Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with The Empress Jazmin Wu a professional, and lifestyle Dominatrix, best known for Her radical theories about BDSM, and teachings on empowerment. Jazmin’s journey into the world of FemDom began in 2012, and She has since been seen gracing the pages of magazines, hosting luxury fetish events, and uniting women in charge everywhere! She has a deep passion for rope bondage, female lead erotica, and sexual psychology. You can find her curating art-fetish photoshoots, teaching Women about the FemDom lifestyle, and hosting elite kink lifestyle parties all over the globe. She believes BDSM is a unique tool that can be harnessed to pursue better physical, emotional, and mental health. In Her practice as a Dominatrix, She challenges concepts of guilt and shame by fostering a safe environment fueled by radical acceptance. The two of us talk about the submissive mentality as well as what it takes to hold space for a man who is interested in submission. Key Points: - Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM - The spectrum of kink - Holding space for submissives - The submissive mentality - Letting go of performance anxiety - Reframing sexual validation - Sexual symbols and rituals - Boundaries, exploration, and safewords - Sub-space and trance states Relevant links: Jazmin’s website: jazminwu.com Jazmin’s Twitter: @thankyouempress Jazmin’s Instagram: @thank.you.empress Jazmin’s Dominatrix website: thankyouempress.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Brad Gage. Brad is a guy who grew up in the Midwest, joined a fraternity, drank a lot, watched a lot of movies, and learned a lot of the wrong ways to treat women. And it’s not like it was exactly his fault or anything, that’s what society was telling him he should want to do. But once he started really listening to the women in his life, he realized how totally disconnected and frankly messed up all of his ideas of being a man were. So, once he recognized the problems, he set out to talk to men about it in a way that’s not preachy or shameful (because guys don’t know this stuff until they talk about it), but instead he wanted to give a little perspective and some ideas on how to replace their behaviors. Basically, he thinks it’s better for women AND men if dudes tried to dominate a little less and collaborate a little more. The two of us talk about the way men are represented in mainstream media and how these representations often perpetuate harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man. We also discuss the importance of media literacy as well as examples of positive portrayals of men in media. Key Points: - Brad shares about his upbringing - How do media images of men affect our lives? - Toxic vs positive masculinity - Stereotypical portrayals of men - Representations that challenge stereotypes - Critically thinking about media - The importance of diverse representation Relevant Links: Brad’s Instagram: @beauradley Brad’s Twitter: @bradgage

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jordan Hackett. Jordan is a men’s coach and certified sexologist. He has a background in rites of initiation work and draws on a wealth of integrated personal experience in erotic exploration, diverse relationships and self-development spaces. He offers private coaching and bodywork, online programs and in person workshops. "I am so passionate about working with sexuality because it takes us to the core of ourselves. It is such a deeply personal place that connects us to our authentic selves. Consciously developing your sexuality is the ultimate way to create a better life across the board." The two of us talk about sexual rites of passage, what they are, what they mean, and why they’re important. Key Points: - Jordan shares some of his story - There is nothing wrong with male sexuality - The importance of rites of passage - Unintentional sexual initiations - Elements of initiation ceremonies - Challenges, choice, and agency - Liberation and shame - Tantrikas, Dakinis, and Sex Goddesses - Initiations for young people and societal barriers - Sexual debuts and ongoing exploration Relevant links: Jordan’s Instagram: @thejordanhackett Jordan’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/thejordanhackett Jordan’s website: www.jordanhackett.com

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work. Key Points: - David shares about his work and passions - Purpose vs passion - Co-creating attraction and intimacy - Overthinking and anxiety - Treating dating like a video game - Invitations vs expectations - British masculinity and being a Black man - Race and the white spirituality community Relevant Links: David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_

On this special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with David Dyke. David Dyke is a man on a mission. After experiencing the earth-shattering news of a prostate cancer diagnosis, David was then inspired to help other men in their own struggle by deciding to film the entire journey, as raw and honestly as possible. When David first learned he had prostate cancer, he soon realised there were not many people he could talk to about the realities of the disease and its treatment, especially the taboos like incontinence and erectile dysfunction. So we discussed these things and more together in Waugal Cave, also known as Rocky Bay Cave, in Cypress Hill, North Fremantle. Key points: - David offers an Acknowledgement of Country - David’s relationship with pleasure and masculinity - Being diagnosed with prostate cancer - Life after surgery - Incontinence and erectile dysfunction - Masturbation and multiple orgasms - Old age and masturbation - How your sex life changes as you age - Healthy vs unhealthy masturbation Relevant links: David Dyke Prostate Journey: From Diagnosis to Rehabilitation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PutQPR1-ExA David’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prostatecancerdiagnosis/

