If servant leadership is about serving those you lead, then how does a self-differentiated leader do this? Part 1 goes through the first five characteristics of a servant-leader to show you how. Show Notes: Ten Characteristics of a Servant-Leader by Larry Spears Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) Episode 48: Envy, Empathy and Emotional Connection Episode 90: How Self-Awareness and Intentionality Foster Self-Differentiation Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Glennon Doyle said, "Pain is not to be chosen, not to be avoided." I break this statement down in family systems terms to show how this is the path to self-differentiation and emotional strength. Show Notes: Glennon Doyle and Brené on Untamed - Unlocking Us with Brené Brown How do you help a grieving friend? by Megan Devine Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Self-differentiation includes both self-definition and self-regulation. This episode breaks down what this looks like and how to keep things in balance. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

This episode looks at the pseudo-self vs. the basic self, as well as the three-legged stool of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.

This look at self-differentiation comes from the Bowen school of family systems theory. I give my take on how it can help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Self-management, self-awareness, social awareness and relationship management are all aspects of emotional intelligence that can help you be a non-anxious presence. Here's how. Show Notes: Improving Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Emotional Intelligence Toolkit Quick Stress Relief Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. This episode explains how it relates to family systems theory. Show Notes: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: AN OVERVIEW  Dr. Manoranjan Tripathy Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Trying too hard to motivate the unmotivated can result in resistance. Here's a family systems take using a story from Friedman's Fables. Show Notes: Friedman's Fables Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Projection is an emotional process that is one of the four automatic responses to system anxiety. Understanding how it works and how to recognize it will help you as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Friedmans's Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

If we don't self-regulate we can end up responding automatically to system anxiety. This episode explains the possible responses and how to respond differently. Show notes: The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.