Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Teddy Loveny. Teddy is a social impact obsessive who is passionate about bringing an intersectional perspective to the way we observe, measure and interpret change. They have fingers in many pies, working in outcomes measurement for the community sector alongside designing and delivering learning experiences to promote queer literacy and allyship. Teddy is loudly and proudly queer and trans. They love to help others be curious about the intersections of identity, the space we take up and the impact we have on the community around us. The two of us talk about Teddy’s experience as a transmasculine non-binary queer person as well as what all those terms mean to them. We also discuss the supposed erasure of womanhood and attack on masculinity. Key points: Teddy introduces themselves Defining transmasculine and non-binary Privilege and transitioning Societal pressure and the trans narrative What does being masculine mean? Labels, language, and specificity Experimenting with hypermasculinity TERFs and the erasure of women The attack on masculinity “Queer” is a verb Relevant links: Teddy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/teddy-loveny-8a4b9048/ Show Notes: Abigail Thorn YouTube video: https://youtu.be/v1eWIshUzr8

Quicky #12 is from Season 1, Episode 13: Create Your Own Sexual Rituals (with Paisley Heart) On this episode, I chat with entrepreneur, artist, and Shamanic practitioner, Paisley Heart. He embodies the hybrid archetypes of the Wild Businessman and Lifestyle Artist. Founder of the shamanic rite of passage event The Funeral and panel style podcast Curious Conversations, and previously such businesses as the holistic digital marketing agency DigiLove and Independent record label Fight Music -  his gifts are unique and diverse. Paisley is known to prowl the mysterious shadow realms of business. With the flaming torch of innovation, he sets the normal and mundane ablaze with alternative business approaches. Combining his obsession with spirituality, artistic expression, nature, and ritual, he has made a strong impact on the music, social media marketing, and personal development industries. Paisley’s unorthodox style has often been challenging for his clients and for professionals in the industry. Pushing against these paradigms has become a strong and recognizable brand he is proud of. Paisley has proven that he has a sharp eye in discerning who he works with and where he invests his creative magic. The accolades, achievements, and rapid growth shared between his clients, artists and business are a testament to his uniqueness and grit.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Finn Deerhart. Finn is an AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private sessions, men learn tools to confront their limitations, unravel internal narratives of shame, and spark deeper human connections—grounding themselves into a deeper experience of life. Finn also creates educational erotic content and provides on-site erotic coaching for various organizations, including Himeros TV, an online service that provides explicit educational content for queer men. He co-hosts the weekly Himeros Backstage podcast which can be heard on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Finn helps gay and queer men ignite their eroticism and step into their emergent selves. The two of us talk about Finn’s work with gay and queer men, highlighting some of the similarities between his work and my work with straight men. We also discuss our opinions about porn and how to expand the way it is used. Key points: Finn introduces himself Finn shares his coming out story Do we need labels for our identity? What you do isn't who you are Overcoming fear, finding solidarity Being confused by the porn you watch Where sexual fantasies come from What is it about porn that turns you on? Bad porn vs good porn Relevant links: Finn’s Instagram:@finndeerhart Finn’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/finndeerhart Finn’s website: https://www.finndeerhart.com/ Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #11 is from Season 1, Episode 12: Dualism, Relativism and Masculinity (with Jarred Dickie)  On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with a very good friend of mine, Jarred Dickie. Jarred is a friendly face you might have seen around Fremantle, Western Australia, for years. He started his Yoga journey in 2013 as a student of Ava Irani (Spanda school founder) and progressed through the teachings of Hridaya Hatha Yoga. This gentle style of meditative Yoga is rooted in the “Self enquiry” method of Ramana Maharshi. Jarred also co-founded Kommunity Brew Kombucha in 2015, learning the incredible journey of running a small, conscious business. We chat about the dualistic nature of masculinity and femininity as well as the idea that all spiritual practices are true, relative to our own perception and understanding. We also reflect on the current global conditions.

Author and men's coach Traver Boehm discusses the spectrum of masculinity, exploring the blend of primal and divine aspects. Topics include toxic masculinity, leadership, redefining masculinity, and practical advice for men. Emphasizing the importance of men's work and self-reflection, Traver challenges mainstream narratives to encourage a balanced and conscious approach to masculinity.

Quicky #10 is from Season 1, Episode 11: Lover Earth: Relating with the Feminine (with Devin Fredericksen) On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Devin Fredericksen about reframing our relationship with the earth, from Mother to Lover. Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer. By weaving these elements together, Devin facilitates the process of living in harmonious relationship with ourselves. Devin embraces life with gratitude for every day because of the gift of this opportunity to live life NOW!

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with "Intimacy Expert to Millions,” Susan Bratton. Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She is co-founder and CEO of two corporations: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills and The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. A best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed™, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. Susan has been featured in the New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as frequent appearances on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC. You can find The Susan Bratton Show® at BetterLover.com, her personal shares on Instagram @susanbratton, and her lust-for-life supplements, FLOW and DESIRE at The20store.com. The two of us talk about being a better lover, going from simply having sex to making love, and how good sex is good for your health. Key Points: Susan introduces herself Pleasure vs gratification Diversification of pleasure Penetration and different strokes Fingers, lips, and nervous system toggles From having sex to making love Communicating with your partner Aging and life-long sex Relevant Links: Susan’s websites: https://susanbratton.com/ https://gainswave.com/ https://femiwave.com/ Susan’s Instagram: @susanbratton

Quicky #9 is from Season 1, Episode 10: Confessions of a male stripper (with Josh Hardy)  Today, I chat with depressed Heavy Diesel Mechanic and Male Stripper turned Agency Owner, Gym owner and Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Josh Hardy. Josh lived a life making decisions ruled by fear of not being enough, and self pity from not meeting high standards. He quit his job to pursue his passion in health & fitness, hand built his gym from scratch and is still on a huge journey of personal growth to become a better human, role model and leader. Josh and I recently connected again at a men's group after 15 years of lost contact. We used to play soccer together when we were kids. Josh offers a fascinating peek behind the curtin into the stripping industry, from the hen's nights and dance shows to the pressure to perform to the insecurities.

Seth Westhead is a proud Father, Husband, Aboriginal health researcher, Men's mentor and host of The Sentient Savage podcast. With family connections to the Awabakal (Ah-Wah-Bah-Cul) and Wiradjuri (Wi-rad-Jury) nations of NSW, Seth draws on his ancestral knowledge systems and practices to guide his work as a multi-contextual space holder. Seth also holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Nutrition/Physiology and a Master’s Degree in Public Health, utilizing his deep understanding of the body and determinants of health to advocate for holistic approaches to health and wellbeing services and supports. Within his personal life, work and business, Seth strives to uphold the values of self-development, equity, agency and personal sovereignty. The two of us talk about his experience as an Aboriginal man in Men’s Work spaces, covering topics like cultural appropriation, archetypes and Aboriginal mythology, and personal accountability and integrity. Key Points: Seth introduces himself What does it mean to “hold space”? Regulated vs unregulated industries Personal accountability Professional integrity Aboriginal archetypes Cultural appropriation Relevant links: Seth’s Instagram: @s_westhead Seth’s website: https://sentientsavage.my.canva.site/

Quicky #8 is from Season 1, Episode 9: The New Dating Rules for Men (with Harris O'Malley) On this episode, I chat with Harris O’Malley, a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. He and his work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, NeilStrauss.com, The Good Man Project, MTV’s Guy Code, The Harvard Business Journal, and many others.