000 –> 00:32:01.000 a variety of areas 00:32:02.000 –> 00:32:03.000 because that that’s the beauty of me for 00:32:03.000 –> 00:32:04.000 social media. It’s like, I can learn from 00:32:04.000 –> 00:32:06.000 some of the best leaders on the planet 00:32:06.000 –> 00:32:08.000 because they’re sharing their stories, their wisdom for 00:32:08.000 –> 00:32:10.000 free. You know, you’re getting a master class 00:32:10.000 –> 00:32:12.000 from these people. I think trying to trying 00:32:12.000 –> 00:32:13.000 to follow business leaders, 00:32:14.000 –> 00:32:16.000 certain industry leaders on social media, not honestly, 00:32:16.000 –> 00:32:18.000 read the right books, but but read books 00:32:18.000 –> 00:32:19.000 that are, 00:32:20.000 –> 00:32:22.000 that that provide unique perspective. 00:32:22.000 –> 00:32:25.000 Yeah. Who any go to leaders you’d recommend 00:32:25.000 –> 00:32:27.000 following and put out some good content? 00:32:27.000 –> 00:32:29.000 Oh gosh. I knew you were gonna ask 00:32:29.000 –> 00:32:29.000 that. 00:32:30.000 –> 00:32:33.000 I think besides you, of course. Yeah. 00:32:33.000 –> 00:32:36.000 I think Mark Cuban is a fascinating follow. 00:32:37.000 –> 00:32:38.000 On We think we think his deal. What’s 00:32:38.000 –> 00:32:40.000 his next play? So if I’m I’m getting 00:32:40.000 –> 00:32:42.000 off Shark Tank. I’m selling part of the 00:32:42.000 –> 00:32:44.000 was it fifty seven percent of the Mavericks. 00:32:45.000 –> 00:32:47.000 What’s the next play? 00:32:47.000 –> 00:32:49.000 And I I saw where he told someone 00:32:49.000 –> 00:32:52.000 he’s not gonna run for political office, 00:32:52.000 –> 00:32:54.000 but I bet he runs for political office. 00:32:54.000 –> 00:32:56.000 Yeah. That’s I’ve said that too. Or or 00:32:56.000 –> 00:32:59.000 something something in that realm because it just 00:32:59.000 –> 00:33:00.000 doesn’t make sense. I mean, 00:33:01.000 –> 00:33:03.000 you know, guys like that could always start 00:33:03.000 –> 00:33:05.000 any kind of, you know, they could start 00:33:05.000 –> 00:33:06.000 a business tomorrow, do whatever they want. But 00:33:06.000 –> 00:33:08.000 he’s because he’s got that, 00:33:08.000 –> 00:33:10.000 some kind of health care prescription thing that 00:33:10.000 –> 00:33:12.000 he’s doing as well, trying to create low 00:33:12.000 –> 00:33:14.000 cost prescriptions for people. 00:33:15.000 –> 00:33:16.000 But I would I would guess that that 00:33:16.000 –> 00:33:19.000 he’s he’s gonna run for something or get 00:33:19.000 –> 00:33:22.000 involved and in politics in in some way, 00:33:22.000 –> 00:33:23.000 shape, or form. Yeah. 00:33:24.000 –> 00:33:27.000 Yeah. He’s always an interesting one. I love 00:33:27.000 –> 00:33:28.000 following tech entrepreneurs. 00:33:30.000 –> 00:33:31.000 Like, I named David Sachs that I that 00:33:31.000 –> 00:33:32.000 I enjoy following. 00:33:35.000 –> 00:33:37.000 I love I love following journalists. Like, the 00:33:37.000 –> 00:33:40.000 media is just a fascinating industry. For me. 00:33:41.000 –> 00:33:43.000 I shouldn’t say journalists. I should say media 00:33:43.000 –> 00:33:45.000 personalities, like people who comment on the media. 00:33:46.000 –> 00:33:47.000 Maybe they’re a part of it, but they’re 00:33:47.000 –> 00:33:49.000 not just writing journalism pieces, but they like 00:33:49.000 –> 00:33:50.000 to comment on the state of of the 00:33:50.000 –> 00:33:51.000 media. 00:33:51.000 –> 00:33:53.000 I think the world’s just it’s an interesting 00:33:53.000 –> 00:33:54.000 place, you know. 00:33:55.000 –> 00:33:57.000 There’s there’s a lot. And I and I 00:33:57.000 –> 00:33:59.000 try to follow people I don’t agree with. 00:34:00.000 –> 00:34:02.000 And just to get to always have a 00:34:02.000 –> 00:34:04.000 different perspective. I think part of social media 00:34:04.000 –> 00:34:04.000 is they can easily be an echo chamber 00:34:04.000 –> 00:34:04.000 of, people reinforcing what you already 00:34:07.000 –> 00:34:09.000 think. As long as people are respectful, 00:34:10.000 –> 00:34:12.000 I always wanna follow-up with people who have 00:34:12.000 –> 00:34:14.000 a different opinion, different perspective, come at it 00:34:14.000 –> 00:34:15.000 from a different side. 00:34:16.000 –> 00:34:17.000 Now if they’re gonna, you know, scream and 00:34:17.000 –> 00:34:18.000 yell call people names, like, well, that’s not 00:34:18.000 –> 00:34:20.000 necessary. But I like to I like to 00:34:20.000 –> 00:34:22.000 follow people that I don’t necessarily agree with 00:34:22.000 –> 00:34:24.000 as well. You know, get a little get 00:34:24.000 –> 00:34:25.000 a counter intuitive, 00:34:26.000 –> 00:34:27.000 stuff here that we’re we’re one of the 00:34:27.000 –> 00:34:29.000 questions I was gonna ask you is what 00:34:29.000 –> 00:34:32.000 is something that’s counter intuitive to anybody else 00:34:32.000 –> 00:34:34.000 would believe, but you know that it works, 00:34:34.000 –> 00:34:36.000 and you and you believe it to your 00:34:36.000 –> 00:34:37.000 core. Is there anything that comes to mind 00:34:37.000 –> 00:34:38.000 for you? 00:34:41.000 –> 00:34:43.000 That was a great question. How do I 00:34:43.000 –> 00:34:45.000 actually wanna answer that? 00:34:49.000 –> 00:34:51.000 This shouldn’t be an answer to that question, 00:34:51.000 –> 00:34:53.000 but I think in twenty twenty three, twenty 00:34:53.000 –> 00:34:54.000 twenty four, it is, is 00:34:55.000 –> 00:34:56.000 that 00:34:57.000 –> 00:34:58.000 hard work will get you most of what 00:34:58.000 –> 00:34:59.000 you want. 00:34:59.000 –> 00:35:00.000 I’ve 00:35:00.000 –> 00:35:02.000 I think in today’s world, we just think 00:35:02.000 –> 00:35:03.000 things are gonna be handed to us and 00:35:03.000 –> 00:35:05.000 that we can do average work. 00:35:05.000 –> 00:35:08.000 And I give average effort and expect great 00:35:08.000 –> 00:35:11.000 things. And I think if if you want 00:35:11.000 –> 00:35:13.000 more, you actually have to do more. And 00:35:13.000 –> 00:35:13.000 that’s not 00:35:14.000 –> 00:35:16.000 you know, I’m not saying to buy into 00:35:16.000 –> 00:35:17.000 the hustle culture. I’m not saying you gotta 00:35:17.000 –> 00:35:19.000 do seventy, eighty hours a week. That’s, you 00:35:19.000 –> 00:35:21.000 know, that’s a great great way to to 00:35:21.000 –> 00:35:23.000 live a life of burnout. But, you know, 00:35:23.000 –> 00:35:24.000 if you if you think of, you know, 00:35:24.000 –> 00:35:26.000 my fourteen year old 00:35:26.000 –> 00:35:27.000 freshman basketball team, 00:35:28.000 –> 00:35:30.000 like, hey, if if you wanna get better, 00:35:30.000 –> 00:35:32.000 you have to practice when other people don’t. 00:35:33.000 –> 00:35:35.000 You practice every day when the team practices. 00:35:35.000 –> 00:35:37.000 That means you’re getting better at the same 00:35:37.000 –> 00:35:39.000 rate, generally speaking, the same rate of improvement 00:35:39.000 –> 00:35:41.000 as everybody else on the team. Well, if 00:35:41.000 –> 00:35:43.000 this guy is better than you and you’re 00:35:43.000 –> 00:35:45.000 practicing the same amount, he’s always gonna be 00:35:45.000 –> 00:35:46.000 better than you. But what if you came 00:35:46.000 –> 00:35:49.000 home and got in fifteen minutes? Fifteen minutes 00:35:49.000 –> 00:35:49.000 a day. 00:35:50.000 –> 00:35:52.000 Yep. That’s ninety one hours a year. How 00:35:53.000 –> 00:35:54.000 what what kind of difference would that make 00:35:54.000 –> 00:35:56.000 in your skill set? And so the same 00:35:56.000 –> 00:35:57.000 thing for a leader, same thing for an 00:35:57.000 –> 00:35:59.000 entrepreneur, same thing for whatever it may be, 00:35:59.000 –> 00:36:01.000 like, you actually have to do more. I 00:36:01.000 –> 00:36:01.000 think we’ve 00:36:02.000 –> 00:36:05.000 be because that kind of mindset was abused 00:36:05.000 –> 00:36:07.000 for for most of time, like, to to 00:36:07.000 –> 00:36:08.000 to burn people out and force people to 00:36:08.000 –> 00:36:10.000 work forty, fifty, sixty, eighty hour weeks, whatever. 00:36:11.000 –> 00:36:13.000 People push back the pendulum went all the 00:36:13.000 –> 00:36:15.000 way over here. They’re like, no. No. You 00:36:15.000 –> 00:36:16.000 just work thirty hours a week. It’ll be 00:36:16.000 –> 00:36:18.000 okay. Just hope for Like, no, I hope 00:36:18.000 –> 00:36:19.000 it’s a it’s a great fuel, but a 00:36:19.000 –> 00:36:21.000 terrible strategy. You actually have to work your 00:36:21.000 –> 00:36:23.000 tail off. If you if you wanna get 00:36:23.000 –> 00:36:25.000 things, you’ve gotta be willing to sacrifice 00:36:26.000 –> 00:36:28.000 And I think at some times, some seasons, 00:36:28.000 –> 00:36:30.000 that means you’re actually out of balance. 00:36:31.000 –> 00:36:33.000 You don’t want a life that’s out So 00:36:33.000 –> 00:36:34.000 I think for a season, if you wanna 00:36:34.000 –> 00:36:36.000 get to certain areas, you’ve gotta say, you’ve 00:36:36.000 –> 00:36:38.000 gotta shut out not everything, but almost everything, 00:36:38.000 –> 00:36:40.000 say, I’m going all in after this thing. 00:36:40.000 –> 00:36:41.000 And people are gonna say, you’re crazy. And 00:36:41.000 –> 00:36:43.000 then a year later, say, well, Maybe I 00:36:43.000 –> 00:36:45.000 was, but look what I accomplished because of 00:36:45.000 –> 00:36:45.000 that. 00:36:46.000 –> 00:36:47.000 Yeah. I agree, man. It does it goes 00:36:47.000 –> 00:36:49.000 in waves, doesn’t it? It just it’s sometimes 00:36:49.000 –> 00:36:51.000 you’re gonna be working family life more, sometimes 00:36:51.000 –> 00:36:54.000 you’re working at working. So but it’s gotta 00:36:54.000 –> 00:36:56.000 be somewhat balanced if if there is such 00:36:56.000 –> 00:36:56.000 a thing. 00:36:57.000 –> 00:36:59.000 If if I were to ask your team 00:36:59.000 –> 00:36:59.000 right now, 00:37:00.000 –> 00:37:02.000 you know, people that work for you. What 00:37:02.000 –> 00:37:03.000 what would they say 00:37:04.000 –> 00:37:06.000 you do well that helps build culture for 00:37:06.000 –> 00:37:07.000 your company? 00:37:08.000 –> 00:37:09.000 I think energy. 00:37:10.000 –> 00:37:13.000 I I think by nature, I’ve just always 00:37:13.000 –> 00:37:13.000 been, 00:37:15.000 –> 00:37:16.000 I don’t know, but by nature. Like, I’ve 00:37:16.000 –> 00:37:18.000 just always been a positive energy person. I’m 00:37:18.000 –> 00:37:20.000 an optimist. I tend to believe things are 00:37:20.000 –> 00:37:21.000 gonna work out. 00:37:22.000 –> 00:37:23.000 I’m not super serious. 00:37:24.000 –> 00:37:25.000 It’s interesting because I’ve I’ve 00:37:26.000 –> 00:37:28.000 just kinda go a different direction. But, 00:37:28.000 –> 00:37:29.000 you know, when I when I was in 00:37:29.000 –> 00:37:31.000 the corporate world, I was a goofy guy. 00:37:31.000 –> 00:37:33.000 We’d close a deal, and I’d run-in, like, 00:37:33.000 –> 00:37:35.000 fist pumping and yelling and just being goofy. 00:37:35.000 –> 00:37:37.000 Like, I just never took things super super 00:37:37.000 –> 00:37:38.000 serious, 00:37:38.000 –> 00:37:40.000 and we were unbelievably successful. Like, I was 00:37:40.000 –> 00:37:42.000 number two in the company in sales, like, 00:37:42.000 –> 00:37:44.000 and I wasn’t your typical, 00:37:44.000 –> 00:37:47.000 you know, buttoned up, super serious business minded 00:37:47.000 –> 00:37:49.000 salesperson. I just had fun and loved people. 00:37:50.000 –> 00:37:52.000 When I started in business, I don’t know 00:37:52.000 –> 00:37:54.000 if anybody said it to me or if 00:37:54.000 –> 00:37:56.000 I assumed they said it to me or 00:37:56.000 –> 00:37:57.000 if I just took on this belief, 00:37:58.000 –> 00:38:00.000 because people always say, man, you know, Kevin, 00:38:00.000 –> 00:38:02.000 he’s just not super serious, and he’s not 00:38:02.000 –> 00:38:03.000 that organized, and he’s not that into the 00:38:03.000 –> 00:38:04.000 details. 00:38:04.000 –> 00:38:07.000 And I I wore that as people don’t 00:38:07.000 –> 00:38:08.000 think I can be successful. Don’t think I 00:38:08.000 –> 00:38:09.000 can do this on my own. They don’t 00:38:09.000 –> 00:38:11.000 think I can build a business. And so 00:38:11.000 –> 00:38:14.000 I shut down kind of the goofy part 00:38:14.000 –> 00:38:15.000 of me for a long time. 00:38:16.000 –> 00:38:18.000 And that it’s called the quote unquote, unserious 00:38:18.000 –> 00:38:19.000 part of me to the point that people 00:38:20.000 –> 00:38:21.000 we do a lot with personality in our 00:38:21.000 –> 00:38:23.000 businesses. People are like, oh, I don’t actually 00:38:23.000 –> 00:38:24.000 think you are this personality. I’m like, no. 00:38:24.000 –> 00:38:25.000 No. No. I just want. I’ve been under 00:38:25.000 –> 00:38:27.000 stress for a decade trying to build. And 00:38:27.000 –> 00:38:30.000 then, two, I’ve just recently realized I believed 00:38:30.000 –> 00:38:31.000 to lie or whatever, 00:38:31.000 –> 00:38:33.000 a limiting belief that I had to be 00:38:33.000 –> 00:38:35.000 this way to be successful. 00:38:35.000 –> 00:38:36.000 And so I’ve just kinda been coming out 00:38:36.000 –> 00:38:39.000 of that shell again the last year or 00:38:39.000 –> 00:38:39.000 two. 00:38:40.000 –> 00:38:41.000 I’m like, no. No. No. Like, I love 00:38:41.000 –> 00:38:43.000 to have fun. Like, you can have fun. 00:38:43.000 –> 00:38:44.000 You don’t have to be 00:38:45.000 –> 00:38:47.000 serious and and all these things to be 00:38:47.000 –> 00:38:49.000 successful. Like, you can you can have big 00:38:49.000 –> 00:38:51.000 dreams, and you can be goofy, and you 00:38:51.000 –> 00:38:52.000 can make people laugh, and 00:38:53.000 –> 00:38:55.000 You can inject comedy in certain situations, and 00:38:55.000 –> 00:38:56.000 maybe it’s not you don’t always need to 00:38:56.000 –> 00:38:58.000 inject. Like, there’s a time to be serious, 00:38:58.000 –> 00:38:58.000 but, 00:38:59.000 –> 00:39:01.000 I think people just say, like, generally, I 00:39:01.000 –> 00:39:02.000 bring I bring fun. 00:39:02.000 –> 00:39:04.000 Yeah. So that was one of my biggest 00:39:04.000 –> 00:39:06.000 learnings when I looked back at my career, 00:39:06.000 –> 00:39:08.000 you know, twenty two years in the wealth 00:39:08.000 –> 00:39:10.000 management space. And so 00:39:11.000 –> 00:39:13.000 when I was this young the young Brett 00:39:13.000 –> 00:39:14.000 would go take some of the older guys 00:39:14.000 –> 00:39:16.000 with him to meetings to try to learn. 00:39:16.000 –> 00:39:17.000 Right? And then I would just I thought 00:39:17.000 –> 00:39:19.000 I had to live in this just like 00:39:19.000 –> 00:39:21.000 what you were just saying. And and as 00:39:21.000 –> 00:39:23.000 soon as I found out or I guess 00:39:23.000 –> 00:39:24.000 I shouldn’t say found out. As soon as 00:39:24.000 –> 00:39:26.000 I believed that I could be Brett and 00:39:26.000 –> 00:39:28.000 to your point, have fun and and laugh 00:39:28.000 –> 00:39:29.000 a lot at work. It hadn’t been that’d 00:39:29.000 –> 00:39:30.000 be so damn serious. 00:39:31.000 –> 00:39:32.000 It’s an amazing. That’s when I started to 00:39:32.000 –> 00:39:34.000 find myself becoming more and more successful. 00:39:35.000 –> 00:39:37.000 Yeah. You well, you you find yourself being 00:39:37.000 –> 00:39:39.000 more successful Gilliland then you actually have fun 00:39:39.000 –> 00:39:41.000 being successful. Right? 00:39:41.000 –> 00:39:42.000 Wait a hell of a lot more. Like, 00:39:42.000 –> 00:39:43.000 because you can have six you can have 00:39:43.000 –> 00:39:45.000 success the other way or or a limited 00:39:45.000 –> 00:39:47.000 version of success, but you’re miserable all the 00:39:47.000 –> 00:39:48.000 time because you’re always feel like you’re trying 00:39:48.000 –> 00:39:49.000 to be someone you’re not. I was like, 00:39:49.000 –> 00:39:50.000 wait a minute. No. I can be me. 00:39:50.000 –> 00:39:52.000 And succeed. I don’t need to beat the 00:39:52.000 –> 00:39:53.000 and I, you know, again, we talk a 00:39:53.000 –> 00:39:55.000 lot about personality. Like, we’ve got kind of 00:39:55.000 –> 00:39:57.000 a right hand and left hand. I’m typically 00:39:57.000 –> 00:39:59.000 this part, you know, goofy, loud, fun, whatever. 00:40:00.000 –> 00:40:01.000 But there’s a part of me that can 00:40:01.000 –> 00:40:03.000 be serious that can be locked in that 00:40:03.000 –> 00:40:05.000 can be quote unquote professional, whatever that means. 00:40:05.000 –> 00:40:07.000 But for me to live there means I 00:40:07.000 –> 00:40:10.000 lose who I act actually am. And so 00:40:10.000 –> 00:40:12.000 trying to find that balance of, like, okay. 00:40:12.000 –> 00:40:13.000 When can I be me and when do 00:40:13.000 –> 00:40:15.000 I not need to be me? And how 00:40:15.000 –> 00:40:16.000 do I make that operate so that that 00:40:16.000 –> 00:40:20.000 everyone around me actually wins. Yep. Yep. So 00:40:20.000 –> 00:40:21.000 you can see this sticker right here, this 00:40:21.000 –> 00:40:23.000 f greater than p. I do. Yeah. Yeah. 00:40:24.000 –> 00:40:26.000 Our our mission is helping people achieve a 00:40:26.000 –> 00:40:28.000 future great in your past. And so it 00:40:28.000 –> 00:40:30.000 doesn’t mean that, you know, you had a 00:40:30.000 –> 00:40:31.000 bad past. 00:40:31.000 –> 00:40:33.000 But when you hear that, achieving a future 00:40:33.000 –> 00:40:35.000 greater than your past, what comes to mind 00:40:35.000 –> 00:40:36.000 for you? 00:40:38.000 –> 00:40:39.000 Oh, man. Well, I love it because I 00:40:39.000 –> 00:40:41.000 was actually wondering, like, I haven’t seen that 00:40:41.000 –> 00:40:43.000 on any of email, like, the soft company. 00:40:43.000 –> 00:40:45.000 I’m like, okay. 00:40:45.000 –> 00:40:47.000 Some so I am glad you brought that 00:40:47.000 –> 00:40:48.000 up because that’s good because that’s actually bothered 00:40:48.000 –> 00:40:49.000 me for a long time. 00:40:50.000 –> 00:40:52.000 No. That’s that’s good. Future greater than your 00:40:52.000 –> 00:40:53.000 past. 00:40:53.000 –> 00:40:56.000 I think for me that speaks hope to 00:40:56.000 –> 00:40:57.000 Gilliland 00:40:57.000 –> 00:40:59.000 I said earlier, right, hope is is is 00:40:59.000 –> 00:41:01.000 not a strategy, but it is great fuel. 00:41:02.000 –> 00:41:04.000 And I think if people are fueled by 00:41:04.000 –> 00:41:06.000 hope that it like you said, Does today 00:41:06.000 –> 00:41:08.000 could be good, but tomorrow could be even 00:41:08.000 –> 00:41:10.000 better. Mhmm. Doesn’t mean you have to have 00:41:10.000 –> 00:41:11.000 a terrible pass that you’re going through some 00:41:11.000 –> 00:41:14.000 stuff today, like, maybe you are. It certainly 00:41:14.000 –> 00:41:15.000 helps in those seasons. Right? If if things 00:41:15.000 –> 00:41:17.000 are difficult, like, hey, things can be better 00:41:17.000 –> 00:41:19.000 tomorrow. Whatever today is, things can be better 00:41:19.000 –> 00:41:19.000 tomorrow. 00:41:20.000 –> 00:41:22.000 But I think whatever season are in good 00:41:22.000 –> 00:41:23.000 season, tough season, 00:41:24.000 –> 00:41:27.000 seasons of, of abundance seasons where things are 00:41:27.000 –> 00:41:29.000 a little bit scarce. It’s like, hey, whatever 00:41:29.000 –> 00:41:30.000 season 00:41:30.000 –> 00:41:32.000 your future can is actually unlimited if you 00:41:32.000 –> 00:41:35.000 wanna create it. And and not in, you 00:41:35.000 –> 00:41:36.000 know, necessarily materialistic 00:41:36.000 –> 00:41:38.000 type sense, but, like, you can have a 00:41:38.000 –> 00:41:40.000 better tomorrow if you actually want to. And 00:41:40.000 –> 00:41:41.000 I think most people, 00:41:42.000 –> 00:41:44.000 I think most people have lost that. I 00:41:44.000 –> 00:41:47.000 don’t think people believe generally speaking anymore. 00:41:47.000 –> 00:41:49.000 They don’t believe that tomorrow can be better 00:41:49.000 –> 00:41:51.000 than today. I think people are stuck, and 00:41:51.000 –> 00:41:53.000 they feel like they’re always going to be 00:41:53.000 –> 00:41:55.000 stuck. Yeah. And they just get on this 00:41:55.000 –> 00:41:57.000 hamster wheel frustration and say, I don’t know. 00:41:57.000 –> 00:42:00.000 When you actually have so we have this 00:42:00.000 –> 00:42:01.000 to was this tool we use. We didn’t 00:42:01.000 –> 00:42:03.000 create it, but it’s called the the the 00:42:03.000 –> 00:42:03.000 change equation. 00:42:04.000 –> 00:42:05.000 And part of it is saying, 00:42:06.000 –> 00:42:08.000 you know, where what where’s your dissatisfaction 00:42:09.000 –> 00:42:11.000 in life? What are you dissatisfied with? Could 00:42:11.000 –> 00:42:12.000 be your finances, could be your family, could 00:42:12.000 –> 00:42:14.000 be your career, could be your health, 00:42:15.000 –> 00:42:16.000 could be relationships, 00:42:16.000 –> 00:42:18.000 could be a number of things. And and 00:42:18.000 –> 00:42:20.000 how dissatisfied are you, like, one to ten 00:42:20.000 –> 00:42:21.000 it’s like a one or a two, it’s 00:42:21.000 –> 00:42:24.000 like, okay. You’re not dissatisfied. You’re annoyed. You 00:42:24.000 –> 00:42:25.000 know, just get it stop complaining and move 00:42:25.000 –> 00:42:27.000 on. It’s an eight or a nine. It’s 00:42:27.000 –> 00:42:29.000 like, okay. We gotta do some surgery. Like, 00:42:29.000 –> 00:42:31.000 there’s some there’s some actual pain. So if 00:42:31.000 –> 00:42:34.000 you’re dissatisfaction, let’s say let’s say finances or 00:42:34.000 –> 00:42:35.000 your health, you’re an eight, 00:42:36.000 –> 00:42:38.000 What’s your vision? What’s your specific vision for 00:42:38.000 –> 00:42:38.000 that area? For for finances, your health, relationship, 00:42:38.000 –> 00:42:38.000 career? Most people, when when your vision is 00:42:38.000 –> 00:42:39.000 lower than 00:42:45.000 –> 00:42:46.000 your satisfaction, 00:42:47.000 –> 00:42:49.000 you get frustration, you get bitterness, you get 00:42:49.000 –> 00:42:51.000 discontent, you get anxiety, and that’s where most 00:42:51.000 –> 00:42:53.000 people are. You look around. Most people are 00:42:53.000 –> 00:42:54.000 are dissatisfied 00:42:54.000 –> 00:42:56.000 but they don’t have a vision of what 00:42:56.000 –> 00:42:58.000 could be. And so they’re stuck. Well, when 00:42:58.000 –> 00:43:00.000 your vision is higher than your dissatisfaction, well, 00:43:00.000 –> 00:43:02.000 then you have ambition, you have motivation, 00:43:03.000 –> 00:43:04.000 it’s saying like, hey, I’m at base camp 00:43:04.000 –> 00:43:06.000 at Mount Everest. I’m trying to get to 00:43:06.000 –> 00:43:07.000 the top. I’m not there yet, 00:43:08.000 –> 00:43:09.000 but I at least know where I’m going. 00:43:09.000 –> 00:43:11.000 And so you wake up every day with 00:43:11.000 –> 00:43:13.000 a direction that you wanna Gilliland 00:43:13.000 –> 00:43:15.000 so that that’s what I hear, what I 00:43:15.000 –> 00:43:16.000 see, when I see see future over your 00:43:16.000 –> 00:43:17.000 past, like, 00:43:17.000 –> 00:43:19.000 yeah, you’ve gotta have a Gilliland and a 00:43:19.000 –> 00:43:21.000 vision and a hope. And when you have 00:43:21.000 –> 00:43:23.000 that, anything’s possible. Yep. And I love that 00:43:23.000 –> 00:43:25.000 because it makes me think when we started 00:43:25.000 –> 00:43:28.000 our firm visionary wealth advisors that that so 00:43:28.000 –> 00:43:31.000 it’ll be ten years, in March. And 00:43:32.000 –> 00:43:35.000 that previous spot, as I was becoming more 00:43:35.000 –> 00:43:36.000 successful, 00:43:36.000 –> 00:43:38.000 right? Mhmm. My job satisfaction 00:43:38.000 –> 00:43:41.000 was going down. And Yeah. And then but 00:43:41.000 –> 00:43:43.000 we made this change to your point. 00:43:43.000 –> 00:43:46.000 Is it the Gilliland division was greater, right, 00:43:46.000 –> 00:43:47.000 than where we And so, 00:43:48.000 –> 00:43:50.000 it did. It fueled fire. It fueled energy. 00:43:50.000 –> 00:43:53.000 It fueled passion. But also, for me, personally, 00:43:53.000 –> 00:43:55.000 it it is basically 00:43:55.000 –> 00:43:58.000 you know, minimized to almost hardly anything, my 00:43:58.000 –> 00:44:00.000 anxiety, and my stress, and and Right. And 00:44:00.000 –> 00:44:02.000 so that happiness. And so it doesn’t ever 00:44:02.000 –> 00:44:04.000 mean it’s the right time because it wasn’t 00:44:04.000 –> 00:44:06.000 time. We were my wife was pregnant with 00:44:06.000 –> 00:44:09.000 our fourth child, built a new home. And 00:44:09.000 –> 00:44:10.000 so people have to 00:44:10.000 –> 00:44:13.000 think about those things, but take risks sometimes. 00:44:13.000 –> 00:44:14.000 Man, and you gotta bet on yourself, and 00:44:14.000 –> 00:44:16.000 you gotta go do it. So so I’m 00:44:16.000 –> 00:44:18.000 curious. I I’ve never done this before, but 00:44:18.000 –> 00:44:19.000 I’m gonna start doing this. I think I 00:44:19.000 –> 00:44:21.000 had this, pop in my mind. So the 00:44:21.000 –> 00:44:23.000 circuit of success, hence the podcast you’re on 00:44:23.000 –> 00:44:25.000 here. Yeah. The circuits of success are attitude, 00:44:26.000 –> 00:44:26.000 your beliefs, 00:44:27.000 –> 00:44:28.000 action, 00:44:28.000 –> 00:44:31.000 results. Right? So your attitude, your belief system, 00:44:31.000 –> 00:44:33.000 the action take, get your results. So when 00:44:33.000 –> 00:44:35.000 you hear those four, which one of those 00:44:35.000 –> 00:44:37.000 does dive deep into one of? Which word 00:44:37.000 –> 00:44:39.000 do you like? Attitude, beliefs, action, results? 00:44:40.000 –> 00:44:43.000 I think belief for me is the most 00:44:43.000 –> 00:44:44.000 powerful force in the world. 00:44:45.000 –> 00:44:47.000 You know, like that one for me trumps 00:44:47.000 –> 00:44:49.000 all of it. 00:44:49.000 –> 00:44:51.000 Meaning if if 00:44:52.000 –> 00:44:54.000 So you started the company because you believed 00:44:54.000 –> 00:44:56.000 success was possible. Mhmm. If you didn’t believe 00:44:56.000 –> 00:44:58.000 in it, you wouldn’t have done it. And 00:44:58.000 –> 00:44:59.000 that doesn’t mean you believed in it every 00:44:59.000 –> 00:45:01.000 single day. Right? We’re we’re human. We we 00:45:01.000 –> 00:45:03.000 have those moments of doubt and fear. 00:45:04.000 –> 00:45:07.000 But, like, the the car you drive that 00:45:07.000 –> 00:45:10.000 car exists because somebody believed it was possible. 00:45:10.000 –> 00:45:12.000 That car manufacturer exists because somebody thought I’m 00:45:12.000 –> 00:45:15.000 gonna I’m gonna create this. And the the 00:45:15.000 –> 00:45:17.000 school you went to, the town you’re from, 00:45:17.000 –> 00:45:19.000 All these things exist because somebody believed in 00:45:19.000 –> 00:45:21.000 it enough to take action. There may have 00:45:21.000 –> 00:45:23.000 been been several. It may have been hundreds 00:45:23.000 –> 00:45:24.000 of people who believed. 00:45:24.000 –> 00:45:25.000 I think it’s possible. 00:45:25.000 –> 00:45:27.000 But doubt eventually went out, and they didn’t 00:45:27.000 –> 00:45:29.000 figure out a way to create a university, 00:45:29.000 –> 00:45:31.000 to create a business, to create a car, 00:45:31.000 –> 00:45:33.000 to create a clothing brand, whatever it may 00:45:33.000 –> 00:45:33.000 be. 00:45:34.000 –> 00:45:36.000 Everything around us is created because somebody believed 00:45:36.000 –> 00:45:39.000 in it enough to actually take action on 00:45:39.000 –> 00:45:40.000 on those beliefs. 00:45:41.000 –> 00:45:43.000 And so I would say belief belief drives 00:45:43.000 –> 00:45:43.000 behavior. 00:45:44.000 –> 00:45:46.000 And belief will look for a way forward 00:45:46.000 –> 00:45:48.000 where doubt will look for a way out. 00:45:48.000 –> 00:45:50.000 And I think most people in life, right, 00:45:50.000 –> 00:45:52.000 we get on this path, early on, we 00:45:52.000 –> 00:45:54.000 believe our belief is high. Starting business, whatever 00:45:54.000 –> 00:45:55.000 it is. Like, man, this can be awesome. 00:45:55.000 –> 00:45:56.000 We can do it because we have no 00:45:56.000 –> 00:45:58.000 clue what that road’s gonna look like. We 00:45:58.000 –> 00:45:59.000 just think, like, Sarah, we think success is 00:45:59.000 –> 00:46:02.000 gonna go this way. We don’t anticipate all 00:46:02.000 –> 00:46:04.000 this this roundabout and chaos in in the 00:46:04.000 –> 00:46:05.000 middle of it. 00:46:05.000 –> 00:46:07.000 But for the people who who in the 00:46:07.000 –> 00:46:09.000 midst of that standard, I still I still 00:46:09.000 –> 00:46:10.000 believe in this thing that chose to run 00:46:10.000 –> 00:46:12.000 after. I still believe it’s possible. For me, 00:46:12.000 –> 00:46:13.000 it’s like 00:46:13.000 –> 00:46:15.000 going down, the highway, 00:46:16.000 –> 00:46:18.000 and there’s all these off ramps it’s gonna 00:46:18.000 –> 00:46:20.000 be hard, you might fail. They’re gonna laugh 00:46:20.000 –> 00:46:22.000 at you. You’re gonna lose everything. Like, whatever 00:46:22.000 –> 00:46:24.000 all the excuses the fears are, and if 00:46:24.000 –> 00:46:27.000 you if doubt is greater, as soon as 00:46:27.000 –> 00:46:28.000 you face a little bit of adversity, 00:46:29.000 –> 00:46:31.000 doubts, like, you’re right. I might fail. See 00:46:31.000 –> 00:46:33.000 you. I’m out. I’m gonna quit before I 00:46:33.000 –> 00:46:35.000 fail. And most people, they just they they 00:46:35.000 –> 00:46:37.000 have a life it’s almost like they’re just 00:46:37.000 –> 00:46:38.000 driving in a circle. Right? They get on 00:46:38.000 –> 00:46:40.000 be on the highway. Like, I believe it’s 00:46:40.000 –> 00:46:41.000 gonna be great. 00:46:41.000 –> 00:46:43.000 It gets hard. Oh, my might fail, and 00:46:43.000 –> 00:46:45.000 they get off. In the circle right back 00:46:45.000 –> 00:46:46.000 around and get on the next path. Oh, 00:46:46.000 –> 00:46:48.000 this is gonna be great. This is the 00:46:48.000 –> 00:46:49.000 one. It gets hard, and they take the 00:46:49.000 –> 00:46:51.000 next off ramp, and they just keep circling 00:46:51.000 –> 00:46:51.000 around. 00:46:52.000 –> 00:46:54.000 There’s people who believe, like, might be hard. 00:46:54.000 –> 00:46:56.000 That’s okay. I might fail. That’s okay. They 00:46:56.000 –> 00:46:58.000 might laugh at me. That’s okay. Because that 00:46:58.000 –> 00:47:00.000 belief is greater than their doubt, and, like, 00:47:00.000 –> 00:47:02.000 I’m gonna go figure out what’s possible. You 00:47:02.000 –> 00:47:03.000 know, and so I for me, I just 00:47:03.000 –> 00:47:06.000 think belief is such a powerful force. Yeah. 00:47:06.000 –> 00:47:08.000 Amen into that. So my final question on 00:47:08.000 –> 00:47:11.000 that, and, would be then belief in self, 00:47:11.000 –> 00:47:12.000 you know, I believe in a higher powers. 00:47:12.000 –> 00:47:14.000 Well, I believe in god. I believe in 00:47:14.000 –> 00:47:16.000 self. I believe in goal management or goal 00:47:16.000 –> 00:47:16.000 planning. 00:47:17.000 –> 00:47:19.000 Mhmm. Go achievement. All these things. Right? But 00:47:19.000 –> 00:47:20.000 The belief in yourself, 00:47:21.000 –> 00:47:23.000 how what would you recommend for people right 00:47:23.000 –> 00:47:25.000 now is to continue to grow that as 00:47:25.000 –> 00:47:25.000 much as possible. And there’s a fine line 00:47:25.000 –> 00:47:25.000 between arrogance 00:47:28.000 –> 00:47:30.000 and right? So how do we grow, 00:47:30.000 –> 00:47:31.000 in our belief in ourself? 00:47:33.000 –> 00:47:35.000 I think two things coming to mind. One, 00:47:35.000 –> 00:47:37.000 and then I know this gonna sound cheesy. 00:47:37.000 –> 00:47:40.000 So apologies to anyone listening, but cheesy works. 00:47:40.000 –> 00:47:42.000 One, I think, like, self affirmations. 00:47:43.000 –> 00:47:45.000 Like, I think think of the doubts that 00:47:45.000 –> 00:47:47.000 come in your mind. Like, write them down. 00:47:47.000 –> 00:47:48.000 I’m not good enough. I don’t have what 00:47:48.000 –> 00:47:49.000 it takes. 00:47:49.000 –> 00:47:52.000 People don’t believe in me. Whatever. All these 00:47:52.000 –> 00:47:53.000 lies that fill our brain 00:47:54.000 –> 00:47:56.000 that keep us from taking action. If you 00:47:56.000 –> 00:47:57.000 would write them down and write a truth 00:47:57.000 –> 00:48:00.000 next to it, like and or even write 00:48:00.000 –> 00:48:02.000 another column, of, like, who said that? Oh, 00:48:02.000 –> 00:48:03.000 nobody. 00:48:04.000 –> 00:48:06.000 Nobody said I would not get enough. Nobody 00:48:06.000 –> 00:48:07.000 said I can’t do it. Like, now maybe 00:48:07.000 –> 00:48:08.000 someone actually in your life, you know, you 00:48:08.000 –> 00:48:11.000 had some some jerk who put some negativity 00:48:11.000 –> 00:48:13.000 in in your mind, like Right. Most of 00:48:13.000 –> 00:48:14.000 the time, the person is us. 00:48:15.000 –> 00:48:18.000 And it’s like, oh, Well, okay. I’m the 00:48:18.000 –> 00:48:19.000 only person who said that, which means it’s 00:48:19.000 –> 00:48:21.000 not true. Well, what’s the truth of that? 00:48:21.000 –> 00:48:22.000 I am good enough. I do have what 00:48:22.000 –> 00:48:23.000 it takes. 00:48:23.000 –> 00:48:25.000 Whatever it may be, and so to to 00:48:25.000 –> 00:48:25.000 counter 00:48:26.000 –> 00:48:29.000 the lies with truth, and and that’s why 00:48:29.000 –> 00:48:30.000 I love, like, the power of belief in 00:48:30.000 –> 00:48:32.000 the brain. I’ve I’ve become just obsessed with 00:48:32.000 –> 00:48:34.000 the mind over the last, like, two years, 00:48:34.000 –> 00:48:35.000 three years, 00:48:35.000 –> 00:48:38.000 What what happens when you have a negative 00:48:38.000 –> 00:48:40.000 thought, it does actual brain damage. 00:48:41.000 –> 00:48:43.000 And so it weakens your brain. It weakens 00:48:43.000 –> 00:48:45.000 your brain’s ability to be innovative, to be 00:48:45.000 –> 00:48:47.000 creative, to be confident, to be focused, to 00:48:47.000 –> 00:48:50.000 be clear, to be calm. And so negativity 00:48:50.000 –> 00:48:52.000 does brain damage, which means you’re more likely 00:48:52.000 –> 00:48:54.000 to have more negative thoughts and does more 00:48:54.000 –> 00:48:55.000 brain damage. So, 00:48:56.000 –> 00:48:56.000 and when you have a positive thought, it 00:48:56.000 –> 00:48:57.000 it it strengthens your brain. 00:48:59.000 –> 00:49:02.000 Right? Positive thoughts re regenerate. They rebuild your 00:49:02.000 –> 00:49:04.000 brain to make you more confident, more clear, 00:49:04.000 –> 00:49:05.000 more creative, more innovative, more 00:49:07.000 –> 00:49:07.000 focused 00:49:07.000 –> 00:49:09.000 And so this idea of positive versus negative 00:49:09.000 –> 00:49:12.000 thinking, like, it’s actually changing. Your brain is 00:49:12.000 –> 00:49:12.000 not a, 00:49:13.000 –> 00:49:15.000 it’s not a a static thing. Right? It’s 00:49:15.000 –> 00:49:17.000 not fixed. It changes, and every thought is 00:49:17.000 –> 00:49:19.000 changing it. Your brain is it’s crazy. It’s 00:49:19.000 –> 00:49:21.000 like your our brain is 00:49:21.000 –> 00:49:23.000 a it it’s Gilliland. 00:49:23.000 –> 00:49:26.000 And fascinating, but it’s also very stupid. Your 00:49:26.000 –> 00:49:28.000 brain will believe whatever you tell it. Dings 00:49:28.000 –> 00:49:29.000 fast. That’s right. 00:49:30.000 –> 00:49:31.000 I think one, and you get to choose 00:49:31.000 –> 00:49:33.000 what you tell it. And so the more 00:49:33.000 –> 00:49:34.000 you practice, like and and so part of 00:49:34.000 –> 00:49:35.000 my morning routine, 00:49:36.000 –> 00:49:37.000 I’ve got mind body and soul. So I’ve 00:49:37.000 –> 00:49:39.000 got the the faith deal. I’ve got the 00:49:39.000 –> 00:49:40.000 workout. 00:49:40.000 –> 00:49:42.000 And then every day I write down ten 00:49:42.000 –> 00:49:43.000 things that I’m grateful for. 00:49:44.000 –> 00:49:45.000 And I started doing that during COVID when 00:49:45.000 –> 00:49:47.000 anxiety started to kick in a little bit. 00:49:48.000 –> 00:49:49.000 So I think number one is just some 00:49:49.000 –> 00:49:50.000 form of affirmations. 00:49:51.000 –> 00:49:53.000 You could even call these I’m statements. I 00:49:53.000 –> 00:49:54.000 I have a friend who she she works 00:49:54.000 –> 00:49:56.000 with the Air Force doing leadership training, and 00:49:56.000 –> 00:49:58.000 she was real nervous and insecure about it. 00:49:58.000 –> 00:50:00.000 She was real, like, sweet, quiet. So the 00:50:00.000 –> 00:50:01.000 moment, she’s like, what do I have to 00:50:01.000 –> 00:50:02.000 offer? She’s powerhouse. 00:50:03.000 –> 00:50:04.000 And so she put in her in her 00:50:04.000 –> 00:50:06.000 bone, like, every three hours, I’m confident. 00:50:07.000 –> 00:50:09.000 I’m a great leader. I have what it 00:50:09.000 –> 00:50:09.000 takes. 00:50:10.000 –> 00:50:12.000 And so it was just these reminders to 00:50:12.000 –> 00:50:13.000 her. And it started to reshape her brain 00:50:13.000 –> 00:50:15.000 to where she started to believe those things, 00:50:15.000 –> 00:50:17.000 then live those things. So number one, I 00:50:17.000 –> 00:50:19.000 think some form of self talk 00:50:19.000 –> 00:50:21.000 is really important. And I think number two 00:50:21.000 –> 00:50:24.000 is go go stack as many small successes 00:50:24.000 –> 00:50:26.000 as you possibly can. That could be going 00:50:26.000 –> 00:50:27.000 on a ten minute walk. That can be 00:50:27.000 –> 00:50:28.000 a success. 00:50:29.000 –> 00:50:31.000 It could be, what, like, having a difficult 00:50:31.000 –> 00:50:33.000 conversation. But but that builds confidence when you 00:50:33.000 –> 00:50:35.000 when you, you know, the other thing your 00:50:35.000 –> 00:50:37.000 brain does, If you have a hard task 00:50:37.000 –> 00:50:38.000 in front of you and you quit, 00:50:40.000 –> 00:50:42.000 it’s like railroad tracks are being laid in 00:50:42.000 –> 00:50:44.000 your brain. And when you quit, there’s a 00:50:44.000 –> 00:50:46.000 gap. The railroad tracks don’t finish. 00:50:46.000 –> 00:50:48.000 And so the next time you’re in a 00:50:48.000 –> 00:50:50.000 difficult situation, your brain doesn’t know how to 00:50:50.000 –> 00:50:51.000 finish the hard task. It’s like all it 00:50:51.000 –> 00:50:53.000 knows what to do is is to quit 00:50:54.000 –> 00:50:56.000 When you complete it, it it’s like it 00:50:56.000 –> 00:50:58.000 lays that railroad track and it finishes it. 00:50:58.000 –> 00:50:59.000 It completes the track. And so the next 00:50:59.000 –> 00:51:01.000 time you’re in a hard situation, your brain’s 00:51:01.000 –> 00:51:02.000 like, oh, I know what to do here. 00:51:02.000 –> 00:51:03.000 I know how to finish. I know how 00:51:03.000 –> 00:51:05.000 to do hard things, which is part of 00:51:05.000 –> 00:51:07.000 why, like, just the value of working out 00:51:07.000 –> 00:51:10.000 every day. It’s hard. It’s not fun. Most 00:51:10.000 –> 00:51:11.000 days I don’t wanna finish it. Like, this 00:51:11.000 –> 00:51:13.000 is killing me. I wanna Oh, I’m like, 00:51:13.000 –> 00:51:14.000 I’ve got five more minutes. I can do 00:51:14.000 –> 00:51:16.000 anything for five more minutes, whatever it is. 00:51:16.000 –> 00:51:18.000 But part of part of me doing that 00:51:18.000 –> 00:51:19.000 one is my own just physical health, but 00:51:19.000 –> 00:51:21.000 two training your brain to to deal with 00:51:21.000 –> 00:51:23.000 adversity to do hard things. And so those 00:51:23.000 –> 00:51:25.000 things build confidence when you need confidence. 00:51:26.000 –> 00:51:28.000 Yeah. So strong. I I think about that 00:51:28.000 –> 00:51:30.000 made me think about what I call comfort 00:51:30.000 –> 00:51:32.000 zone callus. Right? Your comfort zone is so 00:51:32.000 –> 00:51:34.000 small when we start out. Right? But then 00:51:34.000 –> 00:51:35.000 if you do something, 00:51:35.000 –> 00:51:37.000 it gets it just keeps getting a little 00:51:37.000 –> 00:51:39.000 bit bigger. Right? So then your hand, if 00:51:39.000 –> 00:51:40.000 it’s if you have a callus from, you 00:51:40.000 –> 00:51:41.000 know, work or whatever it may be, you 00:51:41.000 –> 00:51:43.000 just you gotta go around the callus, right, 00:51:43.000 –> 00:51:45.000 and figure out a way out to get 00:51:45.000 –> 00:51:47.000 out of your comfort zone. So well, Kevin, 00:51:47.000 –> 00:51:48.000 this has been awesome. And where do our 00:51:48.000 –> 00:51:51.000 listeners find more of, Kevin DeShazo? 00:51:52.000 –> 00:51:54.000 Yeah. So I’m on every social media platform, 00:51:54.000 –> 00:51:56.000 just at Kevin DeShazo, 00:51:56.000 –> 00:51:58.000 Twitter or X and and Instagram, probably the 00:51:58.000 –> 00:52:01.000 two that I’m most active on, LinkedIn fairly 00:52:01.000 –> 00:52:01.000 active as well. 00:52:02.000 –> 00:52:04.000 You’re welcome to just go to the website. 00:52:04.000 –> 00:52:05.000 DeShazo dot me. 00:52:06.000 –> 00:52:07.000 If you’re in sports, 00:52:07.000 –> 00:52:10.000 our sports leadership company is be better leaders 00:52:10.000 –> 00:52:12.000 dot com. So those are those are the 00:52:12.000 –> 00:52:13.000 easiest places to find me. It’s so great 00:52:13.000 –> 00:52:14.000 to have you on the circuit success, man. 00:52:14.000 –> 00:52:16.000 Appreciate your time. Absolutely. I honor to be 00:52:16.000 –> 00:52:17.000 with you.

