WANTcast: The Women Against Negative Talk Podcast

Maybe you've heard about the Five Love Languages, but maybe they've at times felt...kind of limiting? Confusing? Problematic, even?  There's a reason for that, and you're not alone. That's why Anne Hodder-Shipp decided to reimagine some things:  What "The Modern Love Languages" are and how they're different than what we might already be familiar with (it's not just that there are 18 of them!) How you can apply The Modern Love Languages in your life way beyond your romantic relationships Whether or not it's important to find people whose love languages "match" your own The origins of the "original" Five Love Languages and why they might be more harmful than helpful Taking sex and relationship education onto social media in the 2020s ...and more! ABOUT ANNE: Anne Hodder-Shipp, CSE, ACS, (she/they) is an award-winning certified sex and relationship educator dedicated to providing accurate, expansive, and compassionate care. They are the founder and lead educator at Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, a sex ed and professional development organization, and they work with people and couples of almost any age to help build skills, knowledge, and confidence around identity, pleasure, relationships, and communication. Most recently, Anne wrote the groundbreaking expansive love language ebook, Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love, and its accompanying guide, The Speaking from the Heart Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Modern Love Languages. SHOW NOTES: themodernlovelanguages.com The Modern Love Languages workbook EDSE's sex educator certification @theannehodder on Instagram @theannehodder on TikTok   Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

True love, real love, "the one"... the way people describe love is pretty and aspirational, but ultimately super vague. What does love actually feel like? How do you know it's love and not just old habits or displaced desires? Is love even a noun at all, or is it an action? In this episode, I talk to partners in life, love, and business, Dr. Carrie Kholi-Murchison and Holley Kholi-Murchison) about: How to truly be in relationship and partnership with someone else....and also honor yourself and your own desires. Re-evaluating and reflecting about the way you relate to love HOW THE HECK do you separate your own self-love from the love you experience from someone else — especially if that person fills many roles in your life? and more! (this episode is a Best Of The WANTcast rebroadcast — so if you loved it the first time around, listen again to gather even more gems you might have missed!) ~ ABOUT HOLLEY Holley M. Kholi-Murchison is an artist and cultural geographer began her career more than 15 years ago. She is not just a writer, a strategy consultant, an entrepreneur, a speaker—she is an explorer and a trailblazer, forging her own path and teaching others to do the same. ABOUT KHOLI Dr. Carrie Kholi-Murchison, also known as Kholi, is a writer, editor, critical thinker, entrepreneur, and growth strategist. She’s been helping individuals and organizations realize their visions for more than a decade. ~ SHOW NOTES: Holley's website Kholi's website Holley on IG Kholi on IG Skillshare course: Build The Next Chapter Of Your Career From Holley, With Love multimedia newsletter Kholi on Patreon Celie & Squeak HOLI. Brands Tell Me About Yourself book The Liar by Amiri Baraka   Follow Katie on Instagram Leave a review on iTunes (and subscribe to the WANTcast if you haven't already!) Subscribe to The (Good) Word, our monthly email digest filled with tips, tools, motivation, and inspiration to shift your self-talk Visit womenagainstnegativetalk.com

We've all heard "it's what's on the inside that counts" — but what the heck does INNER STRENGTH actually mean, and how do you cultivate it beyond just knowing it's important? What this stage in the process of writing a book has been bringing up for Katie in the background The call with a friend that served as a metaphor for Katie's experience with STRENGTH Why some of the tangible qualities we choose to go after in our lives are important, but not enough How to turn your focus onto what you CAN'T see vs. what's visible and measurable and more! SHOW NOTES: Carrie Kholi-Murchison on the WANTcast SUBSCRIBE to The Good Word, WANT's monthly emails from Katie, on Substack! Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

Know what you want but struggle to untangle yourself from the feelings of obligation that somehow always seem to get in the way? Tricia Huffman believes that "should" is a word that is actually able to be nixed from our vocabulary altogether and replaced with something way more powerful and proactive. In this episode we talk about: Why and how Tricia decided to pay attention to this ONE word on such a granular level How to handle the "positive shoulds" and why Tricia believes there's really no such SHOULD Suggestions for how to nix SHOULD from the heaviest of situations to the lightest The importance of boiling down your message, and how that opened up even more possibility for Tricia as she approached her debut book and more!   SHOW NOTES: Tricia on the WANTcast in 2018! Website Tricia on Instagram Tricia on TikTok F The Shoulds. Do The Wants. Claim it! Podcast Own Your Awesome daily inspiration app SUBSCRIBE to The Good Word, WANT's monthly emails from Katie, on Substack! Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

