
Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, and free at Audible with a trial subscription.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Sep 24, 2024 • 29min
Character Building Lessons You Want Your Kids to Learn
Life lessons reveal how to nurture responsibility and resilience in children. Discover the power of modeling behavior over simple instruction. Explore themes like perseverance, kindness, and emotional awareness. Learn to navigate the emotional journey of teaching, allowing kids to experience their feelings without judgment. It's all about fostering gratitude and self-identity while encouraging individuality and emotional resilience. These discussions are aimed at creating strong values in the next generation.

Sep 17, 2024 • 45min
Triggered Again: Understanding Our Reactions to Kids' Behaviors (With Elisabeth Corey)
In this discussion, trauma survivor Elisabeth Corey shares her journey of healing from severe childhood trauma while navigating the challenges of parenting twins. She highlights how unresolved past hurts manifest in our reactions to our children's behaviors, urging parents to explore these triggers with curiosity and self-compassion. Elisabeth emphasizes the importance of genuine engagement rather than scripted responses, encouraging emotional processing to foster deeper connections and understanding within the family. Through personal insights, she illustrates the transformative power of acknowledging emotions in parenting.

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Sep 10, 2024 • 33min
Strict Is Loving
In this discussion, the host emphasizes that strictness in parenting can be a sign of love. Setting firm boundaries is crucial for children's emotional resilience and fosters healthier relationships. The balance between allowing emotional expression while maintaining discipline is highlighted. Strategies for navigating public behavior and tantrums are also explored, showcasing the importance of boundaries in promoting good habits. The overall message reinforces that strict guidance can coexist with kindness, benefiting both parents and children.

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Sep 3, 2024 • 46min
Am I Ruining My Child With Respectful Parenting? (A Parent Consultation)
A concerned mother grapples with her toddler's intense emotional outbursts, questioning if her respectful parenting approach is too lenient. The discussion highlights the importance of balancing emotional acknowledgment with assertive boundaries. Listeners learn how children's crying can signify developing empathy, while also facing societal pressures. Real-life examples illustrate the complexity of navigating public tantrums and self-doubt, emphasizing the need for parental self-care and emotional modeling to nurture a healthy parent-child relationship.

Aug 27, 2024 • 44min
Everything Upsets My Spirited Toddler (A Parent Consultation)
In this episode, a concerned single mom seeks advice on managing her spirited 18-month-old daughter, who exhibits intense emotional reactions and aggressive behaviors. Janet discusses the importance of understanding emotional expressions and emphasizes the need for compassionate responses. Strategies for addressing biting and setting boundaries are explored, along with the critical role adult reactions play in a child’s emotional development. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the significance of creating a supportive environment for both the child and parent.

Aug 20, 2024 • 21min
3 Ways to Calm Back-to-School Jitters
Starting school can be a rollercoaster of emotions for both kids and parents. The conversation offers practical strategies to help ease back-to-school jitters, focusing on the impact of parental emotions. Techniques for empowering children through empathy, generous acts, and the use of audiobooks for entertainment are shared. Additionally, the importance of validating feelings and maintaining open communication is emphasized, making transitions smoother and more positive for everyone involved.

Aug 13, 2024 • 24min
Baffled by "Bad" Behavior? Do This First
In this discussion, expert Janet shares insights on navigating children's challenging behaviors. She addresses alarming parenting concerns, like kids role-playing as 'bad guys' and showing aggression. Janet emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding underlying emotional needs. Through her guidance, parents learn to foster open communication and create a trusting environment. She also highlights how recognizing and validating feelings can help manage 'sneaky' behavior, transforming confusion into connection.

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Aug 6, 2024 • 42min
Help Kids Realize Their Potential With the Power of Less (With Kim John Payne)
In this conversation, Kim John Payne, a renowned family consultant and author of 'Simplicity Parenting,' shares insights on how embracing the power of less can enhance family life. He discusses the overwhelming effects of a fast-paced culture on children’s well-being, advocating for simplicity and structure to foster resilience. The duo explores the transformative role of self-directed play and emotional support in nurturing creativity and confidence. They emphasize authentic parenting as essential for deep connections, urging families to focus on what truly matters.

Jul 30, 2024 • 25min
The Scoop on Independent Play (And Myths That Get in the Way)
Janet Lansbury, an expert in fostering self-directed play in children, delves into the importance of independent play for a child's development. She tackles myths that can stifle creativity and autonomy, emphasizing that children can play alone with supportive guidance. Janet shares how nurturing environments can enhance self-esteem and strengthen parent-child bonds while encouraging natural instincts for play. She also highlights the value of resilience, advising parents to let their children experience challenges without swooping in to solve everything.

Jul 23, 2024 • 28min
Surviving a Storm of Emotions
Parenting challenges like handling children's intense emotions, aggressive behaviors, and tantrums are discussed. Strategies for staying composed, validating emotions, and setting boundaries are shared to help parents navigate these stormy situations
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