What I Love About Sex
Stephanie Ganowski
Stephanie Ganowski is a clinical sexologist and sex coach for men. In her podcast, “What I Love About Sex”, her mission is to take the pressure out of sex and put the pleasure in! She does this by helping men overcome their d*ck-related issues and improve their sex communication skills, so they can feel in control of their bodies and connecting deeply with their partners. Coaching clients 1:1 for 6+ years, with a background in psychology, relationship communication training and clinical sexology makes Stephanie the person you can trust to help you. She especially wants men to have a ‘go-to’ place for help here, so they feel they’re directly spoken to and supported. Stephanie is a firm believer that sex is like any other part of life in that we need to work to understand and improve it through practice, vulnerability and patience. And if we can do that while having fun and not taking ourselves so seriously, we can create the sex life we’ve always dreamed of.Stephanie’s style of coaching (and podcasting) is lighthearted, fun and action oriented. Her aim is to have her listeners leave her show feeling confident in what step to take next!
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Aug 5, 2025 • 10min
#403 Sex 3x a Week Starts With This One Leadership Shift
In this episode of What I Love About Sex, I'm breaking down exactly how one of my private clients went from disconnected and frustrated to having deeply connected, fulfilling sex three times a week, with the same woman he was barely connecting with once a month. We didn’t change his wife—we shifted his strategy, communication, and leadership.Here's how.✅ Clarify the real goal. Most men aim for more sex, but miss the quality. We defined what "great sex" actually looked like for him—physically, emotionally, and energetically.✅ Use masculine leadership to foster emotional safety. My client learned how to ask the right questions, speak from calm confidence, and approach his wife without pressure. This unlocked connection and trust that led to more frequency naturally.✅ Reframe sex as a shared experience, not a transaction. The more he prioritized her pleasure and made her feel valued, the more often she wanted to connect with enthusiasm.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Aug 4, 2025 • 6min
#402 She’s Not Feeling Loved? It’s Not What You Say—It’s How
Flat words kill connection. In this episode, I break down a game-changing insight most men overlook: how your tone, delivery, and emotional presence transform your words from “meh” to magnetic. You might be saying all the right things, but she’s not feeling them.✅ Tone Is Everything: Saying "you look great" doesn’t hit the same as "you look beautiful"—especially when said with eye contact and a warm tone.✅ Romanticize What You Already Say: Learn how to take your go-to compliments and upgrade them to create more intimacy and desire.✅ Lead the Connection: If you want her to feel more loved, you have to speak in a way that shows it—consistently, intentionally, and with ownership.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Aug 1, 2025 • 5min
#401 Why Every Man Should Buy His Woman a Vibrator
This episode is going to challenge your assumptions—and possibly transform your sex life. If you're the kind of man who values real connection and takes pride in your partner’s pleasure, this one’s for you.Top Takeaways:✅ Vibrators are not your competition—they’re your secret weapon. When a woman feels safe, seen, and stimulated, your connection deepens. The right tool enhances the experience for both of you.✅ Her orgasm doesn't always equal satisfaction. Just because she finishes doesn't mean the sex is good for her. Want to know if she’s truly fulfilled? Ask—and be ready to listen.✅ Confident men introduce tools without ego. It’s not about replacing you. It’s about amplifying pleasure and proving that her needs matter more than your pride. The more she feels your confidence, care, and curiosity, the more she’ll lean into intimacy with you. So ask the question, buy the toy, lead with presence.Vibrator:https://woomoreplay.com/collections/all-products/products/vibezReady to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 31, 2025 • 5min
#400 The Real Reason You’re Finishing Too Fast (And How to Take Control)
If you finish too quickly during sex, you’ve likely tried it all—Kegels, squeeze techniques, delay sprays. But what if the real key to lasting longer is restructuring your routine? In this episode, Stephanie dives deep into a powerful, often-overlooked strategy that’s been a game-changer for her clients with premature ejaculation: mixing up the way you do sex.✅ Rethink the Routine – Sex doesn’t have to be a straight line. Switching up the order and slowing things down can shift your arousal curve and help you last longer.✅ Build Arousal Awareness – Learn how to identify your low, medium, and high arousal activities—and how to intentionally weave them together for control and clarity.✅ Lead With Dominance & Intention – Discover ways to create sexy pauses, introduce new sensations, and still remain in control of the moment, without losing your edge. If you’re ready to stop performing and start leading in the bedroom...Ready to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 21, 2025 • 29min
#399 Q&A: Cream Pies, Gag Reflexes, Erectile Confidence & More
In this no-holds-barred Q&A, we will answer your most honest, awkward, and important sex questions—covering everything from ejaculation issues to prostate play, threesomes, and navigating insecurity in the bedroom. Whether you're looking to boost confidence, improve connection, or get real answers, this episode brings it all.Top 3 Takeaways:✅ Confidence starts with clarity. If you’re confused by her lack of expression in bed, don’t assume—ask. Direct, open-ended questions get better answers (and better sex).✅ Your body isn’t broken—it’s under pressure. Stress, anxiety, shame, and habit can all impact your performance. Many common issues are treatable once you understand the root cause.✅ Communication beats technique. Whether it’s foreplay, anal play, or asking for what you want—your best move is always a curious, judgment-free conversation.🎯 This episode is packed with practical insights and a refreshing dose of honesty.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video
Jul 18, 2025 • 30min
#398 She’s Not Opening Up About Sex? Here’s Why.
