Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jessica Harvey. Jessica is a certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with Layla Martin’s VITA coaching. She is professionally-certified with the ICF at the PCC level, and is a student of Process-Oriented Psychology with David Bedrick. Her trauma-informed coaching is also inspired by her devotion to classical tantrik meditation and non-dual philosophy under Paul Muller-Ortega and Christopher Wallis. Jessica spent 10 years in a successful career as a Ph.D. chemist before leaving it all to go say ‘yes’ to what scared her. She spent 4 years in full-time study and practice of neo-tantric sexuality, shadow work, and kundalini in a tantric community in Asia. Now she likes to say that she studies a different kind of ‘chemistry,’ and people often call her the ‘tantric scientist.’ Since launching her Bliss Science coaching business, she has worked with hundreds of men - CEOs and leaders in tech, finance, and consulting - to rekindle passion in sexless marriages, recover confidence post-divorce, heal from performance anxiety, communicate in ways that women love, and develop a tantric mentality to life. Her offerings include: her proprietary Love, Sex, and Confidence course for Men, her new Sex Mastermind for Men, in-person VIP days, and custom-tailored 1:1 online coaching for all genders. The two of us talk about the ways in which men can open up more to their sexuality and take their sexual experiences to a deeper level. Hint: It requires getting in touch with your emotions. Key Points: Jessica introduces herself Going a journey of sexual self-discovery Men opening up about sex How to talk to your partner about sex Taking sex deeper with emotions Creating sexual safety for women Practical advice for men Relevant links: Jessica’s Instagram: @bliss.science Jessica’s Website: https://www.bliss-science.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Samantha Zipporah returns to chat with. Samantha is a fertility, sex, & cycle educator, author, & activist with over 20 years of experience. She is devoted to breaking the spells of oppression in reproductive & sexual health through collective healing, liberation, & education. A former birth doula, she provides radical love for navigating the womb continuum & reclaiming ancestral wisdom. Sam’s unique praxis weaves a balance of scientific data & spiritual presence to offer knowledge & embodied wisdom for claiming inner authority, pleasure, & power in fertility, sex, & cycles. Sam provides vital education for everyone from professionals to preteens and inspires individuals to claim their power through body literacy & sovereignty. The two of us pick up where we left off from our previous conversation and talk about the parallels between ejaculation and ovulation, and how men can take responsibility for their ejaculation by learning about the energetics of ejaculation and practicing what I call conscious ejaculation. Key points: Samantha reintroduces herself How do we reach men? Unexpected pregnancies in the Tantra community Conscious ejaculation/ovulation Fertility awareness and pleasure Presence and consent The energetics of ejaculation Connecting with ancient wisdom Relevant links: Samantha’s website: www.samanthazipporah.com Samantha’s Facebook: facebook.com/samanthazipporah Samantha’s Instagram: @samanthazipporah

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Freya Graf. Freya is a Yoni Mapping Therapist and Holistic Sex Coach & Educator. She has a background of study in Kahuna massage, yoni massage, facilitation, childcare, yoga teaching, tantric bodywork and sacred sexuality. Freya shares on her website that she was crippled by shame, guilt, and self-consciousness around her body, pleasure, and desire so she went on a journey to tackle this whole sex thing once and for all, which completely transformed her relationship to sex and her body. She says she is now deeply passionate about helping others do the same. The two of us talk specifically about her work as a Yoni Mapping therapist. Key points: Freya introduces herself What is Yoni Mapping? “Yoni” and cultural appropriation The healing power of Yoni Mapping Connecting with the genitals Tips for people who have a vulva Tips for people who like to play with vulvas Relevant links: Freya’s website: https://www.freyagraf.com/ Freya’s instagram: @freya_graf_ymt

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Silva Neves. Silva is a Psychotherapist specializing in Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapy, Sexual abuse, and Compulsive sexual behaviours. His model of psychotherapy is integrative and humanistic, which means that he uses different approaches from different therapeutic models to suit his client’s needs best. Silva integrates psychotherapeutic modalities, such as Gestalt, Psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, and Transactional Analysis with specific psycho-sexological knowledge and diverse relationships. The two of us talk about his new book, “Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians.” We discuss the difference between the addiction and compulsion models of problematic sexual behaviour as well as the recommended approach for working with clients who struggle with watching porn. Key points: Silva introduces himself Acknowledging the problem with porn The difference between “addiction” and “compulsion” Language is important Subjectivity and personal values Shame and the problem with avoiding triggers “Becoming erotically aware, not erotically avoidant” Black-and-white thinking: Anti-porn vs Pro-porn Relevant links: Silva’s Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy Silva’s Website: ​​https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/

#115 Working with Men Who Use Domestic Violence (with Callan Craig) On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Callan Craig. Callan has a background in psychology and has been working in the industry specialising in healthy relationships, non violent communication and healthy masculinity. Currently working with men who use domestic and family violence facilitating programs to support them in their behavioural change process. The two of us talk about the factors contributing to situations where men use domestic violence as well as what the process of behavioural change looks like for them. Key Points: Callan introduces himself Callan shares about his work What kind of men use domestic violence? Motivations for changing behaviour Masculinity and violence The “golden thread” of violence, coercion, and abuse The process of behavioural change Resistance and vulnerability Relevant links: Callan’s Instagram: @callanncraig

