Every system has interlocking triangles. This episode uses a case study from Edwin Friedman's Generation to Generation to explain how they work and how to unlock them. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

In this episode I break down a case study from Generation to Generation that highlights how paradox and playfulness can lead to lasting change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Explore the concept of burnout through a humorous fable about fish in a tank. Learn about unusual behaviors in the tank, the impact of over-functioning and burnout on self-differentiation, and strategies to lead through self-differentiation and avoid burnout.

This podcast explores the upsides of acting without fear and the importance of self-differentiation in leadership. It discusses the concept of a magic ring that allows individuals to freely follow their desires without fear of failure. The tension between desire and fear in leadership is also examined, highlighting the need for vulnerability and deeper connections.

The Friedman's Fable, "Attachment," uses a mythical culture to describe attachment in the extreme. Listen to the fable and my take on how it applies to leadership. Show Notes: Friedman's Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Leadership through self-differentiation creates the conditions for people to speak their minds. This leads to a healthier system and a better chance to lead positive change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Family Systems 101 Preview SIGN UP for Family Systems 101 Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Empathy is important but has its downsides. Leadership through self-differentiation sees empathy as a step toward compassion, which can help others learn and grow. Show Notes: Connect with Empathy, But Lead with Compassion by Rasmus Hougaard, Jacqueline Carter, and Marissa Afton Episode 48: Envy, Empathy and Emotional Connection ZOOM link for the Family Systems 101 Preview (Tuesday, February 8, 2022, 7pm EST) Join the FREE Family Systems 101 Course (11 Tuesdays from February 22, 2022 to May 3, 2022, 7-8:30pm EST) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice. Show Notes: This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by Matthew McKay PhD, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev PsyD, Michelle Skeen PsyD Family Systems 101 Preview Link (Tuesday, February 8, 2022, 7pm EST) Sign Up for Family Systems 101 Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Edwin Friedman described 11 tensions in leadership. This episode explains them so you can use them as a guide to leading through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.

Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here's what you can do about it. Show Notes: The experience of regret: What, when, and why by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec Episode 24: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying (and How to Avoid Them) Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety by Jack Shitama Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.  Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails.