Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps. In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. The two of us talk about the common concerns our clients have as well as the creative ways in which to navigate these concerns. Dr. Tara shares a lot of advice about how to communicate with your partner about sex and how to begin exploring your sexual desires. Key points: Dr. Tara introduces herself Managing mismatched libido Meeting sexual needs creatively Cultural influences on Dr. Tara’s work How to have a thriving sex life Talking before actioning Advice for exploring your fantasies Relevant links: Dr. Tara’s website: https://www.luvbites.co/ Dr. Tara’s Instagram/TikTok: @luvbites.co

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daniel Di Pietro. Daniel is a Melbourne-based sexologist with a Masters in Sexology and provisional psychotherapist with several certifications in sex therapy; including how to treat mismatched sexual desire between couples and navigating issues of sexuality and sexual difficulties. Daniel has a keen interest in male sexual health, behaviour, pleasure and function and has presented his thesis on male sexual health for the Queensland Society of Australian Sexologists branch. Daniel enjoys working collaboratively with binary and non-binary people of all ages, cultural backgrounds, beliefs and sexual orientations. The two of us talk about the research Daniel conducted for his Masters in Sexology regarding erectile dysfunction and its impact on masculinity. We discuss how erectile dysfunction impacts men’s self-esteem and the strategies they use to compensate for it. We also look at the issues disseminating research related to men’s sexual health and functioning. Key points: Daniel introduces himself Introducing Daniel’s research The different types of erectile dysfunction Hostility and masculinity Problems recruiting study participants Compensating for erectile dysfunction Traditional sexual scripts Managing erectile dysfunction Relevant links: Daniel’s website: www.dipietrosexology.com Daniel’s instagram: @dipietrosexology Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com Cam’s patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Justin Houman, M.D. Justin is a board certified, fellowship-trained Urologist and Men’s Health specialist whose mission is to enhance men’s quality of life by improving their sexual, reproductive, and hormonal health. His focus is on making a difference in people’s lives through state-of-the-art, compassionate, and personally tailored care. The two of us talk about the issues men come to see him with in his position as a urologist, from low/no sperm count to low testosterone to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation to Peyronie’s disease to vasectomies. We cover a lot of gound in this episode about men’s sexual health and the types of treatments available. Key points: Justin introduces himself Sperm count and infertility issues Testosterone replacement Erectile dysfunction Premature ejaculation Pharmaceutical interventions Peyronie’s disease Vasectomies and reversals Relevant links: Justin’s Instagram: Justin.Houman.MD Jusitn’s Twitter: @JustinHoumanMD Justin’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/jhouman Justin’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LAMensHealth/ Justin’s TikTok: @justin.houman.md Justin’s Website: https://houmanmd.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Leeza Mangaldas. Leeza is India’s foremost pleasure positive content creator. Given how shrouded in stigma sex is in India, Leeza started creating sex education content on YouTube and Instagram in 2017 with the intention to normalize conversations around sexuality, sexual health, gender, pleasure, and the body. Her videos reach millions of young people around India and the world, everyday. She also hosts a Spotify Exclusive podcast called The Sex Podcast by Leeza Mangaldas that provides scientifically accurate, judgement-free answers to commonly asked sex questions in Hindi. Leeza is a recipient of The Pleasure Project’s Pleasure Fellowship, and was named Sexual Health Influencer of the Year at the Cosmo India Blogger Awards this year- the first year they introduced this category. She has also been named one of GQ’s Most Influential Young Indians in 2021 and 2022, and received the Google x SheThePeople Digital Women Award for Content. Prior to establishing her digital platforms, Leeza presented several lifestyle, sports, and current-affairs shows on Indian television channels including ET Now and Star Sports, as well as contributed to global publications including Forbes.com, Elle, and Harper’s Bazaar. Leeza spent her childhood in Goa, went to boarding school in Kodaikanal, and then to college in New York City on a scholarship at Columbia University. She graduated magna cum laude with a BA in English and Visual Art with a focus on gender and sexuality in 2011. In this episode the two of us talk about her experience as a sex educator in India and the culturally specific things that she has noticed doing this work. Key Points: Leeza introduces herself Sex education in India Historical sex-positivity Colonial sexual repression MRAs and feminism in India Sex and marriage Sexual misinformation Dhat syndrome Relevant links: Leeza’s Instagram: instagram.com/leezamangaldas Leeza’s Youtube: youtube.com/leezamangaldas1 Leeza’s Podcast: https://spotify.link/TheSexPodcastByLeeza

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with physical therapist, life and intimacy coach Dr. Kyle Freeman, PT, DPT. Kyle guides clients toward living a more authentic life by harnessing their sexual energy, finding greater clarity in their life's purpose and shedding any negative beliefs they have about themselves. Through sex education, conscious breathwork as well as mindset practices, his clients learn to find a home inside themselves & embrace their unique qualities. As a Doctor of Physical Therapy, breathwork facilitator, online sex/lifestyle coach & mental health advocate, Kyle has learned to coach people on quality health habits that lead to overall improvements in physical and mental well-being. The two us talk about how sexual self-awareness, from being sexure in your sexuality to communicating boundaries to expressing emotions during sex. Kyle and I believe that all of these things and more are important for bettering your sex life. Key points: Kyle introduces himself Creating a safe container Communicating boundaries Emotional expression during sex Being secure in your sexuality Sexual self-awareness Comprehensive sex education Relevant links: Kyle’s Instagram: @drkyledean Kyle’s Men’s Group: patreon.com/themodernman Kyle’s Onlyfans: drkyledean-free

