Inner Work With MaryAnn Walker: Stop People Pleasing and Start Honoring You!

Send us a textIn this episode we will dive into the intriguing concept of "wholehearted yeses" and how to differentiate them from merely saying yes out of people-pleasing tendencies. Wholehearted yeses don't always necessitate extreme excitement; instead, it involves acknowledging your choice and wholeheartedly embracing the consequences without harboring any resentment or anger.In this episode we talk about: -Exploring the concept of "wholehearted yeses" and how to identify them.-Understanding that a wholehearted yes doesn't always mean extreme excitement.- Recognizing that you always have a choice in how you show up in life.-Letting go of "I have to's" and "they made me's" to minimize  resentment.- Overcoming victim mentality and taking ownership of decisions.-Examples of giving wholehearted yeses, even in situations you're not overly excited about.-Reflecting on the purpose behind your choices, especially in relationships and activities.-Addressing discomfort when saying no and understanding it's a part of the human experience.POSITIVE SIDE EFFECTS OF WHOLE HEARTED YESSES: More balanced and sustainable relationshipsLess resentmentMore time and energy to invest into your passionsReduced stress More authentic relationshipsPersonal growthIncreased focus and work life balanceIncreased self respectIncreased genuine connection with those that truly resonate with youAnd so much more!Need more support around discovering where you can give a whole hearted yes and when to say no?  Come and work with me.  Click here to get started. www.maryannwalker.life

Send us a textIn this podcast episode  MaryAnn Walker and Kellyn Legath  dive deep into the correlation between anxiety and people-pleasing, shedding light on the underlying emotions and behaviors associated with these common struggles. Here are the main takeaways from their insightful conversation:The Correlation Between Anxiety and People Pleasing: How people-pleasers often experience anxiety when they prioritize others' needs and expectations over their own. This behavior arises from a fear of upsetting others or not fitting in, resembling a form of social anxiety.The Negative Consequences of People Pleasing: Exploring the detrimental effects of chronic people-pleasing, emphasizing that it can lead to self-abandonment and a loss of one's authentic self. When individuals constantly focus on others, it becomes challenging to identify their core values and desires.her weSelf-Deception in People Pleasing: How individuals may initially feel good about making others happy but later realize they were seeking external validation to fulfill an inner void.Recognizing Emotional Needs: How people-pleasers often neglect their own emotional well-being, leading to emotional stuffing and avoidance, which can be emotionally exhausting.Practical Tips for Overcoming People-Pleasing and Anxiety:Building Awareness: Kellyn recommends mindfulness practices like journaling to become more aware of the stories and emotions driving ones people-pleasing behaviors.Emotion Identification: Learning to identify and differentiate various emotions, enabling individuals to respond effectively to their emotional needs.Honesty and Vulnerability: Creating safe spaces to practice honesty and vulnerability with trusted individuals can help retrain the nervous system and allow for healthier boundaries and self-expression.The episode offers valuable insights into the intertwined challenges of anxiety and people pleasing while providing practical strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being. It encourages listeners to prioritize self-care and authenticity in their relationships and lives.Ready to change your life through coaching?  Contact MaryAnn here!Want to connect with Kellyn Legath?  Click here for  her website.Click here to follow her on Instagram.

