Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samuel Shin. Samuel is an ex-psychotherapist now working as an Authentic Dating Coach. He's also a certified men's work facilitator. Samuel offers an alternative to the pick-up industry by helping men open up to their authenticity, masculinity & sexuality to naturally improve their dating & relationships. His work includes 3 components: developing masculinity, working on the root cause of insecurities, and learning what he calls "conscious pick-up.” After recording this episode, Samuel wanted to add a disclaimer for listeners. Though he shares his criticisms of the Western mental health system in the interview and why he stopped practicing therapy, he wants listeners to know that he is still a huge advocate of therapy and recommends everybody try it for at least 6-months with a therapist they really like & feel a connection with (he emphasizes personally liking them and feeling a connection as a prerequisite to successful therapy). Therapy has been instrumental in his path of growth & healing, and he believes there is nothing like it. Getting guidance from someone who is educated & trained at the highest level in understanding the psychological underpinnings of maladaptive thoughts & behaviors is something a lot of life coaches won't be able to offer.   Key Points:  Samuel introduces himself  Disillusionment with talk therapy  Samuel’s sexual self-discovery  Entering the dating scene  Cultivating authenticity  Dating advice for men    Relevant links:  Samuel’s Instagram: @authenticdatingcoach  Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Lauren Violet. Lauren is Sex and Relationship Coach with a background in Psychology, Sex Education, as well as in the Adult Entertainment, Modeling, and Fitness industries. In addition to coaching and talk therapy, she also uses somatic practices and bodywork, emotional regulation, relational agreements, and self-pleasure facilitation with her clients. Lauren is passionate about solo sex, group sex, Tantra, BDSM, kink and all things taboo. She believes in the freedom of sexual expression and exploration of desires, and enjoys providing a space for others to explore their own freedom and expression. In this episode, Lauren and I dive deep into the practicalities of introducing a third person to your partner sex life as well as some important principles to be mindful of when experimenting with group sex. Key points: Lauren introduces herself Creating erotic content Important conversations with your partner Before introducing more people Where to find a third person Respecting everyone involved Positions and other practicalities Principles for group sex Relevant links: Lauren’s Instagram: @laurenvioletcoaching

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Claire Eccleston. Claire is a mother of three beautiful children, an experienced registered midwife, a Spinning Babies® approved trainer and a biodynamic craniosacral therapist. Claire has been supporting women’s transitions since 2000. Attending births, offering childbirth education, pregnancy yoga and providing bodywork sessions. Claire is a dynamic facilitator offering national, international and online workshops and speaking at conferences and events around the globe. Claire is passionate about the ancient and sacred arts of birth work, bodywork and where they meet. Claire has a deep reverence for our bodies, the rhythms of our physical nature and our earthy intelligence. She honours this womb work with deep reverence, respect and gentleness. The two of us talk about the impact of pregnancy and birth on the body. I reflect on my experience as a father and non-birthing partner. Key points: Claire introduces herself The journey of pregnancy and birth Our bodies hold stories Releasing and re-writing these stories How non-birthing partners can support Cam reflects on his experience of birth Transitioning into fatherhood Relevant links Claire’s Instagram: @clairehomebirth Claire’s website: https://www.claireecclestonmidwife.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary therapist on Luke Warm Sex (ABC) and is a regular media commentator whose opinion is frequently sought for TV, radio and print including The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, Refinery 29, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Netflix, ABC Radio, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan and much more. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named in MindBodyGreen’s list of Top 100 Women to Watch. Cyndi is presently an affiliate on the advisory board of the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program and faculty on Pink Therapy's (UK) Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy. She has also received the honor to be recognized as a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK. Key Points: Cyndi introduces herself Somatic elements of sex therapy The sexuality profession Talk therapy vs bodywork Masculinity and pleasure-negativity Escaping the cycle of anxiety Sex therapy with older men Helping men talk about sex Relevant links: Cyndi’s website: https://cyndidarnell.com/ Cyndi’s Instagram: @cyndi_darnell

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Patti Britton. Dr. Patti has led 55 SAR programs over the past ten years in seven countries to over 1,500 people. She is the author of the only SAR training manual. Dr. Patti is a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and world renown as the Pioneer of the profession of Sex Coaching. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology; a popular speaker to consumers and a seasoned professional trainer for her peers. Dr. Patti has hosted over 40 DVD programs on sexual enhancement. Her media record speaks for itself—with appearances on over 200 television shows, as the featured guest on over 250 interviews for radio, podcasts and media, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, celebrity podcasts and popular sexual health-related websites. Dr. Patti possesses a Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. She is a Certified Sex Coach. Her stellar credentials include: Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); AASECT Sexuality Educator of the Year 2016; Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator/Supervisor; Lifetime member and Advisory Council for the American College of Sexologists International; Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality; National Advisory Board Ambassador of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation; Elected member of the Advisory Committee for the World Association for Sexual Health. Dr. Patti has a private practice in the Los Angeles area and online via zoom worldwide. She is also the Co-Founder of Sex Coach U, the world’s premier training and credentialing organization for sex coaches. Key points: Dr. Patti shares about what inspired her to create sex coaching What is sex coaching? Sex Coaching vs Sex Therapy The MEBES© Model Dr. Patti’s speciality areas of coaching Sex Coach U (and a big announcement) Sexology trends regarding masculinity Retirement and passions Relevant links: Dr. Patti’s website: https://drpattibritton.com/ Sex Coach U website: https://sexcoachu.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. David J. Ley. David is a world-renowned clinical psychologist, known for bringing scientifically-accurate and clinically sound information to discussions about modern sexuality. He serves on the board of the Sexual Health Alliance as an expert advisor and is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others. He has been interviewed in publications ranging from the New York Times, Washington Post, LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and Hustler magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His latest book, Ethical Porn for Dicks, A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure has endorsements from Dan Savage and Pornhub.com and is a humorous and provocative handbook for men who want to think more comprehensively about porn. In 2018, he spoke with Esther Perel, at her Sessions Live conference exploring The Masculinity Paradox. His talk, seen here, offers a concise overview of his view on masculinity and sexual integrity. The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology and sociology. Dr. Ley is starting a new project, exploring the stories behind people who engage in professional sexual misconduct. Why do teachers, lawyers, doctors, therapists and police cross sexual lines? He is interested in conducting confidential, anonymous interviews with people who have insight into these experiences. The two of us talk about the importance of prioritizing sexuality in the medical community. We also discuss the issues of porn, including definitions, usage, and masturbatory habits. Key points: David introduces himself Common sense vs Research Challenging biases What is “healthy” sexuality? The priority of sexuality What is porn? Media consumption Educational porn How to use porn Male sexuality Relevant links: David’s Instagram: @davidleyphd David’s website: https://www.davidleyphd.com/

