Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Freya Graf. Freya is a Yoni Mapping Therapist and Holistic Sex Coach & Educator. She has a background of study in Kahuna massage, yoni massage, facilitation, childcare, yoga teaching, tantric bodywork and sacred sexuality. Freya shares on her website that she was crippled by shame, guilt, and self-consciousness around her body, pleasure, and desire so she went on a journey to tackle this whole sex thing once and for all, which completely transformed her relationship to sex and her body. She says she is now deeply passionate about helping others do the same. The two of us talk specifically about her work as a Yoni Mapping therapist. Key points: Freya introduces herself What is Yoni Mapping? “Yoni” and cultural appropriation The healing power of Yoni Mapping Connecting with the genitals Tips for people who have a vulva Tips for people who like to play with vulvas Relevant links: Freya’s website: https://www.freyagraf.com/ Freya’s instagram: @freya_graf_ymt

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Silva Neves. Silva is a Psychotherapist specializing in Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapy, Sexual abuse, and Compulsive sexual behaviours. His model of psychotherapy is integrative and humanistic, which means that he uses different approaches from different therapeutic models to suit his client’s needs best. Silva integrates psychotherapeutic modalities, such as Gestalt, Psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, and Transactional Analysis with specific psycho-sexological knowledge and diverse relationships. The two of us talk about his new book, “Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians.” We discuss the difference between the addiction and compulsion models of problematic sexual behaviour as well as the recommended approach for working with clients who struggle with watching porn. Key points: Silva introduces himself Acknowledging the problem with porn The difference between “addiction” and “compulsion” Language is important Subjectivity and personal values Shame and the problem with avoiding triggers “Becoming erotically aware, not erotically avoidant” Black-and-white thinking: Anti-porn vs Pro-porn Relevant links: Silva’s Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy Silva’s Website: ​​https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/

#115 Working with Men Who Use Domestic Violence (with Callan Craig) On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Callan Craig. Callan has a background in psychology and has been working in the industry specialising in healthy relationships, non violent communication and healthy masculinity. Currently working with men who use domestic and family violence facilitating programs to support them in their behavioural change process. The two of us talk about the factors contributing to situations where men use domestic violence as well as what the process of behavioural change looks like for them. Key Points: Callan introduces himself Callan shares about his work What kind of men use domestic violence? Motivations for changing behaviour Masculinity and violence The “golden thread” of violence, coercion, and abuse The process of behavioural change Resistance and vulnerability Relevant links: Callan’s Instagram: @callanncraig

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with acupuncturist, herbalist, and author Christine DeLozier. Christine specializes in sexual health and works with men, women, and patients of all gender orientation. Her book, DIET FOR GREAT SEX: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health, dives deep into the true catalysts of what makes our bodies fire on all cylinders and the best steps to maintain them through diet for as long as possible. The book introduces readers to several modalities of success including how to eat for clearer heads with stronger focus and connection, how to increase pleasure through blood flow and connected nerve pathways, meals for optimal body performance, a menu for after dinner activities to help stimulate the right places, and more. Christine says that DIET FOR GREAT SEX is for everyone who wants to have the best sex possible, through the most natural means possible, for as long as possible. It also covers common topics of concern such as erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, and reduced libido, to name just a few. The two of us talk about Christine’s book and some of the information she presents in there. Key Points: Christine introduces herself Acupuncture and the nervous system Christine talks about her book Food for improving erectile function Food for improving libido Food for improving testosterone More diet advice Relevant links: Christine’s Website: https://christinedelozier.com/ Christine’s Instagram: @dietforgreatsex