?️ Dive into the extraordinary life of Ed Hightower on this heart-pounding episode of Circuit of Success Podcast! ? From humble beginnings in the South to the global stage as a former NCAA basketball referee, Ed shares his riveting journey with host Brett Gilliland. ? Uncover the secrets to Ed’s success as he emphasizes the crucial role of a solid value system and guardrails in staying focused and on track. Get the inside scoop on facing legendary coaches like Bobby Knight and Judd Heathcote, and the invaluable lessons learned by doing the right thing, even when it’s unpopular. Hear firsthand about his experiences representing the United States in international tournaments and the art of staying objective in high-stakes moments. ? Ed’s motivational insights extend beyond the court, urging young people to do the right thing when no one is watching and take ownership of mistakes. Don’t miss out on the incredible anecdotes, including Ed’s unforgettable night at the Final Four dinner in 1989, seated next to none other than the legendary Andy Kaufman! Join us for an inspiring conversation with a true game-changer. Ed Hightower’s story is a beacon of hard work, dedication, and resilience—packed with timeless lessons applicable to everyone. #EdHightower #NCAAReferee #CircuitOfSuccess Full Youtube Episode 00:00:13.000 –> 00:00:15.000 Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I’m your host 00:00:15.000 –> 00:00:18.000 Brett Gilliland. And today, I’ve got Ed Hightower 00:00:18.000 –> 00:00:19.000 with me. Ed, how you doing? Oh, the 00:00:19.000 –> 00:00:21.000 pleasure is all mine, Brett. It’s good to 00:00:21.000 –> 00:00:22.000 be with you. It’s good to be with 00:00:22.000 –> 00:00:23.000 you. So, 00:00:24.000 –> 00:00:26.000 well, people that don’t know. You probably, everybody’s 00:00:26.000 –> 00:00:27.000 watching this knows who are. I mean, you’ve 00:00:27.000 –> 00:00:28.000 had a heck of a career. Well, I’ve 00:00:28.000 –> 00:00:30.000 been very fortunate. I’ve had a lot of 00:00:30.000 –> 00:00:32.000 support along the way, and, 00:00:32.000 –> 00:00:36.000 very, very blessed. Yes. Yes. Absolutely. So former 00:00:36.000 –> 00:00:38.000 superintendent at Edwardsville Hightower school, nineteen years in 00:00:38.000 –> 00:00:40.000 Edwardsville, but forty years in education. 00:00:41.000 –> 00:00:42.000 Forty years in education. In, 00:00:43.000 –> 00:00:46.000 nineteen years, a superintendent update at Whisfield School 00:00:46.000 –> 00:00:49.000 District. I went there in nineteen ninety Gilliland 00:00:49.000 –> 00:00:49.000 retired. 00:00:50.000 –> 00:00:53.000 In two thousand fifteen. So Amazing. In, thirty 00:00:53.000 –> 00:00:56.000 six years, is an NCAA referee? Thirty six 00:00:56.000 –> 00:00:59.000 years as an NC Yagate referee, thirty three 00:00:59.000 –> 00:01:01.000 years in the Big 10:12 00:01:01.000 –> 00:01:04.000 final fours, the World Games. Man, 00:01:05.000 –> 00:01:07.000 representative of the United States at the World 00:01:07.000 –> 00:01:08.000 Games in Bonazaris, 00:01:09.000 –> 00:01:11.000 a representative of the United States at the 00:01:11.000 –> 00:01:14.000 Good World Games in, Saint Petersburg so I 00:01:14.000 –> 00:01:17.000 was very, very fortunate. That’s incredible. Incredible. I 00:01:17.000 –> 00:01:19.000 remember you in my, fighting a Lineite days 00:01:19.000 –> 00:01:21.000 when I was, you know, younger man and 00:01:21.000 –> 00:01:23.000 and watch to my my flying line item, 00:01:23.000 –> 00:01:24.000 which we I wanna talk about that later 00:01:24.000 –> 00:01:26.000 if that’s alright. So but if you can, 00:01:27.000 –> 00:01:28.000 Ed, give us a little lay of the 00:01:28.000 –> 00:01:29.000 lay in the story. You don’t just wake 00:01:29.000 –> 00:01:31.000 up and spend forty years and get your 00:01:31.000 –> 00:01:33.000 doctorate and, you know, have an amazing marriage 00:01:33.000 –> 00:01:35.000 of forty nine years, two daughters, NCAA AA, 00:01:35.000 –> 00:01:37.000 all the stuff that we just mentioned. But 00:01:37.000 –> 00:01:39.000 what’s what’s some of that backstory? Some of 00:01:39.000 –> 00:01:40.000 your stories? Well, back story, you know, I’m 00:01:40.000 –> 00:01:41.000 just one of these, 00:01:43.000 –> 00:01:44.000 young individuals, 00:01:44.000 –> 00:01:45.000 very fortunate. 00:01:46.000 –> 00:01:48.000 I grew up in the south. 00:01:48.000 –> 00:01:50.000 My mom and and, 00:01:50.000 –> 00:01:52.000 dad, divorced when I was twelve years old. 00:01:52.000 –> 00:01:56.000 I’m the second of eight Children, I never 00:01:56.000 –> 00:01:58.000 thought that, I would complete, 00:01:59.000 –> 00:02:02.000 even a high school education when I was 00:02:02.000 –> 00:02:03.000 in the south. 00:02:04.000 –> 00:02:06.000 Things were tough. My mom 00:02:07.000 –> 00:02:07.000 moved, 00:02:08.000 –> 00:02:11.000 to Alton, Illinois in nineteen, 00:02:11.000 –> 00:02:12.000 sixty six. 00:02:13.000 –> 00:02:13.000 And, 00:02:15.000 –> 00:02:17.000 she always made education a priority, 00:02:18.000 –> 00:02:20.000 education church, given back to the community a 00:02:20.000 –> 00:02:21.000 priority. 00:02:22.000 –> 00:02:23.000 For all eight of us, 00:02:24.000 –> 00:02:24.000 siblings. 00:02:24.000 –> 00:02:27.000 Yeah. And, we were very fortunate. And from 00:02:27.000 –> 00:02:28.000 that point, 00:02:30.000 –> 00:02:31.000 played basketball, 00:02:31.000 –> 00:02:33.000 baseball at Alton High School, 00:02:34.000 –> 00:02:37.000 nineteen seventy. I graduated and went to s 00:02:37.000 –> 00:02:40.000 I u e on a basketball scholarship plate 00:02:40.000 –> 00:02:42.000 for the cougars. I know that. And started 00:02:42.000 –> 00:02:46.000 refereeing intramural basketballs with these poor kids, 00:02:46.000 –> 00:02:49.000 didn’t have any money, but, start refereeing intramural 00:02:49.000 –> 00:02:50.000 basketball, 00:02:51.000 –> 00:02:53.000 in nineteen seventy one for a dollar and 00:02:53.000 –> 00:02:55.000 twenty five cents a game. Think about that 00:02:55.000 –> 00:02:57.000 one for a moment. Man. 00:02:57.000 –> 00:02:57.000 And, 00:02:58.000 –> 00:02:59.000 I’d watch, 00:02:59.000 –> 00:03:01.000 you know, I I had no, 00:03:02.000 –> 00:03:05.000 relationship with officials when I when I played. 00:03:05.000 –> 00:03:06.000 But, 00:03:06.000 –> 00:03:08.000 you know, when you can, 00:03:08.000 –> 00:03:09.000 referee, 00:03:09.000 –> 00:03:11.000 the various fraternities, 00:03:12.000 –> 00:03:13.000 in college 00:03:13.000 –> 00:03:15.000 and some of those guys who think that 00:03:15.000 –> 00:03:17.000 they were the best players ever, and some 00:03:17.000 –> 00:03:18.000 of those guys who never could play. Yeah. 00:03:19.000 –> 00:03:20.000 You you get a a mix and a 00:03:20.000 –> 00:03:21.000 variance of, 00:03:23.000 –> 00:03:25.000 my term is better than your fraternity. 00:03:25.000 –> 00:03:26.000 There you go. 00:03:26.000 –> 00:03:27.000 And so I graduated, 00:03:28.000 –> 00:03:30.000 in nineteen seventy four, I started teaching. My 00:03:30.000 –> 00:03:32.000 wife and I were married, and then I 00:03:32.000 –> 00:03:34.000 got a raise for refereeing. 00:03:35.000 –> 00:03:36.000 I start, refereeing, 00:03:36.000 –> 00:03:38.000 open city league recreation 00:03:38.000 –> 00:03:40.000 basketball, and, I got a raise from a 00:03:40.000 –> 00:03:43.000 dollar twenty five cents a game to, five 00:03:43.000 –> 00:03:44.000 dollars a game. 00:03:44.000 –> 00:03:45.000 Oh. So I was in I was in 00:03:45.000 –> 00:03:46.000 seven heaven. 00:03:48.000 –> 00:03:50.000 Five times more money. You got it in. 00:03:50.000 –> 00:03:51.000 I would work three games, 00:03:52.000 –> 00:03:53.000 three games a night, 00:03:53.000 –> 00:03:55.000 three times a week. Shit. 00:03:55.000 –> 00:03:56.000 It had nineteen, 00:03:57.000 –> 00:03:59.000 seventy four. That was pretty good money. You 00:03:59.000 –> 00:04:01.000 know, a good nice supplement. You know? Yeah. 00:04:01.000 –> 00:04:01.000 Absolutely. 00:04:02.000 –> 00:04:03.000 And from that point, 00:04:04.000 –> 00:04:05.000 It just happened, 00:04:05.000 –> 00:04:06.000 at the same time. 00:04:07.000 –> 00:04:09.000 I was back at SAW working on my, 00:04:09.000 –> 00:04:10.000 my master’s 00:04:11.000 –> 00:04:11.000 in education 00:04:12.000 –> 00:04:13.000 to become an administrator. 00:04:14.000 –> 00:04:17.000 I got that. I was very fortunate to 00:04:17.000 –> 00:04:17.000 have had, 00:04:18.000 –> 00:04:20.000 a great mentor, 00:04:21.000 –> 00:04:22.000 in the superintendent. 00:04:23.000 –> 00:04:25.000 Who took me on his wings, 00:04:25.000 –> 00:04:26.000 this young, 00:04:27.000 –> 00:04:28.000 African American kid, and, 00:04:30.000 –> 00:04:33.000 and, I went into administration a very young 00:04:33.000 –> 00:04:34.000 age. Okay. Yeah. And, 00:04:35.000 –> 00:04:38.000 I’ll tell you, Brett of the forty years. 00:04:38.000 –> 00:04:39.000 I spent in, 00:04:39.000 –> 00:04:40.000 education 00:04:41.000 –> 00:04:44.000 thirty seven of those years were actually in 00:04:44.000 –> 00:04:46.000 administration. Oh my goodness. So I had a 00:04:46.000 –> 00:04:48.000 lot I had a lot of opportunities 00:04:48.000 –> 00:04:50.000 to screw it up and make mistakes. Exactly. 00:04:51.000 –> 00:04:51.000 Exactly. 00:04:51.000 –> 00:04:53.000 So what what were your expectations like? So 00:04:53.000 –> 00:04:54.000 you said you grew up in the south, 00:04:54.000 –> 00:04:56.000 didn’t have any money, but yet, I would 00:04:56.000 –> 00:04:59.000 think to do that, your expectations were high. 00:04:59.000 –> 00:05:02.000 Expect taste expectations are extremely high that you 00:05:02.000 –> 00:05:03.000 have to work. 00:05:04.000 –> 00:05:07.000 You had to work. My mom and still, 00:05:08.000 –> 00:05:11.000 work ethic in in all of us Yeah. 00:05:11.000 –> 00:05:11.000 That, 00:05:13.000 –> 00:05:15.000 that there was no compromise. What did she 00:05:15.000 –> 00:05:17.000 do for a living? Oh, gosh. She, 00:05:17.000 –> 00:05:18.000 worked in the fields, 00:05:19.000 –> 00:05:20.000 cotton fields, 00:05:21.000 –> 00:05:23.000 She was a nurse. She went back and 00:05:23.000 –> 00:05:26.000 got, her certificate to be a nurse. 00:05:26.000 –> 00:05:29.000 And, and then, of course, when we moved 00:05:29.000 –> 00:05:32.000 here in sixty six, She worked at Olin, 00:05:33.000 –> 00:05:36.000 industry where money was, plenty for, work was 00:05:36.000 –> 00:05:39.000 plenty for, and she was able to care 00:05:39.000 –> 00:05:42.000 for us, but our value system was simple. 00:05:43.000 –> 00:05:44.000 Work, 00:05:44.000 –> 00:05:45.000 be honest, 00:05:46.000 –> 00:05:46.000 go to church, 00:05:47.000 –> 00:05:48.000 give something back. 00:05:49.000 –> 00:05:52.000 It’s simple. And World needs that. Right? It’s 00:05:52.000 –> 00:05:55.000 so simple. And, I never forgot that. And 00:05:55.000 –> 00:05:57.000 that’s what I believe in today, and that’s 00:05:58.000 –> 00:05:59.000 we brought up our daughters. 00:06:00.000 –> 00:06:03.000 That’s the message that I send clearly 00:06:04.000 –> 00:06:04.000 to young people. 00:06:05.000 –> 00:06:06.000 I’ve sent 00:06:06.000 –> 00:06:08.000 over my years. 00:06:08.000 –> 00:06:09.000 And, 00:06:10.000 –> 00:06:12.000 even now, I’m heavily involved, 00:06:13.000 –> 00:06:13.000 with, 00:06:14.000 –> 00:06:15.000 two 00:06:15.000 –> 00:06:16.000 projects, 00:06:16.000 –> 00:06:17.000 and building forty, 00:06:18.000 –> 00:06:20.000 affordable houses in Alton, 00:06:21.000 –> 00:06:22.000 starting March, 00:06:23.000 –> 00:06:25.000 and I put together a white people to 00:06:25.000 –> 00:06:25.000 revitalize, 00:06:26.000 –> 00:06:27.000 Venice. 00:06:29.000 –> 00:06:30.000 You know, that community, 00:06:31.000 –> 00:06:31.000 low income, 00:06:32.000 –> 00:06:33.000 poverty stricken, driven, 00:06:35.000 –> 00:06:37.000 no grocery store, no healthcare facilities. 00:06:38.000 –> 00:06:40.000 We were fortunate to get them a new 00:06:40.000 –> 00:06:44.000 elementary school, which, we will break ground there. 00:06:44.000 –> 00:06:45.000 In March, 00:06:46.000 –> 00:06:49.000 about twenty four, twenty six million dollars thanks 00:06:49.000 –> 00:06:50.000 to our legislators. 00:06:50.000 –> 00:06:53.000 We’re working them a grocery store. We’re working 00:06:53.000 –> 00:06:56.000 to get them a healthcare sit, facility. 00:06:57.000 –> 00:07:00.000 And then, we’re gonna put forty homes there. 00:07:01.000 –> 00:07:04.000 We’re working to bring in a rec center 00:07:04.000 –> 00:07:06.000 for the young people there. So again, 00:07:06.000 –> 00:07:08.000 given back to the community, 00:07:09.000 –> 00:07:12.000 The second initiative that, I have going now. 00:07:14.000 –> 00:07:17.000 For the Madison High School, students, we’ve started 00:07:17.000 –> 00:07:19.000 a Sky bullshit fund 00:07:20.000 –> 00:07:22.000 for those high school students, 00:07:23.000 –> 00:07:26.000 whereby we will be able to give 00:07:26.000 –> 00:07:27.000 anywhere from, 00:07:29.000 –> 00:07:31.000 three to five two thousand dollars scholarships, 00:07:33.000 –> 00:07:34.000 each year beginning, 00:07:35.000 –> 00:07:35.000 and, 00:07:36.000 –> 00:07:37.000 twenty four. 00:07:37.000 –> 00:07:39.000 So, you know, again, I’m, 00:07:39.000 –> 00:07:40.000 pretty, 00:07:40.000 –> 00:07:42.000 pretty patient. But but, you know, the the 00:07:42.000 –> 00:07:45.000 the thing, it’s all on my time. 00:07:46.000 –> 00:07:48.000 You know, it’s not like I have to 00:07:48.000 –> 00:07:50.000 punch a clock now. It’s not like I’ve 00:07:50.000 –> 00:07:52.000 got When I was superintendent, 00:07:52.000 –> 00:07:54.000 I had seven thousand six hundred students in 00:07:54.000 –> 00:07:56.000 the Atmos School District, 00:07:56.000 –> 00:07:57.000 and parents, 00:07:58.000 –> 00:07:59.000 very demanding. 00:08:00.000 –> 00:08:02.000 And so I don’t have the parents screaming 00:08:02.000 –> 00:08:04.000 and hollering at me. I missed the kids. 00:08:04.000 –> 00:08:06.000 Same thing with her friend. I don’t have 00:08:07.000 –> 00:08:09.000 folks like you from the whole line eye 00:08:09.000 –> 00:08:11.000 screaming and holler net. That’s a terrible call. 00:08:11.000 –> 00:08:14.000 That was a terrible call. Hightower. You you 00:08:14.000 –> 00:08:16.000 know, you hate Illinois. Right? Oh, you know, 00:08:16.000 –> 00:08:18.000 and then I go to Michigan. You hate 00:08:18.000 –> 00:08:20.000 Michigan? I hate Michigan. You know, I hate, 00:08:20.000 –> 00:08:20.000 you know, 00:08:21.000 –> 00:08:23.000 So, you know, I don’t have that now. 00:08:23.000 –> 00:08:25.000 You know, I just wake up and do 00:08:25.000 –> 00:08:26.000 the kinds of things that, 00:08:27.000 –> 00:08:28.000 that meets 00:08:28.000 –> 00:08:30.000 my value system 00:08:30.000 –> 00:08:33.000 of giving back and, and so on. Then 00:08:33.000 –> 00:08:36.000 during the wintertime, my wife and I, forty 00:08:36.000 –> 00:08:37.000 nine years, 00:08:38.000 –> 00:08:38.000 we, 00:08:39.000 –> 00:08:42.000 I go to Florida and, spend time there. 00:08:42.000 –> 00:08:44.000 So Where can that golf game? I do. 00:08:44.000 –> 00:08:46.000 What’s the handicap? My handicap is a seven. 00:08:47.000 –> 00:08:47.000 My index 00:08:48.000 –> 00:08:51.000 found. My index is, is about an eight, 00:08:52.000 –> 00:08:54.000 seven out at Sunset Country Club. So, yeah, 00:08:54.000 –> 00:08:57.000 so, you know, so Yeah. The the the 00:08:57.000 –> 00:08:58.000 the golf has improved 00:08:59.000 –> 00:09:01.000 since I retired because I was I’m not 00:09:01.000 –> 00:09:03.000 on a I’m not on a phone all 00:09:03.000 –> 00:09:05.000 the time. Yeah. Check this email resolve that 00:09:05.000 –> 00:09:07.000 message and do all that. So, you know, 00:09:07.000 –> 00:09:08.000 here’s the thing I you’ve mentioned a couple 00:09:08.000 –> 00:09:11.000 times is your values organization. Right? So your 00:09:11.000 –> 00:09:13.000 values, I think we think of as an 00:09:13.000 –> 00:09:15.000 organization We had to be values aligned and 00:09:15.000 –> 00:09:17.000 mission aligned. And and what I have found 00:09:17.000 –> 00:09:19.000 through my twenty two, twenty three year career 00:09:19.000 –> 00:09:21.000 is when those things are aligned, good things 00:09:21.000 –> 00:09:24.000 happen. Right? Absolutely. But when they’re not, bad 00:09:24.000 –> 00:09:25.000 things happen. Right? Absolutely. 00:09:25.000 –> 00:09:27.000 Because be and and the reason, 00:09:29.000 –> 00:09:30.000 there are no guardrails. 00:09:31.000 –> 00:09:34.000 When you when your when your value system 00:09:35.000 –> 00:09:36.000 is a line, there are guardrails that 00:09:37.000 –> 00:09:37.000 keeps 00:09:40.000 –> 00:09:44.000 that keep you focused. Yeah. You know, when 00:09:44.000 –> 00:09:44.000 I 00:09:45.000 –> 00:09:46.000 refereed, 00:09:46.000 –> 00:09:49.000 when I represented the United States, I remember 00:09:49.000 –> 00:09:50.000 this 00:09:50.000 –> 00:09:52.000 so vividly. 00:09:53.000 –> 00:09:55.000 My my first trip 00:09:57.000 –> 00:09:59.000 to the world games. That was the first 00:09:59.000 –> 00:10:01.000 time that, I mean, I’m on major, 00:10:03.000 –> 00:10:04.000 international stage. 00:10:06.000 –> 00:10:08.000 Mike Kachevsky was the coach 00:10:09.000 –> 00:10:10.000 of the US team. 00:10:11.000 –> 00:10:12.000 I’m never free. 00:10:14.000 –> 00:10:15.000 What an awesome responsibility 00:10:16.000 –> 00:10:18.000 to represent your country? 00:10:19.000 –> 00:10:22.000 And as you as they prepare you to 00:10:22.000 –> 00:10:23.000 go 00:10:23.000 –> 00:10:24.000 to, 00:10:25.000 –> 00:10:28.000 setting like what my first trip was. 00:10:28.000 –> 00:10:31.000 They tell you, it’s not if 00:10:31.000 –> 00:10:32.000 you’re gonna be proposition. 00:10:34.000 –> 00:10:35.000 It’s when. 00:10:36.000 –> 00:10:37.000 And 00:10:38.000 –> 00:10:39.000 The 00:10:40.000 –> 00:10:42.000 simple answer is, just say no. 00:10:43.000 –> 00:10:45.000 It it walks to double proposition to do 00:10:45.000 –> 00:10:47.000 what? A proposition given money. 00:10:48.000 –> 00:10:48.000 Yeah. 00:10:50.000 –> 00:10:50.000 To 00:10:52.000 –> 00:10:53.000 Make a different call. Make a different different 00:10:53.000 –> 00:10:57.000 call or something like that. So, yeah, those 00:10:57.000 –> 00:10:57.000 all of those, 00:11:00.000 –> 00:11:00.000 tangibles 00:11:00.000 –> 00:11:01.000 are 00:11:01.000 –> 00:11:03.000 there to incentivize 00:11:03.000 –> 00:11:06.000 you to do the wrong things. Right. But 00:11:06.000 –> 00:11:09.000 if your value system is in check, 00:11:10.000 –> 00:11:12.000 you’re gonna do the right things when people 00:11:12.000 –> 00:11:13.000 aren’t around. 00:11:15.000 –> 00:11:17.000 And that’s the key thing I tell young 00:11:17.000 –> 00:11:17.000 people. 00:11:18.000 –> 00:11:20.000 Don’t get caught up with just doing the 00:11:20.000 –> 00:11:21.000 right things 00:11:22.000 –> 00:11:22.000 when, 00:11:23.000 –> 00:11:24.000 or the right thing when 00:11:25.000 –> 00:11:28.000 somebody’s watching you. The big test is can 00:11:28.000 –> 00:11:29.000 you 00:11:29.000 –> 00:11:32.000 do the right thing or the right things 00:11:32.000 –> 00:11:36.000 when people aren’t Yep. And that’s where 00:11:36.000 –> 00:11:40.000 the value system comes into play. The safeguards, 00:11:40.000 –> 00:11:43.000 the safe rails, guardrails are there. 00:11:43.000 –> 00:11:45.000 To keep you 00:11:45.000 –> 00:11:45.000 centered 00:11:46.000 –> 00:11:48.000 and keep you, keep your eye on the 00:11:48.000 –> 00:11:50.000 mark, and so on, and you don’t get 00:11:50.000 –> 00:11:51.000 sidelined. 00:11:51.000 –> 00:11:54.000 Yep. So it’s, my buddy Steve went off 00:11:54.000 –> 00:11:55.000 when we were talking last night. I told 00:11:55.000 –> 00:11:57.000 him that you were coming on, and he’s 00:11:57.000 –> 00:11:59.000 a big basketball guy. And so shout out 00:11:59.000 –> 00:12:01.000 to Steve, but He’s like, how do you 00:12:01.000 –> 00:12:02.000 handle up objectivity? 00:12:03.000 –> 00:12:05.000 Surely there were some coaches or programs or 00:12:05.000 –> 00:12:07.000 players that were harder to you know, you 00:12:07.000 –> 00:12:09.000 know, they were gonna be on you the 00:12:09.000 –> 00:12:10.000 whole time. Right? And and so how did 00:12:10.000 –> 00:12:12.000 you stay objective with that of not trying 00:12:12.000 –> 00:12:14.000 to choose sides or when you go represent 00:12:14.000 –> 00:12:16.000 America to not say, I wanna, you know, 00:12:16.000 –> 00:12:18.000 I want my guys to win. The guardrails. 00:12:18.000 –> 00:12:20.000 Yep. Yeah. Again, the value system, 00:12:21.000 –> 00:12:22.000 honesty, integrity, 00:12:23.000 –> 00:12:26.000 hard work. Yeah. And, that you put those 00:12:26.000 –> 00:12:28.000 all in that, as a potpourri. 00:12:29.000 –> 00:12:31.000 Guess what’s gonna come out? Hence why you 00:12:31.000 –> 00:12:32.000 did twelve, 00:12:32.000 –> 00:12:34.000 final four. You got it. Yeah. And and, 00:12:34.000 –> 00:12:34.000 you know, 00:12:35.000 –> 00:12:38.000 coach Knight and I were very close. Yeah. 00:12:38.000 –> 00:12:39.000 A lot of people don’t know that. We 00:12:39.000 –> 00:12:40.000 talked 00:12:41.000 –> 00:12:43.000 you know, we would bump heads on the 00:12:43.000 –> 00:12:43.000 floor. 00:12:44.000 –> 00:12:45.000 But, 00:12:45.000 –> 00:12:47.000 off the floor, we would talk, 00:12:48.000 –> 00:12:49.000 we talked a lot 00:12:49.000 –> 00:12:51.000 about education, about young people, 00:12:52.000 –> 00:12:54.000 one of the smartest individuals you ever wanna 00:12:54.000 –> 00:12:55.000 be around. 00:12:56.000 –> 00:12:56.000 And, 00:12:58.000 –> 00:12:58.000 guardrails. 00:12:59.000 –> 00:12:59.000 Okay. 00:13:00.000 –> 00:13:02.000 You always know that 00:13:05.000 –> 00:13:06.000 going into that game, 00:13:08.000 –> 00:13:10.000 you have to be 00:13:11.000 –> 00:13:12.000 not subjective, 00:13:13.000 –> 00:13:16.000 but objective. You see it you call it 00:13:17.000 –> 00:13:19.000 and let the chips fall where they may. 00:13:19.000 –> 00:13:22.000 But by the same token you there to 00:13:22.000 –> 00:13:26.000 lend a hand as as to both sides. 00:13:26.000 –> 00:13:27.000 And when I say that, 00:13:28.000 –> 00:13:30.000 I would go to, say, coach Knight, for 00:13:30.000 –> 00:13:32.000 example, and say, Hey. 00:13:33.000 –> 00:13:34.000 Number fifty four, 00:13:35.000 –> 00:13:36.000 He’s got his hands on him. 00:13:37.000 –> 00:13:40.000 Yep. Now I’m telling you to take care 00:13:40.000 –> 00:13:41.000 of it. If you don’t take care of 00:13:41.000 –> 00:13:43.000 it, you’re gonna take care of it. Alright. 00:13:43.000 –> 00:13:46.000 Then you go down to the other end, 00:13:46.000 –> 00:13:47.000 Michigan State, 00:13:48.000 –> 00:13:51.000 at that time, Judd Heathco. Yeah. Are, I’m 00:13:51.000 –> 00:13:53.000 gonna tell you a little story about Lou 00:13:53.000 –> 00:13:55.000 Henson in just a moment, but 00:13:55.000 –> 00:13:57.000 you would do the same thing on the 00:13:57.000 –> 00:14:00.000 Gilliland the coaches know that. And they respect 00:14:00.000 –> 00:14:04.000 you, and they know when that game is 00:14:04.000 –> 00:14:05.000 on the line. 00:14:06.000 –> 00:14:08.000 They can trust you to do the right 00:14:08.000 –> 00:14:11.000 thing. Yeah. It goes back through what I 00:14:11.000 –> 00:14:13.000 said earlier, the right thing. 00:14:14.000 –> 00:14:16.000 Not that you you aren’t gonna make mistakes. 00:14:17.000 –> 00:14:19.000 Not that you you aren’t gonna miss a 00:14:19.000 –> 00:14:19.000 call, 00:14:20.000 –> 00:14:23.000 but they trust you to do the right 00:14:23.000 –> 00:14:23.000 thing. 00:14:24.000 –> 00:14:26.000 Lou Henson played a very, 00:14:27.000 –> 00:14:30.000 important role in Ed Hightower getting to the 00:14:30.000 –> 00:14:31.000 big ten, and I never knew about it 00:14:31.000 –> 00:14:32.000 until 00:14:32.000 –> 00:14:35.000 six years after I was in the big 00:14:35.000 –> 00:14:37.000 ten, after I became a crew chief. 00:14:39.000 –> 00:14:42.000 Lou Henson was in this area, recruiting. 00:14:43.000 –> 00:14:45.000 Saw me referee in a high school basketball 00:14:45.000 –> 00:14:46.000 game. 00:14:48.000 –> 00:14:49.000 Called a big ten, 00:14:50.000 –> 00:14:52.000 Wow. The next day and said, I mean, 00:14:52.000 –> 00:14:52.000 tell you, 00:14:53.000 –> 00:14:55.000 I saw this young African American. 00:14:56.000 –> 00:14:58.000 He is gonna be good. 00:14:59.000 –> 00:15:01.000 You need to get someone down there and 00:15:01.000 –> 00:15:03.000 take a look at this guy and start 00:15:03.000 –> 00:15:07.000 tracking him. He’s gonna be good. And somebody 00:15:07.000 –> 00:15:10.000 is gonna get him. Another league is gonna 00:15:10.000 –> 00:15:13.000 get him, you need to take a look. 00:15:13.000 –> 00:15:15.000 Well, lo and behold, 00:15:15.000 –> 00:15:16.000 I’m twenty 00:15:16.000 –> 00:15:19.000 five years old. I go to my first 00:15:19.000 –> 00:15:21.000 camp at Michigan State, Big Ten Camp. 00:15:24.000 –> 00:15:26.000 Out of a hundred and ten 00:15:26.000 –> 00:15:27.000 campers, 00:15:28.000 –> 00:15:29.000 they only took two 00:15:32.000 –> 00:15:32.000 campers 00:15:33.000 –> 00:15:35.000 and added us to what they used to 00:15:35.000 –> 00:15:38.000 call in the Big Ten, our satellite crew. 00:15:38.000 –> 00:15:40.000 That was the 00:15:40.000 –> 00:15:41.000 officials 00:15:41.000 –> 00:15:44.000 that they would hire at that time at 00:15:44.000 –> 00:15:46.000 a Western Illinois university, which was a division 00:15:46.000 –> 00:15:48.000 two Eastern 00:15:48.000 –> 00:15:49.000 Northern Iowa 00:15:50.000 –> 00:15:53.000 Okay? And they would track your experience. 00:15:53.000 –> 00:15:56.000 You got it. Yeah. And then from that 00:15:56.000 –> 00:15:56.000 point, 00:15:57.000 –> 00:15:59.000 two years later, 00:16:01.000 –> 00:16:03.000 the supervisor of the Big Ten called the 00:16:03.000 –> 00:16:05.000 Missouri Valley and said, look, 00:16:06.000 –> 00:16:08.000 we’ve got this young kid And again, I 00:16:08.000 –> 00:16:10.000 don’t know this at the time. I know, 00:16:10.000 –> 00:16:12.000 as they say, I know nothing. 00:16:12.000 –> 00:16:15.000 He’s getting the Gilliland security. Exactly. 00:16:15.000 –> 00:16:16.000 So, 00:16:17.000 –> 00:16:20.000 I was at, I was selected to do 00:16:20.000 –> 00:16:22.000 the National Jukot Tournament. 00:16:23.000 –> 00:16:25.000 I am now twenty 00:16:25.000 –> 00:16:26.000 seven years old. 00:16:27.000 –> 00:16:30.000 The National Duke Oak tournament in Hutchison, Kansas. 00:16:31.000 –> 00:16:32.000 And, 00:16:32.000 –> 00:16:33.000 Johnny Overbe, 00:16:33.000 –> 00:16:35.000 who was the Missouri Valley, 00:16:36.000 –> 00:16:37.000 supervisor. 00:16:38.000 –> 00:16:40.000 I didn’t know he was at the game. 00:16:40.000 –> 00:16:44.000 He sat and watch me work for three 00:16:44.000 –> 00:16:45.000 days in a row. 00:16:46.000 –> 00:16:46.000 Okay. 00:16:47.000 –> 00:16:47.000 And, 00:16:48.000 –> 00:16:48.000 with that, 00:16:51.000 –> 00:16:54.000 He came in that third night after the 00:16:54.000 –> 00:16:55.000 game and said, I’ve watched you, 00:16:56.000 –> 00:16:57.000 three days. 00:16:58.000 –> 00:17:00.000 I wanna bring you into the Missouri Valley. 00:17:01.000 –> 00:17:03.000 Brought me into the Missouri Valley. 00:17:04.000 –> 00:17:09.000 You know, I fool some Gilliland, 00:17:10.000 –> 00:17:12.000 I worked there two years in the Missouri 00:17:12.000 –> 00:17:14.000 Gilliland then a big ten, 00:17:15.000 –> 00:17:15.000 set at, 00:17:16.000 –> 00:17:18.000 I We’re gonna bring you and put you 00:17:18.000 –> 00:17:20.000 on a crew. So they put me on 00:17:20.000 –> 00:17:22.000 a crew at twenty nine years old 00:17:22.000 –> 00:17:24.000 on a now you think about this. 00:17:24.000 –> 00:17:25.000 Now, 00:17:26.000 –> 00:17:27.000 That’s young. That young? 00:17:28.000 –> 00:17:31.000 Yeah. That is too young. Okay. That’s Okay. 00:17:31.000 –> 00:17:32.000 T 00:17:32.000 –> 00:17:35.000 o o, too young. Right. 00:17:35.000 –> 00:17:38.000 And, but I was very fortunate. 00:17:40.000 –> 00:17:42.000 I walked in and let me tell you, 00:17:43.000 –> 00:17:44.000 you think you’re ready. 00:17:45.000 –> 00:17:47.000 Well, you find quickly when you walk into 00:17:47.000 –> 00:17:49.000 an Illinois and you’ve got fourteen thousand 00:17:50.000 –> 00:17:54.000 crazies there on crosses on you majorly. 00:17:55.000 –> 00:17:57.000 Or you go to Gilliland, 00:17:57.000 –> 00:17:59.000 and you got sixteen thousand people there, a 00:17:59.000 –> 00:18:02.000 sea of red. Yeah. And at that time, 00:18:02.000 –> 00:18:03.000 you know, coach Hightower was just like a 00:18:03.000 –> 00:18:07.000 giant. He was a giant in the game 00:18:07.000 –> 00:18:08.000 and a big man 00:18:09.000 –> 00:18:11.000 to to boot. I had seen him on 00:18:11.000 –> 00:18:14.000 TV, but I did not know him. 00:18:14.000 –> 00:18:17.000 Okay? Mhmm. So I go out there, but 00:18:17.000 –> 00:18:18.000 I had been told 00:18:18.000 –> 00:18:19.000 by, 00:18:20.000 –> 00:18:20.000 another, 00:18:21.000 –> 00:18:22.000 prominent 00:18:23.000 –> 00:18:25.000 veteran referee. His name was Jim Bane. Oh 00:18:25.000 –> 00:18:27.000 my gosh. That’s so crazy. See, you’re not 00:18:27.000 –> 00:18:29.000 gonna believe this. I thought you’re gonna say 00:18:29.000 –> 00:18:30.000 this. He was my neighbor growing up in 00:18:30.000 –> 00:18:33.000 Matune, Illinois. Are you kidding me? Oh my 00:18:33.000 –> 00:18:36.000 gosh. Well, Jim Baine was my mentor. He’s 00:18:36.000 –> 00:18:38.000 literally one of the things I was gonna 00:18:38.000 –> 00:18:40.000 bring Jim. Jim Bane. Yeah. Jim Bane, 00:18:41.000 –> 00:18:44.000 Matune. You’re Hightower. Banker and all, well, Jim 00:18:44.000 –> 00:18:46.000 and I. Jim and I used to fly. 00:18:46.000 –> 00:18:47.000 So funny. Jim was a pilot. 00:18:48.000 –> 00:18:51.000 At one time. I leased an airplane, 00:18:51.000 –> 00:18:54.000 and had someone flying me around. And we 00:18:54.000 –> 00:18:56.000 would hook up. I’d go to Decatur, pick 00:18:56.000 –> 00:18:58.000 him up, depending on where we’re going. But 00:18:58.000 –> 00:18:59.000 the 00:19:00.000 –> 00:19:00.000 the the 00:19:01.000 –> 00:19:02.000 he 00:19:02.000 –> 00:19:03.000 initiation 00:19:03.000 –> 00:19:04.000 to the big ten, 00:19:05.000 –> 00:19:05.000 Jim 00:19:06.000 –> 00:19:07.000 I talk I would talk to him all 00:19:07.000 –> 00:19:09.000 of the time. And I said, Jim, tell 00:19:09.000 –> 00:19:11.000 me, how do you heal 00:19:12.000 –> 00:19:13.000 a coach knight? 00:19:14.000 –> 00:19:15.000 How do you heal? 00:19:16.000 –> 00:19:17.000 And he says, and he used to call 00:19:17.000 –> 00:19:18.000 me Eddie. Eddie, 00:19:20.000 –> 00:19:21.000 coach Knight, 00:19:22.000 –> 00:19:23.000 he’s gonna test you 00:19:24.000 –> 00:19:26.000 when you first get in a big ten. 00:19:26.000 –> 00:19:27.000 You could take it to the bank. 00:19:28.000 –> 00:19:31.000 Judd Heathcoat is gonna test you 00:19:31.000 –> 00:19:33.000 when you Yeah. 00:19:34.000 –> 00:19:35.000 Get to one of his games. 00:19:36.000 –> 00:19:38.000 He says, not coach knight. It’s gonna say 00:19:38.000 –> 00:19:41.000 something to you. It may be religious. 00:19:42.000 –> 00:19:44.000 It may be political Gilliland 00:19:44.000 –> 00:19:44.000 it. 00:19:45.000 –> 00:19:46.000 He may say something, 00:19:47.000 –> 00:19:48.000 racially. 00:19:48.000 –> 00:19:50.000 Oh my god. Because he wants to see 00:19:50.000 –> 00:19:51.000 how you’re gonna react. 00:19:52.000 –> 00:19:54.000 How thick is the man you have? Don’t 00:19:54.000 –> 00:19:55.000 react. 00:19:55.000 –> 00:19:56.000 And he says, 00:19:57.000 –> 00:20:00.000 all of these coaches in their own way 00:20:00.000 –> 00:20:02.000 will test you and here’s why. 00:20:03.000 –> 00:20:05.000 They’re not concerned 00:20:05.000 –> 00:20:06.000 about you 00:20:06.000 –> 00:20:07.000 at home. 00:20:09.000 –> 00:20:13.000 They’re concerned about you when Indiana goes to 00:20:13.000 –> 00:20:13.000 Purdue. 00:20:14.000 –> 00:20:17.000 And that fifteen thousand people are there 00:20:18.000 –> 00:20:19.000 at Machia Arena. 00:20:20.000 –> 00:20:21.000 Or when he goes to Illinois, 00:20:22.000 –> 00:20:25.000 and they’ve got the fourteen thousand people are 00:20:25.000 –> 00:20:26.000 so there. 00:20:26.000 –> 00:20:29.000 They are They wanna know how you’re gonna 00:20:29.000 –> 00:20:30.000 behave on the road. 00:20:31.000 –> 00:20:34.000 So I get asked this story often. What 00:20:34.000 –> 00:20:36.000 was the first thing coach and I said 00:20:36.000 –> 00:20:36.000 to you? 00:20:37.000 –> 00:20:37.000 So, 00:20:38.000 –> 00:20:39.000 this young cat, 00:20:40.000 –> 00:20:43.000 twenty eight years old, I walk out there 00:20:43.000 –> 00:20:44.000 on the floor. 00:20:45.000 –> 00:20:46.000 We get there. We have to be there 00:20:46.000 –> 00:20:48.000 an hour and a half before game time. 00:20:48.000 –> 00:20:50.000 Nobody’s in the arena. 00:20:51.000 –> 00:20:52.000 Then we have to walk out on the 00:20:52.000 –> 00:20:55.000 floor. Thirty minutes before game time. 00:20:56.000 –> 00:20:58.000 We walk out there thirty minutes before game 00:20:58.000 –> 00:21:00.000 time. There’s just a sea of red, sixteen 00:21:00.000 –> 00:21:03.000 thousand people, sea of red. 00:21:03.000 –> 00:21:05.000 And then coach Hightower 00:21:05.000 –> 00:21:08.000 at that time, he would normally come out 00:21:08.000 –> 00:21:09.000 a minute before the game. 00:21:10.000 –> 00:21:11.000 That was his demo. 00:21:12.000 –> 00:21:12.000 Well, 00:21:13.000 –> 00:21:15.000 He knew that he had this young, 00:21:17.000 –> 00:21:18.000 young official. 00:21:19.000 –> 00:21:21.000 He comes out about two and a half 00:21:21.000 –> 00:21:22.000 minutes before game time. 00:21:23.000 –> 00:21:26.000 The sea the the the the fans, they 00:21:26.000 –> 00:21:27.000 stand 00:21:27.000 –> 00:21:30.000 held to the king, held to the king. 00:21:30.000 –> 00:21:32.000 And so he walks by. 00:21:33.000 –> 00:21:36.000 The three officials. He goes down shakes hands 00:21:37.000 –> 00:21:39.000 with the, shake hand with the, 00:21:39.000 –> 00:21:42.000 opposing coach. Yeah. So he comes back and 00:21:42.000 –> 00:21:44.000 I’m just I I’m so scared. 00:21:44.000 –> 00:21:46.000 I am so scared to Shamkia because he, 00:21:47.000 –> 00:21:49.000 you know, all of the history 00:21:50.000 –> 00:21:53.000 throwing chairs, screaming yelling, you know, but just 00:21:53.000 –> 00:21:55.000 just just his m o, you know, just, 00:21:55.000 –> 00:21:57.000 you know, he was he was a national 00:21:57.000 –> 00:21:58.000 figure. 00:21:59.000 –> 00:22:00.000 So he goes down 00:22:00.000 –> 00:22:04.000 and he gets about six inches. His rear 00:22:04.000 –> 00:22:06.000 end from hitting his seat. 00:22:06.000 –> 00:22:08.000 And he comes back, and he gets right 00:22:08.000 –> 00:22:09.000 in my face. 00:22:10.000 –> 00:22:11.000 And he says, 00:22:12.000 –> 00:22:14.000 I hope you’re not tonight when I get 00:22:14.000 –> 00:22:16.000 on you. Oh. 00:22:16.000 –> 00:22:18.000 It’s gonna be, 00:22:18.000 –> 00:22:21.000 chewing that, and you can fill fill in 00:22:21.000 –> 00:22:22.000 the words. 00:22:22.000 –> 00:22:24.000 That you’ve never 00:22:24.000 –> 00:22:26.000 this is what it gave. And the fans 00:22:26.000 –> 00:22:27.000 are eating it up. 00:22:28.000 –> 00:22:30.000 Yeah. The fans are eating it up. 00:22:30.000 –> 00:22:32.000 This will be a chewing like you’ve never 00:22:32.000 –> 00:22:34.000 had before. Yeah. Welcome 00:22:35.000 –> 00:22:36.000 to the Big Ten. 00:22:37.000 –> 00:22:39.000 Now you think about that for a moment. 00:22:39.000 –> 00:22:41.000 And now, so that was my 00:22:42.000 –> 00:22:42.000 intro 00:22:43.000 –> 00:22:44.000 to coach Knight. 00:22:45.000 –> 00:22:48.000 Well, I in talking with Jim, Jim said 00:22:48.000 –> 00:22:51.000 Listen. The way you hail a coach knight, 00:22:51.000 –> 00:22:53.000 you don’t you you hail him the same 00:22:53.000 –> 00:22:54.000 way I want you to handle every other 00:22:54.000 –> 00:22:55.000 coach. 00:22:56.000 –> 00:22:59.000 You when you get near the coach where 00:22:59.000 –> 00:23:01.000 he’s standing, get out on the floor. 00:23:02.000 –> 00:23:02.000 And then 00:23:03.000 –> 00:23:05.000 when you start to go back down the 00:23:05.000 –> 00:23:07.000 floor, you go. You don’t you don’t linger. 00:23:08.000 –> 00:23:09.000 Doing a time out. 00:23:10.000 –> 00:23:12.000 Get out on the floor. You don’t need 00:23:12.000 –> 00:23:14.000 to and I I get angry now when 00:23:14.000 –> 00:23:16.000 I see these officials standing over their body 00:23:16.000 –> 00:23:17.000 coaches. 00:23:17.000 –> 00:23:20.000 They are not there to be your friend. 00:23:20.000 –> 00:23:22.000 They don’t give you candy. 00:23:23.000 –> 00:23:26.000 And they’re not handing out candy. No. So 00:23:26.000 –> 00:23:27.000 bottom line, 00:23:27.000 –> 00:23:30.000 I always adopt at that. I and that 00:23:30.000 –> 00:23:30.000 was my, 00:23:32.000 –> 00:23:34.000 way of Helen Coaches. Now 00:23:35.000 –> 00:23:36.000 the next game, 00:23:36.000 –> 00:23:39.000 I’ve got conference game. Uh-oh. 00:23:39.000 –> 00:23:40.000 I’ve got 00:23:41.000 –> 00:23:42.000 Judd Heathcote 00:23:43.000 –> 00:23:45.000 at Iowa against 00:23:46.000 –> 00:23:47.000 Lou 00:23:47.000 –> 00:23:47.000 lutosin. 00:23:48.000 –> 00:23:49.000 Yeah. Okay. 00:23:50.000 –> 00:23:53.000 He was there. Apartment? I forgot he was 00:23:53.000 –> 00:23:55.000 there. Yeah. Oh, yes. Oh, yeah. They had 00:23:55.000 –> 00:23:56.000 just opened Okay. Carver, 00:23:57.000 –> 00:23:59.000 hawk iron. Yeah. Okay. 00:23:59.000 –> 00:24:00.000 So now 00:24:00.000 –> 00:24:02.000 Think about this for a moment. 00:24:04.000 –> 00:24:05.000 The Iowa fans, they 00:24:07.000 –> 00:24:08.000 are rabbit. 00:24:09.000 –> 00:24:11.000 Because again, and I will think about it. 00:24:11.000 –> 00:24:13.000 There there there are no major league sports. 00:24:13.000 –> 00:24:16.000 It’s it’s just all this is the big 00:24:16.000 –> 00:24:18.000 deal. This is the big leagues as they 00:24:18.000 –> 00:24:18.000 call it. 00:24:19.000 –> 00:24:21.000 Judd Heat heat coat 00:24:22.000 –> 00:24:24.000 didn’t like young officials 00:24:25.000 –> 00:24:28.000 because he could not trust them. And I 00:24:28.000 –> 00:24:29.000 and I and I understand why now as 00:24:29.000 –> 00:24:32.000 I as I got into it, I I 00:24:32.000 –> 00:24:34.000 I quickly learned that. But again, 00:24:35.000 –> 00:24:38.000 same thing. Jim said, Ed, 00:24:38.000 –> 00:24:40.000 he’s gonna say something to you. 00:24:41.000 –> 00:24:44.000 Just let it go. So we go out 00:24:44.000 –> 00:24:44.000 there. 00:24:44.000 –> 00:24:46.000 I’m working with this veteran referee. 00:24:48.000 –> 00:24:50.000 This veteran referee in the first five minutes 00:24:50.000 –> 00:24:53.000 he makes three of the worst calls in 00:24:53.000 –> 00:24:54.000 America. 00:24:56.000 –> 00:24:59.000 Michigan two against Michigan State One against Iowa. 00:24:59.000 –> 00:25:02.000 Neither one of the coaches said a word. 00:25:03.000 –> 00:25:04.000 Neither one of the coaches. 00:25:04.000 –> 00:25:05.000 So now, 00:25:06.000 –> 00:25:08.000 it Hightower when he finally gets enough 00:25:08.000 –> 00:25:09.000 nerve 00:25:10.000 –> 00:25:11.000 to blow his whistle. 00:25:12.000 –> 00:25:14.000 I make my first call after about ten 00:25:14.000 –> 00:25:16.000 minutes. It’s the right call. Yeah. 00:25:17.000 –> 00:25:20.000 Judd Heath Coach, and it’s the correct call. 00:25:20.000 –> 00:25:22.000 Judd Heath Coach. 00:25:24.000 –> 00:25:25.000 Jumped up. 00:25:25.000 –> 00:25:26.000 And 00:25:26.000 –> 00:25:28.000 so I said, I knew it. 00:25:30.000 –> 00:25:32.000 Richard, where did this young kid come from? 00:25:32.000 –> 00:25:34.000 You will never make it. I’m gonna make 00:25:34.000 –> 00:25:36.000 sure you’re fired from the big ten. Oh 00:25:36.000 –> 00:25:39.000 my. You can’t make it. So we get 00:25:39.000 –> 00:25:40.000 through the game. Let me tell you. 00:25:41.000 –> 00:25:43.000 Doing the right thing, 00:25:43.000 –> 00:25:45.000 even when it’s unpopular. 00:25:46.000 –> 00:25:48.000 Michigan State is on the road. 00:25:49.000 –> 00:25:52.000 The last play of the game. 00:25:52.000 –> 00:25:56.000 I’m on national TV, CBS, Billy Packer is 00:25:56.000 –> 00:25:57.000 doing the game. 00:25:57.000 –> 00:25:59.000 There’s an out of bounds play. 00:26:00.000 –> 00:26:03.000 It’s my call. It’s right on the sideline. 00:26:04.000 –> 00:26:05.000 The coach, 00:26:06.000 –> 00:26:08.000 heat code could see it certainly 00:26:09.000 –> 00:26:11.000 Iowa could see it lead house. 00:26:12.000 –> 00:26:13.000 Now, the kid barely, 00:26:14.000 –> 00:26:16.000 barely stepped on the sideline. 00:26:18.000 –> 00:26:20.000 I could have easily said 00:26:21.000 –> 00:26:23.000 I didn’t see that call. 00:26:25.000 –> 00:26:26.000 I could have said that. 00:26:27.000 –> 00:26:29.000 Do the right thing, even when it’s not 00:26:30.000 –> 00:26:31.000 poplar. Yep. 00:26:32.000 –> 00:26:33.000 Boom is a great advice. 00:26:34.000 –> 00:26:35.000 Made the call. 00:26:36.000 –> 00:26:38.000 Iowa lost a game by one. 00:26:39.000 –> 00:26:41.000 John Heathco jumps up, 00:26:42.000 –> 00:26:45.000 great call. Now wait, he’s the same guy. 00:26:45.000 –> 00:26:47.000 The whole game that was saying you’ll never 00:26:47.000 –> 00:26:49.000 make it. You’re thinking part. 00:26:50.000 –> 00:26:50.000 And 00:26:51.000 –> 00:26:52.000 I made the right call 00:26:53.000 –> 00:26:54.000 from that point, 00:26:55.000 –> 00:26:58.000 individual, the coaches in the Big Ten, and 00:26:58.000 –> 00:27:00.000 Across the country began to say, who is 00:27:00.000 –> 00:27:02.000 this young kid? Yeah. 00:27:02.000 –> 00:27:04.000 I referred my first final four at thirty 00:27:04.000 –> 00:27:05.000 four years old. 00:27:06.000 –> 00:27:09.000 I worked seven final fours in a row. 00:27:09.000 –> 00:27:12.000 Holy smokes. In a row. That’s not normal. 00:27:12.000 –> 00:27:14.000 Not normal. You go back. I I think 00:27:14.000 –> 00:27:16.000 that’s the time has been done in the 00:27:16.000 –> 00:27:17.000 history of the game. That’s amazing. 00:27:18.000 –> 00:27:19.000 So it again, 00:27:19.000 –> 00:27:22.000 the story that I tell young people 00:27:22.000 –> 00:27:24.000 do the right thing even when it’s not 00:27:24.000 –> 00:27:24.000 popular. 00:27:26.000 –> 00:27:29.000 Do the right thing when people aren’t watching 00:27:29.000 –> 00:27:30.000 you. 00:27:31.000 –> 00:27:33.000 That’s the value system 00:27:33.000 –> 00:27:34.000 that 00:27:35.000 –> 00:27:38.000 you want to build your life around. 00:27:39.000 –> 00:27:40.000 You can’t please everyone. 00:27:41.000 –> 00:27:42.000 I’ve as superintendent. 00:27:42.000 –> 00:27:43.000 Yeah. 00:27:44.000 –> 00:27:46.000 Okay. I never tried to please. 00:27:47.000 –> 00:27:48.000 My employees, 00:27:50.000 –> 00:27:51.000 every decision that I made, 00:27:52.000 –> 00:27:53.000 I made it 00:27:54.000 –> 00:27:56.000 and the interests of the young people. 00:27:57.000 –> 00:28:00.000 Every decision when I refereed, I made it 00:28:00.000 –> 00:28:01.000 in the best interests 00:28:02.000 –> 00:28:03.000 of those players. 00:28:04.000 –> 00:28:05.000 And I would tell him upfront. 00:28:06.000 –> 00:28:08.000 I’m gonna tell you one time to get 00:28:08.000 –> 00:28:09.000 your shirt tail in. 00:28:10.000 –> 00:28:13.000 You’re not this is my game, you’re not 00:28:13.000 –> 00:28:15.000 gonna be walking around with your shirt tail 00:28:15.000 –> 00:28:16.000 out. 00:28:17.000 –> 00:28:18.000 I’m gonna tell you if I tell you 00:28:18.000 –> 00:28:19.000 to get your hands 00:28:21.000 –> 00:28:24.000 off, I’m trying to help you. Yeah. But 00:28:24.000 –> 00:28:26.000 I’m not gonna keep trust me. I’m not 00:28:26.000 –> 00:28:29.000 gonna keep telling you that. Yeah. And that’s 00:28:29.000 –> 00:28:31.000 the That was the relationship I had with 00:28:31.000 –> 00:28:32.000 coaches. 00:28:33.000 –> 00:28:35.000 I would throw my hand up, and when 00:28:35.000 –> 00:28:37.000 I said, this is it. I would listen. 00:28:37.000 –> 00:28:38.000 I never had rabbit ears. 00:28:39.000 –> 00:28:41.000 I would listen to coaches when they griped 00:28:41.000 –> 00:28:42.000 and complained. 00:28:43.000 –> 00:28:44.000 Because, you know, 00:28:44.000 –> 00:28:46.000 I had the philosophy 00:28:47.000 –> 00:28:48.000 I’m not always right. 00:28:49.000 –> 00:28:51.000 I’m not always right. 00:28:51.000 –> 00:28:52.000 And if I 00:28:53.000 –> 00:28:54.000 don’t react, 00:28:55.000 –> 00:28:57.000 But give that coach an opportunity to disagree 00:28:57.000 –> 00:29:00.000 with me, and he goes and looks at 00:29:00.000 –> 00:29:02.000 the film, he’s gonna come back and say, 00:29:02.000 –> 00:29:03.000 you know what? 00:29:04.000 –> 00:29:06.000 That that guy was Hightower, and, you know, 00:29:07.000 –> 00:29:08.000 he treated me with respect. 00:29:10.000 –> 00:29:10.000 Okay? 00:29:10.000 –> 00:29:13.000 But when I throw my hand up, and 00:29:13.000 –> 00:29:15.000 I’m the guy that started 00:29:15.000 –> 00:29:18.000 that put made this a national mechanic, when 00:29:18.000 –> 00:29:19.000 I do this, 00:29:20.000 –> 00:29:22.000 That’s it. Don’t say another word. This is 00:29:22.000 –> 00:29:23.000 your warning. That’s it. 00:29:24.000 –> 00:29:26.000 And that’s how I’ve lived my life, you 00:29:26.000 –> 00:29:26.000 know. 00:29:27.000 –> 00:29:29.000 I believe in second chance. 00:29:29.000 –> 00:29:31.000 For young people, 00:29:32.000 –> 00:29:34.000 people in general. Yeah. But I’m not gonna 00:29:34.000 –> 00:29:37.000 keep giving you chance after chance. I love 00:29:37.000 –> 00:29:38.000 that. So so what I mean, you made 00:29:38.000 –> 00:29:40.000 a ton of calls. Right? Obviously, in a 00:29:40.000 –> 00:29:43.000 in a thirty six year career, but not 00:29:43.000 –> 00:29:44.000 every one of them was the right call. 00:29:44.000 –> 00:29:45.000 So what did you do when you did 00:29:45.000 –> 00:29:47.000 mess up and missed a call? If I 00:29:47.000 –> 00:29:50.000 missed a call, and I would go in, 00:29:50.000 –> 00:29:52.000 when it was even not poplar, I’d go 00:29:52.000 –> 00:29:54.000 down I’d go and break down every 00:29:55.000 –> 00:29:56.000 every call 00:29:56.000 –> 00:29:58.000 that I So after the game. After the 00:29:58.000 –> 00:30:00.000 game. And do you wanna do a makeup 00:30:00.000 –> 00:30:01.000 call? No. No makeup. 00:30:02.000 –> 00:30:04.000 If I missed a call during the game, 00:30:04.000 –> 00:30:05.000 let me tell you what I would do. 00:30:05.000 –> 00:30:07.000 I would tell the coach coach. That’s on 00:30:07.000 –> 00:30:10.000 me. I missed that call. Yeah. 00:30:10.000 –> 00:30:12.000 I missed it. I would tell a player, 00:30:12.000 –> 00:30:14.000 but I’m not gonna keep It does make 00:30:14.000 –> 00:30:15.000 you feel better, though. I mean, we just 00:30:15.000 –> 00:30:17.000 I coach eighth grade basketball right now, and 00:30:17.000 –> 00:30:19.000 a ref the other night so that he 00:30:19.000 –> 00:30:20.000 goes, hey, Sorry. I missed that. You took 00:30:20.000 –> 00:30:22.000 ownership. And I’m like, you know what? What 00:30:22.000 –> 00:30:23.000 do you say? You know, and that and 00:30:23.000 –> 00:30:25.000 that’s the bottom line. That’s the bottom line. 00:30:25.000 –> 00:30:26.000 You know, don’t 00:30:27.000 –> 00:30:29.000 you you don’t need to alibi. You don’t 00:30:29.000 –> 00:30:30.000 need to make excuses. 00:30:30.000 –> 00:30:32.000 You don’t need to try to justify it. 00:30:32.000 –> 00:30:34.000 I missed a call. Yep. Our coach, and 00:30:34.000 –> 00:30:37.000 I tell young people when I’m working with 00:30:37.000 –> 00:30:37.000 them. 00:30:38.000 –> 00:30:40.000 Just say coach, you may be right. 00:30:40.000 –> 00:30:42.000 Even you know that 00:30:44.000 –> 00:30:45.000 you got it right. Yeah. Just say coach, 00:30:45.000 –> 00:30:46.000 you may be right. 00:30:46.000 –> 00:30:48.000 Because you’re not gonna win that moment when 00:30:48.000 –> 00:30:48.000 the temperature is high. Yeah. You’ve gotta bring 00:30:48.000 –> 00:30:49.000 the 00:30:49.000 –> 00:30:50.000 temp 00:30:56.000 –> 00:30:58.000 down. Coach, you may be right. You may 00:30:58.000 –> 00:31:00.000 be right. I didn’t say you were. That’s 00:31:00.000 –> 00:31:02.000 right. You may be right. Okay. 00:31:03.000 –> 00:31:05.000 Dean Smith was one of my, 00:31:07.000 –> 00:31:08.000 all time favorite coaches. 00:31:09.000 –> 00:31:10.000 I can’t remember we were doing a game 00:31:10.000 –> 00:31:11.000 with him 00:31:11.000 –> 00:31:12.000 And, 00:31:12.000 –> 00:31:13.000 we, 00:31:13.000 –> 00:31:15.000 one of my crew members missed a call 00:31:15.000 –> 00:31:17.000 so bad. I was a late referee, and 00:31:17.000 –> 00:31:19.000 I could I could not get him this 00:31:19.000 –> 00:31:21.000 I could not get 00:31:21.000 –> 00:31:22.000 this official 00:31:22.000 –> 00:31:24.000 to change the call. 00:31:24.000 –> 00:31:26.000 I tried to get him 00:31:27.000 –> 00:31:29.000 I called Dean Smith in stay as a 00:31:29.000 –> 00:31:30.000 coach, I I I have to, 00:31:31.000 –> 00:31:32.000 I I have to be able to live 00:31:32.000 –> 00:31:34.000 with myself. We missed that call. 00:31:34.000 –> 00:31:37.000 That was the respect that I, coach, 00:31:38.000 –> 00:31:39.000 when I received my doctorate, 00:31:40.000 –> 00:31:41.000 there were 00:31:41.000 –> 00:31:42.000 two people 00:31:43.000 –> 00:31:44.000 who reached out to me right away, and 00:31:44.000 –> 00:31:46.000 I don’t know how they found out. 00:31:46.000 –> 00:31:49.000 And congratulating me on my doctorate of education. 00:31:50.000 –> 00:31:51.000 Dean Smith, 00:31:52.000 –> 00:31:53.000 John Thompson. Wow. 00:31:54.000 –> 00:31:56.000 I think about that. Now, and and and 00:31:56.000 –> 00:31:59.000 the bottom line, see, I was not refereeing 00:31:59.000 –> 00:32:00.000 those guys 00:32:01.000 –> 00:32:01.000 consistently 00:32:02.000 –> 00:32:03.000 like what I was in the Big Ten, 00:32:03.000 –> 00:32:05.000 I would only catch those guys, 00:32:06.000 –> 00:32:08.000 in tournament play or when the ACC played 00:32:08.000 –> 00:32:11.000 the Big Ten. Yep. But they they watch. 00:32:12.000 –> 00:32:12.000 They 00:32:13.000 –> 00:32:15.000 they know who the who the good officials 00:32:15.000 –> 00:32:17.000 are. And they know 00:32:17.000 –> 00:32:18.000 every officials 00:32:21.000 –> 00:32:23.000 breaking point. Yeah. 00:32:23.000 –> 00:32:25.000 How how did you stay a student of 00:32:25.000 –> 00:32:27.000 the game in education and basketball? Because you 00:32:27.000 –> 00:32:29.000 really think about it. You’re you’re growing two 00:32:29.000 –> 00:32:32.000 careers parallel at the same time. Right? You’re 00:32:32.000 –> 00:32:33.000 growing two 00:32:34.000 –> 00:32:35.000 careers parallel. 00:32:38.000 –> 00:32:40.000 You you don’t change. 00:32:40.000 –> 00:32:41.000 Okay. 00:32:41.000 –> 00:32:44.000 And how do you raise there’s so many 00:32:44.000 –> 00:32:46.000 things as I talk to various groups I 00:32:46.000 –> 00:32:47.000 get a question 00:32:48.000 –> 00:32:49.000 on a regular basis. 00:32:49.000 –> 00:32:52.000 How are you able to keep all keep 00:32:52.000 –> 00:32:53.000 the three 00:32:54.000 –> 00:32:54.000 entities, 00:32:56.000 –> 00:32:57.000 together, 00:32:57.000 –> 00:32:59.000 and those entities 00:32:59.000 –> 00:33:00.000 of family. 00:33:02.000 –> 00:33:05.000 My professional job as an educator 00:33:06.000 –> 00:33:07.000 and my, 00:33:08.000 –> 00:33:09.000 my referee in. 00:33:11.000 –> 00:33:12.000 You don’t change. 00:33:13.000 –> 00:33:14.000 First of all, family 00:33:15.000 –> 00:33:18.000 is more important than anything else. 00:33:19.000 –> 00:33:21.000 My wife and I’ve been married forty nine 00:33:21.000 –> 00:33:22.000 years. We have two daughters, 00:33:23.000 –> 00:33:24.000 both successful. 00:33:25.000 –> 00:33:27.000 And as I was rear we were rearing 00:33:27.000 –> 00:33:30.000 our kids, both of our kids went to 00:33:30.000 –> 00:33:32.000 my school. We always believe in 00:33:33.000 –> 00:33:34.000 quality over quantity. 00:33:37.000 –> 00:33:38.000 Quality over quantity. 00:33:39.000 –> 00:33:42.000 Quality time over quantity. There are people who 00:33:42.000 –> 00:33:43.000 are together twenty four hours a day and 00:33:43.000 –> 00:33:46.000 can’t stand each other. Hightower 00:33:46.000 –> 00:33:48.000 my daughters knew, 00:33:48.000 –> 00:33:50.000 and even today, 00:33:51.000 –> 00:33:52.000 if they want me at something, 00:33:54.000 –> 00:33:57.000 They, whenever younger, they’d go in, tell my 00:33:57.000 –> 00:33:57.000 secretary, 00:33:58.000 –> 00:34:00.000 which you put this on debts. 00:34:01.000 –> 00:34:02.000 Scheduled. 00:34:03.000 –> 00:34:04.000 If they wrote it on there, 00:34:05.000 –> 00:34:07.000 it was important to them. Yeah. Now, they 00:34:07.000 –> 00:34:09.000 knew that they could go in there and 00:34:09.000 –> 00:34:11.000 write every day, you you know, you want 00:34:11.000 –> 00:34:14.000 me here. Yeah. You know, you gotta share 00:34:14.000 –> 00:34:14.000 me. 00:34:14.000 –> 00:34:17.000 But if they put something on my calendar 00:34:17.000 –> 00:34:19.000 and I had a game, Guess what? 00:34:20.000 –> 00:34:22.000 No. I got off that game. Yeah. It 00:34:22.000 –> 00:34:23.000 was family. 00:34:25.000 –> 00:34:28.000 Now, decision making, I’m in the decision making 00:34:28.000 –> 00:34:31.000 business in education. I’m in a decision making 00:34:31.000 –> 00:34:32.000 business, 00:34:33.000 –> 00:34:35.000 in referring. Yeah. By the 00:34:36.000 –> 00:34:39.000 Every second, you’re making a decision on someone’s 00:34:39.000 –> 00:34:40.000 livelihood. 00:34:41.000 –> 00:34:42.000 In education, 00:34:44.000 –> 00:34:44.000 It’s about 00:34:45.000 –> 00:34:45.000 educating 00:34:46.000 –> 00:34:48.000 kids for the next, 00:34:49.000 –> 00:34:51.000 step of their, next step in their life. 00:34:52.000 –> 00:34:53.000 Referin? 00:34:54.000 –> 00:34:56.000 I’m working with kids, and I’m making decisions 00:34:56.000 –> 00:34:57.000 about their careers. 00:34:58.000 –> 00:34:59.000 I can put them on the bench with 00:34:59.000 –> 00:35:02.000 a chief foul or a bad cough. Yep. 00:35:02.000 –> 00:35:03.000 And at the wrong time, 00:35:04.000 –> 00:35:05.000 and they’re penalized. 00:35:06.000 –> 00:35:08.000 So you have to always be cognizant 00:35:09.000 –> 00:35:10.000 of that 00:35:11.000 –> 00:35:13.000 and and keep that in the forefront. 00:35:14.000 –> 00:35:16.000 Before every game, 00:35:16.000 –> 00:35:17.000 every game, 00:35:18.000 –> 00:35:21.000 I walk I would go into the restroom 00:35:21.000 –> 00:35:23.000 by myself for a moment, and I would 00:35:23.000 –> 00:35:25.000 say a little prayer. Lord, please. 00:35:26.000 –> 00:35:27.000 Give me the 00:35:27.000 –> 00:35:29.000 wisdom, the knowledge, 00:35:30.000 –> 00:35:31.000 to not 00:35:31.000 –> 00:35:32.000 injure 00:35:33.000 –> 00:35:33.000 or hurt 00:35:34.000 –> 00:35:36.000 someone tonight. Yep. 00:35:37.000 –> 00:35:38.000 And that’s the same thing 00:35:39.000 –> 00:35:41.000 as I went to my office. Give me 00:35:41.000 –> 00:35:42.000 the wisdom knowledge. 00:35:43.000 –> 00:35:44.000 You can’t get too 00:35:46.000 –> 00:35:46.000 big, 00:35:47.000 –> 00:35:49.000 as we like to call it, 00:35:49.000 –> 00:35:51.000 see yourself as too important. 00:35:52.000 –> 00:35:55.000 For what this business is about. You’re in 00:35:55.000 –> 00:35:56.000 the people business. 00:35:56.000 –> 00:36:00.000 You’re in a helping business, your assistance business. 00:36:00.000 –> 00:36:01.000 Now, does that mean 00:36:01.000 –> 00:36:04.000 that you and allow somebody to do what 00:36:04.000 –> 00:36:06.000 the heck they want. And as I I 00:36:06.000 –> 00:36:09.000 I I I told, an individual wants, 00:36:09.000 –> 00:36:12.000 I was a young Gilliland 00:36:12.000 –> 00:36:14.000 everybody knew, no, knew that I was very 00:36:14.000 –> 00:36:16.000 religious, a religion. 00:36:16.000 –> 00:36:17.000 Yeah. And always, 00:36:18.000 –> 00:36:18.000 a 00:36:19.000 –> 00:36:20.000 priority with my family. 00:36:21.000 –> 00:36:23.000 So this guy comes in, and he is 00:36:23.000 –> 00:36:24.000 just being a first class jerk. I’m a 00:36:24.000 –> 00:36:25.000 principal. 00:36:26.000 –> 00:36:28.000 And he knew I was a first class 00:36:29.000 –> 00:36:30.000 jerk. 00:36:30.000 –> 00:36:31.000 And I said to him, I said, sir, 00:36:31.000 –> 00:36:34.000 I said, let’s let’s let’s get an understanding 00:36:34.000 –> 00:36:34.000 here. 00:36:36.000 –> 00:36:38.000 I said, ob he said, you 00:36:38.000 –> 00:36:41.000 you’re you’re religious in all of this. And 00:36:41.000 –> 00:36:43.000 I said, let’s get an understanding here. 00:36:44.000 –> 00:36:45.000 Don’t. 00:36:46.000 –> 00:36:47.000 Take 00:36:48.000 –> 00:36:48.000 my 00:36:50.000 –> 00:36:51.000 religious belief, 00:36:52.000 –> 00:36:52.000 are 00:36:53.000 –> 00:36:53.000 my kindness, 00:36:54.000 –> 00:36:55.000 as a form of weakness. 00:36:56.000 –> 00:36:58.000 If you make that statement again, 00:36:59.000 –> 00:37:00.000 you’re gonna find out 00:37:00.000 –> 00:37:02.000 just who I am. 00:37:02.000 –> 00:37:04.000 So, again, that’s extreme. 00:37:05.000 –> 00:37:06.000 Right. Right. Tell him how to know where 00:37:06.000 –> 00:37:08.000 you stand. You you’re gonna have to. Yeah. 00:37:08.000 –> 00:37:09.000 Don’t take 00:37:09.000 –> 00:37:10.000 this goodness 00:37:11.000 –> 00:37:13.000 as a form of weakness. I love that. 00:37:13.000 –> 00:37:14.000 And the same thing when I when I 00:37:14.000 –> 00:37:17.000 work with coaches. Yep. Coaches. I’m gonna listen 00:37:17.000 –> 00:37:18.000 to you for a moment. 00:37:18.000 –> 00:37:20.000 But you when I do when I give 00:37:20.000 –> 00:37:21.000 you that stop sign, 00:37:22.000 –> 00:37:25.000 that’s it. Don’t I’ve reached my limit. 00:37:26.000 –> 00:37:28.000 Don’t say another word. If you say another 00:37:28.000 –> 00:37:31.000 word, there’s something else coming. I love it. 00:37:31.000 –> 00:37:33.000 So let’s talk about the flying lineup. Let 00:37:33.000 –> 00:37:35.000 me tell you a quick story. So my 00:37:35.000 –> 00:37:37.000 grew up matt too, as I said. My, 00:37:38.000 –> 00:37:40.000 mom’s cousin was, I think, next door neighbors 00:37:40.000 –> 00:37:42.000 to Lou Henson. So so we got to 00:37:42.000 –> 00:37:42.000 know, 00:37:43.000 –> 00:37:45.000 them. And I was lucky enough in nineteen 00:37:45.000 –> 00:37:47.000 eighty nine. They had their final four dinner. 00:37:47.000 –> 00:37:49.000 I got invited. My mom and dad and 00:37:49.000 –> 00:37:52.000 I. Eighty nine were were in Seattle? Yes. 00:37:52.000 –> 00:37:53.000 Uh-huh. I was there. Yeah. 00:37:53.000 –> 00:37:55.000 So, I get to go to the the 00:37:55.000 –> 00:37:57.000 dinner back in Champagne, and, I sit next 00:37:57.000 –> 00:37:59.000 to Andy Kaufman. Oh, yes. And Randy called 00:37:59.000 –> 00:38:01.000 you. Thirty four, I believe. Number thirty and 00:38:01.000 –> 00:38:03.000 I got to try his, 00:38:03.000 –> 00:38:05.000 final four ring on. And it was really 00:38:05.000 –> 00:38:06.000 it was a great night. You know, I 00:38:06.000 –> 00:38:09.000 met, you know, Ken Gilliland Gail and Nick 00:38:09.000 –> 00:38:09.000 Anderson. 00:38:10.000 –> 00:38:12.000 Stephen Barto and Keno Gil both been on 00:38:12.000 –> 00:38:14.000 this podcast, which has been awesome. Good good 00:38:14.000 –> 00:38:15.000 people. I know both of them very well. 00:38:15.000 –> 00:38:18.000 But talk about the Flat Atlanta because a 00:38:18.000 –> 00:38:20.000 lot of people from Illinois listen to this. 00:38:20.000 –> 00:38:21.000 Our our Missouri friends will just have to 00:38:21.000 –> 00:38:22.000 they’ll just have to listen to it. Sure. 00:38:22.000 –> 00:38:24.000 Hightower? The flying Alana nineteen eighty nine, talk 00:38:24.000 –> 00:38:26.000 about that team and over your career. How 00:38:26.000 –> 00:38:27.000 did 00:38:27.000 –> 00:38:29.000 they rank? Would you like about him? Would 00:38:29.000 –> 00:38:31.000 you like about Liz? Let’s talk about, 00:38:31.000 –> 00:38:33.000 what was the greatest shot? 00:38:34.000 –> 00:38:37.000 Mhmm. What what what shot was that? Well, 00:38:37.000 –> 00:38:39.000 my greatest shot was the turnaround shot at 00:38:39.000 –> 00:38:41.000 the Indiana game that Nick Anderson from Half 00:38:41.000 –> 00:38:43.000 Court turns around throws it up. Who do 00:38:43.000 –> 00:38:44.000 you think was the lead referee on that 00:38:44.000 –> 00:38:46.000 game? That You got it right here. You 00:38:46.000 –> 00:38:47.000 had Hyde Hightower. 00:38:47.000 –> 00:38:49.000 And, let me tell you a little story 00:38:49.000 –> 00:38:51.000 about that game. That that play. 00:38:52.000 –> 00:38:55.000 That play. You remember Indiana went down and 00:38:55.000 –> 00:38:55.000 scored. 00:38:56.000 –> 00:38:56.000 Okay? 00:38:57.000 –> 00:38:58.000 They scored. 00:39:00.000 –> 00:39:01.000 And coach, 00:39:02.000 –> 00:39:05.000 Henson called the time out right away. Mhmm. 00:39:05.000 –> 00:39:06.000 Coach Knight, 00:39:07.000 –> 00:39:10.000 wanted all he wanted to know was how 00:39:10.000 –> 00:39:11.000 much time I was gonna put back on 00:39:11.000 –> 00:39:13.000 the clock because there was no way in 00:39:13.000 –> 00:39:15.000 the world on the baseline Yeah. Even though 00:39:15.000 –> 00:39:17.000 the kid could run. He could run. Yep. 00:39:18.000 –> 00:39:20.000 There’s no way in the world. 00:39:22.000 –> 00:39:22.000 I thought, 00:39:23.000 –> 00:39:25.000 coach and I, or anyone else thought that 00:39:25.000 –> 00:39:27.000 that ball, first of all, was gonna get 00:39:27.000 –> 00:39:30.000 across half court, and they were gonna be 00:39:30.000 –> 00:39:31.000 able to get it up and score. 00:39:32.000 –> 00:39:34.000 I was the lead referee 00:39:34.000 –> 00:39:36.000 I put the ball in playing. 00:39:36.000 –> 00:39:39.000 I saw it all. It witnessed it all. 00:39:39.000 –> 00:39:41.000 And then, of course, I went to, 00:39:42.000 –> 00:39:44.000 to the final four with them that year, 00:39:44.000 –> 00:39:45.000 in Seattle. 00:39:46.000 –> 00:39:47.000 And, 00:39:47.000 –> 00:39:50.000 oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. And, Michigan was there. 00:39:52.000 –> 00:39:53.000 Miskum was there, 00:39:55.000 –> 00:39:57.000 Seaton Gilliland 00:39:57.000 –> 00:39:58.000 Duke. Yeah. 00:39:59.000 –> 00:40:01.000 You see, That’s Hightower, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, 00:40:01.000 –> 00:40:03.000 yeah. Oh, yeah. And so, 00:40:04.000 –> 00:40:04.000 I didn’t 00:40:05.000 –> 00:40:06.000 they didn’t assign 00:40:06.000 –> 00:40:08.000 me to the Illinois 00:40:09.000 –> 00:40:09.000 semifinal. 00:40:10.000 –> 00:40:10.000 Because 00:40:11.000 –> 00:40:14.000 I was from Illinois and again, all of 00:40:14.000 –> 00:40:16.000 that. You know, back then, they were very 00:40:17.000 –> 00:40:18.000 conscious and cognizant of 00:40:19.000 –> 00:40:21.000 those kinds of situation. 00:40:21.000 –> 00:40:23.000 But, you know, again, 00:40:23.000 –> 00:40:26.000 you know, a couple calls here that, coach 00:40:26.000 –> 00:40:29.000 Henson might be the one of the biggest 00:40:29.000 –> 00:40:31.000 jumps of my night when Nick Anderson made 00:40:31.000 –> 00:40:33.000 me chat. Oh my god. It’s unbelievable. So 00:40:33.000 –> 00:40:35.000 talk about Lou Hanson, the Lou Dew. 00:40:35.000 –> 00:40:37.000 Cohenson was, 00:40:38.000 –> 00:40:39.000 a great person. 00:40:39.000 –> 00:40:40.000 Yeah. Number one. 00:40:41.000 –> 00:40:42.000 He was a great humanitarian 00:40:43.000 –> 00:40:44.000 Number two, 00:40:45.000 –> 00:40:47.000 he was one of the most underrated couches 00:40:48.000 –> 00:40:49.000 in the game. 00:40:50.000 –> 00:40:51.000 Underrated. 00:40:51.000 –> 00:40:53.000 I I I just thought and and by 00:40:53.000 –> 00:40:54.000 the way, I I knew 00:40:55.000 –> 00:40:57.000 all of the coaches back then knew them 00:40:57.000 –> 00:40:58.000 all now. Yeah. Okay. 00:40:59.000 –> 00:40:59.000 Cohenson, 00:41:01.000 –> 00:41:04.000 not only was a great person, but he 00:41:04.000 –> 00:41:06.000 was a great tactician. 00:41:07.000 –> 00:41:08.000 The kids had to play 00:41:09.000 –> 00:41:10.000 defense, or they didn’t stay in the game. 00:41:10.000 –> 00:41:11.000 Now at times, 00:41:12.000 –> 00:41:13.000 you know, we would get you you guys 00:41:13.000 –> 00:41:15.000 would get upset that he would pull a 00:41:15.000 –> 00:41:16.000 guy so quickly. 