Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows how we talk to our children, especially our daughters, about dating, sex, and relationships can affect the type of person they marry and how satisfied they’ll be in their marriage. After doing this interview you’re about to hear, I realize there are a few areas I can improve in..  Sheila Wray Gregoire is a friend of mine, as well as the author of several books on the topic of sex and marriage. Her books are awesome for those seeking helpful and accurate information from a Christian perspective. She’s funny too. She has two daughters and an angel son and two grandchildren. I didn’t know this until this interview, but according to Sheila Wray Gregoire’s research, my generation – the millennials – grew up with the least comprehensive sex education compared to Gen X and Baby Boomer generations.  I learned that the most important thing is to have a great relationship with your children. There are also things to consider about how we talk about modesty, agency, arousal, consent, and self-definition to our children, especially our daughters.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us  

Crises aren’t necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they’re very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better define ourselves and where we stand. They can serve as catalysts that anchor our moral compass internally within ourselves rather than external – outside of us. This process can lead to more freedom and greater agency, and a fuller life. I’ve talked to many people who have gone into a faith crisis to some degree as they work to develop their sexuality. I’m personally one of them.  Today my guest is Jacqulin Guernsey, a bright and talented woman, who is a life coach turned fantasy romance novelist. She has a degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in English. She shares an incredible story about her growth journey over the last 15 months, about how sexual challenges in her marriage lead to faith challenges, and how she’s grown in the midst of it all to reconcile the two.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

In any intimate relationship, we want two things, which paradoxically seem to be at odds with each other: we want to belong to ourselves (that is, autonomy), and we want to belong to someone else. In many marriages though, it’s easy for one person to fold into the other and that person ends up losing themselves in the marriage. What we want instead are marriages where there’s more authenticity. We want marriages where we can be real with our spouse and ourselves, and own our desires while building a marriage worth getting excited about. Authentic marriages have more honesty, freedom, and a much more satisfying sex life. My guest today is Amber Price. She’s a mom-turned-graduate student (and a cool story behind how that came to be) sharing what she’s learned about creating a more real and authentic marriage for herself.  I learned a lot of great things from Amber, which you’re about to hear, such as: How to be more aware of how authentic your relationship is Seeing yourself more clearly so that you can be less biased in how you process various situations that happen Understanding when your behavior is driven by seeking validation from others verses something more authentic within you.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us  

Today. I just want to get honest with you and talk about marriages and why they are really difficult sometimes. Frankly, marriages take a lot of work. A wedding may have just been a day; but building a marriage, especially an intimate marriage, is a lifetime pursuit. And let’s be honest, there’s a lot of pain and suffering that goes on inside of a lot of marriages. I can’t think of anything more challenging, stretching, testing, and at the same time, more fulfilling than trying to build an intimate marriage. In reality, at least for me, it hasn’t all been just roses. It’s more like a rose garden. There’s going to be a lot of thorns there amongst the roses. There’s going to be weeds to pull. There’s going to be rainstorms, and like any rose garden it requires a lot of attending, fertilizing, and just waiting. It makes the flowers that bloom that much more precious.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

When you hear the term, Power Couple, what comes to mind? To me I think about a couple that is dedicated to each other and committed to building a marriage in which they know they can tackle every challenge that comes their way.  My guest today is Melanie Studley. She’s been on our podcast before (check out the episode we did last year on how to talk dirty without feeling dirty or awkward). I admire how she’s taken growth and development in her marriage so seriously. I’m inspired by her - considering how dysfunctional things were between her and her husband, and where they are now, it’s like saying, “If THEY can make it, so can I.” Several things stuck out to me in this episode. Melanie emphasizes the need for systems and processes, the importance of giving both people in the marriage partnership their voice, recording your wins and struggles, and the value of consistency and persistence.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

I’m pretty excited for today’s podcast episode, all about lingerie. I recently asked my Instagram followers if they regularly include lingerie in sexy time, and 39% responded yes. In general, husbands were more excited about seeing their wife in lingerie than wives were enthusiastic about wearing it, which might come as no surprise to you.  Generally speaking, men are more wired to be turned on sexually by visual stimulation than women are.  However, so many women love to wear lingerie for themselves simply because they feel good and sexy in it. Besides, novelty and newness that lingerie can bring is an important part of keeping your sexual relationship vital for the long haul of marriage,  I have the pleasure of associating with Alex and Kadi, founders of EveryLove Intimates. They’re a new brand of intimate wear. I’ve had lots of questions about lingerie, how to shop for it, how to be creative with it, why people are uncomfortable with it, how to handle situations where one spouse wants it and the other doesn’t, and much more.    For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us  

Our mindset and patterns of thinking make a huge difference in our intimate relationships and our ability to grow sexually as a couple. As they say, our brains are our biggest and most important sex organ. How you think about sex, your relationship, and your attitude about your relationship makes a big impact on your ability to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. My guest today is Dr. Paul Jenkins. He’s a clinical psychologist and expert in the field of positive psychology. I interviewed him on what positive psychology is, and how to live a more abundant life and marriage because of it. Download Dr. Paul's free ebook (Portable Positivity) that was referenced in the episode: https://drpauljenkins.com/GYMO   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Sex Positive and Shame Free are two phrases that people usually don’t think about when it comes to overcoming pornography for good, but that’s just what our guest today, Sara Brewer, believes is one of the keys that help her clients overcome pornography use. Sara is a life coach that has inspired thousands of individuals to overcome pornography for good. Multiple studies show that pornography use, especially discordant pornography use, doesn’t help a marriage. But sometimes our approach to the problem is actually getting in the way of healing. That’s what I loved about this interview with Sara - she’s positive and upbeat too! Link to Sara's Masterclass: https://www.sarabrewer.com/masterclass   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Virtual Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us  

In our Christian culture, we’re sometimes afraid of the word “erotic,” thinking it has something to do with unsavory media or loose morals. Many of us grew up in a culture where anything sexually exciting was considered less-than worthy or shameful.  However, our erotic natures are actually a beautiful part of being human and a way of experiencing the divinity within us. When cultivated, our erotic nature can draw us closer to our spouse in very special ways.  I hear stories from couples where sex is considered a necessity to satisfy the other partner rather than something to joyfully engage in for their own sake. So how do you learn how to cultivate your erotic nature? What if you’re married to someone that doesn’t see the value in developing their eroticism?  Today I have the privilege of interviewing Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist, life coach, author, and speaker. You’ll get to hear about how to shift from neutral to drive, the value of curiosity, and some really fun ideas and dares to spice things up in the bedroom!  

it's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament. And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time which teams are gonna win and come out on top. In getting in the spirit of this tournament, we thought we'd have some fun, so we created a sex position bracket for March Madness bedroom edition that you can print for yourselves. So to celebrate sex positions in the Intimately Us app and also March Madness Bedroom edition, I wanted to record a special podcast episode all about sex positions today. First, we're going to talk about why you might want to try new sex positions, why it's important to have these conversations about it (and how to have these conversations) with your spouse, and then we'll dive through a few specifics on sex positions and how you can make sex more exciting, creative, and most importantly, connecting for you and your relationship.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon