Understanding the difference between worry, stress, anxiety and excitement can help leaders remain a non-anxious presence in the most challenging moments. Show Notes: The Difference Between Worry, Stress and Anxiety by Emma Pattee A Bundle of Nerves - Choiceology Podcast with Katy Milkman Get Excited: Reappraising Pre-Performance Anxiety as Excitement by Alison Wood Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-anxious leaders say what they believe while giving others the freedom to disagree. Understanding how belief functions makes this easier. Show Notes: Belief in the Brain by Allison Bond Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described a set of tensions that every leader faces. Understanding context and emotional process helps the non-anxious leader navigate these effectively. Show Notes: Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Rites of passage are times when the emotional intensity makes it possible for people to grow in their capacity to self-differentiate. It requires recognizing the emotional process at work and responding appropriately. My family is going through just such a time. It makes a great case study. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Keeping things in perspective is essential for the non-anxious leader. This episode unpacks three important of perspectives that make it easier to be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Episode 49: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 1 of 2) Episode 50: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 2 of 2) Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Knowing that norms, values and patterns of behavior are transmitted from generation to generation can help you to take anxiety and resistance less personally. This will help you remain a non-anxious presence. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The uncertainty and disruption caused by the COVID-19 pandemic can create a persistent, low-level anxiety that affects one's ability to be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Episode 67: Six Ways to Manage Anxiety Episode 68: Self-Acceptance Leads to Self-Differentiation Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

As with many things in family systems theory, self-differentiation requires holding the tension between self-definition and emotional connection. Show Notes: WorkLife with Adam Grant – Bonus: Relationships at work with Esther Perel Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The Broadway production of Hamilton has some great examples of people-pleasing and narcissism. Here's why self-differentiation is neither. Show Notes: WorkLife with Adam Grant - Bonus: Relationships at work with Esther Perel Hamilton despised slavery but didn’t confront George Washington or other slaveholders by Gregory S. Schneider Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Having compassion for and staying connected to those with whom you disagree is not likely to change their mind. It does keep open the possibility for new opportunities. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.