00:41:16.000 –> 00:41:18.000 If you didn’t play defense, 00:41:19.000 –> 00:41:21.000 you were coming out of the game? Yep. 00:41:21.000 –> 00:41:22.000 Okay. 00:41:22.000 –> 00:41:24.000 And that’s just a bottom line. Now maybe 00:41:24.000 –> 00:41:26.000 that happened a little too often, you know, 00:41:26.000 –> 00:41:28.000 if you want to criticize. 00:41:28.000 –> 00:41:29.000 But, 00:41:30.000 –> 00:41:32.000 I I have the greatest respect 00:41:33.000 –> 00:41:34.000 for 00:41:34.000 –> 00:41:35.000 Coach Henson 00:41:35.000 –> 00:41:38.000 and what he stood for. And I did 00:41:38.000 –> 00:41:39.000 a podcast 00:41:39.000 –> 00:41:43.000 on Coach Henson, when he passed away. And, 00:41:43.000 –> 00:41:46.000 the respect that I have for that man, 00:41:47.000 –> 00:41:49.000 and what he brought to the great game. 00:41:49.000 –> 00:41:51.000 And as a human 00:41:51.000 –> 00:41:51.000 being, 00:41:52.000 –> 00:41:55.000 and his willingness to help others. 00:41:56.000 –> 00:41:58.000 And and I just think that he did 00:41:58.000 –> 00:42:00.000 not get the credit. No. 00:42:02.000 –> 00:42:05.000 Did they lose some games? Yes. They lost 00:42:05.000 –> 00:42:07.000 some close games. But when you look at 00:42:07.000 –> 00:42:08.000 his body of work, 00:42:09.000 –> 00:42:10.000 you won’t find anyone 00:42:10.000 –> 00:42:11.000 that put 00:42:13.000 –> 00:42:14.000 as comprehensive 00:42:14.000 –> 00:42:16.000 and complete body of work together 00:42:17.000 –> 00:42:18.000 as coach Hansen. 00:42:19.000 –> 00:42:20.000 Yep. Look at his overall. 00:42:22.000 –> 00:42:23.000 You know, when he was at what, 00:42:24.000 –> 00:42:24.000 centenary. 00:42:25.000 –> 00:42:25.000 Yep. 00:42:25.000 –> 00:42:27.000 A lot of people don’t know. 00:42:28.000 –> 00:42:30.000 He wouldn’t take that job list. The, 00:42:31.000 –> 00:42:33.000 integrated his coach at staff. 00:42:33.000 –> 00:42:34.000 You know, 00:42:35.000 –> 00:42:36.000 that’s the type of humanitarian 00:42:37.000 –> 00:42:39.000 Looking at first people. Look at look at 00:42:39.000 –> 00:42:41.000 no. Looking at society 00:42:41.000 –> 00:42:43.000 and what it meant. Yeah. 00:42:43.000 –> 00:42:43.000 Okay. 00:42:44.000 –> 00:42:44.000 So, 00:42:46.000 –> 00:42:47.000 just a great humanitarian 00:42:48.000 –> 00:42:49.000 Great. Humanitarian. 00:42:50.000 –> 00:42:51.000 So did you see were you around with 00:42:51.000 –> 00:42:52.000 the, FAD five? 00:42:54.000 –> 00:42:56.000 What was the greatest situation with the FAD 00:42:56.000 –> 00:42:58.000 five? Don’t tell me you’re doing that game. 00:42:58.000 –> 00:43:00.000 Was that nineteen ninety two the time out? 00:43:00.000 –> 00:43:02.000 What was what was the greatest what was 00:43:02.000 –> 00:43:04.000 the when you talk about the FAPFI, what 00:43:04.000 –> 00:43:07.000 what What are they known for the one 00:43:07.000 –> 00:43:10.000 single moment in time? Well, the time out. 00:43:10.000 –> 00:43:11.000 I was the lead referee 00:43:12.000 –> 00:43:15.000 on that game with the FAP five in 00:43:15.000 –> 00:43:16.000 New Orleans. Did you make that call? I 00:43:16.000 –> 00:43:19.000 was the lead referee and made the call. 00:43:19.000 –> 00:43:20.000 I had told, 00:43:21.000 –> 00:43:22.000 I was mad at you that night. Why 00:43:22.000 –> 00:43:24.000 is that? I was a Michigan fan at 00:43:24.000 –> 00:43:26.000 that point. I liked the FED five. Well, 00:43:26.000 –> 00:43:27.000 I did too. Let me tell you. Let 00:43:27.000 –> 00:43:29.000 me tell you about the FED five very 00:43:29.000 –> 00:43:29.000 quick. Thing. 00:43:31.000 –> 00:43:31.000 When 00:43:32.000 –> 00:43:34.000 the fab five came on the scene, 00:43:37.000 –> 00:43:37.000 They 00:43:38.000 –> 00:43:39.000 changed the culture 00:43:42.000 –> 00:43:44.000 of sports. Yeah. And 00:43:44.000 –> 00:43:45.000 society forever. 00:43:46.000 –> 00:43:47.000 Yeah. 00:43:47.000 –> 00:43:48.000 And 00:43:48.000 –> 00:43:49.000 that group, 00:43:49.000 –> 00:43:52.000 whatever you wanna say about them, we weren’t 00:43:52.000 –> 00:43:54.000 ready for 00:43:55.000 –> 00:43:56.000 they’re antics. Yeah. You know, with the lone 00:43:56.000 –> 00:43:57.000 parents, 00:43:57.000 –> 00:43:57.000 the, 00:43:59.000 –> 00:44:00.000 the different colored socks. 00:44:01.000 –> 00:44:01.000 Yeah. And, 00:44:02.000 –> 00:44:03.000 and their swagger 00:44:04.000 –> 00:44:07.000 and, their trash talk. Yeah. We 00:44:07.000 –> 00:44:09.000 you know, we weren’t ready for that. 00:44:10.000 –> 00:44:12.000 The commissioner of the Big Ten, 00:44:13.000 –> 00:44:15.000 Sent to me, you’re gonna live with that 00:44:15.000 –> 00:44:17.000 group, and there were three referees, 00:44:18.000 –> 00:44:20.000 and we were all educators We work more. 00:44:20.000 –> 00:44:21.000 He’s in your babies. 00:44:22.000 –> 00:44:24.000 You’re gonna live with them, and you’re gonna 00:44:25.000 –> 00:44:27.000 you’re you’re gonna keep them in check. 00:44:27.000 –> 00:44:28.000 And and, 00:44:30.000 –> 00:44:31.000 Jalen Rose, 00:44:31.000 –> 00:44:33.000 you know, he’s one of the smartest young 00:44:33.000 –> 00:44:35.000 people who you and 00:44:36.000 –> 00:44:37.000 he has a sense of humor. 00:44:38.000 –> 00:44:41.000 He would talk trash out there and one 00:44:41.000 –> 00:44:41.000 night, 00:44:42.000 –> 00:44:44.000 and just just a great individual, 00:44:45.000 –> 00:44:45.000 really. 00:44:46.000 –> 00:44:47.000 And so Jaylen 00:44:48.000 –> 00:44:50.000 He would do a dunk on you and 00:44:50.000 –> 00:44:52.000 get in your face and all of that. 00:44:52.000 –> 00:44:52.000 So, 00:44:53.000 –> 00:44:55.000 I’m working him 00:44:55.000 –> 00:44:56.000 at Northwestern 00:44:57.000 –> 00:44:58.000 And so I, 00:44:59.000 –> 00:45:01.000 I I got so upset with him. I 00:45:01.000 –> 00:45:03.000 grabbed him by the arm, and I took 00:45:03.000 –> 00:45:05.000 him over to Steve. Fisher, Fisher was some 00:45:05.000 –> 00:45:05.000 sin Australia, 00:45:06.000 –> 00:45:07.000 the Centrilla area. 00:45:08.000 –> 00:45:10.000 And so I said coach. 00:45:11.000 –> 00:45:12.000 I said, no, 00:45:12.000 –> 00:45:14.000 I am not gonna have Jaylen. 00:45:15.000 –> 00:45:17.000 I’m I would not call this right. I’m 00:45:17.000 –> 00:45:19.000 not gonna have number thirty four, whatever his 00:45:19.000 –> 00:45:20.000 number was. Yeah. Embarrass 00:45:21.000 –> 00:45:23.000 a player like what he did. He does 00:45:23.000 –> 00:45:24.000 that again. 00:45:25.000 –> 00:45:27.000 I’m gonna throw him out of the game. 00:45:27.000 –> 00:45:29.000 It’s not gonna be just a technical file. 00:45:29.000 –> 00:45:33.000 This is his official warning. Not only Jalen. 00:45:34.000 –> 00:45:35.000 After the game. 00:45:36.000 –> 00:45:36.000 Jalen, 00:45:37.000 –> 00:45:39.000 the, he was doing the interview. Well, 00:45:40.000 –> 00:45:41.000 I noticed that you and, 00:45:42.000 –> 00:45:43.000 referee hightower 00:45:44.000 –> 00:45:47.000 were were having a discussion tonight. What what 00:45:47.000 –> 00:45:48.000 was that all about? 00:45:49.000 –> 00:45:50.000 Only Jaylen. 00:45:50.000 –> 00:45:51.000 Well, you know how 00:45:52.000 –> 00:45:54.000 a principal Hightower is. He thought he was 00:45:54.000 –> 00:45:55.000 back in school, 00:45:55.000 –> 00:45:57.000 and he threatened me with the detention. 00:45:59.000 –> 00:46:01.000 That’s that’s Jaylen. 00:46:01.000 –> 00:46:02.000 And and, 00:46:04.000 –> 00:46:05.000 you know, the coach 00:46:06.000 –> 00:46:08.000 Joan Howard. Yeah. He was my go to 00:46:08.000 –> 00:46:10.000 guy back then, you know, 00:46:11.000 –> 00:46:14.000 I if we had an issue with with 00:46:14.000 –> 00:46:16.000 the rest of the group, which you know, 00:46:16.000 –> 00:46:18.000 there were good times. He no. No. No. 00:46:18.000 –> 00:46:19.000 No. No. No. No. No. No. He was 00:46:19.000 –> 00:46:21.000 to he was to oh, no. Not at 00:46:21.000 –> 00:46:24.000 all. We’d go to to Joanne and say, 00:46:25.000 –> 00:46:27.000 whatever his number was. In twenty five? You 00:46:27.000 –> 00:46:29.000 gotta you gotta take care of this. And 00:46:29.000 –> 00:46:30.000 he would. I mean, he 00:46:31.000 –> 00:46:33.000 you could tell that he was a leader. 00:46:34.000 –> 00:46:35.000 Yeah. He was a leader 00:46:36.000 –> 00:46:38.000 all the way back then. 00:46:39.000 –> 00:46:40.000 And so 00:46:40.000 –> 00:46:42.000 it doesn’t surprise any of us that, 00:46:43.000 –> 00:46:45.000 you know, I know he’s had he had 00:46:45.000 –> 00:46:47.000 some hard time last year and all, but 00:46:47.000 –> 00:46:48.000 that’s okay. 00:46:48.000 –> 00:46:50.000 He’s still a leader. We make mistakes, 00:46:51.000 –> 00:46:53.000 but, he is just a, a wonderful young 00:46:53.000 –> 00:46:55.000 person. So talk about the traits he saw 00:46:55.000 –> 00:46:57.000 and and some of the greatest players that, 00:46:57.000 –> 00:46:59.000 you know, obviously went through college, put in 00:46:59.000 –> 00:47:01.000 the NBA, you saw them all. 00:47:01.000 –> 00:47:03.000 Talk about those trades, but a that to 00:47:03.000 –> 00:47:05.000 the person. Listen this podcast right now. That’s 00:47:05.000 –> 00:47:07.000 in the business world or the education world, 00:47:07.000 –> 00:47:09.000 the medical world, whatever it may be. What 00:47:09.000 –> 00:47:11.000 did you see there that can be applied 00:47:11.000 –> 00:47:12.000 to the to the office. 00:47:12.000 –> 00:47:13.000 Personal Verintz. 00:47:14.000 –> 00:47:16.000 James. Gold setting. 00:47:17.000 –> 00:47:20.000 When it when it when when at the 00:47:20.000 –> 00:47:20.000 toughest 00:47:21.000 –> 00:47:21.000 moment. 00:47:22.000 –> 00:47:24.000 That’s when those individuals 00:47:25.000 –> 00:47:27.000 really showed and demonstrated. 00:47:30.000 –> 00:47:31.000 There’s true 00:47:31.000 –> 00:47:32.000 value system. 00:47:33.000 –> 00:47:36.000 And when I talk about value system, that 00:47:36.000 –> 00:47:36.000 toughness, 00:47:37.000 –> 00:47:40.000 that Gilliland that willingness to 00:47:40.000 –> 00:47:41.000 give a little extra. 00:47:43.000 –> 00:47:46.000 That willingness in and I use this with 00:47:46.000 –> 00:47:47.000 young Gilliland 00:47:47.000 –> 00:47:49.000 getting a little old now. The guy’s name 00:47:49.000 –> 00:47:52.000 was Hersha Hawkins from Bradley. Yeah. He’s one 00:47:52.000 –> 00:47:54.000 of my all time favorite players. 00:47:56.000 –> 00:47:58.000 I asked him once. He was a great 00:47:58.000 –> 00:48:01.000 player. Remember? Yep. He was the eighty eight, 00:48:01.000 –> 00:48:03.000 player of the year over Danny Manage, and 00:48:03.000 –> 00:48:06.000 my first final four with with Kansas. Yeah. 00:48:06.000 –> 00:48:08.000 Well, Danny ended up being the player of 00:48:08.000 –> 00:48:09.000 the year, 00:48:10.000 –> 00:48:11.000 and I never get into who should be 00:48:11.000 –> 00:48:13.000 the player of the new, but Hersha Hawkins 00:48:13.000 –> 00:48:14.000 really should have player of the year that 00:48:14.000 –> 00:48:15.000 year. 00:48:15.000 –> 00:48:17.000 But Hersha Hawkins was one of my all 00:48:17.000 –> 00:48:18.000 time favorites. 00:48:18.000 –> 00:48:20.000 He was one he was one of the 00:48:20.000 –> 00:48:22.000 great jump shooters, as you know. 00:48:22.000 –> 00:48:23.000 So 00:48:25.000 –> 00:48:26.000 we would have to go to be at 00:48:26.000 –> 00:48:27.000 the game 00:48:28.000 –> 00:48:30.000 an hour and a half before game time. 00:48:30.000 –> 00:48:31.000 Okay. 00:48:32.000 –> 00:48:35.000 Hershel Hawkins, if he had missed the game 00:48:35.000 –> 00:48:36.000 before. 00:48:38.000 –> 00:48:40.000 Wherever he missed the shot from, 00:48:41.000 –> 00:48:42.000 That next game, 00:48:43.000 –> 00:48:45.000 at hour and a half before game time, 00:48:46.000 –> 00:48:49.000 the lights aren’t even on yet. He’s out 00:48:49.000 –> 00:48:51.000 there practicing that shot Wow. That he missed. 00:48:52.000 –> 00:48:55.000 And I asked him when I I said, 00:48:55.000 –> 00:48:57.000 I said, I called him Hawk. I said, 00:48:57.000 –> 00:49:00.000 Hawk. I said, man, you you’re a great 00:49:00.000 –> 00:49:00.000 player. 00:49:03.000 –> 00:49:04.000 Why are you 00:49:05.000 –> 00:49:05.000 practicing? 00:49:08.000 –> 00:49:10.000 At an hour and a half before game 00:49:10.000 –> 00:49:11.000 time. 00:49:12.000 –> 00:49:15.000 And you’re coming off, and you’re you’re acting 00:49:15.000 –> 00:49:16.000 as if, 00:49:16.000 –> 00:49:17.000 here’s a screen. 00:49:18.000 –> 00:49:20.000 Here’s the jump shot. 00:49:20.000 –> 00:49:22.000 Why do you do that? 00:49:22.000 –> 00:49:23.000 He says because 00:49:25.000 –> 00:49:27.000 that shot is gonna come up again. 00:49:29.000 –> 00:49:30.000 Now, you take that 00:49:31.000 –> 00:49:32.000 in life. 00:49:32.000 –> 00:49:34.000 You learn from experiences. 00:49:35.000 –> 00:49:38.000 It’s gonna come up again. Yeah. And if 00:49:38.000 –> 00:49:39.000 you’ve rehearsed 00:49:39.000 –> 00:49:39.000 it, 00:49:40.000 –> 00:49:42.000 then you know how to react. 00:49:43.000 –> 00:49:45.000 I used to get in front of a 00:49:45.000 –> 00:49:45.000 mirror 00:49:47.000 –> 00:49:48.000 at home 00:49:48.000 –> 00:49:51.000 and rehearse my mechanics. People used to say, 00:49:51.000 –> 00:49:53.000 boy, hi, Tara. Boy, look at his mechanics. 00:49:54.000 –> 00:49:56.000 That was not by accident. 00:49:57.000 –> 00:50:00.000 You have to everything has to be in 00:50:00.000 –> 00:50:00.000 sync. 00:50:01.000 –> 00:50:03.000 And here’s the thing. When you get into 00:50:03.000 –> 00:50:05.000 that situation, 00:50:05.000 –> 00:50:07.000 you got fifty thousand 00:50:08.000 –> 00:50:09.000 people in the arena 00:50:10.000 –> 00:50:11.000 at a final four. 00:50:12.000 –> 00:50:14.000 You got millions watching. 00:50:14.000 –> 00:50:16.000 You can’t think about it. 00:50:17.000 –> 00:50:18.000 You got to 00:50:19.000 –> 00:50:19.000 react. 00:50:21.000 –> 00:50:22.000 You’re not 00:50:23.000 –> 00:50:26.000 over. You got to react to the situation 00:50:27.000 –> 00:50:27.000 at the moment. 00:50:28.000 –> 00:50:30.000 And that’s life. Mhmm. 00:50:31.000 –> 00:50:32.000 That’s life. 00:50:33.000 –> 00:50:34.000 Solid. 00:50:34.000 –> 00:50:36.000 Man, tons of takeaways. 00:50:37.000 –> 00:50:38.000 Last few questions. So you’re 00:50:39.000 –> 00:50:40.000 I talk about this all the time on 00:50:40.000 –> 00:50:42.000 these podcasts is fears. 00:50:43.000 –> 00:50:45.000 The fears we put in our mind, how 00:50:45.000 –> 00:50:46.000 many of the fears have actually blown up 00:50:46.000 –> 00:50:48.000 to the magnitude you put them in your 00:50:48.000 –> 00:50:49.000 mind to be? Well, 00:50:50.000 –> 00:50:52.000 you know, as a young 00:50:53.000 –> 00:50:53.000 person, 00:50:55.000 –> 00:50:56.000 when I was in 00:50:57.000 –> 00:50:58.000 fourth grade, 00:51:00.000 –> 00:51:01.000 My fourth grade teacher said 00:51:02.000 –> 00:51:04.000 I would never be anything. 00:51:04.000 –> 00:51:05.000 She called me dumb, 00:51:06.000 –> 00:51:08.000 come and retard it. 00:51:09.000 –> 00:51:11.000 In fourth grade in the south. 00:51:12.000 –> 00:51:13.000 My fifth grade teacher, 00:51:15.000 –> 00:51:16.000 miss Jackson, 00:51:18.000 –> 00:51:19.000 She took those spirits away. 00:51:21.000 –> 00:51:21.000 She said, 00:51:22.000 –> 00:51:24.000 you can be anything in anybody you wanna 00:51:24.000 –> 00:51:25.000 be. 00:51:26.000 –> 00:51:27.000 The fear 00:51:27.000 –> 00:51:28.000 is what 00:51:29.000 –> 00:51:31.000 you imagine it to be. 00:51:32.000 –> 00:51:33.000 I never forgot that. 00:51:34.000 –> 00:51:36.000 I never forgot that. 00:51:37.000 –> 00:51:39.000 And with it, I say you prepare 00:51:41.000 –> 00:51:42.000 for that for the 00:51:44.000 –> 00:51:44.000 uncertainties 00:51:45.000 –> 00:51:46.000 And 00:51:46.000 –> 00:51:48.000 when you get into that moment now, let 00:51:48.000 –> 00:51:50.000 me be clear with you. 00:51:50.000 –> 00:51:51.000 Before every gain, 00:51:53.000 –> 00:51:54.000 before every game. 00:51:55.000 –> 00:51:57.000 I don’t care. The 00:51:58.000 –> 00:51:59.000 the magnitude of a game, if it was 00:51:59.000 –> 00:52:03.000 a game with Lewis and Clark, and Bellville 00:52:04.000 –> 00:52:05.000 Swick at that time. 00:52:06.000 –> 00:52:07.000 I’m just using that as an example. 00:52:09.000 –> 00:52:10.000 I would have to go, 00:52:12.000 –> 00:52:14.000 to the restroom. Yeah. I would say that 00:52:14.000 –> 00:52:16.000 prayer before I walked out there because I 00:52:16.000 –> 00:52:18.000 was the nurse those were the nerds. 00:52:18.000 –> 00:52:19.000 But once, 00:52:20.000 –> 00:52:21.000 I threw that ball up. 00:52:22.000 –> 00:52:23.000 No fear. 00:52:24.000 –> 00:52:25.000 Yeah. You’re prepared. 00:52:27.000 –> 00:52:28.000 You’re prepared 00:52:29.000 –> 00:52:30.000 mentally, 00:52:31.000 –> 00:52:32.000 physically. 00:52:32.000 –> 00:52:34.000 You know the rules. 00:52:34.000 –> 00:52:35.000 Yep. And you just react. 00:52:40.000 –> 00:52:41.000 It’s so true. And then, I mean, I 00:52:41.000 –> 00:52:42.000 even said this to Matt right before we 00:52:42.000 –> 00:52:44.000 started recording this. 00:52:44.000 –> 00:52:45.000 You’re 00:52:45.000 –> 00:52:47.000 stepped outside. And I said, you know, it’s 00:52:47.000 –> 00:52:49.000 funny after three hundred and whatever, eighty five 00:52:49.000 –> 00:52:51.000 guests, you still got the little bit of 00:52:51.000 –> 00:52:54.000 the the nerves. Hightower you don’t. If you 00:52:54.000 –> 00:52:55.000 don’t, you don’t care. I mean, I heard 00:52:55.000 –> 00:52:56.000 Tiger would say that. Right? If he goes, 00:52:56.000 –> 00:52:58.000 if the day I stop being nervous on 00:52:58.000 –> 00:53:00.000 the first tee is what I’m Exactly. And, 00:53:00.000 –> 00:53:02.000 exactly. So that that that matters. That matters. 00:53:02.000 –> 00:53:03.000 So, 00:53:04.000 –> 00:53:06.000 let’s see. So when you think about, 00:53:07.000 –> 00:53:08.000 reading, how important has that been in your 00:53:08.000 –> 00:53:09.000 career? 00:53:10.000 –> 00:53:10.000 Oh, 00:53:11.000 –> 00:53:11.000 absolutely. 00:53:12.000 –> 00:53:14.000 You have to, you know, we have a 00:53:14.000 –> 00:53:16.000 we we we have a sand in church. 00:53:17.000 –> 00:53:18.000 You have to study 00:53:19.000 –> 00:53:21.000 to show yourself approved. 00:53:21.000 –> 00:53:23.000 That’s an old saying in church. Well, it’s 00:53:23.000 –> 00:53:25.000 the same thing with education. 00:53:26.000 –> 00:53:27.000 I read a lot. 00:53:28.000 –> 00:53:30.000 I don’t read just to read, but I 00:53:30.000 –> 00:53:31.000 read a ton, 00:53:32.000 –> 00:53:32.000 particularly 00:53:33.000 –> 00:53:34.000 on the subject matters. 00:53:35.000 –> 00:53:37.000 That are important to me. Yeah. Education, 00:53:38.000 –> 00:53:39.000 when I was 00:53:39.000 –> 00:53:40.000 in education, 00:53:41.000 –> 00:53:42.000 I read every 00:53:43.000 –> 00:53:46.000 article I could get my hands on on 00:53:46.000 –> 00:53:46.000 leadership, 00:53:47.000 –> 00:53:48.000 decision making, 00:53:49.000 –> 00:53:50.000 working with kids, 00:53:50.000 –> 00:53:51.000 understanding 00:53:51.000 –> 00:53:52.000 the dynamics 00:53:52.000 –> 00:53:53.000 of what 00:53:54.000 –> 00:53:56.000 I was gonna be faced with. Yep. Refering, 00:53:57.000 –> 00:53:59.000 I knew that rule book 00:54:00.000 –> 00:54:01.000 back in front. 00:54:01.000 –> 00:54:02.000 Leadership, 00:54:02.000 –> 00:54:03.000 I would always 00:54:05.000 –> 00:54:06.000 read articles 00:54:06.000 –> 00:54:07.000 about leadership 00:54:07.000 –> 00:54:09.000 and decision making 00:54:09.000 –> 00:54:10.000 Okay? Because that 00:54:11.000 –> 00:54:12.000 you learn 00:54:12.000 –> 00:54:14.000 if you can just pick up one little 00:54:14.000 –> 00:54:15.000 nugget. 00:54:15.000 –> 00:54:16.000 Yep. 00:54:16.000 –> 00:54:18.000 It’s gonna make you better at what you 00:54:18.000 –> 00:54:19.000 do. Yep. 00:54:19.000 –> 00:54:21.000 So I’ll close with this one. I’m anxious 00:54:21.000 –> 00:54:23.000 to see. I’ve never asked these questions. I 00:54:23.000 –> 00:54:24.000 just read it this morning. So I read 00:54:24.000 –> 00:54:26.000 my my deal is at least ten pages 00:54:26.000 –> 00:54:27.000 a day. Every day. If I can do 00:54:27.000 –> 00:54:28.000 that, you’re gonna read a lot of books. 00:54:28.000 –> 00:54:30.000 Mhmm. And so I read this today, and 00:54:30.000 –> 00:54:31.000 it was it made me think. I sent 00:54:31.000 –> 00:54:33.000 it to a couple buddies, but it said, 00:54:33.000 –> 00:54:35.000 you know, basically be careful of the feedback 00:54:35.000 –> 00:54:37.000 that you take. Not everything is for you. 00:54:37.000 –> 00:54:38.000 Maybe maybe it’s for you, maybe it’s for 00:54:38.000 –> 00:54:40.000 me, but it it may not be for 00:54:40.000 –> 00:54:42.000 both of us. Right? And it said be 00:54:42.000 –> 00:54:42.000 careful 00:54:42.000 –> 00:54:45.000 because the boiling water that hardens the egg 00:54:45.000 –> 00:54:47.000 softens the carrot. 00:54:47.000 –> 00:54:48.000 So when you hear that, what do you 00:54:48.000 –> 00:54:51.000 think? Well, when I when I see that 00:54:51.000 –> 00:54:53.000 in when I when I when I think 00:54:53.000 –> 00:54:54.000 of it, when I see it, when I 00:54:54.000 –> 00:54:55.000 I believe that, 00:54:56.000 –> 00:54:59.000 you listen, you never not listen. 00:55:02.000 –> 00:55:04.000 Okay. Yeah. But you better have 00:55:05.000 –> 00:55:07.000 the intestinal fortitude and the smartness to be 00:55:07.000 –> 00:55:08.000 able to decipher. 00:55:09.000 –> 00:55:12.000 That’s the big difference right there. Yep. 00:55:12.000 –> 00:55:14.000 Mister Harshberger, my eighth grade history teacher said 00:55:14.000 –> 00:55:17.000 you get two ears, one mouth, using proportional. 00:55:17.000 –> 00:55:19.000 You got it. Doctor Ed Hightower. Man, this 00:55:19.000 –> 00:55:21.000 has been an absolute blast. Thanks for being 00:55:21.000 –> 00:55:22.000 with me, man. Pleasure to be on my 00:55:22.000 –> 00:55:23.000 mind, Brett. Thanks for being on the circuit 00:55:23.000 –> 00:55:25.000 of success. You got it, babe. Thank you.

Welcome to the Circuit of Success podcast! In this episode, host Brett Gilliland chats with Drew Maddux about “The Power of Planning and Preparation for Success.” Learn why planning is crucial for success and get insights from Maddux’s own life planning routine, where he revisits his goals annually. Discover the benefits of breaking down life into practical areas and making declarations to stay organized and motivated. Maddux encourages overcoming fears, staying motivated during tough times, and emphasizes the importance of a supportive circle. Explore the impact of positive habits and rituals on personal growth, including simple practices like morning routines. Don’t miss Maddux’s recommendations for productivity apps, YouTube videos, and his best college basketball moment. Join us on this journey to success and subscribe for more valuable insights on the Circuit of Success podcast! ?? https://youtu.be/TUbyFzvkoME   Brett Gilliland: Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I’m your host, Brett Gilliland, and today I’ve got Drew Maddux with me, Drew. How you doing? Speaker Drew Maddux: Brett, I’m doing great. It’s an honor to be with you this morning. Thanks for having me on your show. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Absolutely. You were in, Nashville, Tennessee. Right? Speaker Drew Maddux: That is correct. I’m I’m a native, which is one of the few these days with with all the, the move ins, you know, from from all over the country, but yeah, I’m a generationally tied here. Our family’s been here for many, many years and never left, the city. My wife’s from here as well, So, yeah, this is this is home and always been home for us. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, you’ve seen some, significant growth, man. It’s a it’s an awesome city. And, obviously, you know that. There your whole life, but we love going down there. I’m only about four hours from there. I’m from Saint Louis, so we’re, we’re pretty close. Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. It it is. It’s it’s really good because I still think it’s at the intersection of of what Nashville was and what it’s becoming, and which is exciting of both senses, like the honoring of the past this innovation, this progression of all the newness. And so Yeah. We’ve certainly been the benefactors of a lot of new restaurants and new opportunities and new new ways to do life. And so we’re very, very thankful for the the visionary leadership of our city. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Absolutely. Well, you were a, successful college basketball player there in Vanderbilt as well. So that’s, that’s awesome. I’m sure we’ll talk some about that. And, you you’ve been in the business world, the coaching world, been in the TV world doing some sports commentating. You’ve done all sorts of stuff, and you’ve also wrote a book called Elevated, which is a motivational book on being the best version of you. But before we get started though, Drew, can you, what I always like to do with people is kinda what’s the backstory? What’s made you the man you are today? You don’t just wake up and do all the stuff you’ve done. So if you can share some of that, that would be great. Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. Thanks. Thanks, Brett, for allowing me to do that. It’s it really does begin with, I have incredible parents. I was a son first. I’m the middle of three. My parents were incredible. They were life giving. They were supportive. They were encouraging. Gilliland they were great facilitators for us to dream big and and help support us in the pursuing of what those dreams were. One of the things that I wanted to do when I was little, when I was five years old, my kindergarten teacher asked, what do you wanna be when you grow Gilliland I drew myself in a Vanderbilt basketball uniform, and that picture set my mirror my entire life. And the reason why I was so specific and so intentional as it relates to playing basketball, Vanderbilt was, my father and my grandfather both played basketball at Vanderbilt, and, it was just Other people told stories at bedtime of of other legendary full heroes. My dad told stories of these legendary Vanderbilt basketball players. And so it just was so real in our family, that that’s just what I wanted to do. And so I worked like crazy my entire life in the pursuing of that dream. So it helps shape everything in terms of, my disciplines, my behaviors in the classroom, decisions I made, how I treated my body, and then just, the diligence of what it means to chase after a dream with everything that you had. I was blessed to be able to do that. I grew up here in high school. Had a great high school career, committed to Vanderbelt as a freshman in high school. And so I knew that’s what I wanted to do. So when Eddie Fogler offered that scholarship, I was like, yes. I know that’s what I wanna do. And so was blessed to be able to do that, played here in Nashville, my my entire life. My whole family lives here. So it became a big family reunion every single night we played. It was just a great, great connector of a shared experience for our Gilliland our friends. Met my wife, myself, more year. At Vanderbilt. We got engaged by senior year. We just celebrated twenty five years of marriage, and so she is my best friend. She is my my inspiration. And she is my biggest cheerleader biggest, encouragement in my life. And so, we have an incredible love story. That I’m so thankful for for the way she’s impacted my life. So I’m a husband next. And then thirdly, I’m a dad. So I have a, five children. We have three daughters biologically. And in two thousand ten, December fifteenth, which were coming up on an anniversary of what that means. We adopted two little boys from Uganda. They’re not little anymore. They’re now big sixteen year old boys, and, they completed our family. And so we have five children. So I was a son as a husband, and now, you know, being able to be a father as well. And so really through those three lens, that’s the paradigm by which you know, life works for me and life flows. And then everything else just kind of flows out of that. But, really, those are the three aspects of my life that I’m the most focused on. And I believe if I’m pursuing everything that I have within those three constructs, that, you know, the byproduct will be the opportunity to be excellent as a coach, to be excellent as a speaker, to be excellent as a broadcaster. To be excellent as a business person entrepreneur. All the other things will flow out of that and we’ll be icing on the cake if I’m pursuing the the three loves of my life the most of of of being a son, of being a husband, and being a father. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Love it. That’s a great explanation, man. I think I appreciate you sharing that, Drew. So let let’s talk about that. You’re five years old. You’re talking about dreams and aspirations. And you said I wanna be a Vandy basketball player, and it comes true. So I’m curious on what you think about now as you’ve gone through Gilliland you’ve taught your Gilliland you also coaching Gilliland you’re speaking, how important is it to dream and think big? And what I heard in that story was you didn’t just write it down and put it in your top drawer of of your desk. You put it on your mirror. Right? So how important is that when we’re when we’re giving some advice to people today, listen to this? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. I I I think it’s crucial. It really does begin there. It’s it’s what do you see? You you will become what you see. And, you know, without vision, there’s nothing that’s ever been created, invented, or accomplish without first the site to see it. And so I believe it does start with, you know, if you wanna be excellent at anything, that you wanna accomplish or do or see fulfillment or even joy, you gotta see it first. And I can give you so many examples of that, but certainly in my life, I’m a speaking walking testimony of what that means to see at first. Really then it moves into second phase of it. So as you see it, as you visualize it, it really does move into the preparation. You know, how are you preparing? Does your preparation align with the result that you hope for because so many times where, you know, you’ll you’ll when it gets to game time or you get into the arena, Oh, okay. I’m gonna flick on the switch. I’m gonna turn it on in that moment, but the habits have not been consistent enough in a direct alignment with the result that you hope for. So as you see it, it moves into the planning and the preparation of it. So in order that, you can then step in and do it. You know, so it’s plan for it, and then you gotta go do it, and you gotta deliver it when greatness is required. And then the last piece of that is you gotta finish you gotta finish. And, you know, so many times we’ll step in and you’ll start to execute or you’ll start to do something, but you can’t finish. You can’t complete it. You can’t you see it all the way through. And so it really does begin with the sight to see it first. Are you preparing and planning and practicing in your process and the fulfillment of that site. Do you go and do you step into it and can you do it? And then lastly, do you complete it? Can you finish it all the way through? And I believe that’s the stages of everything, but it does begin with what do you see first? Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. It’s it’s, so it’s funny when I was twenty two, twenty three years old starting in my business. I’m in a well management space. I had all my goals, you know, framed, like, literally in a nice picture frame right next to the phone because what did I have to do as a young financial advisor? I had to pick up phone forty, fifty, sixty, hundred times a day to try to get clients. Right? And I knew when when people would tell me no or they would dodge my calls, all the stuff when I could read what was important to me and why I was doing it, it made it easier. Right? So my question there is now, you know, we’re both I think you’re close to my age. We’re in our mid to late forties. And, you know, you probably don’t have the the little picture frame on your mirror anymore, playing basketball. So how does that go now as we’re older? You’ve experienced success in your life. How do those, quote unquote, dreams or those goals play out in your life? Now. Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. I I I think it starts with the end in mind. First of all, it’s, you know, your legacy, your next assignment, your next thought, your next habit, your next words spoken, should be in direct alignment with the legacy that you wanna leave behind. And legacy to me is not just what I leave behind, but what do others do because of the investment I made in them? So it really does start with legacy. And so what I do every single year, Brett, is, and and I work with people all the time as we walk through this, But we walk through the framework of legacy. And what does that mean? And then how do you start to really get intentional and practical practical around what legacy means in the different ask of your life. So you start to break that down. Then, you know, we’re about forty days away from when we’re taping this right now, but we’re about forty days away from the end year. So another year is about to start again. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Right. Speaker Drew Maddux: And so every year around December, I go through a life planning process. And so I revisit my legacy. I look at my core values. I start to look at my mission and my vision statement of my life and make sure that it’s in direct alignment with my legacy. And then I break down my life in twenty twenty four into six practical areas. And I make three declarations in each of those areas of my life. So I have eighteen declarations broken into six segments of my life that should speak and run through the paradigm of my mission, vision, and core value set that is in direct alignment with my legacy. And so I’m very, very practical about what I go after, but it really does start with senior legacy and then making sure that the paradigm of your life that everything flows through is in direct alignment with that through the core value set through the mission and vision of your life. And then as you start to grab hold of and make a stated claim with what you want the year to look like, not just in terms of success, not just in terms of achievement, but really going after fulfillment aspects of your life, are all of those things working in unison together to make sure it’s speaking into the elements of my eulogy rather than just my resume? You know, really speaking towards the process, not just the outcome, really looking at the story of my life and the unwritten aspects of my life more than the finished product and the outcome of my life. And so all of that is always working day by day, and I visit that stuff, like, literally every single day. I’m pretty, pretty focused. Yeah. I’m pretty disciplined guy. And so I visit that stuff every single morning and make sure I’m speaking into breathing life into those aspects in my life. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Love that, man. So it’s, I was smiling big time there as you get your six. I’ve got I’ve got my six here that I talk about all the time is your faith, your family, your fitness. I call it firm because that’s what we have for work. Right? So faith family fitness firm, fun and finances. Speaker Drew Maddux: I love it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: And That’s awesome. Yeah. So So walk me through if you can. Let’s let’s kind of open that, envelope a little bit if we can and and share some stuff. When you when you talk about legacy, I can already tell that’s really, really important to you. So when you say the word legacy, do you mind sharing that? Like, what is that legacy? And what do you think about? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. So so my my legacy, you know, really does start with, you know, how do you wanna be not only how do you wanna be remembered. But what lives on beyond me in the lives of those that I’ve care taken for as well, you know, and made an event in and so I break, legacy into four segments, and and really being very intentional on that. So looking at your spouse, your parents, your kids and then your friends community, you know, colleagues. And I’m a I’m a spiritual person as well. And so kinda the the canopy of all of it it it really does flow, downward because of my, my faith. My faith, Speaker Brett Gilliland: you Speaker Drew Maddux: know, generates, the, the way that I view life and all the aspects of that to be tapping into the faith that I have. And so those are really the four segments. And so it really does start with my my mission and vision statement of my life is is to pick up the trash. Well, what do those four words mean? It means to leave people places and things better than the way that you found them. Well, how do you do that? Drew, what does that look like? That sounds pretty grandiose, and that sounds great. But what do you what do you how do you strip it all away? And how does the neck thing yet, you do really fulfill the legacy you hope to leave behind. Well, it comes down to two things. And I stay focused on this. Number one, love the next one in front of me, the best way I can that our stories are better because they’ve collided together. And then number two, do the next right thing right. If I just focus on those two things, love the next person in front of me, do the next right thing right. I believe that ultimately people will be better for it. Situations will be better for it. Circumstances, experiences, moments, environments, will be better for it. And ultimately, the people that my story collide with, hopefully, will walk away better because of the investment that I made in Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So when I hear I love the next person right, it makes me think about, you know, with, you know, writing the book and and being in business and coaching and being again, the child, your spouse, the parent, how do you stay in the moment and enjoy the moment every day? Speaker Drew Maddux: Poster of gratitude is where it starts. I mean, it it really does for me. So once again, I I if you if you don’t mind me sharing, I’m I’m sure people will think is he just so robotic lucky. But I’m I’m very disciplined when it comes to this because I believe it this is, you know, really where it starts. And so you know, the first thing I do every single day is is, starting my gratitude journal. And as a byproduct in my gratitude journal, I send ten notes whether it sometimes they’re handwritten, sometimes they’re emails, sometimes they’re just texts or voice texts, but I just literally ten people that I began to meditate and pray about I share just, how much I appreciate them. So it really does start with gratitude and appreciation. That’s where it starts. And then everything flows out of that. And so as I seek to love the next one in front of me, and I’d try to do the next right thing right, because I’m so thankful for the gift of today. I’m so thankful for the opportunities that are before me. It allows me to be fully It allows me to stay grounded in the moment to not allow that my next to rob my now, to not allow what just happened to take away the joy of what’s becoming. And to really to really stay, at the intersection of, of what is happening next with what is happening now. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So, so I love that. I think and then one of the questions I was gonna ask is your habits and rituals, and I would say that That happens probably almost every day, doesn’t it? That Every Speaker Drew Maddux: day. There’s not a day that that that does not that’s not how the day starts. Speaker Brett Gilliland: That’s amazing. Yeah. Even on Christmas morning. It didn’t matter. That’s a Speaker Drew Maddux: He said on even on Thanksgiving morning, you know, even even on those days, because here’s here’s here’s the way I think too, like even on those days. So I’m not interested, in being average. I’m not interested in being good. I’m not interested in, just getting by or doing what everybody else does. And the human conditioner on those days we would take off from those elements of our life. And so the ones that I’ve been around that are great or excellent or elite and who they are as people and what they do, even on those days, even on vacation, even on the weekend, even when you don’t want to, Those are the days you have to. You know, and so I I that’s just what I believe in. And so, yeah, even on the holidays, even on the weekend, even on the vacation, you still lean into what you wanna, what you have declared is important in your life. Yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, think about the message you have for your kids. Right? I mean, what a great legacy to leave on to the next one. Right? The the now they’re our age, and they’re in their mid forties, and they’ve got a family. And now they wake up and share gratitude and send messages to people because it it just it it just goes right because now how do those ten people feel when they get a message? Now they’re gonna go out and uplift people more often and stuff. Speaker Drew Maddux: And so Speaker Brett Gilliland: so, yeah, this is all phenomenal, but what about the days that it’s not going well? Right? Not every day is just perfect. So so how do you kinda, you know, put your work boots on, lift yourself up and keep going? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yep. It it’s it’s who you surround yourself with. You know, you That’s that’s where it’s it’s it’s two things, when it comes to this, because like you said, even on the days, you don’t, you don’t have the juice. You still gotta lean into the day. And so I I believe, you know, it’s two things. One is who you surrounded by? Who are those people that breathe life into you in those days when you don’t have what it takes or when you’re it’s not going well or it’s a struggle or it’s a challenge or hardship, life is lived in relationship and community. So I Yeah. Will I will become who I surround myself with. And so those are the days I’ve got to have great community. That care deeply for me that is not conditional. Like, even on those hard moments, on those hard days, those are when I need them the most not when things are going great, and I’m living out of a highlight reel. That’s easy, you know, to hook your way into that. And but number two is, you know, So it’s back to the gratitude piece of this is what are those things that, that you fight for every day that are beyond you or bigger you. What are those calls is that that are are far without of your reach and how does that start to pull you up out of those moments of when you feel low. And so I I believe it’s a Gilliland it’s a real and it’s being it’s living life in a relationship with others. I think those two things are when I am not at my best. I try to reposition. I reach out to others that I know care deeply for me. I’m vulnerable enough I’m authentic enough to be my truest self and ask for help when I need it. And then number two, what are those elements of calls is that I’m fighting for well beyond me? And how does that play out so it can shift and pivot my mindset or my heart set in that Speaker Brett Gilliland: moment? Well, I think it’s used what you just shared there, the the being vulnerable. Is, I think, especially as guys. Man, I think it’s when we’re having tough times, it it’s hard to reach out. Right? It’s hard to be quote unquote weak is what some people would think, but I found it as well is when when I can share what’s going on and rally the troops and having that good circle of people around you is is critically important. You know, my dad used to say when I was a kid, he used to drive me nuts, piss me off. I didn’t think you liked my kid or my friends, but he’d say the people you surround yourself with in the books you read. Right? And and he could’ve been more right. So for me, bad times. I go to my journal. I go right here to my journal. I write down stuff, and I’m surrounded by great people, and I read good stuff. Right? Garbage in, garbage out. And so put good stuff in your body, great things come out as well. So, what other things besides the legacy and and some of the things you talked about in the morning, your gratitude, what are some habits and rituals that if I followed you around every day that I would see or no mis items for you? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. I’m a avid reader. First of all, I love that you said that. So, I’m always reading anywhere from five to six books at a time. I try to read over fifty books a year, which would be, you know, an average of one a week. So that’s what I’m trying to do. You know, I’m sending out at least ten, connects every single day, of gratitude appreciation. And and some of those people are repeats, you know, throughout the week. It may be the same person that resurfaces back up, but Hey, you were prayed for today. I thought about you today. I’m thankful for you today. Thank you for making an investment in me today. I I I think those those two elements are very, very important. I think, you’re gonna see, somebody that that is, focused on making sure his physical wellness is good as well. So like this morning, we after twenty years, we play basketball full court three days a week still, group of guys at 05:30AM. We’re still gonna get up. We’re gonna exercise even on the off days. So our physical, you know, well-being is is very important. My diet’s very important, especially as I’m getting close to fifty. So I’ve changed my diet, very gotten very, driven in terms of making sure I’m taking care of my body physically. My spiritual well-being, you know, I’m I’m My faith, once again, informs a lot of who I am. So, I’m reading back through the Bible again every day. So I’m reading back through that. So every day I’m in the word. I’m doing that as well. And then just trying to do other things from a mental emotional wellness standpoint to make sure that my spirits cleanse, that if my heart is good, and and just making sure that that mentally, you know, I’m ready for whatever the day presents And so I would say those areas of mental, emotional, spiritual, relational, physical well-being are so important. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Love it. Love it, man. Basketball three times a week. I like it. Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. We, you know, it’s a game that started at Vanderbilt with the, the coaching staff. They used to call it lunch bunch, and they would play at noon on Tuesday, Fridays. And then when I got done playing at Vanderbilt, I started to play in that game. And then when I left the world of health care to come to Christ Press Academy to be a vast football coach. We moved that game to, to the morning on Monday, Wednesday, Friday. So it has just continued. It’s like the the secret fraternity in Nashville. So We have a lot of former Tennessee titans, national predators, former Vanderbilt basketball players, football players. It’s it’s a it’s a great group of guys that once again, A call connects us, but it shares this experience and it’s built this incredible community together. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Love that. Love it, man. So talk about your book elevated, a motivational book on being the best version of you. Let’s talk about that for a minute. What what was the reasoning behind writing it? And then, what would our our our listeners get out of reading that book. Speaker Drew Maddux: Yes. You know, we’ve we’ve written two books, by the way, so we wrote elevated and excavated. So elevated was, really, I’ve always wanted to write a book. So I’m a journaler. I write every day. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Speaker Drew Maddux: And so for Just even if nobody read it, I wanted to go through the personal discipline of what it meant to have to try to put something like that together. What does that really look like to work on my own growth and development. I got a virtual hearing who’s become a dear dear friend. He’s probably one of the leading golf performance coaches in the world. Coached many PGA tour professionals. He and I got together, because of a a podcast I did with him, And we started to understand that we had a lot of like minded thoughts around excellence and leadership and what makes great people great. And so we got in a room and whiteboarded out. What makes great people great? We just started listing attributes of what makes great people great teams CEO coaches, performers, great at what they do. We came up with, like, I think, like, a hundred and fifty to a hundred and sixty words that we thought just as we brainstorm We cut that down to fifty that we could agree to. And so what we did was, for fifty straight days, Brett, we journaled about that one word. So the first word in the book’s perseverance. So you would write about perseverance or or virgil would write about perseverance, and I would write about perseverance. And we would share that journal entry together. And then day two, you know, whatever the word was, resilience, day three. And we just literally for fifty straight days did that practice, and we would share the journal injury with one another. And so what we wanted it to become was our book became your book. And so back to it, we’re both journalers and writers. So we would if you open up the book perseverance, Drew’s entry, Virgil’s entry, and the empty page. So the reader could therefore write whatever their journal entry would be about that word. And so that that is how, our book transfers to ownership to becoming your book. And so that was the idea. It went on to have great success. Who would have thought? Became like, number one on Amazon and coaching and leadership, and and we had great success with that book. So we followed it up during COVID, with excavated, and we wrote about fifty words that would have almost like a negative connotation because of what we were going through as a world But sometimes it may be setting you up for the biggest blessing of your life. So how do you dig deeper to go even further beyond what you would hope for? So then we had a hundred words between those books and we signed, we did our podcast. We did a hundred episodes, in partnership with cumulus media. And we did, a podcast around each of those words. And we did a hundred episodes. So there’s a lot of content out there for anybody that would love to about leadership performance, you know, greatness, excellence, those kind of things. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Awesome. We’ll put that in the show notes for sure. There’s no doubt about that. That’s awesome. We’ll do that. And then, talk about the risks. See, what what risk are you happy that you’ve taken throughout your life? Speaker Drew Maddux: So I’ve I’ve taken too big risk, as it relates to my career. So I would start there. Number one, I was involved in the world of health care. I was in health care technology with a company that was hugely successful. When I left Vanderbilt, I moved quickly up to be president of a region at age twenty six. And, was had the world by the by the tail, by the way you would define six success. Yeah. But as much as I was winning in the world of my professional since I was losing personally at home, I would leave every single Sunday or Monday and and go out of town and come back Friday. And, I I just was not interested in that being the rhythm of life for our family. So I took a risk and, a school took a risk on me because I had no coaching experience, but I left the world of technology health care and moved into basketball coaching at Christ Press Academy. We’d went on to have a lot of fun. Had more success than we deserved. Was there for fifteen years. Once again, had the world by the tail in terms of the way that you would define success and, retire from coaching to step back into the corporate world and joined the Defrain Spencer group, my friend, Chad Spencer, our CEO, founder of our organization, as Executive Vice President of of people in leadership development. And just, that was a a major risk as well to leave everything I knew. And people thought I was absolutely crazy. What do you mean you’re gonna leave basketball coaching to go in and do this this other thing. And so those two risks have each taken me to a different level in my journey and I’m so thankful for it. And then I think the the bigger risk of of all risk was adoption was foreign concept to our family. We didn’t really know much about adoption. We didn’t know many families that had adopted. But, you know, we we fell in love with, just the people of Uganda, that part of the world we were involved in several positions. And, we knew we couldn’t affect the orphan and, crisis across the world, but we could affect the lives of at least one or two, and it ended up being two in our life. And that risk has had exponential return, in our life for for what we did by saying yes to them. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, that’s two lucky sixteen year old boys right there coming to that house, man. That’s, that’s awesome. Very cool. And so talk about that from the leadership development. I think you said just what you’re doing for the company that you’re involved with now. What what are you seeing that the everyday person, right, driving down the road? What are we seeing that that you think people really need to focus on and need help the most right now? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. Well, specifically in our world, the world of retail, you know, we’re in the home furnishings world. And Yeah. You know, obviously, if you look at a macro level economically around the country right now, you’re in this space. I mean, you so you understand you study it you know, because of of the way the world is at this moment, you know, home buys have slowed. So, therefore, home furnishings has slowed. And so, the thing that we’re trying to get our people in a down economic environment retail wise for us is you know, really, how how do you elevate your mindset and not allow the the the external circumstances of the world really dictate who you are and the life that you’re meant to live. Because so many times those external circumstances really do affect who we are as husbands and wives and fathers and mothers and all those things. And so, really, that’s the challenge that I have the most right now, Brett, is trying to encourage our people to not be taken out of the fight because of the external circumstances that they’re living in right now and the effect professionally what they’re living and how that affects their personal lives and their marriage in the way that they parent their communities. And so just really trying to separate the two that what you do is not who you are. And I think sometimes we hook our wagons into that that monetary success or performance or titles all of those things really dictate who you are. And in a down economic environment, it’s just what the world is How do you still seek to find fulfillment and joy in all the other aspects of your life and how do you stay intrinsically motivated to continue to pursue all that you were created to be. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. And going back to where we were at to start, really, is and I’m the exact same way you I mean, I’m in my journal here and I write down my goals every single day what my goals are for the next ninety days that then go into my year, which go into my three, five, and ten year goals. Right? And so don’t you think the importance of that of doing this daily? I mean, every single day without fail, because you you talked about a robot I feel that way sometimes too. I I know exactly what I’m gonna do. I’m gonna drop my bag off. I grab the book. I’m reading. I grab my journal. I go grab my water. I mean, I do the exact same thing every single morning when I walk into the office. So how important is that for somebody listening to this right now that may not have that that we have to do something the same old stuff day in and day out. Speaker Drew Maddux: Well, I I I believe, you know, routine is so critical because routine and habits will set the table for you to experience fulfillment and success. And I I just believe if you’re not Like, I’m I’m probably over. I’m OCDs. So by nature, like, I want everything to be orderly. I want everything to be just right, but that allows me to be at my optimum level. And and that allows me to maximize all that I can be. And if anything’s out of sorts or I’m not stepping into those habits or those routines, I felt out of sorts And then I’m not bringing my true self to the table. And so what I would say to anybody, to your point, Brett, is start somewhere. Even if if you’re not that kind of person, you can still start with one. And and we learned in atomic habits from James Clear, like, start with one, then stack number two on top of it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. And Speaker Drew Maddux: then the stack number three and then the compounding effect of all of those things together you’ll start to see the massive effect that that can have to the one percent, two percent incremental improvement that you desire. But it really does start with the next right decision, the next habit, the next word, the next thought, the next mindset, and how do you start to add that and start to understand the effect that all of that has, that there are no big things or small things. They’re just things. And you have a way that you do it. And the way that you approach it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Trust the process, man. Great, man. Last few questions here. I this is one of my favorite questions. I’ve asked them pretty much almost every, episode for three hundred and eighty something people at the pleasure of interviewing, which has been phenomenal. But, fears. How many of the fears that you’ve put in your mind have ever blown up to the magnitude you put them in your mind to be? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. I I would say not many. You know, it it’s it’s a majority of what we’re fearful of never comes to be a reality. You know, and so, you know, you’re you’re actually only only born with two fears when you come into the world. You know, so that means if we learn from Mark Badterson, one of my of writers. Speaker Brett Gilliland: It’s all your Speaker Drew Maddux: all your fears are learned. And, you know, his thought is and what he’s what he’s taught me through his readings and and listening into sermon’s is, if your fears can be learned, then therefore your fears can be unlearned. And so how do you start to, unlearn some of those fears that have had a gripping effect in your life because what you start to see is you look back over the course of your life, the things you were most fearful of, like you said, Brett didn’t come true. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Speaker Drew Maddux: And so just really starting to understand that. So, yeah, to your to to answer the question, I can’t think of many if one of something that I built up as a monumental fear in my life, that let reach the level of of anxiety or even panic actually happened in my life. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Yep. And that’s why I asked the question. I mean, right? We all have those same thoughts, those same feelings that go into our mind. I heard somebody say the other day too is from a from getting things done and taking action. It was it was great. It said make decisions based on your knowledge. Not on your emotion. Speaker Drew Maddux: Right? Yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So just take the gym, for example. Right? You talk about physical fitness. And and that’s really helped me is sometimes my emotion is, I don’t wanna go do that. I don’t wanna do this at all. So if I’m making the decision on emotions, I’m not gonna go. Right? But if I base it on my knowledge, I know I need to go because of a, b, c, and d. It’s an easier decision to go make. So when you hear me say that, make a decision based on your knowledge, not on your emotion, what comes to mind for you? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. Well, I started to think about when I when I think about that, I think about if we tied to fear, know, so you if you analyze the past overcoming a fear, if you did have to overcome a fear, did it come to be a reality or not? So analyze past fears, anchor a thought beyond the fear to your point, the knowledge of of what you hoped for. So anchor a thought beyond it. And then you gotta act. You gotta move. You gotta go. So as you analyze and as you anchor a thought beyond, you gotta act and you gotta go and you gotta move. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So let’s, talk about cell phones here. Anything on your phone. If I stole your cell phone from you, besides, you know, your normal email and calendar stuff to help run your life, is there an app or anything that you use for productivity or just, you know, something that you love to use or you pretty much not too much technology in your life? Speaker Drew Maddux: No. I I I mean, I just use the the calendar. So I I I literally, invite myself to different calendar invites. So even, scheduling, sleeping. I mean, I I even like down to that, like, I wanna make sure I own my calendar. My calendar doesn’t own me. There’s no reaction to what the day presents. Like, I have taken control of that. And so I use my calendar app as inviting myself to make sure I’m I’m fully to your point present and what I wanna make sure that that my day looks like Speaker Brett Gilliland: Love it. Love it. Where do our listeners find more of Drew Maddox? Speaker Drew Maddux: So across all social media, you know, so Twitter at Drew Maddux, Facebook, Instagram, dramatic forty five, LinkedIn, any anywhere you can find any of that stuff, I post daily content, You can go to Amazon and you can look up elevated and excavated. You can go to podcast iTunes Spotify to grab our our podcast. And also, you know, something that people, have become fun to kind of follow is, you know, we’ve done a lot of trick shots we’re at over the years because of our basketball can’t. So we have eight world records. I’ve been pictured on ESPN Ellen Ellen Show. Good morning America. All over the world that those those videos have several hundred million views. And so people may enjoy getting those as well. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Where we find those? Speaker Drew Maddux: On YouTube or just Speaker Brett Gilliland: And what’s is it under your name or where’s it at? Speaker Drew Maddux: Yeah. Just any I mean, just any news source. Yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Okay. Speaker Drew Maddux: Into Google Jurmatics, and you can see a lot of those trick shots. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, you’ll probably get some, four new subscribers being my four boys that, Like, people wanna watch YouTube more than they wanna watch TV these techs, Speaker Drew Maddux: you know, though. And that’s the truth. So, yeah, we, the trick shots have become, like, of all the things that’s probably you know, what what people wanna talk about the most. Speaker Brett Gilliland: That’s funny. That’s really funny. So, one last question I was gonna ask, best college basketball moment that you can remember that you played in. What was, one of those best moments that will you’ll never forget. Speaker Drew Maddux: When very first time, our name was announced for the NC of Lake tournament. You know, it’s just when your name got popped up that you had made March Maddux, I think was that that was special. First time I ever ran on Memorial Jim’s floor as a player fulfilling that dream. And then the third piece was beating number one ranked UCLA was probably our best win we ever had in my career. Speaker Brett Gilliland: That’s awesome. That’s awesome. Well, Drew, thanks so much for being with me, man. It’s been awesome having you on the circle of success, sharing your stories and your passion and your legacy. And, we really appreciate your time, man. Speaker Drew Maddux: I appreciate it, Brett. Thanks so much. I look forward to, following the success of the show.

