
Unfollowing Mum
Unfollowing Mum : Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had is available for preorder NOW!A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever. In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first. Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Latest episodes

Nov 22, 2023 • 48min
EP38 *TW* Toxic motherwound, invalidation & silencing sibling sexual abuse with Christie Hayes
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Christie Hayes, toxic mother wound coach and therapist about sibling sexual abuse, invalidation and toxic mother wounds.You can find Christie at: https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery and via her facebook group Adult daughters breaking free from toxic relationships with their mother. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Nov 15, 2023 • 40min
EP37 Trauma responses & C-PTSD trigger reactions
Delve into the hidden symptoms of trauma and complex PTSD, revealing how they affect mental and emotional well-being. Explore the profound impact of complex trauma on brain chemistry and daily life. Discover the struggles of emotional regulation and the torment of adult nightmares rooted in childhood experiences. This enlightening conversation encourages listeners to recognize their trauma responses and the need for healing and self-acceptance.

Nov 1, 2023 • 60min
EP36 Toxic mothers, Spiritual abuse & Hispanic generational trauma with Rebecca Dominguez
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to Rebecca Dominguez about her lived experiences with childhood trauma from an abusive mother, the pressures of "family" within the Hispanic community and spiritual abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 25, 2023 • 27min
EP35 Weaponising single parenthood, society's bias & toxic divorce
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of growing up with a single mum after her parent's bitter divorce and the weaponisation of single parenthood by toxic parents. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Oct 18, 2023 • 48min
EP34 The Mother wound & challenging the inner critic with Marie Selleck
Marie Selleck, a licensed therapist and mother wound coach, joins to discuss the profound effects of the mother wound. She highlights how emotional neglect shapes our inner critic and self-perception. The conversation delves into the complexities of forgiveness, emphasizing that it's not pre-required for healing. Marie outlines the importance of setting boundaries in parent-child dynamics and the need for self-awareness. She encourages reconnecting with one's body and emotions as a path to healing and suggests valuable resources for listeners to explore.

Oct 11, 2023 • 43min
EP33 Dissecting "An Estranged Parent's POV" Meme
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith looks at a meme entitled "The estranged parent's perspective" and discusses why it's damaging to rebuilding relationships or validating adult children's feelings of hurt following abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 4, 2023 • 57min
EP32 Narcissistic fathers & invalidating teens
On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats to "Jasmine" who shares her lived experience story living with a toxic and abusive father, and how she often felt dismissed and invalidated when she reached out for help as a teenager. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sep 27, 2023 • 32min
EP31 :: Health scares when estranged
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of a recent health scare and the impact being estranged from her mother had on her fears, resentment and anger. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 16, 2023 • 41min
EP30 TW: Covert sexual abuse & toxic parents dating
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of covert sexual abuse, her mother's toxic dating behaviours and the childhood trauma that comes with parentification & instability. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 8, 2023 • 47min
Ep29 Golden children, spirituality & healing with Stephen
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Stephen who has shared his lived experience story of a narcissistic mother, childhood trauma and life after estrangement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.