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Nick Perry. Nick is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Corrective Exercise Specialist and Men’s Work Facilitator who is passionate and driven by authentic relating and inspired living. Nick’s education in Holistic Lifestyle Coaching draws from personal mentoring and learning from some of the world’s leading healers, facilitators and physical therapists. For the last decade he has immersed himself in study and experimentation, acquiring qualifications across a broad range of modalities. Over the last few years his reach in the world has spread far, as he shares his knowledge, experience and personal story through podcasts, workshops and teachings in his mentorship program. Known for his deep presence, relatability and down-to-earth nature, Nick’s goal when working with clients is to leave them feeling empowered and aligned in themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Key points: Nick shares about his work Fatherhood and processing emotions “I’m not enough”: Self-worth stories Relearning about sex and pleasure Pleasure is weakness? Catalysts for transformation Listening to your body Supporting other men Role models Relevant links: Nick’s Instagram: @rhythmhealth Nick’s website: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/about

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Forrest Andrews. Forrest is the Product and Business Development manager of Aneros. Forrest's relationship with Aneros began in 2000 and he has played an important role in the evolution of the company and their products ever since. This started when he was a customer and purchased their very first device. The impact on him was life-changing, turning around a decades-old health condition while revealing a powerful new orgasmic experience he would later call the “Super O”. After a series of productive conversations with the owners of the company, Forrest became their sole product tester and a consultant for the development of new products. Soon after he helped them launch the Aneros forum where he chronicled his own personal journey into the multi-orgasmic realm. In later years he compiled the Aneros WIKI comprised of terms drawn from his several thousand posts and threads. Between 2003 to 2012 he mentored men from all over the world helping them transition to new levels of sensual awareness through prostate massage. During the same period, he attended public and industry trade expos in the U.S. and Europe, as the company’s expert on the use of their devices. In 2016, Forrest became Aneros’ manager of Product and Business development where he’s supervised the creation and launch of the awarding winning Trident Series, the Trident Syn Series, the VICE 2 and the Helix Syn V. The two of us talk about the ins and outs of prostate stimulation, from massage to play to manual to vibration to health benefits to pleasure enhancement. If you’re interested in prostate pleasure, this is the episode for you. Key points: Forrest introduces himself Forrest’s journey with prostate health The beginnings of Aneros Prostate pleasure Stimulation: Massage vs play To use vibration or not? Different types of prostate massagers Advice for men wanting to explore their prostate Relevant links: The Aneros website: www.aneros.com Forrest’s email: forrest@aneros.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I welcome back Yuval Mann. Yuval is the founder of the Sensual Alchemy School of Integrated Sexuality, his personal sex and relationship coaching business which teaches people how to have epic sex and legendary love. During his twenties, Yuval carried a bag full of trauma, shame, and guilt around his sexuality and relating to women due to his upbringing in an extreme Jewish Orthodox community. After leaving that community, Yuval embarked on a long journey of discovery into letting go of that shame, the blockage, and everything that was holding him back from making love with himself, women, and the world. Yuval and I chat about his experiences with Shibari - also known as Japanese rope bondage - and what he has learned about communication, surrender, and dominance from these experiences. We also talk about sex coaching and educating in general and how this work is received on social media as well as the barriers for sexuality professionals online. Key points: Yuval reintroduces himself Venturing into Shibari The practice of rope bondage Submission and surrender Dominance and assertiveness Focussing on coaching Translating this work online Barriers for sexuality professionals Relevant links: Yuval’s Instagram: @yuvalmanns Yuval’s TikTok: yuvalmann.s

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Gold Coast based Sex Therapist, Relationship Counsellor, and Intimacy Coach Helena Nista. Helena is certified in sex therapy, somatic counselling and Tantra. She’s a mentor, author, speaker and lover. Helena is passionate about helping her clients become the best lovers they can possibly be, overcome any sexual difficulties and create amazing sex lives. She does it through 1-on-1 sex therapy & coaching, online courses, books, workshops and events. Helena’s 1-on-1 sessions are conducted internationally over Zoom. To date Helena has coached thousands of clients, done hundreds of sex therapy sessions, and her online programs have reached countless individuals all over the world. The two of us talk about the practical aspects of being a legendary lover, particularly for men who have sex with women. Key Points: Helena introduces herself The foundations of good sex The importance of communication Speaking to your partner Tips for touching your partner Tips for oral sex Tips for penetrative sex More practical advice for men Relevant links: Helena’s website: www.helenanista.com Helena’s Instagram: @helenanista Helena’s YouTube: youtube.com/helenanista Helena’s book: “Legendary Lover”