Send us a textJJ DiGeronimo is a three-time award-winning author, speaker, and former leading woman in the tech industry. She is passionate about helping women raise their frequencies and empower their future impact through tried-and-tested strategies, mindfulness, and energetic practices.JJ's story is one of overcoming obstacles and finding her true purpose. After 25 years in the tech industry, she hit a wall from overproducing, over-delivering, and over-committing. She was questioning all aspects of her life and felt like she was her own worst enemy. She tried drinking more wine, sabotaging her marriage, and even considered driving away and never returning.Eventually, JJ realized that she needed to make a change. She started by seeking professional help and began a journey of self-discovery. She learned how to set boundaries, say no, and take care of herself. She also began to explore her spiritual side and connect with her inner power.JJ's transformation was profound. She went from feeling overwhelmed to feeling connected to a higher purpose, which led to a determination to share her findings with more women.Seeking: 74 Key Findings to Raise Your Energy, Sidestep Your Self-Doubts, and Align with Your Life's Work, JJ’s third book, share the strategies that helped her infuse more purpose and meaning into her work and life. The book is filled with short chapters, relevant stories, and specific questions that help readers evaluate their choices, dig through their stories, embrace their gifts, and elevate their energy.DiGeronimo wrote the book because she believes that "every woman has a unique frequency that vibrates at the frequency of her highest potential." She hopes that Seeking will help women raise their frequency and empower them to believe and align with their highest purpose.Today, JJ is a successful author, speaker, and spiritual liaison. She shares her story and her strategies with women all over the world. She is on a mission to help women raise their frequencies and empower their future impact.This conversation centers around JJ's book titled "Seeking: 24 Key Findings to Raise Your Energy, Sidestep Your Doubts, and Align with Your Life's Work." MaryAnn  and JJ discuss various aspects of the book and its relevance to the helpers, healers, and people pleasers. They discuss  mindfulness, intuition, the balance between masculine and feminine energies, navigating relationships with "practicing polluters", and setting boundaries to prioritize oneself. JJ shares her personal journey and experiences, emphasizing the importance of being present, aligning energy, and embracing the idea that life is happening for you. Not to you. The conversation concludes with a focus on personal growth, shifting mindset, and creating a more abundant and empowered life.Free Resources:Power of No Resource: https://jjdigeronimo.com/powerofno10 Lessons I Gained From My Mindfulness Practice: https://www.jjdigeronimo.com/MindfulnessforWomenJJ’s LinksSeeking on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3KYqnUbWebsites: www.jjdigeronimo.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf13PUz92FMREVKfq8PttqQLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jjdigeronimo/IG:  https://www.instagram.com/jjdigeronimo/TogetherWeSeek.Online: https://www.toget

Send us a textIn recent  episodes, the focus has been on effective communication of needs in relationships to prevent resentment. However, it has become apparent that many struggle with identifying their own needs, hindering their ability to communicate them. Despite being attuned to others' needs, some find it challenging to recognize their own. This leads to a cycle of unspoken expectations, miscommunication, and frustration.For instance, when overwhelmed, it's easy to convey distress through body language and reactions, yet pinpointing the exact need remains elusive. Family and friends may attempt to help, but without clear communication, their efforts can fall short, worsening the situation. Often, intense emotions trigger a reactive mindset, hindering self-awareness and identification of needs.To counteract this, practicing self-awareness during emotional moments can reactivate rational thinking. Five tips are shared:Get in tune with your body: Notice physical sensations like tension, unease, or restlessness. These signals provide valuable insights into your needs. A nauseous feeling might stem from anxiety, suggesting chamomile tea might help; a headache could indicate a need for rest and quiet.Label your emotions: Differentiate between emotions like insecurity and jealousy, sadness and depression. Identifying and understanding various emotions contributes to emotional maturity. Emotions serve as information to uncover needs.Engage in self-reflection and journaling: Document emotions and their associated stories. Writing out raw thoughts allows for release and subsequent self-analysis. This "ugly first draft" reveals patterns and offers the chance to rewrite your narrative.Distinguish facts from stories: Examine situations to discern objective facts from subjective interpretations. This step reduces assumptions and helps clarify your needs.Imagine desired outcomes: Rewrite events to reflect how you wished they unfolded. This exercise highlights your needs and expectations, aiding in clear communication.Recognizing that emotions are informative rather than disruptive, and using these techniques, can lead to enhanced emotional understanding and better communication of needs. Emotional intelligence fosters healthier connections and personal growth.Click here to listen to Episode 18: What if The Path You're on Leads You to Where You Are Going? Click here to listen to Episode 1: Facts vs Stories Contact MaryAnn via the web at  www.maryannwalker.life or email  at maryann@maryannwalker.life Want to offer feedback on this podcast?  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to share or learn more about?  Click here to leave a review! Want to connect on social media?  Click here to follow on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

Send us a textIn this bonus episode MaryAnn Walker is talking with actress and entrepreneur, Florence Matina. Florence shares that, "Honestly, Coaching Changed My Life." In this episode, Florence shares her experience with coaching as well as a few insights she's gained along the way.  Here are a few of her insights: -Embrace all of your emotions.-Take massive action. Not passive action. NOW is the time!-Embracing discomfort is what gets you to where you want to go.-You have to get used to the idea of falling to learn to ride a unicycle. Scrapes are part of the process of learning.-Be patient with yourself. -Find your authentic self and your authentic path. -Consistency is key. -Make life more fun through side quests.Thanks so much for coming on, Florence!If you want to work with MaryAnn to see how coaching can change your life, come and apply now at www.maryannwalker.life

