On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work. Key Points: - David shares about his work and passions - Purpose vs passion - Co-creating attraction and intimacy - Overthinking and anxiety - Treating dating like a video game - Invitations vs expectations - British masculinity and being a Black man - Race and the white spirituality community Relevant Links: David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_

On this special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with David Dyke. David Dyke is a man on a mission. After experiencing the earth-shattering news of a prostate cancer diagnosis, David was then inspired to help other men in their own struggle by deciding to film the entire journey, as raw and honestly as possible. When David first learned he had prostate cancer, he soon realised there were not many people he could talk to about the realities of the disease and its treatment, especially the taboos like incontinence and erectile dysfunction. So we discussed these things and more together in Waugal Cave, also known as Rocky Bay Cave, in Cypress Hill, North Fremantle. Key points: - David offers an Acknowledgement of Country - David’s relationship with pleasure and masculinity - Being diagnosed with prostate cancer - Life after surgery - Incontinence and erectile dysfunction - Masturbation and multiple orgasms - Old age and masturbation - How your sex life changes as you age - Healthy vs unhealthy masturbation Relevant links: David Dyke Prostate Journey: From Diagnosis to Rehabilitation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PutQPR1-ExA David’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prostatecancerdiagnosis/

Melanie is a sex researcher, coach, and host of the podcast Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating & Relationships With Women. She has a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University, is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more. Melanie has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships. In this episode, the two of us talk about the ways in which many men are currently approaching sex and how women are responding to this. We also discuss the importance of men learning about their partner’s body as well as explore strategies for communication about sex and pleasure. Key Points: - Melanie shares about her work and research - Healing from religious trauma - Creating safety for men to explore sexuality - 70% of men are not good in bed - “Too much, too fast” - Expectations of male sexuality - Teasing and touching a woman - Creating safety for women to explore sexuality - Communication skills Relevant Links: Melanie’s Instagram: @melaniebcurtin Melanie’s Website: https://www.melaniecurtin.com/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Darragh Stewart. Originally from Dublin in Ireland, Darragh’s background is in Natural Science and he holds a Ph.D. in Plant Developmental Genetics. Currently, he is passionate about psychedelic science and specifically the role of plant medicines and psychedelics in mental health. Darragh is currently focusing on men’s development work and psychedelic retreats in the Netherlends at the center which he co-founded, called Inwardbound. The two of us talk about Darragh’s experience of masculinity and sexuality in Ireland as well as his observations of Irish culture and how it is impacting the men that he works with. We also Talk a bit about Darragh’s work with psychedelics and how he integrates this when his men’s circles. Key points - Darragh shares some of his story - Religion and the lack of embodiment in Ireland - Alcohol and drinking culture - The quintessential Irish man - Exploring sexuality in men’s work - Lad culture and banter - Psychedelic ceremonies and men’s circles - Attitudes towards psychedelics Relevant Links: Darragh’s websites: www.innerwork.ieand www.inwardbound.nl Darragh’s Instagram: @darstewy

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Aren Bahia. Aren is a Canadian entrepreneur/philanthropist who's lived a "full spectrum life". From growing up in a rough area in Vancouver to spiritual development in Asia, Aren's seen his world shift from the life of cars, cash, and women to meditation and yoga in the Himalayas where he learned to live a life of generosity, connection, and compassion. Since starting his life over in Bali in 2016, he's launched 4 businesses in 4 years and raised tens of thousands of dollars every year for underprivileged and mentally disabled Balinese children. He's the founder of Karma House Bali, Conscious Arts Tattoos, Full Reset Coaching and a founding partner in YogiLab. We talk about Aren’s transition from organized crime to personal development and spirituality as well as what he learned from his life as a drug dealer which translates into his work today. We also spoke about what it means to perform masculinity by wearing a metaphorical mask, including tattoos, muscles, and the “bad boy” persona. Key points: - Aren shares about his “Eat, Pray, Love” journey - Catalysts for transformation - Learnings from organized crime - Practical aspects of spirituality - Compartmentalization, context and authenticity - The “Bad Boy” mask: Performing masculinity - Self-pleasure, self-care, sex, and sensuality - Defining presence and being present - Owning your arousal and communicating with a partner Relevant links: Aren’s website: www.arenbahia.com Aren’s Instagram: @ink_pray_love Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com Cam’s Instagram: @thecamfraser

