On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kelly Gordon. Kelly is a 32 year old entrepreneur and consultant based in the West Midlands, UK. She has Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 3 which is a genetic disability meaning for her, that she uses an electric wheelchair to get around. Kelly’s condition is progressive and has meant that she has faced losing her ability throughout her life especially when her body faced big changes and challenges such as pregnancy. Kelly has two young sons, which is quite trying for any parent but absolutely loves parenting with her disability with help from her supportive partner Josh and her awesome team of PA’s. From a young age Kelly was outspoken and never let anyone dictate what her disability meant or allowed her to do, this has seen her go through mainstream schools, get into a lot of trouble at college and ultimately push herself through many exciting and predominantly male dominated industries. Kelly now works as a consultant which allows her to dedicate her time to projects that truly excite her and allows her also to manage her time to ensure she has sufficient time with her young sons. Kellys current projects span from recruitment to working for forward thinking sex toy brand Hot Octopuss. Kelly also works as a presenter and is the current host of Hot Octopuss’s brand podcast Pleasure Rebels, as well as this Kelly has also worked on projects for the BBC, Channel 4 and Virgin Media. Kelly also regularly appears in mainstream media throughout the UK discussing issues that disabled people face and advocating for other disabled people. Kelly has also co-founded the business "With Not For” with Emma Gardner. Kelly and Emma are working together on this project to not only get disabled people into work but to push disabled people into high paid and high power roles, ultimately getting them to boardroom level by embracing talent, confidence and reeducating big employers about the benefits of adding people with disabilities to their teams. The two of us talk about Kelly’s experience as a disabled person as well as the intersection of disability and sexuality. Key Points: - Kelly shares some of her story - The novelty of sex toys - How Kelly’s disability has impacted her sexuality - The extra layers of consent - The disability bubble - Stigmatization of wheelchair users - Sex toys for people with disabilities - Sex toys for flaccid penises - Advice for people with a disability Relevant links: Kelly’s Instagram: @mskelgee Pleasure Rebels podcast: @pleasurerebels Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Court Vox. Court provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. He is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Traditional forms of therapy are done through talk, the work of a somatic sex educator is to further this form of work via touch and body-based exercises in comfortable, judgment-free, and safe environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of therapy. Court is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. The two of us talk about his work as a surrogate partner as well as what it means to be multi-orgasmic. Key points: - Court shares some of his story - Transitioning from corporate to sexuality work - The different modalities Court draws on - Self-pleasure rituals - What is surrogate partner therapy? - Surrogate partner therapy vs sex work - Client-centered approach - Sexual orientation and surrogate partner therapy - The many types of male orgasm - 31+ erogenous zones Relevant links: Court’s Instagram: @courtvox Court’s Website: thebodyvox.com Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

Today on #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ian Collins. Ian has spent his career working with organisations on some of the riskiest frontiers to build more resilient and reliable systems that keep planes in skies, prevent oil rigs from blowing up, nuclear plants from melting down, getting people home safely to their families and keeping the environment free from harm. What he has discovered is that similar principles that create the conditions for safety in workplaces can be just as applicable to creating safety in relationships. He now helps men learn the tools and resources to create trust and safety, taking their relationships from struggling and stagnant to being passionate, healthy, balanced and loving. The two of us talk about Ian’s work and how he translates occupational safety principles into relationship advice. We also discuss what creating safety and holding space looks like in a relational as well as a sexual context. Key Points: - Ian shares about why he does this work - Workplace accidents and safety - Translating principles into relationships - What does it mean to create safety? - Masculinity and space holding - Femininity and surrendering - Safety in an erotic context - Relationships dynamics and longevity - Advice for men Ian’s Instagram: @ianpcollins Ian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ipcollins

