Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Quicky #18 is from Season 2, Episode 4: Be A Man: Sex, Anger and Doing the Work (with Tim Morrison) On today's episode I chat with a dear brother of mine, Tim Morrison. He is a leading Mens work facilitator and transformational coach, he is also a multi instrumentalist and gifted shamanic, somatic bodyworker who uses sacred sound and breath to create deep transformational spaces Tim guides people on the path of personal transformation. He initiates a deep inner journey to walk people home to themselves, to connect back to the earth, back to who they truly are so they can live and lead from their heart. His passion is to walk through the shadows of deep change. Tim is building a transformational movement where everyone is guided to consciously lead within their own life, so they can live a life of purpose and fulfilment in their own genius. Tim was initiated onto the shamanic path from spirit and plant medicines, along with having trained in breath work, jungle medicine with the Katukina tribe of Brazil and worked with the Shipibo and Mestiso lineage in Peru. His focus now is on expanding consciousness and deepening human connection. We talk about the intersection of men's work and sexuality as well as the transmission of sexuality teachings in the Tantra community.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Laurie Mintz, a Professor at the University of Florida where she teaches Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 55 academic works. She is the author of two popular press books—both with published studies demonstrating their effectiveness: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz has a private practice, working with clients on general and sexual issues. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. Key points: Laurie introduces herself Eating disorders and sexuality Penis size anxiety Representations of the penis The importance of the clitoris Prioritizing pleasure with vibrators Men being invested in women’s pleasure Closing the orgasm gap Relevant links: Laurie’s Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/  Laurie’s Instagram: @drlauriemintz  Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/ 

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lorraine. She is a Somatic Therapist, Pleasure Coach and Bodyworker based in the Western Suburbs of Melbourne. She has been working in the field of sexuality for the past 25 years. Starting out in the strip clubs of the UK and moving into therapy and bodywork in 2015. She works with all genders, specialising in working with people who have experienced sexual and physical trauma and people recovering from surgery and illness. Helping them to feel more pleasure and restore sexual function. She works both online and in person offering 1:1 sessions and group workshops. Key Points: Lorraine introduces herself Common experiences of trauma How trauma manifests in the body Cam shares about his own traumatic experiences Feeling pleasure after trauma Men acknowledging their trauma Advice for moving forward Relevant Links: Lorraine's Instagram: @lorrainepentello Lorraine's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorrainepentello Lorraine's website: https://lorrainepentello.com/

Quicky #16 is from Season 2, Episode 2; Porn Yoga: Healthy Porn Watching (with Joseph Kramer, Ph.D.) Welcome back to the #MenSexPleasure podcast, this is episode 17. Today, I'm chatting with Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. For forty years, Joseph has traveled the world teaching erotic bodywork. In 1984, he founded the Body Electric School in Oakland, California, where he trained thousands of professional massage therapists, erotic bodyworkers and somatic educators. In 2003, Joseph founded the new legal profession of Sexological Bodywork™. Joseph Kramer teaches in Sexological Bodywork trainings in California, Europe, Canada, Brazil and Australia and through his educational websites:  OrgasmicYoga.com, EroticMassage.com, EroticIntegration.com and YogaofSex.com. Joseph and I discuss his practice of Porn Yoga, now called Erotic Integration. I've spoken on many other podcasts about my opinion that porn can be used intentionally as a tool to aid our arousal. This point of view comes directly from Joseph and the work that he does. We speak about how to watch porn healthily.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kute Blackson. A beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher, Kute offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation. Born in Ghana, West Africa, Kute’s multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the foundation for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual’s true gifts and greatness. He is a national best-selling author of You.Are.The.One. and his new book, The Magic of Surrender, is a guide to move you past inner struggle to discover the power of letting go of control and how letting go leads to more. Key Points: Kute introduces himself Narratives imposed upon us Cultural influences and returning to our roots What it means to surrender Freedom to be yourself Surrendering to pleasure Letting go of fear Relevant Links: Kute's website: www.kuteblackson.com Kute's Instagram: @kuteblackson Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #15 is from Season 2 Episode 1: Getting Men To Open Up About Sex (with Dr. Juliana Hauser) On the first episode of season 2 (episode 16 overall) of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Juliana, the “girl next door” (with a PhD). Dr. Juliana is always up for a down and dirty conversation about sexuality and intimacy. As a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bonafide (S)expert, Dr. Juliana has spent decades counseling and supporting thousands of individuals on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency. Having traversed her own journey through love, loss, motherhood, and the world of academics, Dr. Juliana has come to understand that ownership over one’s own sexuality is the at the foundation of every fulfilled and confident person. She has developed a clear, action-driven method to help people of all backgrounds discover their own path to authenticity through holistic sexuality.  Dr. Juliana is a certified by Betty Dodson as a BodySex Workshop facilitator and offers tons of tips, insight and support through coaching, therapy, online courses and in person retreats for becoming your own (s)expert over at dr-juliana.com. We chat about working with men, the differences between being a man and woman in this space, and how we can get men to open up to talk about sex.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Habeeb Akande. Habeeb is a British-Nigerian sex educator, erotologist, and author. Habeeb has authored several books on Islamic erotology and African sexual practices to empower women and couples. His bestselling book, Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure, explores the ancient African practice of squirting and sexual pleasure. He recently helped produce and feature in the BBC documentary, The Orgasm Gap exploring female sexual pleasure in Rwanda. He is passionate about female sensuality and aims to close the gender orgasm gap. Primarily based in the UK, Habeeb has given intimacy workshops and seminars in the UK, France, Brazil, Curaçao, and the US. The two of us talk about his research into Islamic erotology and also his education of the practice of Kunyaza. Beyond that we discuss religious and cultural perspectives of sex and pleasure as well as the importance of speaking directly to men about this. Key Points: Habeeb introduces himself A Taste of Honey: Sexuality and Erotology in Islam Ars erotica vs scientia sexualis Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure Changing your approach to sex Engaging men in sexual development African sexual practices and cultural appropriation Relevant links: Habeeb’s Instagram: @Habeeb_Akande Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #14 is an exerpt from Season 1 Episode 15: What Do Men Fantasize About? (with Dr. Justin Lehmiller) On this episode of the podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dane Tomas. Dane is an entrepreneur, artist, and teacher whose work is focussed on the healthy integration of the spiritual and material aspects of life. He is the author of 7 books, the creator of various transformational practices and the founder of the EE academy - a not so secret society of spiritual entrepreneurs who want to have a significant worldly impact. You can find his podcast, The EE Podcast with Dane Tomas, on Spotify and iTunes. The two of us briefly talk about his work but we mostly discuss things like how polarity coaches use outrage marketing to exploit people’s insecurities and how the nuance of masculinity is lost in the social media landscape of stereotypical alpha bros and lefties. Key Points: Dane introduces himself What is Esoteric Entrepreneurship? Attaching a monetary value to spiritual healing Social media and the lack of nuance Unpacking “polarity” Is masculinity under attack? Men’s work and collective action Advice for young men Relevant links: Dane’s Instagram: @dane.tomas Dane’s website: https://www.danetomas.com/

Quicky #13 is from Season 1, Episode 14: Sexual Energy Sublimation (with Taylor Johnson).  On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Taylor Johnson about sexual energy sublimation. Taylor is a sex educator and intimacy coach who helps men master their sex lives in an integrated way. Our philosophies about masculinity and sexuality seem to align and so Taylor and I had a great conversation together about the practical elements of sexual energy transmutation and sublimation. If you've ever been interested in learning how to work with sexual energy and use it to create and manifest other things, this is the episode for you.