What I Love About Sex
Stephanie Ganowski
Stephanie Ganowski is a clinical sexologist and sex coach for men. In her podcast, “What I Love About Sex”, her mission is to take the pressure out of sex and put the pleasure in! She does this by helping men overcome their d*ck-related issues and improve their sex communication skills, so they can feel in control of their bodies and connecting deeply with their partners. Coaching clients 1:1 for 6+ years, with a background in psychology, relationship communication training and clinical sexology makes Stephanie the person you can trust to help you. She especially wants men to have a ‘go-to’ place for help here, so they feel they’re directly spoken to and supported. Stephanie is a firm believer that sex is like any other part of life in that we need to work to understand and improve it through practice, vulnerability and patience. And if we can do that while having fun and not taking ourselves so seriously, we can create the sex life we’ve always dreamed of.Stephanie’s style of coaching (and podcasting) is lighthearted, fun and action oriented. Her aim is to have her listeners leave her show feeling confident in what step to take next!
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Jul 21, 2025 • 29min
#399 Q&A: Cream Pies, Gag Reflexes, Erectile Confidence & More
In this no-holds-barred Q&A, we will answer your most honest, awkward, and important sex questions—covering everything from ejaculation issues to prostate play, threesomes, and navigating insecurity in the bedroom. Whether you're looking to boost confidence, improve connection, or get real answers, this episode brings it all.Top 3 Takeaways:✅ Confidence starts with clarity. If you’re confused by her lack of expression in bed, don’t assume—ask. Direct, open-ended questions get better answers (and better sex).✅ Your body isn’t broken—it’s under pressure. Stress, anxiety, shame, and habit can all impact your performance. Many common issues are treatable once you understand the root cause.✅ Communication beats technique. Whether it’s foreplay, anal play, or asking for what you want—your best move is always a curious, judgment-free conversation.🎯 This episode is packed with practical insights and a refreshing dose of honesty.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video
Jul 18, 2025 • 30min
#398 She’s Not Opening Up About Sex? Here’s Why.
Trying to improve your sex life with your partner—but every conversation feels like pressure or rejection? In this episode, I break down how the tone of your conversations shapes everything in the bedroom and how to become a more confident, connected sexual leader.✅ Why your tone—not your words—is often the real issue ✅ How to reframe sex talks as loving, team-oriented conversations ✅ The one mindset shift that turns rejection into emotional intimacyReady to improve your sex life?Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 17, 2025 • 6min
#397 Is Masturbation Bad for You? Let’s Set the Record Straight
In this episode, I’m calling out the misguided advice telling men to quit masturbating to be better lovers. The truth? Cutting off self-pleasure without understanding it is wrecking your confidence and your performance.✅ Cutting off masturbation kills sexual confidence When you label self-pleasure as “wrong,” you wire guilt into your arousal—and that guilt follows you into the bedroom.✅ You master your sex life by knowing your own body Men who lead well in bed first learn what turns them on alone. Masturbation is about building that awareness, without pressure, without performance.✅ Masturbation and porn are not the same Porn can desensitize you. But masturbation—done right—is a tool. It helps you build control, clarity, and connection with your body.🎯 Ready to take command of your sex life? Apply here: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 16, 2025 • 3min
#396 The Secret to Getting More Blowjobs Without Manipulation
If you want your woman to give you head more often—and actually enjoy doing it—it comes down to one thing: how you speak to her during and after. This episode is about leadership, not pressure.✅ Generic compliments don’t cut it “Damn, that feels good” is surface-level. “Your lips look so sexy around my cock” is precise, personal, and unforgettable. That’s the difference.✅ Post-sex remarks build the foundation for next time What you say after she goes down on you either builds a connection or breaks it. Stop saying “that was great” and walking off. Start communicating like a man who knows how to lead.✅ She does more of what she feels good at When you connect praise to her specific performance, her brain ties the act to success and approval. That’s how you make “blowjob = sexy” stick.🎯 Ready to own your sex life with clarity and confidence? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 15, 2025 • 3min
#395 Can a Woman Actually Get Turned On While Giving a Blowjob?
Blowjobs shouldn’t feel like a chor. And if they do, it’s likely because she’s not aroused when you ask. In this episode, I’ll break down how to change that.✅ Foreplay first. Don’t surprise her with the ask. Get her turned on before—so her body is ready and the experience is pleasurable. ✅ Turn her on during. Engage her. Make her feel sexy with your touch and words—so giving you head feels good for her, too. ✅ Don’t get her off first. Post-orgasm, many women are done. Instead, build her arousal into the act.The goal? Link her pleasure to pleasuring you.🎯 Ready to improve your sex life? Apply here: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 14, 2025 • 5min
#394 Is It Okay to Come on Her Face? Let’s Talk About It.
This episode tackles one of the most asked—and misunderstood—questions men ask me: Is it okay to come on her face? You’ll hear the full breakdown of how to bring up this request with confidence, without shame, and without assuming her answer before you even ask.✅ Don’t lead with shame — If you introduce your desire like it’s gross or wrong, you train her to see it that way too. ✅ Every woman is different — Her openness depends on arousal, trust, and emotional connection, not just the act itself. ✅ The key is confident, respectful communication — Your turn-ons matter. And how you share them determines how they’re received.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me:👉 https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 10, 2025 • 6min
#393 Why Men Crave It When She Swallows And What That Really Means
Dive into the complex motivations behind why some men are drawn to the act of swallowing during intimate moments. It's not just about dominance; it ties deeply to emotional intimacy and connection. Discover how trust is essential for exploring kinks and how non-sexual intimacy lays the groundwork for deeper sexual experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of fostering a safe space for partners to express their desires and enhance their bond.
Jul 9, 2025 • 2min
#392 Dirty Talk vs. Sexy Talk. Which One Turns Her On More?
This episode dives deep into the art of sexual communication, highlighting the crucial differences between dirty talk and sexy talk. Dirty talk is all about primal, teasing dominance, while sexy talk fosters emotional intimacy. The discussion emphasizes that both styles are important for igniting desire and connection. It’s not about being a wordsmith; it’s about being attentive and confident in expressing desires. Unlocking the nuances of these conversations can transform your sexual experiences!
Jul 8, 2025 • 4min
#391 Three Advanced Techniques to Last Longer Without Losing Connection
Most guys are told the same recycled tips when it comes to lasting longer in bed—“breathe deeply,” “edge,” “think about baseball.” Yes, those work, but you’re not here for the basics. You want next-level tools that actually shift your performance and deepen your sexual leadership.In this episode, I share three techniques that I’ve used with hundreds of men to help them take control in the bedroom—with real results.✅ Learn the power of dick sensitivity: Understand which parts of your cock are more reactive and how to use that awareness to your advantage in sex and masturbation.✅ Use shallow penetration strategically: Discover how starting with restraint can create longer stamina and hotter buildup—for both of you.✅ Master arousal control through mental imagery: Train your brain to stay present and powerful, even in high-arousal states, without disconnecting or numbing out.This isn’t fluff. These are precise techniques to help you take command of your arousal, body, and connection with integrity.Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/
Jul 4, 2025 • 32min
#390 Freedom Is Control: How to Lead Your Sex Life Like a Mountain Climb
What you will learn in this episode:✅ Reframe the definition of control—it's not just about staying hard or lasting longer, it’s about how you respond to emotional tension✅ Discover how your reactions (not her behavior) drive the cycle you're stuck in✅ Learn the role emotional regulation plays in building a sex life that actually feels freeReady to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/Description of this episode:Most men think freedom in sex means doing whatever they want. But real freedom? It's about how you feel—and how much control you take over those feelings. In this episode, Stephanie shares a personal story about summiting Mount Shasta and unpacks how your interpretation of events, not the events themselves, determine your sex life satisfaction.