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with acupuncturist, herbalist, and author Christine DeLozier. Christine specializes in sexual health and works with men, women, and patients of all gender orientation. Her book, DIET FOR GREAT SEX: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health, dives deep into the true catalysts of what makes our bodies fire on all cylinders and the best steps to maintain them through diet for as long as possible. The book introduces readers to several modalities of success including how to eat for clearer heads with stronger focus and connection, how to increase pleasure through blood flow and connected nerve pathways, meals for optimal body performance, a menu for after dinner activities to help stimulate the right places, and more. Christine says that DIET FOR GREAT SEX is for everyone who wants to have the best sex possible, through the most natural means possible, for as long as possible. It also covers common topics of concern such as erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, and reduced libido, to name just a few. The two of us talk about Christine’s book and some of the information she presents in there. Key Points: Christine introduces herself Acupuncture and the nervous system Christine talks about her book Food for improving erectile function Food for improving libido Food for improving testosterone More diet advice Relevant links: Christine’s Website: https://christinedelozier.com/ Christine’s Instagram: @dietforgreatsex

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyomi Morgan. Tyomi is a Certified Sexologist, Authentic Tantra Practitioner and International Pleasure Coach with 9 years of experience in the sexual health field. Her down-to-earth approach to sexuality has garnered the views of millions of eyes around the world via her advice-based Youtube channel and interactive social media presence. She is the founder of Sex Ed blog Glamerotica101.com and emphasizes sexual empowerment of black women worldwide. Tyomi's advice has been featured on several platforms and traditional media publications including Essence.com, EBONY Magazine, Blackdoctor.org, Huffington Post, Comedy Central, The New York Times, SHAPE.COM, Blacklove.com, Vogue.com, Cosmopolitan.com, Washington Post's The Lily, Clear Channel Radio, CBS Radio, Sirus XM, Playboy Radio and dozens of others. Tyomi currently serves as the Resident Sexpert and Seminar Coordinator for the Exxxotica Expo and is a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Health. The two of us talk about semen retention and how to practice this as a couple as well as the spiritual community’s shaming of ejaculation and sex toys. Key Points: Tyomi introduces herself Integrating spirituality and sexuality Introducing semen retention Semen retention is a couples practice Phallocentrism and decentering the penis Ejaculation shaming Sex toy shaming Men fear pleasure Tyomi’s Instagram: @realglamazontyomi Tyomi’s website: http://sexperttyomi.glamerotica101.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Steph Ganowski, a sex and relationship coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men improve their relationships with themselves and with their partners through tangible skillsets, mental reprogramming, and emotional awareness. Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. This included the men she attracted romantically. Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. Her curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did. Key points: Steph introduces herself Sexuality begins with you Understanding your arousal Translating masturbation to sex Non-linear sex Penis size and sexual skills Porn, stereotypes and anxiety Fear of feeling pleasure Dirty talk and sexy communication Relevant links: Stephanie’s Instagram: @stephganowski Stephanie’s website: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samuel Shin. Samuel is an ex-psychotherapist now working as an Authentic Dating Coach. He's also a certified men's work facilitator. Samuel offers an alternative to the pick-up industry by helping men open up to their authenticity, masculinity & sexuality to naturally improve their dating & relationships. His work includes 3 components: developing masculinity, working on the root cause of insecurities, and learning what he calls "conscious pick-up.” After recording this episode, Samuel wanted to add a disclaimer for listeners. Though he shares his criticisms of the Western mental health system in the interview and why he stopped practicing therapy, he wants listeners to know that he is still a huge advocate of therapy and recommends everybody try it for at least 6-months with a therapist they really like & feel a connection with (he emphasizes personally liking them and feeling a connection as a prerequisite to successful therapy). Therapy has been instrumental in his path of growth & healing, and he believes there is nothing like it. Getting guidance from someone who is educated & trained at the highest level in understanding the psychological underpinnings of maladaptive thoughts & behaviors is something a lot of life coaches won't be able to offer.   Key Points:  Samuel introduces himself  Disillusionment with talk therapy  Samuel’s sexual self-discovery  Entering the dating scene  Cultivating authenticity  Dating advice for men    Relevant links:  Samuel’s Instagram: @authenticdatingcoach  Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Lauren Violet. Lauren is Sex and Relationship Coach with a background in Psychology, Sex Education, as well as in the Adult Entertainment, Modeling, and Fitness industries. In addition to coaching and talk therapy, she also uses somatic practices and bodywork, emotional regulation, relational agreements, and self-pleasure facilitation with her clients. Lauren is passionate about solo sex, group sex, Tantra, BDSM, kink and all things taboo. She believes in the freedom of sexual expression and exploration of desires, and enjoys providing a space for others to explore their own freedom and expression. In this episode, Lauren and I dive deep into the practicalities of introducing a third person to your partner sex life as well as some important principles to be mindful of when experimenting with group sex. Key points: Lauren introduces herself Creating erotic content Important conversations with your partner Before introducing more people Where to find a third person Respecting everyone involved Positions and other practicalities Principles for group sex Relevant links: Lauren’s Instagram: @laurenvioletcoaching