Melanie is a sex researcher, coach, and host of the podcast Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating & Relationships With Women. She has a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University, is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more. Melanie has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships. In this episode, the two of us talk about the ways in which many men are currently approaching sex and how women are responding to this. We also discuss the importance of men learning about their partner’s body as well as explore strategies for communication about sex and pleasure. Key Points: - Melanie shares about her work and research - Healing from religious trauma - Creating safety for men to explore sexuality - 70% of men are not good in bed - “Too much, too fast” - Expectations of male sexuality - Teasing and touching a woman - Creating safety for women to explore sexuality - Communication skills Relevant Links: Melanie’s Instagram: @melaniebcurtin Melanie’s Website: https://www.melaniecurtin.com/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Darragh Stewart. Originally from Dublin in Ireland, Darragh’s background is in Natural Science and he holds a Ph.D. in Plant Developmental Genetics. Currently, he is passionate about psychedelic science and specifically the role of plant medicines and psychedelics in mental health. Darragh is currently focusing on men’s development work and psychedelic retreats in the Netherlends at the center which he co-founded, called Inwardbound. The two of us talk about Darragh’s experience of masculinity and sexuality in Ireland as well as his observations of Irish culture and how it is impacting the men that he works with. We also Talk a bit about Darragh’s work with psychedelics and how he integrates this when his men’s circles. Key points - Darragh shares some of his story - Religion and the lack of embodiment in Ireland - Alcohol and drinking culture - The quintessential Irish man - Exploring sexuality in men’s work - Lad culture and banter - Psychedelic ceremonies and men’s circles - Attitudes towards psychedelics Relevant Links: Darragh’s websites: www.innerwork.ieand www.inwardbound.nl Darragh’s Instagram: @darstewy

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Aren Bahia. Aren is a Canadian entrepreneur/philanthropist who's lived a "full spectrum life". From growing up in a rough area in Vancouver to spiritual development in Asia, Aren's seen his world shift from the life of cars, cash, and women to meditation and yoga in the Himalayas where he learned to live a life of generosity, connection, and compassion. Since starting his life over in Bali in 2016, he's launched 4 businesses in 4 years and raised tens of thousands of dollars every year for underprivileged and mentally disabled Balinese children. He's the founder of Karma House Bali, Conscious Arts Tattoos, Full Reset Coaching and a founding partner in YogiLab. We talk about Aren’s transition from organized crime to personal development and spirituality as well as what he learned from his life as a drug dealer which translates into his work today. We also spoke about what it means to perform masculinity by wearing a metaphorical mask, including tattoos, muscles, and the “bad boy” persona. Key points: - Aren shares about his “Eat, Pray, Love” journey - Catalysts for transformation - Learnings from organized crime - Practical aspects of spirituality - Compartmentalization, context and authenticity - The “Bad Boy” mask: Performing masculinity - Self-pleasure, self-care, sex, and sensuality - Defining presence and being present - Owning your arousal and communicating with a partner Relevant links: Aren’s website: www.arenbahia.com Aren’s Instagram: @ink_pray_love Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com Cam’s Instagram: @thecamfraser

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Mish Middelmann. Mish is the co-founder and first CEO of a hi-tech software and services start-up in the 1990s, turned systemic leadership coach since 2010. Mish was fit, healthy and sexually active when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in November 2019, at the age of 61. He is now back to being fit and healthy and sexually active in quite different ways after a radical prostatectomy surgery in 2020. Mish and I talk about his diagnosis with prostate cancer as well as the process he went through for surgery and recovery. We also discuss the impacts that his prostatectomy had on his experience of masculinity and sexuality, such as not feeling virile, struggling to get erections, and not ejaculating anymore. Mish also shares how he has rediscovered and reconnected with his manhood and life in general, including his relationship with his partner. Key Points: - Mish talks about his diagnosis - The process of prostatectomy - Recovery and rehabilitation - Impacts on masculinity and virility - Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery - Learning new ways of being sexual - Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms - Reconnecting with a partner Relevant Links: Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1 Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Rory Callaghan [This episode has been edited and re-uploaded to remove mention of third parties who did not consent to having personal information shared]. Rory works with individuals and conscious healthy enterprises who are committed to developing sustainable health and wellness based lifestyles. He travels around the globe to speak at events, workshops, and retreats. Rory’s purpose is global health and wellbeing for all. His passions include health, family, happiness, connection, and fun. He values integrated health, passion/purpose, service/contribution, connection, abundance, and being a lifetime student. Rory believes that by starting with the end - or, “the big picture” - in mind, the legacy is simple. The two of us chat about his recent breakup and how he is navigating it as well as the importance of self-care and the key components that Rory considers to be fundamental for health. Key Points: - Rory talks about his work and his mission - Rory shares about his recent breakup - Navigating the post-breakup headspace - Communication strategies and vulnerability - Integrity and taking time for yourself - What is self-care? - The fundamentals of health - How to achieve integrated health - Rory offers some advice for men Relevant Links: Rory’s Website: Rorycallaghan.com Rory’s website: Selfcare.global