The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

This podcast explores the upsides of acting without fear and the importance of self-differentiation in leadership. It discusses the concept of a magic ring that allows individuals to freely follow their desires without fear of failure. The tension between desire and fear in leadership is also examined, highlighting the need for vulnerability and deeper connections.

The Friedman's Fable, "Attachment," uses a mythical culture to describe attachment in the extreme. Listen to the fable and my take on how it applies to leadership. Show Notes: Friedman's Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Leadership through self-differentiation creates the conditions for people to speak their minds. This leads to a healthier system and a better chance to lead positive change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Family Systems 101 Preview SIGN UP for Family Systems 101 Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Empathy is important but has its downsides. Leadership through self-differentiation sees empathy as a step toward compassion, which can help others learn and grow. Show Notes: Connect with Empathy, But Lead with Compassion by Rasmus Hougaard, Jacqueline Carter, and Marissa Afton Episode 48: Envy, Empathy and Emotional Connection ZOOM link for the Family Systems 101 Preview (Tuesday, February 8, 2022, 7pm EST) Join the FREE Family Systems 101 Course (11 Tuesdays from February 22, 2022 to May 3, 2022, 7-8:30pm EST) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice. Show Notes: This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by Matthew McKay PhD, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev PsyD, Michelle Skeen PsyD Family Systems 101 Preview Link (Tuesday, February 8, 2022, 7pm EST) Sign Up for Family Systems 101 Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Discover the intriguing concept of Edwin Friedman’s 11 tensions in leadership. It explores the balance between self-differentiation and connection, essential for effective leadership. The discussion provides practical insights on managing emotions and maintaining composure during tough times. Learn how to navigate these tensions to enhance your leadership approach and foster a more resilient team.

Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here's what you can do about it. Show Notes: The experience of regret: What, when, and why by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec Episode 24: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying (and How to Avoid Them) Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety by Jack Shitama Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

The primitive part of our brain makes it possible for us to get addicted to anxiety and worry. This episode breaks it down, as well as how to break the habit. Show Notes: Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer, MD, PhD Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Chronic emotional patterns are sustained by reactive or adaptive responses. Breaking the cycle requires self-awareness and intentionality to do something different. Here's how. Show Notes: Sign up for The Non-Anxious Leader Email list. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Chronic emotional patterns are sustained by adaptive or reactive feedback. Understanding how this works is the first step toward responding as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.