Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Quicky #6 is from Season 1, Episode 7: Working Through Shame and Trauma Changed My Life (with Mos Nepia-Rangi) On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast. This is a very special and vulnerable conversation with Amos, also known as Mosman or Mos, for short. He is a loving partner as well as an adventurous father who is on a journey of self love and self healing. His passion is to connect with people. Mos is working in construction and studying to be a personal trainer. In this conversation, Mos shares a little chunk of his story about sexual trauma, vulnerability, masculinity and intimacy. He feels it is a subject that gets left in the dark and that there’s so much shame around it. Because of his journey of self development, Mos felt that it was right to share his story. He also wants you to remember you are not alone.

Cam Fraser, an expert in erectile dysfunction, discusses topics such as defining ED, unrealistic expectations, the role of Viagra, emotional erections, and prevalence rates. He also talks about societal influences, safety in masturbation, and arousal non-concordance.

This is another solo episode of #mensexpleasure, where I share my thoughts about premature ejaculation. I thought it might be interesting and useful to have an entire podcast episode dedicated to premature ejaculation so that it could potentially be used as a resource for others. Feel free to share this around if you have someone asking about premature ejaculation issues. Key Points: Welcome Defining Premature Ejaculation Intravaginal Ejaculation Latency Time (IELT) Premature ejaculation in the media Ejaculation as a survival response Sympathetic nervous system The sponge analogy Stop-start method and other practices Relevant links: Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser

Quicky #5 is from Season 1, Episode 6: Natural Viagra: Aphrodisiacs and Erotic Plants (with Joel Camp) On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Herbal Alchemist, Kitchen Wizard, Sex Magician, Mescalero and traveller on the Poison Path, Joel Camp. Joel is a student of the natural world, its medicines, its magick and its mysteries. I met him several years ago when he was dishing up incredible plant-based food at some of Perth's best restaurants and cafes. He is a good friend of mine and an absolute wizard when it comes to plant medicine. We talked about his journey overcoming sexual function issues with the use of herbs and adaptogens as well as discussed ways in which you can incorporate aphrodisiacs into your sex life. This is an episode about cultivating relationships with natural medicines.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dabaco Sunset (he/him). Dabaco is an embodiment counsellor helping you connect deeper with your body, sexuality and sensuality. He combines somatic psychology, pillars of awareness and yogic principles in his practice. Dabaco also draws on meditation techniques, intuitive movement and creative mediums to empower participants to explore untapped areas of themselves. Dabaco is the co-founder of personal development project (and app) Time To Decompress, he holds a Diploma of Counselling and is currently undertaking post-grad studies in Gestalt Therapy. He also facilitates workshops and retreats for NAKEDMAN and is a trained Yin Yoga teacher. Alchemizing the world of creativity and somatic therapy, Dabaco is facilitating himself and countless queer and curious folk into a new paradigm of embodied artistic liberation. The two us talk about queerness and the sexual spectrum, particular how men who are sexually fluid experience challenges like performance anxiety. We also discuss sexual identity, the queering of heterosexuality, the necessity of labels, and the importance of celebrating the sexual pioneers and provocateurs who came before us. Key Points: Dabaco introduces himself The flattening of queerness Fluidity and difficulties The universality of performance anxiety Queering heterosexuality Should we use labels? Celebrating queer elders Relevant Links: Dabaco’s Instagram: @dabacosunset Dabaco’s Website: http://dabacosunset.com/ Cam’s Patreon: http://patreon.com/thecamfraser

Quicky #4 is from Season 1, Episode 5: The Healing Power of Naked Men's Yoga (with Will Blunderfield) On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Will Blunderfield. He has been teaching yoga throughout Canada, the US and Asia for the last 11 years. He has a degree in Musical Theater from the American Musical & Dramatic Academy of New York (AMDA) as well as a degree in psychology from UBC with a minor in Food, Nutrition & Health. He recently completed a year long kundalini yoga teacher training program in Vancouver and India, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Facilitator training (program from University of Massachusetts Medical School), and was grateful to study in 2020 with Sexual Kung Fu Taoist Grandmaster himself, Mantak Chia. He performs original Kirtan/Sacred Song in his classes, retreats and workshops and his music is released through Nettwerk Records/Sony. His original music has reached number one on the iTunes world music charts multiple times. This was a great chat about how using sound, yoga, and nudity can heal men's sexual insecurities.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with M’kali-Hashiki. M’kali-Hashiki is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller & Erotic Ritualist. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. As a Somatic Sacred Storyteller, she helps you uncover the stories your body is holding onto, jettisoning the ones poisoning you, and helping you to reframe & retell the ones left. As an Erotic Ritualist she designs journeys for you to commune with The Divine using your physical pleasure as the conduit of communication. Her Divine Purpose is helping folx heal their erotic wounds so they can have the joyous & juicy life that is their Divine Birthright and move further along in their path to individual & collective liberation. Her site FiercePassions is a Somatic Cyber Temple offering community journeys, rituals, individual coaching, instructional videos, private sessions for couples/triads, and guided visualizations to help us survive & thrive during these chaotic times. In her nomadic travels across North & Central America, she teaches at colleges & universities, conferences, and the occasional adult toy store or educational center. She offers sexuality training & employee wellness/team building skills to organizations & companies. She is also a skilled Sensitivity Reader hired to read manuscripts to make sure they avoid explicit & implicit systemic bias. Her lived experiences as a fat, Black, queer, femme, trauma-survivor inform every aspect of her work. The two of us talk about the sacredness of the anus and the healing and pleasure that can be explored by incorporating anal play, particular anal massage, into our life. We also discuss breathwork and how breathing can be a tool to expand our eroticism. Key points: M’kali-Hashiki introduces herself Sexual politics and pleasure Pleasure-negative childhood stories Resistance to sexual exploration Anal massage and play Anal breathing Breathwork as a tool Erotic breathwork practices Relevant links: M’kali-Hashiki’s website: www.FiercePassions.com M’kali-Hashiki’s Instagram: @fierce_passions

Quicky #3 is from Season 1 Episode 4: Leadership In and Out of the Bedroom (with Tully O'Connor) On this episode, I have a great chat with a very good friend of mine, Tully O'Connor. Tully works as a transformational coach and facilitator. Working primarily with men, Tully has a passion for helping people expand their personal leadership and develop connected, fulfilling relationships. Known for his down-to-earth approach, Tully speaks about complex intimate issues with ease, clarity and humour. His unique ability to hold a deeply present and safe space allows him to facilitate powerful and meaningful transformation in both a 1-1 and group setting. The thing he’s most proud of is his relationship with his wife Kaitlin and being a father to their son. We spoke about leadership, relationships, vulnerability and how what leadership means in a sexual context.

Certified Somatic Sexologist Alice Child joins to discuss creativity and playfulness in sexual exploration. They cover gamification of sex, suggest fun games for couples, and emphasize the importance of vulnerability and laughter in intimacy.

Quicky #2 comes from Season 1, Episode 3: Gender Expression, Masculinity & Sex Education (with Kai Schweizer) On this episode, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.