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyomi Morgan. Tyomi is a Certified Sexologist, Authentic Tantra Practitioner and International Pleasure Coach with 9 years of experience in the sexual health field. Her down-to-earth approach to sexuality has garnered the views of millions of eyes around the world via her advice-based Youtube channel and interactive social media presence. She is the founder of Sex Ed blog Glamerotica101.com and emphasizes sexual empowerment of black women worldwide. Tyomi's advice has been featured on several platforms and traditional media publications including Essence.com, EBONY Magazine, Blackdoctor.org, Huffington Post, Comedy Central, The New York Times, SHAPE.COM, Blacklove.com, Vogue.com, Cosmopolitan.com, Washington Post's The Lily, Clear Channel Radio, CBS Radio, Sirus XM, Playboy Radio and dozens of others. Tyomi currently serves as the Resident Sexpert and Seminar Coordinator for the Exxxotica Expo and is a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Health. The two of us talk about semen retention and how to practice this as a couple as well as the spiritual community’s shaming of ejaculation and sex toys. Key Points: Tyomi introduces herself Integrating spirituality and sexuality Introducing semen retention Semen retention is a couples practice Phallocentrism and decentering the penis Ejaculation shaming Sex toy shaming Men fear pleasure Tyomi’s Instagram: @realglamazontyomi Tyomi’s website: http://sexperttyomi.glamerotica101.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Steph Ganowski, a sex and relationship coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men improve their relationships with themselves and with their partners through tangible skillsets, mental reprogramming, and emotional awareness. Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. This included the men she attracted romantically. Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. Her curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did. Key points: Steph introduces herself Sexuality begins with you Understanding your arousal Translating masturbation to sex Non-linear sex Penis size and sexual skills Porn, stereotypes and anxiety Fear of feeling pleasure Dirty talk and sexy communication Relevant links: Stephanie’s Instagram: @stephganowski Stephanie’s website: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samuel Shin. Samuel is an ex-psychotherapist now working as an Authentic Dating Coach. He's also a certified men's work facilitator. Samuel offers an alternative to the pick-up industry by helping men open up to their authenticity, masculinity & sexuality to naturally improve their dating & relationships. His work includes 3 components: developing masculinity, working on the root cause of insecurities, and learning what he calls "conscious pick-up.” After recording this episode, Samuel wanted to add a disclaimer for listeners. Though he shares his criticisms of the Western mental health system in the interview and why he stopped practicing therapy, he wants listeners to know that he is still a huge advocate of therapy and recommends everybody try it for at least 6-months with a therapist they really like & feel a connection with (he emphasizes personally liking them and feeling a connection as a prerequisite to successful therapy). Therapy has been instrumental in his path of growth & healing, and he believes there is nothing like it. Getting guidance from someone who is educated & trained at the highest level in understanding the psychological underpinnings of maladaptive thoughts & behaviors is something a lot of life coaches won't be able to offer.   Key Points:  Samuel introduces himself  Disillusionment with talk therapy  Samuel’s sexual self-discovery  Entering the dating scene  Cultivating authenticity  Dating advice for men    Relevant links:  Samuel’s Instagram: @authenticdatingcoach  Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Lauren Violet. Lauren is Sex and Relationship Coach with a background in Psychology, Sex Education, as well as in the Adult Entertainment, Modeling, and Fitness industries. In addition to coaching and talk therapy, she also uses somatic practices and bodywork, emotional regulation, relational agreements, and self-pleasure facilitation with her clients. Lauren is passionate about solo sex, group sex, Tantra, BDSM, kink and all things taboo. She believes in the freedom of sexual expression and exploration of desires, and enjoys providing a space for others to explore their own freedom and expression. In this episode, Lauren and I dive deep into the practicalities of introducing a third person to your partner sex life as well as some important principles to be mindful of when experimenting with group sex. Key points: Lauren introduces herself Creating erotic content Important conversations with your partner Before introducing more people Where to find a third person Respecting everyone involved Positions and other practicalities Principles for group sex Relevant links: Lauren’s Instagram: @laurenvioletcoaching

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Claire Eccleston. Claire is a mother of three beautiful children, an experienced registered midwife, a Spinning Babies® approved trainer and a biodynamic craniosacral therapist. Claire has been supporting women’s transitions since 2000. Attending births, offering childbirth education, pregnancy yoga and providing bodywork sessions. Claire is a dynamic facilitator offering national, international and online workshops and speaking at conferences and events around the globe. Claire is passionate about the ancient and sacred arts of birth work, bodywork and where they meet. Claire has a deep reverence for our bodies, the rhythms of our physical nature and our earthy intelligence. She honours this womb work with deep reverence, respect and gentleness. The two of us talk about the impact of pregnancy and birth on the body. I reflect on my experience as a father and non-birthing partner. Key points: Claire introduces herself The journey of pregnancy and birth Our bodies hold stories Releasing and re-writing these stories How non-birthing partners can support Cam reflects on his experience of birth Transitioning into fatherhood Relevant links Claire’s Instagram: @clairehomebirth Claire’s website: https://www.claireecclestonmidwife.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary therapist on Luke Warm Sex (ABC) and is a regular media commentator whose opinion is frequently sought for TV, radio and print including The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, Refinery 29, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Netflix, ABC Radio, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan and much more. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named in MindBodyGreen’s list of Top 100 Women to Watch. Cyndi is presently an affiliate on the advisory board of the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program and faculty on Pink Therapy's (UK) Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy. She has also received the honor to be recognized as a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK. Key Points: Cyndi introduces herself Somatic elements of sex therapy The sexuality profession Talk therapy vs bodywork Masculinity and pleasure-negativity Escaping the cycle of anxiety Sex therapy with older men Helping men talk about sex Relevant links: Cyndi’s website: https://cyndidarnell.com/ Cyndi’s Instagram: @cyndi_darnell