In this power-packed episode, Brett Gilliland meets Brett Gilliland, the Founder and CEO of Elite Entrepreneurs. Brett is a seasoned expert in organization development, leadership, and strategy, with a remarkable track record. He played a pivotal role in propelling Infusionsoft from $7M to over $100M in revenue and co-created the prestigious Infusionsoft’s Elite Forum. Discover Brett’s journey, from shaping the foundational elements of Purpose, Values, and Mission at Infusionsoft to facilitating strategic planning processes. Learn about his role in developing Infusionsoft’s Leadership Model and the pivotal decision to spin the Elite business out of Infusionsoft, a move that has shaped his current role as the passionate owner of Elite Entrepreneurs. Beyond the boardroom, Brett is a devoted family man, finding joy in spending time with his beautiful wife, Sharon, and their eight children. Join us for an engaging conversation filled with actionable strategies and inspiration for entrepreneurs looking to level up their businesses and personal lives. ?️ Tune in now for a dose of entrepreneurial wisdom and a glimpse into the mindset of a leader dedicated to helping businesses thrive. Don’t miss this opportunity to learn from one of the industry’s finest! #Entrepreneurship #BusinessGrowth #LeadershipSuccess Brett Gilliland Meets Brett Gilliland! Welcome to the Circuit of Success podcast The Circuit of Success podcast. With your host, Brett Brett. Brett Gilliland. Brett Gilliland, visionary wealth advisory. Brett Gilliland. Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I am your host, Brett Gilliland. And And you’re seeing my big smile here if you’re watching this because I’m interviewing Brett Gilliland. How you doing today, Brett? I’m doing fantastic, see, Brett. Although this is a little strange, I gotta admit. It is a little weird, isn’t it? Yeah. It’s fun. I can honestly say it’s the 1st time I’ve ever spoken to another Brett Gilliland. This is cool. Same same with me, and I’ve been looking forward to this. We both have podcasts and and interview lots of people, and Somebody actually confused us for one another on LinkedIn. Yep. And we said, hey. Let’s let’s do this. I’m like, should the Brett Gilliland interview another Brett Gilliland? Like, And here we are. But you are I’m a say you’re twice as productive as me. You know why that is? No. Tell me. You have 8 kids, and I have 4 kids. Oh, that’s right. Yeah. So when you set it up that way, Brett, you’re supposed to say, I only have 4 kids. Right. I I mean, everybody else listening is like, 4 kids is a lot. What it is a lot, and and 8 is crazy. So yes. What is your mix of age from youngest to oldest is what? So we have a 25 year old son, And I was telling you before we hit record that he and his wife were expecting our 1st grandbaby, which I’m super excited about. So So on the on the upper end is 25, and then we have 15 year old twins who are sophomores in high school. So Wow. In a ten and a half year period, you know, we did get the 2 for 1 there at the end. Yeah. But, yeah, lot of Lot of craziness for a a good chunk of our married lives. But that was a fun day when you got the ultrasound. It’s like, wait. Wait. Was say it again. There’s 2 in there? Exactly. Well, with all these little kid we had 6 little kids. We’re like, okay. I guess, you know, like, we already know what it’s like to have another little one. My wife actually went to the doctor by herself because I was taking care of the little ones. And we didn’t have anybody around to help us out. So I was with them, and she came home with pictures of baby a and baby b. And I was like, what are you talking about? Yeah. That’s incredible. Well, I’m excited to have you, man. You are the founder and CEO of Elite Entrepreneurs. You’re a company that specializes in giving $1,000,000 business owners the knowledge process and tools to grow to $10,000,000 and beyond. So we’re gonna 10 x these businesses that you’re working with. I know you got a huge community of those people that you’re helping, and you’re an expert in organizational development, leadership, Strategy, and you spent 10 years helping Infusionsoft grow from 7,000,000 in revenue to over a 100,000,000 in revenue, man. So we got some stuff to talk about Day. So I’m excited. But if you can, take me back to what made Brett Golan the man he is today. Oh, wow. That’s that’s a big question. I’m I’m gonna I’m gonna assume the professional angle on that. So, I studied a master’s program called organizational behavior. I got an undergrad in business. I grew up in a large family, not surprisingly, because because I have a large family, but, my dad was a business owner, and his dad was a business owner before that. So I kinda grew up in In a family business, it was construction. I live in the Phoenix area. And as a teenager, I worked In the hot summer sun in the summers, I I guess I already said the hot summer sun. Anyway, summers, I worked for my dad, and I was, you know, A peon on the job site, laborer. Go pick up that pile of concrete trash and put it in a trailer and haul it off to the dump. And So I I did physical labor in the sun in Phoenix. And, as I got older, I went to school, and I thought, I I’m probably just gonna go into the family business. That’s just Mhmm. Kinda what I knew. And before I graduated from college with my business degree, My dad felt like he should just go ahead and shut his business down. He’s like, I don’t want my boys tied to this thing. And so he he may he took it off the table altogether. He just shut it down, and I I thought, well, now what am I gonna do? Because I that was the default path. Right? Yeah. So he shut it down, and I graduated. And I I’ve never even done all the internship things that you’re supposed to do as a as a business undergrad, and and I just got a job in in Customer success. It was actually at a Ford dealership in a little place called Farmington, New Mexico, and I learned to be very customer service oriented. I had a business background, and and they thought I could Help them on the service aisle there, and I did that for a couple years. And I was so stressed out with that job because it was just Angry customer after angry customer. 2 years of that, I I just said, I gotta go back to school. I gotta I gotta figure out what I’m doing. And I had a a memory of really enjoying my organizational behavior class, which is all about the Organizations as systems and how they work, and and it was a very people first leadership kind of a a discipline. And so I went to graduate school, and and, you know, then I got some jobs after graduate school. But, eventually, I found my way back to small business. And I I kinda took this Big business education, and I and I applied it to helping entrepreneurs go from scrappy founder to capable business building CEO. So That’s amazing. Long story, but that’s that’s what I do. And so now what do you I mean, I know you’ve helped hundreds of business owners, you know, go from that you know, your struggle zone into that Kinda what I’d call that optimal peak performance zone. And so if you can, like, what what to our listeners out there right now, what what are some of the things? Maybe are there 2 or 3 or 4 things that are the The constant theme that you saw throughout people no matter what business they were in? Yeah. Some constant themes that won’t be They won’t be new to you, but maybe just another another voice out there saying, yep. This is this is the thing. In that transition from Entrepreneur to CEO. Right? Scrappy foundry learns and does everything to Now I’m I’m building a team and leading them is that they have to figure out how not to be the bottleneck in the operations. Right. They can’t be an integral part of the machine if they wanna grow. They can be an integral part of the machine if they wanna If they wanna cap out at some point, they they can only take that business so far themselves, even if they’ve hired some people around them, If they become an integral part of delivering the value of that business, once they figure out that they have to step out of that And become a leader, now we can actually set a bigger vision, and we can build a team to go achieve that vision together and start to Organize work and and delegate that work in a way that gives real ownership and responsibility to others. Like, those are that’s That’s the biggest thing. I mean, there’s some other things you have to learn, but the biggest step is really going from that doer in the middle of all of it to Capable business building leader. I’m writing down some notes there. I don’t disagree at all. And I think, Wouldn’t you agree with this or maybe not? But but one of the hardest things, I think, in that step, though, is if you’re the founder, you’re the CEO, you’re the leader, You’re the the janitor. You’re the, whatever, the sales director. Yeah. It’s it’s hard, though, to bet on yourself sometimes, isn’t it? And hire that person and hire the next person and hire the next person or do you see that’s a constant battle there? It’s it’s really difficult. And and I love that you used the term bet on yourself. It’s ironic that you would use that term. I I think that’s true. But it it’s sort of like this This failure to trust that somebody else can take it. It’s almost like a a lack of belief that somebody else can step up and do this. But it it really does come back to betting on myself that I can organize this work in a way that I can hand it off to somebody and Train them to be successful with it. Or if you’re hiring somebody who doesn’t really need training around the technical aspect of the job that I can actually trust, That they’ll they’ll own it like I would because a lot of it is feeling like they won’t take care of the customer the way that I would, Or Right. You won’t maintain the level of excellence here that I would, or, you know, they just won’t do it as as well as I would. So, Anyway, it’s it’s a lot of it’s a lot of belief in self and belief in others that holds people back from. Yeah. It’s scary. I mean, it’s really scary, isn’t it? It’s okay. I’m gonna put my hard earned dollars on the line and and and and make it happen and feed another family and and be responsible for them. And so I was lucky enough to to do that when I was 23, 24 years old, and I’ve I’ve constantly had employees. But I’ll tell you, it’s Still scary every time you keep doubling down and keep doubling down and hiring people. So for those listening, you gotta take the 1st step. You know, just how even if it’s somebody part time, hire somebody and it’s a game changer, to help you get where you wanna go. So what what are the steps So you are walking business owners through that are at that million. We wanna get to 10,000,000. I assume there’s your mission, your vision, your values, kind of that purpose. Those things are all there. But what are what are some other things that we’re having them do to make sure we get to 10 x our business, And how do we get there as quickly as we possibly can? It’s a great question, Brett. I I think, you know, we we all love the analogy of the hats. Right. Entrepreneurs talk about all the hats that they wear. Yeah. And and it’s it’s totally true. And you feel the weight of it when you when you have all of that Responsibility on you, and and scaling is is a function of being able to shed the hats. Right? To to build the team to a place where you can shed those responsibilities. Well, I had a guest on on our podcast one time, the one the one that we do, for this 7 figure scaling journey, I and I had a guest named Noah who talked about this in a really cool way. He said And and they were growing super fast. You said, if if 6 months from now, I’m still doing the same activities as I was doing 6 months before, I know I haven’t given away enough fast enough. Right? So, literally, the only way his business could continue growing Was if he if he brought up the next people to do the next thing and and to be able to shed those responsibilities to give it to So let let me back up and say, of all the hats that we wear as business owners, at least for a 7 figure business owner who wants to To go to that 10,000,000 mark and beyond, there’s 3 hats that you’re gonna you’re gonna hang on to. You’re not actually gonna shed yourself of these responsibilities entirely, but all the rest of the hats, you’re gonna get rid of. So the first hat is the one that you already mentioned, set the vision. Right? We gotta get total clarity and alignment around purpose, values, mission, strategy, right, all of that big picture stuff. That that’s ours. We I mean, I I know a lot of business owners, myself included, who would love to, like, abdicate Certain responsibility. Like, I just want somebody to take that for me and never have to think about that again. Yep. But setting the vision is not one of them. Like, you have to be the one to lead that and ensure that we are consistent. We’re we’re true to that vision. Doesn’t mean that does not mean that we do it all our ourselves. Like, I I like setting the vision with the team, not At the team, to the team, for the team. Right? Yep. But I agree. Yeah. So, setting the vision’s first half. The second half is about building the team, And we’ve talked about that a little bit, but who else would be responsible for organizing the work and building Putting the right people on the bus in the right seats to go achieve that vision. And then the last hat, which is no small hat either, is called Get the resources. Another way to think about that is extend the the financial runway to make sure that we can, in fact, go achieve the vision that we’ve set. A lot of us as business owners like to use the term, don’t run out of cash. Right? When we’re talking about that hat, we say, don’t run out of money. And that’s that’s true. We we can’t run out of money. I like the the more invested investment mindset version of that, which is Secure fuel for growth or get the resources. But those 3 hats, set the vision, build the team, get the resources, That that’s that’s you leveling up so that you can scale. And all the rest of it, you gotta make sure that you have great people in place to be able to deliver it. Yep. And I agree with you on the getting the buy in from the the key stakeholders. Right? I mean and I think for us, it’s Working on the business versus working in the business. So this Friday, we’re going as a team, and and we’re gonna go off-site. And we’re spending 4 and a half hours, you know, deciding our priorities for 2024. And for, again, leaders listening that may not do that stuff, I I can’t Express enough how important that is is to get off-site away from the office, away from distractions, get yourself a journal, your piece of paper, Go think, dream, strategize about what you wanna accomplish in the next year coming up. And then it’s just a game plan of holding yourself accountable. Right. Constantly putting those notes up in front of you throughout the year. Don’t just put them in a, you know, a your nightstand or something or your your desk and never look at them. Constantly look at them, hold yourself accountable. I think people would be surprised in what they wake up and accomplish in a year. Would you agree? Absolutely. Yeah. And and all these phrases have been said before, but, you know, this is business by design instead of by default or a life by design instead of by default. And it’s whether it’s organizational effectiveness or personal effectiveness, We all know the very most successful people out there are really clear about their intention first. They know exactly what they’re gonna go create. And and I use that term very intentionally because we’re we’re all we’re all kinda making it up. Right? Like Right. This business didn’t exist before You started your business. This podcast didn’t exist before you started this podcast. None of us had the thing until we went and created the thing. Yeah. But but, eventually, the thing starts to overtake us and and starts to rule over us. And And it’s it’s things like you described. It’s getting away from the office with your team, cocreating that future, Designing what are we going to go build from here. Here we’re here now. Where do we wanna be at the end of next year? How Are we gonna go align our resources to go make that happen? So very, very sound practice. Goes go off-site Every year, every quarter, actually, I I love quarterly planning. Make sure that we’re clear and that we’re aligned. Yep. I agree. So what when you look back at your career, I think a lot of us had these defining moments. For you, was there a defining moment or that risk that you’re happy you took? I like that. It’s a good good question for me me to reflect. You mentioned the the 10 year well, you didn’t say 10 years. Maybe you did. I don’t remember the bio, but I spent 10 years at that company that used to be called Infusionsoft. It’s now called Keep. And when we were at 7 figures growing to a100,000,000, and we we hired hundreds of people during that time. And we were trying to grow as fast as we could as the leadership team to enable our business to continue growing. And I’ll I think Clayton Mask is the CEO of that that business still today. Again, the company is called Keep now, but He invested in our growth. He knew that as a team excuse me. As a business, there’s no way that that business was going to outgrow The level of capability of his leadership, and by extension, our leadership team, and and ultimately, by the collective contribution of the the entire Team. Right? All all the team members that we’ve had. And so he would say in our onboarding process to our new hires, I’m not the CEO today that our business needs me to be 12 months from now. Like, where we’re going, the business demands that I’d be at a new level of growth, of ability, of capability, of excellence. And today, I’m not that person. But you can count on the fact. You can take it to the bank That by the end of those 12 months, I will be the CEO this company needs. And and he would he would constantly push himself to grow because that’s the only way that our business was gonna be able to keep growing. And he invited the rest of us to do that. So that was that was part of me during that journey. And as part of that investment, he he stroked a check, a very large check at the time. I don’t know that I would have done it, But he stroked a very large check for us to spend 2 half day sessions with Jim Collins at his Ave in Boulder, Colorado. And and he would do stuff like this just to keep pushing what was possible for us and get us thinking bigger and get get outside help. And that was so influential for me. I’m a big Jim Collins fan. You probably didn’t need me to say that based on everything that I’ve just been Sharing about how to help businesses. But the principles in his book, his books about what makes a great enduring company And, you know, what real leadership looks like. We just put all of those concepts into place in an actual company and Found great success. And then we had tens of thousands of our software users seeing how well we were scaling and then asking us, Would you teach us that scaling stuff? I I know your software is about, you know, sales and marketing automation and growing our our sales, But we see how well you’re building your company. We interact with your people, and they’re all amazing. How are you finding them, and how are you doing this? And and so then We started teaching this business scaling stuff. And so it was it’s really in the process of applying what I learned in graduate school And and a few jobs to the situation of scaling the company and and learning from some of the best out there That created the opportunity that is my business today. We we built this little business inside of that software company. And then after about 6 years, I bought it, and we spun it out. So I I don’t know that I would have ever done this on my own, frankly. I I I didn’t have the entrepreneurial makeup from the start that many of you do. But now I’m I’m so grateful that I’ve been on this journey and And just love love helping out that you do it. Yeah. It’s great. It’s great. Strong self awareness too, I think, from your CEO, the story you told there. And, You know, I think it’s hard to have self awareness sometimes. And so what advice would you look what what advice would you give for the person looking for Self awareness. How do I find self awareness? What process could I go through, for that? Well, from a from, I guess the starting place, I would say, that all business problems ultimately are leadership problems. And so if something’s not going right in your business, You really need only look as far as the mirror. Now that’s not to say that nobody else has any responsibility in that. But if you’re unhappy with something that’s going on in your business, It always comes back to you as the leader. And whoever it is that’s owning whatever you’re not happy about, that that does come back to you. So at a very foundational level, Every business problem is a leadership problem. From there, as far as increasing our awareness, it’s super helpful to get some outside perspective. I had somebody one time tell me, can’t see the label from inside the jar. Like, we all operate inside this jar, and there’s a label on there That that everybody else can see about us, but we we can’t see it from inside the job. And we need people, Whether it’s an advisor, like, the valuable service that you provide for people managing their wealth, Whether it’s a a coach or a trainer or a facilitator or whatever that you use to help you see your way of being as a leader. And because, you know, we’re we’re we’re like the fish swimming in water. We don’t if we don’t know what water is, we we’ve always been in it. And and it’s just helpful to get outside perspective. So, there’s some mindset things. There’s certainly reading, Listening to podcasts, I mean, all that stuff helps, but you you need somebody who can help you hold up the mirror from time to time and talk through some things. I’m a believer in asking great questions to myself even. So I I always say ADT, ask, don’t tell. And I think the more we can ask ourselves Tough questions that you may wanna ask somebody else, but ask yourself. Right? Ask yourself that exact same question and and write those thoughts down. And And what I do, I spend strategic think time every Wednesday, 1 to 2:30, hour and a half, ink pen, my journal. People probably tired of hearing me say that on here, but I I just I say it all the time because nobody builds a discipline to do that. And when you build your strategic think time around things that you wanna accomplish, the Things that move the needle in your world, great things happen. Right? And it’s not by accident. So do you have a practice like that, or is there anything you do that if I followed you around day in and day out that I I would not miss that this Brett Golan does. Well, it it’s fun that this is the first time we’ve we’ve talked this way. Right? We didn’t meet before today other than on, you know, connecting on LinkedIn. But Some of those same practices that you’re talking about are critical to to my success as a leader and and to our success in our business. So I I have a a daily habit of writing in a journal every single day. I have, now we didn’t we didn’t talk about this, but a year and a half ago, I hired an assistant. Changed my life, by the way, to have an assistant. It’s incredible. And every single day, I’m meeting with her to hand off the things that would otherwise occupy my time. Administrative things, some of them. But As she gets more and more capable and works with me longer you know, over over time, there’s more things that I’m able to give to her. And the more that I can push those lower value activities to somebody else, the more time and space I have to spend on things like strategic looking time. So, whether it’s journaling or learning how to to delegate As many responsibilities as possible, more and more time spent on higher level thinking and higher level value Value activities for my business helps a ton. Yep. So an exercise I I like to do a lot, and I’m I’m curious If we can just kinda go on the spot here and and talk about this. And is I like to talk about start doing, stop doing, continue doing. And and you this, again, this isn’t like a Brett Gilliland original. You or me. Right? But so when you hear that is I mean, is that a good exercise As you think people do, start, stop, continue, other stuff that you can add on top of that. Yeah. Yeah. I I love that exercise. Any useful tool that’s just is gonna help you see things more clearly and not just get complacent in what we’re doing right now. Right. Yep. Human beings are such creatures of habit and very forgetful. Those 2 things are working against us. You add on top of that Just the natural chaos that that ensues when you run a business. And and it’s a recipe for It’s a recipe for doing what we did yesterday. Right? Just just trying to keep the thing going that we did yesterday. And so if we wanna break out of that and create New possibilities or or respond to things that are happening in the market in a productive and healthy way. We we have to get out of the day to day. So Start, stop, continue. I I love those periodic reviews. I’ll I’ll give you a a new tool here. It might maybe it’s not new to you, but another one. We call it the ICE tool. So, as you look at the the set of activities that you are personally spending time on In a day, in a week, in a month, and if you can apply this little filter of ice to it, it might help you see things in a new way. So I stands for I do it, but, really, I’m incompetent at it. Nobody else would do it, so I still do it. But I’m incompetent at it. C stands for competent. Like, I’m good at this, but somebody else might be able to do it as good as or better than me. And then the third is I’m I’m exceptional at this. Like, maybe this this falls in line with my unique genius or my My native my native genius or my my unique capabilities. And so this, you think about, similar to a start, stop, continue sort of thinking. It’s where should I be start, stop, continue As it relates to my level of competence around an activity that I’ve been holding on to. And is it time to give that to somebody else? Because I’m not Super competent. I’m I’m incompetent at it. Or maybe I’m competent at it, but there’s somebody else who could do it for less money than than it’s costing the business by having me do it, versus the exceptional things where I can add unique value to the business. So that’s really the filter you make a decision then. If something’s comes on your desk And, you gotta make a decision on it. You’re gonna look at it from the ICE tool. I that’s one way to do it. Yeah. Another way is not just It comes to my desk, but maybe just reviewing how I’ve been spending my time. I’ll look back over the year. We’re getting to the end of the year. You talked about planning as a team for 2024, and I like taking inventory of how I’ve been spending my time for the x you know, last 6 months, last year, And just really evaluating. Is that the best way for me to be spending my time? Then I can apply a tool like ICE or just Generally, like, start, stop, continue, and say, should I be making a change as I go into this next period? What’s the next iteration For me in my role that I need to be creating. Yep. Great. So, it’s obviously if it’s big enough to go on a T shirt, that means it means something to you. So I think it says the best leaders build the best businesses. So Yeah. Let’s talk about that. Let’s talk about the mountain. What’s that mean to you? So, we picked up again, because of Jim Collins, we picked up this Everest Mission kind of idea. You know? He he likes to talk about BHAG, the big Gary, I think it’s goal. And so I I just like the metaphor of we’re we’re going for that summit there. When we’re doing vision setting kinda stuff, We get real destination oriented with our mission. So we don’t want a broad, open ended mission that never gets accomplished. We want to say, There’s the summit. There’s the peak of that next mountain we’re gonna go tackle together as a team. What is it specifically? So I like a very what by when destination oriented mission, and that’s that’s what the the mountaintop is about. The purpose or that bigger meaning would be the guiding start. Right? You never you never achieved that, but it gives you that directional clarity about, Are we are we doing something in line with why we’re put here? Like, does this really matter? Is this the purpose that we’re up to together? But the mission is very destination oriented, and it it’s my belief that the best leaders build the best, This says businesses, but the best team, the best everything in that business to go achieve that mission together. On the back of my shirt, it says The rest of the story, it says, and the best businesses win. And and so I want all of your listeners to be winning in life. And those people who win, whether they’re talking about their individual effectiveness or if they’re business owners, How well they’re doing as a team, it it really does come down to leadership. How well am I leading myself to go create that life that I want? How well am I leading creating this business to go have the impact that we want to to have together as a team. And so to to me, it boils down to leadership. I know most business owners don’t think about that first. They don’t go, I’m trying to double my sales, so I gotta go fix my leadership. They They usually think about marketing and sales and, you know, partnerships, and all those things are super important as part of the journey. But Looking in the mirror, I think, you and I would agree that it it starts with who am I being as a leader? How can I improve as a leader? Yep. Lead by example. So I was with, right over here about, 5 minutes away. We’ve got an air force base that makes some massive decisions in our world to protect our great country. And I was with the colonel today. They talked about the 3 things he looks at in a in a Wait. Jesus. Clarity of mission, multiple processes on how to win that mission, and then we attack aggressively. And, I mean, you can just feel it, like, when he said it. Right? You know, sometimes people just say things. And and he said we attack aggressively. And so when you hear me say that, clarity on mission, multiple process to win that mission, and we attack aggressively, what do you hear? I hear clarity of vision like we talked about. I hear on the multiple processes, I hear really good strategy. Like Mhmm. It’s not it’s not one bet, and we cross our fingers and hope that that does it. Like, we’ve got, you know, multiple processes that we know Probably one of those things would work, but we’re not gonna we’re not gonna let it to chance that just one of them might fail. We’re gonna have Back up plans and then back up plans and then back up plans. So I hear that, and then I and then I hear attack aggressively is like, Okay. Now let’s go execute the plan. Like, we’ve got a great plan. Let’s go make it happen. We’re not gonna sit around and watch that our great plan just does itself. Right? So, that’s what I hear. I love it, though. It’s cool. I’ll see. Yeah. So let’s talk a little bit on the family and business side. So so what do you do to stay in the moment? Obviously, with 8 kids, and and now they’re getting older. So it’s a little different than the diaper stages and, you know, feeding them and doing all that stuff. But but what have you done throughout your career, though, to to stay a family man, stay in the moment, enjoy the journey? Because I know the chaos of 4 kids. I cannot imagine 8. What have you done, and what can you share with our listeners for those parents that are out there? So one thing I’ve done, just very consistently is to get recentered every every morning. There’s lots of versions of this out there. I I don’t even know that I would prescribe this as the the way to do it. But for me, I have to start my day Getting centered. And I I do that with prayer, meditation, some sort of scripture study or something that’s that’s going to Give me sustenance. Right? Spiritually, mentally, it’s gonna help me. And then with the kids, We do those types of things as a family as well. But this morning I mean, every school day, I’m out Helping with breakfast, helping prepare lunches. So, like, I’m involved with them and getting them off to have a good start with their day. So we do a lot of family routines just like you have to have meeting rhythms and routines, even traditions In your business for that to, you know, build a great team, a great work workplace, we have a lot of routines and traditions to be able to make it work with, You know, it was 10 bodies. Now as our older kids are moving away, it’s it’s fewer bodies, but the principles Rules apply. So, you know, we try to eat dinner together. When when 1 team member is is Doing something that we can all celebrate. We wanna be involved in that. You know, when a family member’s off doing something in in sports or music or whatever they’re involved in, You know, I I go and support that. So how do I keep that sacred as a business owner? And I and I’m not perfect at this. I wouldn’t I wouldn’t pretend to be. But when it’s when it’s dinner time at 5:30, sometime you know, it might be 6 o’clock at the latest, then I I’m I’m pretty good about compartmentalizing. Say, okay. I’m done. The business no longer deserves to have my attention. And I’m a family man from 5:30, 6 o’clock until you know, as my kids got older, it’s 11:30, 12 o’clock, sometimes at night before Before they’re all wrapped up and done. So a lot of family time, very intentional vacation time, rhythms, routines, traditions. Yeah. I think that’s the toughest thing as the kids get older, and then it’s like, man, I’m I wanna go to bed before at least 2 of my kids, 3 of my kids are even, you know, thinking about going to bed. I’m like my gosh. Is it keeping me up late out here? Yep. It’s great. What do you do to stay a student of the game, Brett? Well, I listen to podcasts. I read books. I go to conferences. I just went to a conference last week. Thankfully, in in my line of work, there’s a good overlap between getting out and And talking with business owners and being in in places where they congregate are often where there’s learning going on. So Yeah. Last week, I got to be at a conference where James Clear was speaking on a topic, atomic habits. Yeah. And even with the master’s degree in organizational behavior and knowing Really, all the the principles that he taught, it’s fun to it’s fun to hear somebody else’s perspective on it and Yep. In a way to simplify something that Maybe I’ve known in practice for a long time. It just keeps me sharp. So, yeah, those are ways that I try to stay sharp. Love it. Last couple questions here, but fear is a question I always like to ask people on all these podcasts is how many of the fears That you have put in your mind have actually blown up to the magnitude you put them in your mind to be. That that is a very insightful question because I think you know the answer at least 99% of the time is it’s never as big as we fear. Just just as Our our brains are masterful at making A terrible. A story. Powerful and terrible. Yeah. Powerful and terrible. Big scary stories. I can’t do that. And and a lot of a lot of what holds us back is us for sure. Yeah. Yep. What, what would you tell yourself? If you look at your career over the last, You know, whatever 20, 25 years, 30 years, what would what advice would you give, young Brett Gilliland? Young Brett Gilliland. I would give myself the advice of not not thinking that there’s a certain path that you have to follow. You know, I think growing up, it’s like you get to to to school, and then you go to college, and then you do this, and then you like, there was At least for me, it felt very much like there’s this conveyor belt of progression that everybody is supposed to hop on. And it and what I love about Small business ownership and and those gutsy and crazy entrepreneurs out there, they said, no. I’m I’m doing my own thing. And and I wish I had Figured that out sooner, for myself. I would tell my younger self, it’s not as scary as it sounds to go Make your own way. In fact Yeah. In a lot of ways, it’s it’s much more secure. Instead of putting your own livelihood in somebody else’s hands, you kinda take that yourself. And While it’s scary, it’s also the most controlled situation. You know? Yep. Bet on yourself as we talked about. Last question for you. I’ve never asked says, but it popped in my mind earlier today. So I put it on this piece of paper, and I said, what social media, do you like the best and why? I like LinkedIn the best just because I I play in this business world. Yeah. You know, I I should probably like some of those more trendy ones better because then, you know, the word would get out there more if I did more TikToks Whatever. But Yeah. Yeah. I like LinkedIn the best. I’ve I’m I’m engaged by the conversations, Meeting people like you, seeing great content that goes out there. So, yeah, LinkedIn’s my favorite. Awesome. Well, I know you’ve got a community of 7 figures people go 1 to, 10,000,000. So where do our listeners find more of your community? Where they find more of you? And, what can they do to connect? Thanks. Well, I can’t use your handle on LinkedIn because you already have it. So I I I picked 1 called built to last champ, the number 2, like Jim Collins. Right? Built, the number 2, last Champ, this long, awkward handle for LinkedIn. That’s my LinkedIn. Our website is Grow With elite. com. So it’s all spelled out grow with elite. com, and we have a podcast called Elite Entrepreneur’s Podcast. Awesome. We’ll put all that in the show notes. And, Brett, it’s been awesome, man. It’s been absolutely awesome having you. I was excited about today, And, it’s been a lot of fun. And and the great thing is I just took a page of notes and a ton of takeaways, so it made it even better than I already knew it would be. It was fun. Thanks for having me on your show, Brett.

On this episode of the Circuit of Success Podcast, Brett Gilliland shares with you his appearance on the Diamond Consultants Podcast in 2021. Brett shares his journey and how Visionary Wealth Advisors was born. This includes his “Jerry Maguire-Style” resignation. A Northwestern Mutual Advisor’s “Jerry Maguire-Style” Breakaway Story Visionary Wealth Advisors: The Origin Story The recurring theme of “incongruence” runs through the narratives of advisors who have transitioned between firms or models. The challenge arises when there is a mismatch between personal goals and those of the firm, making it difficult, if not impossible, to effectively serve clients and expand one’s business. Brett Gilliland, while serving as a Managing Director at Northwestern Mutual, experienced a noticeable lack of alignment with the firm’s goals as he achieved success. Juggling multiple roles, including financial advisor and recruiter, Brett increasingly felt restricted in his ability to provide unbiased advice and desired more autonomy in serving clients. The episode delves into the drivers behind Visionary’s remarkable growth, highlighting the significant role relationships and referrals have played in their success. Brett encourages advisors and business owners to ask themselves a crucial question he posed to Tim before leaving Northwestern: “What keeps you here?” Tune in for the valuable takeaways for both employee advisors and business owners. 00:00:14.000 –> 00:00:17.000 IT’S THIS FEELING OF MISALIGNMENT BETWEEN AN ADVISERS 00:00:17.000 –> 00:00:20.000 goals and that of their firm, which drives 00:00:20.000 –> 00:00:22.000 change more than any other motivator. 00:00:23.000 –> 00:00:25.000 Because when your vision is conflicting with that 00:00:25.000 –> 00:00:28.000 of your firm, it becomes difficult if not 00:00:28.000 –> 00:00:28.000 impossible 00:00:28.000 –> 00:00:31.000 to serve your clients and grow your business. 00:00:31.000 –> 00:00:34.000 As a managing director at Northwestern Mutual, 00:00:34.000 –> 00:00:37.000 Brett Gilliland found that the lack of alignment 00:00:37.000 –> 00:00:40.000 could not be more apparent nor more limiting. 00:00:40.000 –> 00:00:43.000 In his role, He wore multiple hats from 00:00:43.000 –> 00:00:46.000 serving as a financial advisor, plus a recruiter 00:00:46.000 –> 00:00:47.000 with the responsibility 00:00:47.000 –> 00:00:50.000 for the training and development of novice advisors. 00:00:51.000 –> 00:00:53.000 But as he became more successful, 00:00:53.000 –> 00:00:55.000 he also became less satisfied, 00:00:55.000 –> 00:00:57.000 and the feeling of being at odds with 00:00:57.000 –> 00:00:58.000 the goals Northwestern 00:00:59.000 –> 00:01:00.000 became more apparent. 00:01:01.000 –> 00:01:04.000 He wanted greater agency over how he served 00:01:04.000 –> 00:01:04.000 clients. 00:01:05.000 –> 00:01:07.000 He wanted to be able to freely market. 00:01:07.000 –> 00:01:09.000 He wanted to give unbiased 00:01:09.000 –> 00:01:10.000 unconflicted 00:01:10.000 –> 00:01:14.000 advice without feeling pigeonholed into selling insurance. 00:01:15.000 –> 00:01:17.000 And ultimately, as he put it, He wanted 00:01:17.000 –> 00:01:19.000 to play in a different sandbox. 00:01:20.000 –> 00:01:22.000 So after thirteen years with Northwestern, 00:01:22.000 –> 00:01:25.000 he decided it was time to build something 00:01:25.000 –> 00:01:26.000 that was more aligned with his vision. 00:01:27.000 –> 00:01:29.000 And in March of two thousand fourteen, 00:01:29.000 –> 00:01:33.000 RIA firm visionary wealth advisors was born. 00:01:33.000 –> 00:01:36.000 But it’s his Jerry Maguire exit story that’s 00:01:36.000 –> 00:01:37.000 really compelling. 00:01:37.000 –> 00:01:39.000 And a true testament 00:01:39.000 –> 00:01:41.000 to the respect and trust he developed with 00:01:41.000 –> 00:01:42.000 his team at Northwestern. 00:01:43.000 –> 00:01:47.000 Today, visionary manages some one point eight billion 00:01:47.000 –> 00:01:49.000 in assets and has thirty advisors on the 00:01:49.000 –> 00:01:50.000 team. 00:01:50.000 –> 00:01:53.000 In this episode, Brett talks with Lewis Diamond 00:01:53.000 –> 00:01:57.000 sharing details about the motivation behind his move. 00:01:57.000 –> 00:01:59.000 His unique perspective as a managing director at 00:01:59.000 –> 00:02:00.000 Northwestern 00:02:00.000 –> 00:02:02.000 how he is able to fully realize his 00:02:02.000 –> 00:02:05.000 vision as an independent business owner, and of 00:02:05.000 –> 00:02:06.000 course, 00:02:06.000 –> 00:02:07.000 shares a resignation 00:02:07.000 –> 00:02:11.000 story unlike any other. Plus much more. So 00:02:11.000 –> 00:02:12.000 let’s get to it. 00:02:14.000 –> 00:02:15.000 Brett, thanks 00:02:19.000 –> 00:02:20.000 so much joining us today. 00:02:20.000 –> 00:02:23.000 Absolutely. It’s good to be with you. Very 00:02:23.000 –> 00:02:24.000 good. Why don’t you tell us about yourself 00:02:24.000 –> 00:02:26.000 and how you got started in the business? 00:02:27.000 –> 00:02:29.000 Yeah. I went to Eastern Illinois University and 00:02:29.000 –> 00:02:31.000 right out of college. I decided I wanted 00:02:31.000 –> 00:02:33.000 to be in the financial planning business. So 00:02:33.000 –> 00:02:35.000 back then, this was the early two thousand, 00:02:35.000 –> 00:02:37.000 I guess, two thousand Gilliland they were called 00:02:37.000 –> 00:02:39.000 stock brokers back then. And and that’s what 00:02:39.000 –> 00:02:41.000 I wanted to do. I knew that right 00:02:41.000 –> 00:02:42.000 out of college, and it really goes back 00:02:42.000 –> 00:02:44.000 to when I was about fifteen years old, 00:02:44.000 –> 00:02:47.000 my My cousin Dean was actually a stockbroker. 00:02:48.000 –> 00:02:49.000 And I drove the gold BMW. You had 00:02:49.000 –> 00:02:52.000 the speakers in the headrest, and that was 00:02:52.000 –> 00:02:53.000 pretty cool. Right? When you’re fifteen years old, 00:02:53.000 –> 00:02:55.000 and so I thought for sure. I wanted 00:02:55.000 –> 00:02:57.000 to do that. And so I went to 00:02:57.000 –> 00:02:59.000 a job fair and and found the financial 00:02:59.000 –> 00:03:02.000 planning stockbroker Gilliland here we are almost twenty 00:03:02.000 –> 00:03:03.000 years later. 00:03:03.000 –> 00:03:07.000 Perfect. And your your most recent employment before 00:03:07.000 –> 00:03:09.000 launching your own RIA was as the Madington 00:03:09.000 –> 00:03:12.000 director at Northwestern Mutual. Can you talk a 00:03:12.000 –> 00:03:14.000 little bit about that role in your day 00:03:14.000 –> 00:03:16.000 to day? Because my understanding is you were 00:03:16.000 –> 00:03:19.000 in a full time advisor. You had some 00:03:19.000 –> 00:03:22.000 other duties and responsibilities as well. Absolutely. So 00:03:22.000 –> 00:03:24.000 I was a managing director at my previous 00:03:24.000 –> 00:03:26.000 firm, and we were responsible for recruiting. That’s 00:03:26.000 –> 00:03:28.000 a big recruiting world where I was at 00:03:28.000 –> 00:03:30.000 previously. And so we were in charge of 00:03:30.000 –> 00:03:32.000 recruiting advisors to what we call our district 00:03:32.000 –> 00:03:34.000 office. I was in Edwardsville, Illinois. We still 00:03:34.000 –> 00:03:36.000 have an office there to this day, but 00:03:36.000 –> 00:03:38.000 that’s what I was doing. I was recruiting 00:03:38.000 –> 00:03:40.000 advisors into this business. We also had a 00:03:40.000 –> 00:03:42.000 college internship program where we would have anywhere 00:03:42.000 –> 00:03:45.000 from twenty to twenty five interns. I had 00:03:45.000 –> 00:03:46.000 a team of people that will whether it 00:03:46.000 –> 00:03:49.000 was a college unit or field directors or 00:03:49.000 –> 00:03:49.000 mentors, 00:03:50.000 –> 00:03:52.000 recruiters, a great team of people around me, 00:03:52.000 –> 00:03:53.000 but that’s what we had to do. We 00:03:53.000 –> 00:03:55.000 had to go out and recruit new advisors 00:03:55.000 –> 00:03:57.000 to the firm. These weren’t, like, industry folks. 00:03:57.000 –> 00:03:58.000 These were people were brand new, just like 00:03:58.000 –> 00:04:01.000 myself, right out of college, didn’t have any 00:04:01.000 –> 00:04:03.000 experience. So there was tons of recruiting, training, 00:04:03.000 –> 00:04:04.000 development, 00:04:05.000 –> 00:04:09.000 mentor meetings, one off drive by meetings, maybe 00:04:09.000 –> 00:04:10.000 being about how do you prospect? How do 00:04:10.000 –> 00:04:12.000 you make more phone calls? How do you 00:04:12.000 –> 00:04:14.000 find more prospects? So on and so forth. 00:04:14.000 –> 00:04:16.000 But then also was a financial advisor and 00:04:16.000 –> 00:04:17.000 did that at a high level as well. 00:04:17.000 –> 00:04:19.000 So it was one of the things I 00:04:19.000 –> 00:04:20.000 really enjoyed because 00:04:20.000 –> 00:04:23.000 I was doing multiple things throughout the day 00:04:23.000 –> 00:04:24.000 wearing lots of different hats. 00:04:25.000 –> 00:04:28.000 Excellent. It sounds like the Northwestern model of 00:04:28.000 –> 00:04:30.000 recruiting, it’s kinda like churn and burn. You’re 00:04:30.000 –> 00:04:33.000 expecting that a lot of folks aren’t gonna 00:04:33.000 –> 00:04:35.000 make it through the program. So I’m curious 00:04:35.000 –> 00:04:37.000 what separated the advisors 00:04:37.000 –> 00:04:39.000 that ultimately made it and went on to 00:04:39.000 –> 00:04:42.000 have successful careers. Yeah. I mean, there’s so 00:04:42.000 –> 00:04:43.000 many different things we’ve looked at over the 00:04:43.000 –> 00:04:45.000 years. And so when I at the success 00:04:45.000 –> 00:04:47.000 that we had from a recruiting standpoint. 00:04:47.000 –> 00:04:49.000 I learned that they grew up with what 00:04:49.000 –> 00:04:50.000 I would call. I’m using air quotes here 00:04:50.000 –> 00:04:52.000 since you can’t see me, but a normal 00:04:52.000 –> 00:04:54.000 background. And what I mean by that is 00:04:54.000 –> 00:04:57.000 they were blessed with a great family life. 00:04:57.000 –> 00:05:00.000 They had support at home, whether that was 00:05:00.000 –> 00:05:02.000 growing up as a child, but also in 00:05:02.000 –> 00:05:05.000 their adult life. And what, again, what I 00:05:05.000 –> 00:05:07.000 just call this normal life, which is maybe 00:05:07.000 –> 00:05:08.000 that’s fair. Maybe it’s not fair, but it 00:05:08.000 –> 00:05:10.000 it just it it seemed like they had 00:05:10.000 –> 00:05:12.000 a lot of support around them from loved 00:05:12.000 –> 00:05:14.000 ones. And I think that’s so important. This 00:05:14.000 –> 00:05:17.000 business can be very lonely, especially when you’re 00:05:17.000 –> 00:05:19.000 twenty three, twenty two, twenty four years old, 00:05:19.000 –> 00:05:21.000 and you’re running around trying to fry prospects, 00:05:21.000 –> 00:05:23.000 and it was completely different. The ones that 00:05:23.000 –> 00:05:25.000 we found that were successful, a lot of 00:05:25.000 –> 00:05:27.000 them were career changers. We had a testing 00:05:27.000 –> 00:05:29.000 program. If they did a certain test on 00:05:29.000 –> 00:05:32.000 this personality, we found that did well, but 00:05:32.000 –> 00:05:34.000 I also saw an athletic background. I mean, 00:05:34.000 –> 00:05:36.000 at one time, we had, I think it 00:05:36.000 –> 00:05:38.000 was sixteen advisors that I had recruited that 00:05:38.000 –> 00:05:39.000 were all college athletes. 00:05:40.000 –> 00:05:42.000 And that doesn’t mean you’re gonna only be 00:05:42.000 –> 00:05:44.000 successful if you’re a college athlete, but for 00:05:44.000 –> 00:05:46.000 us, that’s what we found where the college 00:05:46.000 –> 00:05:47.000 athletes 00:05:47.000 –> 00:05:50.000 were working in that environment. Right? Because you 00:05:50.000 –> 00:05:51.000 had to go out and make a name 00:05:51.000 –> 00:05:52.000 for yourself. You had to go out and 00:05:52.000 –> 00:05:54.000 prospect. You had to be driven. You had 00:05:54.000 –> 00:05:56.000 to go out and make forty or fifty 00:05:56.000 –> 00:05:58.000 or sixty phone calls every single day, and 00:05:58.000 –> 00:06:00.000 you had to get twenty five referrals a 00:06:00.000 –> 00:06:02.000 week. And you all these activity drivers that 00:06:02.000 –> 00:06:04.000 you had to do that quite frankly, I 00:06:04.000 –> 00:06:06.000 probably wouldn’t be in this business if it 00:06:06.000 –> 00:06:07.000 wasn’t for those things when I was in 00:06:07.000 –> 00:06:09.000 my early twenties, but I had to do 00:06:09.000 –> 00:06:11.000 it. And I found the people that were 00:06:12.000 –> 00:06:15.000 competitive and wanted to be great in things 00:06:15.000 –> 00:06:16.000 at life, those were the ones that were 00:06:16.000 –> 00:06:17.000 the most successful. 00:06:18.000 –> 00:06:19.000 Very interesting. And, I mean, so much of 00:06:19.000 –> 00:06:20.000 the industry’s 00:06:21.000 –> 00:06:23.000 attention. I know our whole business, 00:06:23.000 –> 00:06:27.000 not to mention, is focused on recruiting experienced 00:06:27.000 –> 00:06:30.000 advisors, because obviously, they come with clients, they 00:06:30.000 –> 00:06:32.000 can hit the ground running, already pre trained. 00:06:32.000 –> 00:06:34.000 Do you have a viewpoint though on if 00:06:34.000 –> 00:06:36.000 someone is building a firm from the ground 00:06:36.000 –> 00:06:38.000 up, what do you think is a better 00:06:38.000 –> 00:06:41.000 approach? Is it bringing on experienced folks with 00:06:41.000 –> 00:06:43.000 books or kinda what you did at Northwestern, 00:06:43.000 –> 00:06:46.000 which was career changers, ex athletes, and entry 00:06:46.000 –> 00:06:47.000 level advisors 00:06:48.000 –> 00:06:50.000 Yeah. I think it’s a great question. And 00:06:50.000 –> 00:06:52.000 and what we did was and I don’t 00:06:52.000 –> 00:06:53.000 know if necessarily we meant to do this, 00:06:53.000 –> 00:06:55.000 and I say we, Tim Hammond, my business 00:06:55.000 –> 00:06:58.000 partner who co founded visionary wealth advisors with 00:06:58.000 –> 00:07:00.000 me when we started visionary. So he was 00:07:00.000 –> 00:07:02.000 just a and I said just, meaning he 00:07:02.000 –> 00:07:05.000 was a wealth management advisor. He was doing 00:07:05.000 –> 00:07:07.000 fee based financial planning at Northwestern, 00:07:07.000 –> 00:07:11.000 and I was doing the recruiting, developing, training, 00:07:11.000 –> 00:07:13.000 and still being a financial advisor as well. 00:07:13.000 –> 00:07:15.000 And so the of us came together 00:07:15.000 –> 00:07:18.000 and almost immediately thought we could do this 00:07:18.000 –> 00:07:20.000 differently. I always say the sandbox was I 00:07:20.000 –> 00:07:22.000 was playing in was let’s just say a 00:07:22.000 –> 00:07:24.000 size of a piece of paper and I 00:07:24.000 –> 00:07:25.000 wanted it to be the size of the 00:07:25.000 –> 00:07:26.000 football field. 00:07:27.000 –> 00:07:29.000 And that’s what I saw in the RIA 00:07:29.000 –> 00:07:31.000 space that was out there, that the sky 00:07:31.000 –> 00:07:33.000 is the limit, and you can do so 00:07:33.000 –> 00:07:35.000 much for your clients that I couldn’t do 00:07:35.000 –> 00:07:37.000 at that time at that role. And we 00:07:37.000 –> 00:07:40.000 immediately went to no longer doing any career 00:07:40.000 –> 00:07:40.000 changers 00:07:41.000 –> 00:07:41.000 no inexperienced 00:07:42.000 –> 00:07:44.000 people. We just, like, literally cold turkey. I 00:07:44.000 –> 00:07:46.000 just went to the starting to recruit experienced 00:07:46.000 –> 00:07:48.000 advisors. And 00:07:48.000 –> 00:07:50.000 what we found was that people were looking 00:07:50.000 –> 00:07:51.000 for a platform 00:07:52.000 –> 00:07:53.000 where they could go 00:07:53.000 –> 00:07:55.000 and have some independence, 00:07:55.000 –> 00:07:57.000 but also be interdependent. 00:07:57.000 –> 00:08:00.000 And so the advisors that we have now 00:08:00.000 –> 00:08:02.000 are just doing so well because there is 00:08:02.000 –> 00:08:05.000 an interdependent relationship with us with visionary aim 00:08:05.000 –> 00:08:06.000 with those advisors. They own their own book 00:08:06.000 –> 00:08:09.000 of business. They own their clients, but at 00:08:09.000 –> 00:08:11.000 the same time, they’re not in business by 00:08:11.000 –> 00:08:13.000 themselves. Right? They’re for themselves, but not by 00:08:13.000 –> 00:08:15.000 themselves. Gilliland we just found that there was 00:08:15.000 –> 00:08:16.000 a really a big market out there for 00:08:16.000 –> 00:08:19.000 experienced advisors that want that type of platform. 00:08:20.000 –> 00:08:21.000 Understood. 00:08:21.000 –> 00:08:23.000 And let’s go back to when you’re still 00:08:23.000 –> 00:08:25.000 at Northwestern. Of course, you could have just 00:08:25.000 –> 00:08:28.000 stayed at the firm. You sound like you’re 00:08:28.000 –> 00:08:30.000 a successful adviser in your own right. Kept 00:08:30.000 –> 00:08:32.000 recruiting, kept leveraging the infrastructure. 00:08:33.000 –> 00:08:36.000 But instead, you opted to transition to form 00:08:36.000 –> 00:08:38.000 your own RA firm back in twenty fourteen. 00:08:38.000 –> 00:08:40.000 Can you elaborate on what some of your 00:08:40.000 –> 00:08:43.000 frustrations were and maybe what you felt you 00:08:43.000 –> 00:08:45.000 couldn’t do for your clients there? For me, 00:08:45.000 –> 00:08:46.000 it was as I was becoming more and 00:08:46.000 –> 00:08:49.000 more successful, I was becoming less satisfied with 00:08:49.000 –> 00:08:51.000 my career. And really what did it for 00:08:51.000 –> 00:08:53.000 me is I was fortunate enough to make 00:08:53.000 –> 00:08:56.000 what they call forum inside of Northwestern Mutual, 00:08:56.000 –> 00:08:57.000 which is, I think it’s, I don’t know, 00:08:57.000 –> 00:08:59.000 top two hundred and fifty advisors, let’s call 00:08:59.000 –> 00:09:02.000 it. And I remember not being real, real 00:09:02.000 –> 00:09:03.000 happy, even though I just had a phenomenal 00:09:03.000 –> 00:09:05.000 year with production. We had just led the 00:09:05.000 –> 00:09:07.000 company in recruiting for managing directors. 00:09:07.000 –> 00:09:09.000 So there was a lot of things going 00:09:09.000 –> 00:09:11.000 well, but for some reason, I still wasn’t 00:09:11.000 –> 00:09:13.000 satisfied. And I didn’t know what that was. 00:09:13.000 –> 00:09:16.000 And so I just kept kinda looking internal 00:09:16.000 –> 00:09:19.000 for me, and I wanted that entrepreneurial spirit. 00:09:19.000 –> 00:09:20.000 Right? I wanted to go out and build 00:09:20.000 –> 00:09:22.000 something. I wanted to go out and build 00:09:22.000 –> 00:09:23.000 a brand. I wanted to build something 00:09:24.000 –> 00:09:27.000 that our clients were excited about and proud 00:09:27.000 –> 00:09:29.000 of and and who they were working with. 00:09:29.000 –> 00:09:30.000 And I say all this, and there is 00:09:30.000 –> 00:09:32.000 a ton of great people at Northwestern Mutual. 00:09:32.000 –> 00:09:35.000 I still have friends there to this day. 00:09:35.000 –> 00:09:37.000 They’re doing great work for people. So it 00:09:37.000 –> 00:09:39.000 wasn’t necessarily that. It was just more for 00:09:39.000 –> 00:09:42.000 me was I wanted to do something more. 00:09:42.000 –> 00:09:45.000 I wanted to, again, to build something. And 00:09:45.000 –> 00:09:47.000 I think there we were building a nice 00:09:47.000 –> 00:09:49.000 income, but we weren’t building an asset. We 00:09:49.000 –> 00:09:52.000 weren’t really building a firm. Cause you’re doing 00:09:52.000 –> 00:09:54.000 it for the mothership, if you will. And 00:09:54.000 –> 00:09:55.000 for me, it just became again that I 00:09:55.000 –> 00:09:58.000 wanted to play in a different sandbox. And 00:09:58.000 –> 00:10:00.000 whether it’s to have a podcast or do 00:10:00.000 –> 00:10:02.000 some things that we do now that you 00:10:02.000 –> 00:10:05.000 just couldn’t do there in comprehensive financial planning 00:10:05.000 –> 00:10:08.000 where you’re not biased on either a product 00:10:08.000 –> 00:10:10.000 or what avenue they need to go down 00:10:10.000 –> 00:10:12.000 as a client. We wanted to be unbiased 00:10:12.000 –> 00:10:14.000 and have this independent 00:10:14.000 –> 00:10:15.000 firm 00:10:15.000 –> 00:10:17.000 that we could just say, this is how 00:10:17.000 –> 00:10:19.000 we’re going to serve clients going forward. 00:10:19.000 –> 00:10:21.000 Definitely. And did being in more of a 00:10:21.000 –> 00:10:24.000 managerial role kinda seeing how the sausage was 00:10:24.000 –> 00:10:27.000 made, did that change your vantage point on 00:10:27.000 –> 00:10:29.000 and I guess your motivation to leave? And 00:10:29.000 –> 00:10:31.000 did you get a better look or a 00:10:31.000 –> 00:10:33.000 different look on what was slowing or limiting 00:10:33.000 –> 00:10:36.000 down the advisors that were under your tutelage? 00:10:37.000 –> 00:10:39.000 Yeah. But I I think too is and 00:10:39.000 –> 00:10:41.000 I can’t say this for the previous firm 00:10:41.000 –> 00:10:43.000 in every city around the country, obviously. And 00:10:43.000 –> 00:10:45.000 again, there’s great people everywhere. But for us, 00:10:45.000 –> 00:10:48.000 it was the stereotype as well as when 00:10:48.000 –> 00:10:50.000 I threw that business card down, 00:10:50.000 –> 00:10:52.000 people would automatically just, oh, I’m good. I 00:10:52.000 –> 00:10:55.000 don’t need insurance. And I got so tired 00:10:55.000 –> 00:10:57.000 for twelve and a half years of doing 00:10:57.000 –> 00:10:59.000 that, that’s that really drained on me over 00:10:59.000 –> 00:11:01.000 the years. And it got to a point 00:11:01.000 –> 00:11:03.000 where that’s not what I’m about. It’s not 00:11:03.000 –> 00:11:05.000 coming and just trying to sell you insurance. 00:11:05.000 –> 00:11:06.000 Is is insurance, certainly part of a financial 00:11:06.000 –> 00:11:08.000 plan. Of course, it is. I think we 00:11:08.000 –> 00:11:10.000 all know that. People that are doing comprehensive 00:11:10.000 –> 00:11:12.000 wealth management planning, but it’s not the only 00:11:12.000 –> 00:11:14.000 piece. Right? And I think that’s where I 00:11:14.000 –> 00:11:15.000 think we got pigeonholed 00:11:16.000 –> 00:11:18.000 into thinking you’re just the insurance person. 