WANTcast: The Women Against Negative Talk Podcast

Today's guest is Kara Cutruzzula: a writer and editor, a playwright, a musical theater lyricist, and the author of both DO IT FOR YOURSELF and DO IT TODAY: An Encouragement Journal. Her long-running must-read newsletter Brass Ring Daily, about work and creativity, has been featured in Lifehacker, Inc., TIME, and Vanity Fair — which called it "a life coach in your inbox". Today we talk about: Kara's specific advice for actually "enjoying the process" and "trusting the journey" in your work and life How/why we diminish our own excitement about projects and milestones, and how to keep some of that joy for yourself Why Katie sometimes feels like she experiences an existential crisis when she hits her goals, and Kara's way of countering that feeling Finding your collaborators and champions, how to reach out to people whose work you admire when it feels scary to — plus Kara's exact "in" line — and where the heck to actually find them Kara's unique take on why hearing NO is sometimes the best thing you can hear The reason Kara doesn't actually write with a reader in mind, and how it's helped the longevity of Brass Ring Daily and more! SHOW NOTES: Kara's website Instagram Brass Ring Daily Do It Today podcast BUY Do It Today: An Encouragement Journal BUY Do It For Yourself Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

"Doing your own thing" or "being yourself"...a lot of people will talk about it like it's this gold at the end of the rainbow, and it will feel so great when you get there. In this episode, we talk about... The reality of being yourself and "doing your own thing," and why so many of us are left thinking we're doing it wrong The email Katie received about yoga pants that gave her an unexpected blast from the past Trends, trendsetting, and how to mindfully navigate the ups and downs of what's in vs. out Why you might want to hold the idea of "being yourself" a little more loosely than you are right now... and more! Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

Season 8 of the WANTcast is here! 1. What we really mean when we're saying we need to "get back into the swing of things" 2. Four practices and ideas to help you move forward — without letting the negative self-talk spiral of "I should do this" or "I used to do this, so why can't I now" get in your way. 3. Why Katie is extremely allergic to hopping on bandwagons, why this maybe isn't the best thing, and how to think of it instead. and more!   Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

This time of year can bring up a lot of negative cultural messaging — and therefore negative self-talk — around bodies and working out, and while things are changing for (hopefully) the better, we’ve GOT to know where we’ve come from and how we got here so that we can get to where we truly want to be.  Danielle Friedman is an award-winning journalist and author of the critically acclaimed cultural history of women's fitness Let's Get Physical: How Women Discovered Exercise and Reshaped the World.  From the revolutionary and sometimes radical beginnings to the intermingling of diet culture and fitness, to fitness’s place in the feminist movement, to the history of fitness shaping our self-perception — hopefully, this episode can help you get curious about movement’s place in your own life, what’s informed that, and where you’re going from here.   (This is also the season finale — we're taking a short summer vacay. See you in a couple months!)   SHOW NOTES: Danielle's website Buy Let's Get Physical Danielle on IG The Cut: The Secret Sexual History of the Barre Workout Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

When life gets stressful, do you go MIA? Why a text from a friend inspired the podcast’s return, a conversation about why we shut down, and how to give yourself what you need without compromising everything else in the meantime. Also, how to support your loved ones who do this (without ignoring what you need, too).   SHOW NOTES: We Can Do Hard Things on BURNOUT  Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

When you feel like nothing is in your control, how do you gain control? What do you do if your attempt to gain control backfires? Today on the WANTcast, we're talking uncertainty and control...plus, a life update! SHOW NOTES: Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

If you’ve always associated attorneys with words like “shark,” “intense,” and “cutthroat,” you’re in for a down-to-earth breath of legal fresh air from Sam. Sam Vander Wielen is an attorney-turned-entrepreneur and legal educator who helps coaches & service-providers legally protect and grow their online brands through her legal templates and signature program, the Ultimate Bundle™️. In this episode we talk about how to build a business that checks off all the right legal boxes, how to figure out what's most important when you're on a budget, and how to get others to take you seriously no matter WHAT you do.   Sam is the host of the On Your Terms podcast, available wherever you subscribe to your pods!   SHOW NOTES: On Your Terms Podcast Work with Sam Sam on IG Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

If you've ever been told you "do too many things," been asked what you "REALLY" do, or that you need to focus on ONE thing, this episode is for you. Whether your career (and life!) take you in many directions or you're just looking to get clarity on what it is you're after, this solo episode can help you find your lane.   SHOW NOTES: Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

True love, real love, "the one"... the way people describe love is pretty and aspirational, but ultimately super vague. What does love actually feel like? How do you know it's love and not just old habits or displaced desires? Is love even a noun at all, or is it an action? And HOW THE HECK do you separate your own self-love from the love you experience from someone else — especially if that person fills many roles in your life? In this episode, I talk to partners in life, love, and business, Dr. Carrie Kholi-Murchison and Holley Kholi-Murchison (also two of my favorite humans on the planet). These two are each true forces of natures as individuals — so when their powers combine, they're unstoppable: from their work together as co-founders of HOLI. Brands to their upcoming four-week immersive Skillshare course, Build the Next Chapter of Your Career, to the way they champion each other professionally AND personally, they're such strong models of how to truly be in relationship and partnership with someone else....and as you'll hear in this episode, also honor yourself and your own desires. If you're been re-evaluating and reflecting about the way you relate to love lately, this episode is for you. It's filled with deep truths, big laughs, and — yes, LOTS of love. I hope you enjoy it as much as we did. ~ ABOUT HOLLEY Holley M. Kholi-Murchison is an artist and cultural geographer began her career more than 15 years ago. She is not just a writer, a strategy consultant, an entrepreneur, a speaker—she is an explorer and a trailblazer, forging her own path and teaching others to do the same. ABOUT KHOLI Dr. Carrie Kholi-Murchison, also known as Kholi, is a writer, editor, critical thinker, entrepreneur, and growth strategist. She’s been helping individuals and organizations realize their visions for more than a decade. ~ SHOW NOTES: Holley's website Kholi's website Holley on IG Kholi on IG Skillshare course: Build The Next Chapter Of Your Career From Holley, With Love multimedia newsletter Kholi on Patreon Celie & Squeak HOLI. Brands Tell Me About Yourself book The Liar by Amiri Baraka   Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

Whether it's NEW YEAR NEW YOU season or not, setting goals and benchmarks when you're already feeling burnt out feels unrealistic at best, cruel at worst. If you're anything like me, you're starting the year feeling more than "meh." You might WANT to set plans into motion, but also might be feeling too defeated to even start. I'm with you. As someone who actually DOES want to look forward with excitement and possibility (and yes, maybe some goals too), I've begun to ask myself: How the heck do you start setting goals when you feel like you've got so much recent "proof" that reaching your goals isn't really up to you in the first place? SHOW NOTES: Episode 90: Letting Go + Past Self Pen Pals Episode 61: Reflections + Projections Oprah interview from 1986 Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Join The WANT Community, our private membership club Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com