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Mish Middelmann. Mish is the co-founder and first CEO of a hi-tech software and services start-up in the 1990s, turned systemic leadership coach since 2010. Mish was fit, healthy and sexually active when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in November 2019, at the age of 61. He is now back to being fit and healthy and sexually active in quite different ways after a radical prostatectomy surgery in 2020. Mish and I talk about his diagnosis with prostate cancer as well as the process he went through for surgery and recovery. We also discuss the impacts that his prostatectomy had on his experience of masculinity and sexuality, such as not feeling virile, struggling to get erections, and not ejaculating anymore. Mish also shares how he has rediscovered and reconnected with his manhood and life in general, including his relationship with his partner. Key Points: - Mish talks about his diagnosis - The process of prostatectomy - Recovery and rehabilitation - Impacts on masculinity and virility - Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery - Learning new ways of being sexual - Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms - Reconnecting with a partner Relevant Links: Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1 Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Rory Callaghan [This episode has been edited and re-uploaded to remove mention of third parties who did not consent to having personal information shared]. Rory works with individuals and conscious healthy enterprises who are committed to developing sustainable health and wellness based lifestyles. He travels around the globe to speak at events, workshops, and retreats. Rory’s purpose is global health and wellbeing for all. His passions include health, family, happiness, connection, and fun. He values integrated health, passion/purpose, service/contribution, connection, abundance, and being a lifetime student. Rory believes that by starting with the end - or, “the big picture” - in mind, the legacy is simple. The two of us chat about his recent breakup and how he is navigating it as well as the importance of self-care and the key components that Rory considers to be fundamental for health. Key Points: - Rory talks about his work and his mission - Rory shares about his recent breakup - Navigating the post-breakup headspace - Communication strategies and vulnerability - Integrity and taking time for yourself - What is self-care? - The fundamentals of health - How to achieve integrated health - Rory offers some advice for men Relevant Links: Rory’s Website: Rorycallaghan.com Rory’s website: Selfcare.global

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sascha Haert. Relationships are, and have always been, the most important thing Sascha’s my life. Born into a loving and present family, in a home that sat next to a firing line in communist East Berlin, Sascha learned the incredible power of healthy relationships from an early age. As a former professional basketball player and captain of the Junior National Team he went on travels around the world and grew into a life of successful entrepreneurship, investing, building and managing 6-7 figure businesses across Europe & Asia. Fueled by his passion to understand the art of human relating, Sascha moved to Bali to explore the spiritual side of life, discovering the powerful practices of meditation, yoga & energy work. He became fascinated with helping others to appreciate and access the power of navigating relationships successfully in all areas of life. Seeing others get to the point where they can apply these skills in their lives and benefit from them has become one of his greatest pleasures. The two of us talk about Sascha’s work with women and how his clients relate with the men in their lives. We also talk about our differing opinions regarding semen retention and sexual practices. Key Points: - Sascha shares about his passions and work - Building confidence to have better sex - Men who feel intimidated by women - You are not your partner’s coach - Fear of leaving a relationship - Entrepreneurship and financial independence - Nourishment and connecting in with your body - The masculine seeks freedom - Semen retention vs conscious ejaculation - The symbolism of ejaculation - Ejaculation shaming - Semen retention and meditation Relevant Links: Sascha’s Instagram: @sascha_haert Sascha’s Website: www.saschahaert.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Chloe Adriana, AKA The Pussy Queen. Chloe is a Radical Radiance Coach and Captivating Facilitator. For the past three years she has been working across the globe to empower, liberate and awaken vulva-bodied people into their full radiance. Chloe was born sexually liberated, from as early as she can remember she was making barbie dolls have sex and experimenting with spa jets. Yet like so many she grew up in a society where conversations about sexual based topics were off limits. She had nothing but outdated school videos, sealed sections of magazines and rumours among friends to guide her into the mysterious world of sex, love and relationships. Spending her teenage years and half her twenties sexually fumbling, it was a life changing trip around the world that finally landed her in a Swedish; Self Development, Spiritual and Tantric community. Here among a community of consciously and educated sexual beings her interest in tantra, trauma healing and facilitation would lead her to study to be a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. Chloe’s 10 years as a Professional Fairy and 5 years as a Primary teacher make her magnetic, colourful and vivacious nature all the more inviting, safe and entertaining. Chloe is delighted to be running some of the most unique and needed workshops in Melbourne on the subjects of sexuality, empowerment, relationships and intimacy. She offers limited spaces for high-end 1:1 Radical Radiance Coaching only for those ready to do the deep work. She runs monthly Radiant Rising Circles and other Radical Workshops found on her website or eventbrite. We chat about radiance, dark masculine energy, sexual scripts, and lingam love. Key Points: - Chloe shares about her transformative journey - How Chloe defines radiance - How Cam defines radiance - The power of travel and exploration - Masculinity and dark masculine energy - Relationship with penises - How penises are portrayed in media - Rewriting sexual scripts - Loving your genitals Relevant links: Chloe’s Instagram: @thechloeadriana

This is another solo episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. In this week’s episode, I chat about male sex toys, or sex toys for people with a penis, in an attempt to normalize the use of said toys. Women's use of vibrators and other sex toys is often celebrated as a sign of sexual liberation. But unfortunately the same cannot be said for men. This is because there is a certain stigma surrounding the use of these particular toys. With the help of @lovehoneyau, I want to try to dispel that stigma, normalize the use of male sex toys, and celebrate men’s exploration of self-pleasure. In this episode, I go through part of my own personal collection of toys and talk about the different ways in which they can be used as well as what I think about them. If you’re interested in sex toys for people with a penis and you want to learn more about what is out there, this is definitely the episode for you. If you like what you hear and want to invest in your self-pleasure, you can head over to @lovehoneyau and use the code CAM20LOVE for a discount on your purchase. Key Points: - The stigmatization of male sex toys - Celebrating men’s self-pleasuring - Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Couples Vibrator - We-Vibe X Lovehoney Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator - Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Real Feel Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Blow Job Real Feel Vibrating Suction Male Masturbator - Desire Luxury Male Vibator - Desire Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager - Kinky Confessions Card Game Relevant links: Lovehoney’s website: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/ Lovehoney’s Instagram: @lovehoneyau