00:11:19.000 –> 00:11:22.000 And that feeling wasn’t great, again, even though 00:11:22.000 –> 00:11:24.000 it can have some good products, it wasn’t 00:11:24.000 –> 00:11:26.000 great. And so we wanted more. And we 00:11:26.000 –> 00:11:27.000 wanted to go out, and I keep saying 00:11:27.000 –> 00:11:29.000 comprehensive financial planning, but that’s what we wanted 00:11:29.000 –> 00:11:32.000 to do and where we weren’t pigeonholed into 00:11:32.000 –> 00:11:34.000 this corner of you’re just that sales guy. 00:11:34.000 –> 00:11:36.000 It was more about the relationship and the 00:11:36.000 –> 00:11:38.000 impact we’re having on the community and the 00:11:38.000 –> 00:11:41.000 impact we’re having on those clients’ lives on 00:11:41.000 –> 00:11:43.000 more ways than just a life insurance or 00:11:43.000 –> 00:11:44.000 a an investment 00:11:44.000 –> 00:11:46.000 and what have you, there’s more to it 00:11:46.000 –> 00:11:48.000 than that. And I think that’s really what 00:11:48.000 –> 00:11:50.000 we’re focused on is the whole person here 00:11:50.000 –> 00:11:52.000 visionary is is building that with the right 00:11:52.000 –> 00:11:54.000 people. I don’t know if we can cuss 00:11:54.000 –> 00:11:55.000 on here, Lewis, but we call it the 00:11:55.000 –> 00:11:57.000 no a hole rule. Right? So no a 00:11:57.000 –> 00:12:00.000 hole is the recruit criteria here. And and 00:12:00.000 –> 00:12:02.000 that’s the first step is making sure that 00:12:02.000 –> 00:12:04.000 we wanna be around you, you wanna be 00:12:04.000 –> 00:12:05.000 around us, and that we’re gonna be a 00:12:05.000 –> 00:12:07.000 good fit. And I found that you had 00:12:07.000 –> 00:12:10.000 you had more control over that as I 00:12:10.000 –> 00:12:12.000 was researching what this RIA thing was 00:12:12.000 –> 00:12:14.000 is I had control over that versus just 00:12:14.000 –> 00:12:17.000 having to recruit quite frankly, a bunch of 00:12:17.000 –> 00:12:19.000 kids like me. Right? Twenty two years old, 00:12:19.000 –> 00:12:20.000 right out of college. And I always joked 00:12:20.000 –> 00:12:22.000 that I couldn’t even spell investments or insurance 00:12:22.000 –> 00:12:24.000 when I started, but it was, like, I 00:12:24.000 –> 00:12:28.000 wanna do more with higher more sophisticated people 00:12:28.000 –> 00:12:30.000 because that’s what the community wants. Right? That’s 00:12:30.000 –> 00:12:32.000 what they want in their financial advisor. And 00:12:32.000 –> 00:12:34.000 I just, quite frankly, I always say my 00:12:34.000 –> 00:12:35.000 gray hair and the wrinkles aren’t from four 00:12:35.000 –> 00:12:38.000 kids. It’s from having to recruit people that 00:12:38.000 –> 00:12:40.000 hopefully one or two out of ten of 00:12:40.000 –> 00:12:41.000 those people would make it long term in 00:12:41.000 –> 00:12:43.000 the business. And I just couldn’t do that 00:12:43.000 –> 00:12:45.000 any longer. Yeah. Definitely. And I think what 00:12:45.000 –> 00:12:46.000 you’re mentioning around 00:12:47.000 –> 00:12:49.000 feeling like you and your practice were kind 00:12:49.000 –> 00:12:51.000 of at odds with the mantra or the 00:12:51.000 –> 00:12:54.000 reputation of Northwestern is the term incongruence. 00:12:54.000 –> 00:12:57.000 We hear it often from advisors at many 00:12:57.000 –> 00:12:59.000 different types of firms, whether they’re at a 00:12:59.000 –> 00:13:02.000 bank dominated firm saying I’m not a banker. 00:13:02.000 –> 00:13:04.000 I like recommending bank products where it makes 00:13:04.000 –> 00:13:07.000 sense similar to how you probably enjoy recommending 00:13:07.000 –> 00:13:10.000 insurance products where it makes sense, but you 00:13:10.000 –> 00:13:11.000 don’t want that to be the driving force. 00:13:11.000 –> 00:13:14.000 If you have a vision that’s different from 00:13:15.000 –> 00:13:17.000 what the firm really wants you to be, 00:13:17.000 –> 00:13:20.000 then many advisors look at it as a 00:13:20.000 –> 00:13:22.000 means to kind of escape that box and 00:13:22.000 –> 00:13:25.000 build their own. So that’s perfect pivot point 00:13:25.000 –> 00:13:27.000 here. Before we get to what you coined 00:13:27.000 –> 00:13:30.000 your Jerry Maguire style moment, kind of a 00:13:30.000 –> 00:13:31.000 teaser for what to come. And let’s talk 00:13:31.000 –> 00:13:32.000 first about 00:13:33.000 –> 00:13:36.000 your due diligence process back probably twenty 12:20 00:13:36.000 –> 00:13:39.000 thirteen before launching the firm. So you’ve you 00:13:39.000 –> 00:13:43.000 founded visionary wealth advisors as a RA hybrid, 00:13:43.000 –> 00:13:45.000 but what else did you look at before 00:13:45.000 –> 00:13:47.000 settling on this route It’s actually amazing because 00:13:47.000 –> 00:13:49.000 I didn’t really look at too many things. 00:13:49.000 –> 00:13:51.000 I I would literally go in my office. 00:13:51.000 –> 00:13:52.000 I can picture it to this day as 00:13:52.000 –> 00:13:54.000 clear as can be, and and I would 00:13:54.000 –> 00:13:56.000 look up independence, and I would type in 00:13:56.000 –> 00:13:58.000 the financial independence and different things. I knew 00:13:58.000 –> 00:14:00.000 I wanted to stay in this industry. I 00:14:00.000 –> 00:14:02.000 love what we get to do every day. 00:14:02.000 –> 00:14:03.000 I love that we get to help people 00:14:03.000 –> 00:14:05.000 achieve a future greater than their past. That’s 00:14:05.000 –> 00:14:07.000 our firm’s mission statement. 00:14:07.000 –> 00:14:09.000 And that is so critically important for me, 00:14:09.000 –> 00:14:11.000 for our advisors, and for the things that 00:14:11.000 –> 00:14:13.000 we do for people, but it was just 00:14:13.000 –> 00:14:14.000 one of those things that I kept coming 00:14:14.000 –> 00:14:16.000 back to this independent 00:14:16.000 –> 00:14:19.000 RIA registered investment adviser and growing up in 00:14:19.000 –> 00:14:21.000 the insurance Northwestern mutual world. I didn’t know 00:14:21.000 –> 00:14:24.000 even know what an RIA was. But everything 00:14:24.000 –> 00:14:26.000 I read, I’m like, I want that. 00:14:27.000 –> 00:14:28.000 And I kept reading it. And I kept 00:14:28.000 –> 00:14:30.000 studying it. And when I say kept, I 00:14:30.000 –> 00:14:32.000 mean, this went on from November of two 00:14:32.000 –> 00:14:35.000 thousand thirteen to January of two thousand fourteen. 00:14:35.000 –> 00:14:37.000 So this was about a month and a 00:14:37.000 –> 00:14:39.000 half I can’t even tell you how much 00:14:39.000 –> 00:14:41.000 stuff I read on an RIA and what 00:14:41.000 –> 00:14:43.000 it meant. I scheduled a meeting with one 00:14:43.000 –> 00:14:44.000 of our custodians, 00:14:44.000 –> 00:14:46.000 and they came to Saint Louis, and I 00:14:46.000 –> 00:14:48.000 went and had a meeting with them and 00:14:48.000 –> 00:14:49.000 that was with Tim, my business partner. And 00:14:49.000 –> 00:14:51.000 it was just one of those things when 00:14:51.000 –> 00:14:53.000 I called Tim, and I said, Hey, what 00:14:53.000 –> 00:14:54.000 keeps you here at Northwestern? 00:14:54.000 –> 00:14:56.000 I was hopeful that he was gonna give 00:14:56.000 –> 00:14:58.000 me this long drawn out reason and why 00:14:58.000 –> 00:15:00.000 it was the greatest place on earth. And 00:15:00.000 –> 00:15:02.000 what happened was four and a half hours 00:15:02.000 –> 00:15:04.000 later we got off the telephone. 00:15:04.000 –> 00:15:06.000 From one phone call four and a half 00:15:06.000 –> 00:15:08.000 hours later in January of two thousand fourteen, 00:15:08.000 –> 00:15:09.000 early January 00:15:09.000 –> 00:15:10.000 and said, 00:15:10.000 –> 00:15:12.000 okay. I can’t do this without you. You 00:15:12.000 –> 00:15:15.000 can’t do this without me. Let’s go build 00:15:15.000 –> 00:15:18.000 something great. And literally fast forward, not even 00:15:18.000 –> 00:15:21.000 ninety days later, visionary Wealth Advisors was started. 00:15:21.000 –> 00:15:24.000 It was an incredible ninety days, and it 00:15:24.000 –> 00:15:26.000 was a lot of fun and still a 00:15:26.000 –> 00:15:27.000 lot of fun to this day. And I 00:15:27.000 –> 00:15:29.000 just looked back at that and I’m just 00:15:29.000 –> 00:15:30.000 I’m glad we took the risk to make 00:15:30.000 –> 00:15:31.000 the jump. 00:15:36.000 –> 00:15:37.000 The ecosystem, 00:15:38.000 –> 00:15:40.000 seven, eight years ago, is very different than 00:15:40.000 –> 00:15:43.000 today. But did you consider either plugging into 00:15:43.000 –> 00:15:45.000 an existing infrastructure 00:15:45.000 –> 00:15:48.000 or hiring more of a platform or service 00:15:48.000 –> 00:15:48.000 provider? 00:15:49.000 –> 00:15:50.000 Didn’t know, did not even look at those 00:15:50.000 –> 00:15:53.000 opportunities at all, not one of them. I 00:15:53.000 –> 00:15:54.000 mean, it was just one of those things 00:15:54.000 –> 00:15:56.000 we knew early on. We wanted to build 00:15:56.000 –> 00:15:56.000 something. 00:15:57.000 –> 00:15:59.000 And we just went all in, kinda burned 00:15:59.000 –> 00:16:01.000 the ships. It’s let’s go. Let’s make it 00:16:01.000 –> 00:16:03.000 happen, and we did. And, like I said, 00:16:03.000 –> 00:16:05.000 met with our custodians, and 00:16:05.000 –> 00:16:08.000 hired our, you know, legal counsel firm and 00:16:08.000 –> 00:16:10.000 and to help us build the RIA and 00:16:10.000 –> 00:16:12.000 then literally just the way it went. Amazing. 00:16:13.000 –> 00:16:14.000 Okay. So this is the, I think, the 00:16:14.000 –> 00:16:16.000 exciting part of the interview. You told me 00:16:16.000 –> 00:16:18.000 that this story when we were preparing for 00:16:18.000 –> 00:16:21.000 this interview. I wanna hear the story in 00:16:21.000 –> 00:16:23.000 as much details you can share. About resignation 00:16:24.000 –> 00:16:26.000 day. You coined it your Jerry Maguire style 00:16:26.000 –> 00:16:28.000 moment, and I think it’s such a unique 00:16:28.000 –> 00:16:31.000 story. It’s very different than how I think 00:16:31.000 –> 00:16:34.000 many folks would approach this, but it’s instructive, 00:16:34.000 –> 00:16:36.000 and I think demonstrates your conviction 00:16:37.000 –> 00:16:38.000 for why this was the right move for 00:16:38.000 –> 00:16:40.000 you. Yeah. It’s one of those days I 00:16:40.000 –> 00:16:41.000 wish I would have just been able to 00:16:41.000 –> 00:16:44.000 film somehow. Like, had this camera above my 00:16:44.000 –> 00:16:46.000 head or something. It’s just the emotions that 00:16:46.000 –> 00:16:47.000 went into it. I remember it was March 00:16:47.000 –> 00:16:50.000 twenty fourth two thousand fourteen. It was a 00:16:50.000 –> 00:16:53.000 kind of a dreary Monday in Saint Louis 00:16:53.000 –> 00:16:56.000 and, our managing partner was in Saint Louis. 00:16:56.000 –> 00:16:58.000 I was about thirty minutes outside of it. 00:16:58.000 –> 00:17:00.000 And I remember texting him that morning and 00:17:00.000 –> 00:17:03.000 just saying, hey, I’m gonna swing by your 00:17:03.000 –> 00:17:05.000 office. I can’t remember. Seven or 07:30. Do 00:17:05.000 –> 00:17:06.000 you have a couple minutes? And he said, 00:17:06.000 –> 00:17:08.000 is everything okay? And I said, but with 00:17:08.000 –> 00:17:10.000 my health and with my family, everything is 00:17:10.000 –> 00:17:12.000 okay. And that was kind of the end 00:17:12.000 –> 00:17:13.000 of it. What you don’t know about me, 00:17:13.000 –> 00:17:15.000 Louis, I’m a very nervous person. I grew 00:17:15.000 –> 00:17:17.000 up very anxious, and I call it my 00:17:17.000 –> 00:17:20.000 comfort zone callus, calluses on your hands from 00:17:20.000 –> 00:17:21.000 playing golf or working in the yard or 00:17:21.000 –> 00:17:23.000 doing whatever you’re doing. And and I think 00:17:23.000 –> 00:17:26.000 that we as humans can get these calluses 00:17:26.000 –> 00:17:27.000 around our comfort zone, and we don’t wanna 00:17:27.000 –> 00:17:30.000 break through those. And I’ve tried now for 00:17:30.000 –> 00:17:32.000 twenty years to constantly break out of my 00:17:32.000 –> 00:17:34.000 comfort zone, and this was one of those 00:17:34.000 –> 00:17:36.000 defining moments. It was arguably one of the 00:17:36.000 –> 00:17:39.000 biggest decisions, professionally, if not probably the biggest 00:17:39.000 –> 00:17:41.000 decision, actually, that I’ve ever made in my 00:17:41.000 –> 00:17:42.000 life. And 00:17:43.000 –> 00:17:45.000 so I went and resigned, and it was 00:17:45.000 –> 00:17:47.000 splashing water on my face in the bathroom 00:17:47.000 –> 00:17:49.000 before I went in there. I was so 00:17:49.000 –> 00:17:50.000 nervous, and I walked down. Because again, I 00:17:50.000 –> 00:17:52.000 was doing what you needed to do. And 00:17:52.000 –> 00:17:54.000 I was on the board for the managing 00:17:54.000 –> 00:17:57.000 directors at their home office national headquarters. And 00:17:57.000 –> 00:17:58.000 I was doing the things that you needed 00:17:58.000 –> 00:18:00.000 to do to be successful, but I just 00:18:00.000 –> 00:18:01.000 wasn’t happy. And I thought at the time, 00:18:01.000 –> 00:18:03.000 I think I was thirty six, thirty seven, 00:18:03.000 –> 00:18:05.000 I didn’t wanna do that the rest of 00:18:05.000 –> 00:18:07.000 my life, and I needed to take this 00:18:07.000 –> 00:18:09.000 risk. And this risk was I had twenty 00:18:10.000 –> 00:18:12.000 three, twenty four advisors in my district office, 00:18:13.000 –> 00:18:14.000 I owned the building that I was in. 00:18:14.000 –> 00:18:16.000 So I had my own lease because Northwestern 00:18:16.000 –> 00:18:18.000 doesn’t sign the lease. At least they didn’t 00:18:18.000 –> 00:18:19.000 at that time. I had my own lease 00:18:19.000 –> 00:18:22.000 in my own building. And all these people, 00:18:22.000 –> 00:18:24.000 right, that worked with us. So it was 00:18:24.000 –> 00:18:26.000 very scary. It was a very big risk. 00:18:26.000 –> 00:18:28.000 And I went in. I resigned, and he 00:18:28.000 –> 00:18:29.000 said, what would you like to do? And 00:18:29.000 –> 00:18:30.000 I said, well, I feel like I would 00:18:30.000 –> 00:18:32.000 to go at least tell everybody in our 00:18:32.000 –> 00:18:34.000 office that I’m leaving. I’m resigning. I feel 00:18:34.000 –> 00:18:36.000 like I owe that to them. I’ve recruited 00:18:36.000 –> 00:18:38.000 and trained and developed every single one of 00:18:38.000 –> 00:18:41.000 these people, and I’ve spent countless hours and 00:18:41.000 –> 00:18:42.000 blood sweat and tears with these folks. I 00:18:42.000 –> 00:18:44.000 owe it to them. And he said, okay. 00:18:44.000 –> 00:18:46.000 I can be there at 11:30. 00:18:46.000 –> 00:18:47.000 So I went and kinda just sat in 00:18:47.000 –> 00:18:49.000 my car. For a couple hours and just 00:18:49.000 –> 00:18:52.000 what just happened kinda moment and then went 00:18:52.000 –> 00:18:54.000 into my own district office and had everybody 00:18:54.000 –> 00:18:56.000 in the firm there. I was able to 00:18:56.000 –> 00:18:58.000 tell them what I did and that I 00:18:58.000 –> 00:19:00.000 was leaving and that I started this place 00:19:00.000 –> 00:19:02.000 called visionary wealth advisors 00:19:02.000 –> 00:19:04.000 named probably like a week before that because 00:19:04.000 –> 00:19:07.000 everything was happening so quickly. So long story 00:19:07.000 –> 00:19:08.000 short, that was about an hour and twenty 00:19:08.000 –> 00:19:10.000 minute meeting. And a guy in the back 00:19:10.000 –> 00:19:11.000 of the room, Joe is his name, Joe 00:19:11.000 –> 00:19:13.000 Reininger, and he says, raises his hand. He 00:19:13.000 –> 00:19:15.000 says, what about all those people that wanna 00:19:15.000 –> 00:19:16.000 go with red. 00:19:16.000 –> 00:19:19.000 And then my internal body was screaming and 00:19:19.000 –> 00:19:21.000 jumping up and down, but I had to 00:19:21.000 –> 00:19:23.000 stay really calm and collective. Right? But I 00:19:23.000 –> 00:19:24.000 was just that was Joe and I still 00:19:24.000 –> 00:19:26.000 to this day who’s with us. We talk 00:19:26.000 –> 00:19:28.000 about that. And so it was just one 00:19:28.000 –> 00:19:30.000 of those moments. Right? It was like, wow. 00:19:30.000 –> 00:19:32.000 Hopefully this happens. This is my Jerry Maguire 00:19:32.000 –> 00:19:35.000 moment. I’m leaving who’s coming with me, and 00:19:35.000 –> 00:19:38.000 I literally left my own office went to 00:19:38.000 –> 00:19:40.000 a restaurant, and I got the biggest table 00:19:40.000 –> 00:19:42.000 that you could get. And I sat there 00:19:42.000 –> 00:19:44.000 for ten or fifteen minutes by myself. And 00:19:44.000 –> 00:19:47.000 I’m like, oh, goodness. This is not good. 00:19:47.000 –> 00:19:49.000 And then all of a sudden, and it 00:19:49.000 –> 00:19:50.000 gives me chills thinking about it. All of 00:19:50.000 –> 00:19:52.000 a sudden, one by one, 00:19:52.000 –> 00:19:54.000 in comes these advisors. 00:19:54.000 –> 00:19:56.000 And it it’s the big hug. It’s the 00:19:56.000 –> 00:19:58.000 big bear hug of, oh my gosh. Let 00:19:58.000 –> 00:20:00.000 me hear more. Let me hear more. And 00:20:00.000 –> 00:20:03.000 within twenty four to forty eight hours, fifteen 00:20:03.000 –> 00:20:05.000 of those visors left and came with us. 00:20:05.000 –> 00:20:07.000 Holy cow. And that was incredible. 00:20:07.000 –> 00:20:10.000 That is incredible. And what was the pitch? 00:20:10.000 –> 00:20:12.000 How did you? Obviously, you built up 00:20:12.000 –> 00:20:15.000 trust and respect and all of that. That’s 00:20:15.000 –> 00:20:18.000 earned. It’s not pitched. But, obviously, these advisors 00:20:18.000 –> 00:20:20.000 are trusting their life’s work to you and 00:20:20.000 –> 00:20:22.000 their families So what did you say to 00:20:22.000 –> 00:20:24.000 get them over the finish line? 00:20:25.000 –> 00:20:26.000 Yeah. It was painting a vision. I mean, 00:20:26.000 –> 00:20:28.000 hence the name visionary wealth advisors. I mean, 00:20:28.000 –> 00:20:30.000 it’s what the future can and will be 00:20:30.000 –> 00:20:32.000 if you look up the definition. And so 00:20:32.000 –> 00:20:34.000 we wanted to paint this picture for what 00:20:34.000 –> 00:20:36.000 the future will and could be like for 00:20:36.000 –> 00:20:39.000 these advisors. I mean, I think anybody that’s 00:20:39.000 –> 00:20:41.000 in a an environment where and this isn’t 00:20:41.000 –> 00:20:43.000 just a Northwestern thing. This is any environment 00:20:43.000 –> 00:20:44.000 where you start over. Every single month, you’re 00:20:44.000 –> 00:20:46.000 starting over at zero, and you gotta go 00:20:46.000 –> 00:20:48.000 out, eat what you Gilliland 00:20:48.000 –> 00:20:50.000 you gotta just stay on all day long 00:20:50.000 –> 00:20:53.000 every single day. And it’s hard to build 00:20:53.000 –> 00:20:57.000 true long lasting values based deep relationships with 00:20:57.000 –> 00:20:59.000 clients when you’re constantly in sales mode. And 00:20:59.000 –> 00:21:01.000 I think those advisors knew that. Some of 00:21:01.000 –> 00:21:04.000 those advisors at that time were seven years 00:21:04.000 –> 00:21:06.000 in the business. Some of them were two 00:21:06.000 –> 00:21:08.000 years in the business. And it goes back 00:21:08.000 –> 00:21:10.000 to, yes, you talked about trust and respect, 00:21:10.000 –> 00:21:12.000 but it also went back to a relationship. 00:21:12.000 –> 00:21:15.000 And that relationship was built over two, five, 00:21:15.000 –> 00:21:16.000 seven years 00:21:17.000 –> 00:21:19.000 of being in the trenches with them. And 00:21:19.000 –> 00:21:21.000 being with them every single morning, literally Monday 00:21:21.000 –> 00:21:24.000 through Friday, 07:30, we would have meetings and 00:21:24.000 –> 00:21:26.000 it was training meetings and just setting down 00:21:26.000 –> 00:21:29.000 and talking meetings. It was accountability meetings. It 00:21:29.000 –> 00:21:31.000 was idea sharing meetings. 00:21:31.000 –> 00:21:33.000 And you do that for that long, you 00:21:33.000 –> 00:21:34.000 build this relationship, 00:21:35.000 –> 00:21:37.000 and then they see a future that’s greater 00:21:37.000 –> 00:21:38.000 than their past. 00:21:38.000 –> 00:21:40.000 And then they just they literally and I 00:21:40.000 –> 00:21:43.000 don’t take this lightly. Right? They literally resigned 00:21:43.000 –> 00:21:44.000 from their careers 00:21:44.000 –> 00:21:46.000 to go and follow this vision in this 00:21:46.000 –> 00:21:47.000 dream. 00:21:47.000 –> 00:21:49.000 And I look at them now seven years 00:21:49.000 –> 00:21:51.000 later, seven plus years later, 00:21:51.000 –> 00:21:53.000 they’re all doing better than they were doing 00:21:53.000 –> 00:21:56.000 before. Every single one of them, is doing 00:21:56.000 –> 00:21:58.000 better than they were before. So their future 00:21:58.000 –> 00:22:00.000 is greater than their past. Their present is 00:22:00.000 –> 00:22:02.000 greater than their past. And it’s just cool 00:22:02.000 –> 00:22:04.000 to look back at that and see the 00:22:04.000 –> 00:22:05.000 things that are happening now in these people’s 00:22:05.000 –> 00:22:08.000 lives, and it’s just unreal to me that 00:22:08.000 –> 00:22:10.000 to think that people would put their trust 00:22:10.000 –> 00:22:12.000 in something like that. With literally no business 00:22:12.000 –> 00:22:15.000 cards, no website done, no logo done, 00:22:16.000 –> 00:22:18.000 nothing. And they said, let’s go. We’re all 00:22:18.000 –> 00:22:18.000 in. 00:22:19.000 –> 00:22:21.000 Just an idea. Yeah. And it’s so different 00:22:21.000 –> 00:22:25.000 than most advisors that are breaking away to 00:22:25.000 –> 00:22:28.000 establish their own independent firm. There’s likely the 00:22:28.000 –> 00:22:29.000 key advisors 00:22:29.000 –> 00:22:30.000 are on board. 00:22:31.000 –> 00:22:33.000 They’re probably involved in the due diligence or 00:22:33.000 –> 00:22:35.000 at least consulted throughout the process. 00:22:35.000 –> 00:22:38.000 It’s oftentimes, though, it’s the support team that’s 00:22:38.000 –> 00:22:40.000 kinda left in the dark just for confidentiality 00:22:40.000 –> 00:22:43.000 purposes. But you really took this confidentiality Gilliland 00:22:43.000 –> 00:22:46.000 discreteness to a whole new level. It’s a 00:22:46.000 –> 00:22:48.000 pretty insane story. And I’m curious too. I 00:22:48.000 –> 00:22:51.000 mean, anyone who goes independent is taking a 00:22:51.000 –> 00:22:53.000 risk. They’re taking the risk of what if 00:22:53.000 –> 00:22:55.000 my business doesn’t come, taking the risk of 00:22:56.000 –> 00:22:57.000 not having an income for a period of 00:22:57.000 –> 00:23:00.000 time, taking the risk of not getting a 00:23:00.000 –> 00:23:02.000 big check by going to a broker dealer 00:23:02.000 –> 00:23:03.000 firm. So you not only did you take 00:23:03.000 –> 00:23:05.000 that risk, but you also own the building 00:23:05.000 –> 00:23:08.000 you’re in and did this without really knowing 00:23:08.000 –> 00:23:10.000 what the base of the business will look 00:23:10.000 –> 00:23:12.000 like How did you reconcile doing this and 00:23:12.000 –> 00:23:13.000 just going for it? 00:23:14.000 –> 00:23:16.000 A lot of, faith and hope 00:23:17.000 –> 00:23:19.000 just I mean, literally just faith and hope 00:23:19.000 –> 00:23:23.000 and trust. And I believed in relationships. I 00:23:23.000 –> 00:23:25.000 believed in myself. I believed in what we 00:23:25.000 –> 00:23:27.000 were gonna go build. Believed in the advisors 00:23:27.000 –> 00:23:29.000 and our team and our staff that came 00:23:29.000 –> 00:23:31.000 with us as well. And that was just 00:23:31.000 –> 00:23:33.000 the advisors. We also had who’s now our 00:23:33.000 –> 00:23:35.000 COO, Kate hurt is her name now, but 00:23:35.000 –> 00:23:37.000 Kate Solburger, she came with us from day 00:23:37.000 –> 00:23:40.000 one and Robin Edwards and so many others 00:23:40.000 –> 00:23:42.000 that just came with us Lauren Hubert, they 00:23:42.000 –> 00:23:44.000 were with us from day one back at 00:23:44.000 –> 00:23:45.000 that firm, and they said, you know what? 00:23:45.000 –> 00:23:47.000 Yeah. We’re also gonna come with you as 00:23:47.000 –> 00:23:49.000 well. And so it just it was one 00:23:49.000 –> 00:23:51.000 of those things that I think in life, 00:23:51.000 –> 00:23:52.000 sometimes 00:23:53.000 –> 00:23:56.000 you don’t make that big decision until it 00:23:56.000 –> 00:23:57.000 hurts enough. 00:23:57.000 –> 00:24:00.000 And for me, the upside was so great 00:24:00.000 –> 00:24:02.000 the downside, I was just so less than 00:24:02.000 –> 00:24:04.000 worried about it because I thought if I 00:24:04.000 –> 00:24:07.000 can make a career and do this and 00:24:07.000 –> 00:24:09.000 the amount of sales and the activity and 00:24:09.000 –> 00:24:10.000 the grit that you have to do, which 00:24:10.000 –> 00:24:12.000 I’m thankful for. I thought, you know what, 00:24:12.000 –> 00:24:14.000 even if this thing doesn’t work, we’ll figure 00:24:14.000 –> 00:24:17.000 it out. But honestly, I mean, I bet 00:24:17.000 –> 00:24:18.000 you know, there was a few sleepless nights, 00:24:18.000 –> 00:24:19.000 but I would say 00:24:20.000 –> 00:24:22.000 ninety five percent of the thought 00:24:22.000 –> 00:24:23.000 was all positive 00:24:24.000 –> 00:24:27.000 and just the expectations of what would happen. 00:24:27.000 –> 00:24:29.000 Yeah. Just thinking about what’s possible. 00:24:29.000 –> 00:24:30.000 So 00:24:30.000 –> 00:24:32.000 end of your first year as visionary, 00:24:33.000 –> 00:24:35.000 you had around three hundred million in assets 00:24:35.000 –> 00:24:36.000 across twelve advisors. 00:24:37.000 –> 00:24:39.000 And today, you shared your north of one 00:24:39.000 –> 00:24:42.000 point eight billion in assets and about thirty 00:24:42.000 –> 00:24:44.000 advisors. How have you grown the advisor ranks 00:24:44.000 –> 00:24:47.000 and what’s responsible for the very impressive growth 00:24:47.000 –> 00:24:49.000 and assets? Yeah. I would just say it’s 00:24:49.000 –> 00:24:51.000 going out and what we call playing in 00:24:51.000 –> 00:24:53.000 traffic. It’s getting to know people in the 00:24:53.000 –> 00:24:55.000 industry. Getting referred to great people in the 00:24:55.000 –> 00:24:56.000 industry, 00:24:56.000 –> 00:24:58.000 and whether they’ve been at a bank channel, 00:24:59.000 –> 00:25:01.000 an insurance channel, a wire house channel, an 00:25:01.000 –> 00:25:02.000 independent channel, 00:25:03.000 –> 00:25:05.000 It’s just us going out and talking to 00:25:05.000 –> 00:25:06.000 other individuals, 00:25:06.000 –> 00:25:09.000 but also our advisors referring us to individuals. 00:25:09.000 –> 00:25:12.000 I mean, so our advisors, they’re they’re happy 00:25:12.000 –> 00:25:14.000 they are fine with referring us to people 00:25:14.000 –> 00:25:16.000 that they think would be other good advisors 00:25:16.000 –> 00:25:18.000 inside of our firm. And so it’s just 00:25:18.000 –> 00:25:21.000 a it’s a collaboration of of people coming 00:25:21.000 –> 00:25:23.000 together for the greater good and building a 00:25:23.000 –> 00:25:23.000 platform. 00:25:24.000 –> 00:25:26.000 And look, the better we do at visionary, 00:25:26.000 –> 00:25:28.000 the better the advisor does, because we can 00:25:28.000 –> 00:25:30.000 offer more and more to them that ultimately 00:25:31.000 –> 00:25:34.000 helps their bottom line become more profitable. And 00:25:34.000 –> 00:25:36.000 when you’re brand spanking new and you have 00:25:36.000 –> 00:25:39.000 three hundred million, well, you’re charging for technology. 00:25:39.000 –> 00:25:41.000 You’re doing this. You’re charging for that. Well, 00:25:41.000 –> 00:25:43.000 as we’ve grown, it’s so we made a 00:25:43.000 –> 00:25:46.000 major investment into a platform, into our technology 00:25:46.000 –> 00:25:48.000 platform, and we pay for that for our 00:25:48.000 –> 00:25:51.000 advisors. Well, seven years ago, there we couldn’t 00:25:51.000 –> 00:25:53.000 even think about doing that. But today, we 00:25:53.000 –> 00:25:54.000 can. 00:25:54.000 –> 00:25:56.000 And then, you know, what’s the next three 00:25:56.000 –> 00:25:57.000 years in the five years and seven years 00:25:57.000 –> 00:25:59.000 and ten years ahead of that? What does 00:25:59.000 –> 00:26:01.000 that look like? So our vision is not 00:26:01.000 –> 00:26:03.000 about size. It’s not about x billions of 00:26:03.000 –> 00:26:06.000 dollars under management. Our vision is the platform 00:26:07.000 –> 00:26:09.000 that we build, and what it ultimately does 00:26:09.000 –> 00:26:10.000 for the interdependent 00:26:10.000 –> 00:26:12.000 advisor that’s on our platform 00:26:13.000 –> 00:26:15.000 that chooses to partner with visionary wealth advisors. 00:26:15.000 –> 00:26:18.000 How efficient can we make their practice and 00:26:18.000 –> 00:26:19.000 give them the best platform boss. 00:26:23.000 –> 00:26:25.000 Can you explain this concept of interdependence 00:26:26.000 –> 00:26:28.000 versus independence? What does it mean to you? 00:26:28.000 –> 00:26:30.000 Yeah. It’s a great question. And just in 00:26:30.000 –> 00:26:33.000 all transparency, I think if affirms, you will 00:26:33.000 –> 00:26:34.000 have people come on, especially a firm like 00:26:34.000 –> 00:26:37.000 ours where you individual advisors coming in to 00:26:37.000 –> 00:26:40.000 the firm, we’ve lost a couple of advisors. 00:26:40.000 –> 00:26:42.000 And so what happens is those advisors 00:26:43.000 –> 00:26:44.000 as they grow, 00:26:45.000 –> 00:26:47.000 they see the greatness in running and doing 00:26:47.000 –> 00:26:49.000 your own thing as well. Right? So I 00:26:49.000 –> 00:26:51.000 can’t blame those advisors for that. Now what 00:26:51.000 –> 00:26:53.000 can I learn from it? But I can’t 00:26:53.000 –> 00:26:55.000 blame them for wanting to do their thing 00:26:55.000 –> 00:26:57.000 and have their name on the wall. And 00:26:57.000 –> 00:26:59.000 that’s what some of these advisors, a couple 00:26:59.000 –> 00:27:00.000 that have left, that’s what’s happened. 00:27:01.000 –> 00:27:02.000 But the interdependent 00:27:02.000 –> 00:27:05.000 relationship is I know the cost that it 00:27:05.000 –> 00:27:07.000 takes, and the time that it takes, and 00:27:07.000 –> 00:27:09.000 the compliance, and the marketing, the branding, the 00:27:09.000 –> 00:27:10.000 web site, the cybersecurity, 00:27:11.000 –> 00:27:13.000 all the stuff that goes along with it, 00:27:13.000 –> 00:27:16.000 most advisors don’t wanna have to worry about 00:27:16.000 –> 00:27:18.000 things like a lease on a printer. 00:27:18.000 –> 00:27:20.000 Right? They don’t wanna sign their lease and 00:27:20.000 –> 00:27:22.000 and personally guarantee a lease on a commercial 00:27:22.000 –> 00:27:25.000 building. They don’t wanna do that. And so 00:27:25.000 –> 00:27:27.000 what we want is the adviser that’s interdependent 00:27:28.000 –> 00:27:30.000 that wants to be independent, 00:27:30.000 –> 00:27:33.000 but doesn’t wanna be in business by themselves. 00:27:33.000 –> 00:27:35.000 They want a platform. They want people. They 00:27:35.000 –> 00:27:36.000 want teams. 00:27:36.000 –> 00:27:38.000 Right? And that’s what we provide. And that’s 00:27:38.000 –> 00:27:39.000 what I think we’re really good at, is 00:27:39.000 –> 00:27:41.000 providing that for our advisors. 00:27:42.000 –> 00:27:44.000 And I think each advisor who joins you, 00:27:44.000 –> 00:27:46.000 even though they own their book of business, 00:27:46.000 –> 00:27:49.000 they all adopt the visionary brand. Is that 00:27:49.000 –> 00:27:52.000 correct? Yeah. So ninety something percent of them 00:27:52.000 –> 00:27:55.000 have visionary, just visionary only, but a few 00:27:55.000 –> 00:27:57.000 have visionary advisors and then, like, the insight 00:27:57.000 –> 00:28:00.000 group, for example, which is a team here 00:28:00.000 –> 00:28:02.000 with two of our advisors. They’re the insight 00:28:02.000 –> 00:28:05.000 group of visionary wealth advisors or the Verigieg 00:28:05.000 –> 00:28:07.000 group of visionary wealth advisors. 00:28:07.000 –> 00:28:10.000 And what’s the benefit of doing it that 00:28:10.000 –> 00:28:12.000 way? Can and the advisors that join you 00:28:12.000 –> 00:28:15.000 course, they have the option of having their 00:28:15.000 –> 00:28:17.000 own brand. And many people are excited by 00:28:17.000 –> 00:28:20.000 creating their own DNA and building their own 00:28:20.000 –> 00:28:23.000 own identity versus helping build something existing. So 00:28:23.000 –> 00:28:25.000 what’s the rationale for that? Yeah. And and 00:28:25.000 –> 00:28:26.000 look, I don’t think there’s a right or 00:28:26.000 –> 00:28:28.000 wrong. I think it’s just gonna, again, find 00:28:28.000 –> 00:28:31.000 that person that wants to be interdependent versus 00:28:31.000 –> 00:28:34.000 independent is what we’re looking for is the 00:28:34.000 –> 00:28:36.000 rationale behind that is, in my opinion, take 00:28:36.000 –> 00:28:38.000 Apple, for example, they don’t have the Diamond 00:28:38.000 –> 00:28:41.000 Apple store. They don’t have the Gilliland Apple 00:28:41.000 –> 00:28:43.000 store in Saint Louis. And in Brooklyn, New 00:28:43.000 –> 00:28:45.000 York, it’s the Diamond Apple store. Right? It’s 00:28:45.000 –> 00:28:47.000 Apple. And what do you know about Apple? 00:28:47.000 –> 00:28:49.000 It stands for a great product 00:28:50.000 –> 00:28:51.000 with efficiency, 00:28:51.000 –> 00:28:52.000 easy to use, 00:28:53.000 –> 00:28:55.000 good looking, right, all those things. You understand 00:28:56.000 –> 00:28:58.000 just using Apple’s the analogy here, you understand 00:28:58.000 –> 00:28:59.000 what Apple stands for. 00:29:00.000 –> 00:29:02.000 No different than what what I see and 00:29:02.000 –> 00:29:03.000 what we see is what we call the 00:29:03.000 –> 00:29:06.000 impossible company is we’re trying to build this 00:29:06.000 –> 00:29:07.000 impossible company. Don’t say I can 00:29:08.000 –> 00:29:09.000 say, how do we do it? How do 00:29:09.000 –> 00:29:11.000 we build this? And we’re getting feedback from 00:29:11.000 –> 00:29:13.000 our advisors and our team and our executive 00:29:13.000 –> 00:29:15.000 team. And and so how do we build 00:29:15.000 –> 00:29:16.000 this impossible company? How do we build the 00:29:16.000 –> 00:29:20.000 quote unquote Apple of financial planning. And so 00:29:20.000 –> 00:29:20.000 visionary, 00:29:21.000 –> 00:29:23.000 my vision, our vision is when I see 00:29:23.000 –> 00:29:24.000 that logo 00:29:24.000 –> 00:29:26.000 of somebody in the community sees that logo, 00:29:26.000 –> 00:29:29.000 they know what it stands for. They know 00:29:29.000 –> 00:29:30.000 that they do comprehensive 00:29:30.000 –> 00:29:31.000 high 00:29:31.000 –> 00:29:33.000 end white glove service, 00:29:33.000 –> 00:29:35.000 high touch, financial planning. 00:29:36.000 –> 00:29:38.000 They know they are really good people in 00:29:38.000 –> 00:29:41.000 the community. They give back, whether it’s their 00:29:41.000 –> 00:29:43.000 place of worship, or it’s a charity for 00:29:43.000 –> 00:29:45.000 cancer, or it’s their kid’s school, or their 00:29:45.000 –> 00:29:47.000 coaching in their kid’s baseball team in the 00:29:47.000 –> 00:29:47.000 community, 00:29:48.000 –> 00:29:50.000 they know what that stands for, and that’s 00:29:50.000 –> 00:29:52.000 what it’s about for people in my opinion. 00:29:53.000 –> 00:29:56.000 Amazing. And that’s a a good segue into 00:29:56.000 –> 00:29:59.000 my next question, which is about visionary’s mission 00:29:59.000 –> 00:30:01.000 and how this flows into your business. 00:30:03.000 –> 00:30:05.000 Yeah. So our mission statement is is to 00:30:05.000 –> 00:30:07.000 help people achieve future greater than their past. 00:30:07.000 –> 00:30:08.000 I mean, if if I had everybody that 00:30:08.000 –> 00:30:10.000 was listening to your show right now, Lewis, 00:30:10.000 –> 00:30:11.000 and I said, to raise your hand if 00:30:11.000 –> 00:30:13.000 you want a future greater than your past, 00:30:14.000 –> 00:30:16.000 I would assume most everybody listening would raise 00:30:16.000 –> 00:30:18.000 their hand. Right? Everybody wants a future greater 00:30:18.000 –> 00:30:21.000 than your past. And so our job is 00:30:21.000 –> 00:30:23.000 to slow down with our clients take them 00:30:23.000 –> 00:30:26.000 off the treadmill of life, set them down 00:30:26.000 –> 00:30:28.000 for an hour, three hours, ten hours a 00:30:28.000 –> 00:30:30.000 year, whatever it takes for that client, and 00:30:30.000 –> 00:30:33.000 really open that Pandora’s box and find out 00:30:33.000 –> 00:30:35.000 internally in their soul, what is important to 00:30:35.000 –> 00:30:38.000 them, what what makes them tick, it’s our 00:30:38.000 –> 00:30:40.000 job to unlock that. And then help all 00:30:40.000 –> 00:30:42.000 those things come out. And so then it’s, 00:30:42.000 –> 00:30:44.000 again, to help those people achieve a future 00:30:44.000 –> 00:30:45.000 greater than their past. And I know a 00:30:45.000 –> 00:30:47.000 lot of people say that and they do 00:30:47.000 –> 00:30:48.000 that. They’re doing great jobs in our industry 00:30:48.000 –> 00:30:50.000 of doing that, but that’s just to our 00:30:50.000 –> 00:30:52.000 core. That’s what we believe is to see 00:30:52.000 –> 00:30:53.000 that future be greater. 00:30:54.000 –> 00:30:57.000 And helping them daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, whatever 00:30:57.000 –> 00:30:59.000 it may be, helping them achieve that. 00:31:00.000 –> 00:31:02.000 Love it. And how about charity work and 00:31:02.000 –> 00:31:03.000 community engagement? 00:31:04.000 –> 00:31:06.000 Yeah. That’s huge. I mean, we have a 00:31:06.000 –> 00:31:08.000 lot of people involved in tons of charities, 00:31:08.000 –> 00:31:10.000 and whether they’re setting on boards, it’s being 00:31:10.000 –> 00:31:13.000 on, involved running events. And my wife and 00:31:13.000 –> 00:31:16.000 I, personally, we have a a charity of 00:31:16.000 –> 00:31:18.000 foundation. We started fourteen years ago called swing 00:31:18.000 –> 00:31:20.000 four Hope. F o r e because I’m 00:31:20.000 –> 00:31:22.000 a big golfer. It’s a swing for hope, 00:31:22.000 –> 00:31:25.000 and we raise money every single year to 00:31:25.000 –> 00:31:27.000 give back to those that have been affected 00:31:27.000 –> 00:31:29.000 by cancer. My mother-in-law, 00:31:29.000 –> 00:31:32.000 three of her sisters or mom and and 00:31:32.000 –> 00:31:34.000 two of her sisters all got diagnosed with 00:31:34.000 –> 00:31:36.000 cancer. My dad was six weeks after we 00:31:36.000 –> 00:31:38.000 started the foundation, had cancer. 00:31:38.000 –> 00:31:40.000 Her dad a year after that got cancer. 00:31:40.000 –> 00:31:42.000 So three of our four parents have cancer 00:31:42.000 –> 00:31:45.000 and or had cancer and think thankfully so 00:31:45.000 –> 00:31:47.000 far they beat that disease. And so we 00:31:47.000 –> 00:31:49.000 just make it our mission is that we 00:31:49.000 –> 00:31:51.000 feel like if we’ve been putting this earth 00:31:51.000 –> 00:31:53.000 to get, right, we all make great money 00:31:53.000 –> 00:31:55.000 from our wonderful clients, but we also have 00:31:55.000 –> 00:31:57.000 to give back to that community. And that’s 00:31:57.000 –> 00:31:59.000 just what we believe as a firm, but 00:31:59.000 –> 00:32:02.000 just individually as well for swing for hope. 00:32:02.000 –> 00:32:03.000 It’s a passion of ours that we just 00:32:03.000 –> 00:32:05.000 wanna help as many people as we possibly 00:32:05.000 –> 00:32:07.000 can And we help, you know, pay mortgages, 00:32:07.000 –> 00:32:09.000 pay their power bill, pay for them to 00:32:09.000 –> 00:32:11.000 get to and from chemo, whatever it may 00:32:11.000 –> 00:32:14.000 be, that’s what we’re about. It’s amazing. Our 00:32:14.000 –> 00:32:16.000 clients come out, our advisors come out, support 00:32:16.000 –> 00:32:18.000 the cause, and we just have a three 00:32:18.000 –> 00:32:19.000 or four events a year to really make 00:32:19.000 –> 00:32:20.000 a big impact. 00:32:21.000 –> 00:32:23.000 That’s incredible. We’ll put the link to 00:32:23.000 –> 00:32:26.000 the charity on the episode page. So folks 00:32:26.000 –> 00:32:28.000 can check it out and hopefully contribute. 00:32:29.000 –> 00:32:31.000 A really cool initiative. So two more questions 00:32:31.000 –> 00:32:33.000 for you. I know you’re the host of 00:32:33.000 –> 00:32:36.000 the Circative Success podcast. You’ve been doing it 00:32:36.000 –> 00:32:37.000 for four to four and a half years. 00:32:37.000 –> 00:32:39.000 So why didn’t you give a plug for 00:32:39.000 –> 00:32:40.000 it? What do you talk about? Why’d you 00:32:40.000 –> 00:32:43.000 do it? And ultimately, how does it impact 00:32:43.000 –> 00:32:44.000 your business? 00:32:44.000 –> 00:32:46.000 Yeah. Yes. So thanks for talking about that. 00:32:46.000 –> 00:32:48.000 Yeah. The circle of success, it’s been around 00:32:48.000 –> 00:32:51.000 for since February of two thousand sixteen, I 00:32:51.000 –> 00:32:53.000 think. And so we’ve had lots of shows 00:32:53.000 –> 00:32:55.000 and lots of great Gilliland and really What 00:32:55.000 –> 00:32:57.000 it’s about, I always say it’s the it’s 00:32:57.000 –> 00:32:59.000 to give people the best tips and tools 00:32:59.000 –> 00:33:01.000 for their life, right, whether that’s through wealth 00:33:01.000 –> 00:33:04.000 management, it’s through mindset, it’s through business topics, 00:33:04.000 –> 00:33:05.000 it’s through goal planning. 00:33:06.000 –> 00:33:08.000 All the things that we wanna do, we’ve 00:33:08.000 –> 00:33:10.000 had hall of fame athletes to big time 00:33:10.000 –> 00:33:13.000 business people to your normal everyday business owner 00:33:13.000 –> 00:33:15.000 running around on the streets we can learn 00:33:15.000 –> 00:33:18.000 from. And it’s really picking their brains and 00:33:18.000 –> 00:33:20.000 finding out what’s made them tick for the 00:33:20.000 –> 00:33:22.000 over their lifetime, over their career and what’s 00:33:22.000 –> 00:33:24.000 made them successful. It really, for me, it 00:33:24.000 –> 00:33:26.000 comes down to the four things that are 00:33:26.000 –> 00:33:28.000 the circuits of success. And it’s your attitude, 00:33:29.000 –> 00:33:30.000 your belief system, 00:33:30.000 –> 00:33:33.000 the actions that you have to take every 00:33:33.000 –> 00:33:35.000 single day, ultimately get your results. 00:33:35.000 –> 00:33:37.000 And when you follow those beliefs and those 00:33:37.000 –> 00:33:40.000 attitudes and that action, you will get results 00:33:40.000 –> 00:33:42.000 in your life. And so it’s really kind 00:33:42.000 –> 00:33:44.000 of peeling the onion layers back on so 00:33:44.000 –> 00:33:46.000 many great people from the men and women 00:33:46.000 –> 00:33:48.000 around the world and finding out what’s made 00:33:48.000 –> 00:33:50.000 them successful in those areas and how it’s 00:33:50.000 –> 00:33:54.000 helped them personally, professionally, emotionally, intellectually, financially, 00:33:54.000 –> 00:33:57.000 etcetera, to really live the life of their 00:33:57.000 –> 00:33:58.000 dreams. And, again, to help people achieve a 00:33:58.000 –> 00:34:01.000 future greater than their I mean, of course, 00:34:01.000 –> 00:34:03.000 you’re doing that podcast because it’s something you’re 00:34:03.000 –> 00:34:05.000 passionate about. You’re not getting paid to do 00:34:05.000 –> 00:34:08.000 it. So as a business person, have you 00:34:08.000 –> 00:34:10.000 been able to track it all? What’s sort 00:34:10.000 –> 00:34:12.000 of growth it’s it’s led to. And I’m 00:34:12.000 –> 00:34:14.000 asking because a lot of our adviser listeners, 00:34:14.000 –> 00:34:16.000 one of the things they envision is having 00:34:16.000 –> 00:34:18.000 a podcast or at least having the ability 00:34:18.000 –> 00:34:22.000 to and being able to generate business in 00:34:22.000 –> 00:34:24.000 a different way, scaled communication. What’s been your 00:34:24.000 –> 00:34:27.000 experience with that? Yeah. There certainly has been 00:34:27.000 –> 00:34:29.000 business from that. There’s no doubt about it. 00:34:29.000 –> 00:34:31.000 I mean, it’s one of those things you 00:34:31.000 –> 00:34:33.000 get done having a conversation with somebody for 00:34:33.000 –> 00:34:34.000 forty five minutes 00:34:34.000 –> 00:34:36.000 and getting deep into their life and their 00:34:36.000 –> 00:34:38.000 story and their Gilliland 00:34:38.000 –> 00:34:40.000 what’s made them tick, as I always say, 00:34:41.000 –> 00:34:43.000 I’ve just built a different relationship with that 00:34:43.000 –> 00:34:45.000 person. Right? Versus me just wanted having coffee 00:34:45.000 –> 00:34:48.000 and having a nice coffee meeting and talking 00:34:48.000 –> 00:34:49.000 about whatever, 00:34:49.000 –> 00:34:51.000 I have found that people that I and 00:34:51.000 –> 00:34:53.000 I’m not doing it to try to get 00:34:53.000 –> 00:34:54.000 them as a client. I’m really not. I’m 00:34:54.000 –> 00:34:57.000 doing it because for me, I jokingly call 00:34:57.000 –> 00:34:58.000 it my weekly therapy. 00:34:58.000 –> 00:35:00.000 I’m setting down with some of the best 00:35:00.000 –> 00:35:02.000 people in our world 00:35:02.000 –> 00:35:03.000 on leadership 00:35:03.000 –> 00:35:05.000 and the books they’ve read and the the 00:35:05.000 –> 00:35:07.000 failures they’ve had, the successes that they’ve had, 00:35:07.000 –> 00:35:09.000 what do they do from an exercise How 00:35:09.000 –> 00:35:11.000 do they eat better? How do they become 00:35:11.000 –> 00:35:12.000 a better dad or a husband or a 00:35:12.000 –> 00:35:14.000 wife? Whatever it may be. 00:35:14.000 –> 00:35:16.000 I selfishly get to do that every single 00:35:16.000 –> 00:35:17.000 week. 00:35:17.000 –> 00:35:19.000 With these people. Right? I’m learning. I’m going 00:35:19.000 –> 00:35:21.000 through therapy, but what does that do? That 00:35:21.000 –> 00:35:23.000 allows me, in my opinion, to give more 00:35:23.000 –> 00:35:24.000 to our advisors. 00:35:25.000 –> 00:35:27.000 I’m learning. Right? I’m growing. I’m in the 00:35:27.000 –> 00:35:29.000 trenches as well as an advisor. So I 00:35:29.000 –> 00:35:30.000 know what’s going on out there. I know 00:35:30.000 –> 00:35:33.000 the questions we’re getting from people. It allows 00:35:33.000 –> 00:35:34.000 me to be better for our advisors. It 00:35:34.000 –> 00:35:36.000 allows me to be better for my family. 00:35:36.000 –> 00:35:37.000 It allows me to be better for the 00:35:37.000 –> 00:35:38.000 community. 00:35:38.000 –> 00:35:40.000 And if we’re continually getting better day in 00:35:40.000 –> 00:35:43.000 and day out, we’re all gonna win. And, 00:35:43.000 –> 00:35:45.000 yes, do we get clients? Absolutely. Do I 00:35:45.000 –> 00:35:47.000 track it? No. Because the point of that 00:35:47.000 –> 00:35:50.000 is I wanna get better I want other 00:35:50.000 –> 00:35:52.000 people to get better that are listening to 00:35:52.000 –> 00:35:54.000 it. And our following, our listenership continues to 00:35:54.000 –> 00:35:56.000 grow week after week, and it’s just one 00:35:56.000 –> 00:35:58.000 of those things that I know we’re helping 00:35:58.000 –> 00:36:00.000 people get better. And then if I’m at 00:36:00.000 –> 00:36:01.000 a board meeting or I’m somewhere in the 00:36:01.000 –> 00:36:04.000 community, it I mean, weekly, something comes up 00:36:04.000 –> 00:36:06.000 about the podcast and people wanna talk about 00:36:06.000 –> 00:36:08.000 it. So it’s a great conversation starter as 00:36:08.000 –> 00:36:09.000 well. 00:36:14.000 –> 00:36:16.000 Final question that will let you get on 00:36:16.000 –> 00:36:18.000 with your day, something we always ask, any 00:36:18.000 –> 00:36:21.000 advice to advisors who may be thinking about 00:36:21.000 –> 00:36:22.000 making the leap independence? 00:36:23.000 –> 00:36:24.000 Absolutely. I would say, 00:36:25.000 –> 00:36:27.000 trust your your gut is usually right. And 00:36:27.000 –> 00:36:29.000 I shouldn’t say use it. For me, it’s 00:36:29.000 –> 00:36:31.000 always right. Maybe not at the level you 00:36:31.000 –> 00:36:33.000 think it will be as quick as you 00:36:33.000 –> 00:36:35.000 think it will be, but I do believe 00:36:35.000 –> 00:36:37.000 whatever your gut is telling you is what 00:36:37.000 –> 00:36:38.000 you should follow. Because 00:36:39.000 –> 00:36:40.000 if you go to your head, right, to 00:36:40.000 –> 00:36:43.000 your actual brain, your brain is gonna give 00:36:43.000 –> 00:36:44.000 you reasons. It’s wired to tell us why 00:36:44.000 –> 00:36:47.000 it’s gonna be so difficult, and it’s gonna 00:36:47.000 –> 00:36:50.000 tell us why you shouldn’t make that leap. 00:36:50.000 –> 00:36:52.000 Why all of your clients won’t come with 00:36:52.000 –> 00:36:54.000 you, why this won’t happen, and why that 00:36:54.000 –> 00:36:56.000 won’t happen. But what your gut’s telling you 00:36:56.000 –> 00:36:58.000 is I want more. I wanna be part 00:36:58.000 –> 00:37:00.000 of an interdependent an independent relationship. 00:37:00.000 –> 00:37:01.000 That’s what I’m seeking. 00:37:02.000 –> 00:37:05.000 And trust me, you will have more clients 00:37:05.000 –> 00:37:06.000 come with you than you think we’ll have 00:37:06.000 –> 00:37:08.000 come with you. We’ve seen it happen 00:37:09.000 –> 00:37:12.000 time and time again. And the number one 00:37:12.000 –> 00:37:13.000 fear people have, and I’m sure you see 00:37:13.000 –> 00:37:14.000 this, Lewis, is what? 00:37:15.000 –> 00:37:17.000 My clients won’t go with me. My clients 00:37:17.000 –> 00:37:19.000 don’t wanna move. My old firm or the 00:37:19.000 –> 00:37:22.000 firm I’m at is they’re the reason they’re 00:37:22.000 –> 00:37:22.000 my client. 00:37:23.000 –> 00:37:25.000 Oh, that’s just not true. They’re with you 00:37:25.000 –> 00:37:28.000 because of who you are. Even as a 00:37:28.000 –> 00:37:29.000 leader of visionary wealth advisors, 00:37:30.000 –> 00:37:32.000 I’m not naive to think the only reason 00:37:32.000 –> 00:37:34.000 somebody’s a client of a guy or a 00:37:34.000 –> 00:37:36.000 gal at our firm is because of visionary. 00:37:36.000 –> 00:37:38.000 No. It’s because of that adviser. 00:37:39.000 –> 00:37:41.000 They own the relationship. And if you truly 00:37:41.000 –> 00:37:42.000 own your relationship, 00:37:43.000 –> 00:37:45.000 I say take the jump because you’re gonna 00:37:45.000 –> 00:37:45.000 be very successful, 00:37:46.000 –> 00:37:47.000 and your mind will be blown 00:37:48.000 –> 00:37:50.000 six months from now when you make that 00:37:50.000 –> 00:37:51.000 jump of what actually happened. 00:37:52.000 –> 00:37:55.000 Yeah. Powerful advice. Brett, this has been a 00:37:55.000 –> 00:37:58.000 really cool interview. Thank you for enlightening us 00:37:58.000 –> 00:38:01.000 sharing your Jerry Maguire moment, and also just 00:38:01.000 –> 00:38:03.000 giving us some great parting words of wisdom. 00:38:03.000 –> 00:38:06.000 Absolutely, Lewis. Always good to be with you 00:38:06.000 –> 00:38:07.000 and, love what you guys are doing and 00:38:07.000 –> 00:38:10.000 you’re helping tons of people Gilliland just absolutely 00:38:10.000 –> 00:38:11.000 love it. So keep up the great work 00:38:11.000 –> 00:38:13.000 and appreciate you having me on the show.

How do you build a culture of excellence? You begin with WE. On this episode of the Circuit of Success Podcast, Brett Gilliland interviews best-selling author, inspirational speaker, and leadership expert Kyle McDowell. Together they break down McDowell’s best seller Begin With WE and the top principles of creating and sustaining a culture of excellence. Kyle shares his experience of transitioning from a corporate career to starting his own business, and how he was able to make a positive change in his life by investing in himself and his passions. Kyle emphasizes the importance of leading by example, taking action, and focusing on outcomes rather than busyness to create a unified culture within an organization. Are you looking to lead with excellence? You don’t wanna miss this… FULL YOUTUBE EPISODE   00:00:15.000 –> 00:00:16.000 Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I’m your 00:00:16.000 –> 00:00:19.000 host, Brett Gilliland. Today, I’ve got Kyle McDowell 00:00:19.000 –> 00:00:20.000 with me, Kyle. What’s up, buddy? 00:00:23.000 –> 00:00:25.000 Hey, Brett. I’m well. It’s great to be 00:00:25.000 –> 00:00:27.000 with you today. I appreciate you, you having 00:00:27.000 –> 00:00:27.000 me. 00:00:28.000 –> 00:00:29.000 It’s great to be with you as well, 00:00:29.000 –> 00:00:31.000 man. I’m excited. I I hope based on 00:00:31.000 –> 00:00:33.000 what I’ve seen about you and your energy, 00:00:33.000 –> 00:00:35.000 we’re gonna have an awesome conversation today, man, 00:00:35.000 –> 00:00:37.000 so I’m fired up. 00:00:38.000 –> 00:00:40.000 Likewise. I hope so. I’m I’m just thrilled 00:00:40.000 –> 00:00:42.000 to be here. I anytime I get a 00:00:42.000 –> 00:00:43.000 chance to kind of spread the message and 00:00:44.000 –> 00:00:46.000 evangelize the work that I’m doing, especially on 00:00:46.000 –> 00:00:47.000 a podcast that’s been around as long as 00:00:47.000 –> 00:00:50.000 yours, I jump at it. So, again, thank 00:00:50.000 –> 00:00:53.000 you. Awesome. Awesome. Well, you are a former 00:00:53.000 –> 00:00:55.000 fortune ten executive that turned to a Wall 00:00:55.000 –> 00:00:58.000 Street and USA Today best selling author. 00:00:58.000 –> 00:01:00.000 And speaker. You’re traveling the world man on 00:01:00.000 –> 00:01:02.000 all sorts of stages, but before we dive 00:01:02.000 –> 00:01:04.000 it, man, you are today, man. There’s a 00:01:04.000 –> 00:01:07.000 backstory in there. And something that makes Kyle 00:01:07.000 –> 00:01:08.000 tick, and I’d love to see if we 00:01:08.000 –> 00:01:10.000 can pull some of that out. 00:01:11.000 –> 00:01:13.000 Yeah. You thank you for that. I’d be 00:01:13.000 –> 00:01:15.000 remiss because I if I didn’t just start 00:01:15.000 –> 00:01:16.000 early on. 00:01:17.000 –> 00:01:19.000 I I I was very fortunate to have, 00:01:21.000 –> 00:01:24.000 a mother who had an incredible work ethic, 00:01:24.000 –> 00:01:26.000 out she was a single parent mom for, 00:01:27.000 –> 00:01:29.000 the first several years of of my life 00:01:29.000 –> 00:01:31.000 until she met a wonderful man who became 00:01:31.000 –> 00:01:33.000 my stepdad. And, you know, they always instilled 00:01:33.000 –> 00:01:34.000 a sense of work ethic in me that 00:01:34.000 –> 00:01:35.000 I just don’t think 00:01:36.000 –> 00:01:38.000 you can replicate. I don’t I think it’s 00:01:38.000 –> 00:01:40.000 hard to to teach it if it doesn’t 00:01:40.000 –> 00:01:42.000 start at an early age. 00:01:42.000 –> 00:01:44.000 So I just learned the value of a 00:01:44.000 –> 00:01:46.000 dollar and the value of 00:01:46.000 –> 00:01:48.000 or the connection rather between 00:01:48.000 –> 00:01:50.000 hard work and outcomes. If you want something, 00:01:50.000 –> 00:01:52.000 you gotta go work for it. I’ll never 00:01:52.000 –> 00:01:54.000 forget, man. Growing up every time a new 00:01:54.000 –> 00:01:56.000 pair of Air Jordans would hit the would 00:01:56.000 –> 00:01:57.000 hit the stores. 00:01:57.000 –> 00:01:59.000 And I wanted those things every single year, 00:01:59.000 –> 00:02:01.000 the new the new shoe would come out. 00:02:01.000 –> 00:02:02.000 I knew what I had to do. I 00:02:02.000 –> 00:02:04.000 had to put in weeks of yard work. 00:02:04.000 –> 00:02:05.000 It was always the recipe. 00:02:05.000 –> 00:02:06.000 So, 00:02:07.000 –> 00:02:09.000 I entered corporate America at seventeen, 00:02:09.000 –> 00:02:12.000 ironically, or of, believe it or not. I, 00:02:12.000 –> 00:02:13.000 I interviewed for a job at a local 00:02:13.000 –> 00:02:15.000 bank when I was seventeen years old. 00:02:16.000 –> 00:02:18.000 I rolled the dice that if I were 00:02:18.000 –> 00:02:20.000 to get an offer, the offer would come 00:02:20.000 –> 00:02:22.000 sometime after my eighteenth birthday because they wouldn’t 00:02:22.000 –> 00:02:23.000 have hired me if they’d known I was 00:02:23.000 –> 00:02:25.000 a minor. Right. And it worked. So I 00:02:25.000 –> 00:02:28.000 interviewed in June of nineteen ninety three got 00:02:28.000 –> 00:02:30.000 the offer in July started in August, 00:02:31.000 –> 00:02:33.000 and, I’ve been a kind of a student 00:02:33.000 –> 00:02:35.000 of of leadership 00:02:36.000 –> 00:02:38.000 in in the dynamics that come with working 00:02:38.000 –> 00:02:39.000 inside of corporate America, 00:02:40.000 –> 00:02:42.000 for the last nearly thirty years. So that’s 00:02:42.000 –> 00:02:44.000 I think that’s That’s what brings us here 00:02:44.000 –> 00:02:46.000 today, but I I have to share also, 00:02:46.000 –> 00:02:47.000 man. I, 00:02:48.000 –> 00:02:50.000 throughout that thirty year journey, and I’m sure 00:02:50.000 –> 00:02:52.000 you and and Certainly, many of your listeners 00:02:52.000 –> 00:02:54.000 might be able to relate. 00:02:54.000 –> 00:02:57.000 I found myself becoming more and more apathetic 00:02:57.000 –> 00:02:57.000 towards 00:02:58.000 –> 00:03:00.000 the whole thing. Towards the whole gig, man. 00:03:00.000 –> 00:03:02.000 And when I say gig, I mean, everything 00:03:02.000 –> 00:03:03.000 that comes with 00:03:04.000 –> 00:03:05.000 working inside the corporate world, 00:03:06.000 –> 00:03:07.000 the bureaucracy 00:03:08.000 –> 00:03:10.000 see the dysfunction, the toxicity, all of the 00:03:10.000 –> 00:03:12.000 things. And I’m the first to admit, by 00:03:12.000 –> 00:03:14.000 the way, man. I I perpetuated a lot 00:03:14.000 –> 00:03:16.000 of that. When you’re leading big organizations, 00:03:16.000 –> 00:03:19.000 you’re put in a position where lather rinse 00:03:19.000 –> 00:03:20.000 repeat what’s always worked will continue to work. 00:03:20.000 –> 00:03:23.000 So you just kinda perpetuate that same toxicity 00:03:23.000 –> 00:03:23.000 and dysfunction. 00:03:24.000 –> 00:03:26.000 Yep. And I just I hit a boiling 00:03:26.000 –> 00:03:28.000 point late in my career probably around year 00:03:28.000 –> 00:03:31.000 twenty three where I I just said there 00:03:31.000 –> 00:03:32.000 has to be a better way. 00:03:33.000 –> 00:03:35.000 And that’s when I came up with the 00:03:35.000 –> 00:03:37.000 concept that ultimately resulted in the book that 00:03:37.000 –> 00:03:38.000 you mentioned at the top. And, 00:03:39.000 –> 00:03:41.000 it’s changed my life, actually. The the the 00:03:41.000 –> 00:03:44.000 realization I came to about you know, leading 00:03:44.000 –> 00:03:46.000 with a we mindset and getting to know 00:03:46.000 –> 00:03:48.000 your people and investing your time and energy 00:03:48.000 –> 00:03:50.000 into them. Just certainly, it changed my professional 00:03:50.000 –> 00:03:52.000 life, and that is I’m so happy to 00:03:52.000 –> 00:03:54.000 say it’s transcended into my personal life as 00:03:54.000 –> 00:03:55.000 well and my relationships. 00:03:56.000 –> 00:03:57.000 Well, I think we you and I have 00:03:57.000 –> 00:03:58.000 a lot in common. I mean, it’s 00:03:59.000 –> 00:04:01.000 a career decision that we made. I made 00:04:01.000 –> 00:04:03.000 mine at twelve and a half years in 00:04:03.000 –> 00:04:05.000 my professional career. You made yours. It sounds 00:04:05.000 –> 00:04:07.000 like at at at twenty two years, but 00:04:07.000 –> 00:04:08.000 I was the same way, man. And I 00:04:08.000 –> 00:04:10.000 say this is that as my success, 00:04:10.000 –> 00:04:13.000 you know, quote unquote success was going like 00:04:13.000 –> 00:04:13.000 that. 00:04:14.000 –> 00:04:15.000 My job satisfaction, 00:04:15.000 –> 00:04:18.000 my career satisfaction was going the other direction. 00:04:18.000 –> 00:04:21.000 And, you know, I I had a a 00:04:21.000 –> 00:04:23.000 nice firm and and a nice office and 00:04:23.000 –> 00:04:24.000 and things like that, but it it just 00:04:24.000 –> 00:04:27.000 didn’t feel right. You know, and so now 00:04:27.000 –> 00:04:28.000 same to you. Like, my, 00:04:29.000 –> 00:04:31.000 you know, our firm now, our our mission, 00:04:31.000 –> 00:04:34.000 I mean, everything is around that future greater 00:04:34.000 –> 00:04:36.000 than your past. And it has been life 00:04:36.000 –> 00:04:38.000 changing. So I agree with you, but talk 00:04:38.000 –> 00:04:39.000 to the listener right now that’s twenty two 00:04:39.000 –> 00:04:41.000 years in a career, twelve and a half 00:04:41.000 –> 00:04:44.000 years into a career. And they’re scared as 00:04:44.000 –> 00:04:46.000 hell, man, to go make that jump. Bet 00:04:46.000 –> 00:04:48.000 on themselves. Walk away from, you know, the 00:04:48.000 –> 00:04:51.000 04:01 k plan, the health insurance, the nice 00:04:51.000 –> 00:04:53.000 check they’re getting all the stuff you and 00:04:53.000 –> 00:04:56.000 I had. Right? Talk to our listeners about 00:04:56.000 –> 00:04:57.000 that step. 00:04:57.000 –> 00:04:59.000 Well, first, I’m and I’m glad you went 00:04:59.000 –> 00:05:01.000 here because it it’s always a fear of 00:05:01.000 –> 00:05:03.000 mine that when I talk about my transition 00:05:03.000 –> 00:05:06.000 from from the corporate world into starting my 00:05:06.000 –> 00:05:08.000 own deal and and hitting the road to 00:05:08.000 –> 00:05:10.000 evangelize these principles, 00:05:10.000 –> 00:05:11.000 that, 00:05:13.000 –> 00:05:15.000 I don’t want it to be lost or 00:05:15.000 –> 00:05:18.000 that I that leave is scary as all 00:05:18.000 –> 00:05:21.000 get out. It is. It’s absolutely terrifying. 00:05:22.000 –> 00:05:24.000 Especially if you spent as you’ve, you know, 00:05:24.000 –> 00:05:26.000 a dozen plus years, in my case, more 00:05:26.000 –> 00:05:27.000 more than twenty years, 00:05:28.000 –> 00:05:31.000 We get programmed. We are we are absolutely 00:05:31.000 –> 00:05:32.000 programmed to 00:05:33.000 –> 00:05:35.000 get up a certain time, go through the 00:05:35.000 –> 00:05:37.000 same, just, you know, clock in, clock out, 00:05:38.000 –> 00:05:40.000 and look for the next paycheck, looks for 00:05:40.000 –> 00:05:42.000 the next promotion, kinda keep your head down. 00:05:43.000 –> 00:05:45.000 But there’s this expression that hit me, 00:05:47.000 –> 00:05:48.000 right around the time I realized I had 00:05:48.000 –> 00:05:50.000 to make a change and it was they 00:05:50.000 –> 00:05:51.000 pay you to forget your dreams. 