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Gurza (they/he). Andrew is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator. In their work, he seeks to explore how the lived experience of disability feels, as it interplays with intersectional communities. By using hashtags like #diSAYbled, #DisabilityAfterDark, #BearinAChair and #KissAQueerCripple Andrew shares their lived experiences of disability, queerness, sexuality and body image in a raw, vulnerable and unapologetic fashion. He has presented all across North America on sex and disability as a Queer Crippled man. Their written work has been highlighted in Out Magazine, The Advocate and Huffington Post. He hosts the Disability After Dark podcast, which shines a bright light on sex and disability, while also aiming to explore parts of the disabled experience that we don’t often hear about. The two of us talk about Andrew’s experience and expression of sexuality and masculinity as well as the nuances of what it is like to be a queer man with a disability. Key points: - Andrew introduces himself - Ableism and creating spaces for learning - The sexual stigma of disability - Disability representation in porn - Considerations for sex with a disabled person - The depth of “yes” - Andrew’s relationship with care - Using social media to raise awareness - Playing with identity, femininity and masculinity - Assumptions about people with a disability Relevant links: Andrew’s website: http://www.andrewgurza.com/ Andrew’s Twitter/Instagram: @andrewgurza_ Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tim Lagman. Tim is a certified sex educator with the American College of Sexologists International and pleasure advocate based in Toronto, Canada. He began his sexual journey through escorting where he worked with a number of clients from different backgrounds and all walks of life ranging from couples, individuals, poly relationships, and everything in between. He then went to study Business Management specializing in the music industry and graduated with honours. In his free time, Tim likes to volunteer and give back to the community through outreach in Toronto’s LGBT scene providing sex education and harm reduction resources to the public. It is his mission in life to make sex fun and funny as he loves to make people laugh and believes in the curative powers of laughter. The two of us talk about rimming, multiple orgasms, and edging we well as Tim’s lived experience as a gay Asian man who works as a sexuality professional. Key points: - Tim shares about his escorting journey - From escort to sex educator - Masturbation vs Self-Pleasure - Multi-orgasmic experiences - Anal play, rimming and personal hygiene - Edging techniques and strategies - Stereotypes about Asian men - The intersection of being Asian and gay Relevant links: Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser Tim’s Twitter/Instagram: @sexedwithtim Tim’s Facebook: "Sex Ed With Tim"

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Agneya (She/They). Luna is a Sensuality and Relating expert - teaching, coaching and creating events & immersions in the field of Sensuality and conscious connection for many years. A certified VITA Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship coach, Tantric Yogini, event manager and designer, Luna has fused together her many skills and passions into projects dedicated to the liberation of people through the erotic, through relationships and through the shadow work of kink and taboos. Luna runs retreats and events around the world and is the headmistress of the Sensual Arts School, an online school for Tantra and Sacred sexuality that is queer friendly and kink positive. The two of us talk about one of Luna’s passions; erotic shadow work. We discuss what it is, why it is important, and how you can start exploring it. Key Points: Luna shares some of her story Integrating spirituality and sexuality Strategies for beginning shadow work Cultural vs personal shadows Integrating your shadow Generational trauma Shadow aspects of pornography Advice for people interested in shadow work Relevant Links: Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser Luna’s Instagram: @sensual.artistry Luna’s Instagram: @sensualartsschool Luna’s website: www.sensualartistry.com Luna’s website: www.sensualarts.school Luna’s upcoming Shadow Work course: https://www.sensualarts.school/shadow-self-worship

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lana Jade. Lana is an intimacy coach as well as an adult industry coach/mentor. She has been in the industry for 7 years, and during that time she has had an incredibly successful career. Lana began in the industry as many do, desperate and in need of money to turn her dreams into a reality, and to feed her family. She had always been interested in and fascinated by the adult industry and in a sense she is grateful that desperation led to her exploring it. Lana comes from a sales and marketing background and is determined, strong willed and resourceful, so it wasn't long after working for agencies and others that she started working independently. By navigating the industry’s rapid changes, feeling overwhelmed at times, reworking strategies and systems continuously, and shifting her priorities, Lana developed a very structured and systematic way that works for her, earning her more than she has ever earned, while also having the balance she craved. She has made the industry work for her. And that's exactly what she wants to do with others. The two of us talk about her experience in the adult industry as well as the stigmatization she has felt from the spirituality community and how she works with clients. Key Points: - Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry - Integrating other modalities - Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue - Mentoring others in the industry - Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community - “Real” women vs adult performers - Only Fans, camming, and authenticity - Male clients, pleasure, and communication - Advice for potential clients Relevant links: Lana’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/lanajadexxx Lana’s podcast: @are.you.available.podcast Lana’s Instagram: @whatss.my.name.again

