On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kute Blackson. A beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher, Kute offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation. Born in Ghana, West Africa, Kute’s multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the foundation for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual’s true gifts and greatness. He is a national best-selling author of You.Are.The.One. and his new book, The Magic of Surrender, is a guide to move you past inner struggle to discover the power of letting go of control and how letting go leads to more. Key Points: Kute introduces himself Narratives imposed upon us Cultural influences and returning to our roots What it means to surrender Freedom to be yourself Surrendering to pleasure Letting go of fear Relevant Links: Kute's website: www.kuteblackson.com Kute's Instagram: @kuteblackson Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #15 is from Season 2 Episode 1: Getting Men To Open Up About Sex (with Dr. Juliana Hauser) On the first episode of season 2 (episode 16 overall) of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Juliana, the “girl next door” (with a PhD). Dr. Juliana is always up for a down and dirty conversation about sexuality and intimacy. As a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bonafide (S)expert, Dr. Juliana has spent decades counseling and supporting thousands of individuals on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency. Having traversed her own journey through love, loss, motherhood, and the world of academics, Dr. Juliana has come to understand that ownership over one’s own sexuality is the at the foundation of every fulfilled and confident person. She has developed a clear, action-driven method to help people of all backgrounds discover their own path to authenticity through holistic sexuality.  Dr. Juliana is a certified by Betty Dodson as a BodySex Workshop facilitator and offers tons of tips, insight and support through coaching, therapy, online courses and in person retreats for becoming your own (s)expert over at dr-juliana.com. We chat about working with men, the differences between being a man and woman in this space, and how we can get men to open up to talk about sex.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Habeeb Akande. Habeeb is a British-Nigerian sex educator, erotologist, and author. Habeeb has authored several books on Islamic erotology and African sexual practices to empower women and couples. His bestselling book, Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure, explores the ancient African practice of squirting and sexual pleasure. He recently helped produce and feature in the BBC documentary, The Orgasm Gap exploring female sexual pleasure in Rwanda. He is passionate about female sensuality and aims to close the gender orgasm gap. Primarily based in the UK, Habeeb has given intimacy workshops and seminars in the UK, France, Brazil, Curaçao, and the US. The two of us talk about his research into Islamic erotology and also his education of the practice of Kunyaza. Beyond that we discuss religious and cultural perspectives of sex and pleasure as well as the importance of speaking directly to men about this. Key Points: Habeeb introduces himself A Taste of Honey: Sexuality and Erotology in Islam Ars erotica vs scientia sexualis Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure Changing your approach to sex Engaging men in sexual development African sexual practices and cultural appropriation Relevant links: Habeeb’s Instagram: @Habeeb_Akande Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #14 is an exerpt from Season 1 Episode 15: What Do Men Fantasize About? (with Dr. Justin Lehmiller) On this episode of the podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dane Tomas. Dane is an entrepreneur, artist, and teacher whose work is focussed on the healthy integration of the spiritual and material aspects of life. He is the author of 7 books, the creator of various transformational practices and the founder of the EE academy - a not so secret society of spiritual entrepreneurs who want to have a significant worldly impact. You can find his podcast, The EE Podcast with Dane Tomas, on Spotify and iTunes. The two of us briefly talk about his work but we mostly discuss things like how polarity coaches use outrage marketing to exploit people’s insecurities and how the nuance of masculinity is lost in the social media landscape of stereotypical alpha bros and lefties. Key Points: Dane introduces himself What is Esoteric Entrepreneurship? Attaching a monetary value to spiritual healing Social media and the lack of nuance Unpacking “polarity” Is masculinity under attack? Men’s work and collective action Advice for young men Relevant links: Dane’s Instagram: @dane.tomas Dane’s website: https://www.danetomas.com/

