Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Quicky #2 comes from Season 1, Episode 3: Gender Expression, Masculinity & Sex Education (with Kai Schweizer) On this episode, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat again with Devin Fredericksen. Devin joined me first on episode #11 of the podcast and I have the pleasure of welcoming him back. Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer. The two of us talk about regeneration, from the very literal sense to the more esoteric and energetic sense. We also discuss the practice of consuming ejaculation and finding sexual pleasure in nature, including the phallic symbolism of mushrooms and the sensuality of forests. Key Points: Devin reintroduces himself The definition of regeneration Consuming ejaculation and energetic regeneration Nature and sensuality Phallic symbolism of mushrooms The practice of ecosexuality Pleasure from being outdoors Devin’s Instagram: @devinfredericksen Devin’s website: https://www.devinfredericksen.com/ Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser

Quicky #1 comes from Season 1, Episode 1: From Caveman to Multi-Orgasmic Man (with Nicolas Spadaccini) On this episode, I chat with engineer, author, film maker and life-long student of all things Tantra, Nicolas Spadaccini. This clip is taken from Season 1, Episode 1. He dropped a lot of practical knowledge about male bodies and multiple orgasms. Nic has a refreshingly open way of talking about the not so talked about parts of our sexual bodies. In 2016, he started writing the soon to be released book entitled, "Penises & Vaginas - A Users Manual." It's a hand guide to the basics about our sexual bodies that are often overlooked in our modern world. I really resonate with Nic's approach to sexuality work and always gain valuable insights whenever I chat with him.  Link to full episode: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/pUZlo0fh9ub 

Guest Tully O'Connor and host discuss fatherhood, intimacy, and connection. They cover topics like conscious conception, toddlerdom, sex expectations, family support, values, and communication. The conversation explores navigating parenthood, post-ejaculation neurochemical processes, brain's role in relationships, intense birth experiences, emotional sharing balance, fatherhood challenges, family values, and intentional intimacy in relationships.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Justine Ang Fonte (she/they). Justine Ang Fonte, M.Ed, MPH is the child of Philippine immigrants and award-wining intersectional sex & health educator, consultant, and professor based in New York City. On Instagram, she's known as "Your Friendly Ghostwriter" composing the texts you avoid sending about setting your boundaries. The two of us talk about their social media page _good.byes_ and their work as a ghostwriter for boundaries. We discuss the importance of setting and recognizing boundaries and the reasons why so many of us aren’t very good at this. Key Points: Justine introduces herself Comprehensive sex education Consent beyond sex Ghostwriting boundaries Different types of boundaries Online vs in-person Boundaries in the body Recognising boundaries in others Relevant links: Justine’s website: https://www.justinefonte.com/ Justine’s Instagram: @imjustineaf Justine’s Instagram: @_good.byes_ Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lucy Rowett, CSC CS ACS. Lucy is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for womxn to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again. She is a resident on UK contraception platform, The Lowdown, and she is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including Men's Health, GQ, Kinkly, The O Diaries, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. The two of us take a critical look at the sacred sexuality and Neo-Tantra community, addressing some of the things we’ve noticed, and sharing some practical ways for listeners to explore and embody their sexuality. Key Points: Lucy introduces herself Conservatism and religion Casual sex vs hookup culture Polarity coaches New-Age to Alt-Right pipeline Heteronormativity Embodiment practices Relationship with pleasure Relevant Links: Lucy’s Website: https://lucyrowett.com/ Lucy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett Lucy’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucyrowett Lucy’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sarah Martin. Sarah is an anti-fascist sex & dating coach who helps horny people get laid ethically. She's the host of the Slutty Activism podcast and the creator of the Dignified Hedonist framework. She wrote her master's thesis about economic metaphor in pickup artist handbooks. She calls Vilnius, Lithuania home. The two of us talk about her Masters research regarding pickup artists and the seduction community. We discuss the way that sex and relationships are framed in this community, why this is detrimental, and how to reframe these for men. Key Points: Sarah introduces herself “High value”: Dating and economic metaphor Men as buyers, women as sellers Women are liars The Manosphere Masculinity and anti-femininity Shame free dating advice Talking with someone you’re attracted to Relevant Links: Sarah’s website: https://dignifiedhedonist.com Sarah’s FacebookL: https://www.facebook.com/dignifiedhedonist Sarah’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/HedonistDating Sarah’s Instagram: @dignified.hedonist

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Oliver Morton-Evans. Oliver has had a diverse career journey and is the founder of a MedTech startup based in Sydney, Australia. He has advocated for the rights of people with physical disabilities for most of his life and openly talks about sexuality. The two of us talk about Oliver’s experience dating as a person with a disability. We also talk about the lack of representation and inclusivity at Tantra and sexuality events. We then discuss the perceptions people have about disability, dating, and sex. Oliver is passionate about dispelling these misperceptions. Key points: Oliver introduces himself Disability representation Inclusivity at sexuality events Perceptions around dating Perceptions around sex Dispelling misperceptions Making sexuality work more accessible Relevant links: Oliver’s Instagram: @oliver_me79

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps. In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. The two of us talk about the common concerns our clients have as well as the creative ways in which to navigate these concerns. Dr. Tara shares a lot of advice about how to communicate with your partner about sex and how to begin exploring your sexual desires. Key points: Dr. Tara introduces herself Managing mismatched libido Meeting sexual needs creatively Cultural influences on Dr. Tara’s work How to have a thriving sex life Talking before actioning Advice for exploring your fantasies Relevant links: Dr. Tara’s website: https://www.luvbites.co/ Dr. Tara’s Instagram/TikTok: @luvbites.co

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daniel Di Pietro. Daniel is a Melbourne-based sexologist with a Masters in Sexology and provisional psychotherapist with several certifications in sex therapy; including how to treat mismatched sexual desire between couples and navigating issues of sexuality and sexual difficulties. Daniel has a keen interest in male sexual health, behaviour, pleasure and function and has presented his thesis on male sexual health for the Queensland Society of Australian Sexologists branch. Daniel enjoys working collaboratively with binary and non-binary people of all ages, cultural backgrounds, beliefs and sexual orientations. The two of us talk about the research Daniel conducted for his Masters in Sexology regarding erectile dysfunction and its impact on masculinity. We discuss how erectile dysfunction impacts men’s self-esteem and the strategies they use to compensate for it. We also look at the issues disseminating research related to men’s sexual health and functioning. Key points: Daniel introduces himself Introducing Daniel’s research The different types of erectile dysfunction Hostility and masculinity Problems recruiting study participants Compensating for erectile dysfunction Traditional sexual scripts Managing erectile dysfunction Relevant links: Daniel’s website: www.dipietrosexology.com Daniel’s instagram: @dipietrosexology Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com Cam’s patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser