

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast
Jack Shitama
The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence.
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Jan 16, 2023 • 13min
Episode 210: A Family Systems Take on Emotional Labor
Emotional labor has gotten a lot of attention lately, especially in relation to gender equity. Here's how to understand it in family systems terms.
Show Notes:
The Concept Creep of ‘Emotional Labor’ by Julie Beck
Family Systems 101 - A FREE online course
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Jan 9, 2023 • 17min
Episode 209: How to Remain Cool Under Pressure
Maintaining a non-anxious presence in anxious situations is challenging. Here's what you can learn from one of sport's most pressure-filled moments.
Show Notes:
A Psychologist Spent Five Years Studying World Cup Penalty Shootouts by Ben Cohen
Family Systems 101 - A FREE 11-Week Course
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Jan 2, 2023 • 14min
Episode 208: 4 Steps to Manage Reactive People
Being able to handle situations where others lose their cool is an essential leadership skill. Here's how to do it.
Show Notes:
This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Arguments: 4 Secrets by Eric Barker
Talking to 'Crazy': How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life by Mark Goulston
Episode 206: How to Be a Non-Anxious Presence
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Dec 26, 2022 • 19min
Episode 207: How to Make Your Habits Work for You (Rebroadcast)
If you want to make an impact in this world, you need to be able to do what's important but not urgent. Whether you want to improve your health, write a book or run a marathon, the same principles apply. Here's how they've worked for me.
Show Notes:
Get your FREE ecopy of One New Habit, One New Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks (no email address required)
The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan
The Healthy Habit Revolution: The Step by Step Blueprint to Create Better Habits in 5 Minutes a Day by Derek Doepker
The Power of Small Wins by Teresa M. Amabile and Steven J. Kramer
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Dec 19, 2022 • 15min
Episode 206: How to Be a Non-Anxious Presence
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy helps people with extreme reactivity. Here's how it can help you to be a non-anxious presence.
Show Notes:
How to calm your inner storm by Sheri Van Dijk
Non-Violent Communications Feelings Inventory
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Dec 12, 2022 • 13min
Episode 205: How Self-Differentiation Breeds Confidence
Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here's how it works.
Show Notes:
5 habits of confident people by Stephanie Vozza
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Dec 5, 2022 • 19min
Episode 204: How to Manage the Negative Emotions of Others (rebroadcast)
A non-anxious leader understands how emotions spread and how to be a positive influence. This episode is a rebroadcast of Episode 133: Emotions Are Contagious - Here's What You Need to Know. It's been re-titled because it focuses mainly on how to be a non-anxious presence when others are unhappy.
Show Notes:
Those Who Share a Roof Share Emotions by Arthur C. Brooks
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Nov 28, 2022 • 18min
Episode 203: 8 Signs That You Are Not Self-Differentiating
Self-differentiation is the ability to define your own goals and values, express them in healthy ways AND remain emotionally connected to the most anxious in the relationship system. Here are eight ways that you can fall short, along with strategies to do better in the future.
Show notes:
Minding the Gaps in Our Own Maturity by Kathleen Smith
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Nov 21, 2022 • 14min
Episode 202: Four Types of Triangles and How to Manage Them
The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader.
Show Notes:
Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC
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Nov 14, 2022 • 14min
Episode 201: Four Leadership Tips from Edwin Friedman (plus Where to Find Family Systems Training)
Understanding the nuances of emotional process will make you a better leader. These four tips will help.
Show Notes:
The Center for Family Process
The Center for Pastoral Effectiveness in the Rockies
The Family Systems Institute
The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family
Tending the Fire
Lombard Mennonite Peace Center
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