Leading through self-differentiation will result in a loyal opposition. This is a good thing and will help you be your best. Show Notes: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Societal regression occurs when anxiety increases due to the inability to handle change. This episode looks at the characteristics in light of recent events. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix Podcast Episode 28: How to Take a Leadership Stand on Controversial Issues (including a Family Systems take on Donald Trump’s Leadership Style) Podcast Episode 44: Four Rules for Political Discourse (and another look at Donald Trump’s leadership style) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

This episode covers a repeatable process for developing positive habits to improve your spiritual, physical and professional lives. Show Notes: Get your FREE ecopy of One New Habit, One New Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan The Healthy Habit Revolution: The Step by Step Blueprint to Create Better Habits in 5 Minutes a Day by Derek Doepker The Power of Small Wins by Teresa M. Amabile and Steven J. Kramer Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space. The magnet theory helps to understand what this looks like and how to do it. Show Notes: Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity The Non-Anxious Leader Network Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Emotional intensity can serve as a clue to the emotional process in a system. This episode starts with examples in child-focused families and then shows how this can help the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue The Non-Anxious Leader Network Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The children's story, Bread and Jam for Frances, has all the components of family systems theory. This episode breaks it down. Show Notes: Bread and Jam for Frances by Russell Hoban Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Non-Violent or Compassionate Communication not only helps us to express our unmet needs, it also helps us to listen to others to identify their unmet needs. Show Notes: Episode 99: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication - Part 1 Family Systems Book Study in The Non-Anxious Leader Network Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Marshall Rosenberg developed Non-Violent Communication to better express our own needs and better understand the needs of others. This episode looks at how this complements family systems theory and can help non-anxious leaders communicate more effectively. Show Notes: The Center for Non-Violent Communication "Feelings Inventory" The Center for Non-Violent Communication "Needs Inventory" Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman maintained that paradox and playfulness were important to maintaining a non-anxious presence. The leverage of the dependent and the conflict of wills are key concepts to understanding how this works. Show Notes: Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Discerning and communicating vision is your most important role as a leader. Doing this well creates focus, as well as reduces anxiety. Understanding family sysytems theory will help you deal effectively with resistance. A note: near the end I say "A little humilty never helps." I meant to say, "A little humility never hurts."  Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.