David Brubaker writes that leading in a politically polarized age requires clarity, compassion, courage and connection. Those characteristics reflect the essence of leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leading in an Age of Political Polarization by David R. Brubaker The Non-Anxious Leader: Family Systems Basics, July 1-28, 2020 Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

This rebroadcast is more relevant in the renewed fight against racism. Spiral dynamics is a model that helps us understand both human and societal development. The challenge of the 21st century is finding unity in the midst of ever-growing diversity. Understanding family systems can help. Show Notes: Stages of Social Development: The Cultural Dynamics that Spark Violence, Spread Prosperity, and Shape Globalization by Don Edward Beck, Ph. D. The Liturgists Podcast, Episode 5: Spiral Dynamics Fr. Richard Rohr – The One and The Many Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

When faced with a difficult decision avoid the impulse to react, stay focused on your mission, weigh the downside risk, and look for stop signs. Then make your choice and own it. Show Notes: Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions Chasing Daylight: Seize the Power of Every Moment by Erwin McManus Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why. Show Notes: Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast The Non-Anxious Leader Network Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Family systems practitioner Jenny Brown uses the term maturity to describe self-differentiation. I take two paragraphs from her book and distill out three hallmarks of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life's relationships by Jenny Brown The Non-Anxious Leader Network Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Not every decision is created equal. Knowing how to manage your decision-making energy will make you more confident, less anxious, and will leave you more energy for the big decisions. Show Notes: Successful people like Barack Obama and Mark Zuckerberg wear the same thing every day — and it's not a coincidence from Business Insider The Choices Before Us: Can Fewer Options Lead To Better Decisions? from Hidden Brain Podcast Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The uncertainty created by the COVID-19 pandemic is like "the fog of war." Non-anxious leaders embrace this uncertainty in a way that helps those they lead do their best work. Show notes: A Crisis Leadership Lesson, an interview with General Stanley McChrystal, The Masters of Scale Rapid Response Podcast. This link has all episodes on one page. To find the McChrystal interview, scroll down. You can also download a transcript. 7 Successful Battle Strategies to Beat COVID-19 by Euvin Naidoo Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Working from home is even more challenging when it's 24/7 and you share the space with others. Understanding how to adjust your routines to make it work will get you through. Show Notes: This is my office cubbyhole in the basement. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Self-acceptance comes from self-understanding and self-compassion. This is easier said than done. It begins with awareness and intentionality and ultimately leads to taking responsibility for self. Show Notes: The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. Therapists Spill: 12 Ways to Accept Yourself by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. This is my blog post that includes the Nick Saban quote, "So what? Now what?" Lessons from Lifelong Kindergarten. Learn about Don Clifton and the strengthfinders movement. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The COVID-19 pandemic has disrupted daily living for almost everybody. This kind of change requires us to understand loss, grief and how to manage anxiety. Show Notes: That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.