Goal Direction and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. This episode explores what this looks like and how it applies to leadership. Show Notes: The Bowen Center Professional Lecture Series Podcast, Goal Direction and Family Functioning, Philip Klever, MSW. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

What works for Donald Trump as a leader will not likely work for the rest of us. Understanding the ways he increases anxiety can help you to be more effective as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Podcast Episode 28: How to Take a Leadership Stand on Controversial Issues (including a Family Systems take on Donald Trump’s Leadership Style) Podcast Episode 44: Four Rules for Political Discourse (and another look at Donald Trump’s leadership style) Revisionist History Presents: The Limits of Power Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Understanding the difference between worry, stress, anxiety and excitement can help leaders remain a non-anxious presence in the most challenging moments. Show Notes: The Difference Between Worry, Stress and Anxiety by Emma Pattee A Bundle of Nerves - Choiceology Podcast with Katy Milkman Get Excited: Reappraising Pre-Performance Anxiety as Excitement by Alison Wood Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-anxious leaders say what they believe while giving others the freedom to disagree. Understanding how belief functions makes this easier. Show Notes: Belief in the Brain by Allison Bond Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described a set of tensions that every leader faces. Understanding context and emotional process helps the non-anxious leader navigate these effectively. Show Notes: Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Rites of passage are times when the emotional intensity makes it possible for people to grow in their capacity to self-differentiate. It requires recognizing the emotional process at work and responding appropriately. My family is going through just such a time. It makes a great case study. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Keeping things in perspective is essential for the non-anxious leader. This episode unpacks three important of perspectives that make it easier to be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Episode 49: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 1 of 2) Episode 50: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 2 of 2) Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Knowing that norms, values and patterns of behavior are transmitted from generation to generation can help you to take anxiety and resistance less personally. This will help you remain a non-anxious presence. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The uncertainty and disruption caused by the COVID-19 pandemic can create a persistent, low-level anxiety that affects one's ability to be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Episode 67: Six Ways to Manage Anxiety Episode 68: Self-Acceptance Leads to Self-Differentiation Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

As with many things in family systems theory, self-differentiation requires holding the tension between self-definition and emotional connection. Show Notes: WorkLife with Adam Grant – Bonus: Relationships at work with Esther Perel Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.