Quicky #13 is from Season 1, Episode 14: Sexual Energy Sublimation (with Taylor Johnson).  On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Taylor Johnson about sexual energy sublimation. Taylor is a sex educator and intimacy coach who helps men master their sex lives in an integrated way. Our philosophies about masculinity and sexuality seem to align and so Taylor and I had a great conversation together about the practical elements of sexual energy transmutation and sublimation. If you've ever been interested in learning how to work with sexual energy and use it to create and manifest other things, this is the episode for you.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Teddy Loveny. Teddy is a social impact obsessive who is passionate about bringing an intersectional perspective to the way we observe, measure and interpret change. They have fingers in many pies, working in outcomes measurement for the community sector alongside designing and delivering learning experiences to promote queer literacy and allyship. Teddy is loudly and proudly queer and trans. They love to help others be curious about the intersections of identity, the space we take up and the impact we have on the community around us. The two of us talk about Teddy’s experience as a transmasculine non-binary queer person as well as what all those terms mean to them. We also discuss the supposed erasure of womanhood and attack on masculinity. Key points: Teddy introduces themselves Defining transmasculine and non-binary Privilege and transitioning Societal pressure and the trans narrative What does being masculine mean? Labels, language, and specificity Experimenting with hypermasculinity TERFs and the erasure of women The attack on masculinity “Queer” is a verb Relevant links: Teddy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/teddy-loveny-8a4b9048/ Show Notes: Abigail Thorn YouTube video: https://youtu.be/v1eWIshUzr8

Quicky #12 is from Season 1, Episode 13: Create Your Own Sexual Rituals (with Paisley Heart) On this episode, I chat with entrepreneur, artist, and Shamanic practitioner, Paisley Heart. He embodies the hybrid archetypes of the Wild Businessman and Lifestyle Artist. Founder of the shamanic rite of passage event The Funeral and panel style podcast Curious Conversations, and previously such businesses as the holistic digital marketing agency DigiLove and Independent record label Fight Music -  his gifts are unique and diverse. Paisley is known to prowl the mysterious shadow realms of business. With the flaming torch of innovation, he sets the normal and mundane ablaze with alternative business approaches. Combining his obsession with spirituality, artistic expression, nature, and ritual, he has made a strong impact on the music, social media marketing, and personal development industries. Paisley’s unorthodox style has often been challenging for his clients and for professionals in the industry. Pushing against these paradigms has become a strong and recognizable brand he is proud of. Paisley has proven that he has a sharp eye in discerning who he works with and where he invests his creative magic. The accolades, achievements, and rapid growth shared between his clients, artists and business are a testament to his uniqueness and grit.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Finn Deerhart. Finn is an AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private sessions, men learn tools to confront their limitations, unravel internal narratives of shame, and spark deeper human connections—grounding themselves into a deeper experience of life. Finn also creates educational erotic content and provides on-site erotic coaching for various organizations, including Himeros TV, an online service that provides explicit educational content for queer men. He co-hosts the weekly Himeros Backstage podcast which can be heard on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Finn helps gay and queer men ignite their eroticism and step into their emergent selves. The two of us talk about Finn’s work with gay and queer men, highlighting some of the similarities between his work and my work with straight men. We also discuss our opinions about porn and how to expand the way it is used. Key points: Finn introduces himself Finn shares his coming out story Do we need labels for our identity? What you do isn't who you are Overcoming fear, finding solidarity Being confused by the porn you watch Where sexual fantasies come from What is it about porn that turns you on? Bad porn vs good porn Relevant links: Finn’s Instagram:@finndeerhart Finn’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/finndeerhart Finn’s website: https://www.finndeerhart.com/ Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

Quicky #11 is from Season 1, Episode 12: Dualism, Relativism and Masculinity (with Jarred Dickie)  On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with a very good friend of mine, Jarred Dickie. Jarred is a friendly face you might have seen around Fremantle, Western Australia, for years. He started his Yoga journey in 2013 as a student of Ava Irani (Spanda school founder) and progressed through the teachings of Hridaya Hatha Yoga. This gentle style of meditative Yoga is rooted in the “Self enquiry” method of Ramana Maharshi. Jarred also co-founded Kommunity Brew Kombucha in 2015, learning the incredible journey of running a small, conscious business. We chat about the dualistic nature of masculinity and femininity as well as the idea that all spiritual practices are true, relative to our own perception and understanding. We also reflect on the current global conditions.