On Attachment

Explore why you might not be getting your needs met in relationships. Learn the significance of recognizing and communicating your personal needs effectively. Discover mindset blocks that prevent you from receiving what you desire. Gain insights on overcoming challenges if your partner struggles to meet your needs. This conversation emphasizes self-reflection and actionable steps to foster healthier dynamics and achieve greater relationship fulfillment.

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to bring up wanting to move in together with an avoidant partner. This episode will be super helpful for anyone in this same situation, or who is otherwise wanting to have a "what are we?" type chat with their avoidant partner.We'll cover:mindset shifts for the anxious partner in approaching these conversationshow to own your desires and feel comfortable voicing themhow best to approach these conversations with an avoidant partnerwhat to do if you're not on the same pageHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In anticipation of the upcoming launch of my signature program Healing Anxious Attachment, today's episode is all about what changes you can expect as you heal your anxious attachment. I'll be sharing 6 shifts that you'll notice as you do the healing work and become more secure within yourself and in your relationships.We cover:learning to observe your anxious thoughts rather than be ruled by themnot feeling the urgent need to fix and problem-solve your relationshiptrusting that conflict isn't a matter of life or deathbuilding your self-worthlearning to enjoy your own companyMake sure you sign up to Healing Anxious Attachment to save $100!Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking about the difference between privacy and secrecy. Depending on where you sit on the attachment spectrum, you may have a complicated relationship with privacy - both your own and others'. We'll discuss where the line is between privacy and secrecy, and what to do if you find other people's privacy uncomfortable or triggering.We cover:what's the difference between privacy and secrecy?anxious attachment and the need for information to eliminate uncertaintythe trust woundavoidant attachment and protectiveness around privacyimportant caveats where there has been a known breach of trustHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 ways to support a partner with a fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment style. The fearful avoidant attachment style is often considered the most complex and challenging of the attachment styles, characterised by a conflicting push-pull between wanting intimacy and fearing it.We'll cover:the betrayal wound and the importance of honesty & openness in building truststriking the right balance between compassion & firm boundarieshow to make the fearful avoidant feel loved & appreciatedHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this Q&A episode, we're talking all about moving on after a break-up. Specifically, what to do when we want to move on, but deep down we're still very much hoping our ex will reach out and want to rekindle.We cover:the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our feelings after a break-upwhy we don't need to emotionally let go before moving onhow to take action to support yourself after a break-upYou can download my free guided meditation on finding closure & letting go here. Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this episode, we're talking all about the stages of a relationship - specifically, what happens when we transition from the honeymoon period of a relationship (fuelled by chemistry, romance and infatuation) to the power struggle (where all our flaws and wounds come to the fore).We'll talk about:what each stage of a relationship looks likewhy the transition from honeymoon period to power struggle feels like a bait & switchhow anxious-avoidant dynamics overlay onto this dynamichow you can make the most of the power struggle stage & use it to grow closer as a coupleHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this episode, I'm answering the question of "I'm anxious, he's avoidant. Is it weird that I want more sex than him?" We cover:anxious-avoidant sexual dynamicsthe sexual honeymoon period and what happens afterwardwhy avoidant partners withdraw sexually how anxiously attached people use sex for validation Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm offering 6 tips on how avoidant people can become more secure in their relationships. We cover: the importance of getting to know your inner worldlearning to feel safe with healthy interdependency increasing your tolerance for disharmony and conflictgetting curious about your triggers before acting on themcommunicating with words rather than actionsthe benefits of co-regulation for your nervous systemHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing tips for initiating hard conversations with an avoidant partner. This is a question I get a lot - how to express needs to an avoidant partner, how to set boundaries, how to share feedback. These conversations are already intimidating for many anxiously attached folks, and when combined with the sensitivities of the avoidant partner, can be a perfect storm. We cover:how to set yourself up for success in initiating hard conversationsthe importance of a regulated nervous systemtips for reaching a mutually beneficial outcomehow to cultivate greater safety during conflict & challenging conversationsHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website