The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

A conflict of wills gets you stuck. This approach will help you move forward towards a more productive conversation. Show notes: New Neuroscience Reveals 7 Secrets That Will Make You Emotionally Intelligent by Eric Barker Conflicted: How Productive Disagreements Lead to Better Outcomes by Ian Leslie Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.

A scapegoat gives individuals and society someone to blame. This episode unpacks the family systems principles at work. Show Notes: A Cow, A Lantern, and a Myth: Mrs. O'Leary and 19the Century Immigrants in Chicago The O'Leary Legend Scapegoating minorities is an unfortunate reality of history by Grady Atwater Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Self-differentiation is different than being selfish. This episode explains the difference. Show Notes: Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness by Scott Barry Kaufman and Emanuel Jauk Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Authenticity is the path to developing as an effective leader. This episode breaks down how this relates to leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Discovering Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George, Peter Sims, Andrew N. McLean, and Diana Mayer. Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Understanding emotional process enables leaders to know when they should engage in a conversation and when there is something else going on. This episode explains the difference. This is the audio of Chapter 5, "Process Not Content," from my book, If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast. Show Notes: If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer FREE Family Systems Books Study in The Non-Anxious Leader Network Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

This podcast explores the concept of triangles in relationships and how they impact stability and tension. It discusses emotional triangles and provides practical advice on dealing with them. The chapter also emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and avoiding triangles by redirecting the problem to the complainer.

The difference between happy and unhappy people is how they respond to pain and suffering. This episode unpacks the family systems concepts involved. Show Notes: This Is The Most Fun Way To Make Your Life Awesome by Eric Barker The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By by Dan P. McAdams Episode 128: How to Grow Stronger Emotionally Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Emotional cutoff is not uncommon in families, congregations and organizations. This episode helps you recognize it and manage it. Show Notes: Emotional Cutoff The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Episode 103: The Magnet Theory of Emotional Distance Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.