

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast
Jack Shitama
The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence.
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Jan 31, 2022 • 13min
Episode 160: Four Steps to Using Emotional Intelligence to Self-Differentiate
Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice.
Show Notes:
This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker
The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by Matthew McKay PhD, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev PsyD, Michelle Skeen PsyD
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Jan 24, 2022 • 18min
Episode 159: Edwin Friedman's 11 Tensions in Leadership
Discover the intriguing concept of Edwin Friedman’s 11 tensions in leadership. It explores the balance between self-differentiation and connection, essential for effective leadership. The discussion provides practical insights on managing emotions and maintaining composure during tough times. Learn how to navigate these tensions to enhance your leadership approach and foster a more resilient team.

Jan 17, 2022 • 13min
Episode 158: The Long-Term Cost of Surrounding Togetherness Pressure (and What You Can Do about It)
Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here's what you can do about it.
Show Notes:
The experience of regret: What, when, and why by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec
Episode 24: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying (and How to Avoid Them)
Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety by Jack Shitama
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Jan 10, 2022 • 13min
Episode 157: Your Brain on Anxiety
The primitive part of our brain makes it possible for us to get addicted to anxiety and worry. This episode breaks it down, as well as how to break the habit.
Show Notes:
Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer, MD, PhD
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Jan 3, 2022 • 14min
Episode 156: How to Break the Cycle of Chronic Emotional Patterns
Chronic emotional patterns are sustained by reactive or adaptive responses. Breaking the cycle requires self-awareness and intentionality to do something different. Here's how.
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Dec 27, 2021 • 11min
Episode 155: Understanding Chronic Emotional Patterns
Chronic emotional patterns are sustained by adaptive or reactive feedback. Understanding how this works is the first step toward responding as a non-anxious presence.
Show Notes:
Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith
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Dec 20, 2021 • 16min
Episode 154: How to Stand Up for Yourself during the Holidays (or Anytime)
Self-differentiation doesn't happen automatically. It's even harder during the holidays when surrounding togetherness pressure can be high. This episode covers a four-step process that can help you remain a non-anxious presence when you express what you believe, feel, want and need.
Show Notes:
Alison Cook, Ph.D.
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Dec 13, 2021 • 11min
Episode 153: Managing Family Estrangements during the Holidays
Over one quarter of Americans have an estranged family member. This makes the holidays extremely difficult. Learning to manage this can also help you to grow as a non-anxious leader.
Show Notes:
How to grieve estranged family and friends during the holidays by Christina Wyman
Episode 135: Emotional Cutoff – What It Is and How to Deal with It
Center for Pastoral Effectiveness of the Rockies
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Dec 6, 2021 • 13min
Episode 152: How to Deal with Annoying Family Members during the Holidays (or anytime)
The holidays can be stressful even without annoying family members. This episode will help you prepare so you can be a non-anxious presence.
Show Notes:
Use these job skills to deal with your most difficult family members this holiday season by Gwen Moran
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Nov 29, 2021 • 17min
Episode 151: Six Steps to Being an Authentic Leader (rebroadcast)
The characteristics of an authentic leader show that self-differentiation and authenticity go hand-in-hand. It all comes down to taking responsibility for self. This episode shows you how.
Show Notes:
Discovering Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George , Peter Sims , Andrew N. McLean and Diana Mayer
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