

Do You F*cking Mind?
Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
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Aug 14, 2025 • 37min
440. When Setting a Boundary Makes You the Villain (Headnoise)
It's Head Noise day! I answer your questions on setting boundaries, handling difficult friendships and dealing with family influence in relationships.
How can you set a boundary without becoming the villain? What to do when your friend turns on you because you try and create a healthy boundary? How to deal with your partners family influencing your relationship and MORE.
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Aug 10, 2025 • 32min
439. How to put someone in the past and leave them there for good
Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is let go. In this episode of Do You F**ing Mind?, I talk all about moving the fck on from people who no longer deserve a place in your life. Whether it’s an ex who drains you, a toxic friend who keeps pulling you down, or a colleague who sabotages your confidence, you’ll learn how to recognize when it’s time to cut ties and how to actually do it without guilt.
Inside this episode:
The psychology of why we hold onto relationships that hurt us
Neuroscience-backed strategies for breaking emotional attachments
How to spot toxic patterns early and stop excusing bad behavior
Practical tools to build boundaries and move forward with confidence
If you’ve ever struggled to let go, this episode will give you the clarity and mindset shift you need to finally release what’s holding you back, and step into a healthier, stronger version of yourself.. Episode referenced: 21. Dealing with Cooked Duds that Are Stuck in Your Life.
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Aug 7, 2025 • 39min
438. How to Stop Overthinking in a Healthy Relationship & more (Headnoise)
In this Head Noise episode of Do You F**ing Mind?*, I answer your biggest questions on love, life, and everything in between. From navigating the ups and downs of modern relationships, to making life-changing decisions about whether or not to have children, to dealing with the messy reality of complicated friendships.
In this ep:
How to recognise red flags and build healthier relationships
Things to consider when making major life decisions, (like having kids)
Psychology-backed strategies for handling toxic or complicated friendships
Tools to trust yourself when faced with uncertainty
This episode will give you clarity, confidence, and the mindset shift you need to move forward.
navigating complicated friendships
deciding whether to have children
psychology of relationships
life decisions and clarity
toxic friendship advice
personal growth and relationship
confidence in decision making
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Aug 6, 2025 • 45min
437. The neuroscience of loneliness…the silent stress you can fix
In today's episode, we dive deep into the topic of loneliness. I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, the health implications of feeling isolated, and what happens in the brain when you experience loneliness. I give you actionable steps to help you overcome loneliness and build meaningful connections.
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Jul 31, 2025 • 36min
436. Codependency in New Relationships, Future Plans & Life Decisions (Headnoise)
The discussion dives into the fine line between effective communication and codependency in new relationships. Listeners learn how to navigate differing backgrounds and expectations while maintaining personal boundaries. The complexities of returning home after traveling are explored, highlighting emotional ties and the desire for adventure. Themes of adaptability and resilience are emphasized, encouraging listeners to embrace change and foster healthy connections as they navigate life decisions.

Jul 27, 2025 • 44min
435. How to get past the fear of disappointing others
The fear of disappointing others can stifle personal freedom and happiness. It’s rooted in psychological influences like upbringing and the high achiever mentality. Insights into death cap mushrooms serve as a chilling reminder of life and death's complexities. The discussion highlights the quest for self-validation and prioritizing personal needs over external opinions. Understanding the difference between fair and weaponized disappointment is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and navigating life's tough decisions.

Jul 24, 2025 • 42min
434. Breaking Free from Old Patterns & more (Headnoise)
Welcome back, beautiful beans! I answer your questions you sent in, I go over the the concept of 'core coding' and how to overcome ingrained beliefs from childhood, particularly those rooted in religious guilt. I also talk through the challenge of making life altering decisions without disrupting the good things already present in our lives. Then I discuss balancing multiple passion projects and identifying when we might be overcommitting ourselves to avoid burnout & lastly how to manage overwhelming stress.
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Jul 20, 2025 • 40min
433. Why Impermanence is the most grounding thing you will learn
In today's episode I talk all about impermanence & how embracing change can lead to a freer, more confident and fulfilling life.
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Jul 17, 2025 • 30min
432. How to Stop Being the 'Righteous Friend' (Headnoise)
It's Headnoise Day! I answer some email questions you sent in from how to stop being the 'righteous friend' who constantly calls out friends to overcoming burnout!
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Jul 13, 2025 • 32min
431. 6 questions to ask yourself to know if you are on the right path.
Beans! In this episode I give you 6 questions to ask yourself to know if you are on the right path. These questions are designed to help you gain clarity and realign your life path.
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