Authenticity is the path to developing as an effective leader. This episode breaks down how this relates to leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Discovering Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George, Peter Sims, Andrew N. McLean, and Diana Mayer. Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Understanding emotional process enables leaders to know when they should engage in a conversation and when there is something else going on. This episode explains the difference. This is the audio of Chapter 5, "Process Not Content," from my book, If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast. Show Notes: If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer FREE Family Systems Books Study in The Non-Anxious Leader Network Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

This podcast explores the concept of triangles in relationships and how they impact stability and tension. It discusses emotional triangles and provides practical advice on dealing with them. The chapter also emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and avoiding triangles by redirecting the problem to the complainer.

The difference between happy and unhappy people is how they respond to pain and suffering. This episode unpacks the family systems concepts involved. Show Notes: This Is The Most Fun Way To Make Your Life Awesome by Eric Barker The Redemptive Self: Stories Americans Live By by Dan P. McAdams Episode 128: How to Grow Stronger Emotionally Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Emotional cutoff is not uncommon in families, congregations and organizations. This episode helps you recognize it and manage it. Show Notes: Emotional Cutoff The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Episode 103: The Magnet Theory of Emotional Distance Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Surrounding togetherness pressure doesn't always come from others. Our desire to please can cause anxiety. Here's one example and how I dealt with it. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

A non-anxious leader understands how emotions spread and how to be a positive influence. This episode breaks it down. Show Notes: Those Who Share a Roof Share Emotions by Arthur C. Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Remaining a non-anxious presence with someone who is frustrated creates healthy emotional space. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Avoiding a conflict of wills and taking responsibility for self are two essential elements in responding when you make a mistake. I share my own experience in this episode. Show Notes: Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.

If servant leadership is about serving those you lead, then how does a self-differentiated leader do this? Part 2 goes through the second five characteristics of a servant-leader to show you how. Show Notes: Ten Characteristics of a Servant-Leader by Larry Spears A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Putting God First Means Family Comes Before Work by Jack Shitama Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.