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jacob O’Neill. Jacob describes himself as a holder of visions, leader of heart-centered men, and absolutely hellbent on reactivating the grounded loving masculine within each man. He was a serial yes man & addicted to people-pleasing, on a mission to fit perfectly into the box society had so generously offered him. He contorted his SELF into the “model citizen” & settled in for a comfortable & safe life. But the universe had other plans, Jacob answered the call of his soul & followed what felt GOOD. Does his life look like he thought it would? NO, but it feels better than he ever could have imagined, because he is living his TRUTH. So now Jacob is committed to holding sacred space for men on the journey home to their TRUTH. The two of us talk about his personal experience of transformation and the catalysts which brought that about. We also speak about the practices he implements for becoming more aware of sensations in the body as well as the elements of pleasure, comfort and complacency. Key Points: Jacob introduces himself Routine: Double edged sword Catalysts for transformation The practice of stillness Find your own beat “If you can’t dance after the battle, then what are you fighting for?” Comfort vs complacency Relevant links: Jacob’s Instagram: @thejacoboneill Jacob’s website: https://www.jacobatoneill.com/

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anthony Ragonese. Anthony is a writer and public speaker who explores the intersection of the erotic and esoteric. He specializes in topics including masturbation, self-love, body positivity, sacred sexuality, sex magic, and enthusiasm for penises, all of which are part of his spiritual philosophy called Autoerotic Phallicism. The two of us talk about his personal philosophy and his approach to self-pleasure. Anthony also shares advice for men who are interested in exploring their sexuality and spirituality. Key Points: Anthony introduces himself The intersection of sexuality and spirituality Phallicism and self-pleasure Fascinus: the divine phallus Practical sex magick Creating an altar Advice for exploration Relevant links: Anthony’s website: https://strokingthesoul.com Anthony’s Instagram: @StrokingtheSoul

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Euphemia Russell. Euphemia, (they/them) is a full spectrum pleasure coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure. Euphemia is trained and certified in somatic coaching, international coaching federation, sex-positive education, sexual violence counselling, trauma-informed facilitation, and has a background in Community Cultural Development. Their work, which aims to support people to flourish and feel pleasure, despite our collective crisis of pace and disconnection, has been featured in Elle, Cosmopolitan, Vice, Harper’s Bazaar, and multiple national radios and newspapers. They are particularly dedicated to resourcing and cherishing people who are distanced from their pleasure and bodies – usually because of holding minority identities and being socialised to be people-pleasing and appeasing, defaulting to others, overgiving, and/or playing small to be safe and liked. Euphemia is of Scottish descent, born a settler on unceded Kulin Nation lands (AKA Melbourne, Australia), and a migrant to Tongva land (AKA Los Angeles, California). They hold the identities and experiences of being white, queer non-binary, able-bodied, born middle-class, and a trauma survivor. ‘Slow Pleasure’ is both the name of Euphemia’s best-selling book and their theory of change. Euphemia believes that by accessing the full spectrum of pleasure, drip by drip and microdose by microdose, readers and clients can feel their own aliveness and reestablish a nourishing connection to self, others, and the land. They see pleasure and somatics as a journey of creating moments to pause, listen and remember, rather than ‘fix’ or accumulate knowledge. Key Points Euphemia introduces themself The crisis of pace and being in the moment Microdosing pleasure and hustle culture Pleasure for the sake of pleasure Self-care vs Aftercare Post-ejaculatory vulnerability Digital boundaries Savoring the pleasure of using technology Pleasure and other emotions Relevant links: Euphemia’s Instagram: www.instagram/com/euphemia.russell Euphemia’s website: https://euphemiarussell.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Leah Carey. Leah is a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. Her superpower is radical empathy. The two of us talk about the harmful messages we tell our kids and how we can undo the social conditioning that limits our ability to express ourselves and explore our sexuality. Key Points: Leah introduces herself What does sexual repression look like? Harmful messages we tell our kids The “Don’t Say Gay” Bill Comprehensive Sex Education Undoing social conditioning Teaching consent to kids Relevant links: Leah’s website: www.leahcarey.com Leah’s Instagram: @GoodGirlsTalk

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kabelo Chabalala. Kabelo is the author of “A journey from boyhood to manhood.” He is the founder of and senior mentor at the Young Men Movement (YMM), an organisation that focuses on the reconstruction of the socialisation of boys to create a new cohort of men in our society across the globe. He is a columnist for the Sowetan, and his column appears twice a month in the paper on Fridays. He was the Community Builder Awardee of the year in 2019 for the Marcia Lebambo Foundation. He was 1 of 200 Obama Leaders: Africa 2018 and a Finland Correspondent Participant 2018. Kabelo is a former PR Specialist for Lingashoni and Mzansi Magic, and a former Columnist for the The Citizen newspaper. Kabelo describes himself as a feminist at heart and as an advocate for equality as well as for the well-being of the boy-child. He is also a preacher, having obtained a Theology certificate from the Johannesburg Bible College. The toy us talk about his work as a mentor with teenage boys and how he is helping them to shift their perspectives about masculinity. We discuss how absent fathers impact these boys and how Kabelo helps them take responsibility for their sexuality. Key Points: Kabelo introduces himself Unresolved anger Stereotypical gender roles in rural South Africa Shifting ideas of masculinity Fatherlessness Responsibility and sexuality Becoming a husband Relevant links: Kabelo’s Instagram: @kb_the_village_boy Kabelo’s website: https://villageboyvoice.wordpress.com/