Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations around sex were usually limited to biological reproduction or staying pure from sexual thoughts. These messages served me well before we were married but after we were married, we realized that these models led to anxiety about sexuality and difficulty with our sexual relationship. These issues didn’t really surface until after a decade into our marriage, when we weren’t so entrenched in survival mode from raising a young family any longer and could actually take a breath and focus on our relationship again. I’m grateful for the many resources that helped me grow my understanding of marriage and sex in marriage. Specifically, where at first I thought spirituality and sexuality were incompatible, the examples of teachers like my guests on today’s podcast helped me see that spirituality and sexuality actually go together.  Fast forward a few years I’m grateful for the privilege of coaching other couples in growing their marriage intimately. It’s now what I do for work full time, and I hope this podcast, our apps, retreats, workshops, and other resources are helping you build a stronger marriage. One of the common issues I see with my clients as a marriage coach is how “duty sex” or viewing sex as something just for the man for example often limits a couple’s ability to grow sexually. Another has to do with one’s interpretation of biblical teachings around sex growing up, and how those views are often antithetical to building an intimate marriage. Another has to do with sexual performance pressure. And sexual dysfunction. We get to talk about all of these things and much more in this episode with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner.  As my guests will attest, getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it’s a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don’t miss it by going to getyourmarriageon.com, click on Retreats, and then DFW retreat. If you’re on the fence, go to the web page anyway and check out the videos shared by past retreat attendees sharing their experience to get a feel for what it’s all about.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Today is a really fun episode that I have planned with you. I emailed my mailing list a few weeks ago, asking for anonymous questions and I got a ton of questions. So today we're going to go through a lot of these great questions that you asked. There's a lot of value in asking good questions. First, it opens your mind to other possibilities. Second, it invites you to change. Even if it's just microscopic, it changes your lifestyle or your attitude about certain things. And number three.  It puts you in a position where he can receive instruction, receive coaching or whatever it is for you to really level up things in your relationship.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate connection in the future. My wife and I are beginning our fifth decade in life. We had a discussion the other night about what kind of sex life we want to have in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s and beyond! Having a long term vision for your sex life will bring up things that are important to address. For example, you might find it difficult to find sex pleasurable, have some hang-ups around sex that you want to overcome, or you might have a tendency to withdraw emotionally when you feel rejected, or it might be time to finally address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation. Today’s guest is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed sex therapist and evangelical pastor. Michael is the author of an excellent book called The Secrets of Sex and Marriage. I absolutely loved his insights about the importance of exploring sensuality and pleasure in various aspects of life, not just sexual experiences. In this episode you’ll hear us talk about the role of mindfulness and being present in one's body, as well as the significance of connecting arousal with emotional intimacy and connection within the relationship. We’ll emphasize that a healthy and fulfilling sex life requires a holistic approach that considers spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational aspects.  Most of all, we’ll talk about being seductive to our spouse, and what that means. And sometimes building a great sex life requires grieving the things you’re not going to be getting.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage. I love these questions. They're genuine and honest. And I'm grateful to Hailey for allowing us to share this discussion on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast today because I think you might be wondering about many of the same questions that Hailey was asking, such as these: How do you talk to your kids about sex and intimacy? If you're single or recently divorced, how can you continue to grow sexually? How do you talk to your spouse about your sexual desires or dislikes without making it awkward or offending them? What role does masturbation play in marriage? What impact does pornography use have on the sexual relationship? When you've been married a long time How do you spice things up? And most importantly Dan, what are some of your black belt sex tips? :)   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!