Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Guest Tully O'Connor and host discuss fatherhood, intimacy, and connection. They cover topics like conscious conception, toddlerdom, sex expectations, family support, values, and communication. The conversation explores navigating parenthood, post-ejaculation neurochemical processes, brain's role in relationships, intense birth experiences, emotional sharing balance, fatherhood challenges, family values, and intentional intimacy in relationships.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Justine Ang Fonte (she/they). Justine Ang Fonte, M.Ed, MPH is the child of Philippine immigrants and award-wining intersectional sex & health educator, consultant, and professor based in New York City. On Instagram, she's known as "Your Friendly Ghostwriter" composing the texts you avoid sending about setting your boundaries. The two of us talk about their social media page _good.byes_ and their work as a ghostwriter for boundaries. We discuss the importance of setting and recognizing boundaries and the reasons why so many of us aren’t very good at this. Key Points: Justine introduces herself Comprehensive sex education Consent beyond sex Ghostwriting boundaries Different types of boundaries Online vs in-person Boundaries in the body Recognising boundaries in others Relevant links: Justine’s website: https://www.justinefonte.com/ Justine’s Instagram: @imjustineaf Justine’s Instagram: @_good.byes_ Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lucy Rowett, CSC CS ACS. Lucy is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for womxn to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again. She is a resident on UK contraception platform, The Lowdown, and she is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including Men's Health, GQ, Kinkly, The O Diaries, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. The two of us take a critical look at the sacred sexuality and Neo-Tantra community, addressing some of the things we’ve noticed, and sharing some practical ways for listeners to explore and embody their sexuality. Key Points: Lucy introduces herself Conservatism and religion Casual sex vs hookup culture Polarity coaches New-Age to Alt-Right pipeline Heteronormativity Embodiment practices Relationship with pleasure Relevant Links: Lucy’s Website: https://lucyrowett.com/ Lucy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett Lucy’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucyrowett Lucy’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sarah Martin. Sarah is an anti-fascist sex & dating coach who helps horny people get laid ethically. She's the host of the Slutty Activism podcast and the creator of the Dignified Hedonist framework. She wrote her master's thesis about economic metaphor in pickup artist handbooks. She calls Vilnius, Lithuania home. The two of us talk about her Masters research regarding pickup artists and the seduction community. We discuss the way that sex and relationships are framed in this community, why this is detrimental, and how to reframe these for men. Key Points: Sarah introduces herself “High value”: Dating and economic metaphor Men as buyers, women as sellers Women are liars The Manosphere Masculinity and anti-femininity Shame free dating advice Talking with someone you’re attracted to Relevant Links: Sarah’s website: https://dignifiedhedonist.com Sarah’s FacebookL: https://www.facebook.com/dignifiedhedonist Sarah’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/HedonistDating Sarah’s Instagram: @dignified.hedonist

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Oliver Morton-Evans. Oliver has had a diverse career journey and is the founder of a MedTech startup based in Sydney, Australia. He has advocated for the rights of people with physical disabilities for most of his life and openly talks about sexuality. The two of us talk about Oliver’s experience dating as a person with a disability. We also talk about the lack of representation and inclusivity at Tantra and sexuality events. We then discuss the perceptions people have about disability, dating, and sex. Oliver is passionate about dispelling these misperceptions. Key points: Oliver introduces himself Disability representation Inclusivity at sexuality events Perceptions around dating Perceptions around sex Dispelling misperceptions Making sexuality work more accessible Relevant links: Oliver’s Instagram: @oliver_me79

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps. In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. The two of us talk about the common concerns our clients have as well as the creative ways in which to navigate these concerns. Dr. Tara shares a lot of advice about how to communicate with your partner about sex and how to begin exploring your sexual desires. Key points: Dr. Tara introduces herself Managing mismatched libido Meeting sexual needs creatively Cultural influences on Dr. Tara’s work How to have a thriving sex life Talking before actioning Advice for exploring your fantasies Relevant links: Dr. Tara’s website: https://www.luvbites.co/ Dr. Tara’s Instagram/TikTok: @luvbites.co