00:05:52.000 –> 00:05:56.000 And and there’s no there’s no nefarious scheme 00:05:56.000 –> 00:05:58.000 behind the scenes that that that that this 00:05:58.000 –> 00:05:59.000 that this happens to us, but 00:06:00.000 –> 00:06:02.000 I can tell by your your the way 00:06:02.000 –> 00:06:03.000 you frame the question that you you you 00:06:03.000 –> 00:06:05.000 kinda relate. Right? You you start making that 00:06:05.000 –> 00:06:07.000 paycheck. There’s some security that comes in. I 00:06:07.000 –> 00:06:09.000 had a fair amount of money in the 00:06:09.000 –> 00:06:10.000 bank where I felt comfortable. 00:06:12.000 –> 00:06:13.000 And it just became it it became my 00:06:13.000 –> 00:06:16.000 identity. My my corporate life became my my 00:06:16.000 –> 00:06:18.000 identity. So much so that when I wrote 00:06:18.000 –> 00:06:19.000 the book, I had friends saying I had 00:06:19.000 –> 00:06:22.000 no idea that you were dispassionate about these 00:06:22.000 –> 00:06:24.000 things because I didn’t, you know, Kyle at 00:06:24.000 –> 00:06:26.000 work was different than Kyle at home, which 00:06:26.000 –> 00:06:28.000 is not good. I mean, that’s Right. It’s 00:06:28.000 –> 00:06:30.000 a a lack of authenticity, which is something 00:06:30.000 –> 00:06:31.000 I didn’t realize at the time. 00:06:33.000 –> 00:06:35.000 So for your listeners, to me, it’s 00:06:36.000 –> 00:06:39.000 Never forget that everything we do every single 00:06:39.000 –> 00:06:42.000 day is the result of a choice. 00:06:42.000 –> 00:06:45.000 And you can choose to continue down the 00:06:45.000 –> 00:06:46.000 same path, 00:06:47.000 –> 00:06:48.000 get the two, three percent raise every year, 00:06:48.000 –> 00:06:50.000 you know, maybe get a promotion every few 00:06:50.000 –> 00:06:52.000 years, whatever your your path, wherever your path 00:06:52.000 –> 00:06:54.000 takes you, and that’s not wrong. That’s not 00:06:54.000 –> 00:06:55.000 wrong. 00:06:56.000 –> 00:06:57.000 But the choice to do something different, maybe 00:06:57.000 –> 00:06:57.000 a little, unconventional 00:06:58.000 –> 00:06:59.000 is 00:07:03.000 –> 00:07:05.000 something that I decide that we have because 00:07:05.000 –> 00:07:07.000 they do pay to forget your dreams in 00:07:07.000 –> 00:07:09.000 in suit the sooner you realize there’s a 00:07:09.000 –> 00:07:11.000 choice to be made and that there are 00:07:11.000 –> 00:07:12.000 opportunities 00:07:12.000 –> 00:07:13.000 that are 00:07:13.000 –> 00:07:16.000 virtually unlimited out there today. The number of 00:07:17.000 –> 00:07:18.000 things you can do today is just is 00:07:18.000 –> 00:07:20.000 exponentially higher than it ever was before. 00:07:22.000 –> 00:07:23.000 But that all starts with a choice. Right? 00:07:23.000 –> 00:07:25.000 You you made the choice. I made the 00:07:25.000 –> 00:07:25.000 choice. 00:07:26.000 –> 00:07:27.000 And I don’t want anybody out there to 00:07:27.000 –> 00:07:29.000 hear this and think that, you know, well, 00:07:29.000 –> 00:07:31.000 he’s ascended to a certain level. No. It’s 00:07:31.000 –> 00:07:33.000 it’s it is terrifying at any level when 00:07:33.000 –> 00:07:35.000 you make a decision. I’m calling this chapter 00:07:35.000 –> 00:07:37.000 two of my career because the first chapter, 00:07:37.000 –> 00:07:38.000 I closed the book on about five years 00:07:38.000 –> 00:07:42.000 ago. It is it is scary, but I 00:07:42.000 –> 00:07:43.000 am absolutely convinced. 00:07:43.000 –> 00:07:44.000 My level of impact 00:07:45.000 –> 00:07:48.000 is directly correlated to the level of effort 00:07:48.000 –> 00:07:50.000 in the amount of time I grind at 00:07:50.000 –> 00:07:52.000 this thing I’m doing today, and that is 00:07:52.000 –> 00:07:55.000 no different than anybody else out there. Yeah. 00:07:55.000 –> 00:07:56.000 Well, do you think too you’re working in 00:07:56.000 –> 00:07:58.000 your brain in, you know, line with your 00:07:58.000 –> 00:07:59.000 values and your Gilliland 00:07:59.000 –> 00:08:02.000 and all those things, right, is you’re you’re 00:08:02.000 –> 00:08:04.000 not gonna ever get the impact. That you 00:08:04.000 –> 00:08:06.000 make now because you’re choosing the path that 00:08:06.000 –> 00:08:08.000 you’re going down. And I think there’s so 00:08:08.000 –> 00:08:09.000 much power in the word choice. I love 00:08:09.000 –> 00:08:11.000 that you’re saying that. But don’t you believe 00:08:11.000 –> 00:08:12.000 that? 00:08:13.000 –> 00:08:14.000 Yeah. 00:08:14.000 –> 00:08:16.000 Brett, I do believe it. And I think 00:08:16.000 –> 00:08:17.000 it’s even worse than the way you describe 00:08:17.000 –> 00:08:19.000 it because not only are you not your 00:08:19.000 –> 00:08:22.000 best self when you’re doing something that you 00:08:22.000 –> 00:08:24.000 are, you know, you don’t love or you’re 00:08:24.000 –> 00:08:25.000 not passionate about, 00:08:26.000 –> 00:08:27.000 most companies 00:08:28.000 –> 00:08:30.000 either directly or not. 00:08:30.000 –> 00:08:33.000 They filter you to the point where you 00:08:33.000 –> 00:08:35.000 can’t even be curious. You can’t even You 00:08:35.000 –> 00:08:37.000 know, there’s this concept of being an entrepreneur 00:08:37.000 –> 00:08:39.000 inside of the corporate world, which I think 00:08:39.000 –> 00:08:41.000 is a beautiful concept because you don’t accept 00:08:41.000 –> 00:08:43.000 the status quo. You’re always looking to innovate. 00:08:43.000 –> 00:08:45.000 You’re looking to do things differently. You want 00:08:45.000 –> 00:08:47.000 to have a great experience for your employees 00:08:47.000 –> 00:08:49.000 and your team, and your customers, by the 00:08:49.000 –> 00:08:49.000 way. 00:08:50.000 –> 00:08:53.000 But a lot of organizations, they they filter 00:08:53.000 –> 00:08:55.000 us and kinda dilute our impact to the 00:08:55.000 –> 00:08:56.000 point where 00:08:56.000 –> 00:08:59.000 we there’s no way to to find that 00:08:59.000 –> 00:09:00.000 passion. Because think of where I talk 00:09:01.000 –> 00:09:03.000 about this a lot, man. When we enter 00:09:03.000 –> 00:09:05.000 the workforce, Think back over for your journey 00:09:05.000 –> 00:09:07.000 and and and those that are listening to 00:09:07.000 –> 00:09:09.000 us or watching us now, we all enter 00:09:09.000 –> 00:09:11.000 the workforce with a tremendous amount of optimism. 00:09:12.000 –> 00:09:15.000 Excitement. We wanna have an impact. We wanna 00:09:15.000 –> 00:09:16.000 do big things. 00:09:17.000 –> 00:09:18.000 But most organizations 00:09:19.000 –> 00:09:21.000 don’t necessarily value that or at least not 00:09:21.000 –> 00:09:23.000 to the point where it challenges the status 00:09:23.000 –> 00:09:24.000 quo. It’s kinda like getting lying. Keep your 00:09:24.000 –> 00:09:26.000 head down and and move on. So If 00:09:26.000 –> 00:09:28.000 you’re if we’re, you know, for all of 00:09:28.000 –> 00:09:29.000 us, if we’re able to marry something that 00:09:29.000 –> 00:09:31.000 we’re passionate about 00:09:31.000 –> 00:09:32.000 with a way to make a living and 00:09:32.000 –> 00:09:34.000 support our family, you know, take a trip 00:09:34.000 –> 00:09:35.000 every now and then, 00:09:36.000 –> 00:09:36.000 that’s 00:09:37.000 –> 00:09:38.000 that is 00:09:39.000 –> 00:09:41.000 that’s happiness to me. And that is that’s 00:09:41.000 –> 00:09:43.000 something we should always fire to. But again, 00:09:43.000 –> 00:09:46.000 over time, you know, bills things mount up 00:09:46.000 –> 00:09:47.000 and we and we just don’t we lose 00:09:47.000 –> 00:09:49.000 sight of that opportunity, lose sight of the 00:09:49.000 –> 00:09:50.000 choice. 00:09:50.000 –> 00:09:50.000 Yeah. 00:09:51.000 –> 00:09:53.000 Yeah. You’re right. And I think, dude, it 00:09:53.000 –> 00:09:55.000 made me think about even your health. You 00:09:55.000 –> 00:09:56.000 know, for me, I I can’t speak to 00:09:56.000 –> 00:09:58.000 you, but for me, man, it was 00:09:59.000 –> 00:10:01.000 I was going down a path where I’ve 00:10:01.000 –> 00:10:02.000 always been an anxious person. I I was 00:10:02.000 –> 00:10:05.000 a nervous child, you know, I always before 00:10:05.000 –> 00:10:07.000 games or any big event, man. I was 00:10:07.000 –> 00:10:08.000 nervous. I was always nervous. 00:10:09.000 –> 00:10:09.000 And 00:10:10.000 –> 00:10:12.000 and that just kept going. And then as 00:10:12.000 –> 00:10:13.000 my career you know, I I would kinda 00:10:13.000 –> 00:10:15.000 battle through those things, but then I hit 00:10:15.000 –> 00:10:17.000 a point to where, you know, and I 00:10:17.000 –> 00:10:18.000 was having, like, a panic attack. 00:10:19.000 –> 00:10:20.000 And, you know, I did all the I 00:10:20.000 –> 00:10:22.000 went a Mayo Clinic and did an executive 00:10:22.000 –> 00:10:24.000 physical. It’s been all this money and, you 00:10:24.000 –> 00:10:26.000 know, hey, dude. You’re fine. I did that. 00:10:26.000 –> 00:10:27.000 And then I had a a guy that 00:10:27.000 –> 00:10:29.000 I would consider a friend, and and, hopefully, 00:10:29.000 –> 00:10:31.000 he hears this and maybe I’ll send it 00:10:31.000 –> 00:10:32.000 to him and tell him, but he he 00:10:32.000 –> 00:10:34.000 gave me some words that a doctor I 00:10:34.000 –> 00:10:36.000 don’t think normally uses, and I won’t share 00:10:36.000 –> 00:10:38.000 the words exactly, but what he told me 00:10:38.000 –> 00:10:40.000 what I needed to do 00:10:40.000 –> 00:10:40.000 And, 00:10:41.000 –> 00:10:43.000 and I needed to hear it, man. And 00:10:43.000 –> 00:10:45.000 I was I was just having panic attacks. 00:10:45.000 –> 00:10:47.000 And then when I learned about panic and 00:10:47.000 –> 00:10:48.000 anxiety and stress, 00:10:49.000 –> 00:10:51.000 I learned that I wasn’t living up to 00:10:51.000 –> 00:10:53.000 my potential and I wasn’t following the dreams 00:10:53.000 –> 00:10:55.000 and the passions that I had. So it 00:10:55.000 –> 00:10:58.000 was manifesting in other ways. And man, isn’t 00:10:58.000 –> 00:11:01.000 it amazing now? Almost ten years later, 00:11:02.000 –> 00:11:03.000 how different I feel. 00:11:04.000 –> 00:11:05.000 Right? Yeah. I mean, it’s just it’s incredible 00:11:05.000 –> 00:11:06.000 to me. 00:11:06.000 –> 00:11:08.000 That’s beautiful though. It’s it’s, 00:11:09.000 –> 00:11:11.000 it it is incredible, but, 00:11:11.000 –> 00:11:14.000 yeah, sorry, man. We’re just having some stepping 00:11:14.000 –> 00:11:15.000 on each other. There’s a bit of a 00:11:15.000 –> 00:11:17.000 delay again. Know we can hopefully, we can 00:11:17.000 –> 00:11:19.000 edit that out. But Yeah. 00:11:19.000 –> 00:11:21.000 I I I think it’s it’s no no 00:11:21.000 –> 00:11:23.000 question about it. When I made the decision 00:11:23.000 –> 00:11:26.000 to step away and really invest in myself, 00:11:26.000 –> 00:11:28.000 both from an energy and time perspective, but 00:11:28.000 –> 00:11:30.000 also a a dollars and cents perspective, because 00:11:30.000 –> 00:11:32.000 as you know, starting a business isn’t isn’t 00:11:32.000 –> 00:11:33.000 cheap, certainly not free. 00:11:35.000 –> 00:11:37.000 I was probably at my most unhealthy, 00:11:37.000 –> 00:11:38.000 physically, 00:11:39.000 –> 00:11:39.000 psychologically. 00:11:40.000 –> 00:11:42.000 I had just been just kinda worn down 00:11:42.000 –> 00:11:44.000 over the years, but it’s worse than that. 00:11:44.000 –> 00:11:46.000 I I I’m not embarrassed to say, and 00:11:46.000 –> 00:11:48.000 I’ve learned from this. My career cost me 00:11:48.000 –> 00:11:49.000 a marriage. 00:11:50.000 –> 00:11:51.000 I was working 00:11:51.000 –> 00:11:55.000 so so much traveling every single week for 00:11:55.000 –> 00:11:58.000 years on end that, as I mentioned earlier, 00:11:58.000 –> 00:12:00.000 it became my identity and so much so 00:12:00.000 –> 00:12:02.000 that that identity was not 00:12:02.000 –> 00:12:03.000 the husband I wanted to be. It wasn’t 00:12:03.000 –> 00:12:05.000 the friend I wanted to be. 00:12:06.000 –> 00:12:07.000 So that was also a a hell of 00:12:07.000 –> 00:12:10.000 a wake up call for me, which look, 00:12:10.000 –> 00:12:12.000 man. I’m not proud of that, but it’s 00:12:12.000 –> 00:12:15.000 it also is an experience that has taught 00:12:15.000 –> 00:12:17.000 me And I’m a better person for it, 00:12:17.000 –> 00:12:18.000 like everything else, I think, in life, any 00:12:18.000 –> 00:12:20.000 challenge on the other side, and that is 00:12:20.000 –> 00:12:23.000 hopefully a better, a better, better outcome. 00:12:25.000 –> 00:12:26.000 So what what right now when you look 00:12:26.000 –> 00:12:28.000 at your career and the things and the 00:12:28.000 –> 00:12:29.000 people you’re hell helping, 00:12:30.000 –> 00:12:32.000 what’s your biggest challenge or or I’ve been 00:12:32.000 –> 00:12:34.000 I’ve been calling lately the heads Like, what’s 00:12:34.000 –> 00:12:36.000 the head scratcher for you that it’s like, 00:12:36.000 –> 00:12:38.000 gah, you just wish you could reach across 00:12:38.000 –> 00:12:40.000 the table and let somebody understand that. What 00:12:40.000 –> 00:12:41.000 is it for you? 00:12:42.000 –> 00:12:44.000 It it’s without question. It is getting people 00:12:44.000 –> 00:12:47.000 to understand and believe that 00:12:48.000 –> 00:12:50.000 when you make choice to lead differently, maybe 00:12:50.000 –> 00:12:52.000 be the leader you never had when you 00:12:52.000 –> 00:12:54.000 invest time and energy in others 00:12:54.000 –> 00:12:55.000 more so 00:12:55.000 –> 00:12:56.000 than yourself. 00:12:56.000 –> 00:12:58.000 When you care less about 00:12:59.000 –> 00:13:01.000 your own personal, quote, success, however, you define 00:13:01.000 –> 00:13:03.000 that, and you invest that energy into others 00:13:03.000 –> 00:13:06.000 growth development success, their achievements, 00:13:07.000 –> 00:13:09.000 you two things happen. Well, number of things, 00:13:09.000 –> 00:13:10.000 but two things primarily kinda 00:13:11.000 –> 00:13:13.000 resonate with me. One is the results on 00:13:13.000 –> 00:13:15.000 the macro level, they come. 00:13:16.000 –> 00:13:16.000 So 00:13:16.000 –> 00:13:17.000 That 00:13:20.000 –> 00:13:21.000 switch 00:13:24.000 –> 00:13:27.000 You you you you you are overtly making 00:13:27.000 –> 00:13:29.000 a switch that you’re no longer focused on 00:13:29.000 –> 00:13:31.000 your own goal, your own goals, your own 00:13:31.000 –> 00:13:32.000 growth, your own success, 00:13:33.000 –> 00:13:35.000 You don’t lose sight of those things, but 00:13:35.000 –> 00:13:37.000 you focus that on those that you’re responsible 00:13:37.000 –> 00:13:38.000 to lead. 00:13:38.000 –> 00:13:41.000 The two things are they perform better. Your 00:13:41.000 –> 00:13:43.000 your team the overall macro results that you 00:13:43.000 –> 00:13:45.000 deliver are better without question. 00:13:46.000 –> 00:13:48.000 Yep. But the bigger component is the satisfaction 00:13:48.000 –> 00:13:48.000 and fulfillment that 00:13:50.000 –> 00:13:51.000 comes 00:13:51.000 –> 00:13:52.000 is 00:13:52.000 –> 00:13:52.000 profoundly 00:13:53.000 –> 00:13:54.000 exponentially greater 00:13:55.000 –> 00:13:55.000 than 00:13:56.000 –> 00:13:57.000 keeping the focus 00:13:57.000 –> 00:13:58.000 on yourself. 00:14:00.000 –> 00:14:02.000 Yep. I cannot agree. And when I say 00:14:02.000 –> 00:14:03.000 this, 00:14:03.000 –> 00:14:04.000 it’s it 00:14:05.000 –> 00:14:07.000 there’s a lot of skepticism in the room, 00:14:07.000 –> 00:14:08.000 and I have to admit 00:14:08.000 –> 00:14:10.000 If someone were to have approached me and 00:14:10.000 –> 00:14:12.000 said the same thing, like, focus less on 00:14:12.000 –> 00:14:14.000 you and more on everyone around you, you’ll 00:14:14.000 –> 00:14:16.000 benefit in ways that you could never have 00:14:16.000 –> 00:14:17.000 predicted 00:14:17.000 –> 00:14:18.000 I would have said it’s bullshit. 00:14:19.000 –> 00:14:21.000 So that that’s it. That’s the head scratcher 00:14:21.000 –> 00:14:23.000 for me, but I just if people were 00:14:23.000 –> 00:14:26.000 to understand and realize the value that comes 00:14:26.000 –> 00:14:27.000 with deprioritizing 00:14:27.000 –> 00:14:30.000 your own quote unquote success for others. 00:14:30.000 –> 00:14:32.000 I think not only would the corporate world 00:14:32.000 –> 00:14:34.000 be in a much better place. I think 00:14:34.000 –> 00:14:35.000 the world 00:14:35.000 –> 00:14:36.000 would be a better place. 00:14:38.000 –> 00:14:39.000 So that’s the head scratch. I love the 00:14:39.000 –> 00:14:41.000 way you frame it. That’s the head scratcher 00:14:41.000 –> 00:14:42.000 for me. One of the things I look 00:14:42.000 –> 00:14:44.000 at when I’m talking to other leaders or 00:14:44.000 –> 00:14:46.000 I hear somebody in the room talking, if 00:14:46.000 –> 00:14:47.000 I’m, you know, listening at a conference or 00:14:47.000 –> 00:14:50.000 whatever, when I hear the word I, Right? 00:14:50.000 –> 00:14:52.000 One of my biggest pet peeves is when 00:14:52.000 –> 00:14:54.000 they say, I, I did this. I did 00:14:54.000 –> 00:14:57.000 that. Like, like, none of my success is 00:14:57.000 –> 00:14:59.000 because of I only. Right? It’s because of 00:14:59.000 –> 00:15:01.000 we and the people I’ve got around me. 00:15:01.000 –> 00:15:03.000 Like, I couldn’t do what I do without 00:15:03.000 –> 00:15:05.000 amazing people. So it’s just a pet peeve 00:15:05.000 –> 00:15:06.000 of mine, and I’m sure that’s a big 00:15:06.000 –> 00:15:08.000 pet peeve of yours as well. 00:15:10.000 –> 00:15:11.000 One of the biggest. 00:15:13.000 –> 00:15:14.000 And what a shame too because there is 00:15:14.000 –> 00:15:16.000 so much spotlight to be had 00:15:17.000 –> 00:15:19.000 in life in general, certainly in the corporate 00:15:19.000 –> 00:15:19.000 world. 00:15:20.000 –> 00:15:21.000 And the good by the way, the goodwill 00:15:21.000 –> 00:15:24.000 that we gain by sharing in that spotlight, 00:15:24.000 –> 00:15:26.000 you know, even when I’m accepting something 00:15:26.000 –> 00:15:28.000 you know, personal type, 00:15:28.000 –> 00:15:31.000 accolade or award. It’s like, when you throw 00:15:31.000 –> 00:15:32.000 a we out there and it couldn’t have 00:15:32.000 –> 00:15:34.000 done it without the team, the goodwill we 00:15:34.000 –> 00:15:34.000 create 00:15:35.000 –> 00:15:35.000 is, 00:15:36.000 –> 00:15:37.000 it’s priceless. 00:15:39.000 –> 00:15:42.000 And it’s true, man. Nothing. Very little is 00:15:42.000 –> 00:15:44.000 done. From an I or me perspective, 00:15:45.000 –> 00:15:46.000 which 00:15:46.000 –> 00:15:48.000 is where I moved on to. We, 00:15:49.000 –> 00:15:50.000 back in, I guess, it was around two 00:15:50.000 –> 00:15:52.000 thousand sixteen, and that was the pivotal or 00:15:52.000 –> 00:15:55.000 sentinel moment in my leadership journey that’s forever 00:15:55.000 –> 00:15:57.000 changed me as a leader, certainly, but as 00:15:57.000 –> 00:15:59.000 a person as well. It’s it’s changed my 00:15:59.000 –> 00:16:01.000 life. Yep. So talk about the ten Wes. 00:16:01.000 –> 00:16:03.000 This is from your book. Again, Wall Street 00:16:03.000 –> 00:16:06.000 Journal and USA Today best selling book, begin 00:16:06.000 –> 00:16:09.000 with we. The ten principles for building and 00:16:09.000 –> 00:16:11.000 sustaining a culture of excellence. Who doesn’t want 00:16:11.000 –> 00:16:12.000 that? 00:16:13.000 –> 00:16:15.000 And so let’s talk about those though. You 00:16:15.000 –> 00:16:17.000 talk about it, the framework, the ten ways 00:16:17.000 –> 00:16:20.000 required for building and sustaining a culture of 00:16:20.000 –> 00:16:20.000 excellence. 00:16:21.000 –> 00:16:24.000 Yeah. So I’ll take you back to Lawrence, 00:16:24.000 –> 00:16:25.000 Kansas. Of all places, 00:16:26.000 –> 00:16:27.000 I love Lawrence, but it was it served 00:16:27.000 –> 00:16:29.000 as a really pivotal moment for me. I 00:16:29.000 –> 00:16:31.000 was, in my hotel room, 00:16:32.000 –> 00:16:35.000 I just accepted the role of leading about 00:16:35.000 –> 00:16:35.000 fifteen thousand really dedicated men and women. That 00:16:35.000 –> 00:16:36.000 that 00:16:40.000 –> 00:16:44.000 that staff, probably the world’s largest health insurance 00:16:44.000 –> 00:16:46.000 enrollment and customer service operation. 00:16:49.000 –> 00:16:51.000 The company I was I was not naive. 00:16:51.000 –> 00:16:52.000 It was shared very early on that there 00:16:52.000 –> 00:16:56.000 was, an opportunity to to kinda reinvigorate, 00:16:57.000 –> 00:16:58.000 some energy 00:16:58.000 –> 00:17:01.000 maybe do some work on the company culture. 00:17:02.000 –> 00:17:02.000 And, 00:17:03.000 –> 00:17:06.000 but I knew also having spent the previous 00:17:06.000 –> 00:17:07.000 twenty years in 00:17:08.000 –> 00:17:11.000 massive organizations, as you mentioned, fortune ten firms, 00:17:11.000 –> 00:17:13.000 that if I were to show up, 00:17:14.000 –> 00:17:15.000 with this group, 00:17:16.000 –> 00:17:18.000 and kinda talked about I and the success 00:17:18.000 –> 00:17:20.000 I had had because I always, 00:17:21.000 –> 00:17:24.000 throughout my career, there’s a flavor of transformation. 00:17:25.000 –> 00:17:26.000 I come in, fix something, 00:17:26.000 –> 00:17:29.000 fix a big, big team, fix a big 00:17:29.000 –> 00:17:30.000 org, you know, turn things around, 00:17:31.000 –> 00:17:33.000 which has always been a passion of mine. 00:17:33.000 –> 00:17:35.000 But I knew with this group had I 00:17:35.000 –> 00:17:38.000 entered with more of the I and me 00:17:38.000 –> 00:17:39.000 and kind of, you know, here’s what I’m 00:17:40.000 –> 00:17:41.000 here to do for you. 00:17:42.000 –> 00:17:43.000 It would not have worked because they’d heard 00:17:43.000 –> 00:17:45.000 it all before. I was not naive. The 00:17:45.000 –> 00:17:46.000 fellow who had the role before me was 00:17:46.000 –> 00:17:49.000 dismissed, and I believe the wall for him 00:17:49.000 –> 00:17:50.000 was awesome. 00:17:51.000 –> 00:17:52.000 And 00:17:52.000 –> 00:17:54.000 if you take into consideration, 00:17:54.000 –> 00:17:56.000 the team my direct reports, 00:17:57.000 –> 00:17:58.000 they had an average tenure of north of 00:17:58.000 –> 00:17:59.000 ten years. 00:17:59.000 –> 00:18:01.000 So here’s this new guy coming into the 00:18:01.000 –> 00:18:03.000 fold. Yeah. And 00:18:03.000 –> 00:18:05.000 and and to to approach it as if 00:18:05.000 –> 00:18:07.000 I was the savior would just not have 00:18:07.000 –> 00:18:09.000 resonated. So the night before, I was to 00:18:09.000 –> 00:18:11.000 meet with the top forty or fifty leaders 00:18:11.000 –> 00:18:11.000 of this organization 00:18:12.000 –> 00:18:14.000 in my hotel room in Lawrence, Kansas. I 00:18:14.000 –> 00:18:16.000 still had that day’s suit on. In my 00:18:16.000 –> 00:18:18.000 laptop and my lap, and I thought, okay. 00:18:18.000 –> 00:18:20.000 This is this is what you wanted. You 00:18:20.000 –> 00:18:22.000 wanted an opportunity to lead an organization and 00:18:22.000 –> 00:18:23.000 be the leader you never had. This is 00:18:23.000 –> 00:18:25.000 why you made this change. What are you 00:18:25.000 –> 00:18:25.000 gonna do? 00:18:26.000 –> 00:18:30.000 So with no pre planning or or motives 00:18:30.000 –> 00:18:32.000 or agenda in mind, I just started typing 00:18:32.000 –> 00:18:34.000 into this blank PowerPoint presentation and a couple 00:18:34.000 –> 00:18:36.000 hours later, I All I had was ten 00:18:36.000 –> 00:18:36.000 sentences, 00:18:38.000 –> 00:18:39.000 and each of them started with the word 00:18:39.000 –> 00:18:40.000 we. 00:18:40.000 –> 00:18:41.000 And, 00:18:41.000 –> 00:18:43.000 I’m not super creative, so I had the 00:18:43.000 –> 00:18:44.000 ten wes. 00:18:45.000 –> 00:18:46.000 But the point, 00:18:46.000 –> 00:18:47.000 of of 00:18:48.000 –> 00:18:50.000 the magic, I think, started. So the next 00:18:50.000 –> 00:18:52.000 morning, I I stepped out, spoke to the 00:18:52.000 –> 00:18:54.000 forty or fifty folks and AF, we’re really 00:18:54.000 –> 00:18:55.000 excited and on board. 00:18:56.000 –> 00:18:58.000 Quarter. We’re kind of skeptical, and the last 00:18:58.000 –> 00:19:00.000 quarter was just, like, this guy’s full of 00:19:00.000 –> 00:19:02.000 his nature here. So much so, by the 00:19:02.000 –> 00:19:03.000 way, I should add Brett that 00:19:04.000 –> 00:19:06.000 what yeah. One of the fellas was bold 00:19:06.000 –> 00:19:08.000 enough to share that evening that, 00:19:09.000 –> 00:19:10.000 he googled the ten week because he thought 00:19:10.000 –> 00:19:12.000 I had plagiarized them, and then he went 00:19:12.000 –> 00:19:14.000 another step further and asked for my presentation 00:19:14.000 –> 00:19:16.000 because he wanted to check the properties within 00:19:16.000 –> 00:19:18.000 PowerPoint to see if I was the creator 00:19:18.000 –> 00:19:20.000 of that deck. Or if I had stolen 00:19:20.000 –> 00:19:21.000 it from somewhere else. 00:19:22.000 –> 00:19:25.000 We’re still buddies. But the the the the 00:19:25.000 –> 00:19:27.000 I think the the highlight or the bump 00:19:27.000 –> 00:19:29.000 sticker of this part of the story is 00:19:29.000 –> 00:19:29.000 this. 00:19:30.000 –> 00:19:32.000 In my career, I noticed 00:19:32.000 –> 00:19:34.000 it all came together that night in Lawrence 00:19:34.000 –> 00:19:35.000 that 00:19:35.000 –> 00:19:39.000 Companies were were really excited about flaunting their 00:19:39.000 –> 00:19:41.000 mission statement. They were really excited about externally 00:19:41.000 –> 00:19:42.000 positioning their company externally in a way 00:19:45.000 –> 00:19:47.000 that is, you know, flattering or favorable or 00:19:47.000 –> 00:19:49.000 endears them to their clients. 00:19:50.000 –> 00:19:52.000 But what is what is is setting that 00:19:52.000 –> 00:19:54.000 same standard inside the organization. 00:19:55.000 –> 00:19:58.000 So for me, to document these ten principles 00:19:57.000 –> 00:19:59.000 Gilliland 00:19:59.000 –> 00:20:01.000 be very adamant and direct that these are 00:20:01.000 –> 00:20:03.000 our rules of the role. Of the road, 00:20:03.000 –> 00:20:05.000 non negotiable. I did the whole presentation in 00:20:05.000 –> 00:20:07.000 black and white, and still nearly every time 00:20:07.000 –> 00:20:08.000 it’s in black and white with some red 00:20:08.000 –> 00:20:10.000 sprinkled in because it can’t be negotiable. 00:20:10.000 –> 00:20:14.000 But these principles align us around a common 00:20:14.000 –> 00:20:16.000 cause. And and and 00:20:16.000 –> 00:20:17.000 they’re all we oriented. 00:20:18.000 –> 00:20:21.000 But what they do is they create kind 00:20:21.000 –> 00:20:21.000 of, 00:20:22.000 –> 00:20:24.000 force fields too dramatic, but I’ll go with 00:20:24.000 –> 00:20:27.000 it that insulates us from 00:20:27.000 –> 00:20:30.000 external headwinds. It it sets the table for 00:20:30.000 –> 00:20:32.000 who we are, how we operate, and it 00:20:32.000 –> 00:20:35.000 removes any ambiguity around the way that we 00:20:35.000 –> 00:20:38.000 treat each other first and then how we 00:20:38.000 –> 00:20:41.000 treat those that we serve externally. Gilliland 00:20:41.000 –> 00:20:43.000 and they’re they’re very purposeful in order in 00:20:43.000 –> 00:20:45.000 which they are, 00:20:45.000 –> 00:20:46.000 riveting, 00:20:46.000 –> 00:20:47.000 But at the end of the day, this 00:20:47.000 –> 00:20:50.000 entire monologue that I’m sharing with you was 00:20:50.000 –> 00:20:51.000 my way to, 00:20:53.000 –> 00:20:54.000 first, 00:20:54.000 –> 00:20:56.000 these are the principal 00:20:57.000 –> 00:20:58.000 me accountable. 00:20:58.000 –> 00:21:00.000 I led with that. 00:21:00.000 –> 00:21:01.000 Because I’d seen the leadership, what I call 00:21:01.000 –> 00:21:03.000 the leadership gap too many times, where the 00:21:03.000 –> 00:21:05.000 boss has a certain standard of behavior, and 00:21:05.000 –> 00:21:06.000 the team has another one. And I think 00:21:06.000 –> 00:21:08.000 right out of the gate, you’re destined for 00:21:08.000 –> 00:21:10.000 failure. If there’s a double standard in how 00:21:10.000 –> 00:21:11.000 we treat each other, 00:21:12.000 –> 00:21:14.000 the things I’m allowed to do versus the 00:21:14.000 –> 00:21:15.000 things you’re allowed to do. So, a, you 00:21:15.000 –> 00:21:17.000 must hold me accountable to these because, b, 00:21:17.000 –> 00:21:19.000 I will certainly hold you accountable to them. 00:21:19.000 –> 00:21:21.000 If you can’t subscribe to these principles, 00:21:22.000 –> 00:21:22.000 respect, 00:21:22.000 –> 00:21:24.000 you’re not gonna be a great fit for 00:21:24.000 –> 00:21:25.000 this team. 00:21:26.000 –> 00:21:27.000 So that that was the that was kind 00:21:27.000 –> 00:21:29.000 of the the sentinel moment that I shared 00:21:29.000 –> 00:21:32.000 the principles I I I I was not 00:21:32.000 –> 00:21:34.000 forceful in implementing them. I wanted the team 00:21:34.000 –> 00:21:36.000 to take to them gradually, and I’m so 00:21:36.000 –> 00:21:38.000 thrilled to share five, six years later, 00:21:39.000 –> 00:21:42.000 the, the ten Wes are still the the 00:21:42.000 –> 00:21:46.000 cultural man this giant organization many years ago. 00:21:47.000 –> 00:21:49.000 They have the ten We Awards where they 00:21:49.000 –> 00:21:49.000 share, 00:21:50.000 –> 00:21:53.000 and celebrate those that are caught living any 00:21:53.000 –> 00:21:54.000 one of the We’s. 00:21:55.000 –> 00:21:57.000 And I’ve been able to evangelize these principles 00:21:57.000 –> 00:21:58.000 more broadly now in companies, 00:21:59.000 –> 00:22:01.000 that I’m working with have embraced it. People 00:22:01.000 –> 00:22:03.000 have embraced it because it sets the the 00:22:03.000 –> 00:22:05.000 standard for who we are, how we operate, 00:22:07.000 –> 00:22:09.000 aside from some lofty mission statement that no 00:22:09.000 –> 00:22:11.000 one can really relate to on a day 00:22:11.000 –> 00:22:13.000 to day basis. Yeah. I love that, man. 00:22:13.000 –> 00:22:14.000 So let’s start with number one. What’s number 00:22:14.000 –> 00:22:15.000 one? 00:22:16.000 –> 00:22:18.000 Well, so I must give a disclaimer as 00:22:18.000 –> 00:22:19.000 we walk through these. 00:22:20.000 –> 00:22:22.000 I’m I’m certain. Members of your audience are 00:22:22.000 –> 00:22:24.000 gonna say, well, no shit. Of course, of 00:22:24.000 –> 00:22:26.000 course, we’re gonna do these things. But I 00:22:26.000 –> 00:22:28.000 right? I’m not naive to that, but I 00:22:28.000 –> 00:22:30.000 will I will add to that 00:22:30.000 –> 00:22:31.000 this point. 00:22:33.000 –> 00:22:34.000 When used collectively 00:22:35.000 –> 00:22:35.000 and evangelized 00:22:36.000 –> 00:22:39.000 and and can spicuously communicated over and over 00:22:39.000 –> 00:22:41.000 and over every single day. You know, for 00:22:41.000 –> 00:22:43.000 example, I wear a I wear a wii 00:22:43.000 –> 00:22:45.000 bracelet everywhere I go. This as we challenge. 00:22:45.000 –> 00:22:46.000 It’s gotta 00:22:46.000 –> 00:22:47.000 it’s gotta be memorable. 00:22:48.000 –> 00:22:50.000 It’s gotta be something we can lean against. 00:22:50.000 –> 00:22:52.000 Not just works on the wall. Number one 00:22:52.000 –> 00:22:53.000 Yep. Is we do the right thing. 00:22:54.000 –> 00:22:55.000 Always. 00:22:56.000 –> 00:22:58.000 And and you’ll you’ll you’ll you know, again, 00:22:58.000 –> 00:23:00.000 listeners might say, well, no shit. The the 00:23:00.000 –> 00:23:03.000 beauty behind this one is Once you evangelize 00:23:03.000 –> 00:23:04.000 it and we talk about it over and 00:23:04.000 –> 00:23:05.000 over again, 00:23:05.000 –> 00:23:07.000 when facing a tough decision, 00:23:07.000 –> 00:23:09.000 the team knows 00:23:10.000 –> 00:23:12.000 where we’re going. They are quick to even 00:23:12.000 –> 00:23:14.000 answer the question before you ask it because 00:23:14.000 –> 00:23:16.000 and and by the way, they’ll premise their 00:23:16.000 –> 00:23:18.000 response with I know Kyle, we do the 00:23:18.000 –> 00:23:20.000 right thing. Right? So we it it it 00:23:20.000 –> 00:23:22.000 removes any opportunity for us to do something 00:23:22.000 –> 00:23:25.000 that might be a little less than, quote, 00:23:25.000 –> 00:23:26.000 unquote, right. So we do the right thing 00:23:26.000 –> 00:23:28.000 is is number one. Everything’s a thousand parts 00:23:28.000 –> 00:23:31.000 without it. Yeah. I think to piggyback on 00:23:31.000 –> 00:23:31.000 that is, 00:23:32.000 –> 00:23:34.000 you know, the Ritz Carlton way, right, is 00:23:35.000 –> 00:23:37.000 I think I heard one time that each 00:23:37.000 –> 00:23:39.000 each member that’s working that day has, like, 00:23:39.000 –> 00:23:41.000 a two hundred or four hundred dollar budget 00:23:41.000 –> 00:23:42.000 or something like that that they can fix 00:23:42.000 –> 00:23:44.000 something. Without having to get approval. And I 00:23:44.000 –> 00:23:46.000 remember being there. One of my kids, I 00:23:46.000 –> 00:23:48.000 guess my oldest is eighteen. I was young. 00:23:49.000 –> 00:23:50.000 And we’re there and we get an ice 00:23:50.000 –> 00:23:52.000 cream cone, and we’re not six steps away 00:23:52.000 –> 00:23:54.000 from this place where we got the ice 00:23:54.000 –> 00:23:55.000 cream in there and it spills, of course. 00:23:55.000 –> 00:23:57.000 It goes all over the floor. And man, 00:23:57.000 –> 00:24:00.000 those people were like around that thing. 00:24:00.000 –> 00:24:03.000 So quick. Got it cleaned up. Boom. Here’s 00:24:03.000 –> 00:24:03.000 a new ice cream. 00:24:04.000 –> 00:24:06.000 Right? I mean, like, it was amazing. And 00:24:06.000 –> 00:24:08.000 so I think that’s what I think of 00:24:08.000 –> 00:24:09.000 when I hear that we do the right 00:24:09.000 –> 00:24:11.000 thing always. Right? We do the right thing 00:24:11.000 –> 00:24:13.000 always. That’s that’s number one. That’s awesome. 00:24:15.000 –> 00:24:17.000 Yeah. It’s the foundation. It’s the foundation. But 00:24:17.000 –> 00:24:18.000 if you wanna do the right thing and 00:24:18.000 –> 00:24:19.000 you want your team to do the right 00:24:19.000 –> 00:24:22.000 thing. For me, that takes us right to 00:24:22.000 –> 00:24:24.000 number two, and that is we lead by 00:24:24.000 –> 00:24:24.000 example. 00:24:25.000 –> 00:24:28.000 We’re already setting an example. The question to 00:24:28.000 –> 00:24:30.000 the question is not should we lead by 00:24:30.000 –> 00:24:32.000 example. The question is am I leading by 00:24:32.000 –> 00:24:34.000 an example? I’d be proud for others to 00:24:34.000 –> 00:24:36.000 see. If it were blast all over the 00:24:36.000 –> 00:24:39.000 intranet, the company intranet, or the newsletter, or 00:24:39.000 –> 00:24:40.000 even worse externally, 00:24:41.000 –> 00:24:43.000 is my behavior something that I’m proud of? 00:24:43.000 –> 00:24:45.000 Is it am I leading in a way 00:24:45.000 –> 00:24:46.000 that others want to follow? 00:24:47.000 –> 00:24:49.000 And again, you know, I I would imagine 00:24:49.000 –> 00:24:51.000 some listeners are saying, well, she wanna lead 00:24:51.000 –> 00:24:52.000 by example, but it’s not the big things 00:24:52.000 –> 00:24:54.000 that I’m talking about. When I walk through 00:24:54.000 –> 00:24:56.000 the hallway, you know, when I’m on-site or 00:24:56.000 –> 00:24:59.000 at a location, is my head down in 00:24:59.000 –> 00:24:59.000 my phone? 00:25:00.000 –> 00:25:01.000 Or am I is my head up saying, 00:25:01.000 –> 00:25:03.000 hey, Brett. Good morning. Nice to see you. 00:25:04.000 –> 00:25:06.000 You know, that’s that’s an example that must 00:25:06.000 –> 00:25:07.000 be set. Right? I’ll tell you a quick 00:25:07.000 –> 00:25:08.000 story, and I’ll and then we can move 00:25:08.000 –> 00:25:09.000 on. But, 00:25:09.000 –> 00:25:11.000 I I used to visit one of the 00:25:11.000 –> 00:25:11.000 locations, 00:25:12.000 –> 00:25:14.000 back in the the teens when, 00:25:15.000 –> 00:25:17.000 I’d I’d eleven locations at the time when 00:25:17.000 –> 00:25:19.000 these principals rolled out. One of the locations 00:25:19.000 –> 00:25:22.000 invariably, every time I would go, the men’s 00:25:22.000 –> 00:25:24.000 restroom, the counter where you wash your hands, 00:25:24.000 –> 00:25:26.000 had standing water every single time I went 00:25:26.000 –> 00:25:28.000 there. It was drive you crazy. 00:25:29.000 –> 00:25:30.000 And I just, you know, I’d like every 00:25:30.000 –> 00:25:32.000 other fellow in there, wash my hands, throw 00:25:32.000 –> 00:25:33.000 my paper towel away and walk out. But 00:25:33.000 –> 00:25:35.000 it occurred to me. 00:25:35.000 –> 00:25:37.000 I am sending the message anytime I’m in 00:25:37.000 –> 00:25:39.000 there washing my hands next to somebody else, 00:25:39.000 –> 00:25:40.000 it finally occurred to me that I am 00:25:40.000 –> 00:25:43.000 sending the message that it’s okay. We are 00:25:43.000 –> 00:25:45.000 accepting this puddled water. 00:25:45.000 –> 00:25:47.000 And I and and the leader doesn’t care 00:25:47.000 –> 00:25:49.000 about our work environment. That’s the message I’m 00:25:49.000 –> 00:25:51.000 sending if I don’t. So now 00:25:52.000 –> 00:25:54.000 when the re realization hit me, and I 00:25:54.000 –> 00:25:55.000 was in 00:25:55.000 –> 00:25:57.000 My hands dry off. I would take extra 00:25:57.000 –> 00:26:00.000 napkins and wipe down that basin every single 00:26:00.000 –> 00:26:02.000 time. And wouldn’t you know it? After a 00:26:02.000 –> 00:26:03.000 number of visits there, 00:26:04.000 –> 00:26:05.000 the water was gone. 00:26:05.000 –> 00:26:07.000 Not because of me, people were coming behind 00:26:07.000 –> 00:26:09.000 me doing the same thing. Yep. So it’s 00:26:09.000 –> 00:26:11.000 not just, you know, the shiniest shoes. I 00:26:11.000 –> 00:26:13.000 got the most vocabulary, not leading by example 00:26:13.000 –> 00:26:15.000 in those ways. I’m leading by example by 00:26:15.000 –> 00:26:18.000 being relatable to those I work with, setting 00:26:18.000 –> 00:26:20.000 an example that they want to follow, and 00:26:20.000 –> 00:26:23.000 and and showing the importance of our interactions, 00:26:24.000 –> 00:26:26.000 not just you are here to to produce 00:26:26.000 –> 00:26:28.000 a widget for me. So that’s the kind 00:26:28.000 –> 00:26:30.000 of example I wanna be known for. Yeah. 00:26:30.000 –> 00:26:32.000 Amen into that, man. I think Mother Teresa 00:26:32.000 –> 00:26:33.000 said it, and then I’ll joke my buddy 00:26:33.000 –> 00:26:35.000 Tom Meyer at a soccer game recently said 00:26:35.000 –> 00:26:38.000 it too. Sweeper own front porch. Right? So 00:26:38.000 –> 00:26:40.000 see my buddies that were on this trip 00:26:40.000 –> 00:26:41.000 will know and it was a it was 00:26:41.000 –> 00:26:43.000 a great time. But, you know, sweep your 00:26:43.000 –> 00:26:45.000 own front porch. Man, that’s that’s what you’re 00:26:45.000 –> 00:26:47.000 doing right there. So that’s awesome. 00:26:47.000 –> 00:26:48.000 What’s number three? 00:26:49.000 –> 00:26:51.000 So we go so if you wanna do 00:26:51.000 –> 00:26:51.000 the right thing, 00:26:52.000 –> 00:26:54.000 and and if we agree that leading by 00:26:54.000 –> 00:26:56.000 example, it’s tough to do that, 00:26:57.000 –> 00:26:59.000 any team, we’ve gotta make good in our 00:26:59.000 –> 00:27:01.000 commitments. So we number three is we say 00:27:01.000 –> 00:27:02.000 what we’re going to do 00:27:03.000 –> 00:27:04.000 then we do it. 00:27:04.000 –> 00:27:06.000 So anytime you’re in a team environment, there 00:27:06.000 –> 00:27:08.000 are others that are counting on you to 00:27:08.000 –> 00:27:11.000 deliver something, especially in corporate America. 00:27:11.000 –> 00:27:13.000 And what I have found, a lot of 00:27:13.000 –> 00:27:16.000 breakdown and disappointment that our customers experience 00:27:16.000 –> 00:27:17.000 oftentimes 00:27:17.000 –> 00:27:19.000 are the result of a breakdown or a 00:27:19.000 –> 00:27:22.000 lack of communication or delivery behind the curtain 00:27:22.000 –> 00:27:23.000 here in the here on the on the 00:27:23.000 –> 00:27:26.000 team. So we we’ve just gotta be known, 00:27:26.000 –> 00:27:28.000 you know, every high functioning team needs to 00:27:28.000 –> 00:27:31.000 be known for and is usually associated with 00:27:31.000 –> 00:27:33.000 do, you know, making good in our commitments. 00:27:33.000 –> 00:27:34.000 When I tell you I’m going to deliver 00:27:34.000 –> 00:27:36.000 something to you as a member of my 00:27:36.000 –> 00:27:38.000 team, it’s coming. When you tell me that 00:27:38.000 –> 00:27:39.000 you’re gonna deliver something to me as a 00:27:39.000 –> 00:27:41.000 member of my team, it must come. 00:27:42.000 –> 00:27:44.000 And and that was, you know, the scenario 00:27:44.000 –> 00:27:44.000 there 00:27:45.000 –> 00:27:46.000 to drive me crazy. 00:27:46.000 –> 00:27:47.000 It’s, 00:27:47.000 –> 00:27:49.000 you know, Brett, you and I had a 00:27:49.000 –> 00:27:51.000 conversation. I agreed to deliver something to you 00:27:51.000 –> 00:27:53.000 by Thursday at noon. 00:27:53.000 –> 00:27:55.000 Thursday at noon rolls around. You call me. 00:27:55.000 –> 00:27:57.000 You’re, like, Kyle, what’s up? Where’s that report? 00:27:57.000 –> 00:27:59.000 And my response to you as well, I 00:27:59.000 –> 00:28:00.000 reached out to Jane in accounting. I just 00:28:00.000 –> 00:28:02.000 haven’t heard back from her. That’s not good 00:28:02.000 –> 00:28:03.000 enough. 00:28:03.000 –> 00:28:05.000 So I committed something to you, brother. I 00:28:05.000 –> 00:28:07.000 gotta get that to you, and I will 00:28:07.000 –> 00:28:08.000 go to the end of the earth to 00:28:08.000 –> 00:28:10.000 get that for you. Or I will give 00:28:10.000 –> 00:28:11.000 you a heads up before Thursday at noon 00:28:11.000 –> 00:28:13.000 that this is not happening, we’re a bit 00:28:13.000 –> 00:28:15.000 delayed. But I have found, especially in bigger 00:28:15.000 –> 00:28:17.000 organizations, there’s this, you know, 00:28:17.000 –> 00:28:19.000 point back and forth because I, you know, 00:28:19.000 –> 00:28:20.000 I I did my part. I made the 00:28:20.000 –> 00:28:22.000 request. No. No. No. Your part was hitting 00:28:22.000 –> 00:28:23.000 your commitment. 00:28:24.000 –> 00:28:26.000 So leading by example, I think the best 00:28:26.000 –> 00:28:28.000 way to do that is by setting 00:28:28.000 –> 00:28:29.000 a target, 00:28:29.000 –> 00:28:31.000 going after that target, making good on our 00:28:31.000 –> 00:28:32.000 commitments, 00:28:32.000 –> 00:28:34.000 because we’re only as good as the commitments 00:28:34.000 –> 00:28:36.000 we keep. I that’s that’s truly how I 00:28:36.000 –> 00:28:38.000 believe that. That’s why number three is is 00:28:38.000 –> 00:28:41.000 where it’s ranked so high because if we 00:28:41.000 –> 00:28:42.000 can’t deliver on on the commitments that we 00:28:42.000 –> 00:28:45.000 make, especially as the leader to our team, 00:28:46.000 –> 00:28:48.000 There’s no and we’re not trust. We are 00:28:48.000 –> 00:28:49.000 no tall. 00:28:49.000 –> 00:28:51.000 Love it. So far I’m gonna lie. I’m 00:28:51.000 –> 00:28:53.000 three for three, brother. What do we got? 00:28:53.000 –> 00:28:53.000 Number four? 00:28:55.000 –> 00:28:57.000 I love that. Alright. I’ll keep rolling. So 00:28:57.000 –> 00:28:59.000 if we’re gonna do the right thing, we’re 00:28:59.000 –> 00:29:02.000 gonna lead by example, and we’re gonna make 00:29:02.000 –> 00:29:04.000 good in our commitments. That means the very 00:29:04.000 –> 00:29:05.000 next step is we gotta take action. 00:29:06.000 –> 00:29:08.000 So when we see an opportunity to be 00:29:08.000 –> 00:29:11.000 better, when we see maybe a broken process 00:29:11.000 –> 00:29:14.000 or You know, we have a disgruntled customer 00:29:14.000 –> 00:29:15.000 because of a process that we we we 00:29:15.000 –> 00:29:18.000 just know is is too too taxing or 00:29:18.000 –> 00:29:21.000 whatever the scenario is, we gotta take action. 00:29:23.000 –> 00:29:25.000 Especially in bigger organizations, and it’s true of 00:29:25.000 –> 00:29:26.000 all the organizations 00:29:26.000 –> 00:29:28.000 of all size, but especially bigger ones, there 00:29:28.000 –> 00:29:30.000 is safety in silence 00:29:31.000 –> 00:29:33.000 And what that means is we often we 00:29:33.000 –> 00:29:36.000 often see opportunities for improvement, but we don’t 00:29:36.000 –> 00:29:38.000 take action on them usually for one of 00:29:38.000 –> 00:29:39.000 two reasons. 00:29:40.000 –> 00:29:41.000 If I raise my hand and say, hey, 00:29:41.000 –> 00:29:43.000 boss, we got an opportunity to refine this 00:29:43.000 –> 00:29:44.000 process. 00:29:45.000 –> 00:29:47.000 Usually, I’m gonna be greeted with more work. 00:29:50.000 –> 00:29:52.000 Where’s the incentive to do that? And then 00:29:52.000 –> 00:29:54.000 the second component of of why this is 00:29:54.000 –> 00:29:56.000 so hard for so many to grasp is 00:29:56.000 –> 00:29:57.000 not only am I gonna be asked to 00:29:57.000 –> 00:29:59.000 do the work, but if I stumble 00:29:59.000 –> 00:30:02.000 or my existing workload is compromised, I’m gonna 00:30:02.000 –> 00:30:04.000 get beaten over the head with this thing 00:30:04.000 –> 00:30:05.000 that I surfaced, which was really an attempt 00:30:05.000 –> 00:30:07.000 to make us better. So there’s no incentive 00:30:08.000 –> 00:30:10.000 in most organizations to raise my hand and 00:30:10.000 –> 00:30:12.000 say, that doesn’t make sense. Why are we 00:30:12.000 –> 00:30:14.000 doing that? I need to take a look 00:30:14.000 –> 00:30:15.000 at that. And let me address that for 00:30:15.000 –> 00:30:16.000 us. 00:30:16.000 –> 00:30:18.000 There’s no incentive. So stay in your lane 00:30:18.000 –> 00:30:20.000 is kind of the thought that comes to 00:30:20.000 –> 00:30:21.000 mind. But in a culture of excellence, 00:30:22.000 –> 00:30:25.000 when we really wanna be excellent and be 00:30:25.000 –> 00:30:28.000 high functioning, high performing team, we can’t 00:30:28.000 –> 00:30:30.000 we cannot walk by opportunities for improvement. 00:30:31.000 –> 00:30:33.000 You know, the old TSA adage comes to 00:30:33.000 –> 00:30:34.000 mind see something, say something. Well, in this 00:30:34.000 –> 00:30:36.000 world, it’s when you if you see something, 00:30:36.000 –> 00:30:37.000 do something. 00:30:38.000 –> 00:30:39.000 Because 00:30:39.000 –> 00:30:42.000 in today’s ultra competitive environment in almost every 00:30:42.000 –> 00:30:44.000 industry, If we allow those mediocre, 00:30:46.000 –> 00:30:47.000 things, 00:30:47.000 –> 00:30:49.000 or the status quo Sam, as I call 00:30:49.000 –> 00:30:52.000 it, if we allow those we will get 00:30:52.000 –> 00:30:53.000 laughed by our 00:30:53.000 –> 00:30:55.000 and we will not be here. So it’s 00:30:55.000 –> 00:30:57.000 important to recognize where there’s something to do. 00:30:57.000 –> 00:30:58.000 We gotta do it. 00:30:59.000 –> 00:31:02.000 But when when when if you want your 00:31:02.000 –> 00:31:04.000 team to take action and you want people 00:31:04.000 –> 00:31:06.000 to recognize that there’s a way to be 00:31:06.000 –> 00:31:07.000 better and we have a chance to be 00:31:07.000 –> 00:31:07.000 better, 00:31:08.000 –> 00:31:09.000 The only way to get them to do 00:31:09.000 –> 00:31:11.000 that is to create an environment where they’re 00:31:11.000 –> 00:31:13.000 comfortable making mistakes. 00:31:14.000 –> 00:31:15.000 And that takes us to to we number 00:31:15.000 –> 00:31:17.000 five. We own our mistakes. 00:31:18.000 –> 00:31:19.000 So if I’m in an environment where team 00:31:19.000 –> 00:31:21.000 says, for the team is well aware, they 00:31:21.000 –> 00:31:24.000 are tasked, empowered, and obligated 00:31:24.000 –> 00:31:27.000 to identify ways for us to be better, 00:31:27.000 –> 00:31:29.000 we gotta allow them the safety to make 00:31:29.000 –> 00:31:31.000 a mistake trying to make it better. 00:31:31.000 –> 00:31:33.000 Because again, where’s the incentive if we’re just 00:31:33.000 –> 00:31:35.000 gonna beat them over the head? So So 00:31:36.000 –> 00:31:37.000 the culture of excellence says, 00:31:38.000 –> 00:31:40.000 for us to be great, we’re gonna make 00:31:40.000 –> 00:31:43.000 mistakes. Everyone knows that. We’re gonna own those 00:31:43.000 –> 00:31:44.000 mistakes because I think we talked about it 00:31:44.000 –> 00:31:46.000 at the top of the call. Those challenges 00:31:46.000 –> 00:31:49.000 and those mistakes result in growth. And we 00:31:49.000 –> 00:31:50.000 wanna be better. 00:31:50.000 –> 00:31:51.000 We gotta try. 00:31:53.000 –> 00:31:54.000 Fail. That’s life, 00:31:55.000 –> 00:31:57.000 but we gotta try to go. We’re gonna 00:31:57.000 –> 00:31:59.000 own our mistakes. And and the sooner the 00:31:59.000 –> 00:32:00.000 team is aware, 00:32:00.000 –> 00:32:02.000 that you as the leader will be there 00:32:03.000 –> 00:32:05.000 with your handout stretched to help them 00:32:06.000 –> 00:32:08.000 get up and move on to the next 00:32:08.000 –> 00:32:10.000 So the next thing, the more likely they 00:32:10.000 –> 00:32:12.000 are to take action and own the mistake 00:32:12.000 –> 00:32:14.000 that comes with that action being taken. 00:32:16.000 –> 00:32:18.000 I’m a note taking machine, brother. You can 00:32:18.000 –> 00:32:18.000 see that. 00:32:19.000 –> 00:32:21.000 Hey. I’m just taking notes. I love it. 00:32:21.000 –> 00:32:23.000 It’s great. It’s great. Do you do the 00:32:23.000 –> 00:32:25.000 right thing? Lead by examples. We say what 00:32:25.000 –> 00:32:27.000 we’re gonna do and we do it. We 00:32:27.000 –> 00:32:28.000 take, we take action. 00:32:29.000 –> 00:32:30.000 We own our mistakes. 00:32:31.000 –> 00:32:32.000 Lead us to number six. 00:32:33.000 –> 00:32:35.000 Yeah. And they there’s the continuum here. So 00:32:35.000 –> 00:32:37.000 when when the team feels comfortable to raise 00:32:37.000 –> 00:32:38.000 their hand and say I made a mistake, 00:32:38.000 –> 00:32:40.000 they’re only gonna do that when they know 00:32:40.000 –> 00:32:42.000 they’re in an environment where we six exists, 00:32:42.000 –> 00:32:44.000 and that is we pick each other up. 00:32:45.000 –> 00:32:47.000 We pick each other up. Look, we’re all 00:32:47.000 –> 00:32:49.000 coming to the workplace, whether it be verb 00:32:49.000 –> 00:32:52.000 or or in person with baggage. You know, 00:32:52.000 –> 00:32:53.000 we’ve all got things going on outside of 00:32:53.000 –> 00:32:54.000 work. 00:32:54.000 –> 00:32:56.000 We’ve got things going on inside of work. 00:32:58.000 –> 00:33:00.000 It’s not often we bring our very best 00:33:00.000 –> 00:33:03.000 self to our job. It’s not. We’d like 00:33:03.000 –> 00:33:05.000 to think it is and allow environments will 00:33:05.000 –> 00:33:08.000 demand that and not be understanding that sometimes 00:33:08.000 –> 00:33:10.000 life gets in the way. So we pick 00:33:10.000 –> 00:33:12.000 each other up as critical because If we’re 00:33:12.000 –> 00:33:15.000 gonna own our mistakes from action being taken, 00:33:15.000 –> 00:33:17.000 we we have to know that others have 00:33:17.000 –> 00:33:19.000 our back, especially the leader. 00:33:20.000 –> 00:33:22.000 But there’s two components here. I wanna I 00:33:22.000 –> 00:33:24.000 wanna kinda bifurcate between the two. 00:33:25.000 –> 00:33:27.000 Owning the mistake 00:33:27.000 –> 00:33:28.000 is critical 00:33:29.000 –> 00:33:31.000 for picking each other up. So we don’t 00:33:31.000 –> 00:33:32.000 we can’t help someone if we don’t know 00:33:32.000 –> 00:33:35.000 that they’re struggling. Right? The results may show 00:33:35.000 –> 00:33:37.000 it, but not everybody sees those results. So 00:33:37.000 –> 00:33:38.000 all members of the team don’t see all 00:33:38.000 –> 00:33:41.000 members of the team’s position. And that is 00:33:41.000 –> 00:33:43.000 propel members on your team and those around 00:33:43.000 –> 00:33:45.000 you to new heights. I don’t believe it’s 00:33:45.000 –> 00:33:47.000 just enough for the boss 00:33:47.000 –> 00:33:48.000 or the leader in this case 00:33:49.000 –> 00:33:49.000 to 00:33:50.000 –> 00:33:52.000 get members of their team to be high 00:33:52.000 –> 00:33:54.000 performing at what they do now. I think 00:33:54.000 –> 00:33:56.000 a great leader helps them develop to take 00:33:56.000 –> 00:33:58.000 on their next role, even if, by the 00:33:58.000 –> 00:34:01.000 way, even if that role is outside of 00:34:01.000 –> 00:34:03.000 my team, outside of the organization even. 00:34:04.000 –> 00:34:04.000 Because 00:34:05.000 –> 00:34:06.000 if I if if the team members 00:34:07.000 –> 00:34:09.000 if if members of the team know that 00:34:09.000 –> 00:34:11.000 me as their leader, I’m really invested in 00:34:11.000 –> 00:34:13.000 their journey. Really invested in their growth. I 00:34:13.000 –> 00:34:15.000 want them to be their best, not just 00:34:15.000 –> 00:34:17.000 so I can deliver great results for my 00:34:17.000 –> 00:34:18.000 team. I want them to be their best 00:34:18.000 –> 00:34:20.000 because I wanna be a good human, I 00:34:20.000 –> 00:34:22.000 wanna be surrounded by people that that are 00:34:22.000 –> 00:34:23.000 their best. 00:34:23.000 –> 00:34:25.000 And I take this so seriously that I’ve 00:34:25.000 –> 00:34:27.000 had members of my teams throughout the years 00:34:27.000 –> 00:34:29.000 come to me and say they’ve had opportune 00:34:29.000 –> 00:34:31.000 they’ve got opportunities to join other companies. They’ve 00:34:31.000 –> 00:34:34.000 got, they’re eyeing and opening somewhere else. I 00:34:34.000 –> 00:34:36.000 help them get that next job. I help 00:34:36.000 –> 00:34:38.000 them. We’ll do mock interviews. I’ll work with 00:34:38.000 –> 00:34:39.000 you on your whatever 00:34:40.000 –> 00:34:41.000 you need because an off chain role 00:34:44.000 –> 00:34:46.000 The connection and goodwill that we’ve now established 00:34:46.000 –> 00:34:48.000 because I’ve proven to you, I really care 00:34:48.000 –> 00:34:50.000 more about you than your results, is profound. 00:34:51.000 –> 00:34:52.000 And that’s happened to me a number of 00:34:52.000 –> 00:34:55.000 times, helping someone leave the company. They’ve either 00:34:55.000 –> 00:34:57.000 gotten their role or they haven’t, but when 00:34:57.000 –> 00:34:58.000 they when they when they return back to 00:34:59.000 –> 00:35:00.000 to to to this team, 00:35:01.000 –> 00:35:03.000 the commitment they have until the next opportunity 00:35:03.000 –> 00:35:05.000 comes around. I’m not naive is is stronger. 00:35:07.000 –> 00:35:09.000 I think it’s true. We all want to 00:35:09.000 –> 00:35:11.000 be appreciated for what we do, 00:35:11.000 –> 00:35:13.000 and the the value that we bring, but 00:35:13.000 –> 00:35:15.000 not in a moment in time. The value 00:35:15.000 –> 00:35:18.000 that we bring is exponential over time, we 00:35:18.000 –> 00:35:19.000 need to we need to encourage people to 00:35:19.000 –> 00:35:21.000 be there as to whether that’s with us 00:35:21.000 –> 00:35:23.000 or somewhere else. Yep. 00:35:23.000 –> 00:35:25.000 So that’s that’s been a mentality. Pick each 00:35:25.000 –> 00:35:26.000 other up. 00:35:26.000 –> 00:35:28.000 It’s abundance mentality versus scarcity. 00:35:29.000 –> 00:35:31.000 Amen. Right? And, 00:35:31.000 –> 00:35:33.000 you know, there’s this thing inside of the 00:35:33.000 –> 00:35:36.000 corporate world where for someone to win someone 00:35:36.000 –> 00:35:38.000 else must lose, and I just think that’s 00:35:38.000 –> 00:35:38.000 garbage. 00:35:39.000 –> 00:35:41.000 So the more we can pick each other 00:35:41.000 –> 00:35:41.000 up, 00:35:42.000 –> 00:35:44.000 along on their journey. Not only do we 00:35:44.000 –> 00:35:46.000 help someone else, but it just feels 00:35:47.000 –> 00:35:49.000 good to help someone else along their way. 00:35:51.000 –> 00:35:53.000 So I admit the first six of the 00:35:53.000 –> 00:35:54.000 wheeze are, are more foundational in 00:35:55.000 –> 00:35:55.000 nature 00:35:58.000 –> 00:36:00.000 and and they kinda set the table for 00:36:00.000 –> 00:36:03.000 who we are. But as we move, seven 00:36:03.000 –> 00:36:05.000 through ten, you’ll notice that the wies become 00:36:06.000 –> 00:36:07.000 a a little more, 00:36:07.000 –> 00:36:09.000 difficult for some to grasp, 00:36:09.000 –> 00:36:11.000 maybe a little more controversial. 00:36:12.000 –> 00:36:14.000 You know, that’s a relative term. But also 00:36:14.000 –> 00:36:16.000 I believe this is where we we we 00:36:16.000 –> 00:36:18.000 we pivot to steal from Collins, from good 00:36:18.000 –> 00:36:19.000 to great. 00:36:19.000 –> 00:36:22.000 Yeah. And and we number seven is we 00:36:22.000 –> 00:36:24.000 measure ourselves by out comes, 00:36:24.000 –> 00:36:24.000 period, 00:36:25.000 –> 00:36:26.000 not activity. 00:36:27.000 –> 00:36:28.000 And I’m sure you’ve seen it in your 00:36:28.000 –> 00:36:30.000 business and throughout your career, 00:36:31.000 –> 00:36:33.000 And it’s gotten worse, I think, over time, 00:36:33.000 –> 00:36:35.000 where in the corporate world, we we give 00:36:35.000 –> 00:36:37.000 out what amounts to participation 00:36:38.000 –> 00:36:38.000 ribbons. 00:36:40.000 –> 00:36:42.000 And and that to me is is it 00:36:42.000 –> 00:36:44.000 dilutes the impact of delivering 00:36:44.000 –> 00:36:45.000 great results. 00:36:46.000 –> 00:36:49.000 We wear the number of we had every 00:36:49.000 –> 00:36:50.000 day as a badge of honor. If I’m 00:36:50.000 –> 00:36:52.000 double book triple book, like, that’s that’s supposed 00:36:52.000 –> 00:36:53.000 to impress people. 00:36:55.000 –> 00:36:56.000 But that’s not what the client or our 00:36:56.000 –> 00:36:59.000 customers that’s not why they pay us. They 00:36:59.000 –> 00:37:00.000 pay us for the outcome. 00:37:01.000 –> 00:37:03.000 So what I’ve noticed throughout my what I 00:37:03.000 –> 00:37:05.000 notice throughout my career was a lot of 00:37:05.000 –> 00:37:07.000 people run around very busy engaged in a 00:37:07.000 –> 00:37:08.000 lot of activities, 00:37:08.000 –> 00:37:11.000 but they’re busy for busy’s, you know, sake 00:37:11.000 –> 00:37:11.000 of busyness. 00:37:12.000 –> 00:37:14.000 What I like to challenge people to do 00:37:14.000 –> 00:37:16.000 is identify a handful of things for which 00:37:16.000 –> 00:37:19.000 you’re being judged or you’re held accountable, right, 00:37:19.000 –> 00:37:21.000 that are on your performance appraisal. 00:37:21.000 –> 00:37:23.000 List of tasks that you’re obligated to deliver 00:37:23.000 –> 00:37:26.000 on whatever the time frequency is, weekly, monthly, 00:37:26.000 –> 00:37:26.000 whatever. 00:37:27.000 –> 00:37:28.000 And and then evaluate 00:37:28.000 –> 00:37:30.000 all of your activities 00:37:30.000 –> 00:37:32.000 every meeting you’re participating in. And if those 00:37:32.000 –> 00:37:34.000 meetings and those activities 00:37:34.000 –> 00:37:37.000 don’t directly connect to those outcomes that you’ve 00:37:37.000 –> 00:37:38.000 been assigned, 00:37:38.000 –> 00:37:40.000 or that the outcomes that you’re, you know, 00:37:40.000 –> 00:37:43.000 tasked to deliver, scrutinize them. Why am I 00:37:43.000 –> 00:37:44.000 doing this? Why am I in this meeting? 00:37:44.000 –> 00:37:46.000 Why am I asked to do this, if 00:37:46.000 –> 00:37:48.000 it doesn’t lead to that. There’s a caveat. 00:37:48.000 –> 00:37:51.000 I’m not naive. Compliance. We have legal things. 00:37:51.000 –> 00:37:52.000 There are gut things that we have to 00:37:52.000 –> 00:37:53.000 do that you may not be able to 00:37:53.000 –> 00:37:55.000 draw a straight a straight line. To that 00:37:55.000 –> 00:37:57.000 outcome, but that’s the exception. I think the 00:37:57.000 –> 00:37:58.000 rule should be 00:37:59.000 –> 00:38:01.000 if I’m engaged in something, it should deliver 00:38:01.000 –> 00:38:03.000 or or or or help me deliver my 00:38:03.000 –> 00:38:05.000 outcome and and the cliche that I use 00:38:05.000 –> 00:38:07.000 over and over again is, Brett, I am 00:38:07.000 –> 00:38:09.000 so happy when my Uber driver picks me 00:38:09.000 –> 00:38:11.000 up with a tank full of gas or 00:38:11.000 –> 00:38:12.000 enough gas to get me from a to 00:38:12.000 –> 00:38:14.000 b. But I didn’t pay him or her 00:38:14.000 –> 00:38:16.000 to stop at the gas station before they 00:38:16.000 –> 00:38:18.000 pick me up. I paid for the outcome 00:38:18.000 –> 00:38:20.000 of getting me from a to b. The 00:38:20.000 –> 00:38:21.000 more we focus on the outcomes, I think 00:38:21.000 –> 00:38:23.000 the more earnest we can be in our 00:38:23.000 –> 00:38:25.000 efforts. And, 00:38:25.000 –> 00:38:26.000 I think outcomes 00:38:28.000 –> 00:38:30.000 they they come in a way that is 00:38:30.000 –> 00:38:31.000 more superior 00:38:31.000 –> 00:38:34.000 than than just focused on the busyness. I 00:38:34.000 –> 00:38:35.000 I think that is a that’s a curse 00:38:35.000 –> 00:38:36.000 inside of an organization. 00:38:37.000 –> 00:38:38.000 Trying to stay busy. 00:38:39.000 –> 00:38:41.000 Let’s keep them rocking the last three. 