Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate connection in the future. My wife and I are beginning our fifth decade in life. We had a discussion the other night about what kind of sex life we want to have in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s and beyond! Having a long term vision for your sex life will bring up things that are important to address. For example, you might find it difficult to find sex pleasurable, have some hang-ups around sex that you want to overcome, or you might have a tendency to withdraw emotionally when you feel rejected, or it might be time to finally address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation. Today’s guest is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed sex therapist and evangelical pastor. Michael is the author of an excellent book called The Secrets of Sex and Marriage. I absolutely loved his insights about the importance of exploring sensuality and pleasure in various aspects of life, not just sexual experiences. In this episode you’ll hear us talk about the role of mindfulness and being present in one's body, as well as the significance of connecting arousal with emotional intimacy and connection within the relationship. We’ll emphasize that a healthy and fulfilling sex life requires a holistic approach that considers spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational aspects.  Most of all, we’ll talk about being seductive to our spouse, and what that means. And sometimes building a great sex life requires grieving the things you’re not going to be getting.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage. I love these questions. They're genuine and honest. And I'm grateful to Hailey for allowing us to share this discussion on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast today because I think you might be wondering about many of the same questions that Hailey was asking, such as these: How do you talk to your kids about sex and intimacy? If you're single or recently divorced, how can you continue to grow sexually? How do you talk to your spouse about your sexual desires or dislikes without making it awkward or offending them? What role does masturbation play in marriage? What impact does pornography use have on the sexual relationship? When you've been married a long time How do you spice things up? And most importantly Dan, what are some of your black belt sex tips? :)   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!*  Even though half of the people on the planet have menstrual cycles, it’s a taboo topic in many cultures. My guest today is Cody Sanders, a functional medicine and holistic health practitioner that’s devoted her professional life to helping women feel more like themselves especially when it comes to their hormone balance, menstrual cycle, and libido (or sex drive). Cody is a founder of Mixhers, a company devoted to women’s health. In this episode, you’ll get to hear: What natural herbs have been used for thousands of years to support healthy hormone balance in women? What foods or nutrients can naturally boost libido in women? What are two things most women don’t know about their bodies and hormones? What is the one thing most men get wrong about a women’s cycle? And of course, Cody shares her black belt sex tip. Note: If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy ​​episode #95 with Ashlee Sorensen titled Hormones, Periods, and Sex:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/95-hormones-periods-and-sex-with-ashlee-sorensen/  For more great content like this, check out the following resources: After Dark Series Workshops (Fellatio and Cunnilingus) Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they’re really REALLY hard work to make great. But it’s work worth doing. In my own personal experience, as well as working with other couples, there’s a pattern I see of entanglement: where you and your spouse are emotionally wrapped up in each other like a tangled ball of yarn, not able to see which end is which.  Then there are other couples that distance themselves emotionally from their spouse. In the world today there seems to be an over emphasis on ME-culture, which leads to toxic individualism. That isn’t healthy for a relationship either. My guest today is Aimée Gianni. She’s a friend of mine as well as a marriage family therapist. She’s very wise, experienced, and has spoken at a couple of my marriage retreats in the past as a guest speaker.  In our conversation today, you’ll get to hear about: The difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage and how you can tell which one you have. Entanglement and toxic individualism and how to get yourself out of their traps. How roles we’ve inherited play a role in our marriage dynamic, and what steps you can take to choose a better path in your relationship. And you’ll get to hear Aimee’s black belt sex tip too!   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are  entrepreneurs. There's a lot of stress that happens in the marriage relationship, especially in the sexual relationship for entrepreneurs. And I want to do a podcast episode dedicated to all listeners where one, or both of you are in the middle of building a business.   As Americans we love a good underdog story and often romanticize the entrepreneurial journey –  especially those that make sacrifices, take risks, overcome obstacle after obstacle, and eventually come out on top. As a career entrepreneur myself, I’ve come to realize that the entrepreneurial journey isn’t as glamorous as it seems to be. Another thing people don’t talk about is that entrepreneurship is often very hard on marriages, in fact, as you’ll hear in this episode, divorce is more common among couples where one or both spouses are entrepreneurs. My guest today is Monica Tanner. She’s a marriage and intimacy expert and runs several programs for couples to strengthen their marriages. She’s also an entrepreneur, married to a successful entrepreneur.  In this episode we’ll talk about the following: The two intimacy killers that entrepreneur couples often fall prey to.  The one superpower that entrepreneurs have that is often overlooked to build a strong marriage The one simple yet powerful thing you can do to keep your intimacy and sexual relationship alive, even when things are stressful and chaotic For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to share with you today are the following: Ditch the goals during sex. Enjoy arousal for arousal sake. Make sex a priority and schedule sex the right way. Get comfortable talking about sex. Learn and utilize erogenous zones. Reduce stress for more sexual desire. Look forward to sex as a time to recharge, refresh, escape. Communicate during sex. Live orgasmically I hope you enjoy celebrating International Lovemaking Day today!   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Danielle Savory, a sex coach focusing on women's pleasure, discusses the empowerment of giving oral sex and its potential for mutual enjoyment. She shares insights on overcoming societal pressures and redefining intimacy through communication and confidence. The conversation covers techniques for enhancing pleasure with creativity, and the importance of consent and vulnerability in intimate relationships. Danielle emphasizes that women can embody a turned-on persona, enriching their lives and marriages through pleasure.

I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don’t think I’m alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when aging is a topic you don’t hear a lot of people talking about or addressing. You might be going through some transitions right now as you approach menopause, health issues, or other changes connected to aging. Some things you used to enjoy sexually may not have the same enjoyment as before. Or certain paths towards arousal may not function like they used to. And then there’s the question of what to do when you’re your spouse’s caregiver, dementia, bereavement, or other common issues that older couples face. I’ve wondered about these things. I’ve searched high and low for a specialist that works with aging couples, and I got really lucky to find an expert in this field! My guest today is Natalie Wilton, a registered Social Worker in Waterloo, Ontario. She has worked in the aging field for over 20 years. She has worked at retirement homes, long term care homes, and in the community in a variety of roles in geriatrics and mental health. She has a private practice in which she sees adults across the age spectrum for sex therapy, and other mental health concerns. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows how we talk to our children, especially our daughters, about dating, sex, and relationships can affect the type of person they marry and how satisfied they’ll be in their marriage. After doing this interview you’re about to hear, I realize there are a few areas I can improve in..  Sheila Wray Gregoire is a friend of mine, as well as the author of several books on the topic of sex and marriage. Her books are awesome for those seeking helpful and accurate information from a Christian perspective. She’s funny too. She has two daughters and an angel son and two grandchildren. I didn’t know this until this interview, but according to Sheila Wray Gregoire’s research, my generation – the millennials – grew up with the least comprehensive sex education compared to Gen X and Baby Boomer generations.  I learned that the most important thing is to have a great relationship with your children. There are also things to consider about how we talk about modesty, agency, arousal, consent, and self-definition to our children, especially our daughters.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us  

Crises aren’t necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they’re very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better define ourselves and where we stand. They can serve as catalysts that anchor our moral compass internally within ourselves rather than external – outside of us. This process can lead to more freedom and greater agency, and a fuller life. I’ve talked to many people who have gone into a faith crisis to some degree as they work to develop their sexuality. I’m personally one of them.  Today my guest is Jacqulin Guernsey, a bright and talented woman, who is a life coach turned fantasy romance novelist. She has a degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in English. She shares an incredible story about her growth journey over the last 15 months, about how sexual challenges in her marriage lead to faith challenges, and how she’s grown in the midst of it all to reconcile the two.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us