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with The Empress Jazmin Wu a professional, and lifestyle Dominatrix, best known for Her radical theories about BDSM, and teachings on empowerment. Jazmin’s journey into the world of FemDom began in 2012, and She has since been seen gracing the pages of magazines, hosting luxury fetish events, and uniting women in charge everywhere! She has a deep passion for rope bondage, female lead erotica, and sexual psychology. You can find her curating art-fetish photoshoots, teaching Women about the FemDom lifestyle, and hosting elite kink lifestyle parties all over the globe. She believes BDSM is a unique tool that can be harnessed to pursue better physical, emotional, and mental health. In Her practice as a Dominatrix, She challenges concepts of guilt and shame by fostering a safe environment fueled by radical acceptance. The two of us talk about the submissive mentality as well as what it takes to hold space for a man who is interested in submission. Key Points: - Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM - The spectrum of kink - Holding space for submissives - The submissive mentality - Letting go of performance anxiety - Reframing sexual validation - Sexual symbols and rituals - Boundaries, exploration, and safewords - Sub-space and trance states Relevant links: Jazmin’s website: jazminwu.com Jazmin’s Twitter: @thankyouempress Jazmin’s Instagram: @thank.you.empress Jazmin’s Dominatrix website: thankyouempress.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Brad Gage. Brad is a guy who grew up in the Midwest, joined a fraternity, drank a lot, watched a lot of movies, and learned a lot of the wrong ways to treat women. And it’s not like it was exactly his fault or anything, that’s what society was telling him he should want to do. But once he started really listening to the women in his life, he realized how totally disconnected and frankly messed up all of his ideas of being a man were. So, once he recognized the problems, he set out to talk to men about it in a way that’s not preachy or shameful (because guys don’t know this stuff until they talk about it), but instead he wanted to give a little perspective and some ideas on how to replace their behaviors. Basically, he thinks it’s better for women AND men if dudes tried to dominate a little less and collaborate a little more. The two of us talk about the way men are represented in mainstream media and how these representations often perpetuate harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man. We also discuss the importance of media literacy as well as examples of positive portrayals of men in media. Key Points: - Brad shares about his upbringing - How do media images of men affect our lives? - Toxic vs positive masculinity - Stereotypical portrayals of men - Representations that challenge stereotypes - Critically thinking about media - The importance of diverse representation Relevant Links: Brad’s Instagram: @beauradley Brad’s Twitter: @bradgage

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jordan Hackett. Jordan is a men’s coach and certified sexologist. He has a background in rites of initiation work and draws on a wealth of integrated personal experience in erotic exploration, diverse relationships and self-development spaces. He offers private coaching and bodywork, online programs and in person workshops. "I am so passionate about working with sexuality because it takes us to the core of ourselves. It is such a deeply personal place that connects us to our authentic selves. Consciously developing your sexuality is the ultimate way to create a better life across the board." The two of us talk about sexual rites of passage, what they are, what they mean, and why they’re important. Key Points: - Jordan shares some of his story - There is nothing wrong with male sexuality - The importance of rites of passage - Unintentional sexual initiations - Elements of initiation ceremonies - Challenges, choice, and agency - Liberation and shame - Tantrikas, Dakinis, and Sex Goddesses - Initiations for young people and societal barriers - Sexual debuts and ongoing exploration Relevant links: Jordan’s Instagram: @thejordanhackett Jordan’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/thejordanhackett Jordan’s website: www.jordanhackett.com