00:38:41.000 –> 00:38:43.000 Here we go. My favorite of all too. 00:38:43.000 –> 00:38:46.000 Number eight is we challenge each other. 00:38:48.000 –> 00:38:49.000 Most organizations, 00:38:50.000 –> 00:38:50.000 challenges 00:38:51.000 –> 00:38:51.000 come 00:38:52.000 –> 00:38:52.000 from here for those listening at home. That 00:38:52.000 –> 00:38:52.000 is the boss 00:38:56.000 –> 00:38:56.000 to the team. 00:38:57.000 –> 00:38:58.000 Occasionally, 00:38:58.000 –> 00:39:00.000 we we encourage challenges, 00:39:01.000 –> 00:39:03.000 within the team, you know, peer to peer, 00:39:03.000 –> 00:39:03.000 occasionally. 00:39:04.000 –> 00:39:06.000 But rarely is the challenge. Are we adamant 00:39:06.000 –> 00:39:09.000 about the challenge? Challenges must also come from 00:39:09.000 –> 00:39:11.000 the team to the leader. Other words, the 00:39:11.000 –> 00:39:14.000 challenges must come from every direction because the 00:39:14.000 –> 00:39:16.000 result of progress, everything 00:39:16.000 –> 00:39:19.000 or anything worth having in this life 00:39:19.000 –> 00:39:22.000 is almost always the result of overcoming one 00:39:22.000 –> 00:39:24.000 or more challenges. Do you wanna lose weight? 00:39:24.000 –> 00:39:26.000 Gotta burn calories. You gotta change diet. Gotta 00:39:26.000 –> 00:39:28.000 workout. Whatever. You wanna learn how to play 00:39:28.000 –> 00:39:29.000 the guitar, 00:39:29.000 –> 00:39:31.000 get lessons, get on YouTube, whatever the scenario 00:39:31.000 –> 00:39:33.000 is for you, you must challenge yourself to 00:39:33.000 –> 00:39:35.000 deliver if I have a solution or a 00:39:35.000 –> 00:39:37.000 position on a topic, I want every good 00:39:37.000 –> 00:39:39.000 idea on the table. I want a meritocracy 00:39:39.000 –> 00:39:41.000 of sorts where people can talk through and 00:39:41.000 –> 00:39:44.000 feel feel obligated almost to challenge one another. 00:39:44.000 –> 00:39:46.000 And when you introduce us into your to 00:39:46.000 –> 00:39:48.000 your to your world, 00:39:49.000 –> 00:39:50.000 a lot of things happen, but the the 00:39:50.000 –> 00:39:52.000 beauty of what I’ve seen firsthand is, 00:39:53.000 –> 00:39:54.000 I’ll go back to 00:39:55.000 –> 00:39:55.000 staff meetings. 00:39:57.000 –> 00:39:59.000 You may relate to this where A staff 00:39:59.000 –> 00:40:01.000 meeting in most environments is the bosses at 00:40:01.000 –> 00:40:03.000 the end of the table, the team around 00:40:03.000 –> 00:40:04.000 the table, and they each go through their 00:40:04.000 –> 00:40:06.000 updates. And everyone on the team is just 00:40:06.000 –> 00:40:08.000 kinda heads down in their phone or on 00:40:08.000 –> 00:40:10.000 their lap top while each other is going 00:40:10.000 –> 00:40:13.000 through their updates. The only person theoretically paying 00:40:13.000 –> 00:40:14.000 attention is the boss and it’s one to 00:40:14.000 –> 00:40:16.000 one, which is a waste of everyone’s time, 00:40:16.000 –> 00:40:18.000 by the way. But when we have an 00:40:18.000 –> 00:40:21.000 environment that is rich and challenged and they’re 00:40:21.000 –> 00:40:23.000 you’re not just allowed to. You’re empowered and 00:40:23.000 –> 00:40:26.000 obligated to issue challenges. You have team members 00:40:26.000 –> 00:40:28.000 start to question 00:40:28.000 –> 00:40:31.000 updates in a healthy and productive way. 00:40:31.000 –> 00:40:32.000 And 00:40:32.000 –> 00:40:34.000 the result of that interaction becomes 00:40:35.000 –> 00:40:37.000 a knowledge share that enables other members on 00:40:38.000 –> 00:40:40.000 of the team to allow to to insert 00:40:40.000 –> 00:40:42.000 their own opinions or experience 00:40:42.000 –> 00:40:44.000 on the topic at hand. Now there is 00:40:44.000 –> 00:40:47.000 one very clear line and rule for we 00:40:47.000 –> 00:40:49.000 number eight, and that is all challenges 00:40:49.000 –> 00:40:51.000 First, they must be done diplomatically, 00:40:51.000 –> 00:40:53.000 but they must be grounded in either data 00:40:53.000 –> 00:40:54.000 and or experience. 00:40:55.000 –> 00:40:56.000 So in other words, I can’t come to 00:40:56.000 –> 00:40:58.000 the staff meeting. Brad, you you start opining 00:40:58.000 –> 00:41:00.000 on something, and I don’t like it just 00:41:00.000 –> 00:41:02.000 simply because it’s my opinion. 00:41:02.000 –> 00:41:04.000 I that’s not a challenge. That’s a complaint. 00:41:05.000 –> 00:41:06.000 But if I say 00:41:06.000 –> 00:41:08.000 Hey. Hey. Hey, Brett. You’re walking us down 00:41:08.000 –> 00:41:10.000 a path somewhere that I’ve actually I’ve been 00:41:10.000 –> 00:41:13.000 here before. In my last role, we, you 00:41:13.000 –> 00:41:14.000 know, we had a product launch similar to 00:41:14.000 –> 00:41:16.000 this, and we stumbled because of x, y, 00:41:16.000 –> 00:41:17.000 and z. You know, as a leader, you 00:41:17.000 –> 00:41:19.000 wanna hear that. You want to, you want 00:41:19.000 –> 00:41:21.000 that information, you want that challenge, you wanna 00:41:21.000 –> 00:41:22.000 be smarter for that interaction. 00:41:22.000 –> 00:41:23.000 So 00:41:23.000 –> 00:41:27.000 challenges have to come via data and or 00:41:27.000 –> 00:41:27.000 experience. 00:41:28.000 –> 00:41:29.000 But we number eight, 00:41:30.000 –> 00:41:31.000 without we numb 00:41:32.000 –> 00:41:35.000 And we number nine is we embrace challenge. 00:41:36.000 –> 00:41:37.000 So in our organization, 00:41:38.000 –> 00:41:40.000 when we establish the environment that is rich 00:41:40.000 –> 00:41:43.000 and challenged, it must be rich in embracing 00:41:43.000 –> 00:41:45.000 those challenges, whether it be from a peer, 00:41:45.000 –> 00:41:47.000 whether it be from the leader, whether it 00:41:47.000 –> 00:41:50.000 be an external force, ever the scenario is, 00:41:50.000 –> 00:41:52.000 we’ve gotta embrace those challenges because if we 00:41:52.000 –> 00:41:54.000 deny them, we’re gonna get lapped, 00:41:55.000 –> 00:41:56.000 because challenges just go away if you look 00:41:56.000 –> 00:41:57.000 the other way. 00:41:58.000 –> 00:42:01.000 And we’ve gotta create this this this kind 00:42:01.000 –> 00:42:01.000 of ethos where 00:42:02.000 –> 00:42:05.000 yep. I’m aware. That sucks. Let’s move on. 00:42:05.000 –> 00:42:07.000 We gotta embrace the challenge and keep trucking. 00:42:09.000 –> 00:42:11.000 Because what happens when we embrace those challenges, 00:42:11.000 –> 00:42:13.000 now we are focused on something other than 00:42:13.000 –> 00:42:15.000 ourselves. We’re focusing on the outcomes. We’re focusing 00:42:15.000 –> 00:42:18.000 on us being better. And not denying the 00:42:18.000 –> 00:42:18.000 challenge. 00:42:19.000 –> 00:42:21.000 So so embracing it at we number nine 00:42:21.000 –> 00:42:22.000 is incredibly important. 00:42:24.000 –> 00:42:26.000 Which takes us to the last week. You’ve 00:42:26.000 –> 00:42:27.000 held on through all ten. 00:42:28.000 –> 00:42:30.000 And I think the ten is the icing 00:42:30.000 –> 00:42:32.000 on the cake that is on because if 00:42:32.000 –> 00:42:34.000 we lead with ten, 00:42:34.000 –> 00:42:36.000 we’re setting ourselves up for failure, and that 00:42:36.000 –> 00:42:39.000 is we obsess over details. It’s the icing 00:42:39.000 –> 00:42:40.000 on the cake, the the bow on the 00:42:40.000 –> 00:42:42.000 present, whatever cliche you wanna use. 00:42:43.000 –> 00:42:45.000 Because I happen to believe in every team 00:42:45.000 –> 00:42:48.000 environment, the level of obsession over the details 00:42:48.000 –> 00:42:52.000 is is akin or synonymous to our obsession 00:42:52.000 –> 00:42:53.000 for satisfying 00:42:53.000 –> 00:42:55.000 our clients, those that we serve. 00:42:56.000 –> 00:42:58.000 You know, things like, consistent use of fonts 00:42:58.000 –> 00:42:58.000 and and spelling and 00:43:01.000 –> 00:43:02.000 presentations 00:43:02.000 –> 00:43:05.000 Like, the, you know, here’s an example I 00:43:05.000 –> 00:43:06.000 love, actually. When’s the last time you opened 00:43:06.000 –> 00:43:07.000 a product from Apple? 00:43:08.000 –> 00:43:10.000 Right? It’s just a sec the tape with 00:43:10.000 –> 00:43:13.000 the arrow on it telling. Right? They put 00:43:13.000 –> 00:43:15.000 engineers in rooms for months on end every 00:43:15.000 –> 00:43:17.000 time there’s a new product launch because they 00:43:17.000 –> 00:43:20.000 want that experience for the customer, the consumer, 00:43:20.000 –> 00:43:23.000 to be wow. Right? So obsessing over those 00:43:23.000 –> 00:43:26.000 details sends the message to our clients. We 00:43:26.000 –> 00:43:28.000 care about you. We care about your experience. 00:43:28.000 –> 00:43:30.000 We care about your impression of our product. 00:43:30.000 –> 00:43:33.000 But, again, all of these principles start from 00:43:33.000 –> 00:43:34.000 behind the 00:43:34.000 –> 00:43:35.000 if we’re 00:43:35.000 –> 00:43:39.000 detail oriented in just on the details behind 00:43:39.000 –> 00:43:41.000 the curtain, we’re just much better positioned to 00:43:41.000 –> 00:43:42.000 have that same paradigm externally. 00:43:43.000 –> 00:43:46.000 So we’ve gotta over details. I developed a 00:43:46.000 –> 00:43:48.000 reputation and even a nickname of the Shredder, 00:43:50.000 –> 00:43:51.000 when I was still in corporate, 00:43:51.000 –> 00:43:53.000 and that would that was because my team 00:43:53.000 –> 00:43:55.000 would you know, give a PowerPoint or their 00:43:55.000 –> 00:43:55.000 presentation, 00:43:57.000 –> 00:44:00.000 whatever the the marketing’s, whatever it was. And, 00:44:01.000 –> 00:44:03.000 I was just the shredder. I would notice 00:44:03.000 –> 00:44:05.000 font size fourteen on page three, but sixteen 00:44:05.000 –> 00:44:07.000 on four. You know, the indentation 00:44:08.000 –> 00:44:09.000 on page seven was different than on than 00:44:09.000 –> 00:44:11.000 on two. And I just think that sends 00:44:11.000 –> 00:44:12.000 a message to the consumer 00:44:13.000 –> 00:44:15.000 that we just threw this shit together. We 00:44:15.000 –> 00:44:17.000 didn’t take a lot of care and put 00:44:17.000 –> 00:44:18.000 this together. So 00:44:18.000 –> 00:44:20.000 So that’s the ten wheeze, and and and 00:44:20.000 –> 00:44:22.000 it just occurred to me. I left out 00:44:22.000 –> 00:44:25.000 a very important intro to this for for 00:44:25.000 –> 00:44:28.000 everyone listening a principle by definitions isn’t my 00:44:28.000 –> 00:44:31.000 term. By definition, a principle is a fundamental 00:44:31.000 –> 00:44:31.000 truth. 00:44:32.000 –> 00:44:34.000 It is our system of beliefs. 00:44:35.000 –> 00:44:37.000 So when a team or group of people 00:44:37.000 –> 00:44:40.000 are aligned, a system of beliefs, we’re all 00:44:40.000 –> 00:44:42.000 on the same page in how 00:44:42.000 –> 00:44:44.000 how we view things are fundamental truths. 00:44:44.000 –> 00:44:47.000 We are just much better and, 00:44:47.000 –> 00:44:47.000 positioned 00:44:48.000 –> 00:44:51.000 in in in the likelihood of success and 00:44:51.000 –> 00:44:51.000 excellence. 00:44:52.000 –> 00:44:54.000 Is dramatically increased because why? 00:44:55.000 –> 00:44:57.000 We have the same fundamental beliefs on who 00:44:57.000 –> 00:44:59.000 we are, how we behave, and what we 00:44:59.000 –> 00:44:59.000 do. 00:45:00.000 –> 00:45:03.000 Strong message, my man. Very strong message. So 00:45:03.000 –> 00:45:05.000 let’s last couple of questions here. What what 00:45:05.000 –> 00:45:07.000 are some habits? If I follow you around 00:45:08.000 –> 00:45:09.000 every day. What are the things I’m gonna 00:45:09.000 –> 00:45:11.000 see the no mis items that Kyle McDowell 00:45:11.000 –> 00:45:13.000 are doing day in and day out? 00:45:14.000 –> 00:45:15.000 Love that question. 00:45:17.000 –> 00:45:18.000 You know, 00:45:18.000 –> 00:45:21.000 I would say regardless of with whom I’m 00:45:21.000 –> 00:45:21.000 interacting, 00:45:23.000 –> 00:45:26.000 the most junior, newest person to the c 00:45:26.000 –> 00:45:26.000 level, 00:45:27.000 –> 00:45:28.000 executive in their office, 00:45:29.000 –> 00:45:30.000 my level of authenticity, 00:45:32.000 –> 00:45:34.000 and my commitment glimpse never waivers. 00:45:35.000 –> 00:45:37.000 Now the way I interact with those different 00:45:37.000 –> 00:45:38.000 audiences, 00:45:38.000 –> 00:45:40.000 it could be different. And you would you 00:45:40.000 –> 00:45:42.000 would see that because I believe relatability 00:45:42.000 –> 00:45:44.000 is a key component. I I I always 00:45:44.000 –> 00:45:45.000 say relatability, 00:45:46.000 –> 00:45:47.000 plus authenticity 00:45:47.000 –> 00:45:48.000 equals trust. 00:45:49.000 –> 00:45:51.000 Yeah. So if I’m relatable to those with 00:45:51.000 –> 00:45:52.000 whom I interact, 00:45:53.000 –> 00:45:55.000 And they see that I’m really being true 00:45:55.000 –> 00:45:57.000 to who I am, every interaction regardless of 00:45:57.000 –> 00:45:58.000 the topic, 00:45:59.000 –> 00:46:01.000 trust is gained. At least it’s easier to 00:46:01.000 –> 00:46:03.000 gain. So you’ll see a guy that is, 00:46:04.000 –> 00:46:07.000 really focused on improving the employee experience focused 00:46:07.000 –> 00:46:08.000 on improving 00:46:08.000 –> 00:46:09.000 the work life, 00:46:10.000 –> 00:46:12.000 for for as many people who will hear 00:46:12.000 –> 00:46:13.000 me out, 00:46:13.000 –> 00:46:16.000 because you probably know this, man. We spend 00:46:16.000 –> 00:46:19.000 ninety thousand hours on average in a lifetime 00:46:19.000 –> 00:46:20.000 working. 00:46:20.000 –> 00:46:22.000 The only thing we do more is sleep. 00:46:22.000 –> 00:46:23.000 That’s it. 00:46:23.000 –> 00:46:25.000 So if we’re gonna spend so much time, 00:46:25.000 –> 00:46:28.000 you know, essentially the the number one thing, 00:46:28.000 –> 00:46:30.000 of our waking hours doing this thing called 00:46:30.000 –> 00:46:32.000 work, shouldn’t it be rewarding? 00:46:33.000 –> 00:46:35.000 Shouldn’t it be the best experience? It can 00:46:35.000 –> 00:46:37.000 be the most impactful, the most fulfilling. Now 00:46:37.000 –> 00:46:40.000 please don’t mishear me. I’m not naive. There’s 00:46:40.000 –> 00:46:42.000 a difference between a job and a career. 00:46:42.000 –> 00:46:44.000 We’ve all had jobs that enabled us to 00:46:44.000 –> 00:46:46.000 launch our career. They were stepping stone to 00:46:46.000 –> 00:46:47.000 something bigger. 00:46:48.000 –> 00:46:49.000 But I think even 00:46:49.000 –> 00:46:52.000 you know, with all respect to to anyone 00:46:52.000 –> 00:46:54.000 flipping a burger, but even someone that flips 00:46:54.000 –> 00:46:55.000 a burger and slides it across the counter 00:46:55.000 –> 00:46:56.000 to somebody, 00:46:57.000 –> 00:47:00.000 They deserve fulfillment. They deserve to see the 00:47:00.000 –> 00:47:01.000 smile on the face of the person on 00:47:01.000 –> 00:47:03.000 the other end of that transaction. And the, 00:47:03.000 –> 00:47:05.000 I think, the, the, the best way to 00:47:05.000 –> 00:47:07.000 secure that type of fulfillment 00:47:07.000 –> 00:47:09.000 is to go at it as a team, 00:47:09.000 –> 00:47:12.000 not just me collecting my paycheck. And I 00:47:12.000 –> 00:47:14.000 think as we as we matriculate through our 00:47:14.000 –> 00:47:16.000 careers, and that that that journey, whether I’m 00:47:16.000 –> 00:47:18.000 a leader of fifteen thousand people or not 00:47:18.000 –> 00:47:19.000 a leader of anybody at all. I’m just 00:47:19.000 –> 00:47:20.000 leading myself. 00:47:21.000 –> 00:47:23.000 The value that comes with this paradigm is 00:47:24.000 –> 00:47:24.000 is profound. 00:47:25.000 –> 00:47:27.000 It’s awesome. And I love your passion, Kyle. 00:47:27.000 –> 00:47:29.000 I love it, brother. Working our listeners find 00:47:29.000 –> 00:47:30.000 more of you. 00:47:33.000 –> 00:47:36.000 So I’m on, essentially, every, social form of 00:47:36.000 –> 00:47:39.000 the same handle of at Kyle McDowell Inc. 00:47:39.000 –> 00:47:42.000 My website is kyle mcdowell inc dot com. 00:47:42.000 –> 00:47:43.000 And I think you mentioned it at the 00:47:43.000 –> 00:47:45.000 top, but, shameless plug. 00:47:46.000 –> 00:47:48.000 The book is Begin with We, and it’s 00:47:48.000 –> 00:47:50.000 available worldwide bookstores everywhere. 00:47:51.000 –> 00:47:53.000 I’m actually kind of partial to the audio 00:47:53.000 –> 00:47:53.000 version. 00:47:54.000 –> 00:47:55.000 I think it’s got a little more energy 00:47:55.000 –> 00:47:57.000 than just the the page turning, but that’s 00:47:57.000 –> 00:47:59.000 that’s that’s that’s me. And, man, I say 00:47:59.000 –> 00:48:01.000 this on every podcast, 00:48:01.000 –> 00:48:03.000 every regardless of the of the venue or 00:48:03.000 –> 00:48:05.000 format, I would love to hear from your 00:48:05.000 –> 00:48:07.000 listeners. And I mean that whether it be 00:48:07.000 –> 00:48:09.000 a problem they’re facing inside the workplace or 00:48:09.000 –> 00:48:11.000 they’re trying to level up their leadership or 00:48:11.000 –> 00:48:13.000 they just wanna have more impact and find 00:48:13.000 –> 00:48:16.000 greater fulfillment, and anything that they do hit 00:48:16.000 –> 00:48:19.000 me. I’m here. I I I respond to 00:48:19.000 –> 00:48:20.000 nearly every single 00:48:20.000 –> 00:48:22.000 inquiry that I get because it just matters 00:48:22.000 –> 00:48:24.000 to me that much. And again, I’d be 00:48:24.000 –> 00:48:25.000 a hypocrite something less than authentic if I 00:48:25.000 –> 00:48:27.000 didn’t do that. Love it, man. Well, thanks 00:48:27.000 –> 00:48:29.000 so much, Kyle, for your time. It’s been 00:48:29.000 –> 00:48:31.000 awesome having you at the ten wies or, 00:48:31.000 –> 00:48:31.000 I mean, 00:48:32.000 –> 00:48:33.000 if people don’t take notes on that stuff 00:48:33.000 –> 00:48:35.000 and then implement it, you know. I got 00:48:35.000 –> 00:48:36.000 a buddy that listens as a high school 00:48:36.000 –> 00:48:38.000 basketball coach 00:48:38.000 –> 00:48:40.000 crushing it there. I mean, why why would 00:48:40.000 –> 00:48:41.000 we not have our ten wies? Right? Whether 00:48:41.000 –> 00:48:43.000 your culture’s in a locker room or your 00:48:43.000 –> 00:48:45.000 board room or the the athletic field or 00:48:45.000 –> 00:48:47.000 at home, man, we gotta have our ten 00:48:47.000 –> 00:48:48.000 wheeze. 00:48:51.000 –> 00:48:53.000 Bingo. Bingo, Brett. And that’s been the unintended 00:48:54.000 –> 00:48:55.000 by product that I’m 00:48:55.000 –> 00:48:58.000 really proud of is how the ten Wes 00:48:58.000 –> 00:48:58.000 have 00:48:59.000 –> 00:49:01.000 manifested and kind of transitioned beyond just the 00:49:01.000 –> 00:49:03.000 corporate world and business 00:49:03.000 –> 00:49:05.000 I’m I’m working with two different school districts 00:49:06.000 –> 00:49:06.000 right now. 00:49:09.000 –> 00:49:10.000 The team that 00:49:10.000 –> 00:49:13.000 chess team, bowling team. We’re it doesn’t matter. 00:49:13.000 –> 00:49:14.000 A team is a team. And if we 00:49:14.000 –> 00:49:17.000 subscribe to a series of beliefs, we are 00:49:17.000 –> 00:49:17.000 just 00:49:18.000 –> 00:49:19.000 there’s not a lot we can’t do together. 00:49:19.000 –> 00:49:21.000 So I I love the connection you just 00:49:21.000 –> 00:49:22.000 made, 00:49:22.000 –> 00:49:24.000 in the sports world. I love it. Well, 00:49:24.000 –> 00:49:25.000 hey, I may I may holler at you, 00:49:25.000 –> 00:49:27.000 man. Have you come virtually 00:49:27.000 –> 00:49:29.000 speak to our soccer team. We got one 00:49:29.000 –> 00:49:31.000 more big game on Friday, and then we’re 00:49:31.000 –> 00:49:32.000 gonna, you know, keep this train going trying 00:49:32.000 –> 00:49:34.000 to get to state again. We’ll holler at 00:49:34.000 –> 00:49:37.000 you. Let’s go. Alright, Kyle. It’s been awesome 00:49:37.000 –> 00:49:39.000 having you, man. And, thanks so much for 00:49:39.000 –> 00:49:41.000 being on the circle of success.

On this episode of Circuit of Success, host Brett Gilliland interviews Nick Hutchison about his approach to reading, goal planning, and daily routines. Nick explains his SMART goal framework and how he quantifies his goals in an activity tracker. He also emphasizes the importance of failure and iteration in achieving success and recommends three books that have had a major impact on his life. Join Nick’s active community on Instagram, Book Thinkers, and learn how to choose, take notes, retain, and implement the knowledge from books. https://youtu.be/5OG1lzj4-GA Speaker Brett Gilliland: Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I am your host, Brett Gilliland. I’ve got Nick Hutchison with me, Nick. What’s going on? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Brett, I’m excited for the conversation. Can I ask you question number one? Speaker Brett Gilliland: You may. Speaker Nick Hutchison: What is your favorite book of all time? Speaker Brett Gilliland: Oh, what is my favorite book of all time? I always tell people the rhythm of life by Matthew Kelly. That is my favorite book and, it was book I got recommended gash probably twelve years ago, maybe. And, it was a game changer for me. So that would be it. The rhythm of life of Matthew Kelly. What do you think? Speaker Nick Hutchison: I love it. Here we just. We just Oh, I haven’t I haven’t read that book yet. I do own a Matthew Kelly book. It’s not that one. And it was a book that I had read a number of years ago, but, I love to hear it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Awesome. Yeah. It’s a great book, man. So check it out. So you are, the force behind book thinkers people that listen to podcasts, they hear me talk about, you know, every day reading ten pages minimally. That’ll get me around twenty four to twenty five books a year. Which I know I just interviewed somebody yesterday and he had read eighty five books. I’m like, okay, I feel like a total schmuck now. But anyway, twenty four to twenty five books a year is pretty good for me, but Anyway, that’s what I like to do. Our people connected with your people, and, now here we are. So if we can, but we dive into all this great stuff, Nick, I always ask the question is, what has made you the man you are today? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, I was not much of a reader growing up with would super they can see the background. So I’ve got, like, a thousand books behind me, and I read about a hundred books a year. Wow. When I was going into my senior year of college, I took an internship at a local software company, and My boss at the time, he recognized that I had about a one hour commute each way. And he said to me something like, Nick, listening to the same playlist the same music for the one thousandth time. Like, it’s not gonna get you closer to where you wanna be in life. But the right, personal development podcast might And so that’s how I started. I started by listening to podcasts. And what I noticed was that so many of the successful people being interviewed, they gave at least some credit for their success to the books that they were reading. And so that’s what made me the man I am today. I started consuming personal development books. I started reading about every problem I had, every skill I wanted to develop, I started reading about the world’s best at everything, health, wealth, in Gilliland I started to input something from Ren. Here I am about ten years later, five hundred books in and You can’t stop me now. Speaker Brett Gilliland: That’s awesome, man. It’s true. I I call it windshield university. It’s, you know, we have so much time in our cars whether you’re commuting or driving you know, whatever you’re doing. You know, let’s let’s get another university. Let’s get another degree. Right? And so I think it’s it’s huge. So here’s my question for you on the, you know, read a hundred books already this year, I think you said, is how, like, how are you doing that number one and how are you committing the time to it with a, you know, with a busy schedule? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, I like to start by asking people this. So sometimes people will tell me, like, hey, I can’t read. And I love to say, If I paid you ten thousand dollars to read a book by the end of the month, do you think you could do it? And they’re like, Yes. Well, I could read five in that case. And so it’s not a question of whether or not we can read. It’s a question of whether or not we value it enough to prioritize it in our calendar. So for me, not only is it my full time job now, which helps me to promote books for authors. But I value it. I value it more than Netflix, more than social media. I value it more than a lot of things that other people spend their time doing. I’m always looking to serve my future self. I’m always looking to remove pain and solve problems. I’m looking to develop skills and get closer to my potential. So that’s how I’m able to prioritize it and find so much time. And just like you talked about, ten to twenty pages a day, that’s twenty five books a year, even for beginner. So, yeah, it’s it’s a great way to make it happen. Yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Because I, you know, I hear people all the time when I talk about my ten pages thing. Like, oh, I don’t have time, and and but I think you’re right. It’s a priority. You know, so I I have it whether it’s in the middle of the day I gotta get it in. It’s usually it’s first thing in the morning. It’s about one of the first things I do. And so I’ve just made it a habit. I think that we’ve got to. And the things that I’ve learned and even the thoughts that come into my mind about something, whatever’s going on in my life in that situation, this thing I’m reading over here will help fertilize that. Right? And you just add some water to it and then that thing starts to grow. And for me, it’s thinking it’s journaling and spending time on it. So I’m curious because one of your passions and one of the things I wrote down in here is your new book rise of the reader, which comes out November first. Plug intended. We’ll talk about that later, but you you really dive in the strategies for mastering your reading habits. But then also applying what you learn. So I’m curious on how we do that. How do we apply what we’ve learned when we read every day? Speaker Nick Hutchison: There are so many different strategies for application that we can talk about, but I think it all starts in the in the early stages of your reading process. So for me, one of the things that I found myself doing that most other people don’t do is I set an intention for each book that I read. And my intention follows the smart goal framework. So it’s specific. It’s measurable. It’s attainable. It’s irrelevant to my life. To my lips, I’m emotionally connected, and it’s time bound. So one of the books that A lot of people are reading right now in the world of business is titled hundred million dollar leads, by Alex or Mozy. And they’re it’s a book on lead generation and they’re just hoping that it’s going to change their life. And so instead, I say set a smart goal. Set an intention for the book, something like find and implement at least two lead generation strategies for my business by the end of October. And then review that intention each time you read a few more pages so that you can tell your brain what to filter for. Find and implement at least two lead generation strategies. Now you’ll be able to accurately identify them within the book, and the book can help you solve your problems. I think it all starts with setting an intention and have that attention based on taking action. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I love that because that’s what we do with our clients. You know, we’re in a wealth management space, and it’s it’s they’d be like us saying, hey, just come in, and we’re just gonna start saving money with no intention on where going and no goal, that would be crazy. Right? And so I’ve never really thought of it that way as to have an intention for the book. I’m a big highlighter. Right? Like, to highlight the books. I like to read the actual book, not, you know, on my iPad or something like that. And so so how do you for people that maybe don’t have that discipline built today, they’re not doing the ten pages, they’re not reading a hundred books a year. What advice would you have for them to take action and start making it part of their life. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. I would say pause for five minutes before you start the book. And at this point, you should know what the book is about and set a goal set a goal to implement at least one thing from the book. So by the time you’re finished with the book, you’ve highlighted a few potential actions that you can take with your highlighter just like you talk about. And look at those actions, write them down rewriting your favorite takeaways as a form of repetition Gilliland repetition leads to our attention. So look at these potential takeaways and say, which one of these is going to lead to most of the change that I’m looking at create. Take action on it. There’s a Napoleon Hill quote that I love. It says action is the real measure of intelligence. It’s not sitting back and debating things and having a great vocabulary. It’s the person who chooses to implement what they have learned creates a behavior change, turns it into a habit, and then wakes up as a wildly different person ten years from now. And so that’s it. Just one thing from every single book that you read. Speaker Brett Gilliland: And are you writing those down? Are you are you a writer downer guy? Are you a journal guy? Like, how are you how are you doing that? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. So, typically, I will let’s say I read a book on lead generation using that example, and I’ve set an intention to find and implement at least two things. I’ll probably fifteen potentials. So at the end of the book, I go through and I reread those fifteen things that I highlight. And I will rewrite all of them into a list. And I’ll say, here are the potential actions that I can take. What twenty percent of these will create eighty percent the change that I’m looking for. The highest leveraged activities, not every activity is created equal. And then I I mean, and I detail all this in the book. It would get a little bit complicated to try to explain about. I have an activity tracker that I will plug those activities in And I’ll set a goal to implement that by the end of the week or in the next two weeks or three weeks. And so it gets rewritten into a second place But, yeah, I think that writing with the pen in your hand, it’s multi sensory. It’s visual. You can feel it happening. And again, repetition leads to retention. So you wanna rewrite it a couple of times once on paper, second time into my tracker. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. So if we’re not reading, are you would you call yourself a big goal planner? Just again, eliminate the reading side of this thing. Are you a huge, huge goal planner? Speaker Nick Hutchison: I would say, yes. I have been over the last ten years. I’m probably a little bit less today than I was. No. You know what? No. Scratch that. Yes. I am. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Let’s define that. How are you a huge gold planner? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, everything’s quantified in my life. And I I will say, that doesn’t sound fun, but Jocko Willink said it best. Gilliland creates freedom. Discipline equals freedom. And so by defining my goals in my activity tracker for every week, and my goals are related to everything, not just business. So goals around Gilliland the gym and fitness and diet, goals around my relationship, certain number of date nights every week, etcetera. Goals around my business and my personal finances and things like that. Everything’s quantified because without measurement, you don’t know if you’re making progress. I see you have to stand your and where you’re at. And so I set goals, incremental improvements. I set annual goals for my business and we track against them. I mean, I have all sorts of goals. So, yeah, I’m definitely a goal planner. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I love it. What what what have you learned about a disappointment slash failure slash you know, swinging and missing all that stuff from the business world. Talk you know, we talk about success all the time on the circuit of success, but let’s talk about this circuit of failure too because I know for me some of my toughest times have been my best learnings. So what what are some of those that you feel like sharing today? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, I’ve learned that the US public education system has it backwards because when I was younger, I was taught that failure was a bad thing. I was taught to avoid failure, avoid criticism, and I was never really coached. Right? But then I started playing sports. And in sports, when you make an error, or you have an issue, or you miss a block or whatever, your coach comes over and tells you how to handle it better next time. And I think that’s what happens in business. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Right. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Fail and you and you iterate, you make progress. And so I’ve learned that failure’s the best. Failure’s amazing. If you feel fast and you feel a hard at full speed, and you’re always changing direction and iterating. Like, that’s where the magic happens. And, you know, that’s why my business has grown so much over the last couple of years. Speaker Brett Gilliland: When you look at your growth and you look at the talking about the funnels and the leads and and all that stuff, I mean, one branding’s important. But number two, how are you getting out there and making sure people are seeing your stuff? Like, what what’s the secret sauce in there, if you will, to help people learn from you and and how you’ve grown your business. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. We do about a million organic impressions a month on Instagram right now. And it’s because we create valuable content. I think that’s the hack. I you you have to be of service and you have to provide value to your audience. I mean, on top of that, at, I’m network with a lot of names in the space. And so I sort of borrow their credibility, and I display that in front of my community, and you know, they’re re sharing content and we’re providing value to them. So that kinda helps a lot. You know, getting in front of an audience that’s already been created that sort of mirrors your audiences is a good way to make that happen too. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I saw that. You had, people on your podcast, Grant Cardone Lewis House, Alex Armozy. I mean, those are some big names. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. Absolutely. So we just try to provide value to those guys and then in return, try to get in front of their audience a little bit. As a result. And, they all have big audiences, and they spend a lot of money to build those audiences. So it’s a great way to get in front of more people. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So what you asked me about my favorite book? I’ll I’ll ask you that question here in a second, but I find myself if I’m not engaged in a book, I I I committed in April two thousand sixteen to start reading cover to cover because I was the guy that had the book on the nightstand I’d read twenty, thirty pages. It’s kinda bored, and then it would stay the nightstand for a while, then it goes in the drawer, and then you never see the book again. Right? I’m like, I’m done with this. I gotta read cover to cover. So I find myself sometimes struggling with reading a full book if I’m not totally engaged with it. And I still do it, but it takes me longer than I should, and that’s probably why I don’t read more books. So what is your process like with that? If you’re forty pages in and the book sucks in your opinion, what are you doing with it? Speaker Nick Hutchison: There’s a a great rule called the rule of one hundred. So it says, take the number one hundred, subtract your age, And that’s how many pages you have to read before you can put down a book. So for me, I’m twenty nine. I have to read at least seventy one pages before I can put down a bad book. It’s just a rule of framework to make sure that you kinda stay consistent. The older you get, the less you have to read because the wiser you have become. So I think about it like that. I think life is too short to read a bad book and to force yourself all the way through it. I used to read cover to cover every single word, realize, like, I’m not optimizing for finishing a book. That’s not the goal. The goal is to implement something. And if this book isn’t gonna be it for me, like, I thought it was gonna solve a problem, and it’s clearly not going to. Like, I’ve given my my self the space to move on these days. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. I like that. So I gotta read fifty five pages in a book basically before I give up on it. Yep. Speaker Nick Hutchison: There you go. Speaker Brett Gilliland: It’s about where I’m at anyway. I’m forty five. So fifty five. We’re good to go. Yeah, but it’s in this, like, man, it sucks. I want that book. I, you know, I put them all in my bookshelf I’ve got them labeled to the year they are, and, you know, I wanna read it cover to cover, and now I gotta do I just wasted my time. You know, it’s I’m competitive, and I like to check the box that I’ve read that book. Any good apps, any good apps Speaker Nick Hutchison: that you recommend people use to help with reading or like meeting Speaker Brett Gilliland: tracking it and and keeping score? Speaker Nick Hutchison: You know, I’ve actually tried to build some, in the past because I don’t love any of the ones that are currently out there. Better. I’m not a fan of good reads, not a fan of, any of the book summary applications. But I for note taking, I do use Evernote. So I think Evernote’s a great platform for categorizing my favorite takeaways from some of the books that I’ve read. My use of the platform has gone up and down over time, but, yeah, that’s that’s a great app. And then, you know, for for, in general, for making sure that you read, just set a daily reminder. Like, if you’re waking up at seven and you wanna get your ten pages done in the morning, just Hey, Siri. Set a goal for reading ten pages every morning and remind me at 7AM or whatever. And, like, those little nudges will help you will help you be consistent. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. I use the app Basmo. Have you heard of that one? No. Yeah. So I think it’s let me confirm that. That’s what it is in my phone here. So it is called, yeah, Basmo, b a s m o. It’s like a yearly fee, but you put all your books in that you’re reading, and it’ll tell you what percentage you’re at, having it done, it’ll you you basically set your timer when you start, when you finish, you just talk about what page you’re on, and it will tell you, you know, how many words per minute you’re reading, how many pages per minute you’re reading, tell me, Hey, based on this speed of reading, you’ll finish this book in, whatever, two hours and seventeen minutes, and then it’s just got a library all the books I’ve read this year, which has been kinda cool as you can look back on it, and you can take pictures, you can write notes. So I found that to be pretty helpful. I like that. So maybe could just take that idea and then, build your own, and then we’ll, we’ll sell it on here. Everybody, everybody will use it. Sound good? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. That sounds good. I’m I’ll look that up Basmo. I’m surprised that I’ve heard of it before. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I don’t even know where I heard about it, but, I I’ve been using it for probably six months, and I really like it. What what are the habits? If I would follow you besides again reading, if I follow you around with the camera every day, what am I gonna see the no miss a successful business owner impacting a lot of people. What are you doing day in and day out? First thing I do when I wake up is Speaker Nick Hutchison: outside, and I get some sight. And that’s with my dog. So we go on a walk. Most mornings, it’s forty five minute walk. There’s a trail near my house, and we get some fresh air. We get the blood moving. We drink water, and we get sunlight before caffeine. Then we go home, he gets fed and we go to the gym. So my wife is with me too. We go to the gym. We exercise And, I think it’s important to get those exercise endorphins flowing before your day gets kicked off. So I focus a lot on strength and mobility right now. Flexibility has been important for me. And then I come home, do a twenty minute transcendental meditation, front of my red light. Like, it all sounds kind of funny, but I’m one of those guys that’s really into biohacking and routines and everything like that. Shower, caffeine, reading, and then my day starts around 10AM, with a with a hold that I have with my team every days. So the things that I don’t miss every single day of the week, and they’re all the they’re all the the kind of like foundation things for my energy. I also don’t eat until 12:00. So I practice intermittent fasting normally once a week or couple times a month, I’ll do a longer fast as well. So I’m into all of that stuff. I think energy preservation, energy optimization, those are some of the things that I focus on with my routines. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So what are you what are you learning about the red light? I’ve been debating on one of those. I I’ve got a sauna at home and I was thinking about putting one of those in my sauna. I’ve got the lights and all that stuff, but it’s not the true red light therapy. So, Speaker Nick Hutchison: What are what Speaker Brett Gilliland: are you liking about that? And do you actually feel any different? Are you seeing anything different with that? Speaker Nick Hutchison: I’ve been using it daily for about six Hutchison. And I can’t I I will say that I’ve you know, I’m in the gym every day. Sometimes they’ll tweak something or a muscle. Is slightly fast. Some benefits as far as skin and stuff like that. Like, it’ll it’ll stimulate collagen production. I haven’t noticed anything with my skin, but that’s supposed to be a long term benefit. And, yeah, I have a sauna in my house too. We’re not as good at getting the sauna session in every day as we could be. We normally sauna on the weekends, but you know, I and then during certain seasons, more winter than anything, we’re cold plunging. So, yeah, I do all that kind of stuff. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Yeah. Cold punching never gets easy, man. It’s freaking terrible, wouldn’t it? Speaker Nick Hutchison: It is. Yeah. And I’ll tell you what, though. Like, I I enjoy cold punching. So I just have a tub outside, and I fill it with ebbs, some salt water, and and we clean the water every so often. And in Boston, it gets really cold. So there’s a great period of time for, like, three months where the water sits at thirty three degrees. There’s a layer of ice on top and you gotta get in for a few minutes and, like, I I love it. I I really do love it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: I love that you love it because it’s like, I I love it too. Like once I get out and once the initial shock, and I don’t know if you I’m sure you’ve done this, but I actually videotate myself getting in at one time and just I’ve never I never thought I could make facial expressions like debt my life. I’m like, this is hell. This is exactly what hell has to be like other than it’s hot, not cold, but it’s just brutal. But but again, it is the one thing I was just having this conversation with somebody there today. It is the one thing where I feel drastically different when I’m done. Would you agree with that? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Oh, yeah. Your endorphins are through the roof, and you’re just your dopamine spikes and it lasts for a while. Like, feel like a million bucks. I agree. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Yeah. It’s amazing. What what is the thing if I if I were to steal your cell phone from you? Is there anything in there that, you know, besides the normal music, email, stuff like that calendar, Is there anything app or any kind of hack thing that you use to be productive and live your best life on your phone that you wouldn’t want me to delete? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yes. I have an app called Onesec. Have you heard of this? Speaker Brett Gilliland: I have not. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Okay. So I’ll I’ll demonstrate it live for you. So it it basically stops any impulse use of social media. So when I click Instagram, up on the screen here. Watch what happens. It says, oh, it’s time to take a deep breath. It makes me breathe in. Speaker Brett Gilliland: And it Speaker Nick Hutchison: makes me breathe out. And it says, Hey, you’ve tried to access Instagram nineteen times in the last twenty four hours. And then it makes you press the button. Do you actually wanna use Instagram or do you not need it right now? And so it stops the impulsivity. Like, oftentimes, I’ll click it when I’m just waiting in line for something, and then I’ll be like, you know what? No. I don’t need Instagram right now. And so that saved me a heck of a lot of time. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So on one sec, so that is, like, basically an overlay on your phone. So if it is it any app, or is it just the ones you kinda pick and choose which one to do? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. It’s any app on your phone, and there’s tons of other rules. So there’s actually an app, that comes pre installed with iPhone, but most people delete it. Let’s see. It’s called I forget where I tucked this thing. It’s Gilliland, and shortcuts. And so the app Oh, yeah. That integrates with shortcuts. And it you can you can integrate one sec with any other app. So, like, and then you can determine how long the break is, and there’s all sorts of rules. So, the one sec app has a tutorial in it about how to set it up with any app, and that’s what I do. Speaker Brett Gilliland: I love that. That’s a game changer, man. I’m gonna get that. And, the Gilliland boys are gonna get a new app installed their phone. And so when they see they’ve tried to get on TikTok for the nine hundredth time in the last twenty four hours, right, that this will make them take a deep breath and and rethink if they actually wanna do that. So, that’s awesome, man. What, talk to us about the journey, the grind. I mean, what what do you love about it? What do you dislike about it? What can you share with our listeners there? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, I love everything about it. I really do. I mean, failure is part of the process struggle as part of the process. And when you expect it to happen, it doesn’t surprise you. So I I what do I try to optimize for? I want to enjoy the passage of time. And for me, part of that is failure, part of it is growth, part of it is It’s being uncomfortable. And so I enjoy it. Like, I expect it. And as a result, it happens. And and it doesn’t surprise I’m just out here loving my life. I’m out here, build having fun and positively impacting people, and those are the things that I’m optimizing for. So, you know, I use these books like a cheat code, like a shortcut. I mean, they condensed decades of somebody else’s lived experience in two days of consumption. And, you know, I joke around. I’m not twenty nine years old. I’m thousands of years old if you include all the books that I’ve read. So, yeah, that’s the magic. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So talk about this book rise of the reader, man. It’s coming out November first two thousand twenty three. Talk to our listeners about this book. It’s gonna be awesome. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. I just over the years of building my community on social media, I’ve received the same questions thousands of times. Like, how do I choose the right book? How do I take great notes? How do I retain more from the books? How do I implement more from the books? And so what I did was I documented my entire process every little detail, from how do I choose these books to how do they implement it? How do I track? That behavior. So it’s all in the book, Rise of Reader. And again, if you choose to read this, you’ll get more from the other books that you’re reading. That’s the promise. Speaker Brett Gilliland: I like that. And, working our listeners find more of it. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. If you go to book thinkers, so spell just like it sounds book thinkers on Instagram, That’s for most active community. Like I said, we do about impressions a month over there, and and that’s where you can connect with a ton of cool people. And then from there, there are links in the bio to the book and to our websites and everything else. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So book thinkers, Go on there now. We’re gonna Speaker Nick Hutchison: do a little. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. We have a little fun. There we are. Alright. We’re gonna play a little game here. Pick a number between one and ten. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Seven. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Alright. Now between one and three, Speaker Nick Hutchison: two. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Alright. Since this books help you this book helps you develop and implement and it’s atomic habits by, James Clear. So talk to us about that. What made you make that post right there? Speaker Nick Hutchison: Well, I don’t manage our Instagram channel anymore, but atomic habits has has told atomic habits has sold ten million copies since it came out. Clearly, people have an issue controlling their own behavior. And so they’re looking for habit creation, how to undo bad habits, how to install good habits, And atomic habits is the best. I mean, James Clear wrote a very simple actionable book. Almost everybody that reads it finds something of value in it. And I think, like, there’s a great quote from the book that I’ve I’ve always remembered. James says something like, every action you take today is a vote for the person you’re becoming. And so if you want if you want a different to take different actions today. You have to change your votes, and that book will help you do it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: That. I mean, you got a lot of people I follow on here. You got like twenty seven, mutual followers. So that’s, it’s good stuff. I like this. Talk about fears, man. How many of the, I mean, the fears you’ve put in your mind have actually blown up to the magnitude you put them in your mind to be? Speaker Nick Hutchison: None of them. I think, we spend a lot of time. Yeah. We spend a lot of time. We spend a lot of time creating fake stories and amplifying fake situations that never come to fruition, and that holds us back in a big way. So Yeah. I when I was younger, I had a lot of social anxiety. I had a lot of fear. I even had fear in sports when I was growing Gilliland none of it ever came to fruition. But, the more you grow and the more uncomfortable you are, the the less uncomfortable you become, I think. Like, through exposure, you become desensitized to things that previously created fear. So Yeah. And again, I think I just failure is part of the process. So you can’t let it surprise you. You can’t and failure is so beautiful. Like, so optimistic because it teaches you what not to do and that gets you what a little bit closer to what to do. So yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: How do you so how what do you say to that person that’s listening this right now? And they’re like, whatever, man. You’re full of, you know, whatever, Nick. It’s not beautiful. It it it sucks. You know, I don’t know if I’m gonna make, you know, I I just had this happen today, a business owner. It’s like, man, I laid in bed all night last night, you know, I’m in this spot. Know, he’s stressed. He’s thinking about some stuff financially. Gilliland, you know, so that guy probably isn’t gonna agree in that moment when you’re up all night and you’re stressed out it’s beautiful. It’s easy to say and I agree with you. So I’m not I’m not saying I don’t agree with you, but but but how? How does it become beautiful? How do you when it does suck really bad in the moment? How do you get out of it and try to spend that thinking to where it’s beautiful? I Speaker Nick Hutchison: say a couple of things. Oftentimes, we think that our pain is unique to us. But the reality is about a hundred billion people have lived before us. A hundred billion history of humanity. Millions of those people have documented their life experience in the form of a book. So they’ve condensed to decades of lived experience, everything they did to overcome their problems, and they put it all in the book right there for you. Thousands of those books are probably related to the same problems that that person is facing today, your client. Yeah. And so if you can slow things down, realize that it’s not unique to anybody goes through this. But the road map, there is a solution. Other people have found a way to solve this same problem, the financial anxiety, the scarcity mindset, whatever it is. And if you can spend twenty dollars in a few hours of your time and slow things down, you can avoid dealing with that for the rest of your life by reading and implementing the right book. Set another way, if you deal with something on a daily basis, over the next thirty years, you’ll deal with it eleven thousand times, three hundred and sixty five times thirty. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Mhmm. Speaker Nick Hutchison: So spend the next hundred days figuring it out so that the next ten thousand nine hundred days, you don’t have to deal with it. I would I would say be more logical, less emotional, like, talk about these facts. Yeah, it does stink. Like, I’ve been in a lot of bad situations with business where I didn’t know if I was gonna make payroll or or whatever. Now I think when those situations pop up, I just have the experience of having gone I’m through it so many that it’s just like, this is part of the pro. Other people have it worse. Like, they say comparison is the thief of joy. I think comparison creates joy when you look at people that are in worse circumstances. So I use that tool a lot as well to kinda slow things down. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I think that’s great perspective, man, and great wisdom, actually. It it because I agree. When I started this podcast six and a half years ago, I asked that I’ve asked that question to three hundred plus people. Right? I mean, the fears you put in your mind blow up to the magnitude you put them in your mind would be. Most of them do exactly what you did. You smile, you say zero. And for me, that’s built this massive belief that the fears I’ve put in my mind over my lifetime, I can say none of them have come true. Right? And I can also say the three hundred plus people, the the hundreds of books I’ve read, you’re learning from that, man. So like the podcast you read, the people you surround yourself with, the books you read. Those Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. Absolutely. Sorry. I know our internet connection is going in just a little bit. But Yes. Speaker Brett Gilliland: It is. Sorry. I don’t know why that is. Speaker Nick Hutchison: I mean, yes. All good. Yes. Absolutely. And I read a book a number of years ago called The Top Five Regrets of The Dying by Bronnie Ware. And she was an end of life is an end of life palliative care nurse. Meaning, she would spend the last couple of weeks or maybe days with somebody before they passed away talking with them. Helping them transition. And she realized that everybody dies with a ton of regret. And the number one regret is essentially living a life based on other people’s expectations of them instead of their own, like playing smaller game, not taking risk, ending up wishing they’d and I just won’t accept that for myself. Like, I think the pain of regret hurts a lot more than the pain of fear or or being uncomfortable in the short term. Right? Like, in order to to to live my dream life, that’s just that it’s part of the process. Like, it happens. Everybody faces it. So for me, it’s I would rather avoid regret but be uncomfortable in the short term than, like, have this permanent regret of not doing more with my life. You know? Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. Yep. But I I’ve said this for years too is regret weighs tons, Gilliland weighs ounces. You know? Exactly. It, you know, I also talk about our attitude defines where we go. Our discipline decides how fast we get there. And so the and you mentioned it earlier about discipline. Right? So, however, how much more discipline we can get. I don’t know, man, but it it’s for me, it’s put it on your calendar, schedule it, make things happen, take action, but also be clear about where you’re going. Right? Have clarity about your plans and your future. And, sometimes it’s easier to find that discipline. So, again, you asked me this question to start with, but I’ll ask you now. So what are your favorite books. Top one, two, three books you’d recommend for people. Speaker Nick Hutchison: The book that said the biggest impact on the life that I live today and the joy that I experience on a daily basis is the four hour work week by Tim Farris. That book helped me really design my lifestyle. I have a remote business. I travel internationally a lot. I’ve spent time in twenty five different countries over the last five years with my wife. Sometimes for up to a few months at a time. I have a remote business that has ten people on the team, but everybody’s in a different location, and it’s all a result of that book. Book number two, hundred million dollar offers by Alex or Mozy added an additional six figures of revenue to my small business, which is pretty significant. You mowing it. And it’s all offer creation and, sales essentially. And then the compound effect by Darren Hardy is book number three. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Small steps in the right direction over a long period of time. That’s the name of the game. So when you talk about fear, like, I there were a couple points where I wanted to maybe mention just bite size. Like, how do you eat an elephant one bite at a time? No matter how many times you read ASAP’s fable, the tortoise in the air, the tortoise always like small steps. And small steps create less fear than big steps do. So I don’t have huge goals. But I have manageable steps in the right direction in front of me, and that’s where I find most success. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. You know, it’s funny you say that at twenty nine, here I am forty five. And so I was in my twenties, I was, you know, I was I had these huge big goals, and I was always chasing them, and it was funny because then I found Sometimes when I hit those goals, I’m thinking the bells and whistles and the confetti’s gonna fly down and it and it doesn’t happen. Right? And I found that I would beat myself up if I didn’t do that one thing, even though it was a massive, massive deal, and I would end up still having a great year and a great success. And and have built a good life. And so I found as I’ve aged and you’re doing it now at twenty nine. So I applaud you for that is, is taking the baby steps. You know, I’d be like, alright, I’m gonna go from zero workouts to seven workouts a week. I’m gonna do that. And then I would do like three and then I’d beat myself up over it. Right? And just constant struggle. So I applaud you on that, man. And for our listeners, I would agree. It’s it’s find that bite sized deal that you can accomplish and do and feel good about your success. Speaker Nick Hutchison: Yeah. I didn’t process matters so much more than outcome. And so I just want to enjoy the process and make sure it’s sustainable. Gilliland I know that it will compound into exactly what I’m looking for in the future anyway. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I love it. So where do our listeners find more of Nick Hutchison, man? Speaker Nick Hutchison: The best place to go is at book fingers on Instagram, which we highlighted once before. And from there, there are link and our bio. It’s everything that you’re gonna need. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Awesome. Well, we will put this in the show notes, and it’s been awesome having you on the circuit of success, my man. Stay with while I hit end here, but this thanks for joining us. Sorry about the internet connection today. I don’t know what’s going on there, but, I love the stuff. I had a page of notes here, man. I loved it.  