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daniel Di Pietro. Daniel is a Melbourne-based sexologist with a Masters in Sexology and provisional psychotherapist with several certifications in sex therapy; including how to treat mismatched sexual desire between couples and navigating issues of sexuality and sexual difficulties. Daniel has a keen interest in male sexual health, behaviour, pleasure and function and has presented his thesis on male sexual health for the Queensland Society of Australian Sexologists branch. Daniel enjoys working collaboratively with binary and non-binary people of all ages, cultural backgrounds, beliefs and sexual orientations. The two of us talk about the research Daniel conducted for his Masters in Sexology regarding erectile dysfunction and its impact on masculinity. We discuss how erectile dysfunction impacts men’s self-esteem and the strategies they use to compensate for it. We also look at the issues disseminating research related to men’s sexual health and functioning. Key points: Daniel introduces himself Introducing Daniel’s research The different types of erectile dysfunction Hostility and masculinity Problems recruiting study participants Compensating for erectile dysfunction Traditional sexual scripts Managing erectile dysfunction Relevant links: Daniel’s website: www.dipietrosexology.com Daniel’s instagram: @dipietrosexology Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com Cam’s patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Justin Houman, M.D. Justin is a board certified, fellowship-trained Urologist and Men’s Health specialist whose mission is to enhance men’s quality of life by improving their sexual, reproductive, and hormonal health. His focus is on making a difference in people’s lives through state-of-the-art, compassionate, and personally tailored care. The two of us talk about the issues men come to see him with in his position as a urologist, from low/no sperm count to low testosterone to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation to Peyronie’s disease to vasectomies. We cover a lot of gound in this episode about men’s sexual health and the types of treatments available. Key points: Justin introduces himself Sperm count and infertility issues Testosterone replacement Erectile dysfunction Premature ejaculation Pharmaceutical interventions Peyronie’s disease Vasectomies and reversals Relevant links: Justin’s Instagram: Justin.Houman.MD Jusitn’s Twitter: @JustinHoumanMD Justin’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/jhouman Justin’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LAMensHealth/ Justin’s TikTok: @justin.houman.md Justin’s Website: https://houmanmd.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Leeza Mangaldas. Leeza is India’s foremost pleasure positive content creator. Given how shrouded in stigma sex is in India, Leeza started creating sex education content on YouTube and Instagram in 2017 with the intention to normalize conversations around sexuality, sexual health, gender, pleasure, and the body. Her videos reach millions of young people around India and the world, everyday. She also hosts a Spotify Exclusive podcast called The Sex Podcast by Leeza Mangaldas that provides scientifically accurate, judgement-free answers to commonly asked sex questions in Hindi. Leeza is a recipient of The Pleasure Project’s Pleasure Fellowship, and was named Sexual Health Influencer of the Year at the Cosmo India Blogger Awards this year- the first year they introduced this category. She has also been named one of GQ’s Most Influential Young Indians in 2021 and 2022, and received the Google x SheThePeople Digital Women Award for Content. Prior to establishing her digital platforms, Leeza presented several lifestyle, sports, and current-affairs shows on Indian television channels including ET Now and Star Sports, as well as contributed to global publications including Forbes.com, Elle, and Harper’s Bazaar. Leeza spent her childhood in Goa, went to boarding school in Kodaikanal, and then to college in New York City on a scholarship at Columbia University. She graduated magna cum laude with a BA in English and Visual Art with a focus on gender and sexuality in 2011. In this episode the two of us talk about her experience as a sex educator in India and the culturally specific things that she has noticed doing this work. Key Points: Leeza introduces herself Sex education in India Historical sex-positivity Colonial sexual repression MRAs and feminism in India Sex and marriage Sexual misinformation Dhat syndrome Relevant links: Leeza’s Instagram: instagram.com/leezamangaldas Leeza’s Youtube: youtube.com/leezamangaldas1 Leeza’s Podcast: https://spotify.link/TheSexPodcastByLeeza

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with physical therapist, life and intimacy coach Dr. Kyle Freeman, PT, DPT. Kyle guides clients toward living a more authentic life by harnessing their sexual energy, finding greater clarity in their life's purpose and shedding any negative beliefs they have about themselves. Through sex education, conscious breathwork as well as mindset practices, his clients learn to find a home inside themselves & embrace their unique qualities. As a Doctor of Physical Therapy, breathwork facilitator, online sex/lifestyle coach & mental health advocate, Kyle has learned to coach people on quality health habits that lead to overall improvements in physical and mental well-being. The two us talk about how sexual self-awareness, from being sexure in your sexuality to communicating boundaries to expressing emotions during sex. Kyle and I believe that all of these things and more are important for bettering your sex life. Key points: Kyle introduces himself Creating a safe container Communicating boundaries Emotional expression during sex Being secure in your sexuality Sexual self-awareness Comprehensive sex education Relevant links: Kyle’s Instagram: @drkyledean Kyle’s Men’s Group: patreon.com/themodernman Kyle’s Onlyfans: drkyledean-free