On Attachment

In today's episode, I'm answering the community question of "when is it a good idea to take a break in a relationship?" This can be a really tricky situation, particularly where one person wants to take a break and the other doesn't. In this episode, I share:things to consider & discuss before taking a breakdo's and don'ts of taking a breakexamples of where a break can be healthy & productivenavigating boundaries around taking a break (e.g. around duration, exclusivity, and intentions)Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vanessa & Xander Marin.  She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he’s a regular dude, and they recently co-authored their first book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which became an instant NYT bestseller. We cover:The five conversations you need to be having about sexNavigating mismatched libido & (perceived) sexual rejection in relationshipsHow emotional intimacy (or lack thereof) impacts sexual intimacyWhat to do when sex becomes a heavy, high-pressure topic in your relationshipHow to bring back fun, play & lightness to your sex lifeFollow Vanessa & Xander on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm answering the question of why healthy relationships can feel boring - especially if you're someone who's accustomed to drama and chaos in your love life. We'll cover:why unhealthy relationships are so addictivethe principle of intermittent reinforcement how to navigate discomfort around stable relationshipshow to get your needs for novelty & excitement met in a healthy way without sabotaging your relationshipHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this episode, we're talking about how to leave a relationship from the perspective of knowing that you need to. Break-ups are hard - no matter the circumstances - and most of the advice tends to be directed toward people who've been broken up with, rather than those doing the breaking up. We'll cover: why waiting for the "right time" is an illusionhow to support yourself as you prepare for a break-upgrappling with guilt around hurting someonehow to cultivate healthy boundaries throughout the break-upHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Delving into the complexities of relationships between two anxiously attached individuals, the podcast explores why opposites attract and the challenges they may face. It discusses the dynamics of caretaker roles, hyper-vigilant behaviors, and the potential for imbalance in these relationships. The episode also touches on the interplay between anxious and avoidant attachment styles and the prevalence of the anxious-avoidant dynamic for balance.

Today's episode is all about the role of criticism in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Both anxious and avoidant people have been known to deploy criticism as a strategy to manage fears and self-protect in relationships - but this will often look different (and be motivated by different drives) on each side.  One thing's for sure: no matter how it shows up, criticism is really harmful to relationships - so if this is something you struggle with, you've come to the right place. We'll cover:how anxiously attached people use criticism as a protest behaviour criticism as a way to convey our hurthow avoidant people use criticism to sow seeds of doubt and create distancehow to identify the needs underlying our criticism so we can communicate in a healthier wayHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to navigate an all-consuming fear & paranoia around a partner cheating - particularly in circumstances where that fear is seemingly unwarranted.We'll cover:the importance of nervous system regulation when we experience intense fear & paranoiawhen to talk to a partner about our fearsthe link between fear of cheating and low self-wortha liberating truth about control in relationshipsHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm speaking with Sarah Baldwin - a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma Coach who is trained in Polyvagal interventions and is on the training team at the Polyvagal Institute. Sarah specialises in somatic trauma healing, attachment work, parts and inner child work and nervous system regulation. We cover:why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in so much healing workunderstanding the different states of your nervous systemthe connection between attachment and nervous system regulationhow to distinguish between anxiety and intuitionand so much more!You can find Sarah Baldwin on Instagram (@sarahbcoaching) or at sarahbaldwincoaching.com. Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In this Q&A episode, I'm speaking to the common conundrum of what to do when you're feeling stuck in your relationship. This often happens when we've been trying for some time to make changes (or hoping that our partner will make changes), but we're just not seeing any progress. I'll share an unexpected way that you can shift out of low self-worth and hopelessness, and into a more empowered, self-confident state that will allow you to navigate whatever is happening in your relationship with clarity & trust. Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Explore why you might not be getting your needs met in relationships. Learn the significance of recognizing and communicating your personal needs effectively. Discover mindset blocks that prevent you from receiving what you desire. Gain insights on overcoming challenges if your partner struggles to meet your needs. This conversation emphasizes self-reflection and actionable steps to foster healthier dynamics and achieve greater relationship fulfillment.