From a single embroidery machine in the living room… to the garage… to a commercial space, Robert with the help of Danny and Tyler were able to launch this business all the way into a 40,000 square foot warehouse to continue its growth path! Robert Hamm is the Founder and CEO of HatLaunch, which is located near St. Louis in Collinsville, Illinois. He started this journey in 2017 with the idea of creating a great online source for quality custom headwear after realizing there wasn’t a great option. At the beginning of 2023, both Danny Gifford (COO) and Tyler Smith (CFO) left their corporate jobs and boarded the ship of HatLaunch | Shirtlaunch to help sustain the operations, finances, and hands-on presence required to run a fast-growing business. Danny and Tyler were high school classmates and longtime friends of Robert’s who saw his vision of growing the business and wanted to provide their knowledge and experience to assist with the growth.  HatLaunch | ShirtLaunch are experiencing the best year since inception and currently predicting annual revenue for 2023 to be north of $10MM.    If you would like to place an order, check out their websites! hatlaunch.com shirtlaunch.com Full Video Robert Hamm: [00:00:00] Welcome to the circuit of success podcast, the circuit of success podcast with your host, Brett, Brett, Brett Gilliland, Brett Gilliland, visionary wealth advisory. Brett Gilliland: Welcome to the circuit of success. I’m your host, Brett Gilliland. Today I’ve got Robert Hammamy. Robert, what’s up my Robert Hamm: man? What’s up? How are you? I’m glad to be here. I’m good. This is exciting. First. Yeah. In person podcast. Is that right? I’ve done. Yeah. I like Brett Gilliland: them a lot more. You know, you kind of feel the energy. This is cool. Feel if somebody is actually going to continue talking. Are they not talking? You don’t know. Sometimes you don’t know what’s going on. Can you hear Robert Hamm: me? Am I muted? Exactly. You’re on mute. Brett Gilliland: Sometimes I get an echo. It’s just, it’s fun. These, these are a lot better. So, well, man, you are, uh, the founder of Hat Launch and, uh, and here’s what I wrote down. I think this is pretty cool. From your, uh, One machine in your family room in 2018. Yep to a few machines in your garage. Yep to 8, 400 square feet to soon to be [00:01:00] 40, 000 plus square feet all since 2018 dude. Yeah, so on hats Robert Hamm: been a rocket Brett Gilliland: Well, here’s it’s funny So here’s how we met for those watching or listening is I get a call from a guy Tyler Tyler used to be an intern for me back in, gosh, mid 2000s, I think, I can’t remember the year, maybe 2012, 2010, somewhere in there probably. He calls and says, hey, I just want to come by for some business advice. I’m like, great. Yeah, you want to give back to a guy who used to, you know, used to work with you. Next thing I know, I’m buying hats. I’m like, what in the hell just happened? And he didn’t do that. You know, it wasn’t like he came to me to start selling stuff, but he’s doing a good job. So Tyler Smith, you did awesome. Connected us and now I’m a proud owner of hat launch and uh, yeah, man, lots of hats. We’re gonna keep getting them So anyway, i’ll be quiet And I want to turn it over to you, man, and talk about what has helped make you the man you are today. Cause you just don’t go from your garage to 40, 000 square feet Robert Hamm: overnight. Yeah. That’s a question. Uh, so my family, I guess I grew up in the [00:02:00] restaurant industry. So my family’s owned restaurants since I was a kid. And my mom actually. We moved to Highland, uh, so that my mom could open a restaurant with my aunt and my grandma in Highland. And like, when we’re there, the whole family worked there together. Tyler actually worked there too. That’s where Tyler met his wife too. Uh, a lot of marriages came out of that place too, which is super interesting. Um, but I, it’s just always been hard work in the family, I think. And especially my mom and my dad are both really hard workers. My mom specifically, she works for me now. So that’s, we can get into that part of the story too. But, uh, she is like the hardest worker you’ll ever meet in your life. Like just still is today. I think that’s where I get my hard work and work ethic and ability to just. You know, like that, that’s to do what I’ve done in the short amount of time. It’s, it’s constant work and you have to be able to do that constant work. Otherwise it’s, it doesn’t happen. Um, so that’s just like a brief little, where I’ve, where I’ve come [00:03:00] from and kind of my foundings, you know, like seeing my family. Break their backs running restaurants for not very much, you know, like that’s a tough industry and Michael actually owns one right here. Oh the O Town. Oh, yeah. He has that one. So Yeah, he’s got the camera I was so excited when he told me he’s doing that It’s unique. Yeah. People always talk about that. Got the Brett Gilliland: robots. So, I mean, you were, you had a normal job, right? Yeah. What I would call a normal nine to five job. You were doing that. I think I saw a video. You said normal nine to five, you were in debt. Seemed like you wanted more in life. Yup. And you just had to do this hat thing, man. Yeah. And so for people listening, he, he’s the, I mean, you want to be the number one, uh, custom hat Robert Hamm: headwear maker in the world. Absolutely. Right? Right. If we’re not already. If we’re not already. So Brett Gilliland: think about that. The number one. Custom hat maker Robert Hamm: in the world. Yeah, we, we want to be that. And I, the industry like apparel in general is like multi billion dollar industry. [00:04:00] It’s crazy. And hats alone. Like if you look at the big, the big names and hats right now, like they’re a hundred million dollar businesses, you know, we’re since 2018 we’ve done, I think 13 million in sales. So like we are just like peanuts. We’re still scraping the surface when it comes to that. Um, but. Uh, it’s, uh, it’s, it’s insane what you, where we could be and what our processes and what we’re doing now is so much better than what’s out there in the competition that all it’s going to take is time and more people knowing about us to become the best and the number one in the world. So it’s super exciting. Um, just. It takes a lot of work and time and dedication, but yeah, I started, started out as a software engineer. So I went to Rankin, uh, graduated in 2010 and got my first job actually right over there north of Grumman. It’s like the building, Oh, right there, shaped like a, a B2 bomber. Uh, so like it was work, a contract working for the air force right there. Actually. I [00:05:00] didn’t even think about that till now. That’s pretty cool. Full circle. Bye. Bye. And, uh, yeah, it’s, so I was a software engineer for about 10 years, uh, doing many different jobs between the government contract stuff, private sector. And before I quit my job to work for myself full time, I was at Express Scripts. So I don’t know if you know much about Express Scripts. Express Scripts is mail order pharmacy, uh, one of the biggest in the world and they have multiple locations all across the United States where they are fulfilling prescriptions for people. Um, You might get your drugs from Express Scripts. I’m not even really know it because they’re they’re so massive So I was on the team that handled all of the basically pharmacy Automations and operations of getting that prescription From a pill to a bottle with a label on it into a box with the shipping label on it out the door using robotics and All sorts of really cool technology to make that happen. I was there for Three years, about three years and being there, all of [00:06:00] my jobs added up, gave me exposure and experience to so many different industries and seeing how powerful technology could be when applied to industries for anything. And that place specifically just really showed me. How much money is out there, how many people are out there to sell things to, and how you can efficiently and effectively scale up an operation with, you know, utilizing labor and technology and robotics. Right. So such a cool. Combination of things to work on and see happen and to build software and release it in that environment and watch it and improve a Process 10 20 30 percent is so cool. So that’s you see the needle move, right? Yeah, they’re not you so I’m so grateful for my experience as a software engineer and the jobs that I had because I took everything that I’ve learned from all those jobs and applied it to what we’re doing with custom hats where any other hat, you know, embroidery shop, they’re, they’re not using [00:07:00] software. It’s like we’re more of a tech company than we are actually a hat company because the entire operation is running on custom code that I’ve written. So from when I, when I applied my Brett Gilliland: logo, my future here in your past logo to the website. Robert Hamm: Yup. That’s all code that I’ve written at three or four in the morning. So that’s 2018. So yeah, that’s, that’s, that’s why we, that’s also why we’ve been able to scale how we have. Have because without those processes and the automation and the code in place to make sure everything’s happening, how it needs to like, you just can’t do it. We’d be using pen and paper and expel spreadsheets and you can’t scale with that. It’s not scalable. And that’s not to say that things haven’t broken throughout the way. Like every single time we hit a new growth, new, new phase and growth, like doubling revenues, part of the process breaks or part of the process needs to be automated. Or anytime something breaks, I look at how can I automate it, how can I make it easier, or how can I make it so it takes someone like one click instead of like ten [00:08:00] processes to get done. So constantly iterating and improving the processes that way has allowed it to scale and continue to scale as it has. So what was it like Brett Gilliland: for you when you were working at these, you know, big corporations? Didn’t you on the side kind of at night go home and start doing all this stuff? And then at what point did you know? Okay, I can leave a good government job, you know, right paycheck Retirement health insurance, you know, that took Robert Hamm: a long time. Yeah to get the balls to do it And so even before I was doing the hat thing in 2018, like I’ve always overextended myself to get things that I want. So for me it’s cars. That’s my vice. Like I freaking love cars. So like before I was doing any of the hat stuff, like at one point I had like three cars. I had like a BMW 135i and a Corvette Z06 and like a Jeep, like three cars on my salary. My wife was back in school with me at that time. So. I was overextended, you know, house payment, got a kid, a wife. Uh, [00:09:00] so, you know, if I wanted the car, I either got a job that paid more or I did sidewalk. So like I would build things on the side for other companies. Like I would, there’s a couple of St. Louis places that I’d be like, Hey guys, I got some free time in the evenings. Send me some code that you need written, you know, to just so I can make some more money. So I was always used to working more outside of my day job because it’s just, I, I always felt like I needed more. I wanted more, you know, if I want more, I need to make more to, to get what I want. And that’s the way it’s always been. Uh, but the, the whole driving force behind starting. Hat launch when I did was like my wife in 2017 actually rented me a Lamborghini to drive through the Colorado mountains. And a Lamborghini Gallardo is the car I’ve always wanted like forever. Right. And after driving it, I was like, okay, how do I afford this? And this is like how I always do everything. I look at the price of the thing and I, I’m always on top of my finances, like not in a good way. [00:10:00] Like I know how much I have to spend, spend down to the very cent and I spend it right. I’m not investing. I’m not saving money, but I’m at least smart in the sense that I’m not spending more than I’m making. So I’m like, okay, this car, you know, I can get a used one for a hundred grand. How much, how much does a hundred grand cost on a six year loan? How much do I need to make per month to make that happen? Factor in insurance. And I’m like, okay, this is what I need to bring home extra on the side outside of my day job. So it’s not affecting what our current we’re currently doing in our current life. It won’t affect one on vacations. You know, it has to be for my wife to bite off on it. It has to be completely paid for by something else. And that’s when I was like, all right, this is, this is the tag. This is how much it’s going to cost per month. What business am I going to come up with to make this happen? And I, uh, I’m a car guy, so I know car people, like I know, I know I can make a product specifically at the, at this point it was shirts. So I knew I could make some designs that weren’t like a super trademark infringing and [00:11:00] like, I can’t just like put like the Chevy bow tie on a shirt and sell it. Like I have to like actually make a design myself. So. I actually have graphic design experience too, like I really love art and graphic design. Um, so I came up with like some generic car designs, put them on a website called Teespring and on Facebook there’s groups of segmented people that like certain types of cars. So like there’ll be a Chevy Corvette Facebook group with like 80, 000 people in it. That’s 80, 000 fish in a barrel. That love Corvettes that will love a cool shirt that has something Corvette related on it. You post the link in there. And the cool thing about Teespring is they print and ship it for you. So I did that and like in 30 days I did like 2, 500 in sales. So I was like, all right, well there’s the first car payment on that. And then I was like, well, okay, well I know that car people also love hats. So anytime you go to the track, there’s people wearing like black flex fit hats with. You know, uh, either like a part of a car or a race team or something on the hat. So [00:12:00] I was like, okay, I want to do that for hats and started looking and there’s no website that did it. So there, there it was. It’s like, okay, so not only can I build this to use myself, I can be the teespring for hats, right? So I’m like, that’s huge, right? So I stood up the website and put my hat designs on there and it sold like a hundred hats in the first night. And I’m outsourcing all the creation of the hats to my friend’s mom in St. Louis, where I would send her an Excel, she’d go, she’d stitch them, I’d pick them up, bring them home, box them all individually and take them to the post office. So I did that for like three months, right? And after paying her all of those times to do it, I’m like, man, this is really cutting into my margins, you know, I need my own machine. So then I got my own machine and then I’m like, not really, you know, I never run in a, I run in a boarding machine before I was doing. So like I had to learn it, but staying up till three or four in the morning every night, getting these hats done, not realizing how long it was actually going to take [00:13:00] in all of that. Right. So that’s that right there is like when, you know, it really started being a lot of work because I was staying up getting the orders done. Um, and I think I had posted that I got the machine and on Facebook and one person I was friends with had a business and they ordered a hundred hats for their business. And I was able to process a hundred hats for one person versus a hundred hats for a hundred people. And it was so much easier, still took forever, but it was one person I had to worry about and for X amount of dollars, right? Covered the machine payment. Um, covered almost a little bit of what it would cost for a Lamborghini. Not quite. Um, but that right there is when I shifted the focus. Like I got to stop wasting my time on all these one offs and find just businesses like for my time best spent, it’s going to be in these businesses. And after finding a couple more and doing those on a single head, I’m like, well. You know, it’s, I can only do one [00:14:00] hat at a time. I need to get a six head machine, which does six hats at a time. And this thing is like 42, 000. It’s like the single head was 18, 000 with the software that I needed to like make the designs and then another 42 grand for this machine. So it’s like, all right, YOLO, let’s do it. Right. And the thing is, is like by getting these loans and these machines. It puts the pressure on me to make sure I at least sell enough to pay for the machines. So even if I didn’t feel like working or feel like making the sales or making the, you know, making the money to get the car that I wanted, I had to at least cover the payments on the machines because otherwise it’d be coming out of my personal account, which is already down to zero because I overextend on everything, right? So I, and that’s how I operate best is external pressure. Like that’s what keeps me going. It keeps me, keeps me driving forward. But funny enough that that six seven machine was delivered the same week my first kid was born. So I’m doing my day job nine to five. I’m coming [00:15:00] home stitching hats till three or four in the morning. I’m getting a 42, 000 machine delivered to my house while I just had a newborn baby born. And I, in hindsight, I’m just an idiot. That was so much stuff. We made it work. Um, and that, that was the early days, right? Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So what, what do you think it was about you that had the spine? I mean, a lot of people aren’t going to go out and buy an 18, 000 machine on a, I hope I can sell some hats and, or a 42, 000 machine. I hope I can sell more hats. Like there’s a lot in there, right? So how do you unpack that? I mean, Robert Hamm: for me, like I saw how many people were excited about hats. And wanted hats and I, I did see the gap, like at least online for being able to get, get them from a good source. So like I knew without, uh, without a shadow of a doubt that I could find people to buy hats. Okay. It’s just a matter of how much time I spent trying to find them, like doing the sales myself. And that’s, [00:16:00] that’s really what, like, I never really felt like, you know, The only thing it would be is like, if I just, if I stopped working, then I would, you know, like I said, I wouldn’t bring in the sales to, uh, pay for the machines. But you believe in that Brett Gilliland: process enough that you could go out and do the Robert Hamm: ads and do the things. And like, I honestly, at this point where I’m at now, after doing this for five years, I’m pretty certain that if like, if I, if I have a product that I believe in. I’m pretty sure I can do the same thing. Like it’s, it’s with most product. If you have a good product with a good offering, a good price, and especially a good customer experience, you’re going to be able to sell it. Yep. Just no matter what it is. Yeah, right. Yeah. And that’s, that’s like, I, I, it, I believe myself a lot more now than back then, but, um, it is, I think it was just that belief that I know I can do it. And honestly, like by forcing myself into those loans. I had to do it. Yeah. So it wasn’t like a. Yeah. No. Right. Yeah. It wasn’t [00:17:00] like a thing like. If it didn’t work. Who cares? Right. It’s like I had to. So by doing that, you force yourself into doing Brett Gilliland: it. What have you learned throughout this process of, of stress and how you handle that? What do you do to overcome that? Like help our listener. Robert Hamm: It never ends. No, I’ll tell you that. Like right now I’m probably the more stressed than I was back then, uh, with this whole building situation and getting that done, like choosing conventional loan conventional loan versus SBA and like battling them out between the two. And like, if we go conventional, it’s a 20 percent down payment or SBA it’s 10%. But now it’s a hundred percent financing through SBA, but to do SBA, you’ve got to do a phase two, uh, EPA environmental. And if that comes back dirty, then, and you know, if the remediation on the building is more than the cost of the property, I can’t buy that property anymore. It doesn’t make sense. And then I’m like, Oh shit, where am I going to go? Like we have to get these businesses together into the same roof. Um, let [00:18:00] alone just to operate better, but to continue to grow. So it’s so stressful right now, but the stress is like, it’s, it’s always there. It’s always going to be there. I mean, you’re going to have stress. It’s it puts stress on your marriage. It puts stress on your friendships. It puts stress on you just in general. Um, it’s just, I guess just managing it. And honestly, I don’t even really know how I manage it. I just do it. Yeah. Like Brett Gilliland: there’s a passion for what you’re doing though. I mean, there’s gotta be a passion, right? I mean, Robert Hamm: creating, creating. Yeah. Creating the product, like I, there’s nothing more fulfilling and gratifying than seeing a problem, especially for me with like the software side of things, seeing a problem and creating a solution that solves the problem. And then seeing customers using that and getting, you know, having happy customers at the, as the outcome of it is so gratifying and with doing what I’m doing in this business, like we do that. It’s like every week, there’s a new problem that’s solved and it keeps, you just keep going and the wins. So the wins outweigh the stress [00:19:00] and it’s like some, it might outweigh it to where it’s a wash and you’re just neutral, but it keeps you going for sure. Brett Gilliland: So I saw on your website, talked about, uh, delegate, automate and innovate. Yep. Robert Hamm: So talk to me about those. Those are my, those are the three words that mean a lot to me. So like, when I think about, uh, Um, when I was at work and I had, so I had the six head and the single head of my house, my wife would go out there in the garage and run orders and she just did it on her own. I didn’t ask her to do it. She just knew that I had a lot to do and like she’s watching the baby, but the baby took a nap. She’d go out there and do it. I come home and the 10 orders done that I needed to get done and I was like, holy crap, if I could just have someone doing this while I was at work. All I’d have to focus on is like getting customers and writing code. Like this would be great. And that’s where the next phase of the growth of the businesses, I got to get this out of my house and find a part time person to run these machines [00:20:00] for me. Cause I can’t have a person working at my house. It’s just awkward, but that’s delegate. So delegating tasks to free yourself up to do the things that you’re good at. Yes. That your time’s most valuable spent doing. Brett Gilliland: And so I’m going to add to that. So I was 20, I think I was 24 getting ready to be 25. I hired my first assistant and I remember after the end of the year of 2003. Going home and saying, okay, to my wife, I’m going to hire an assistant and it’s basically, basically going to be about 60 percent I’m going to pay this person 60 percent of what I just made the year before. Right. Right. And so it’s one of those defining moments in my life, right? Where it’s like, wait, you’re going to spend 60 percent of what you just made to hire another person. You’re not really that busy anyway. Right. But to what you just said, it freed me up to do what I’m uniquely qualified to do. Right. I always say, go out and play in traffic, go meet people, build a network, right? Do those things. And so I think for our listeners, if you’re debating on hiring somebody, man, you just got to do it. You just got to do it. Again, I keep saying it. Bet on [00:21:00] yourself, make the hire because you’re going to do the work. Robert Hamm: Right. And worst case, if it doesn’t work out, get rid of them in a month and find someone else that does work. Right. Right. Right. And like, that’s funny. Like today with the assistant discussion, I was literally talking about that this morning in the office. I’m like. I have to, like, before I came here, I’m going through my inbox where there’s 4, 800 unread emails and like organizing them. It’s literally a waste of my time. And I’m just trying to get my inbox cleaned up, but it’s like, I have to have someone at least. At least putting things on my calendar and going through my inbox because that’s, it’s such a, it’s such a kill on time. It was three hours deep into that and I barely had them cleaned up. Right. Brett Gilliland: Well, Robin’s right down here behind us about 12 feet away. I can tell you since 2005. Uh, she’s been unbelievable, right? The things it frees me up to do. And she’s the dream processor, right? I’m hopefully we’ll be the dream maker and she processes the dreams. And so that’s what we kind of do with our [00:22:00] clients. But you’re right from calendar management, email management, those things are two things that get off our plate. So that delegate is a big deal. So that was delegate Robert Hamm: automate. Yep. Automate is the tech side. Well, automate and innovate. So automation, like when I look at every single part of my business, How can I use tech to reduce the amount of man hours it takes to do it to make it easier for the man hours that are actually doing the work, get it done. And or can you just completely make it so that no one even has to do it? It’s just automated. And a lot of it is, especially when you’re dealing with like customers, like, like a DT, uh, direct to consumer business. How can you let the customer? Solve their problems for themselves. So Amazon’s really good at this. And like, uh, I, I, I say I want our custom hat business to be the Amazon of custom hats. Like I want it to be that hands off and that easy for anyone to go to our site, buy custom ads and get the product. If there’s ever [00:23:00] a problem, railroad, the solution to the problem. So the customer, all I have to do is click a button. Type click done, you know, there doesn’t have to be any back and forth customer service doesn’t have to be any uncomfortable Conversations on our end or their end like we know what we’re gonna do in the end of the day to solve that problem How can you make it so the customer can just do that themselves get there and be done? So looking at every single part of the process in the business and applying automation in any form And doing that, like at the, the smallest grader level makes the business more profitable, more scalable and better than anyone else. How much Brett Gilliland: think time are you doing? I’m a big believer in think time. You see these journals and the journals back over here. I’ve been doing it since July of 2005. Like that’s where my ideas come from. So are you thinking a lot? If so, what’s that process for you? Robert Hamm: Too much. Okay. Right. Uh, so, um, Uh, it’s funny that you say that too, because I actually think about this the morning too. This is hilarious. Like you’re tapping into my brain right now, [00:24:00] but like, I don’t, I don’t take notes. I have no notes. It’s all in my brain and I, I don’t know, like I wish I could be a person that could write down on a piece of paper what I’m thinking or take notes. Like when I’m in, in a meeting, like talking or listening to someone speak, like me taking notes does not help me at all. So I, I don’t, I, my, I don’t really understand myself or like why I’m able to do it that way. But I do think constantly to the point that I could be in the car with my wife driving down the road and she’s talking to me. Um, and I’m not listening because I’m thinking about processes and the problems that are currently going on. Um, I think ADHD has something to do with that too, uh, with the way my brain works. But uh, that’s a, that’s a whole other podcast. Yeah. Brett Gilliland: Well, if I could, I mean, I would add to that the schedule. So delegate, automate, innovate, doesn’t rhyme with everything here, but the scheduling part, what I’ve found is. So as I’ve, my business has gotten bigger [00:25:00] and more people is the think time was important, but I also had to schedule things, right? Because same thing. I could be driving down the road and checked out, but you know, like we want to be in the moment, right? You want to enjoy your kids, enjoy the journey and it goes fast and all those things is I found is me having to schedule it. If I can’t delegate it, I can’t delete it. Right. I got to schedule it. I got to do that quickly. Right. Yep. Robert Hamm: And that’s something that I’m bad at and getting way better at. Um, During the beginning of this thing, like I’ve never had a schedule and, uh, my life has just been chaotic. Like I I’m the guy that showed up to work late every day. So like. I was an awesome employee because I did great work and I really like blew managers away with how, what I could do, like technically. Yeah. But I was the guy that they always brought up because he is late every day. Like, come on dude, just show up. I remember I got, I got put on a performance improvement plan. It’s like I was a contractor before I was actually hired at Express Scripts, and there’s some [00:26:00] issues with being a contractor where like. Management doesn’t actually know how you’re doing back at the home office. Like you got your manager above you that says he’s late every day. That’s all it gets back. But you know, when they actually ended up hiring me as an employee, like the kind of shows that I’m doing pretty well, pretty good. But, uh, yeah, it’s hilarious. Like, you know, I was put on a performance improvement plan, but then here I am now like running a business on my own and it’s really hard for me. To hold employees to a schedule when I myself was a turd being an employee back then, right? So it’s super awkward and like I that’s one thing with me is I actually don’t want to be the boss I don’t want to be managing the people. I don’t want to do any of that I just want to you know, I want to be pulling the strings and executing the business and let other people handle that but yeah, like another funny little side note is like Um, I, I need, I needed a schedule and I was trying to schedule my life and like build a day for myself that was structured. Right. And I actually wrote out a list like of times that I wanted to do things in the [00:27:00] day. Right. And at the top is like Robert’s, Robert’s scheduled to not be a piece of shit. It’s literally what it said at the top. And like, it was like 7 a. m. Wake up. You know. Be out of the shower by seven 30 done. Right. No, no taking hour long bathroom breaks where I’m thinking on the toilet. Cause that’s where I do all my thinking is on the frigging toilet. Uh, I think a lot of men do, but, uh, and just like lunch at 12, like be home at five 30 and then dinner at six and like that never, never, it can never happen. But I did that two years ago and I pulled it up again and Um, that, like I looked at my day now and sub, sub, like subconsciously it’s kind of fallen into that. And I was like, holy shit. Like I’m waking up at seven. It’s the power of writing it down. Yeah. And I, I guess I didn’t really think about that till now, but like, you know, I have to drop my daughter for a school daughter off at school at eight 30 every day. So I’m at least, that’s something that I have to do. So that figured out my first little section of the morning. I get to my office at nine. And [00:28:00] then, you know, the other stuff in there is kind of not really scheduled, but it is getting to a point where it is kind of stuff’s kind of falling in place. So it’s, it’s super interesting that my life is kind of just like figuring itself out with this thing. And especially as I start delegating more, it’s like at the start of the year, hiring Tyler as our CFO and then Danny as our CEO, like. Danny’s operating, managing all of our people, all of our operations. Tyler’s managing all of our finances and executing all that stuff for that. I was doing both of those things before they started. Right. So getting that stuff on the plate too has also helped with the scheduling stuff. So Brett Gilliland: delegate, automate, innovate. Jeff, is this a time where I do my Jeff, our producer over here? Is this a time I, I plug my, my, my, uh, my own journal, which you got to copy over here. This is going to help you, man. This is your daily planner, your weekly planner, your Sunday. I mean, it’s got all sorts of stuff in here, man. So we’ll talk offline about that, how this was a game changer. This is 20 years of work for me in one spot now. So I can go as a busy professional and dive into it. [00:29:00] So, um, let’s talk about our potential, man. We, I think, you know, as people listen to podcasts, hopefully this podcast, there’s a lot of potential out there and we’re, we’re maximizing it, but how do we maximize it more? Get it to the next level that we want to be the number one hat guy, the number one financial guy, you know, in the world, right? Robert Hamm: Yeah. The more, the more I do this and kind of going back to like, if I started another business, I’m pretty confident that I could just make it work, you know, because of what we’ve done here. Like, I feel like you, you get to this, you get to this next level of like thought process where you start looking at the things around you for what they are like that barrel over there was built in a factory somewhere that probably employed a hundred people. That’s probably a hundred million dollar business that just made wood barrels. Yeah, and it’s crazy the stuff that Everything around you is made somewhere by a company that makes a ton of money to do that Yeah, and there’s so much stuff in the world that You just need one little sliver of that. And to [00:30:00] do it, you just have to do a little bit better than the other guys are out there. Right. And it’s, to me, it’s just, it’s almost debilitating because now I have so many other ideas that I want to execute on that I can’t. Cause I’m pigeonholed into my business now and I know if I leave it, it’s not continue to flourish and grow like it is. And I want it to, but I have so many other things that I want to do that I just right now I can’t. But I know if I, if I stick to it for five, 10 more years, I’m going to have like this, not, not, not only just free time, but the capital to be able to build a team myself to execute on my visions and plans. But you just really start to see the world for what it is. Uh, as far as businesses and products and how that works and realize that if you just put the time and energy and effort into it, it’s, it’s gonna work and anyone can literally do it. Anyone. Yeah. Brett Gilliland: So the circuits of success are your attitude, your belief system, um, the, the actions that you take. [00:31:00] Ultimately get the results that you want, right? That’s the circuits of success, hence the podcast name. And so, but your belief right there shines bright. And so I think for people listening, it’s belief in ourself. It’s belief in a process. It’s belief in showing up to work is belief in the goal. It’s belief, whatever the things are, right, that’s gotta be. And what I’m hearing from you, uh, is your, to your core, you believe in your work ethic and what you’re going to do and what you’re going to go build true. Robert Hamm: Oh yeah, betting on myself. Yeah. I know if I bet on myself, I’m going to be the person that’s going to have my best interests in mind. I’m going to be the one that has to do the work, so I’m just going to continually bet on myself and push myself to get where I want or need to be. Brett Gilliland: What 2016? Guy, right? So yeah, Robert’s two years away from even starting this biz. What advice would you have for that guy? Oh boy. Robert Hamm: Wow. [00:32:00] I haven’t even thought about that advice. Oh boy. Get help sooner. Like if I would have got out of my garage a little quicker and had more help at the beginning there, it would have just scaled faster. But um, Yeah, that’s a, that’s a tough question. Uh, I, I really wouldn’t change anything because worked out like all of the, all the turmoil or stress or problems or like, what’s really funny is through growing this thing, I’ve had moments where I felt like I had to reach out to the person that’s done it. To get advice and every single time I’ve done that, they’ve never responded. When you think about like saying an Instagram DM to like Andy for Sela, like the guys that you listen to on the podcast, it’s like, if I could get them to just talk to me for an hour, they have all the answers, but every time that connections ever made, or I never get the advice, you figure it out on your own [00:33:00] and when you figure it out on your own. You really know it, you know, you see Brett Gilliland: me scrolling here because I just wrote down on my weekly scorecard for this week So I was I was right down every week my biggest awareness Yeah, it’s what my biggest awareness was and what I wrote down was I was with somebody yesterday and it’s you know Sometimes you think people could be different if they’re in your same position Yeah, what you just said you got to reach out to them, right? They’ve got the magic answer boom the world is figured out. I wrote down my biggest awareness was We’re all the same people. We’re all the same people. Yep. We’re doing great Robert Hamm: work. Yep. Keep freaking going, right? And I think and what’s funny is not now. I have a YouTube channel 1, 500 subscribers, I’m killing it But I have people reaching out to me in the same way that I was reaching out to those people for the advice and it’s like, my advice is, is you have to put in the work and that’s like, we can go on the whole tangent of what I feel about all the fake people on social media and like, so my YouTube channel is, I want to [00:34:00] be showing the truth. I want to be the true side of the entrepreneurial journey and show it unfiltered, never sell a scammy course on how to get rich quick or successful because the people that are going to respond to give these people advice, it’s going to be for their monetary benefit, like almost a hundred percent of the time. And if it, if. If that person isn’t doing that, they’re freely giving the advice through content like a podcast or YouTube channel. You know, that’s right. So, um, I, I, I gosh, I, I love. Just watching the, the, the fake gurus out there, you know, sell their courses and stuff where Selling courses on something. They’ve never even done themselves, right? They’re making the money on the… I follow Brett Gilliland: that, like they’ve never built anything. They’ve never built a business and it’s like, man, I don’t know. I could have a whole nother show about that too. It drives me nuts. So, um, let’s do it. We’ll do it together. We’ll just talk about like real raw Robert Hamm: [00:35:00] stuff. Pull up their Instagrams. Well, I got this Brett Gilliland: little ladder over here. You can’t see it, but you know, it talks about, you know, your, your perseverance, your courage, your, your belief, your attitude, you know, all those things. And then ultimately you get the freedom. And I think what I always say is you, you tip the ladder upside down. That’s the way people want to climb the ladder. They want the freedom. Right, right. They don’t see the stuff at three o’clock in the morning when you don’t even know your name, you don’t, you can’t even sleep because you’re so sleep deprived. You got a baby bottle, you got a diaper over here, oh and by the way I gotta be at work five minutes late tomorrow, right? Yep. They don’t see that side. They see the guy that’s doing a million a Robert Hamm: month side acts. Exactly, right. Yeah, and that’s uh, that’s where you just, there is no quick path to get there. It’s always gonna be the work. And even if I did start something new, I would be in, I would start from the dirt up, like I would have, I’d have a leg up because of what I’ve built now and knowing some of the pitfalls I went through. So it will be easier the next time, but [00:36:00] you’re still going to fail. You’re still going to trip on yourself. And it’s just, just put in the work. So how many of Brett Gilliland: the fears you’ve put in your mind have actually blown up to the magnitude you put them in your mind to be? Robert Hamm: Oh goodness. Uh, I, you know, we’ve got over 40 employees now, so that weighs heavily on me and it’s like any downturn in sales, even at just the day level. Like if it was a bad day in sales, I’m like, Oh shit. I go, my mom works for me. Like. There’s, my sister works for me now too, geez, what am I doing to myself? My sister in law works for me. Like, it’s family, it’s family at this point too, you know? Like, if this goes belly up, my family’s out of work. But then I think about it, like, you know, those people can go get jobs somewhere else too. Not that I have to. I ever Brett Gilliland: go belly up, we go to this extreme of… Robert Hamm: These fears that’s where it always goes Brett Gilliland: right [00:37:00] false evidence is appearing real we put them in our mind They don’t blow up to the magnitude. We put them remind me. Yeah, maybe you have a down year Maybe you have a bad month a bad quarter. I don’t know right but in reality is you’re gonna pivot You’re a good enough business leader and a good business owner and you get Robert Hamm: the grind hustle. You’ll pay and honestly The hard times are the good times because that’s when the business owner, the executor really straps in and fixes shit and makes it better. So in this current downturn and ads not doing well, I’m going through the customer’s experience and making it so much better than it ever was because it’s the uncomfortable pressure of like, I’ve got to make this better because we need more sales. And it’s, it’s the problem right now that needs fixed. Right? So I hunker down and I, I, I’ve rolled out a lot of really good shit. That’s having a great, uh, great return in the business, but it’s the pressure of like, and the, and when things are great, you know, we’re doing seven or 50, 000 a month, I’m just like kind of coasting, you know, this is great. Yeah. And then that’s seven 50 dips down to 500. [00:38:00] And we’ve staffed up to handle what seven 50 takes to get done. And you’re kind of like, Oh shit, we got to get these sales back in. I got like, what’s going on? Right. You know, wait a few weeks to make sure it’s not just a blip. Then if it’s not just a blip, all right, we’ve got to hunker down and figure something out. And it’s, uh, I’ve really realized that it’s like, it’s in the times of the discomfort where you really prevail and make things better. So you. If things are perfect, you’re never going to learn, improve, or do anything. You’re just to be complacent. What’s Brett Gilliland: a, what’s chat GPT, Robert Hamm: AI, all those Brett Gilliland: things. How are they going to impact our Robert Hamm: work? Oh God. Uh, word salad, essay dissertations on every LinkedIn posts underneath the comments of people trying to look cool. Uh, not even just LinkedIn posts, Jesus. Uh, the entire internet is going to become word salad, word soup all over the place of people. Creating clickbait blog articles. I mean blogs are already flooded the internet [00:39:00] for SEO purposes Just get freaking clicks and ad revenue It’s just gonna create this generic just blah of an internet space and I really dislike it The art side of things really cool. So like for me as an artist, I can just type in to get a Inspiration or an idea to create something and I think that’s really really cool It’s like I could get inspiration take something that it shows me and then recreate it to actually make it look Yeah, I would never expect something spat out from AI to be like the final art piece But using it for inspiration I think is super powerful. Um, but as far as the, like I, so I actually, I hired my first programmer, uh, shoot, maybe almost a year ago now. Um, and he’s, he’s completely green right out of school went to rank into, um, and he’s chatty to be a lot. And every time, every time I see him pulling it up when we’re talking, like sitting down and do something and I’m like, here you go again, using chat, TCP to teach you what [00:40:00] you’re doing. Um, and I’ve tried it a couple of times and I was surprised at how good it was at writing a solution. But three out of the five times I tried to use it, it didn’t work. It wasn’t right. And it’s AI, the biggest problem with AI is it’s not actually artificial intelligence. It’s pulling data from human inputted data. Like databases, this is our words, our code, our everything that we’ve just put in these data sets that the AI is pulling from. It’s not thinking of anything on its own. No, it’s not artificially creating anything. It’s just pulling. So in the form of like content of texts and everything, it’s literally just taking a bunch of different sentences and words that other people have written on the internet and putting An article. Yeah. And when you think about trying to get like factual information from AI, where is that AI pulling [00:41:00] the information from? How up to date is that information? You don’t know. Yeah. So it’s like Brett Gilliland: two or three years behind. Right. Yeah. So it worries me for critical thinking for our kids. Robert Hamm: Oh, for sure. So you just go there now and type something in there. I wish I had it in school. I would never do. I mean, I didn’t do any homework anyways in school. But. I would do it because I could just make Chatty TV do it. Uh, geez. Scary man. Math problems literally show you what to write to get the equation done. Oh my gosh. Brett Gilliland: Crazy. Last question here for you, a future greater than your past. That’s the logo here. That’s a, you know, hats you guys have made. That’s the, uh, the mission of our firm is to help people achieve a future greater than your past. So when you hear that, what does that mean to you? Robert Hamm: Growth, just personal growth, like learning and constantly improving. Your relationships, like for me, I need to improve my health. I’m not a healthy person. I eat terribly. I don’t drink [00:42:00] water I drink diet soda every day like I need to get in a gym, you know Like for me, that’s one part of my growth that I want to see better in myself And also the schedule stuff like I want to get better with that I do want to be able to detach and spend time with my kids like you said earlier Because you know, we just had our second and she’s two months now four and a half year old man Uh, three month old almost, but being able to really spend time with my family, you know, and that becoming a dad and a good father, like that’s another part of my growth too. Um. Um, I, I hope everyone has the ability to be a dad and a father too, cause it’s super cool. It’s nuts. Um, yeah, that’s, it’s just personally bettering yourself. Like that’s where I want to go. And if, if that happens to be in a business space too, that’s great. You know, it just improves my life and the life of those around me, you know, Brett Gilliland: I love it. Well, I think they can exist. I mean, that’s what I’ve tried to make a career out of, right. That your personal, professional, your financial, your spiritual, your emotional, your intellectual, all those [00:43:00] areas physically. They can all, uh, be together, right? That’s what we’re trying to help people do. So where do our listeners find more of you and your company and an easy process? So I can go in and buy, you know, hats, get Robert Hamm: some hats, uh, hat launch. com. That’s where you can order hats. Uh, we also have shirt launch. com so you can get shirts just as easy. The website is about. Eight months out of date from the hat launch one. So I do all my innovations and stuff there. And then I take all that code and paste it into the shirt launch side. So the process is good, but not as good as hat launch, but, uh, it will be soon. Um, but on, um. Um, I’m the launch dude. So launch dude, basically on all social media platforms, but YouTube, the launch dude, launch dude was taken by a guy that has like one video from 20 years ago on there. Dang it. Uh, but yeah, I’m, I’m, I’m really hitting the YouTube stuff hard and I’m putting a lot of work in these videos. Like they’re 20 minute long videos that are hopefully Netflix quality is what you guys see out of it. The old, the older stuff. No, like that was me [00:44:00] doing it myself. But now like I got a producer, we’re actually. Lives with me in my house for weeks at a time, follows me around and that is freaking exhausting. Let me tell you, like, I don’t know how celebrities do it. Have a dude following them around with the camera, like being on camera all day by itself is exhausting and then doing it while trying to run a business is like, holy crap, this is hard. Um, but yeah, please YouTube. Like and subscribe Brett Gilliland: awesome, man. Well, we will send people your way. We’ll put it in the show notes. It’s been awesome Having you Robert Hamm: robert. Thank you for being here, man. That’s great That’s my grand city great school education there Brett Gilliland: so much. Thank you

Brett Gilliland interviews Chris Dreyer, CEO of Rankings.io, discussing his competitive upbringing, journey to digital marketing, marketing tactics, relationship equity, SEO, branding, the importance of a coach or mentor, taking care of health, growing business, and real estate portfolio.

On this episode of the Circuit of Success podcast, host Brett Gilliland interviews Marc Hodulich, the founder of 29029. Marc talks about his goals with his business, which are not to be the biggest or most profitable, but to have an impactful community, build a legacy, and have something that lasts. He also shares his journey to success, the importance of peak performance in life, and his experience as an entrepreneur. Marc encourages listeners to take risks and put something big on their calendars. Full Youtube Episode Here!   Speaker Brett Gilliland: Welcome to the Circuit of Success. I’m your host, Brett Gilliland. Today, we’ve got Mark. Hodulich with this, Mark. How you doing, my man? Speaker Marc Hodulich: I’m great, Brad. How are you? Speaker Brett Gilliland: I’m good. I like those pictures back there. Looks like you got some, mountain maybe, mountains and a leg, get some kids, stuff going on, creating experiences. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Europe ski trip, dog, kids, all the things. Speaker Brett Gilliland: A white picket fence. You got it all, man. Well, cool. I am excited to have you today. So you are an avid adventurer, your accomplished entrepreneur, father of two boys, married, founded and exited multiple companies. One of them, which I’m assuming is what that red hat is right there, is the two 09:02 nine. And, we’ll look forward to talking about all that stuff. But before we do that, I’d like to dive in and kinda learn about the past, man. What’s the background? What’s the story you’ve got that’s made you the man you are today? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Well, thanks for having me. It hasn’t been a linear journey. I’ll tell you that. But, But briefly, yeah, look, I had a great childhood growing up. My dad was a runner. I got to be a competitive runner in late middle school to high school or in tracking college. And I think, you know, for the basis of just discipline and commitment to a goal, didn’t achieve my goals at all as a college runner. I ran at Auburn and as much as I love the school. I probably shouldn’t have been running in the SEC. I was good enough to make our travel team and ass kicked at every race that we went to. So, you know, it was a humbling experience, and then always just kinda dream big. Right? Kind of felt like I knew what my life would be like if I moved back to Burring him out, Pamela, where I was originally from. And right after school moved up to New York Gilliland, you know, it’s kind of knowing what the goal is, but having no idea how you’re gonna figure it out. I knew I wanted to live there. I knew I wanted to be in consulting or work in finance. It was a tough market. It was right after two. And, yeah, it was just a really tough time to find a job in the world of finance. And so I did everything from sell payroll door to door at ADP to work at Thomas Pinks, telling luxury clothing goods to, working at caterer, and it took me about four months to find a really good management consulting job, but I wasn’t unwilling to put in really hard work that maybe I felt like my degrees and my background and my skill set maybe weren’t aligned with. I was just willing to put in the work to try to find the Gilliland, yeah, you know, I kinda just, met my wife in New York. We have married seventeen years now. And pretty quickly in the world of management consulting. I know it’s not what I wanted to do a long time. Still had always that side hustle mentality and had founded a business off to the side and eventually was able to to kinda leave my consulting gig and do that full time. And that’s kind of change into the world of event production, a lot of live events, community building, and finds me where I am today, which is, you know, running a company that I founded with my partner that we sold and bought back called twenty nine and twenty nine. And, that stands for the height of Everest, twenty nine thousand, twenty nine feet. And we built a really cool community and endurance concept really gives people a story to tell. You know, o over a course of a weekend, you know, you’re gonna go to Sun Valley or Whistler or Jackson Hole, and we’re gonna present a challenge of can you hike up a mountain and take a gondola down? Continue to climb it until you hike twenty nine thousand, twenty nine feet. So kinda very quick transition to where I’m at now, but Yeah. Never it’s never easy, and I think a lot of people don’t see all of the challenges, failed businesses, jobs you didn’t wanna work to kinda just see the lifestyle that you have now or or the position you’re in now. And, I’m only able to be here because this learning from my mistakes, but also having really great trusted relationships along the way that finally found the right way to leverage all those in this current business that running out. Yeah. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, it’s awesome to see. I mean, that you you talked about the community. I mean, the the twenty nine zero two nine is amazing. I mean, I watch through Jesse’s, social media stuff, Jesse. It’s with social media stuff. That’s how I originally got turned on to it and then through your stuff. It’s just amazing. It’s an amazing community. And Gilliland it’s something that people, I think of all walks of life can try to go accomplish. And so my question for you, if there’s a thousand people that do it, how many people are finishing it? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Depends on the location, but, I’d say, on average, around sixty eight percent, right, sixty eight to seventy percent finish it. Well, compare that to a marathon where you get about a ninety eight percent finisher rate. A lot of people are surprised by that. Marathons have an tremendously high, finish your rate. And then compare that to something that I’ve done as well, the leadville trail one hundred, which is one of the most famous, the kind of mountain ultra marathons, hundred mile run. That’s Hodulich a thirty five percent finisher rate. So I don’t wanna say we’re we’re in the middle. It’s it’s really hard. It takes a long time. But, it’s so approachable. We had a participant Jim Fisher who finished our event last year in whistler, eighty years old. Right? Oh, wow. And he said that it’s from that is frustratingly doable. Like, you just moved slowly walking for thirty five straight hours. Right? And so if you’re willing to forego sleep, or a little bit of sleep, it’s amazing what you can accomplish if you just keep moving. And, you know, most people do get to sleep three, four, five hours. Right? But we’re talking about one night of your whole life versus being able to say, hey, I win to Jackson Hole or Whistler or Sun Gilliland and climb that mountain 12:15, seventeen times until I climbed the height of everest. I sacrifice one night of sleep, you know, almost once a month. I do do that. I do I do them all. Right? And it’s, to be able to tell that story, but learn about yourself and the skills that you learn and the patience to discipline the commitment that the compassion, the empathy, all those things that happen because it’s not a race. It’s self scored. And you have thirty six hours to to keep track of your own hikes up the mountain. And, and be really rewarded with a a a pre turnkey experience. So not a not a super high finish rate, but at the same time, You don’t have to be an accomplished endurance athlete. And for most of our participants, they’ve never done, ten k, ten k, or even a half marathon before before set up for the event. Wow. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. And what you talked about there is the mindset, man, the the to being able to do that, because I think so many times that little space here in our heads tells us we can’t do this. We can’t do that. It’s dangerous. No sleep. Or maybe you got a condo there. Maybe you’re sleeping outside. Whatever it is people are doing. The negative self talk is used. Right? And that’s in business, that’s in just anything in life. So what have you done throughout your life to to kind of flick that guy, that negative self taught guy off your shoulder and and compete and accomplish anyway. Speaker Marc Hodulich: I mean, look, I think it’s it’d be wrong for me to say that I got it all figured out. But what I tell you is I’m constantly putting myself in a position where, I’m gaining confidence through completing things. And I think that’s the only way you really figure it out is that the voice inside your head that’s telling you you’re not good enough. You’re not fast enough. You’re not strong enough. You’re not smart enough. You’re not working. Whatever that is, as you actually accumulate these small wins. And those wins happen a lot in training. Right? I mean, you don’t You get this red hat if you finish. Right? If you’ve gone twenty nine thousand, twenty nine feet, you you earn this red hat. And, you earn that red hat through five or six months of training. Right? It’s getting up in the morning when you didn’t want to. It’s going for a hike in the rain. It’s doing the workout in the gym for your hip flex. It’s all of those little things that add up to the finish line, and most people only see the finish line. So I think you’re able to do it on a consistent basis. Look, today I finished my run, and I was in a little bit of a rush for a call, and I would normally go in cold plunge. And I’m gonna plunge up my house for well over a year, and I do it every day. It’s gonna be a mental challenge to do it later today. I’m not hot after a run gonna be dark by the time it’s a chance to do it. You know, it’s it’s it’s gonna be out of my routine. But you get a small win from doing something like that. Right? You start developing that set. I think you just if she constantly put yourself in a position, where you have an opportunity to quit on yourself, and you realize that you didn’t, you sharpen that tool. So when you’re doing something really big like a twenty nine and twenty nine, you’re able to rely on some past experience there. And even if you haven’t done a big amount, or you’re you’re sharpening that tool through training. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So let’s we’re gonna divert here for a second is this cold plunge. So everybody talks about it. I’ve had the guy Ryan Dewey, the founder of Plun John, and and there’s a lot of great ones out there. He’s the one I know. But talk to our listeners about that, man. Because everybody that’s anybody that’s doing peak performance type stuff now is talking about this cold plunge. So is, is it a game changer for you like it is for a lot of people? Speaker Marc Hodulich: I mean, look, first of all, I have a plunge. So I’m not plugging it. I don’t get paid this whole thing. I’ve just had it for a while. I love it. I recommend it to a lot of people. So tell Ryan has made it a great product, and and I love it. It’s awesome. Right? Look, I I don’t know if all the longevity things are true, but it certainly does hurt anything. It it helps tremendously with recovery. And for me, it’s as big as a mental boost. It’s a physical boost. There is the very practical nature of just tend to be working out right before I have to go do something else. And I can’t cool off. I live in Atlanta, Georgia. It’s hot and humid. You know? And then it and it’s a wonderful thing to be able to hop in something for three, four minutes and bring your core body temperature way down. I sleep better with it. So I’m a huge proponent of it just because I see no downside. I think the mental toughness aspect is key. How I’ve learned, about breathing and breath work and control and and not panicking. And this helped my kids My boys are eleven and thirteen now and watching their friends come over. And and the the people who just can’t commit to it, make it way worse. And those just kind of surrender and just lay in it. You get the vagus nerve, and you just calm down. And, there’s a real trust and learning process there. So become part of my daily routine and just something that I feel like, if you have access to one, there’s really no reason not to be doing it. And and I think there’s potentially a lot unbelievable reasons to do it. Health benefits, longevity, recovery, and sleep. Sleep being a big one for me, I think. I sleep with a chili pad, and I I notice I sleep better. And you have to be able to moderate. Right? I wear a woot not sponsored by any of these companies not paying me to say this stuff. But, yeah, any day to be able to show you. Right? And I think, I see a big difference in my sleep and recovery from using those products, so they’ve just become a main setting. In my training and in in my life. And and honestly for my family as well, my wife does this stuff now. My kids do too. So I think you’re teaching them really good habits. It should benefit them for the rest of their lives. Speaker Brett Gilliland: What’s your temperature? What do you keep it at? Speaker Marc Hodulich: So that that was a big point of contention. When I originally got out of my clothes, I kept it at thirty nine to forty. And now we’re about forty five degrees, and it it it kinda works in the way as I’m sure you have one as well. It keeps it in a three degree. Period. Right? The chiller turns on once you get two degrees away. So mine’s typically forty five, forty six degrees, which Speaker Brett Gilliland: you Speaker Marc Hodulich: get all the same benefits according to the podcast that I listen to. And it’s much more approachable than thirty nine forty was, which was honestly brutal. Yeah. Yeah. So I Speaker Brett Gilliland: don’t do it every day, like like you. So I mean, are are you so you’re an everyday guy. No miss. And, which that’s a big deal. So that’s but but it doesn’t get easier. Does it? Speaker Marc Hodulich: No. Not at all. I mean, look, I I will just and I’m away at an event or a scouting new location or in a partnership meeting or whatever it is. You’re gone for four or five days. It’s really hard get mentally ready to be like, okay. I can do this. I gotta go back into it, but it’s never easy. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Are you a sonic guy? Speaker Marc Hodulich: I am as well. I have a sauna, and I’ve been doing that for a while. I used to have a seam, but I like the sauna a lot more. Yeah. Just able to stay in there longer. And, actually, it’s funny. It’s become a lot more social. Right? I know my partner Jesse used a lot for social, but it it it is. It is something at night. It’s nice to do after dinner. And, it’s just become a little bit not an everyday routine. I had a wood burning sauna for a while. I just got a new electric one, which, is being installed next week. It’s not infrared, actually. No. Okay. But, it’s got one of those hive, home heaters, the rocks Okay. That, really, really beautiful, modern looking. And, yeah, it’s just become it’s become something that, I feel like that, the coal plunge, And and then a few just kinda daily supplements have really been a game changer for me. So Yep. Speaker Brett Gilliland: And you say the feuds or you say that’s huge? Speaker Marc Hodulich: It’s huge. Yeah. No. It’s just been huge in terms of my, you know, daily oh, the few supplements. Sorry. Yeah. The few. I only take a few things, but I I just realized I lose, way too much sodium when I work out, and I used to only take salt pills or electrolytes, when I was actually doing a race. And that’s just been part of a daily program, and I’ve been taking athletic reins for a few years. And, really just enjoy that. I just feel like if I didn’t do anything healthy for my body that day, at least I at least I took some athletic greens that day. Right? And and got some greens. And, it’s a simple thing that has become, very easy when I travel to. Right? And, those types of things, making sure I drink enough water, get the electrolytes in and take my athletic greens. I feel like I’m at least doing a baseline of something that’s good for me. If I’m out of my normal workout routine. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yep. What, what’s someone do you use for the salt or the the electrolytes? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. So I’ve been taking precision hydration for a while. I just like that they have, the milligrams. So the total amount of sodium, they have tubes that are five hundred a thousand or fifteen hundred milligrams. And, that was very helpful for me when I did, like, super ultra endurance events, like, hundred mile runs, just I knew how many I knew how many milligrams I needed an hour, and it just made the math really easy. Right? Yeah. Rather than taking all pills and trying to figure out how many did I have or was, I could just take a fifteen hundred tablet and know I was good for an hour, and then take another one the next hour. Right? And, so I’ve been taking typically take their thousand milligram and drink that about twice a day. And it’s just a dissolvable tablet that I put in water. So Okay. It’s easy to travel with. And I just I lose a lot of salt when sweat. So I did a sweat test and just figured out how much salt I was losing. And and it’s just learning about your body. Everybody’s different. But I just realized one of my big fears in doing ultra endurance events was either over hydrating or not having enough electrolyte the way you fix that is just figuring out how much you sweat and realizing how much you need to replace not only of actual liquid, but the the salt the sodium, the magnesium that you need to get back in your body. So that just became a system that’s worked really well for me. And, I really liked the product. So Speaker Brett Gilliland: So what do you find as a business guy? Right? You’re a businessman, you’re a husband, you’re a father. But you wanna you wanna grow a business. Right? So what do you find that keeps you in peak performance? Is it just daily action every single day, everything we’re already talking about, or how do you continue find that extra gear to do all this personal stuff and the family stuff and yet still grow a kick ass business. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. I’ll tell you, there’s no such thing as balance. I had a Speaker Brett Gilliland: I agree. Speaker Marc Hodulich: So I better realize that you just have to optimize for certain things at at a point in time and then figure out, you know, what your kids need, what your wife needs, and actually make communication about this thing. So I did an Ironman in twenty seventeen. My wife has always been supportive, whatever I wanna do, and she said, not another one. Right? Is it the training Speaker Brett Gilliland: We’re tapping out. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. She said, I look, it was too much on her. I was just I was gone too much and, I was too tired when I was home. The amount of training that I was putting in. And, really, because it’s the multi discipline, right? You guys spend all the time in the pool, all the time, like, and then run. Whereas, you know, doing something like Leadville, your body just can’t run that much. You just break it down. So, where you can be on the bike for a couple hours a day, you can’t run that much. So what I realized is, like, when you start a business, it really needs all of your attention. And putting signing up to to launch a business, being an entrepreneur, whether you’re taking in capital or you’re bootstrapping it, and then signing up for an Ironman or a hundred miler, and then having a kid at the same time is probably not wise. Right? So you can’t always time everything in your life, but I feel like when I’ve had these periods where I’ve had a little bit of a lull, it was an it was a it was permission for me to say, okay. I’m gonna put something really big personal that I wanna go and do. Right? And maybe that’s an adventure, amount I wanna climb, a hundred mile or I wanna run, but I know that I’m in a season of life where I have the time to do that. My non negotiables always kinda been my kids. Right? They’re only gonna be in my the house so Gilliland and that’s why my wife said not another Iron man, because I didn’t miss time with my kids. I didn’t miss their sporting events. You know, when they were at baseball games, I was running in between in between games or running from one part to the next, but then I wasn’t with her. And so what I realized was after I did that, I needed to do something to support her. So she actually signed up into the the second twenty nine to twenty nine we ever did. And she never even done a ten k. But I went from having the support of her doing Ironman and then flipping it and supporting her in really her first race ever. And and that felt really good. It was really good for our marriage. So I don’t know if it’s advice. I’d say my lived experience is you have to go really deep when you’re an entrepreneur, but you don’t have to do that forever. And it depends on what your goals are. My goals with twenty nine and twenty nine are not to be the biggest company out there, not to be the most profitable. My my real goals are to have an impactful community to make to build legacy to have something that lasts. But maybe not maximize the profitability or the growth of the business. And that allows me to spend maybe some of that time that would may you may be spent on expansion if that was something that, was a success metric of mine. I can spend it on other things. Right? So I think it’s being very self aware. And also, honestly, just realizing you can’t do everything at once because other things are gonna suffer. And I’d rather do one thing or two things at an a plus than six. A b minus or a c plus. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Yeah. Don’t you agree to, like, putting things? Like, for me, it’s in my calendar. And so it’s self management putting it in your calendar. Like, if you wanna be there for your kids or for your wife, whatever it may be, like, write it down on your calendar and then fill in the work spots around it. Would you agree with that? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Hundred percent. And and look, also, I think it’s just to be honest with people. Like, last night, I had a couple Gilliland I only didn’t wanna miss my son’s football So I just told him. I was like, look, I can hop on the phone, and I can watch a football game while I’m on the phone. My son only plays defense. I’ll talk to you when he when the offense is on the Right? It was just it was a way to say, look, I can talk to you tonight or I can talk to you on Friday. But if it’s urgent, I’m happy to get on the phone. Just understand there’s gonna be cheerleaders and abandon the background. Right. But you can be flexible, work from a lot of places, and and I think where we’re at. This is unbelievable. Gilliland it’s also a curse if you can’t put it down. And so finding that quiet time, we’re gonna get some real structured work done. And really Gilliland and Orion holiday way be still, right, and and honestly make some good progress. And then also you can work from anywhere. And and so I I kinda take that liberty to be able to work from a bunch of different places, and it allows me to spend more time with my family or friends or doing other things, adventure related. So long as I carved out that time to get the real work done before I get on the road? Speaker Brett Gilliland: So let’s talk about the, the idea stage. Right? A lot of people have ideas, and and I’m assuming I don’t know how the the twenty nine zero two nine came, about. But you have an idea, and then let’s say, you know what, man? Let’s go make it happen. Like, nobody’s doing this. Nobody anywhere was doing anything like this to my knowledge. How do you take an idea and then turn it into a business model? Sell it and then buy it back. Let’s unpack that. Speaker Marc Hodulich: I’ll start with, have really good people around you who will tell you what a bad I is too. Right? And and I’ll say that lightly. Like, I have a few people that I’ve worked with for years and I really trust, and I can go to them. I’ve been in YPO, young president’s organization for a while. Now, you know, I’d go to my forum and say an idea that we beat it up before I spend too much time on it. And sometimes that’s just me having to defend my idea first, and get more conviction in it before I go and do something. Other times, it’s battle testing something and being like, hey, maybe this isn’t as good as studying as I thought. But I think the thing that that stops most people is just action. Right? And most of the time, you think the initial idea isn’t really that good, but by going out there and actually starting it, doing it, hosting the event, launching the podcast, writing the book, once you get started in the process, you get feedback, then you’re iterating to figure out what the what the public wants. What the right product is, what the right placement is, what the right price point is. Right? If you think about the four ps of marketing, you really can’t sit in a room for months and figure it all out. And how many successful companies have been founded had a pivot. Almost all of them. Right? And, with twenty nine, I don’t know that there was pivot, but if you looked at what we did, event one, how we sold it, how we positioned it. It was really positioned as like farm to table food, great bands in a cool hiking challenge. And after the first event, Jesse and I looked at each other, Colin, and we’re like, This is really all about the story of climbing the height of everest. Why are we spending money on farm to table meals and getting these bans from your city to come in. They’re these wonderful no one wants to listen to them. People wanna spend all their energy on the mountain. Let’s take those dollars and invest it in training. In coaching and mindset talks and and speakers and actually do everything to to not rip out components of the event and and replace it with margin. But let’s figure out ways to actually reinvest those dollars in a way that supports what we think actually people are looking for. And in helping them achieve their goal better. So that led to really refining a product. And I think what we really did at the very beginning We had two rules. I think it’s very important to, hey, if you’re a business by yourself, it’s important to kinda know what your vision and values are and write them down. Yeah. That’s a business one. I wonder a lot of people don’t do it. The second thing is it is really important if you have partners to make sure you have alignment there. But, like, what are your goals? Right? And our goal was very simply to care the most. And I know that sounds ridiculous, But, like, it’s really true. We just say, hey, look, if we want to really build community, we don’t wanna have something that stands out as very different from the whole world in the Derek sport and the adventure sport. We’re gonna care the most. And and how does that play through? That plays through in the the people you work with, the people you hire, the vendors work with. And then We’re now in year seven, and, we had no pay partners. Any. Right? And and so you realize, like, I didn’t want our participants to be the product. Right? I I wanted the product to be hiking the mountain. Well, yes, we could have had a cheaper ticket if we had allowed people to come in, like, BMW Land Rover and sell their cars to this audience. Right? Because it’s an expensive ticket. And I didn’t want that because I’d be servicing the sponsor and their needs and not servicing the customer. So we were very customer centric and caring the most, and that that led us to build something It was very authentic. And anytime we had an opportunity to chase dollars and sponsors and we focused on the customer, it was easy to go back and say, what do we wanna initially do? And is that still in alignment now? So, you know, how did that lead to showing a company and buying it back. Well, at the end of the day, selling the business was something that There are just gonna be points in time, and I and I think a lot of it just has to do with timing. There was a time period in twenty one where evaluations were absolutely crazy. Across all sectors, you had companies looking to go public. Companies going public. You had unbelievable amounts of private equity and VC cash, flossing, flossing around. And there was opportunity that may not exist again. Now, look, that’s a little bit hindsight, but you knew at the time there was a way of being built. And in buying the company back was, It’ll an realignment of goals. Right? I stayed on a CEO, when we sold the business. My whole team came with me. So it was a strategic kind of partnership and acquisition. But when I realized that, like, long term, the company that acquired us, didn’t really have a plan that married once they had to pivot their business model, they became like, well, I’m a buyer. I love this. I wanna continue to do it. And and being mature enough, I think, impatient enough for that opportunity to happen and not forcing it. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. Well, and and I think too, staying involved in seeing some it’s not hitting your passion and your mission. Right? I mean, I think the the clear we are is entrepreneurs as business owners. I mean, there is a clear passion and mission for what we’re doing in our firm. And I would assume if I got displaced from that but could still see, you know, kinda like the goldfish looking or looking at in at the goldfish, I could see this thing not going down the path I want. I I I don’t want that. Right, man. I want my baby back. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. And look, some of it’s just I became a lot more self aware. Right? Like, I had a business partner buy me out of a business. I had, a business go under. Right? And so I’d had success, some success had some failure, and then you have a big, a big win, like, selling the business. And I think a lot of that as an entrepreneur, you think it’s gonna provide some validation for what you’re doing. And what I realized was like, this is my passion. It wasn’t a mistake to sell the business. It was just that I wanted to buy it back almost more than I real thought I wanted to sell it. Right? And that’s because there was such an alignment in my purpose, in my passion. And and look, The acquisition was great. My whole team stayed with me. I continued to do the same job. And I just realized I’m a really bad employee. I’m an entrepreneur. And Right. You know, I I thought, oh, I’m gonna get through on a business unit. I’m gonna get to acquire other businesses like this and put my business model on Gilliland I realized that I’d rather just only have to answer to myself or my partners, collaboratively than than have a bot Right? I just realized there’s a reason I left as an entrepreneur in the beginning and, in recognizing that, I would be much happier going forward maybe even less financial opportunity, but more controller in my day to day was, it was much more valuable to me at that point of, that point of my life. And still, that’s Speaker Brett Gilliland: Well, great learning. Right? It’s a great learning to know you just can’t work for somebody. I’m I’m not an employee myself. So it’s, it’s it’s good to know. So I saw one of your posts. You said there’s growing old versus growing up. Talk about that. Yeah. I mean Can you recall that post? Speaker Marc Hodulich: My dad is super close. I’m close to both my my my parents, and they’ve been married for fifty plus years. And all I see, my dad is, like, He still has fun all the time. Right? He’s still very fucking hard. And, like, yeah, you you’re gonna have to grow all at some point. That doesn’t mean you you have to to to mature too much to a point to not be able to laugh at yourself to try new things. And, so, yeah, it’s super important to me to stay young at heart. And, you know, I say to my kids, I hope this comes across humble, but we were at a a football game last week, and the the the steps on the bleacher are pretty big. And I’m I’m forty three. Like, I’m not thirty three anymore. Like, I think I am. And I myself in really good shape, but I looked at my son, and my my, my older son, because my younger son was on football field, and I was like, you know, look around, look at these dad’s, like, gingerly walking down these steps that are like my age around the same age. And I was like, I jumped down those things. Right? Right. I don’t wanna get old. Right? Like, I’m gonna try new things, but you have to work hard for that. Right? You have to You have to say no to some bad meals, not drink as much. You gotta get in the gym. You gotta do things, but I wanna preserve the ability of me being not only kind of young at heart and maybe even a little immature with my sense of humor or my ability to laugh at myself the way I approach things, but also physically just be able to do stuff for a longer period of time than most people my age are able to. I realize forty three still really young. But I wanna be able to do the same stuff when I’m seventy three. And I really do believe that’s possible, but it takes a mindset of kind of, like, staying staying young at heart to, I think, be able to achieve that. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. I I was just, last week. I went and, we played thirty six holes of golf per day out of bandon dunes out in Oregon. So if you’re a golfer, it’s phenomenal. Highly recommended to anybody listening. It’s a golfer, but we talked about it. You know, I’m forty five, and I’m like, man, this is a young man’s game. We’re walking because there’s no there’s no golf So it’s thirty six holes a day. We’re walking fifteen to seventeen miles a day. Thankfully, we had a caddy. But but it’s a lot. Right? By the end of the, you know, the first couple days, you’re you’re hurt So we did that for four straight days. And, but it’s but I had the exact same thought, man. Like, I don’t wanna not continue to be able to do this stuff because I’m quote unquote too old. And my actual long term goal in life is to play golf on my hundredth birthday and and, you know, shoot shoot under a hundred. You know? And so, that’s that’s Speaker Marc Hodulich: the goal. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So, yeah, I think I think having that stuff, but it’s important now. So what does that routine like for you? I know you said you’d like to run the cold plunge and the sun and all that, but kinda break that down for you, your food choices, and even your exercise. What’s that look like in a busy world today? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Look, I’m not as regimented as what people think. Right? Okay. I’m really regimented when I have a goal. If I’m training for an Ultra, a big race, whatever it is, I don’t mix a workout. Right now, I think it’s about finding some some way to move every day. I don’t know that these are, like, really amazing life hacks for people, but, I take a lot of calls. I’m on the phone a lot. My team’s remote. I walk constantly. Right? Now my friends will tell me walking’s not working out. So on one of those calls a day, I put on a thirty pound rucksack. You know, and and you walk four or five Gilliland thirty pounds when you’re back up and down hills, you build a lot of strength, core strength, back strength, leg strength, And I don’t consider that a workout. Right? So my workout typically is I run five miles a day, four days a week. And, I lift weights two to three days a week. And then, hopefully, somewhere in there, and depending on travel and what’s going on, there’s one long workout, whether it’s a long bike ride, whether it’s a long run, something of the duration of, you know, an hour and a half to two hours. Right? But food just through my nature of kind of trying to maximize as much time in the day, I don’t sit down for lunch. Today, the first thing I ate was through the clock. I realized I was intermittent fasting years ago, not even knowing Right. So, you know, I take my kids to school every day. That’s a non negotiable for me, and my wife has her time in the morning, and I take the kids to school. And then I’m working out. Sometimes before I take them, sometimes after, I’m really flexible, but I make sure I do something active every single day that I would consider a workout. And I don’t consider taking a conference call with a rucksack on a workout. It’s just I’m being active rather than sedentary. So I think for me, it’s always been about having enough hydration I don’t drink soft drinks. Like, these are simple things. Right? I don’t snack a lot. And I try to eat as healthy as we can. We try to cook in you know, three to four nights a week. But there’s no, like, super strict diet. It’s more or less just like a little bit of moderation. And a lot of activity. And I’ve just found, like, I haven’t gained weight, in probably thirteen to fifteen years, unless I was trying to to gain weight, but I’m really active. I’m on my feet constantly. I’m playing with my kids a lot. And, I’m only really in a routine where I’m tracking every workout and all that type of stuff. If there’s something big on my calendar. Otherwise, I’m just trying to be six to eight weeks away of hard training, be ready for almost anything. Right? I try to stay in good enough state And that’s something I learned from the, an amazing endurance coach, who works in our staff, Chris Howe, who’s rich roles, personal coach, and two time Olympic. He’s like, look, all my athletes are six or eight weeks ready from almost doing anything. Like, if you wanna go run a hundred mile run and I’m coaching you, six weeks from now, you could be ready. If six weeks of heart training. And while I’m not on that caliber, I’m pretty close to where if I put my head down for six weeks, I I maintain a level of fitness that could have me ready for almost anything in the six to week period. Speaker Brett Gilliland: So what’s the next experience, man? What are you doing with your kids? And because that’s something I’m thinking about. My oldest is a senior, and I’ve got a, you know, senior a sophomore eighth grade, fourth grade, One of my first, college visit with my son, sorry Auburn, it was at Old Miss, another SEC there. And, it was fun. We went to the Grove, did a little tailgate before the ball game is incredible. But, you know, I’m looking for those those experiences. So what what do you have out there that you think would be cool with the kids, whether it’s adventurous, running, riding, swimming, hiking, whatever it may be. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. So, two things that I learned each independently from someone else, not my own ideas. One, when each of my boys turns thirteen, I had one turn this year. They get a pick anywhere in the United States, they wanna go on a trip. It’s just the two of us for three I had an opportunity to to go to London, and go to some Premier League games, and my thirteen year old super into that. So he said nice. Yeah. You can the US in London. So I gotta hop the ante for my eleven year old, when he turns thirteen. And then when they turn eighteen, you get to pick anywhere in the world they wanna go. And my wife and I, the four of us will go on a family trip together. And that’s been something that gets talked about a lot. And I want them to be really invested in it. They’re gonna have to plan it but it’s already being talked about in our family. So those are, like, two things at thirteen and eighteen, kind of, like, going into eighth Gilliland then going into college. I feel which is a really important time. One for me to just do one father, son, one to do as a family. As far as other adventures, you know, I found for me, the things that we enjoy most of the families if we get out of our comfort zone. And so I’ve really enjoyed going to other countries and immersing ourselves in the culture. And, experience that I’ve loved, you know, we we went to Patagonia. We’ve gone to Costa Rica. And they’re super, super active vacations. Right? Like, you want a vacation afterwards to just rest. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Right. Speaker Marc Hodulich: But I want my kids to see the world. And I think, you know, even in the United States, you know, we tend to spend our summer We spent a few weeks in telluride over here. This last summer, because I had events in Jackson Hole and Sun Valley, we spent time in those locations. And, like, getting out in the mountains, There’s something to do every day. And I’ve really enjoyed adventures where my kids had to put a decent amount of effort into something. So the big hikes, staying up paddleboarding down rivers, the mountain bike riding. That stuff’s been very rewarding, even taking them up their first, like, thirteen or next year, probably, like, I’m a fourteen or with them. You know, safe routes, but, like, a lot of work. Right? And then you get to pay off of a view I really enjoyed those experiences where they kind of complained at the beginning. I did a dirt bike adventure, and I never ridden a dirt bike. We all had to learn how to ride dirt bikes together, camp out. I don’t like camping. Right? It ended up being something that was amazing. I did it with another entrepreneur and his son there were there were actually like four dads and four sons. So I found stuff like that to be really gratifying too. You have to come on and be able to go together. And then you’re doing it in an adventure where it’s not easy, but I I also think that the memories are so much stronger from doing those types of activities that we’ve done together. Speaker Brett Gilliland: It’s incredible. Yeah. We do the thirteen and then they’re, the summer after they graduate. So it’ll be our first one finally, not finally because it went so damn fast, but our big trip, but They’re they’re they’re thinking a little bigger, man. Our our our first one when he was thirteen, it was a COVID. So we kinda got, you know, screwed in We ended up having a staycation here in Saint Louis, but it was nice. It was fun. And then, the next one picked Chicago, and then the the last one we just did in April was, he picked California. So makes us to see in a in a few years what our next one does. So, last couple of questions here, man. You you talked about earlier about dreaming big, and And we’ve really kinda been dreaming big and talking big this whole time. But what is that process for you? Because, like, for me, it’s it’s this black journal here. It’s setting down. It’s spending time myself. Thinking, it’s dreaming, it’s strategizing. Do you have a process like that that you could share with our listeners, or what is that dreaming big process for you? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. So I found works really well for me is I need to be moving, and I need to be outdoors. And I gotta get in a place that inspires me. And look, I Atlanta’s a beautiful like it, but it doesn’t inspire me. So what I’ve found works really well for me is to go to a beautiful place, spend time in nature, without any distraction. Anytime I run, I don’t bring my phone. I don’t wear an Apple Watch. You know, I wanna be away from devices. I think I’d be really good thinking there. And then You know, look, Jesse and our partners in a few businesses, and and and Jesse, for those little gnomes, a credible entrepreneur, super inspiring person, but if you think you have a big idea, Brain is someone who’s had ideas for ten times. Speaker Brett Gilliland: It’d be bigger. Yeah. Speaker Marc Hodulich: And and and and get pushed in that sense. I think that whether it’s related to twenty nine or twenty nine or not, when I’m thinking about something that I think is a game changer and you you you have a circle of friends and peers that are thinking big, and I don’t always think that that big means more money. Right? But just challenging yourself, a big adventure or whatever it is. Right? Having people there that you really look up to challenge today, are you thinking big enough or are you limiting yourself? And sometimes you’re starting really big and then refining on the way down, but I think that, that who you surround yourself with matters so much? Because when I’m thinking about adventures I’m gonna go and do, I’m comparing adventures I would do to Colinor Brady, who’s one of my partners, who’s got ten world records, and is he only with the first person to pull a sled across Antarctica for sixty something days self supported. Right? So think of an adventure as something no human has ever done before. And therefore, when I get ideas from him, it’s because we get training routines. Right? And that’s not diminishing what I’m doing, but I’m also not going to a circle of friends that are so impressed with what they’ve done. Yeah. They’re gonna think anything I do is outstanding. Surrounding myself with peers who have done such impressive things. I mean, I I personally have two close friends that devrode the Atlantic. I mean, that’s nuts. Right? I would never stop growing. Right? But when you start talking to them, they’re like, oh, did you know you can do this between Antigo and this? And that’d be really cool for, like, two days. Right? Or did you know you can Speaker Brett Gilliland: ski different? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. You can ski across Finland. Right? It’s eight day cross country skiing, and they set up you know, tend for you to sleep in it. So now me and my friends are kind of considering how is that something we do for our next guys trip. Right? So it’s kind of expanding who you speak to around these things and not not being nervous around sharing your ideas because a lot of times my friends are actually challenging me to think bigger And I’m probably a little too focused on something that is probably too attainable. And and, you know, they’re pushing me to think bigger because they’ve had such big experiences themselves. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. So, seaside was on your, location thing for your deal. So watercolor seaside, you love thirty a down there? Speaker Marc Hodulich: I do. I really do. My parents started going down there in, like, the early two thousands. And that’s been changed Speaker Brett Gilliland: a bit. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yes. Changed a lot. And I think, you know, it’s easy to look back, but Gilliland say, oh, I should’ve bought real estate. I should’ve looked at this, whatever. It’s it’s interesting to learn from those moments too. Right? And and the people who did and the companies that invested there in the vision that they had to see what transpired to. To me, like, I I don’t look back and say I missed an opportunity to look back and say, what can I learn? From that area? What could I learn from what those people did? Because they took a lot of big risks. And, it’s I I cheer them for winning because, yeah, that area loaded It’s become a great family place for us. We’ll be down there for thanksgiving this year with my parents and and I’ll love it down there. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Yeah. We go there a couple times a year. I’ll be down there. I go in two times for the family and one time with a buddy’s golf trip down there. And I I had the same learning moment, man. I made an offer in a house in nineteen, went back and did the head scratcher in this summer and I saw what it sold for. I’m like, wow. That’s that’s a humbling moment. What do I learn from that one? But, hey, you live and learn. Right? Where do our listeners find more of you? Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. I mean, look, twenty nine and twenty nine. I mean, just Google two 09:02 nine, just the numbers. And then my Instagram panel is Mark, m a r c two 09:02 nine. So I’m pretty synonymous with our brand. Yeah. I couldn’t breathe it. And and, yeah, we’d we’d encourage anyone whether you’re gonna check out our event or something else. Like, put something big on your calendar. Right? I think it’s, putting something big on your calendar gives you, the opportunity to to be more interesting. And and you’d be surprising how much people just really care. About you doing something different, whether that’s running a marathon, whether it’s, you know, starting a podcast, whatever it is. I think, you know, putting something big on your calendar, allows you to be part of a conversation that you’re not starting with other people. They’re starting it with you. And, and not to be egotistical, but I just think it it’s it’s very interesting how that then leads into business and other opportunities because you’re just doing something that people find of interest. And, you’re continuing to challenge yourself or something all too often people think about doing it, but don’t do. So I would I would just encourage people to find something no matter how scary surround yourself with people that will support you in doing it, and that’s really what we’ve been trying to do at twenty nine and twenty nine since the beginning. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Also, creates a sense of urgency for your training, man, to stay in shape. Speaker Marc Hodulich: Yeah. I need that. I need that for sure. Speaker Brett Gilliland: Awesome, man. Well, Mark, thanks so much for being with me on the circle of success. Hang with me when I hit finish here. And then, but man, really appreciate you being on the show.