Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books. Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Mar 4, 2025 • 21min
Tattling and Threats
Explore the tricky world of childhood behaviors like tattling and threats. Discover how these actions can be opportunities for communication rather than causes for concern. The discussion highlights the importance of open dialogue in navigating sibling dynamics and the learning moments within children's play. Learn how to address ultimatums and warnings effectively, fostering emotional growth and understanding. It's all about patience and encouraging kids to express their feelings in healthy ways.
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Feb 25, 2025 • 25min
Stop Whining
Whining can be a parent's worst nightmare, leading to frustration and negative reactions. A mother expresses her distress over her 7-year-old's constant pouting and pleas for new toys. The discussion delves into the emotional complexities behind whining, emphasizing empathy and communication. It highlights the importance of patience during difficult phases and acknowledges that children's emotional outbursts are often temporary. The conversation encourages a nurturing approach to help children express their feelings constructively.
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Feb 18, 2025 • 27min
Mean Kids
A mother struggles with her 4-year-old son's sudden unkind behavior, leaving her heartbroken and confused. The impact of a new sibling and possible bullying at school are explored as key influences. Practical strategies are discussed to navigate these challenges, emphasizing the importance of emotional safety and nurturing relationships. The conversation highlights the critical role of adult supervision in peer interactions and the need for authentic emotional connections to support children's development.
Feb 11, 2025 • 39min
The Joy in Letting Babies Move Freely (with Elsa Chahin)
Elsa Chahin, President/CEO of Pikler/Loczy USA, is dedicated to promoting respectful relationships between children and adults, following the vision of Dr. Emmi Pikler. She shares the transformative benefits of allowing babies to develop motor skills naturally, fostering physical competence and emotional health. Elsa and Janet discuss how trusting this process can ease parenting, emphasizing the importance of 'yes spaces' for exploration. They also highlight the role of tummy time in self-awareness and encourage parents to learn directly from their child's unique journey.
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Feb 4, 2025 • 25min
Too Needy, Too Stubborn, Too Emotional, Too Bossy, Too...
Parents often worry that their children's traits, like sensitivity or bossiness, are negative. Instead, these behaviors can be seen as strengths that foster emotional depth and social skills. Embracing a child's emotional expressions promotes healthier peer relationships and provides crucial social learning opportunities. This discussion emphasizes the importance of viewing these traits with an open mind, enhancing parent-child connections and trust in the child's growth journey.
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Jan 28, 2025 • 27min
I Don't Like My Kids, and That Breaks My Heart (A Parent Consultation)
A parent grapples with overwhelming feelings of irritation and guilt while loving her kids. The discussion emphasizes the crucial role of boundaries, suggesting that sometimes a softer approach can yield better results. Funny anecdotes about chaotic mornings highlight the challenges of sibling rivalry. Strategies for maintaining composure amidst disruptions are shared, advocating for light-heartedness in tough moments. Ultimately, the conversation encourages self-forgiveness and understanding, paving the way for a more harmonious family dynamic.
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Jan 21, 2025 • 30min
If Consequences Aren't Working, Try This Instead
A concerned dad feels overwhelmed as his four-year-old uses ultimatums in response to attempted boundaries. He struggles with guilt and fears damaging the trusting bond he has with his kids. Janet emphasizes the importance of understanding emotions and fostering open communication. Practical strategies for setting boundaries without escalating conflict are discussed, along with the value of allowing children to experience their feelings. Tips for promoting healthier family living post-holidays also add a refreshing twist.
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Jan 14, 2025 • 27min
Resolving Our Kids' Annoying Behaviors
Parents share their struggles with kids' annoying behaviors, from constant yelling to the physical antics of toddlers. Insights on gaining perspective reveal how empathy and emotional well-being can shift dynamics. The challenges of sibling relationships and boundary-setting are examined, especially when a new child enters the family. Humor is encouraged to alleviate disruptive behaviors and foster connection. Janet offers a fresh approach, empowering parents to regain confidence and effectively address these common issues.
Jan 7, 2025 • 24min
Crying, Screaming, Resisting, Sadness - Your Best Responses to Kids' Emotions
Explore the journey of recognizing small victories in parenting that build confidence and growth. Hear heartfelt stories on tackling children's emotional outbursts with compassion and understanding. Discover the importance of co-regulation and reframing parental roles to support emotional development. Learn how acknowledging feelings fosters deeper connections and safe spaces for open expression. Reflecting on emotional complexities can lead to rewarding moments that strengthen bonds between parents and children.
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Dec 31, 2024 • 20min
Be Careful What You Teach - It Might Interfere With What They Are Learning
Explore effective strategies for teaching the alphabet while respecting children's emotional readiness. Discover how play enhances self-directed exploration and nurtures innate interests. Learn the value of self-discovery and problem-solving in fostering independence. Understand the importance of creating a trust-filled environment for meaningful learning experiences. Embrace authenticity in parenting to build trust and promote relaxed interactions, empowering both parents and children.
