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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elle Stanger (she/they). Elle is a queer, mid-thirties nonmonogamous, parent, sex worker, AASECT Certified Sex Educator, and media producer. She has worked as a porn shop manager and product buyer, pole dancing stripper, consultant for anti-trafficking organizations, professional cuddler, porn maker, writer, podcast host, and certified sex educator. The two of us talk about their advocacy for sex workers’ rights as well as the nuances of the debates around sex work. Key points: Elle introduces herself The importance of sex work Anti-sex work discrimination Decriminalization vs legalization SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists Feminist porn? Supporting sex workers Relevant Links: Elle’s website: ellestanger.com  Elle’s Instagram: @stripperwriter Elle’s Twitter: ellestanger

Quicky #25 is from Season 2, Episode 12: #28 Intersex: Understanding the Space Between Male & Female (with Toby Whittington) Today on the podcast, I chat with Toby Whittington. Toby, who uses they/them/he/him pronouns, was diagnosed with Klinefelter Syndrome (47 XXY karyotype) in 2010. Among other issues, Toby found out that they were not able to father children and that they don’t produce enough of their own testosterone. He started on Testosterone Replacement Therapy which set him on a path of going through adult puberty, a physical and mental transition which lasted over 8 years. Toby now openly acknowledges that they are an Intersex person and in 2020, when they came out as gender non-binary, this was the first time they felt that their biological sex and their gender identity were aligned. Toby is passionate about educating people around these issues, what it means to be Intersex and the confusion with regards to differences between biological sex, gender identity and sexual orientation. He has and promotes a very open and positive attitude towards sex, sexuality and sexual expression, so long as it is safe and that participation is between consenting adults. Toby and I talk about their experience being Intersex and how it affected their ideas of masculinity as well as what it means to “be a man.”

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Will Tantra. Will is a sex and intimacy coach living in Los Angeles. He is also a naked yoga instructor and massage instructor. He now mainly teaches through video and at Tantra retreats around the world. Will is known for his practical and hands on approach to sex education and for providing men with easy to follow exercises designed to teach how to give and receive more pleasure. Teaching men how to exercise their bodies and masturbate in a way that better prepares them for partnered sex are favorite lessons of Will's. His other passions include dance and springboard diving and he performs regularly with a burlesque theater troupe. The two of us discuss the ways in which self-pleasure can be used as means to improve our sex lives. Key Points: Will introduces himself Tantra for queer men The principles of self-pleasure Sports analogies Training for game day Practical advice for self-pleasure Relevant links: Will’s Instagram: @tantric.fitness Will’s Twitter: tantricfitness

Quicky #25 comes from Season 2 Episode 11: #27 Sex with Herpes: Diagnosis to Disclosure (with Courtney Brame) Today, I chat with Courtney Brame, the Founder and podcast host of Something Positive for Positive People. As a podcast, this serves as a hub of interviews with people living with genital herpes along with his own experiences navigating stigma from diagnosis to disclosure. As a nonprofit, SPFPP raises money to pay for people who are struggling with HSV stigma to receive therapy. After his own diagnosis in 2012, Courtney navigated the world identifying heavily with his diagnosis unconsciously as you'll hear more about in this episode. After finding community, all of his problems with dating and disclosure appeared to disappear. However, this made space for underlying concerns herpes had exposed. 1 was how many people despite having community and a space for finding love regardless of their HSV status wanting to end their lives. 2 was how true to himself he was able to be with these complete strangers who had one thing in common (knowing about his HSV status) versus how hidden he was with people who'd known him most of his life who did not know about his herpes status. We talk about living with herpes, from contracting the virus and receiving a diagnosis, to managing it, how it affects your masculinity and ultimately discussing it with and disclosing it to a partner.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elliot Justin MD, FACEP. Elliot is the CEO and founder of FirmTech, the world’s first sex tech company focused on keeping men firm and fit for a better lifetime of lovemaking and pleasure. Dr. Justin is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant in erectile neuromodulation, cardiovascular disease, and diabetes. He and his FirmTech team have developed the Tech Ring and the Performance Ring which are transformative tools to help men optimize personal “erectile fitness,” and to inspire better erectile and cardiovascular health. FirmTech’s mission is to help men sustain an erection, and if they have a problem, prevent it from getting worse. The Tech Ring achieved second place at the 2023 CES/Showstopper event in Health Wellness and Innovation, and the 2023 Most Innovative Sex Toy of the Year at XBIZ. Soon, FirmTech will launch its FemmeTech line dedicated to a similar mission for women. Key Points: Elliot introduces himself Erections are “the canary in the coal mine” Sex tech and data privacy The prevalence of erectile dysfunction The etiology of erectile dysfunction The future of sex tech Relevant links: Elliot’s website: https://myfirmtech.com/ Elliot’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-justin-md/ 

Quicky #24 comes from Season 2, Episode 10: #26 Penis Size: Working With What You've Got (with Lahnee Pavlovich) On episode 26, I chat with Lahnee Pavlovich. Lahnee is a Sex Educator, Lifestyle Coach and a Sex Positive Journalist. She has made a name for herself as the go-to-woman for a modern approach to sexuality & well-being, bringing you not only her expertise, but connecting you to epic humans and ideas through her various channels. This Aussie based Mum Lady, Word Wizz, Coach, Influencer and Sexual Badass found her passion helping couples, women and men live better, more fulfilling lives in and out of the bedroom by embracing a sense of overall well-being & learning to push the boundaries of what's considered "normal". Lahnee's mission is to get down and dirty to challenge society’s views on sexuality, body image & anything else people don't like talking about. Through connecting the dots between emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual, physical, and sexual well-being, Lahnee inspires others to live a better, more fulfilled, nourishing and 'turned-on’ life. We talk about her new offering, Rate Your Rooster, where Lahnee invites men to send her dick pics - for a fee! - and she provides them with a report with advice and tips about how to best use their penis.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Erica Smith (she/her). Erica is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV positive youth and transgender youth in her work. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program- sex education that aims to teach people everything that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. Key Points: Erica introduces herself Purity culture and sex education Religious beliefs and anti-pornography SWERFs and Christian extremists NCOSE, Exodus Cry, and FTND The Pornhub lawsuit Speaking to consumers of porn Porn literacy Relevant links: Erica’s Instagram: @ericasmith.sex.ed Erica’s Twitter: @ericasmithsexed Erica’s Website: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/ 

Todays Quicky comes from Season 2 Episode 9: #25 Overcoming Fear with Compassion and Love (with Adam Roa) On today’s episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure Podcast, I chat with Adam Roa. Adam is a transformational artist, founder of the online personal development community, CREATE, and the podcast host of "The Deep Dive with Adam Roa". He has been listed by Goalcast as one of the “Top 33 Gamechangers to Watch" and his viral poem, “You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For" has been viewed more than 200 million times. He has spoken on countless stages, including Oslo Freedom Forum, MindValley A-Fest, and Envision Festival. Adam has recently begun to blend his poetry into mainstream music, with his first single, "Voices", releasing on October 1st. A modern day renaissance man, he is known for his unique blend of science and spirituality wrapped in artistic mediums. We shared about our deepest fears, how they hold us back and how to use compassion to overcome them.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Bryony Cole. Bryony has amassed a global following as the go-to expert on sextech. With over one million downloads of her Future of Sex podcast, and extensive global media coverage she is the trusted authority for industry insights in The New York Times, The Today Show, Wired and many other global media. Bryony has written for Playboy, and appeared on TV shows such as Netflix’s FollowThis Series, Vice Slutever, The Money Channel, and The Morning Show on Channel 7. As a highly-regarded speaker, her stage presence roster includes some of the world’s largest culture, technology and ideas events such as SXSW and Vivid. Her global sextech hackathon events and Future of Sex reports are considered the pinnacle of industry insights and innovation. She is a sought-after consultant who partners with organizations across the world forecasting trends in the sextech industry for governments, tech titans and entertainment companies. Most recently, Marie Claire awarded her podcast Future of Sex as ‘one of the best sex and relationship podcasts of 2020’. Key points: Bryony introduces herself Being replaced by sex robots A cyberpunk or solarpunk future? Deepfakes and fear mongering The impact of technology on relationships The evolution of sex toys and robots Pro-social technology which enhances connection Polarization and possibilities Relevant links: Bryony’s Instagram: @bryonycole Bryony’s website: https://www.bryonycole.co/ 

Quicky #22 is an excerpt from Season 2, Episode 8: #24 Energetical Lovemaking and Deep Intimacy (with Avi Kabani) Views and opinions expressed by Avi Kabani do not reflect the official policy or position of any other agency, organization, employer or company. Today on the Men, Sex & Pleaure podcast, I chat with Avi Kabani. Avi is an author who writes about the nature of sexual energy, deep states of lovemaking, and the challenges of modern-day intimate relationships. He is best known for exploring these topics in relation to men, women, culture, and self. Drawing on the work of David Deida, Avi shared with me his take on sex therapy and sexual art. We spoke about the energetics of lovemaking and how to take your sexual experiences to those deeper levels of intimacy. If you’re familiar with Deida’s work, you’ll really resonate with this conversation about sex, healing and masculinity.