Send us a textIn this episode, MaryAnn Walker helps listeners learn how to ask for help.MaryAnn identifies common thoughts that hinder seeking help, such as not wanting to be a burden, fearing it signifies weakness, or seeking to prove one's capability. She emphasizes that people pleasers often suppress their own needs due to their fear of rejection or disrupting relationships, which prevents  them from asking for help when they genuinely need it.The podcast highlights a paradox where people pleasers are willing to help others but also struggle with asking for assistance themselves.  This pattern can create an imbalance in relationships, limiting vulnerability and true connection. MaryAnn compares relationships to a tennis match, pointing out that the absence of reciprocal requests hampers deep connections.She acknowledges the challenge of being rejected when asking for help, suggesting that accepting people's responses at face value can lead to healthier perspectives. MaryAnn encourages starting with small requests to rewire the brain's discomfort around seeking help and emphasizes that vulnerability, rather than being a weakness, is a courageous act that nurtures connection.The podcast underscores the importance of clear and direct communication vs passive communication and  hints which can lead to misunderstandings and resentments. MaryAnn advises making explicit requests to create balance and allow others to fulfill needs. She concludes by encouraging listeners to practice making explicit requests and recognizing the value of vulnerability in fostering meaningful relationships.Are you interested in booking a call?  Contact MaryAnn either via her website, www.maryannwalker.life or email her at maryann@maryannwalker.life We would love to hear your feedback on this podcast!  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to learn more about?  Click here to leave  your review! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1WGzrZWvqiYgXUf-B-IRzr1GzkNEOmsmyEYhG1_UI1KQ/viewform?pli=1&pli=1&edit_requested=trueWant to connect on social media?  Click here to follow MaryAnn on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

Send us a textScore keeping is common among people pleasers. And often times score keeping is used in order to manipulate or coerce others into filling your needs. ("I helped you, now you owe me!") But score keeping isn't always a bad thing. Score keeping can also be used to bring clarity to a relationship...to help you to see where there is an imbalance  so you can consciously choose how to navigate it on purpose. This week MaryAnn talks about how to shift from manipulative and coercive scorekeeping into something more supportive: Using it as simply a means of gaining information and seeing things.... including yourself... more clearly.  Do you often find yourself in imbalanced relationships and you aren't sure how to restore balance?  Come and work with me!  You can contact me either via my website www.maryannwalker.life or email me at maryann@maryannwalker.life I would also love to hear your feedback on this podcast!  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to learn more about?  Click here to leave me your review! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1WGzrZWvqiYgXUf-B-IRzr1GzkNEOmsmyEYhG1_UI1KQ/viewform?pli=1&pli=1&edit_requested=trueWant to connect on social media?  Click here to follow me on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

Send us a textIn this podcast episode, MaryAnn Walker shares her personal journey and insights during a major life transition - moving her family across the country. The episode delves into MaryAnn's recent move and the valuable lessons she learned along the way. She discusses topics such as managing expectations and manuals for herself, family, and friends, practicing presence and self-compassion, dealing with decision fatigue and information overload, as well as self-care during a transition. Want to connect or book a call?  Click here! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

Send us a textToday I'm chatting with my friend and body worker, Melodye Curtain. Join as we explore the correlation between integrating physical and emotional scars as well as expanding beyond the sad, mad, glad experience into something richer through incorporating AND experiences. 

Send us a textI was recently interviewed on the Healing Her podcast, dedicated to interviewing women from different healing modalities and it was so enjoyable,  I thought I would also share the episode with you  We talk about boundaries, the rings of relationship, tethers that hold us back, embracing all of the seasons of life, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it.As a reminder, I am officially on leave while my family moves across the country, but I am currently building my waitlist for once we get settled. My current clients will be getting dibs on session times, but I do plan to increase my hours of availability once we get settled into our new home, so if you would like to be the first on my waitlist to get started towards the end of August, first of September email me at maryann@maryannwalker.life and I will add you to my list.  Enjoy this episode of Healing Her. Click Here to get your own copy of The Untethered Soul