*  Even though half of the people on the planet have menstrual cycles, it’s a taboo topic in many cultures. My guest today is Cody Sanders, a functional medicine and holistic health practitioner that’s devoted her professional life to helping women feel more like themselves especially when it comes to their hormone balance, menstrual cycle, and libido (or sex drive). Cody is a founder of Mixhers, a company devoted to women’s health. In this episode, you’ll get to hear: What natural herbs have been used for thousands of years to support healthy hormone balance in women? What foods or nutrients can naturally boost libido in women? What are two things most women don’t know about their bodies and hormones? What is the one thing most men get wrong about a women’s cycle? And of course, Cody shares her black belt sex tip. Note: If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy ​​episode #95 with Ashlee Sorensen titled Hormones, Periods, and Sex:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/95-hormones-periods-and-sex-with-ashlee-sorensen/  For more great content like this, check out the following resources: After Dark Series Workshops (Fellatio and Cunnilingus) Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they’re really REALLY hard work to make great. But it’s work worth doing. In my own personal experience, as well as working with other couples, there’s a pattern I see of entanglement: where you and your spouse are emotionally wrapped up in each other like a tangled ball of yarn, not able to see which end is which.  Then there are other couples that distance themselves emotionally from their spouse. In the world today there seems to be an over emphasis on ME-culture, which leads to toxic individualism. That isn’t healthy for a relationship either. My guest today is Aimée Gianni. She’s a friend of mine as well as a marriage family therapist. She’s very wise, experienced, and has spoken at a couple of my marriage retreats in the past as a guest speaker.  In our conversation today, you’ll get to hear about: The difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage and how you can tell which one you have. Entanglement and toxic individualism and how to get yourself out of their traps. How roles we’ve inherited play a role in our marriage dynamic, and what steps you can take to choose a better path in your relationship. And you’ll get to hear Aimee’s black belt sex tip too!   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are  entrepreneurs. There's a lot of stress that happens in the marriage relationship, especially in the sexual relationship for entrepreneurs. And I want to do a podcast episode dedicated to all listeners where one, or both of you are in the middle of building a business.   As Americans we love a good underdog story and often romanticize the entrepreneurial journey –  especially those that make sacrifices, take risks, overcome obstacle after obstacle, and eventually come out on top. As a career entrepreneur myself, I’ve come to realize that the entrepreneurial journey isn’t as glamorous as it seems to be. Another thing people don’t talk about is that entrepreneurship is often very hard on marriages, in fact, as you’ll hear in this episode, divorce is more common among couples where one or both spouses are entrepreneurs. My guest today is Monica Tanner. She’s a marriage and intimacy expert and runs several programs for couples to strengthen their marriages. She’s also an entrepreneur, married to a successful entrepreneur.  In this episode we’ll talk about the following: The two intimacy killers that entrepreneur couples often fall prey to.  The one superpower that entrepreneurs have that is often overlooked to build a strong marriage The one simple yet powerful thing you can do to keep your intimacy and sexual relationship alive, even when things are stressful and chaotic For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to share with you today are the following: Ditch the goals during sex. Enjoy arousal for arousal sake. Make sex a priority and schedule sex the right way. Get comfortable talking about sex. Learn and utilize erogenous zones. Reduce stress for more sexual desire. Look forward to sex as a time to recharge, refresh, escape. Communicate during sex. Live orgasmically I hope you enjoy celebrating International Lovemaking Day today!   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

According to a recent Instagram poll on our Instagram account, I learned that 80% of couples incorporate oral sex into their lovemaking, and 77% of them said they’d love tips on how to make it better. So let’s talk about blowjobs today. Let’s discuss how amazing they are, why we like them, how to overcome hang ups around giving your husband oral sex if you want to, and more specifically for women, how giving your husband oral sex can be as much if not more of a turn on for yourself than your husband.  My guest expert is Danielle Savory, a sex coach for women. She’s taught thousands of women how to prioritize pleasure and specifically how to make sex more pleasurable for themselves. I learned in this interview that my guest Danielle loves giving her husband oral sex, so much that she’s had just as many orgasms for herself just from giving them.  She teaches that women can step up to embody a turned-on person and create a richer, juicer life and marriage.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don’t think I’m alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when aging is a topic you don’t hear a lot of people talking about or addressing. You might be going through some transitions right now as you approach menopause, health issues, or other changes connected to aging. Some things you used to enjoy sexually may not have the same enjoyment as before. Or certain paths towards arousal may not function like they used to. And then there’s the question of what to do when you’re your spouse’s caregiver, dementia, bereavement, or other common issues that older couples face. I’ve wondered about these things. I’ve searched high and low for a specialist that works with aging couples, and I got really lucky to find an expert in this field! My guest today is Natalie Wilton, a registered Social Worker in Waterloo, Ontario. She has worked in the aging field for over 20 years. She has worked at retirement homes, long term care homes, and in the community in a variety of roles in geriatrics and mental health. She has a private practice in which she sees adults across the age spectrum for sex therapy, and other mental health concerns. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat:  https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!