#108 Sex Therapy: Masculinity and Pleasure-Negativity (with Cyndi Darnell)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary therapist on Luke Warm Sex (ABC) and is a regular media commentator whose opinion is frequently sought for TV, radio and print including The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, Refinery 29, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Netflix, ABC Radio, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan and much more. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named in MindBodyGreen’s list of Top 100 Women to Watch. Cyndi is presently an affiliate on the advisory board of the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program and faculty on Pink Therapy's (UK) Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy. She has also received the honor to be recognized as a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK.

Key Points:

• Cyndi introduces herself
• Somatic elements of sex therapy
• The sexuality profession
• Talk therapy vs bodywork
• Masculinity and pleasure-negativity
• Escaping the cycle of anxiety
• Sex therapy with older men
• Helping men talk about sex

Relevant links:

Cyndi’s website: https://cyndidarnell.com/

Cyndi’s Instagram: @cyndi_darnell