Trying to improve your sex life with your partner—but every conversation feels like pressure or rejection? In this episode, I break down how the tone of your conversations shapes everything in the bedroom and how to become a more confident, connected sexual leader.✅ Why your tone—not your words—is often the real issue ✅ How to reframe sex talks as loving, team-oriented conversations ✅ The one mindset shift that turns rejection into emotional intimacyReady to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 17, 2025 • 6min
#397 Is Masturbation Bad for You? Let’s Set the Record Straight
In this episode, I’m calling out the misguided advice telling men to quit masturbating to be better lovers. The truth? Cutting off self-pleasure without understanding it is wrecking your confidence and your performance.✅ Cutting off masturbation kills sexual confidence When you label self-pleasure as “wrong,” you wire guilt into your arousal—and that guilt follows you into the bedroom.✅ You master your sex life by knowing your own body Men who lead well in bed first learn what turns them on alone. Masturbation is about building that awareness, without pressure, without performance.✅ Masturbation and porn are not the same Porn can desensitize you. But masturbation—done right—is a tool. It helps you build control, clarity, and connection with your body.🎯 Ready to take command of your sex life? Apply here: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 16, 2025 • 3min
#396 The Secret to Getting More Blowjobs Without Manipulation
If you want your woman to give you head more often—and actually enjoy doing it—it comes down to one thing: how you speak to her during and after. This episode is about leadership, not pressure.✅ Generic compliments don’t cut it “Damn, that feels good” is surface-level. “Your lips look so sexy around my cock” is precise, personal, and unforgettable. That’s the difference.✅ Post-sex remarks build the foundation for next time What you say after she goes down on you either builds a connection or breaks it. Stop saying “that was great” and walking off. Start communicating like a man who knows how to lead.✅ She does more of what she feels good at When you connect praise to her specific performance, her brain ties the act to success and approval. That’s how you make “blowjob = sexy” stick.🎯 Ready to own your sex life with clarity and confidence? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 15, 2025 • 3min
#395 Can a Woman Actually Get Turned On While Giving a Blowjob?
Blowjobs shouldn’t feel like a chor. And if they do, it’s likely because she’s not aroused when you ask. In this episode, I’ll break down how to change that.✅ Foreplay first. Don’t surprise her with the ask. Get her turned on before—so her body is ready and the experience is pleasurable. ✅ Turn her on during. Engage her. Make her feel sexy with your touch and words—so giving you head feels good for her, too. ✅ Don’t get her off first. Post-orgasm, many women are done. Instead, build her arousal into the act.The goal? Link her pleasure to pleasuring you.🎯 Ready to improve your sex life? Apply here: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 14, 2025 • 5min
#394 Is It Okay to Come on Her Face? Let’s Talk About It.
This episode tackles one of the most asked—and misunderstood—questions men ask me: Is it okay to come on her face? You’ll hear the full breakdown of how to bring up this request with confidence, without shame, and without assuming her answer before you even ask.✅ Don’t lead with shame — If you introduce your desire like it’s gross or wrong, you train her to see it that way too. ✅ Every woman is different — Her openness depends on arousal, trust, and emotional connection, not just the act itself. ✅ The key is confident, respectful communication — Your turn-ons matter. And how you share them determines how they’re received.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me:👉 https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