People talk about being "more brave" in their lives...but what does that actually MEAN, and how do we do it?? In this episode, we talk about: Why Katie doesn't consider herself a naturally BRAVE person How we sometimes misuse the word BRAVE, and how it differs from fearlessness Katie's BRAVERY a-ha moment, and how she's defining bravery (and being brave!) in her life moving forward How to reverse-engineer however you hope to be by changing your perspective on yourself Why easy things, like emails, are so damn hard ...and MORE   SHOW NOTES: SUBSCRIBE to The Good Word, WANT's monthly emails from Katie, on Substack! Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com  

The negative self-talk struggle around the holidays and New Year is definitely A THING. You're not alone, and we're unpacking a lot in this episode. Including: Why the negative self-talk around THIS time of year is especially potent and important to be aware of Why the data around New Years Resolutions (80% of people let them go by February) is about waaaaaaay more than goal-setting strategies and might be a sign of something deeper going on way before New Years Day even hits Why the ends of years can be really hard for some people (including Katie!) Four ways Katie personally navigates her self-talk during this time of year, and what she's seen help others as well ...and more!   SHOW NOTES: SUBSCRIBE to The Good Word, WANT's monthly emails from Katie, on Substack! Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

Well this is the boundary podcast episode you might not have heard before... You know how important it is to set boundaries with others (family, friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet). But what about setting boundaries with your SELF? Why it's so important to set boundaries with ourselves, and what happens when we don't FOUR areas to look at when you're setting boundaries with yourself The big myth about "balance" and how to think of it instead How self-directed boundaries can help us set and maintain boundaries with others, especially during tense or stressful times and more!   SHOW NOTES: Prentis Hemphill on boundaries Cheryl Strayed on boundaries READ: Setting Mindful Boundaries with Family on WANT LISTEN: On Listening As Service with Benjamin Mathes on the WANTcast Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

No matter what, whether you celebrate or you don't celebrate, you're probably getting a lot of messages around thankfulness and gratitude right now. In today's special Thursday episode, we're talking how to frame this day and this time of year as something a little bit different than in the past: Why you might feel a sense of burnout, anxiety, or longing the day of an emotion/expression-focused holiday like Thanksgiving or Valentine's Day How to cultivate a gratitude practice in as little as 1-2 minutes without going overboard or being unrealistic Katie's theory on bringing more of a New Year's Eve vibe to the day we're supposed to focus on "giving thanks" ...and more! SHOW NOTES: Listen: WANTcast 117: 4 Steps To A 5-Minute Gratitude Practice Astrology of the Week Ahead with Chani Nicholas The Rising Sign on Good Risings with Colin Bedell Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram at @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com  

America is more obsessed with fitness than we've ever been...but somehow the unhealthiest we've ever been. How is this so, and how we can break the barriers that Fitness + Wellness Culture tells us we must subscribe to? Natalia Mehlman Petrzela, the author of FIT NATION, is here to answer these questions and more. For her, fitness is, as her new book describes, "a social justice issue. She argues that the fight for a more equitable exercise culture will be won only by revolutionizing fitness culture at its core, making it truly inclusive for all bodies in a way it has never been."   SHOW NOTES: Buy Fit Nation here Natalia's website Instagram Facebook  Twitter Natalia on Episode 043 of The WANTcast Past Present podcast Welcome To Your Fantasy podcast Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com

Today's guest is Kara Cutruzzula: a writer and editor, a playwright, a musical theater lyricist, and the author of both DO IT FOR YOURSELF and DO IT TODAY: An Encouragement Journal. Her long-running must-read newsletter Brass Ring Daily, about work and creativity, has been featured in Lifehacker, Inc., TIME, and Vanity Fair — which called it "a life coach in your inbox". Today we talk about: Kara's specific advice for actually "enjoying the process" and "trusting the journey" in your work and life How/why we diminish our own excitement about projects and milestones, and how to keep some of that joy for yourself Why Katie sometimes feels like she experiences an existential crisis when she hits her goals, and Kara's way of countering that feeling Finding your collaborators and champions, how to reach out to people whose work you admire when it feels scary to — plus Kara's exact "in" line — and where the heck to actually find them Kara's unique take on why hearing NO is sometimes the best thing you can hear The reason Kara doesn't actually write with a reader in mind, and how it's helped the longevity of Brass Ring Daily and more! SHOW NOTES: Kara's website Instagram Brass Ring Daily Do It Today podcast BUY Do It Today: An Encouragement Journal BUY Do It For Yourself Love the WANTcast? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts telling people why you love it. Find us at womenagainstnegativetalk.com Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter @katiehorwitch, or visit katiehorwitch.com